10 Signs He Doesn’t Like You

By on June 20, 2016

Guys can’t be really hard to read sometimes. They can be super flirty one minute and then completely ignore you the next. Who else finds this really frustrating? I know I do! It can be so hard to tell if a guy likes you that you might just give up on someone that actually likes you!

Luckily, I’ve had some experience decipher when a guy really likes me and when he clearly doesn’t. It also doesn’t hurt that I have many male friends that help me decode their confusing behavior.

If you’re not sure if a guy likes you or not, it can be upsetting and downright annoying trying to figure them out. These signs that he doesn’t like you can save you from wasting your time and feelings on someone who just doesn’t care.

  1. He doesn’t reply to your texts.

When a guy likes you, he’s going to want to talk to you all the time. This means that if a guy doesn’t like you, he’s not going to reply to your texts or calls or any form of communication for that matter. So if you’re ever sending texts that go unanswered – especially if you send more than one – then it means that he’s really not interested and you should just move on.

One confusing aspect about this is that he might reply to your texts just to be polite even if he doesn’t like you. In this instance, you’ll want to watch out for really vague texts that don’t further the conversation at all. If he takes forever to reply and when he does it’s really mediocre response, he doesn’t like you.

  1. He is never the first person to start the conversation.

If you’re constantly the one initiating the conversion – whether via text or in person – then it’s a sign he doesn’t like you. Just as I mentioned in the point above, those who like us actually want to talk to us as much as they can. If you’re always the one who has to push for a conversation and you feel like it’s pulling teeth just to get him to respond to anything you say, then he doesn’t like you.

  1. He doesn’t make and effort to talk to you when you’re in the same place.

Running into your crush happens a lot – especially if you’re within the same friend group. But if you frequent the same places and you find that he makes no effort to walk over and talk to you, then it could be a sign he doesn’t like you. If you know he sees you and he still doesn’t engage in you any more than just a quick wave, move on because he’s not interested.

  1. He never remembers details about you.

A guy that can’t remember your birthday is a guy that doesn’t actually care about it. Guys are very selective in what they choose to hear and remember. This means you can have a completely deep conversation with a guy – or so you think – and it turns out he won’t remember even the simplest of details. Why? Because he wasn’t even listening in the first place because he doesn’t care. If he liked you, he’d remember every single important detail. So move on if this is the guy you’re crushing on.

  1. He talks to everyone the same way he talks to you.

Guys have a way of talking to girl they like in a very different manner than they would talk to their friends. So if you find that he talks to you just the same way that he’s talking to his friends, unfortunately, he doesn’t actually like you. Some of you will try to justify this behavior by saying, “but he can act himself around me so it must mean he likes me.” No. Guys who like you WILL act and talk different around you. If they don’t, then it’s a sign he doesn’t like you.


  1. He doesn’t ask about your life at all.

If you do talk to this person on a semi regular basis it can be hard to tell if he likes you because well, he’s talking to you! But if he only keeps the conversation on a neutral level, never asking any details about your life, then it’s a sign he doesn’t like you. If he did like you, he’d be asking you detailed questions about your life and trying to get to know you as best he could. Since he’s not doing that, it’s safe to assume he doesn’t care about the details of your life and therefore does not like you.

  1. He flirts with everyone else.

Guys can be VERY flirtatious creatures. Meaning they will flirt with just about everyone – even if they do like you. The difference is that if they like you, they won’t be flirting in front of you because it will ruin their chances of actually dating you. If he’s flirting with you and then going around and flirting with other girls right in front of you, then he doesn’t actually like you at all. Otherwise he wouldn’t want you to witness his flirtatious behavior with everyone else.

  1. He’s turned away from you when you two talk in person.

Body language is a HUGE indicator of whether or not someone is into you because they can’t help the way their bodies respond to you. This means that if he is talking to you but his body is turned away from you and he’s just turning his head to speak with you, he doesn’t like you. If he did like you, his whole body would be engaged in the conversation because he would want to be interacting with you as much as he could. So if you do get to talk to him sometimes but it seems like he’s interested in something else, he doesn’t like you.

  1. His body language doesn’t suggest that he does.

The direction of his body isn’t the only way his body will tell you if he likes you or not. There are so many other ways his body language can give way to his true feelings. If he crosses his arms when talking to you, this also means that he’s not interested at all. As humans, we tend to block ourselves around those we don’t like and open ourselves to those that we do. Another way to tell is if he’s making eye contact with you. If he likes you he’ll try to focus his eyes on yours but if he’s avoids eye contact with you, then it’s a sign he doesn’t like you.

  1. He tries to avoid you.

If this is the case, it’s more than likely that he’s figured out you have feelings for him and is trying to avoid any confrontation that might take place between you two. Why would he do this? Because he doesn’t actually have feelings for you but doesn’t want to say that and hurt your feelings. He’s hoping by avoiding you you’ll get the hint and move on without him having to be caught in the middle of an uncomfortable situation.

Although guys can be really confusing when it comes to figuring out if they like you or not, these 10 signs he doesn’t like you will definitely help you figure it out. Have you had any luck deciphering a guy’s feelings before?


  1. Niccole

    January 18, 2017 at 2:00 pm

    Hi so this guy named River has been acting wierd around me he winks at me and smiles at me. I do Like him. He is always sitting by me too. I was wondering if I should ask him out? Thank You

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 19, 2017 at 1:58 pm

      It is likely that he wants to establish a relationship with you. It seems as though you want the same thing. You already have your answer, so take action toward him if you want to have a relationship at this time. Best of luck, Niccole!

  2. Mariah Mackk

    January 16, 2017 at 2:51 pm

    So hi…my boyfriend and i have been dating for one month (tommorow yay!) and everything is going absolutely amazing! he’s told me everyhting and we literally know everyhting about eachother so our phone conversations aren’t very thrilling anymore. We used to talk every single day for hours on end about everything andnothing and its still great but now its like…because we know eveything about each other theres not much to talk about. how do i get him to open up to me more and how do i get the convo flowing

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 17, 2017 at 10:01 am

      Since the two of you have reached your limit through phone conversations, you two should spend more time together in person. Use the phone to set up dates or just times to meet. You do not need to spend any money for your dates. Nature walks are always great. You can spend time at his house or he can spend time at yours. Your relationship is ready for the next step. Have a great week, Mariah!

  3. Toni

    December 3, 2016 at 8:30 pm

    Hey. I have a boyfriend off 3 years but the past year I have been so unhappy and finding it hard to leave him because I dont want to hurt him. A few months ago I started talking to this guy who works in a shop around the corner from me. We were sending really flirty message via Facebook. So in September me and my boyfriend went to Vegas with my family. While I was away inn the casino my boyfriend went into my Facebook and saw the messages. After a heated argument he left the hotel room and got drunk,I was in bed by the time he got back which was around 3am. He dragged me out of bed by the legs and pulled my hair. The next day I didn’t speak to him. So we ended up talking and he said he would forget about what happened. Everything was okay until November when on my niece baptism day he didn’t want to be there. So he left around 3pm and I was minding the baby that night until I got a message from the other guy telling me that my partner was threatening him. So I kicked my boyfriend out of the house which lasted a week. But now the guy that I do like won’t talk to me at all. I have 2 Facebook’s and he only has me blocked on 1 which is confusing me. But when I go to the guys work place to get what I need I notice when I walk away he stares at me. This guy told me he wasn’t interested in me and I feel I’m getting mixed signals. I no what I did behind my boyfriends back was bad but the relationship is toxic. But has anyone got advice as about the other guy?
    Thanks toni

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 4, 2016 at 8:59 am

      If your current relationship is toxic (and I think that it could also be potentially dangerous since he was quite violent at the casino), then you should leave him. The other guy is not going to make a move until your current relationship is over and enough time has passed for him not to worry that this boyfriend will attack him. He may be unwilling to talk to you again, but he certainly is not going to start flirting again as long as you are taken. Since your current relationship is not a good one, you may want to start by just breaking up with your boyfriend and spending some time as a single person before you try to reconnect with the other guy.

  4. Lost in my mind

    November 8, 2016 at 8:34 pm

    Hey so there is this boy I like and he is shy when I’m around him, he always tells everyone he doesn’t like me because his brother likes me too I saw him today and he stared at me while I walked and he started to smile which made me smile but he flirts with all the girls in school and a lot of girls like him but he dated and had to break with me because of his brother but he was going to ask me out again but everybody knew so he didn’t and he texts me things like I don’t like you ok and I’m not going to ask you anything ok but his brother tells me that he says he loves me and his brother told my cousin that he has dreams about me and him

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 9, 2016 at 12:49 pm

      It is likely that his brother’s desire to develop a relationship with you may be negatively impacting his actions. He may have an interest in developing a relationship with you. However, you have a tough route to navigate. The first problems that you must deal with is his brother. Take this time to look inward and determine what you want to do in the future. For now, take no action and allow yourself to observe the situation for a week or so. At that time, take action. Have a great week!

  5. Katherine

    October 26, 2016 at 11:02 pm

    hey so I’m in 9th grade at an all girls school and there’s this guy at an all guys school and I knew he liked me but I can’t tell if he still does. So we’ve been texting off of Snapchat for about a month but we haven’t sent each other stuff on insta, and also see each other for the past 4-5 fridays in a row because of football games. So far he’s been texting just about everyday except for the last 2 days. And he has told his family about me and just about all the seniors at my school thinks we are a thing because he has a sister who’s a senior. I can’t tell if he likes me anymore because we haven’t texted each other in the past 2 days and one of his friends (who’s a girl) posted a pic of him on her snap story and it really got me confused. And the girl who posted something on her story about him is his best friends gf. I’m confused right now or paranoid.

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 27, 2016 at 10:13 am

      If you want to know the truth, then your best option is to speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings and concerns. Perhaps make some time to hang out with him. Talk to him more, but if he ignores you or decides to only give you short conversations, then try to gather additional information. It is certain that you can get more information from people who are friends with him who are in your school. Take this time to look inward and determine what you want for your future. Remain positive and enjoy life, Katherine!

  6. rinimeher

    October 17, 2016 at 8:33 am

    Hello!i have this boy who keeps looking at me.Today at history he waited for all the students to go though he was given the free space to leave what he did was staring at me the whole lesson and my friends were really nice and whenever they turn back my friends says he is still looking at u.When one girl knew about this she went to ask the boy if he loved me.She came back with an answer”No he doesnt like u he says that ur ugly and stupid and ur hair is messy and everything of u is so stupid”I couldnt believe it!!In library he didnt notice me coming in he was sitting far from my other friends he say me soon joined in the closet table to mines and kept staring i moved to another place he sat beside me.Another boy was staring and kept making me laugh.wHEN I got mad at the other boy who has a crush at me i guess i roughly spoke to him by throwing stuffs at him.this is what i said (ill censore because i swear a lot!)”U B**** I CANT BELIVE U!U CALLED ME UGLY AND STUPID WHAT THE FU** I CANT GET WHY U KEEP LOOKING AT ME!!!!”i screamed and i was fedup the whole day and this is what he said looking flustered by what i said “NO NO NO!I NEVER CALLED THAT!BELIVE ME WHEN DID I EVEN SAY THAT!?!I DONT TALK BAD AT U AT ALL!WHOEVER SAID THAT WAS A LIAR!”he kept saying that.Then soon i asked this girl who spoke to him about him liking me i asked her madly “HE SAID FU***** NO!!!WHAT R U LYING?”im so confused plz help!

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 17, 2016 at 11:01 am

      I would relax and forget about it. She may be lying, or he could have been embarrassed and lied when you asked him about it. Whatever the case, your best bet right now is to forget about all of this and move on because you may never really find out what happened behind the scenes. He could like you and said that to throw you off course, he may never have said that and the girl just wanted to cause problems or something else could be going on. If it were me, I would just forget about this event and move past it. Good luck, Rinimeher!

  7. Melicia Sylla

    September 20, 2016 at 3:24 am

    I have this guy I really guy. He flirts with me everyday. But when I send my friend to talk to him about me, he said he doesn’t like me. I am confused.

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 20, 2016 at 4:04 pm

      It is possible that he did not want to speak with your friend about you. Often times people will keep their real thoughts hidden when they speak to someone else who was sent to them. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. You are likely to find him acting in a much more positive manner toward you at that time. Enjoy life, Melicia.

  8. ally

    June 27, 2016 at 8:13 pm

    me and this guy just started ” going out” and we usually hang out with his group of friends but next time we hang out with them will be the first time since he asked me out. what can i do to keep it from getting extremely ockward so we can still have a good relationship.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 28, 2016 at 3:33 pm

      It really should not be that awkward. You guys are already friends and hang out together in the group, so it isn’t like it will be anything different than what you already do. The only thing that has changed is in your mind and his mind. The friends will probably act the same. I would just relax and enjoy hanging out as a group together. Good luck, Ally!

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