14 Signs Your Guy Means It When He Says “I Love You”

By on January 23, 2017

There is truly nothing more special in this world than love. It’s an intense, divine feeling that gives us warmth in our hearts, but chills down our spine. Seeing the person you love is like seeing an angel straight from heaven, while hearing those three little words ‘I love you’ makes us stop dead in our tracks, melting in an instant. Love can be complicated though, too, especially when someone says it but doesn’t truly mean it. So how can you tell if a guy really means it when he tells you those three special words? We’re going to dive into the world of love and expose all of the signs that your guy really means it when he says ‘I love you’.

Three Reasons He Might be Faking

It’s unfortunate, but sometimes men (and women too!) say ‘I love you’ without really meaning it. It’s a shame and truly something that messes with the heart on the other end, but to help reduce the risks of being played into a fake love, we are going to give you the three top reasons a man might say ‘I love you’ without meaning it.

He Wants to Get Into Your Pants

It’s unfortunate, but almost every man on planet earth knows that a woman is an emotional creature that is more likely to ‘give it up’ if she feels a man is in love with her. A lot of men use this ‘trick’ on women to get them into bed, then afterwards they’re up and leaving. It’s important to notice when a man is just saying ‘I love you’ to sleep with you- it’s pretty obvious if he does it while you guys are heating things up or when he’s obviously turned on and touching you every which way.

He Feels Forced to Say It

When a woman is in love with a man, she obviously wants him to know and is dying for him to reciprocate the answer. That being said, a woman in love will probably tell this guy over and over again just how much she loves him, just waiting for him to say it back to her. If you’re bugging him constantly about the ‘L’ word and he finally says it back begrudgingly, he most likely felt he HAD to say it just to get you to be happy. Does he mean it? Probably not.

Fourteen Reasons He is Being Real

Of course not all men say ‘I love you’ because they want some sex or feel they have to do so; so how can you tell when a guy is being genuine? There’s fourteen simple ways to tell whether or not he is the real deal and his love is pure.

Says it First

The majority of men don’t like to say ‘I love you’ first. It may be that they are scared, they don’t want to come across as needy, they are afraid of rejection, or simply their ego doesn’t want them to be the one being all emotional. Some men are even afraid of being in love period. All of these things make it hard for a man to finally say the big ‘L’ word, so if your guy is the first one to say it, you can rest assured he is probably being genuine with his feelings; especially if he doesn’t do it before or after intercourse.

Sounds Genuine

With some people you can just tell when their being genuine. Perhaps they have a certain way of saying something they truly mean, or their body language says it all. When he finally tells you he loves you, pay very close attention to how genuine he is actually appearing. Pay attention to his body language from head to toe and really get a good look at him when he says it.

Looks Deep Into Your Eyes

One quick and easy way to judge a man’s authenticity when he tells you he loves you is to notice where his eyes are. Is he looking at the ground, trying to avoid eye contact altogether? He could either be really, really nervous or simply not mean it at all. But nine times out of ten, when a man is truly in love and ready to say the words, he will look deep into the eye’s of his woman to ensure he has her full attention when he tells her such an important thing. So when the time comes for ‘I love you’, make sure his eyes are locked on you. His eyes should be as if they are looking deep into your soul, telling every inch of your body that the love is meaningful and true.

Says it Randomly

A guy that is in love won’t have to be prompted to say ‘I love you’, and once they get comfortable saying it, they will want to say it all the time. His love will happen at random when you are least expecting it, because he wants you to know he is being for real and he wants to make you smile as much as he possibly can. And he absolutely won’t leave the love to only ‘I love you too’s when you guys are talking.

Holds You Close

Men that are truly in love with their lady want to hold them close all the time; not just when you guys are getting ready to kiss or watching a movie, but all the time. It’s only natural! I mean think about it: when you truly love something or someone, you want it next to you all the time and you just want to feel close; that is exactly how a guy feels when he falls in love with a woman. They simply can’t get enough of their touch, and after an embrace, it is hard for them to let go.

Talks About the Future With You

Let’s just be brutally honest right now: a guy that is not one hundred percent serious about you and is absolutely not in love with you will not talk about the future with you! They don’t want a future with you and they are still holding out for the woman of their dreams to finally make a solid commitment to. So, if your guy is talking about the future- whether it’s the kind of house you two want or a vacation you should take during the summertime, take that as a big indication he is truly in love with you and wants you to stick around for a very long time.

Kisses You Passionately

There’s a big difference between a peck on the lips and a passionate kiss, and an ‘I love you’ should only be ended with a long, passionate kiss, where the love is being strewn up and down your spine as your tongues press against each other in a remarkable way. It’s the kiss where you can almost see fireworks, the one that melts your entire being. That’s the passionate ‘I love you’ kiss you will only receive from a man that is truly in love with you.

Makes You Feel Special

So you want to watch a terrible chick flick and he obviously would rather watch grass grow? But yet he watches it anyways? It must be love. So your back kind of hurts, but you don’t want to go get a massage? He will massage it for you. So he sends you an adorable text message just to light up your day when you are halfway through work? These are all things a man will do for his woman that he truly loves with all of his heart.

Is Jealous

Men AND women get jealous when they are in love. If your boyfriend doesn’t care that a guy is flirting with you or that he may have noticed you eye-balling that cutie across the room, then he probably doesn’t care about you at all. Jealousy just goes hand-in-hand with being in love; it sucks, but is certainly is true!

He Loves to Be Close to You

Don’t be surprised if a man that says ‘I love you’ wants to see you almost every day of the week; I mean, why wouldn’t he? The two of you are in love and being apart is almost treacherous. Yes, some personal space is okay, but for the most part the two of you want to be together all the time. You want to go on dates, make dinners together, or simply just sit at home snuggling watching a movie. The point is: you guys want to be close all the time.

Smiles Genuinely At You

You know that big smile a guy does when he is staring into your eyes like you’re the most beautiful woman in the world? Yup, that is the smile of a man who is smitten.

Does Special Things for You

Men love to surprise and spoil the women that they love, whether it’s a little ‘I love you’ poem on the fridge before he leaves for work, or a gorgeous diamond necklace on Valentine’s Day. The big things AND the little things are all part of the package, and you’ll get both if a man is really in love with you.

He Brags About You

A man that is seriously in love will also want everyone around him to feel super jealous of his wonderful woman, so if you’re overhearing him bragging nonstop about you, he probably loves you.

You Just Know

Sometimes the best way to know if something is genuine or fake is to use your own judgment. We all have intuitions, and if yours is telling you that he is really in love with you, you may be right. On the other hand, if everything just seems ‘off’ and ‘not real’, then pay close attention to him and figure out what the truth really is. Either way you need to follow your heart.

How do you think a man acts when he is really in love? What are some of the signs? Share with us your thoughts and stories below!

30 Comments

  1. Beckah

    November 27, 2018 at 8:47 pm

    So theres this guy I met about a month ago. I at first didnt feel anything for him. It took me the second day to fall for him. It took him the fourthday to fall for me, however he did tell me a week or so in thathe would need space and a break from our relationship. Totally understandable seeing as that before he met me, he was in a 9 year relationship and it had ended 3 days prior to meeting me. He was deeply hurt by the girl and I wanted to flexible with him and to gain his trust so I agreed. At times he still feels hurt about his ex and I try to change his mindset and create new memories with him. I give him space when he needs it but try to be available as well. So 3 weeks in, last night he told me he loved me. Im usually the one who says I love you first however yesterday he said it to me and randomly. We talking about something unrelated to our relationship. I feel that he is the most genuine with me and is completely open with me. Because when I video call him or call him in general hes really either really happy or smiley; he also told me that he loves how i am and my affection. Should I be worried that Im just a rebound?

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 27, 2018 at 9:22 pm

      He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. Your concerns about being a rebound may be valid, but you should behave as though his feelings are true. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Spend additional time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Beckah!

  2. confusedbabes>.

    November 14, 2018 at 5:29 pm

    So my boyfriend and I have been dating for more than a month, things got pretty heated up between us and we ended up getting together and we did some things, and we became more attached, but afterwards one of his friends started talking badly about me and saying I was a snitch and that I got him into some huge trouble when I didn’t and now my boyfriend won’t even acknowledge me, what do I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 14, 2018 at 8:46 pm

      Your boyfriend has chosen to not speak with you. This may mean that he is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you. His friend likely caused him to feel this way. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he ignores you or treats you poorly, then there is no reason to continue to nourish this relationship. Have a great day, Confused!

  3. Abby

    October 16, 2018 at 12:39 am

    This boy I’ve been really close friends with the past three years, although I haven’t seen him in two years, we have a tight relationship and looking forward to see eachother. Iconsider him a Brother. We say “I love you” to each other often enough to know we are there for each other through our tough times, but sometimes he says it twice in a single text. So maybe he really does? And he texts me day And night checking in on me. Should I consider that he likes me back?

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 16, 2018 at 10:09 pm

      The two of you share a strong social and emotional relationship. He may be interested in nourishing a romantic relationship with you. He may view you as a close friend and is interested in sharing his kindness and compassion. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him opportunities to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Abby!

  4. Chloe

    September 15, 2018 at 1:36 pm

    I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months I have recently found out he has been cheating and don’t know what to do. Do u confront him about it? Or do I wait for him to tell me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 15, 2018 at 4:31 pm

      You are certain that he has cheated on you. This means that he is not interested in respecting you or your relationship. Take this time to determine if you believe is behavior is appropriate. Decide what kind of relationship you want to nourish. Allow thoughts of him to fade and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Chloe!

  5. Madison

    September 13, 2018 at 5:08 am

    There is this boy that im dating and he feels that he will get bullied if he and i will be dating tomorw

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 13, 2018 at 9:35 pm

      He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. It is possible that there is a social reason for his statement. He may be at an age where other boys will make fun of him for being with a girl. Boys are often immature in this manner until they become older. He is not willing to give you the respect that you deserve, so allow him to fade from your life. You will find someone more mature and confident in the future. Have a great day, Madison!

  6. Madison

    September 13, 2018 at 5:07 am

    Theres this guy that im dating and i have to say i love you first. he feels that he is afraid that he will geet bullied if we keep on dating

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 13, 2018 at 9:35 pm

      He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. It is possible that there is a social reason for his statement. He may be at an age where other boys will make fun of him for being with a girl. Boys are often immature in this manner until they become older. He is not willing to give you the respect that you deserve, so allow him to fade from your life. You will find someone more mature and confident in the future. Have a great day, Madison!

  7. Mo

    August 19, 2018 at 3:06 am

    This is a kind of a doosey. A guy found me on a dating website. I am on one side of the US, he on the other. We’ve both gone through hard divorces. We’ve been texted back and forth everyday. He told me, I love you first, it took me a bit, but eventually I told him. You’re making me fall closer in love, everyday. He has told me numerous times that he loves me with all of his heart and soul. It’s been 4-1/2 months. He’s been alone for quite a bit and has told me that he’s kind of shy. We have not spoken yet only texting, still. What should I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 19, 2018 at 9:42 pm

      He has shared his thoughts and feelings. He is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. You may want to attempt to spend time with him in person. Have a great day, Mo!

  8. Kaitlyn

    June 2, 2018 at 5:31 pm

    My boyfriend and I were only friends for about a week before he asked me out, but despite not knowing each other for a long time I have told him EVERYTHING about me and I have never trusted anybody more than him in my life. I have had trust issues for a while because of my parents divorce (Mom cheated for years and then married the guy) and he understands this. He tells me every time I get sad and get the urge (cutting) to immediately call him he doesn’t care if he is at a family members funeral he will be there to talk. And says all he wants to do take me away from everything and be together for a long time.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 2, 2018 at 9:10 pm

      The two of you developed a strong emotional relationship in a short amount of time. This relationship is certainly viable, and it is clear that he cares for you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If you find that you need emotional support, then reach out to him. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you. Have a great day, Kaitlyn!

  9. Nikoi Alimatu Naa Dei

    April 27, 2018 at 8:02 am

    Am still confused if I should consider his love,since I don’t know how it feels to be in love.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 27, 2018 at 10:11 pm

      If your partner has shared his emotional thoughts with you and said that he loves you, then he is likely telling you the truth. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Either speak with him about your thoughts and feelings or allow your thoughts of him to fade. Have a great day, Nikoi!

  10. shajwan

    March 29, 2018 at 1:27 pm

    there is this guy , even though he denies to love me but deep inside i feel his caring for me , i feel him , as it’s otherwise , even though he says that but his voice not , his talking doesnt say so, he always tells me that he is not a good person , like i should be aware of him , what to do

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 29, 2018 at 3:25 pm

      Maybe you should listen to him. If he says that he is not a good person, then he might be right. He is doing everything to keep you away from him, and there must be a reason for it. If you really care for him, give him a few years to grow up, mature and become a better person. For the moment, just listen to him and trust that there is a good reason why you are not dating yet. Good luck, Shajwan!

    • Chloe

      September 15, 2018 at 1:38 pm

      Of he really loved you he would tell you
      Fine a man that would be there for you
      You deserve better

      • web admin

        web admin

        September 15, 2018 at 4:32 pm

        Thank you for sharing your positive and supportive comment. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Chloe!

  11. Merry

    March 16, 2018 at 6:13 am

    So I’ve met someone as i was in holidays and i liked him from the first second…we did lose time we start dating…till the point that he said im leaving in a month and i already like you enough to know that if we continue is gonna be hard for me and we stopped…he went back to England…we were talking now and then and he was trying to make me move to England he knew i wanted to anyway…2 years after brings me to London…half an hour away from him for 2 weeks i was trying to see him but things were difficult moving start a new life and he stopped replying to me…l found an amazing job as i was having drinks in a pub easy..4 months later i decided to text again and he replied on my 2 msg i was thrilled..a day after as it was my day off i jumped in the train to find him and i did happiest day of my life we had e great day and as he was sleeping he claimed on me started to kiss me and said “i love you ” and that happened twice…you think is true or he was just talking random in his sleep cause he does that but i love you twice??

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 17, 2018 at 9:45 pm

      It is certainly possible that he has strong feelings for you. He would not have said that if he was sleeping if he didn’t have those feelings. If he was awake, then he was sharing his feelings. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Merry!

  12. Extremelyhappywoman

    January 23, 2018 at 9:36 pm

    I kinda freaked out because after almost 3 years, my boyfriend finally said “I love you”. He said it first. I know he means it because we’ve talked about moving and getting a house together.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 23, 2018 at 10:32 pm

      The two of you have a strong relationship together. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Happy!

  13. confusedaf

    January 22, 2018 at 2:49 pm

    Thanks for this – it really helped put things into perspective!

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 22, 2018 at 9:33 pm

      Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Please feel free to share your thoughts and feelings int the future. Have a great day, Confused!

  14. baylee miller

    May 20, 2017 at 11:07 am

    it’s all I wanted to know thank you now I really know he does love me

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 20, 2017 at 1:37 pm

      I am happy to hear we could help. Good luck and thanks for commenting, Baylee Miller!

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