10 Signs a Guy Likes You But is Trying Not to Show it

By on April 18, 2016

So, you want to find out if a guy likes you even though he might be hiding it? Well, you’ve come to the right place! For some reason, guys try not to show it when they like a girl. I think they think it makes them seem less manly, even though that’s not the case at all.

Guys can try all they want to hide the fact that they like us. But one thing that we know and they probably don’t is this: body language can tell you a lot more about a person’s feelings than they ever will.

Understanding a guy’s body language is the first step to determining if he likes you but is trying not to show it. Here are some subtle signs that he’s really into you even if he’s hiding it.

  1. He’s Always Around, but Just Out of Reach

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If he seems to show up just about everywhere you are – even if it’s just to run a quick errand – he likes you but might not want you to know. When a guy always finds a way to just SEE you, he likes you. But by keeping his distance he’s able to see you and get the joy out of it without letting you in on the fact that he might actually like you.

  1. He Seems to Know Everything About You

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If he remembers your birthday, the fact that you hate pineapple on your pizza, and that your favorite snack is chocolate covered raisins, then he definitely likes you. When a guy goes through that much trouble to remember all of those important things about you, he isn’t just looking at you as a friend. But since he’s keeping his knowledge subtle and only bringing it up when the opportunity arises, he’s trying to keep his feelings for you on the down low.

  1. He Keeps Himself and His Place Clean for You

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If you’ve happened to notice that whenever you know you’ll be around him he seems to be clean shaved, freshly showered, and smells amazing, he’s into you. Another way to tell if a guy like you but is trying not to show it is if you’ve ever been to his house and it’s really, really clean and his room especially is extra tidy. Guys aren’t naturally really clean people. If he’s making an effort to be clean, he’s showing that he likes you by trying to impress you – even if he’s not saying he likes you.

  1. He Gives You Very Small, but Great Gifts

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By small, I mean nothing that you would feel the need to repay in anyway. So no jewelry, clothes, or the likes. If he goes bring you your favorite smoothie, candy, or even a book he thinks you might like, then he likes you. He’s being subtle enough to make you think he’s just being a nice friend, but these actions from a guy means that he wants so much more from you. Gifts are not something that anyone really gives another person without having more than “just friends” feelings for them.

  1. He Calls Other Girls, “My Friend…”

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If you two are having a conversation and he’s talking about other girls and mentions them by name and he almost always says, “my friend…,” before their name, he likes you but is trying to hide it. If he didn’t like you, there should be no reason for him clarifying that the girls he’s mentioning are just friends. He’s subtly pointing out the fact that he’s NOT interested in any of them. Meaning he’s got eyes for someone else. And I bet that would be you.

  1. He’s Always Looking at You

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When you’re walking around a party, get together, or even at school and you somehow always seem to catch his eye, he’s been looking at you. When a guy spends that much of his time looking at you it’s because he likes you. Staring at someone from across the room is an age-old telltale sign that he likes you and is trying not to show it. Another key signal is if he immediately averts his gaze and pretends like he wasn’t looking. This for SURE means he likes you and really doesn’t want you to know.

  1. He Wards off His Friends

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If you’re talking to him and he mentions that you should steer clear of any (or all) of his friends because of some reason or another, it’s his subtle way of keeping you off the market so he has a chance when he’s finally ready to show you that he likes you. He also might make you stay away from his friends because they know he likes you and he doesn’t want you knowing.

  1. He Almost Always Agrees with You

When someone agrees with almost everything you say it’s because they like you. If you’ve also noticed that you seem to get your way around him more or he says one thing and then says the opposite because you speak up, he likes you and is trying to hide it.

  1. He’s Wishy-Washy

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People that are trying to hide their feelings sometimes don’t know they’re showing it. But as soon as he notices that he’s being too nice to you or making it apparent that he’s into you, he might pull back and actually be mean or withdrawn. So if you’ve noticed that a guy is being really wishy-washy with the way he talks to you and the way he treats you, it could be because he likes you but doesn’t want you to know.

  1. He Asks Intimate Details about You

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By intimate details I’m talking about personal information on your family, hobbies, and  likes/dislikes. If someone just wants to be your friend they’re not concerned about finding out that information right away. If he likes you, he’s digging and finding it for himself.

When you want to know if a guy likes you but is trying not to show it, these 10 signs are a perfect place to start. Do you have any more signs that you’ve noticed before?

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    Franky

    June 11, 2019 at 1:48 am

    So I know two guys but am confused as what they want from me. So, the first guy is my neighbor and he’s 24. We’ve casually (we just greet each other and I once started a conversation with him on messenger some years ago and surprisingly he responded to my questions) known each other for 4yrs now. There’s this bar near my our Houses of which my friends dad owns, so we both see each other there very often. When am relaxing on couch and he’s passing by(usually in his car), he’ll make sure I look at him just to wave me😂. Sometimes I do pretend I haven’t seen him to see his reaction but he’ll still be waiting for me to raise my head up. But the funniest part is I think we’re both shy so we’ve never had a serious conversation before. I’m very cool with some of his friends since they’re very open to me. They even have conversations with me more than him. I once put a story on my Instagram and I was taken aback when I saw that he has watched it. Honestly speaking I didn’t even know his account name untill then. So I also took that opportunity to go to his page but didn’t follow or like any of his pic. I have known the second guy for 2yrs and half and we sat beside each other in class. He was very fond of me, we became friends, we ate with me when I brought food or snacks, he then said we should be sharing food. Almost the whole school thought we were dating but we weren’t. He followed me around, teased me, complimented me, etc. But we broke apart after my friend jokingly said I was going on a date. Moreover, he bought biscuit for me that day and I added fuel to the fire by saying; am gonna give this biscuit to my date. OMG!!!! He was very furious to the extent that he didn’t talk to me throughout the bus ride. He took two days off school and didn’t reply to my messages. He then came back from school saying he’s found a new girlfriend 😅. His friend told me that it seems he really liked me but I wasn’t aware of it since I’ve never dated before. We finished school like that and we went our separate ways only to meet again in a professional school. We chatted almost everyday and shared food like before but wasn’t like way back. We finished that institution too and now we’re both working. He recently took me out of which his Mom called Midway to ask how things are going. I noticed how embarrassed he was so I pretended as if I didn’t hear anything. He asked about my relationship status and Said ain’t dating anyone. He smiled and said”are you sure?”. We took things easy and he drove me home later on. And oh nothing Happened between us since he knows me really well. Just last week he asked me to bake a cake for him since his birthday is coming. I do think I have a crush on the first guy ever since I saw him but don’t know his relationship status or if he’s just being nice to me. For the second guy, I don’t really know how I feel about him since I can’t get through him well. Am an African and 22 while the first guy is Italian and 24(he’ll be on July 31st), the second guy is Brazilian and 25(he’ll be on June 19) but we’re both in Italy. Thanks for your precious time

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 11, 2019 at 9:22 pm

      It sounds as though you need to make a decision. Weigh the options between each of these person. Determine who you believe will treat you with respect and honor your desires. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times. Do not attempt to maintain two romantic relationships at one time. Nourish your relationship with the person that you want to maintain a relationship with. Have a great day, Franky!

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    Julia

    June 10, 2019 at 10:05 am

    This one is hard he passes the ilike not don’t like
    Everything was going great, he moved in, sex was good, no arguing, nothing was wrong.
    After 9 months later no explination, so sign of him hating me. He tells me we can b friends, ur not my type. What went wrong?
    He was so perfect, he made sure I had wat I wanted, made sure I needed something wen I got sick, payed rent n still gave my daughter money too. Now we argue n it just getting worse. N if not arguing we give the silent treatment. He still pays rent n give my daughter daughter money. I’m feeling so empty, I feel he’s not being a friend. Please can someone help me? He throw it in my face that we r just friends, we was never together. We still had sex, n he will ask wat took so long at the store, how do u no where u went. I don’t no wat to do

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      web admin

      June 10, 2019 at 11:26 pm

      It sounds like your partner is abusive and neglectful. His behaviors are unacceptable. Determine what you want for your future without him. Nourish your relationships with your friends and family at this time. When possible, move away from this person. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Julia!

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    Tammy

    June 10, 2019 at 12:03 am

    There’s a guy I have a crush on and I don’t know how he feels because he sends mixed signals. We hang out at least 3 times a week and he seems to flirt a lot, remembers what I like and don’t like, teases me every time and makes a lot of eye contact. The only problem is that every once in a while he’ll ask what I think about dating a certain guy and it totally throws me off. My friends say I should just move on, but I don’t want to until I know for certain that he’s not interested

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      web admin

      June 10, 2019 at 11:47 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. His questions are a sign that he is uncertain or confused about your feelings toward him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Tammy!

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    Anonymous

    May 29, 2019 at 12:09 pm

    So this should be my first time of asking this kind of question, ever. There is the guy who has been confusing me a lot.
    Actually his friend had been the first to approach me when I was out with some friends, his friend introduced us, flirting with me and stuff, so he was talking more to my friends and kind of ignoring me.
    I didn’t really notice him then, later on I met up with his friend, am kinda funny when I want to, so I was cracking jokes and all, so his friend together with another guy were laughing and he entered. Being a nice person, I said hi and he ignored me and was acting like he didn’t know me, and was frowning even when others were laughing.
    Later on, his friend added me up on Facebook but weren’t talking or anything, besides the friend is a huge flirt and a player from what I have seen so far.
    Surprisingly, I saw a friend request from him and I accepted, he texted hi and we chatted a little and he asked for my number which I eventually gave him.
    He texted me on WhatsApp, I replied him and surprisingly nice and we chatted go long, he asked me about myself and all, said he liked me, and wanted to date me but he doesn’t want to do long distance relationship. I called him to get inquiries about something he had experience in and later he told me that it was exciting hearing from me, that he would call me back, he did that day and never again.
    Meanwhile, his friend only views all my status, without saying anything to me
    After a while, he started ghosting me kind of, he would read my message and not reply, then reply maybe after some days, sometimes with one worded replies. Then repeat, he says he was busy or something. I once left his a”* on read and he never sent any other thing.
    After, like a month I replied him and he was fast in replying. After a while, he started one worded replies. I called him the other day to wish him a happy children’s day. I teasingly called him a baby and his macho self sounded disapproving, that I am the baby, that if he goes out with me, that people would either think Child abuse or am his daughter. Mind you, his a** has only 4 years on my 22, and he is way taller than me, which he rubs in my face all the time. He said he will call me back, he didn’t.
    I don’t really have the strength to type all of our interactions, but I really like him, he really gets me, is supportive with my choices, playful at times and super easy to talk to, just the communication issue. So all in all, is he being nice to me, or is he into me? Help a sister!

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 29, 2019 at 11:25 pm

      It seems as though he may be interested in maintaining a relationship with you, but his behaviors are indications that he may neglect your relationship. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Determine what type of relationship you want to maintain in the future. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Anon!

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        Anonymous

        May 30, 2019 at 12:26 am

        and they say we are the complicated sex…. thanks a lot. I think I might just know what to do. Have a great day too!

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          web admin

          May 30, 2019 at 7:35 pm

          Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. Please share more of your supportive comments in the future. Have a great day, Anon!

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    Andreya

    May 21, 2019 at 4:45 pm

    There’s this guy in my university whom i have the same class with, I didn’t notice it at first but when I looked at him, he was staring. I shrugged it off because most people seem to always stare at me anyway but then I noticed that he was staring so much to the point where even his friend, (who is a gal) also kept looking at me. He went to our lecture and sat behind me and he did the same thing again, he was staring again and I kinda felt awkward because even the girls sitting and talking with him noticed that and now they always stare at my face as well. There was another time in our lecture where the girls left and he stayed and when I looked back at him, he was already looking at me. I waited for him to leave first but he didn’t, he was still sitting. But as soon as I stood up and walked to leave I instantly felt someone walking closely behind me. It was him, and when I tried to open the door he closed in the distance between us and so I talked to him because it seems as if he wants me to initiate the conversation. We had such an awesome conversation but he was suddenly like, “Excuse me for a second, I just gotta go to the toilet.” I didn’t know if I should wait for him so I just left. What confused me was the fact that I realized he was waiting for me to talk to me but then when we met in the classroom again he just suddenly left so quickly that even his friend was like “Oh okay bye???”. Also, my friend—whom he have never met or seen before added him on facebook and he accepted her friend request in literally like two seconds afterwards. But when I added him, he didn’t. I am so confused because he seems so interested but not???? I don’t even know.. Next week is our last week of us seeing each other and I don’t know if I should shoot my shot or just leave if help

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 22, 2019 at 8:26 pm

      It seems as though he may be interested in you. When you friend added him, he may have thought that she wanted to meet up with him. It is possible that he is uncertain about your feelings for him. You may choose to reach out to him. Make a decision about what you want for your future, and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish your relationship with him by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Andreya!

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    Anonymous

    May 6, 2019 at 6:11 am

    So I have a huge crush on this guy in my college, we’re the same age I guess and in the same year, we see each other nearly every day but we never talk to each other and it’s been months now (nearly a year) and I don’t understand the way he acts around me, he’s confusing me. The first time we saw each other I was sitting behind him and when he turned around and saw me,he made an intense eye contact and kept looking in my eyes, I kept looking too but I didn’t realize that and when I realized that we were looking at each other for like a whole minute without saying anything, I broke the eye contact and looked away, but then I looked at him again and he was still looking!I was waiting for him to say anything or thought he would feel shy that I saw him or get embarrassed and look away but he didn’t! I just thought that he’s weird at that time because it was the first time we saw each other, there was a weird connection. And after a long time I started seeing him but I didn’t remember that it was him that looked at me like that, and I just kept looking at him whenever I saw him and started to like him,and the more I saw him the more liked him. He didn’t seem like he knew that I existed at first so when I realized that I had a crush on him I tried to make him notice me by being around him and making eye contact every time I see him. He always sits with girls and I thought that he’s a player because there’s a new girl every two weeks or something, but then I discovered that he was just friends with them. So he actually noticed me and whenever we saw each other we would make eye contact, sometimes it’s so intense that I just feel like he hates me or something because he doesn’t smile or anything he just keeps a straight face, and I do too because I’m scared of his reaction, however he never approached me and never made a move and made me feel like I’m the only one who is trying to be around him, he doesn’t make any effort to talk to me or do anything. So I just assumed that he doesn’t like me or even hates me and just gave up. But then he started to look at me by himself without me looking first, he started to look at me all the time and even when I’m not looking, but when I catch him doing that he just keeps on looking at me and making eye contact. I thought maybe I’m imaging that but then he sat next to me and his friend was next to him on the other side, but he just kept looking at me and never stopped and he made me feel so nervous by doing that, whenever I looked his way he would look too and raise his eyebrows while making an eye contact with me. He was like waiting for something like me talking or anything but I never did and I couldn’t even look at him because I was very shy and I was just trying not to smile and I felt like he knew I liked him but he didn’t talk though. And two times he was going downstairs but stopped half way to look at me and then continue. One of those times there was no one but me and he looked pissed when he looked at me but then I was shocked and I tried to look at anything else like I was trying to hide that I did look at him. I was so sad after that happened because I thought he hated me but he sat next to me after some time and did what I said .And once I was sitting next to my friend in front of him and we were talking about famous guys and how we liked them and he was so focused with us but didn’t say anything and he heard everything we said, and then suddenly I felt something hitting my shoulder and looked next to me and it was his pencil that fell from him(actually the pencil hit me so hard that I think that he threw it on purpose to catch my attention) I just kept on looking at the pencil but didn’t do anything because I didn’t know what to do and I was so nervous because I felt that my friend also liked him so I just froze when that happened and my friend acted like she didn’t know where did that pencil come from and threw it his way “because he would be so happy if a girl talked to him” and then I just laughed and called her crazy because she should’ve said something not just throw it like that! And recently I sat behind him and he didn’t stop turning his head around to look at me like I couldn’t even count how many times he did it and when someone said something funny and we all laughed he looked at me but I was ignoring him because he was so obvious that the people around me saw that and apparently the girl who was sitting next to me(I just know her but we weren’t friends) she noticed that and she looked at him and then looked at me and gave me a dirty look(even though we were talking and fine) and then she seemed so pissed and angry and just ignored me after that happened. She now hates me because she apparently likes him and he was just looking at me only. He seemed nervous that day and kept playing with his hair and didn’t seem comfortable and would just look at me but with a softer face like not that serious like before and smiles and stuff. He seemed happy and nervous at the same time. And when he gets in a place that I’m in he looks at me the first thing and makes eye contact but doesn’t try to be near me. And once I got in a place that he’s in and he just jumped out of his place when he saw me and looked at me again. Whenever I go to place he’s in he looks at me. And he started to look at me from afar when I don’t even know! And when I catch him doing that he doesn’t look away. I feel like the look he gives me is a flirtatious look because he’s really confident actually and talks to girls easily but I’m the shy one here and I can’t talk to him first and I was wanting for him to make a move all that time but he never did, he just sometimes gives me full attention and sometimes ignores me completely, I don’t understand him! If he’s that interested that he can’t take his eyes off me, then why doesn’t he talk to me?? And if he hates me that much then why doesn’t he just ignore me and leave me alone? I really like him and all of that is just so tiring for me because he still talks to other girls and of course that annoys me so much. He even helped that girl that was sitting next to me the other time in an assignment in front of me before she saw him looking at me and he knew that she knew me and thought that she was my friend (she was nice to me and suddenly she changed he attitude towards me after knowing that he looks at me) and the shocking thing that I discovered recently is that they are friends and they know each other but she likes him and he apparently doesn’t since he was looking at me like that in front of her. Recently too he was sitting near me and someone said something funny again and he laughed and looked at a friend of his behind him and then he turned around just to smile to me and I was laughing too and realized that he turned around just to give me that smile and I smiled and looked at him too. But in the same day that girl that hates me did something that annoyed me that day and left with him and his friend and I left alone and really sad that day. So I started to ignore him completely like he didn’t exist because I’m really annoyed that this girl gets to talk to him and leave with him and I can’t even talk to him and he never talks to me too!!! What does all of that mean??? Does he like me or hate me or what I’m getting crazy now.. One of the main reasons that I never talk to him is that all of my friends talked about him many times and they’re like look what he’s doing with that girl and they also have a name for him that only us know about that means that he’s always trying to pick up girls and every day with a new one, and I always act like I don’t know him or know anything about him and I never talk about him with them. They talked bad about him many times and how he’s always with girls. So I just can’t go talk to him in front of them. And I’m so shy too, so I really don’t know what to do now, what does all of that mean and what should I do??? Why is he confident with other girls and talks to them easily but not me?? Why does he never talk to me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 6, 2019 at 8:35 pm

      Your friends do not like him, because they feel that he is interested in maintaining a relationship with any girl that he can speak to. This means that they do not trust him, and they may feel uncertain if you attempt to maintain a relationship with him. Speak with your friends about their thoughts and feelings. With their input, make a decision about what you want for your future. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will always bring you many benefits in the future. If your friends change their minds and you want to maintain a relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Anon!

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    riaaaa

    May 6, 2019 at 2:01 am

    hey so here i am i have a boyfriend 5 months of relationship…he talks to other girls but he tells me that he doesn’t likes when i talk to someone else…let me mention we aren’t serious i love him… I don’t know does he feels the same..he has been betrayed by someone before… sometimes i think he loves me and others it’s luke he just doesn’t cares….

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 6, 2019 at 7:19 pm

      You hate stated that your current partner has betrayed someone else. If you believe that his actions are precursors to infidelity, then make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he ignores you or treats you poorly, then you are aware of his lack of commitment. Have a great day, Ria!

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    XXX

    March 29, 2019 at 9:40 am

    Actually I couldn’t find any answer to my problem. I hope you can help me with this because the guy I like is very different….

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 29, 2019 at 11:30 pm

      It seems as though you have a question that you are not asking. However, you are thinking about a relationship with a person. Since you think that it is possible that he likes you, you should make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by speaking with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Anon!

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      Kim

      May 4, 2019 at 5:31 pm

      My crush teases my and I catch him looking at mw but denied it. And whenever I talk to him when its just us he seems supee interested but in front of other people he acts different.

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        web admin

        May 4, 2019 at 9:42 pm

        His behaviors are indications that he is uncertain about your feelings toward him. It is possible that he is shy, and doesn’t want people to know that he is interested in you. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Kim!

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    XXX

    March 29, 2019 at 9:39 am

    I have a lot of questions but I couldn’t find any answer in these… I hope you can help me in finding an answer because this guy whom I like is very different…

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      web admin

      March 29, 2019 at 11:29 pm

      It seems as though you have a question that you are not asking. However, you are thinking about a relationship with a person. Since you think that it is possible that he likes you, you should make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by speaking with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Anon!

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    Hajanann

    February 14, 2019 at 12:40 am

    Held

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      web admin

      February 14, 2019 at 10:59 pm

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Hajanann!

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    Jennie

    February 14, 2019 at 12:38 am

    So we go to different school and he texted me all of a sudden. He talks to me when it’s only the two of us but doesn’t even look at me in public and he’s all sweet to this other girl from his school and doesn’t care about what people think of them even though she has a boyfriend that used to go to my school. What does that all mean ?? Help

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 14, 2019 at 10:59 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he may be interested in developing a relationship with you. However, he seems to be attempting to maintain a relationship with someone else who is currently in a relationship. This shows that he feels a strong social connection with her, and if her relationship ends, then he may attempt to nourish a relationship with her. Determine what you believe you want for your future. If he reaches out to you, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Jennie!

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