10 Signs a Guy Likes You but Is Too Scared to Tell You

By on April 19, 2017

You have this guy in your life, but you can’t seem to figure out where it’s all heading. Does he want to be friends? Or does he want more? Here are 10 signs a guy likes you, but is too scared to tell you.

He Does Incredibly Cute Things (and Then Pretends It Was Nothing)

Friends do cute things, of course they do, but they’re usually cool about it. They don’t try to “act” cool about it, on the other hand. They’re happy to show they care. Guys who are scared of showing their emotions will try to downplay what they just did. In other words, they aren’t cool about it, so they have to pretend to be cool about it. Usually by shrugging their shoulders, looking more arrogant and aloof than a Cheshire cat, or, by turning colder than ice. Sometimes you’ll glimpse their eyes nervously darting all over the place too.

Men who do these things are usually scared of rejection – they want to show you they care, but are so scared you’ll reject them they pretend they don’t care about caring about you…

He Doesn’t Stop Texting You

A sure fire sign a guy likes you is his want to communicate with you. All men, of course, aren’t the communicative kind (and some are appallingly bad at writing messages), but a lot of men who have a crush on someone want to text them. Because every time they get a text from you they feel liked by you (and get weird butterflies spinning round their belly). So they can’t stop texting you..

When texting you can hide a little bit more than in real life, so for some guys that makes it easier as well. Those guys might also do the ambiguity thing – like adding a “LOL” at the end of a compliment, so as to make it sound as if they’re joking and not really coming onto you. Yeah, right.

He Remembers

You mention you like Ben and Jerry’s Rocky Road ice cream and a week later he surprises you with some B&J’s Rocky Road ice cream. Or you talk about life and a week later he reminds you of that thing you said, which he’s now been walking around thinking about.

Friends remember these things too, but they don’t obsess as much about what you said as a guy in love does…

He’s Totally Jealous at Other Guys

He pretends to be just a friend, but as soon as some other guy checks you out, or tries to steal you away, he either gets very grumpy, belittles the guy, or does his best to get your attention back firmly on him.

He’s Having Conversations with Your Legs (and Other Body Parts)

A guy can try to pretend to feel no attraction for you and just wanting to be your friend, but when he’s having conversations with your legs on days you’re wearing a skirt, it’s a sure fire sign he’s attracted to you.

Attraction doesn’t mean a guy has a crush on you. It simply means he’s attracted to you physically. I’m sure there are people you’re friends with whom you’re attracted to, but whom you’d never see yourself in a relationship with. Simply because the attraction doesn’t cover all areas of their personality – you may click emotionally and physically, but not intellectually and lifestyle wise.

However, if a guy has a crush on you, he’s for sure attracted to you physically.

He Touches You Often 

Some people are touchy feely, but if a guy is waaaaaaay more touchy feely with you than with others he’s either a) more comfortable with you than others b) irresistibly drawn to you.

It’s sort of the same as with flirtatious guys – they flirt with everyone as it comes naturally to them, but they usually flirt a lot more with the people they actually like and the undertone is completely different. It has meaning.

Everyone Else Thinks You’re a Couple

The guy may be too scared to confess his feelings to you (maybe even to himself), but everyone arounds you, especially people who know him well, are certain the two of you are an item, or meant to be an item.

You Catch Him Staring at You When He Thinks You Aren’t Looking

If the guy sits daydreaming about you, chances are he’s into you!

He’s Protective of You

Men like women who appeal to their inner hero, which for some reason has a lot to do with carrying heavy items and keeping you warm at night. It makes them feel manly. So don’t ruin their fun by telling them you’re perfectly capable of doing whatever it is they want to do for you.

The thing is, men who like you, even if you don’t display much sign of needing help, often jump to your rescue. They’ll defend you in front of others, offer to drive you places just to know you got there safely and check in on you five times a day when you have a mild cold.

He’s Being Gentlemanly

Unless the guy is opening the doors for everyone else, carrying everyone else’s bag and offering his jacket to everyone else, he cares more for you than them. (Very similar to the hero complex!)

What to Do About a Guy Like This?

Some guys are freaked out about commitment (for whatever reason), some are freaked out about hurting themselves, or you, if they get involved with you, yet others are scared of rejection. If a guy likes you but don’t tell you, it’s usually because of one of those reasons, or because he used to date your friend (or has other ties to people near and dear to you), or simply doesn’t think he wants a girlfriend right now.

I believe it is Matthew Hussey who says that the only way to get out of the friend zone with someone is to make them think of you sexually and he’s right. You have to flirt and tease and see what happens. Try to make him a bit jealous as well and see what happens (don’t overdo it though, because that could lead to him running for the hills, thinking you don’t care). And if you’re looking for a relationship you also have to be willing to show you care – take a step and see what happens.

A man liking you doesn’t mean he will end up in a relationship with you though – if his fears are bigger than his wants, he won’t be roped in no matter what you do. Nor will he be roped in if his desire to go travel, or move to another city is more appealing than dating you. In that case, don’t waste your energy. You don’t just want a great man, you want a great relationship. If he isn’t willing to give you that, then there are better prospects for you out there.

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    mia

    April 6, 2020 at 4:52 pm

    hi so i know this AMAZING guy and am pretty certain he likes me but i think he may be waiting a few years to make it defenite or waiting for me to make a move should i? its REALLY complicated.
    he is several years (like 6) younger than me (i am 24) but is VERY mature for his age has a job is going to bible college this year (to be a preacher) owns a truck is hardworking is VERY careful to keep bowndries around girls is steady & loyal withfriendships over years is TOTALY clean talking is a PERFECT gentelmen treats his mom especially but any lady like a QUEEN. we like ALL the SAME things like animals & farms & the same jks & music etc. btw thats all what everyone sais about him not just me but ive seen it to.
    anyway the story is that we’ve been great friends for 10 years (like hanging out & jking all the time at all 4 camps: we didnt see each other any more bcuz hes in WA and im in GA & the camps in WA) but 3 yrs ago he asked for my # (im the only girl i think hes ever txtd) and kept insisting when i dodged & joked (bcuz i dont txt guys as just friends but he was still a kid & i wanted to think a minute) so i gave it to him (bcuz i knew that when he grew up more hed not have a problem when i cut it bcuz we dont have ‘justfriends’). we txtd a little but insted of drifted off, it got more & more but i still thot of him as a friend until he turned 17 & i read some sites (like 10 sines a guy likes you etc) & was like WOW!!!!!! he does EVERYTHING on all the lists exept like inviting me over bcuz of distance!!!!!!!!!!! we were txtn like 50 txts a day on Sat. when we werent at work just chit-chating about EVERYTHING. (& he remenbered EVERYTHING i said EVER, but he is like genius-smart & remembers EVERYTHING anyone says so maybe that was just friends but there was ALOT more like he started like 75% of the conversations bcuz i didnt want to act desperete bcuz im not bcuz God will work out His plann which is best even if i dont get maried for years or never)
    in our church the guys are suposed to treat girls good & guys & girls dont really hang out or sit together or txt unles with who their dating so EVERYONE in the WHOLE generel church was teasing us by this time but he would get all embarased & say stuff to them (not to me) about being just frinds but made SURE i new he was being teased about me. when he new i was able to come to camp in WA last year he talked about what WE should do when ppl teased us & how WE could hang out & just watch for ppl taking pics & stuff. anyhow i really liked him by now & told him jokingly that id take care of my fam but hes boss when it comes to the rest bcuz he knows them better. but when i got to camp we were both crazy nervus & he would come by ALL the time showing off on a hoverbord thingy that was their but never sat by me or really talked to me (exept a jk in passing) then in the middle of camp acted like i had TOTALY fallen of the face of the earth but sudenly started hanging around & drifting over next to me in groups & jking me again the last couple days. it was SO WIERD!!!!!!!!!!!! then afterword he started txtn again like he was scared i was upset or something but when i answered he started jkn again like he was releived but i wasnt going to let it drift on as just freinds like before bcuz he was grown up a lot (& SUPER hansome but thats beside the point:) so i let it go a couple days so hed know i wasnt upset then txt him & said id enjoyed txtn & it was fine when he was a kid but now the age difrence isnt big & i dont talk to guys regular as just freinds & i no he doesnt want to be known as a guy who has a bunch of girls on the string. he ansered that he totaly agreed & thanks for being a freind. at camp their was another guy that tried to sit by me a couple times but i dont know if he saw him bcuz i moved as fast as i could w/out being to rude. my sister said she saw him go talk to another girl for a minute once but she is very protecteve of me& i saw him sit across the table from a couple girls but there were some of his freinds at the same table there werent any other times he hung out withh other girls. a few weeks after camp his cousin who knew i liked him said shed seen him & hed lost wait & looked really sad but she didnt know if maybe it was just something going on that daay.
    his dad was supposed to come preach speshial services at my dads church last fall & the whole family came exept his older brother whos at bible college. he acted really nervous & shy at first but kept drifting over next to me & then when i didnt move even coming over to talk to me when a group was around but staing after thay left then he challenged me to a canoe race with his little brother keeping time ( we live on a lake) then he & his little brother got in one canoe ( his brother was up front where he coudnt see us) & me in another to go to the end of the lake then he just kept sitting there & when his brother asked why we werent going he kept saying stuff like whos in a hurry and im waiting for mia to come up here beside where we can talk without shouting & he kept just watching me with this supersweet mushy grin & even winked at me once!!!!!! the trip (which is usualy about 10 min) took us like 4 HOURS AND IT WAS RAINING A LITTLE!!!!!!!!! then his brother & him & my family went to a church 6 hours away where we have church evry couple weeks & he kept sitting sideways or even backwards leaning over the seat to talk to me all ther way their & bakc. the whole two weeks he kept hanging out & joking with ma & looking at me like EVERY 5 SECONDS!!!!!!!!!!! their was a bunch more (like hed meet me in the driveway when i got home fro work etc) but no space here. oh and i saw him check his phone only once the wholle two weeks & it was one of his freinds txtn.
    he never said anything about starting txtn again or asking if i was coming to camp this year or anything about thefuture but my friend said at camp she heard his dad say somthing about that of course hed need to finish college bfor anything could happen but i think he ment getting maried bcuz his big brother dated a girl a couple years in college & is graduated now & is geting maried this year. his little brother (10yo) told my 7yo nephew that hes just freinds with me & he likes a diferent girl that was at camp last year but hed be upset if he knew hed told & my nephew told my little sister & she told my mom & my mom told me!!!! my sis-in-law told my mom that my bro asked him if he minded if thay teased him about me & he said he didnt care but he didnt like me like that & my bro told my sis-in-law & she told my mom who told my little sis who told me. he never told me anything like that & i wonder if maybe the words got mixed up but i dont want to overthink or read more than whats really their. i txt his mom some still bcuz were freinds & hes sent a couple meseges thro her. i txtd him a couple blank txts a couple days ago like it was a glich or something just to see what hed do & he knew who it was so he still has my # even tho he menchioned once he droped his old phone in the creek & lost everything the same day we quit txtn. he acted really glad to here from me again & made a effert to keep the txtn going a little more than it had to be & told me thanks for a joke id sent his mom a couple days before.
    so do you think he likes me or am i imagening it? do you think hes waiting til hes at least part thro colege or for me to make a move bcuz i was the one who cut it of or something else? ive heard to beleive a guy who sais he doesnt like you but does this sound like the same case? & could his little brother be mestaken bcuz i know i didnt know @ that age who my big bros & sis liked but i wasnt as sharp on stuff like that as his little bro seems like. is it possible for guys (even such a gentelmen as he is) to really cut it so totaly without even tryin to keep it going with a girl thay like just bcuz she sais something like that? ive heard that guys arent as driven to hear from there friends & such every 5 minutes like girls are is it true? should i just go ahead like id planned & wait at leest a couple years to give him a chance to do something (im going to camp next year but not this) or jump in & say something? any advice will help thanks!!!!!!!
    (sorry its so messy & long i was in a hurry & its just so complicted!!!!!!!!)

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 6, 2020 at 8:42 pm

      It is clear that your relationship is complicated, and there are many aspects regarding this relationship that you need to consider. Allow all of these questions from your past to fade from your mind for a moment. Take this time to consider what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Whatever the two of you decide upon is what you should do. If the two of you determine that your relationship is not viable or appropriate at this time, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere for the time being.

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    Chevy

    March 22, 2019 at 4:30 pm

    So there is this guy and I catch him looking at me all the time and he teases me,but when someone says something about us and how we should get together, he say things like “ I would never date her” but blushing. I’m just scared to tell him I like him

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      web admin

      March 23, 2019 at 1:37 am

      It is likely that he is uncertain or confused about your feelings for him. It is certainly possible that he has strong feelings for you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Chevy!

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    Tracy

    January 24, 2019 at 1:16 am

    There’s this cop in my neighborhood that suddenly showed up at my door to tell me my trunk was open and he noticed it on his way home since he live in the apartment building next to mine. Since then I run into him a lot and he always waves with this weird eyes wide open smile. He has never asked me out but continues to wave nervously wave in passing. One time he even jumped out of his squad car in front of me and strutted in front of me with his hands on his hips like some kind of peacock display. I even got a weird prank like call from someone that sounded a lot like him since he has a very distant raspy country sounding voice but the caller suddenly hung up after they identified it was me. I only see him now when his shift begins and the windows are so dark in his personal car I can’t see inside and he never speaks to me in his personal car only when he is in uniform. I even notice now that he has suddenly started working out after I dropped a few pounds. I’m sick of the hot and cold interactions with this guy.

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      web admin

      January 24, 2019 at 10:48 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. There may be various reasons for why he is behaving in this way. It seems as though you do not feel comfortable with his behavior. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. You may want to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Ensure that he treats you with respect. If his behaviors make you feel concerned, then avoid him. Have a great day, Tracy!

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    Justified

    December 25, 2018 at 5:34 am

    So I work with this military boy. He’s arrogant, hard-working. Everyone said he was with a chick that works in a different department. But when I meet this girl she gives me this look that could kill. She glares at me and fights with the guy when they are both near me, and she hates it when he talks to me. She dyed her hair to my color. And tries to wear my shade of lipstick whereas she didn’t do that before she caught me talking to this guy. I go between this feeling that he hates me, because he always has to one-up me. But then he’ll say something to make me laugh and look accomplished when he can make me laugh. He’ll constantly stare at me. Like he’ll do it when he thinks I’m not looking, AND sometimes he’ll get cocky enough to try to lock eyes with me. He’s super quiet and keeps to himself around me when we’re alone, but he won’t shut up if I start a conversation that could have only been a two-word thing. He likes to show up all the other guys in front of me, and he will try his damnedest to hear every word I say to any other guy. I just can’t tell how he really feels. He’ll tease every other girl in an insensitive manner, but then poke gentle fun with me. Now he’s clingy and somehow always near me.

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      web admin

      December 26, 2018 at 12:41 pm

      It sounds as though he is currently in a relationship. Because of this, you should not attempt to nourish a romantic relationship with him. His girlfriend is aware of his feelings toward you, and she is attempting to mimic your behaviors. Your interaction with him harms her. The next time that you speak with him, you should be direct about your thoughts and feelings. If he wants to maintain a relationship with you, then he should not be in a relationship with someone else. Have a great day, Justified!

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    kiki

    May 10, 2018 at 8:53 pm

    so i have this crush… i sometime caught him stealing glances at me . when i have some friends around me , he wouldn’t greet me… but when i’m alone he’ll come up to me and greet me and teases me… he’s also protective of me… and when i pass his classroom, his friends would shout his name out loud trying to make me curious of what they are trying to do … well i am actually curious of what happened that day… and also when he greets me.. he’d always gives me his smirk…

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 10, 2018 at 9:39 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. It is possible that he is aware of your feelings. He cares for you and wants to make sure that you are safe. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him a chance to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kiki!

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    Lani

    February 3, 2018 at 6:06 pm

    There is a guy I’m interested in, but I’m starting to think he is too scared to tell me if he is interested in me or not. We’ve know each other a year in this may and have become good friends. I’ve noticed some signs that he may be interested in me like, eyebrows raised, his pupils grow slightly bigger when he looks at me, he compliments me (at least five times), he’s opened doors for me, when he goes with his mom to take me home (he didn’t have a car at the time) he lets me have the front seat and when I think I said something about a hat that I liked, he ended up surprising me with it (I was honestly really surprised when he got it for me, completely caught me off guard). I will admit that I’m head over heels for him and have been for quite some time, but I honestly don’t know how to approach him on the subject. When he and I were sitting side by side and he had gone somewhere to get something, a friend (this guy and I are both friends with this person) asked me if my guy friend and I were dating and when I said “no” feeling rather surprised, another friend teased me a little about it, but didn’t say anything to my guy friend when he got back. How exactly can I start a conversation and ask him if he feels anything for me? We have to talk over FaceBook now since he moved and I really don’t want anything to be awkward because that’s how I felt when we first met. I don’t know if I could handle him forever being awkward around me if he rejects. That is seriously my biggest fear or losing his friendship.

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      web admin

      February 3, 2018 at 9:58 pm

      Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If you want to develop a relationship with this person, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you want to maintain your friendship without risk, then continue to nourish your friendship with him. You may find that your mutual feelings will grow with time. Have a great day, Lani!

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    Dani

    November 29, 2017 at 11:20 pm

    This is such an awesome article. It was honestly exactly what I was looking for. I am in the early stages of liking a guy, which likes me back, but he seems too scared to say it or express it because he is really cocky. I feel like he likes me so much and doesn’t want to be rejected so he tries to play cute things cool, while still being a gentleman, then teasing me later. I think its a defense mechanism to protect himself if I ever did reject him. Nonetheless I actually was about to cut things with him because it wasn’t clear, but I’m beyond glad I found this and every point was correct.

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      web admin

      November 30, 2017 at 10:04 pm

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. This will help clear up any confusion or uncertainty. Have a great day, Dani!

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    Jozzy

    June 14, 2017 at 10:36 am

    So we met during school’s registration and surprisingly, we are in the same class. We had a project of which he was in my group, I saw him in the bus and he asked how am seeing the project. I then took the opportunity to ask why he doesn’t mingle with us since he doesn’t talk to anyone and he said he’s shy and moreover he doesn’t know anyone. I told him to feel free and talk to us since we are friendly, from then he’s changed seats and he sits beside me. He’s now close to my friends but the most awkward and loving thing is that we don’t know how we started sharing food but all I know is he started it. He’ll say did you bring anything today and sometimes I reply yes of which we eat together and he also brings biscuits for himself and I. He says whatever is mine is his and whatever is his is mine and the class was “are YOU two dating he only smiles and am like oh no we aren’t” . He touches me, pets me, teases me, comforts me, pretends as if he’s crying and telling his mom or the teacher that I don’t answer when he calls me,etc(he worries me a lot). One day, I wore one of my prettiest clothes to school with my handbag and they all like you look pretty today. He then asked where I’ll be going after school, from nowhere my closest friend said we had a group date and he was so mad at me . He didn’t talk or look at me for a week, I tried explaining things but he wouldn’t listen . After three day’s one of his friends said he’s gotten a girlfriend and they started asking me what happened between us. Honestly I was a bit disappointed although I don’t know why so he sent me a message after three days and I asked why he’s been behaving like that but he said he isn’t mad anymore but it was more like he was still mad. I saw him face to face and I asked what happened since helooked unwell, he said he couldn’t sleep for several day’s and that it’s his secret for not sleeping. Now we’re back to normal and he said he isn’t dating anyone he’s like that when they say we heard you’ve gotten yourself a girlfriend and he’s”but who’s spreading this rubbish”?. Even though we’re cool and normal, but he sometimes acts like a jerk. PLEASE HELP

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 14, 2017 at 2:00 pm

      It is possible that he wants to move your relationship close together. It is possible that he is happy as your friend. If you want to change what you have with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give him the chance to be direct with you. Have a great day, Jozzy!

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