14 Signs Your Guy Means It When He Says “I Love You”

By on January 23, 2017

There is truly nothing more special in this world than love. It’s an intense, divine feeling that gives us warmth in our hearts, but chills down our spine. Seeing the person you love is like seeing an angel straight from heaven, while hearing those three little words ‘I love you’ makes us stop dead in our tracks, melting in an instant. Love can be complicated though, too, especially when someone says it but doesn’t truly mean it. So how can you tell if a guy really means it when he tells you those three special words? We’re going to dive into the world of love and expose all of the signs that your guy really means it when he says ‘I love you’.

Three Reasons He Might be Faking

It’s unfortunate, but sometimes men (and women too!) say ‘I love you’ without really meaning it. It’s a shame and truly something that messes with the heart on the other end, but to help reduce the risks of being played into a fake love, we are going to give you the three top reasons a man might say ‘I love you’ without meaning it.

He Wants to Get Into Your Pants

It’s unfortunate, but almost every man on planet earth knows that a woman is an emotional creature that is more likely to ‘give it up’ if she feels a man is in love with her. A lot of men use this ‘trick’ on women to get them into bed, then afterwards they’re up and leaving. It’s important to notice when a man is just saying ‘I love you’ to sleep with you- it’s pretty obvious if he does it while you guys are heating things up or when he’s obviously turned on and touching you every which way.

He Feels Forced to Say It

When a woman is in love with a man, she obviously wants him to know and is dying for him to reciprocate the answer. That being said, a woman in love will probably tell this guy over and over again just how much she loves him, just waiting for him to say it back to her. If you’re bugging him constantly about the ‘L’ word and he finally says it back begrudgingly, he most likely felt he HAD to say it just to get you to be happy. Does he mean it? Probably not.

Fourteen Reasons He is Being Real

Of course not all men say ‘I love you’ because they want some sex or feel they have to do so; so how can you tell when a guy is being genuine? There’s fourteen simple ways to tell whether or not he is the real deal and his love is pure.

Says it First

The majority of men don’t like to say ‘I love you’ first. It may be that they are scared, they don’t want to come across as needy, they are afraid of rejection, or simply their ego doesn’t want them to be the one being all emotional. Some men are even afraid of being in love period. All of these things make it hard for a man to finally say the big ‘L’ word, so if your guy is the first one to say it, you can rest assured he is probably being genuine with his feelings; especially if he doesn’t do it before or after intercourse.

Sounds Genuine

With some people you can just tell when their being genuine. Perhaps they have a certain way of saying something they truly mean, or their body language says it all. When he finally tells you he loves you, pay very close attention to how genuine he is actually appearing. Pay attention to his body language from head to toe and really get a good look at him when he says it.

Looks Deep Into Your Eyes

One quick and easy way to judge a man’s authenticity when he tells you he loves you is to notice where his eyes are. Is he looking at the ground, trying to avoid eye contact altogether? He could either be really, really nervous or simply not mean it at all. But nine times out of ten, when a man is truly in love and ready to say the words, he will look deep into the eye’s of his woman to ensure he has her full attention when he tells her such an important thing. So when the time comes for ‘I love you’, make sure his eyes are locked on you. His eyes should be as if they are looking deep into your soul, telling every inch of your body that the love is meaningful and true.

Says it Randomly

A guy that is in love won’t have to be prompted to say ‘I love you’, and once they get comfortable saying it, they will want to say it all the time. His love will happen at random when you are least expecting it, because he wants you to know he is being for real and he wants to make you smile as much as he possibly can. And he absolutely won’t leave the love to only ‘I love you too’s when you guys are talking.

Holds You Close

Men that are truly in love with their lady want to hold them close all the time; not just when you guys are getting ready to kiss or watching a movie, but all the time. It’s only natural! I mean think about it: when you truly love something or someone, you want it next to you all the time and you just want to feel close; that is exactly how a guy feels when he falls in love with a woman. They simply can’t get enough of their touch, and after an embrace, it is hard for them to let go.

Talks About the Future With You

Let’s just be brutally honest right now: a guy that is not one hundred percent serious about you and is absolutely not in love with you will not talk about the future with you! They don’t want a future with you and they are still holding out for the woman of their dreams to finally make a solid commitment to. So, if your guy is talking about the future- whether it’s the kind of house you two want or a vacation you should take during the summertime, take that as a big indication he is truly in love with you and wants you to stick around for a very long time.

Kisses You Passionately

There’s a big difference between a peck on the lips and a passionate kiss, and an ‘I love you’ should only be ended with a long, passionate kiss, where the love is being strewn up and down your spine as your tongues press against each other in a remarkable way. It’s the kiss where you can almost see fireworks, the one that melts your entire being. That’s the passionate ‘I love you’ kiss you will only receive from a man that is truly in love with you.

Makes You Feel Special

So you want to watch a terrible chick flick and he obviously would rather watch grass grow? But yet he watches it anyways? It must be love. So your back kind of hurts, but you don’t want to go get a massage? He will massage it for you. So he sends you an adorable text message just to light up your day when you are halfway through work? These are all things a man will do for his woman that he truly loves with all of his heart.

Is Jealous

Men AND women get jealous when they are in love. If your boyfriend doesn’t care that a guy is flirting with you or that he may have noticed you eye-balling that cutie across the room, then he probably doesn’t care about you at all. Jealousy just goes hand-in-hand with being in love; it sucks, but is certainly is true!

He Loves to Be Close to You

Don’t be surprised if a man that says ‘I love you’ wants to see you almost every day of the week; I mean, why wouldn’t he? The two of you are in love and being apart is almost treacherous. Yes, some personal space is okay, but for the most part the two of you want to be together all the time. You want to go on dates, make dinners together, or simply just sit at home snuggling watching a movie. The point is: you guys want to be close all the time.

Smiles Genuinely At You

You know that big smile a guy does when he is staring into your eyes like you’re the most beautiful woman in the world? Yup, that is the smile of a man who is smitten.

Does Special Things for You

Men love to surprise and spoil the women that they love, whether it’s a little ‘I love you’ poem on the fridge before he leaves for work, or a gorgeous diamond necklace on Valentine’s Day. The big things AND the little things are all part of the package, and you’ll get both if a man is really in love with you.

He Brags About You

A man that is seriously in love will also want everyone around him to feel super jealous of his wonderful woman, so if you’re overhearing him bragging nonstop about you, he probably loves you.

You Just Know

Sometimes the best way to know if something is genuine or fake is to use your own judgment. We all have intuitions, and if yours is telling you that he is really in love with you, you may be right. On the other hand, if everything just seems ‘off’ and ‘not real’, then pay close attention to him and figure out what the truth really is. Either way you need to follow your heart.

How do you think a man acts when he is really in love? What are some of the signs? Share with us your thoughts and stories below!

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    Hannah

    March 18, 2020 at 1:29 pm

    I met this guy through a mutual friend about 4 months ago, whom i have been dating now since January. It still surprises me til this day cause the first time we met, me, him, and his friend were drinking and ended up trying something neither one of us have tried before. My bf gained an interest since the first moment he saw me, which was obvious. For a couple months we talked almost every single day and we mutually started the convos. We would hangout alot and go on dates. We did alot of things together that brought us close as friends even he wishes the first night went differently. I wasn’t sure how I felt about him at first but I knew he was smitten by me cause he would always tell me how much he liked me. He even let me start borrowing his car and he would buy me alot of things (which he does buy things for people he cares about in general), and stopped talking to girls he’s been talking to for a while. But, I told him that I really cared about him as a friend and I did (alot) but wasn’t sure I wanted something serious. He on the other hand did, and was very sad when I told him that. And then when he was feeling less sad and depressed, he told me he won’t give up on being with me. He can’t cause he wanted me to be his so bad. I ended up staying with him every night almost cause I lost my job after something tragic happened in my life. He was the first person I called and he came to pick me up immediately. Ever since then, I stayed with him and spend almost every single day with him. It took me a while to move all of my stuff in but he just went with the flow. Anytime we would get into an arguement and I wanted to leave he would try his best to not give up and try to work things out with me. I got upset at him one night cause I felt he wasn’t giving me the attention he usually does and I started letting my insecurities get the best of me cause I started to actually fall in love with him. I told him to bring me home and we didn’t talk on the way there. Once we arrived, I walked out of the car and stormed inside. He tried to prevent me from walking away without talking about what was wrong but I didn’t want to. I went inside for a while and I thought he left afterwards but turns out he didn’t. He was waiting for me outside in the cold knocking on my window while I was smoking in the garage. His car kept on coming back in the drive way and sometimes backing out. After about 20 min. I finally heard the knocking while walking into my room. I went to my room, saw his hand knocking and decided to walk to the front door. I opened the front door while he was walking past and realized I was standing there. He came to me and hugged me tight and said “Can we please talk?” So I brought him inside. He started crying and that’s when he told me for the first time that he Loved me. He was even saying he was going to stay the night in the car cause he didn’t wanna leave and never see me again. All the other times he told me he had strong feelings for me. But this time he was genuinely crying saying he thought he was going to lose me and he couldn’t do that. That’s when I realized I really loved him too. Cause I was heartbroken and panicking inside the entire time when I thought he left. I low key wanted him to stay and the thought of never seeing him again crushed my heart. After that we grew stronger. He started knowing all of my flaws but not caring about them. His loyalty has been proven cause he never tried to hide anything from me and how he looks at other girls compared to me (according to my own observance and mutual friends) he doesn’t look at any other female the way he looks at me. And same vice versa. He doesn’t use me for sex and always respects my boundaries. He’s VERY protective. And we continue to learn more about each other and grow more genuine love for each other, eventhough it hasn’t been that long. But we have gotten into alot of big fights due to some struggles I have mentally and some insecurities I hold from a dark child hood. Eventhough I’m working on these things, I still struggle and we still struggle. But he has never given up, even after seeing my worst sides. Anytime I question his intentions and love he gets offended and very upset but never hesitates explaining things to me. He stands up for me, he never stops looking at me, he never stops touching or flirting with me. He encourages me and helps me to get back up since it’s been very emotionally hard on me this past couple of months but he’s trying to help me to where I can help myself more independently. And I am growing. Not to mention, he’s never tried to live with past girlfriends before and he’s dated them way longer than me or knew them way longer, but with me (according to his mom and almost everybody) he’s chosen to actually live with me and try to shoot for things in the Long haul. I struggle with bipolar and it’s affected my friendship recently with the mutual friend who brought us together. And they’ve been friends for years. My boy said to him after me and our friend made up: “Hannah is bipolar. I get why she is, and you and nobody else has to deal with it and I’ll respect that, but I’m going to cause I love her”. My boyfriend didn’t even tell me that, that was our mutual friend I had that falling out with that told me when I opened up about some mental struggles. I’ve never had a man love me like this but in my head of course it’s almost too good to be true. What are your thoughts on this love story? Do you feel it’s genuine or do you feel it’s a desperate kind of love?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 18, 2020 at 8:33 pm

      It is clear that the two of you care deeply about each other. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time together in person. This will help you understand what your future may hold. If there is anything that you feel that you need to address, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. By making it easy for the two of you to have conversations, you will be able to overcome any obstacle that may develop.

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    Madison

    February 18, 2020 at 7:42 pm

    I asked my guy if he loved me and he said yes. and i proceeded to ask him why,and he said because your you, and i sent him a question mark and he just said your madison. what does that mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 26, 2020 at 10:51 am

      It means he likes you for who you are. While it sounds nice, I feel like he should be able to list a couple of qualities he likes about you if he is genuinely interested–perhaps that will just happen after you have dated each other for longer.

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    Leo Right

    December 20, 2019 at 7:28 pm

    I spent 6-1/2 years with a man that had all of by the actions your article describes. We were engaged I truly loved him, and still do. I thought everything was fine, he got a phone call over A year ago and threw me out of our house.
    After a year we have started talking, he said, he didn’t feel like I trusted him and also didn’t think I would leave when he threw me out. He ended up telling me that he never thought I would come back to him. I am very confused he is dating 3 women right now, and telling me he still is in love with me and thinks about me everyday. We have met for lunch, then he will ask me to meet him the next date and stands me up.H e told me he had to clear some stuff out of his life before he and I could be back togethet. namely his kids…. what is strange is everyone thinks I up and left him which is not the truth. I am still hung up on this guy, I gave up a great job to stay home and raise his children and help him start a new business. We were engaged 6 months after we got together, after all of that time, I now have nothing. He even asked me what I was doing for Christmas this year, but I am not sure he means any of it…. I feel like he is stringing me along but I don’t know why.

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      web admin

      December 22, 2019 at 10:26 pm

      It sounds like he is taking you for granted and using you when he just needs someone to spend time with. He is being completely unfair to you, and you do not deserve this at all. The fact that he is still dating other people seems to indicate that he has no interest in going back to a serious relationship and is only using you. Whether it’s for his own ego or just convenience, it definitely sounds like he is stringing you on.

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    Testimony

    December 10, 2019 at 9:38 am

    I, have a feeling that he loves me, when he says it and look into my eyes I believe him, but I’m scared I might be wrong, he keeps trying to make me happy, and says it. I think he’s actually genuine about it, but sometimes, I ask myself if I’m not d one only imagining it

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 7, 2020 at 10:33 pm

      People fall in love at different speeds, so it is entirely possible that he is in love with you. The only way to find out for sure is to take a chance and see where this relationship ends up going. Good luck, Testimony!

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    In love at 74

    November 15, 2019 at 3:36 pm

    My fiance sent this to me today in an e-mail. (he is in the military overseas) He is 60 I am 74. We plan to be married when he retires in a month

    My queen, there’s nothing in this universe that grows faster than my love for you. Every single second, it grows a hundredfold …
    if someone were to ask me why I will never stop loving and treasuring you, I could spend an eternity giving them reasons and still not exhaust all the amazing reasons why I love you and why you shall forever reign as the one and only queen of my world.You are my queen, my best friend, the love of my life, my world. You are in fact everything that puts a smile on my face. And that is why nothing and no one shall ever take your place. I love you more than I can ever say in any language spoken by man.

    I get e-mails like this at least 3 times a week and have for the past two months. We text for hours at night and early morning but I long for his e-mails as he seems to put more thought and feeling into them

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 8, 2020 at 12:09 pm

      It is easier for many people to write long and thoughtful emails. Messaging may be difficult, as it isn’t generally a medium used for long statements. It is clear that he cares about you, so speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. When he retires, nourish your relationship by spending additional time with him in person.

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    Jay

    October 14, 2019 at 6:26 pm

    So I talk to this one guy and I really don’t know if he loves me or he just tries to get into my pants. We’ve been talking for about four months now and we kinda have a rocky realtionship. So we were messing with eachother and we just sort of grew about for a couple of weeks. And before we grew apart he used to tell me that he “Love Me” and used to check up on me frequently. But like I said we kinds grew apart and it was nothing we could really do we was just focused on ourselves for just a little while. So when we did start back talking to almost how we used to I told him that I Loved Him and instead of saying I love you too he asked me “Why”. Like you know like he asked me as if I was a stranger telling him that I loved him. So since thrall ive felt heisitent to tell him how I felt. So one day he was at at house, months after this happened, he told me that he Loved Me. He told me like he really truely meant it but I don’t know if he really meant it. I really hope he does though. Because I love him more than anything in this world tbh. Hes like my bestfriend and I trust him a lot ant a feel like I can talk to him about any and everything. Also we just have this strong ass connection like no one understands. Us like we do that why I hope he really means it.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 2, 2020 at 9:01 pm

      You were concerned about the desires of your partner. Since your comment, the two of you have likely considered the future of your relationship. If the two of you are still together, then it is certain that he cares about you, and wasn’t just interested in maintaining a physical relationship with you. If you are not dating at this time, then your concerns may have been accurate. Take this time to determine what you want for your future, and take whatever action that you feel is appropriate.

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    Jan

    August 18, 2019 at 9:34 pm

    I thought I would do a rewrite;due to many grammatical errors. So admin. Feel free to delete my first response. Thank you!

    He had waken me up early this morning. He had said, excitingly, “I have finally found a song, that reminds me of us.” It is George Strait’s, I Cross My Heart.” So he played the video on YouTube. I smiled so big and completely imagined us, dancing to it at our wedding of someday.

    He had even told me he loved me for the very first time. By the way, I am 37 and he is 41.

    Tonight, before he went to bed. He texted me the complete lyrics to the song. And he was correct, the song does remind me of us.

    Our love is unconditional
    We knew it from the start
    I can see it in your eyes
    You can feel it from my heart
    From here on after
    Let’s stay the way we are right now
    And share all the love and laughter
    That a lifetime will allow.
    I cross my heart
    And promise to
    Give all I’ve got to give
    To make all your dreams come true
    In all the world
    You’ll never find
    A love as true as mine
    You will always be the miracle
    That makes my life complete
    And as long as there’s a breath in me
    I’ll make yours just as sweet
    As we look into the future
    It’s as far as we can see
    So let’s make each tomorrow
    Be the best that it can be
    I cross my heart
    And promise to
    Give all I’ve got to give
    To make all your dreams come true
    In all the world
    You’ll never find
    A love as true as mine
    And if along the way we find a day
    It starts to storm
    You’ve got the promise of my love
    To keep you warm
    In all the world
    You’ll never find
    A love as true as mine
    A love as true as mine

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 20, 2019 at 8:23 pm

      Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. We always appreciate when members of our community share their thoughts and feelings. Please share more of your supportive comments in the future. Have a great day, Jan!

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    J'annetta Geoege

    August 18, 2019 at 9:23 pm

    When he finally figured put our song. I spent the night and he woke me up and excitingly said, I found our song that reminds me of us. George Strait’s song, I Cross My Heart. He told me, he loved men while looking in to my eyes. Before he went to bed, he sent me the entire lyrics to the song.

    Our love is unconditional
    We knew it from the start
    I can see it in your eyes
    You can feel it from my heart
    From here on after
    Let’s stay the way we are right now
    And share all the love and laughter
    That a lifetime will allow.
    I cross my heart
    And promise to
    Give all I’ve got to give
    To make all your dreams come true
    In all the world
    You’ll never find
    A love as true as mine
    You will always be the miracle
    That makes my life complete
    And as long as there’s a breath in me
    I’ll make yours just as sweet
    As we look into the future
    It’s as far as we can see
    So let’s make each tomorrow
    Be the best that it can be
    I cross my heart
    And promise to
    Give all I’ve got to give
    To make all your dreams come true
    In all the world
    You’ll never find
    A love as true as mine
    And if along the way we find a day
    It starts to storm
    You’ve got the promise of my love
    To keep you warm
    In all the world
    You’ll never find
    A love as true as mine
    A love as true as mine

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 20, 2019 at 8:22 pm

      Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. We always appreciate when members of our community share their thoughts and feelings. Please share more of your supportive comments in the future. Have a great day, J’annetta!

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    just wqondering

    April 28, 2019 at 12:13 am

    when he said I wanted to tell you this. Your beauty is as astounding as the winds of heaven that rips the chains of my everlasting sincerity and heart. You are my shining star in the darkness and if you were to count all the stars at night that is how much I love you. Also I want to tell you that out of all the flowers in the field I would only choose one and that would be you my beautiful rose. I don’t know if he is just saying it for me to tell him my feelings anf=d then just say its a joke or he really means it. helps?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 28, 2019 at 9:23 pm

      He shared his thoughts and feelings with you. He may have decided to be poetic, which is an indication that he wanted to impress you. This does not mean that his statement is false. It is likely that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Ensure that your dream guides you to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Wondering!

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