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    10 Signs a Guy Likes You But is Trying Not to Show it

    By on April 18, 2016

    So, you want to find out if a guy likes you even though he might be hiding it? Well, you’ve come to the right place! For some reason, guys try not to show it when they like a girl. I think they think it makes them seem less manly, even though that’s not the case at all.

    Guys can try all they want to hide the fact that they like us. But one thing that we know and they probably don’t is this: body language can tell you a lot more about a person’s feelings than they ever will.

    Understanding a guy’s body language is the first step to determining if he likes you but is trying not to show it. Here are some subtle signs that he’s really into you even if he’s hiding it.

    1. He’s Always Around, but Just Out of Reach


    If he seems to show up just about everywhere you are – even if it’s just to run a quick errand – he likes you but might not want you to know. When a guy always finds a way to just SEE you, he likes you. But by keeping his distance he’s able to see you and get the joy out of it without letting you in on the fact that he might actually like you.

    1. He Seems to Know Everything About You


    If he remembers your birthday, the fact that you hate pineapple on your pizza, and that your favorite snack is chocolate covered raisins, then he definitely likes you. When a guy goes through that much trouble to remember all of those important things about you, he isn’t just looking at you as a friend. But since he’s keeping his knowledge subtle and only bringing it up when the opportunity arises, he’s trying to keep his feelings for you on the down low.

    1. He Keeps Himself and His Place Clean for You


    If you’ve happened to notice that whenever you know you’ll be around him he seems to be clean shaved, freshly showered, and smells amazing, he’s into you. Another way to tell if a guy like you but is trying not to show it is if you’ve ever been to his house and it’s really, really clean and his room especially is extra tidy. Guys aren’t naturally really clean people. If he’s making an effort to be clean, he’s showing that he likes you by trying to impress you – even if he’s not saying he likes you.

    1. He Gives You Very Small, but Great Gifts


    By small, I mean nothing that you would feel the need to repay in anyway. So no jewelry, clothes, or the likes. If he goes bring you your favorite smoothie, candy, or even a book he thinks you might like, then he likes you. He’s being subtle enough to make you think he’s just being a nice friend, but these actions from a guy means that he wants so much more from you. Gifts are not something that anyone really gives another person without having more than “just friends” feelings for them.

    1. He Calls Other Girls, “My Friend…”


    If you two are having a conversation and he’s talking about other girls and mentions them by name and he almost always says, “my friend…,” before their name, he likes you but is trying to hide it. If he didn’t like you, there should be no reason for him clarifying that the girls he’s mentioning are just friends. He’s subtly pointing out the fact that he’s NOT interested in any of them. Meaning he’s got eyes for someone else. And I bet that would be you.

    1. He’s Always Looking at You


    When you’re walking around a party, get together, or even at school and you somehow always seem to catch his eye, he’s been looking at you. When a guy spends that much of his time looking at you it’s because he likes you. Staring at someone from across the room is an age-old telltale sign that he likes you and is trying not to show it. Another key signal is if he immediately averts his gaze and pretends like he wasn’t looking. This for SURE means he likes you and really doesn’t want you to know.

    1. He Wards off His Friends


    If you’re talking to him and he mentions that you should steer clear of any (or all) of his friends because of some reason or another, it’s his subtle way of keeping you off the market so he has a chance when he’s finally ready to show you that he likes you. He also might make you stay away from his friends because they know he likes you and he doesn’t want you knowing.

    1. He Almost Always Agrees with You

    When someone agrees with almost everything you say it’s because they like you. If you’ve also noticed that you seem to get your way around him more or he says one thing and then says the opposite because you speak up, he likes you and is trying to hide it.

    1. He’s Wishy-Washy


    People that are trying to hide their feelings sometimes don’t know they’re showing it. But as soon as he notices that he’s being too nice to you or making it apparent that he’s into you, he might pull back and actually be mean or withdrawn. So if you’ve noticed that a guy is being really wishy-washy with the way he talks to you and the way he treats you, it could be because he likes you but doesn’t want you to know.

    1. He Asks Intimate Details about You


    By intimate details I’m talking about personal information on your family, hobbies, and  likes/dislikes. If someone just wants to be your friend they’re not concerned about finding out that information right away. If he likes you, he’s digging and finding it for himself.

    When you want to know if a guy likes you but is trying not to show it, these 10 signs are a perfect place to start. Do you have any more signs that you’ve noticed before?


    1. Joy

      July 3, 2018 at 5:11 pm

      There is a guy at a gym I go to every day, he definitely looks like he’s in his late 30s, now I know a lot of times guys stare at girls especially at the gym. But this particular guy will walk by one of the machines I’m on and just stare at me and smile at me, sometimes I’ll be leaving and he’ll be coming in and he’ll just stare at me or give me this smile. I had decided to start exercising outside, mainly running. For example today I went to go run outside and as I’m crossing the finish Line I’m noticing this guy is stretching and he looks awfully similar to the one that I always see in the gym. At first I was a little shocked that he had followed me all the way out here. I’m just not sure how to take this, I’m guessing he’s shy, but at the same time I don’t want to seem unapproachable. From the distance, after I recognized it was him, I could tell he was watching me as I was running. After I finished my running I did a quick brisk walk past him and he clearly did not turn to look at me at all, I’m wondering if he’s just feels embarrassed. The main issue is that every time we come into contact he never says a word, and I don’t mind saying hi, but at the same time you should be able to say hi or good morning something!Can anyone read the signs?

      • web admin

        web admin

        July 4, 2018 at 12:26 am

        There may be a variety of reasons for his actions. He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. He may be shy. He may be unable to express his feelings. He likely wants to ensure that he is respectful to you. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what actions you believe are appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Joy!

    2. Potato

      June 3, 2018 at 9:36 pm

      I work at a local grocery store, and this guy really caught my eye. He would smile really warmly at me when our eyes meet. However, even when he is shopping during my shift, he sometimes tries to avoid me. I honestly haven’t made any approaches apart from smiling back. What does this mean?

      • web admin

        web admin

        June 3, 2018 at 11:18 pm

        It is possible that this person is shy. He may be friendly or he may be interested in developing a relationship with you. His avoidance may be a sign that he is confused or uncertain about your feelings toward him. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Potato!

    3. Confused by him

      June 3, 2018 at 9:01 pm

      We are older than teens but this guy is always staring at me. He sits on one side of the church and I sit on another. The angle of the church is not directly across from each other so he has to angle to see me. His buddies have gotten to where they now watch me as well. What can this mean? Is he interested in me?

      • web admin

        web admin

        June 3, 2018 at 11:16 pm

        It is certainly possible that his behaviors are indications that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. The actions of his friends are stronger indications of his feelings. The two of you share similar spiritual beliefs. Determine what you want for your future. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Confused!

    4. Chermaine

      May 15, 2018 at 4:27 am

      So i recently found this guy in my class starting to make fun of my feelings or so i’m not sure. My first impression of him was always good, he’s really nice and kind of cute but i never told him that before. We have been classmates and groupmates for slightly more than a month. He started calling me his “darling” and whenever i were to ask him to repeat it again as i didn’t heard properly he would laugh. And recently he just told me in my face that he love me. But i took it as a joke because how could he possibly just said that? It’s never easy telling people that you love them especially face to face. And i just laughed to that when he told me that. Sometimes i feel like he does have feelings for me as most of the time when i look at him, he is looking at me too. And i can sense he is happier when he is with me. But i’m really confused, is he just playing with my feelings? We barely met for a month.

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 15, 2018 at 10:16 pm

        He is interested in developing a relationship with you. He would not have shared his love for you if he were joking. It is unlikely that he has any negative feels behind his actions. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. He may feel shy or uncertain at this time, so be direct. Spend additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Chermaine!

    5. Loves Me

      May 12, 2018 at 2:30 am

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      • web admin

        web admin

        May 12, 2018 at 11:34 am

        Thank you for sharing your positive and supportive comment. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Loves!

    6. Autumn

      May 10, 2018 at 8:14 am

      Oh I also want to say that. He offered if I want him to take photos of my art by his camera and also asked if I want him to make a website for me. I said yes ofcourse, but he would alwaus include this “if you want” at the end of every sentences when he asked me if I want to join him, or if he offered to help me. :/ It’s like… He’s scared that I don’t want to hang out with him or would not take an offer from him? I accidentally waved at him on Facebook today so I am so embarrassed, I’m a person that I don’t initiate that I like a man, if they shows interest and I like him I will reciprocate but I would have never been the first person to be so. So, it’s so hard for me right now I get so scared and becomes awkward sometimes when I see him, that I literally had to leave 🙁

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 10, 2018 at 4:56 pm

        His statement, “if you want”, may be a sign of his desire to act in a way that is pleasing to you. It is possible that he is interested in waiting for you to make the first move. Many men feel more socially comfortable if the woman makes the first move. It is likely that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Have a great day, Autumn!

        • Autumn

          May 10, 2018 at 5:46 pm

          I think you’re right, he joked to a waitress I’m his girl friend before and then laughed. Hmnn..

          Wow. Ijust saw 400+ responses. The amount of people you have replied to and giving them your opinion takes quiet an effort. Thankyou so much for being so caring and dedicating your time with us!

          • web admin

            web admin

            May 10, 2018 at 9:23 pm

            Thank you for sharing your supportive and positive comment. It is possible that he was not making a joke with your waitress. It is possible that he is uncertain about the proper way to share his feelings. Please share more of your thoughts in the future. Have a great day, Autumn!

    7. Autumn

      May 10, 2018 at 8:07 am

      Hi, so I met 2 guy friends at a party, lets say they are named ‘l’ and ‘A’ and ever since then I’ve been hanging around them and they introduced me to their friends and we have all met L’s family because he would invited us all to come over and cook, so I’m like hanging out with all the boys. Anyhow, I like L right from when I met him, but it’s clearly that A and L’s best friend liked me. They all takes their turn to look after me and etc.
      I feel like L likes me, but is shy or afraid of rejection or ruining our friendship? Because he does this thing where he’s not around me all the times like other guys but the moment I disappeared he will text me where I am? Like as if he watches me from a far. Then sometime when we said bye he would be like.. how heavy are you? I’ll pick you up next time. Like as if he hesitate to pick me up, but then he would watch his other guy friends pick me up :/ he used to initiate to hang out, it’s more of like he’s going here if I wanna join or heading toward my house if I want to grab lunch etc, never actually say let’s hang out.
      And whenever he wants me to go somewhere with him or he offer to do something for me, he would be like “if you want” or he would say, and whenever I say we have such a strange synchronicity (because we really have matching thoughts too many times its crazy) then he would be like, I was meant to ask you about that. So a few times like that I don’t know if he actually wants to talk about things with me or to go somewhere with him, because whenever I mentioned let’s go to forest and you take photos, he would be like.. I was meant to ask you if you want to do that. It’s like, it has to be me to be the first to initiate.. I’m fairly attractive girl, don’t mean to get cocky about it but it’s not hard to see men talks to me. So idk if he’s just worried of rejection. Because he seems like such a relaxed guy and just Kool in general, he’s also good looking but I don’t think he knows it haha!
      And he doesn’t like dress to impress me or whatever, he doesn’t ask me questions about myself either.. he just listen to me, and he rmb alot of things I say. It took so much guts and we actually was watching a documentary together in his room first time.
      He just lyed next to me, not close to me but next to me and we just watch tv … Haha he might be a virgin for all I know, i feel like I’m liking a young guy. But anyways we are same age and we are in our 25 so we are young. But for all parts, 2 times he mentioned things like as if he really knows me. Please give me an opinion, I don’t know if this guy likes me, or he just treating me like a friend. Because I’ve been showing him sign that I like him but I’m shy myself even though I act very confident. He would send me snap chat but wouldn’t reply to my messages sometime if it’s not a question, if I just simply replying but not a question type of reply he won’t bother reply to me. Idk, very confusing.

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 10, 2018 at 4:54 pm

        It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He feels as though it would be beneficial to share kindness and compassion with you. He may be moving slow out of respect. He may not speak on snap chat often and may prefer to speak with you in person. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him a chance to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Autumn!

    8. Leah

      May 9, 2018 at 9:08 pm

      So there is a guy we are supposed to be friends with benefits. He got upset cause I did not tell him I am talking to other guys. The guy I am F.B. said he does not want a relationship cause I asked him. So I moved on looking for a relationship. He got upset and said I was not being honest. Which I know he has other females and I don’t get upset about it but he is making a big deal. Then he says he dont have feeling etc. Then he shows me other ways that he does care more then he let’s on. He tells me text him so he knows I made it home safe. He checks up on me if I am not feeling good or st work

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 10, 2018 at 12:13 am

        He has not attempted to nourish a relationship with you. He is jealous of your actions. He likely want to continue having a sexual relationship with you. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he wants to develop an emotional relationship with you, then he should work to solidify your relationship. Have a great day, Leah!

    9. Acy

      May 1, 2018 at 7:54 am

      Hi! I’m curious about one thing. There’s this guy, we are really close and almost like best friends. We do everything together and he tells me that I understand him better than anyone so he only tells me everything. He tells me that I’m one of a kind. He tells me that I’m different from other girls. And That I’m so nice and beautiful inside and outside. He always tells me that he’s glad that I exist, that he met me, or that I’m a blessing. He told me that he has a soft spot for me, so he tries not to hurt my feelings, he is afraid to hurt me and never meant to do so. Sometimes He tells me that he loves me every good night message. He wishes happiness for me which I assume he only said it in a friendly way. He does anything for me, but be also gets mad at me easily with just one mistake. But I’m not sure if he does this because he has feelings for me, or he is like this because I’m important to him as a friend. I wish you could help, thank you!

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 1, 2018 at 9:47 pm

        It is likely that he feels a strong emotional and social connection with you. He cares for you, though he may be unable to properly share his thoughts. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Because the two of you are close, you may find benefit in spending additional time with him in person. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Acy!

    10. Violet

      April 17, 2018 at 7:45 pm

      Hey! It’s Violet again, not sure if you remember. So I took your advice and started hanging out with him more, and I think our relationship is progressing. During orchestra, he was gently hitting me on the head with his bow, and my friend was like, “Hey, stop hitting Violet!”. And then he replied, “But I look hitting ON her”. Also, he poked my face a lot, and smiles a lot at me. And sometimes in the hallway, if he sees me walking towards my locker, he’ll turn around to walk with me, even if he was walking in another direction. I kind of want to ask him if he likes me, do you think that this is enough evidence?

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 17, 2018 at 10:42 pm

        His behaviors are indications that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He is clearly comfortable with you. The two of you share hobbies and interests. You share a strong social and emotional connection. You want to develop a relationship with him, so speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you want to ask him out on a date, then do so. Have a great day, Violet!

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