10 Signs a Guy Likes You But is Trying Not to Show it

By on April 18, 2016

So, you want to find out if a guy likes you even though he might be hiding it? Well, you’ve come to the right place! For some reason, guys try not to show it when they like a girl. I think they think it makes them seem less manly, even though that’s not the case at all.

Guys can try all they want to hide the fact that they like us. But one thing that we know and they probably don’t is this: body language can tell you a lot more about a person’s feelings than they ever will.

Understanding a guy’s body language is the first step to determining if he likes you but is trying not to show it. Here are some subtle signs that he’s really into you even if he’s hiding it.

  1. He’s Always Around, but Just Out of Reach


If he seems to show up just about everywhere you are – even if it’s just to run a quick errand – he likes you but might not want you to know. When a guy always finds a way to just SEE you, he likes you. But by keeping his distance he’s able to see you and get the joy out of it without letting you in on the fact that he might actually like you.

  1. He Seems to Know Everything About You


If he remembers your birthday, the fact that you hate pineapple on your pizza, and that your favorite snack is chocolate covered raisins, then he definitely likes you. When a guy goes through that much trouble to remember all of those important things about you, he isn’t just looking at you as a friend. But since he’s keeping his knowledge subtle and only bringing it up when the opportunity arises, he’s trying to keep his feelings for you on the down low.

  1. He Keeps Himself and His Place Clean for You


If you’ve happened to notice that whenever you know you’ll be around him he seems to be clean shaved, freshly showered, and smells amazing, he’s into you. Another way to tell if a guy like you but is trying not to show it is if you’ve ever been to his house and it’s really, really clean and his room especially is extra tidy. Guys aren’t naturally really clean people. If he’s making an effort to be clean, he’s showing that he likes you by trying to impress you – even if he’s not saying he likes you.


  1. He Gives You Very Small, but Great Gifts


By small, I mean nothing that you would feel the need to repay in anyway. So no jewelry, clothes, or the likes. If he goes bring you your favorite smoothie, candy, or even a book he thinks you might like, then he likes you. He’s being subtle enough to make you think he’s just being a nice friend, but these actions from a guy means that he wants so much more from you. Gifts are not something that anyone really gives another person without having more than “just friends” feelings for them.

  1. He Calls Other Girls, “My Friend…”


If you two are having a conversation and he’s talking about other girls and mentions them by name and he almost always says, “my friend…,” before their name, he likes you but is trying to hide it. If he didn’t like you, there should be no reason for him clarifying that the girls he’s mentioning are just friends. He’s subtly pointing out the fact that he’s NOT interested in any of them. Meaning he’s got eyes for someone else. And I bet that would be you.

  1. He’s Always Looking at You


When you’re walking around a party, get together, or even at school and you somehow always seem to catch his eye, he’s been looking at you. When a guy spends that much of his time looking at you it’s because he likes you. Staring at someone from across the room is an age-old telltale sign that he likes you and is trying not to show it. Another key signal is if he immediately averts his gaze and pretends like he wasn’t looking. This for SURE means he likes you and really doesn’t want you to know.

  1. He Wards off His Friends


If you’re talking to him and he mentions that you should steer clear of any (or all) of his friends because of some reason or another, it’s his subtle way of keeping you off the market so he has a chance when he’s finally ready to show you that he likes you. He also might make you stay away from his friends because they know he likes you and he doesn’t want you knowing.

  1. He Almost Always Agrees with You

When someone agrees with almost everything you say it’s because they like you. If you’ve also noticed that you seem to get your way around him more or he says one thing and then says the opposite because you speak up, he likes you and is trying to hide it.

  1. He’s Wishy-Washy



People that are trying to hide their feelings sometimes don’t know they’re showing it. But as soon as he notices that he’s being too nice to you or making it apparent that he’s into you, he might pull back and actually be mean or withdrawn. So if you’ve noticed that a guy is being really wishy-washy with the way he talks to you and the way he treats you, it could be because he likes you but doesn’t want you to know.

  1. He Asks Intimate Details about You


By intimate details I’m talking about personal information on your family, hobbies, and  likes/dislikes. If someone just wants to be your friend they’re not concerned about finding out that information right away. If he likes you, he’s digging and finding it for himself.

When you want to know if a guy likes you but is trying not to show it, these 10 signs are a perfect place to start. Do you have any more signs that you’ve noticed before?


  1. Miranda

    August 12, 2017 at 2:58 am

    Hi, there is this guy in the same class as me, he asked me out, I asked him to give me time, he said ok, he called me later that night and we talked for hours but the very next day he acted like he didn’t know me. I ignored it but we still talked on phone and I asked him about it and he gave an excuse of not being really free with girl and so on. So he continued ignoring me in class and even the phone calls stopped. After sometime he asked to speak to me again and I agreed, I asked him about his real intention and he said he truly liked me and he called me again later that night but the very next day he went back to being the same old person, I decided not to talk about it anymore and I decided that he wasn’t serious. He promised to change but he didn’t and he talks to other girls in class. I am supposed to have forgotten about him but I started liking him. What am I to do

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 13, 2017 at 6:30 pm

      If the two of you have not spoken for a length of time, then your relationship may have ended. Give him time to himself. He is unable to treat you with the kindness and compassion needed to establish a strong relationship. Take this time to look inward and determine what you want with your future. Have a great day, Miranda!

  2. Sarah

    July 31, 2017 at 11:47 pm

    Hi, I don’t know if you still reply to comments – but I hope you do.
    There is this boy who I had known for 3 years and we weren’t particularly close or too far. We were just there. We sometimes talked but not too much. Though one year he got closer. We have these things called dances at our school and that I attend along with other people. We were at the dance then all of sudden he asked me to dance with him. Not gonna lie – he’s a good dancer.
    The rest of the dance was hectic. My friends kept asking my opinions on him and he just stayed near me the entire night.
    But after that dance he distanced away. Almost as if I had hurt his feelings. I don’t know what I did or what happened. But he stopped talking to me and acted as if he didn’t want anything to do with me.
    To be honest, I am a little upset that he’s acting this way towards me but I don’t know what to do.
    We had a end of the year party and after I left I sent him a text. “Btw, I like you”
    He responded around thirty minutes later with “I liked you too”. The past tense of the word like has been eating away at me. Does he not anymore?
    So now, we do what we used to do. Which was talk but not too much and not too deep. Recently we both had gone to a party together, though the whole time it felt like as if he was avoiding me. We still text, but I’m always the one to spark the conversation and his answers are decent. I’m so confused on what he thinks of me. One moment it looks like he really likes me but then the other is like he doesn’t even want anything to even do with me.
    Did I do something wrong?
    We are going with a couple of friends to the mall to hang out later on in the week, and I don’t know how to act around him. I actually really like him and wish he would just ask me out. What do I do and how should I do it?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 2, 2017 at 7:18 pm

      You should treat him as though you would treat a friend. There is no reason to act in a particular way around him. You should speak with him at some point. If you ask him how he is doing, then he at least knows that you will treat him as a friend. His reaction is his own. You should take this time to become closer to the friends that you have in your life. Have a great day, Sarah!

  3. lalrumpui

    July 30, 2017 at 10:09 am

    Hello admin…So here is this guy 5 yrs younger to me and my junior associate at work. During one of the assignment when we had to travel and stay together at a new place for work reasons…we started talking to each other….soon we started doing everything together from morning to evening…he use to take care of me a lot…and made me feel so comfortable at that new place…Now the project is over and we have returned to our regular place…Though I am engaged to someone else ….Slowly I have really become very fond of him. He never expresses his interest directly… for example few days back wen I was asking other ppl at work if someone is interested in joining swimming with me….so that we can go together and stay regular…no body was interested…later I saw him asking the same question to his friends in front of me…..wen I heard I asked him to join with me…..but he never swims in my part of pool…..on my birthday he gifted me my favourite chocolates and a bouquet of red roses in front of my fiance….but many a times he just wont reply to my messages….i have become dependent and habituated of him….i feel really horrible if m not able to spend time with him even for a single day…but i feel its not the same with him….he can survive without meeting me easily…many a times i feel ignored and cry and then all of sudden it seems he is into me…wen i came back from a trip from a very beautiful far away place with my fiance… he just send one msg…plz come soon…i miss you…i m very confused right now…and this is tearing me apart…do you think he is interested in me? he meets other girls to…help them take care of them…spend time with them …which makes me really jealous…

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 30, 2017 at 7:45 pm

      Because you said fiance so many times, I think it would be beneficial for you to think about your fiance. There is no reason for you to attempt to enter into a relationship with your coworker. You have a fiance. If you relationship fails because your fiance is disrespectful or you no longer want to be with him, then attempt to enter into a new relationship. Put your coworker out of your mind. Use your emotional energy on your fiance. Good day, Lalrumpui.

  4. Raina

    July 16, 2017 at 11:47 pm

    We were grouped together me, him and the other guy,he asked me questions to start the conversations. Firstly, i thought it was really nice to be grouped with him because he’s not like the other guys who I’ve been grouped with, and he’s more friendly than I thought. I started to like this guy when I accidentally bump into his shoulder and he asked me if im okay . I noticed he started to go near me but says nothing , and i froze everytime. There is this one time where I swept the floor and he came to me from across the room smiling and tease me that im a very hardworking person. My friends saw us and she told us she never see him smiling to anyone like that. But I denied and told her that he smiled to everyone like that . I dont want to put my expectation high cos it will hurt me later on. It was the last day we were grouped together ,he groan and told me that it was already fun.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 17, 2017 at 8:27 pm

      It is likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Attempt to spend additional time with him in person. This will help the two of you become closer. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Raina!

  5. Msmyn

    July 16, 2017 at 11:26 pm

    I started to like him when I bump into his shoulder and he asked me if im okay. But we’ve already talked to each other when we we were grouped together and he asked me question to start the conversation. He started to go near me and says nothing, i froze everytime. There is this one time when I sweep the floor and he came to me from across the room smiling and tease me. My friends saw us and they told me he never smiled to anyone like that and i denied it and tell he smile at everyone like that and one of my friend agreed.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 17, 2017 at 8:21 pm

      It sounds like the two of you are close friends. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If your friends talk about how the two of you are close to each other, then it is a good sign that he is interested in you as well. Spend additional time with him, as this will help the two of you grow closer. Have a great day, Msmyn!

  6. Lena

    July 15, 2017 at 12:25 am

    There’s this guy who last year I did he like him like him. But he flirted a little.

    I’ve noticed that he is a flirter with most girls.

    Well about a month ago he and I started talking about how our past relationships. Then he said he liked me and I said me too.

    Well yesterday we were in the same room alone and he wouldn’t talk to me, or hold hands and be here acted like he I was making him uncomfortable!

    So now I feel foolish am wondering if it was always all in my head. Did he change his mind. I also feel like stalker because I’m the only one that ever calls, but he still talks to me when I call

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 15, 2017 at 8:43 pm

      It is possible that he was too shy to speak with you. It is possible that he is not interested in developing a relationship with you at this time. Allow his actions to guide you. Allow him to fade from your life if you believe that he is not interested in spending time with you. This will help open new doors for new opportunities to come through. Have a great day, Lena!

  7. kiera

    July 13, 2017 at 1:46 am

    I have a crush on a guy. Last year he kept like teasing me, but this year he is like, distant. I feel like he likes my girl seatmate. What do i do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 13, 2017 at 8:16 pm

      It is possible that he once had feelings for you. It is possible that he still have feelings toward you. It may be likely that he is interested in your seatmate. If he is available and you want to develop a relationship with him, then reach out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. If he begins dating your seatmate, then continue to treat him with kindness and compassion. Have a great day, Kiera!

  8. Melissa

    July 10, 2017 at 11:03 pm

    I recently started working as a cashier at my new workplace. There are stock guys who work there and help you if you don’t know where an item goes. So there’s this one stock guy who I believe is flirting with me and jokes around as well. But two days passed and he starts acting distant. Maybe it’s the way I talk/flirt with him. HE seemed very uninterested but he was fine the other day. He also looks at me from across the store and im not if I did something to piss him or if he’s just interested. It’d mean a lot if you gave some advice, thank you

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 11, 2017 at 7:13 pm

      It is possible that he wants to develop a relationship with you. His change in attitude may have been caused by his confusion or uncertainty about your reaction. Since he is still looking at you, you are still on his mind. If you determine that you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he wants to develop a relationship with you, then spend additional time with him. Have a great day, Melissa!

  9. Ipsa

    July 7, 2017 at 8:04 pm

    There’s a guy whom I’ve known for over 1 yr. I’ve always felt that maybe he likes me but he he doesn’t wanna let me know! Its been one yr since he’s been my crush! But I’ve also never admitted to him that I like him..most of the signs uve mentioned here matches with him spcly the staring one and the wishy-washy part! Like totally!! Indirectly he has asked him several tyms if I like him n I’ve always denied cz I wanted him to make the first move.. We used to talk to each other a lot before but now he gets a bit quite whenever I enter the room(though earlier also he used to treat me in a different way than other girls).He gets nervous near me and tries to avoid eye contact but I’ve noticed him glancing at me from across the room several times!There’s another girl who likes him a lot and hates me😂 so when one day I called her his gf he got pissed off!! And told me to just stop telling such things.
    It has got really confusing cz he tells his frnds that he doesn’t likes me but tell them that I really like him😒😒😑 and on the other hand..I tell few of my frnz that I don’t really like him that way but I said that I feel he likes me..😅 our frnz get confused too!
    I just wanna know that if a guy really doesn’t likes u that way then why would he try to prove it that the girl likes him?? Or else is it the truth that he doesn’t likes me??

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 7, 2017 at 9:14 pm

      It is likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. It is likely that his other girl wants to develop a relationship with him. He may want to develop a relationship with her as well. If you want to try to nurture this relationship, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. He will then be able to share himself with you as well. Determine what you want with your future. Have a great day, Ipsa!

      • Ipsa

        July 8, 2017 at 12:52 am

        Yeah..u know he behaves in a similar way just as he behaves with other girls in class..but only to me his behavior is so damn different!! 😑😶
        I don’t understand..actually I’m really a bold n aggressive gal but in these matters I’m really shy!😅 n I have a damn fear of rejection too😓. N I really want him to confess his feelings for me if he has any! So can u plz gimme some tips??

        • Ipsa

          July 8, 2017 at 12:56 am

          *he behaves just the same way to that girl as he behaves with other girls! He always averts his gaze whenever I catch him looking at me! N smtyms after talking to me he jeeps on smiling without any reason and blushes..help me!

          • web admin

            web admin

            July 8, 2017 at 8:11 pm

            It is likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may be looking to develop a relationship with someone at this time. That is why it would be most beneficial if you spoke directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Ipsa!

        • web admin

          web admin

          July 8, 2017 at 8:10 pm

          Your best option is to walk directly up with him an be clear. You can also attempt to have him come over to you. Take this time to determine which course of action suits you best. If you find that you want to surprise him or perhaps try another fun way to grab his attention, then do so. It would be best for you to take charge and speak with him. Have a great day, Ipsa!

          • Ipsa

            July 9, 2017 at 10:46 am

            Thankuuu! For ur sweet advice! 😘😇😇

            • web admin

              web admin

              July 10, 2017 at 12:37 pm

              Thank you! Please feel free to share your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Ipsa!

  10. Emily

    July 1, 2017 at 3:46 am

    Hello. I hope you still reply for comments. This guy we are in the same class this year. He just knew me.He always tried to avoid me but flirts with other girls and talking with other girls isn’t a problem to him.We only talk when we needed to. One day at class (when I didn’t come in class yet), my friend jokingly wrote that (Mily is fat) at the whiteboard and suddenly when he walks in , he looks at the whiteboard and remove my name from the whiteboard. He also like to call my name. There’s a time when he called me but didn’t say anything and just smiles broadly.When I asked him to do me a favor he does it willingly. But what bothers me the most is that he ignores me most of the day and be sweet for some days.He sometimes teases me too. So how do I know if he’s just flirting and nothing else or what..That’s it..hope you can help thanks a lot.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 1, 2017 at 5:22 pm

      He may have strong feelings for you, but he may be too shy to share his feelings. It is possible that he is avoiding you and speaking with other girls because he is too embarrassed to speak with you. The best chance that you have of moving your relationship forward with him is reaching out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give him a chance to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Emily!

  11. Leegirl

    June 1, 2017 at 10:51 am

    Hello admin! It’s me again! Leegirl! I’ll tell you what happened when i chatted him! And it was a roller coaster ride for my feelings!

    So let’s start! I….. Actually wrong send him 😂😂😂 IT WAS A FREAKING MISTAKE MY HANDS ARE SHAKING AND BECOMING COLD OMGOSH! But of course, i didn’t regret it :>

    Hihihi he’s so friendly. And i smell something fishy with his “:>” i dunno why. I told him that the rubics that he fixed was thrown by me. 😂 And he was like “Why did you throw it? It’s not a waste :>” and me was like okay bruh watdahel 💕. And then i told him that i’ll go to my cousin’s house and he’ll tease me. 😂 He didn’t seen or reply and i was laughing like hell! 😂😂😂 HAHAHAHA OF COURSE IT’S AWKWARD I JUST WANT TO SEE HIS REACTION! 😂 He looked like he don’t want to talk to me anymore and looked like he was forced to talk to me😂 And then i talked about his bio about stars 😂✨ Hahahaha i was priceless for his reaction “Yeah. It’s cute and also pretty :> HAHAHAHA” 😂😍🙈🙊✨ i dunno why i blushed. I think because i thought that “stars” is me! 😂 WAHAHAHA! And i accidentally told him that the codename of my crush is Stars! I’m almost fcked up! I almost told him that it was him! But he didn’t care about the crushy thingy (yeah of course who am i) and said “Stargazing is relaxing, right? HAHAHAHAHA” I noticed that when we started the “stars” conversation he always laugh! 😂 And i asked him why he’s laughing. He said that “It’s happy to be happy, try it!” HAHAHAHA HE’S CRAZY LIKE ME! 😂 He loves math and me too 😂 But he didn’t like loooooooong solutions, while me i like it 😀 He jokely said “You’re my idol! HAHAHA” and also said that “Too much for tonight” D: He’ll sleep. He left me :/ Just kidding! And then afternoon the next day i chatted him by saying hello! 😄 And 1 hour passed and he replied. 😭 Thank God! 😭 And because of too much excitement, I told him again that i’ll go to my cousin’s house and he’ll tease me :/ HE DIDN’T LEAVE SEEN OR REPLY EVEN HE’S ONLINE AND IT’S A STUPID MISTAKE WAAAAAAH! HE SNOBBED ME! I’M VERY SHY SHY SHY WAAAAAAH! 😭 (After that i commited a mistake that i’ll suffer for 10 fcking months!) Hehehehe! Thank you by the waaaay for your advice! :> it helped me too much! 😄 Atleast i know some of his similarities to me hihihi (i don’t why, but that “stars” conversation it was like he’s pretending or what i dunno i kept thinking about it)

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 2, 2017 at 2:21 pm

      I hope that everything works out. If I understand your comment right, it sounds like he could like you. Just keep talking to him and see where things go. Good luck!

  12. Maria

    May 27, 2017 at 7:54 am

    So I have this good friend who I admitted to that I liked him in October or November. Things got kind of awkward for a while after I told him because he wasn’t interested in a relationship (understandable as we’re both super busy), but in March this year we were back to being friendly and texting a lot. We went to prom together and it was super fun, and it seemed like there was a romantic spark the whole time. We kept catching each other’s eyes and he would always walk with me either holding my hand or with his hand on my lower back sort of “guiding” me in that gentlemanly way. However, since even before prom, he doesn’t seem to want to talk to me in public places. When we’re alone or with just like one or two others he’s friendly and considerate and always offering to help me in small ways such as giving me a ride home. When we’re on big groups or at school, however, he tends to not talk to me or even make eye contact. A friend just asked him if he liked me and he said only as a friend, but I’ve been getting so many mixed signals I’m not sure if it’s really just as a friend or if he just doesn’t want a relationship right now? I’m graduating and taking a gap year (for work) and he’s finishing junior year, although we’re almost the same age, so I’m not sure if trying to keep this possibility of dating open would be a good idea or limit the possibility of others? I’m just all mixed up.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 28, 2017 at 10:45 am

      He may not know what he wants either. It sounds like it could go either way–he could like you, or he may just see you as a friend. He may have also never considered you as anything other than a friend before since you will be graduating and presumably leaving soon. At the moment, I would just stay friends with him and not push it for more. Whether he likes you or not, it does not seem like he wants to be anything other than friends, so I wouldn’t expect more right now. Good luck, Maria!

  13. Nj

    May 26, 2017 at 11:07 am

    I have a similar case but here this guy I like used to be my classmate in school and now we are in the same college out of coincidence. I once told him that I like him through text and then told that I won’t force him to like me and that we could remain as frnds if he doesn’t have those feelings. He took it in a sporty manner and told then we remained frnds as before and I kept some distance from him sometime so that I can get over him. But then on I noticed a change in his attitude ,he became really nice ,shy, sometimes energetic as if he likes me . I kept on ignoring that thinking it is my illusion but till know I don’t know what he is trying to convey. It is like he wants to show me that he likes me but don’t want to express it.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 28, 2017 at 9:31 am

      I am not sure if he likes you now. It sounds possible, but it seems like he should make a move if he does. He knows that you liked him before, so he could easily make a move without fear of rejection. If it were me, I would keep being friends with him and wait to see if he makes a move. Good luck, NJ!

  14. Jasmine Raine

    May 23, 2017 at 9:15 pm

    I’m a shy person and this guy said to his bestfriend that he’s annoyed by me,even if I don’t do anything wrong to him, when me and my friends go to his house he’s always hiding, but when we are in class he’s always staring at me and when he talked at me he’s like whispering, even if his voice are actually loud to anyone and when we ask him to join us travel he’s always telling us that he’s busy, and when we’ve got a group recitation he helped me to answer, even if he don’t do that to anyone.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 24, 2017 at 9:50 am

      It sounds like he doesn’t like you. While a guy may try to hide his feelings if he is interested, it sounds like he is going beyond just hiding his feelings. For some reason, he doesn’t like you. Maybe you remind him of someone he doesn’t like or maybe he just doesn’t want to be friends. Whatever the case, he is probably not interested in you. 🙁

  15. Macy

    May 22, 2017 at 8:44 pm

    So there’s this guy. He’s very shy and in my science class. All of my friends say they think he likes me but he said different. He comes up to me all the time and starts convos(which is big because he’s really shy). He stares at me tons in class (especially from across the room) Whenever I walk past his friends they look at me and nudge him to get his attention and smile and whisper things. He also teases me a lot,winks at me, and smiles. He told me that he catch feelings for his friends because the last person he dated was his bestfriend and it was a bad experience. That was the first girl he dated and it’s been a year in a half and he hasn’t been seeing anyone else. He also told me that he doesn’t want a relationship right now because he’s stressed with things going on in his life. He’s very shy and I don’t know if the reason why he said all of this is because he doesn’t want a relationship or not. Or he’s just scared of it. What do I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 23, 2017 at 12:12 pm

      It sounds like he is doing nearly all of the things you would expect from someone who has a crush, especially if that person is shy. He may be telling you about the stress in his life and the bad experience so that you know why he does not ask you out. It sounds like he likes you, but cannot date you right now because of those reasons. Until he gets over those two things, you may have to wait a while to be with him. Good luck, Macy!

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