10 Signs a Guy Likes You But is Trying Not to Show it

By on April 18, 2016






So, you want to find out if a guy likes you even though he might be hiding it? Well, you’ve come to the right place! For some reason, guys try not to show it when they like a girl. I think they think it makes them seem less manly, even though that’s not the case at all.

Guys can try all they want to hide the fact that they like us. But one thing that we know and they probably don’t is this: body language can tell you a lot more about a person’s feelings than they ever will.

Understanding a guy’s body language is the first step to determining if he likes you but is trying not to show it. Here are some subtle signs that he’s really into you even if he’s hiding it.

  1. He’s Always Around, but Just Out of Reach

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If he seems to show up just about everywhere you are – even if it’s just to run a quick errand – he likes you but might not want you to know. When a guy always finds a way to just SEE you, he likes you. But by keeping his distance he’s able to see you and get the joy out of it without letting you in on the fact that he might actually like you.

  1. He Seems to Know Everything About You

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If he remembers your birthday, the fact that you hate pineapple on your pizza, and that your favorite snack is chocolate covered raisins, then he definitely likes you. When a guy goes through that much trouble to remember all of those important things about you, he isn’t just looking at you as a friend. But since he’s keeping his knowledge subtle and only bringing it up when the opportunity arises, he’s trying to keep his feelings for you on the down low.

  1. He Keeps Himself and His Place Clean for You

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If you’ve happened to notice that whenever you know you’ll be around him he seems to be clean shaved, freshly showered, and smells amazing, he’s into you. Another way to tell if a guy like you but is trying not to show it is if you’ve ever been to his house and it’s really, really clean and his room especially is extra tidy. Guys aren’t naturally really clean people. If he’s making an effort to be clean, he’s showing that he likes you by trying to impress you – even if he’s not saying he likes you.

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  1. He Gives You Very Small, but Great Gifts

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By small, I mean nothing that you would feel the need to repay in anyway. So no jewelry, clothes, or the likes. If he goes bring you your favorite smoothie, candy, or even a book he thinks you might like, then he likes you. He’s being subtle enough to make you think he’s just being a nice friend, but these actions from a guy means that he wants so much more from you. Gifts are not something that anyone really gives another person without having more than “just friends” feelings for them.

  1. He Calls Other Girls, “My Friend…”

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If you two are having a conversation and he’s talking about other girls and mentions them by name and he almost always says, “my friend…,” before their name, he likes you but is trying to hide it. If he didn’t like you, there should be no reason for him clarifying that the girls he’s mentioning are just friends. He’s subtly pointing out the fact that he’s NOT interested in any of them. Meaning he’s got eyes for someone else. And I bet that would be you.

  1. He’s Always Looking at You

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When you’re walking around a party, get together, or even at school and you somehow always seem to catch his eye, he’s been looking at you. When a guy spends that much of his time looking at you it’s because he likes you. Staring at someone from across the room is an age-old telltale sign that he likes you and is trying not to show it. Another key signal is if he immediately averts his gaze and pretends like he wasn’t looking. This for SURE means he likes you and really doesn’t want you to know.

  1. He Wards off His Friends

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If you’re talking to him and he mentions that you should steer clear of any (or all) of his friends because of some reason or another, it’s his subtle way of keeping you off the market so he has a chance when he’s finally ready to show you that he likes you. He also might make you stay away from his friends because they know he likes you and he doesn’t want you knowing.

  1. He Almost Always Agrees with You

When someone agrees with almost everything you say it’s because they like you. If you’ve also noticed that you seem to get your way around him more or he says one thing and then says the opposite because you speak up, he likes you and is trying to hide it.

  1. He’s Wishy-Washy

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People that are trying to hide their feelings sometimes don’t know they’re showing it. But as soon as he notices that he’s being too nice to you or making it apparent that he’s into you, he might pull back and actually be mean or withdrawn. So if you’ve noticed that a guy is being really wishy-washy with the way he talks to you and the way he treats you, it could be because he likes you but doesn’t want you to know.

  1. He Asks Intimate Details about You

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By intimate details I’m talking about personal information on your family, hobbies, and  likes/dislikes. If someone just wants to be your friend they’re not concerned about finding out that information right away. If he likes you, he’s digging and finding it for himself.

When you want to know if a guy likes you but is trying not to show it, these 10 signs are a perfect place to start. Do you have any more signs that you’ve noticed before?





303 Comments

  1. Advice Please

    April 26, 2017 at 5:20 am

    OK I used to have a crush in the 11th grade. We never dated but we were friends. I got into a relationship during that time that lasted 12yrs. I was 29 when we separated. My crush contacted me via Facebook 5 months after I changed my relationship Status to single. He took me on a few dates, cooked for me, and wanted to see me a few times a week. I told him I really care for him but whenever I ask him how he feels about me he never gives me an answer. So I started to distance myself from him. I now see him every 2-3 weeks and he still texts me good morning EVERY DAY. No other texts unless we want to hook up. Now I dont spend the night. I leave because I feel bad if I stay. He says I can stay the night but when I say I have to go, he doesn’t ask me to stay…I want to let him go because I feel like he doesn’t want me but he is also making it hard for me to do by texting me everyday.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 26, 2017 at 12:49 pm

      He clearly is interested in developing a relationship with you. You can explain your entire thoughts and feelings with him at this time. Explain that you want to develop a relationship with him, but you do not simply want to hook up with him and have no deeper relationship. He allows you to leave at night because he does not want to try to control you. You are the one choosing to allow the relationship to be a sexual relationship without an emotional connection. Take this time to determine what you want. Have a great day, Advice!

  2. kalia

    April 25, 2017 at 9:56 am

    A guy really loves me and has confessd it too but I am too shy to say that I love him too but he knows well about my feelings but now he is trying to go away from me that is hurting me as well as him what should I do to bring him closer to me..,??

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 25, 2017 at 2:06 pm

      If you have not told him how you feel about him, then he does not know how you feel. He has shared his feelings with you and you have hidden your feelings from him. He is moving away from you because his feelings may be hurt or be may no longer have feelings for you. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts at feelings as soon as you are able to do so. Otherwise, you may have lost your chance. Good luck, Kalia!

  3. Julie

    April 21, 2017 at 1:01 pm

    There is this boy in my school(I’m in 8th grade) and he flirts with me a lot, I mean A LOT, a day never goes by without him flirting. But he also flirts with almost every single girl, but my friends say not as much as he does with me. With the others girls he’ll just talk to them for a few minutes, then look at me. He called me beautiful once and will question how my day is, and he will randomly embrace me in giant hugs and one time he even slipped his arm around my waist. Last year we talked on and off but this year he talks to me every day, he’ll give me advice when I’m in an uncomfortable situation, but when I don’t like when he holds me or touches me he’ll understand and back away. I think he likes me but every time my friends ask he just says no, only as a friend but he still continues to flirt. I don’t know if he’s trying to hide it but it makes me wonder sometimes. Hell brag about how he plays lacrosse and one time he even asked,” So Julie, do you like a man who plays lacrosse?”😂 He still flirts with me but when he isn’t I catch him looking at me, and then he looks away really fast, this is the first he’s done this.

    I’m just not sure if he actually means the things he doing or is stringing me along like the other girls, any advice or ideas?! Thanks!

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 21, 2017 at 2:52 pm

      If he is more attentive to you, then he may have stronger feelings for you than the others. He also may have a personality that seems flirtatious. He probably has an interest in developing a relationship with you. If you decide to try to move your relationship into a more serious situation, then explain to him that you do not want him flirting with other women. Have a great day, Julie!

  4. Julie

    April 20, 2017 at 12:44 pm

    There is this guy in my school that flirts with me a lot but he flirts with almost every other girl too, but my friends say he flirts with me a lot more than the others. I think of that too because with me he’ll call me beautiful or casually slip his arm around me or just randomly embrace me in a giant hug, but with the other girls he’ll just talk to them. Every time my friends ask if he likes me he says no which gets me bummed out but he still flirts with me. I think he likes me but I’m not sure if he’s just stringing me along like the other girls. Any thoughts or ideas?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 21, 2017 at 2:45 pm

      If he is more attentive to you, then he may have stronger feelings for you than the others. He also may have a personality that seems flirtatious. He probably has an interest in developing a relationship with you. If you decide to try to move your relationship into a more serious situation, then explain to him that you do not want him flirting with other women. Have a great day, Julie!

  5. Nicole

    April 12, 2017 at 5:29 am

    There’s this guy i share almost half of my lectures with(yeah I’m first year student), I think I like him, well-I always catch him eyes in my line of sight and he nver fails to look away whenever I catch him in the act!. I always see him EVERYWHERE I’am. Like literally!. Maybe it’s because I kinda unconsciously look for him? Well yeeah, my friend always tells me that he’s staring at me..and when I do look at him,he’Ll be staring for real; ).he always sits in the same roll as me! Like Always! But never ever sits next to me, even if it’s the last sit left in the roll he’did rather sit in the next roll or if there’s a sit next to me he asks his friend to sit next to me then he sits next to his friend and the staring begins^^. This other day I asked him to move and sit on the next chair, so that I could sit next to my friend- he refused and sounded mean!. Idk maybe he looks at me so much because I’m always laughing and making jokes with my friend?????

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 12, 2017 at 8:44 am

      I’m not sure. He is sending a lot of mixed messages, so you may have to wait a while to see what is going on in his mind. For the moment, his glances could just be because of you and your friend joking or it could be because he is interested. I would talk to him if you can, but otherwise just wait to see what he does next. Best of luck, Nicole!

  6. Bella

    April 9, 2017 at 7:59 am

    I am so confused about this guy that I met for my first time. I had an appointment with him on his office. He is an financial advisor. We spend one and half hour talking.
    First , he asked me tell him about myself. Then , he asked “what brought you in this country ” etc..
    I was unconfortable a while when he said ” what is your plan today after “, I was in my head, why he is asking that? I was king of looking at him and paying attention more about his gestures. We talked about business but also personal stuffs such as background . I am a bit confuse because I was thinking those questions were not professional. He also told me that he used to speak my language and he has forgotten everything , so he would love me to help him to learn it again. I replied that I will help. Although he asked if “we can travel together”. Then , he said to me ” are you planning to live in this proving for your whole life”. At the end , when I noticed that he was asking too many questions I am kind of liking him.
    After signing all the papers, he gave me his company’s information and he also gave me his personal cell phone number and said” help me please, text me in my cell phone”
    I am asking is it only about teaching the language or there is more than that?
    I texted him then we just talk about the language. This weekend I talked to him and I asked few questions about his family and hobbies and he also asked me the same after replying. I am kind of asking lot of questions, he is looking for friend or more than that. I was married before and I have a child. He never text me yet , I am the only one texting him since we met.
    I liked him but I am thinking to do not text him anymore until I see he is making effort to contact me.
    Thank you

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 9, 2017 at 10:11 am

      I don’t know what he is looking for. It sounds possible that he just wants a language exchange partner–and if things go well, he seems open to it being more than just a language exchange. If you like being around him and don’t mind helping him learn your language, go for it. The only way to find out for sure where this could go is to make a move and see what happens! Good luck, Bella!

      • Bella

        April 9, 2017 at 6:54 pm

        Ok. Thank you

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 10, 2017 at 8:02 am

          No problem! Let me know if you need anything else!

  7. Hillary

    March 30, 2017 at 9:32 pm

    I could relate to all of the signs. There’s this boy, and we went out last Year, but had an extremely bad break up. This year…things have changed. He’s changed as well. He’s a better person than he was last year. Well we kinda ended up liking each other again…but then he completely friend-zoned me. He says that he doesn’t want a relationship and he claims to not like me, but that’s not what his actions are saying. Three weeks ago we had a tennis tournament and on the bus I had fallen asleep. Behind my eyelids, I could see a bright light. Like if it was a phone in my face. Well turns out it was! my friend said that he kept turning back and shining his phone light on me to see if I was awake. He shone the light a lot on my face. Then during spring break, he would text me. He would ask about my snapchat. And one day. He sent me videos of him at his house. He was showing me where he lived and what his house looked like. It was odd but entertaining. When we got back, the was the week my grandfather had died six years ago. And I was really upset. I wasn’t going to come to school. He knew what happened. And he was doing everything he could to convince me to come to school. He would say things like, “you’re friends would be sad, I would be upset”.or “because I like you…(he would hesitate) as a friend”. Last week I didn’t have enough money in my lunch account to buy a bag of chips. He was next to me, and asked, “I could buy them for you”. I said, “no, please don’t. It’s fine”. But soon enough. He came from the lunch line with the bag of chips I couldn’t afford, he walked nervously up to my table, and gave them to me, with a smile. Ok…he didn’t have to do that. It was just a bag of chips, just an extra thing I wanted, I could’ve gone without it. And I told him sternly not to get them for me. So…yeah. weird. This week. On Monday before I left from school, he stopped me and told me, “I just wanted to say that you looked really beautiful today…(he said this fast) I’m not trying to start anything, I’m just saying…” Yesterday after we finished a test. They allowed us to sleep on the floor. So I did. He was next to me. The floor was really hard and I was really uncomfortable, but I was tired. His foot nudged my head. I looked up, he slid his foot underneath my head and told me to sleep. I slept on his foot 😂 it was actually very comfortable. I woke up and we still had time to talk. We ended up arguing about how I look. I kept telling him that I’m ugly. And he kept saying that I was “hot” and “beautiful”. He told me, “try convincing me that you’re ugly, but you won’t be able to because you’re very beautiful”. So I pointed out every flaw. From the bags under my eyes to my smile. He said in the most passionate voice, “I love your smile, there’s nothing wrong with it”. His tone of voice changed when he said the word “love”. But guess what….today he totally ignored me. Like I didn’t exist. However he still stares at me. And that’s the thing. He’s always looking at me. Like all the time. And he has that look…where his eyes soften and his face relax. His eyes are full of love when he looks at me. And he doesn’t look at anybody else the way he looks at me. It’s odd…idk do you think he likes me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 31, 2017 at 9:09 am

      It sounds like he definitely likes you. Other than just saying it, there are few ways that he could be more obvious about his feelings. Now, you just have to decide if you want to make the next move or if you want to wait for him to do it. You could always just ask him to hang out outside of school so that he has more opportunities to ask you out. Good luck, Hillary!

      • Hillary

        March 31, 2017 at 3:09 pm

        Why do you think he ignored me? It’s normal right? Also the sign that a guy could withdraw or be mean when they figure out that they are making it obvious. That’s exactly what is happening to me. What do I do about that?

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 1, 2017 at 7:56 am

          He probably just wasn’t sure what to say or felt a bit shy. He may also be withdrawn because he is not sure how you feel and is starting to lose hope. Make a move and let him know how you feel. At the very least, give him some sign or hint that you like him just as much as he likes you. Good luck, Hillary!

  8. Kimi

    March 30, 2017 at 4:41 pm

    I’m in high school. There’s this man I like.. huge age difference but no more than 7 years.
    I really like him and he shows signs of liking meas well , like he’d expect hugs from me . Always seems overly clean and listens to whenever I recommend a certain dress code for him on a certain day. He also loves talking about himself if not joking around about me. plus he knows whenever he sees me approaching him to get up and tend to me. He always seems to pay closer attention to me during his period. and he refuses to give his number out to just anyone but gave his number to me with ease. he also has a habit of not replying to others(Like most said who msged him) but always seems to reply when he knows I’m chatting to him. plus he has this weird cute nicknames for me. lol. he refuses to get a girlfriend and gets annoyed when i suggest finding a girl for him, though doesnt seem to mind when i joke about stealing his heart myself. Could that be possible signs that he likes me or is it just like normal friendship stuff. ?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 31, 2017 at 9:02 am

      It sounds like he could like you. The age difference is a concern. Until you have turned 18, making a move could get him into legal trouble. Plus, waiting will give you extra time to get to know him better and reach a similar life situation as him. It may not be easy to wait, but waiting will mean that your relationship has a better chance of working out in the future. Good luck, Kimi!

  9. Nicole

    March 29, 2017 at 8:09 pm

    There’s the boy at my school that I’ve had a crush on. I asked him out almost a year ago now and he said he only wants to be friends. Well now at lunch he looks at me and whenever I look at him and catch him looking at me he immediately looks away. He jokes around with me and his friends kinda make fun of me too but I’m friends with his friends, well the group that he sits with at lunch. One time, I went over and sat beside him for a few minutes to talk to him and he looked at me a few times. Whenever I pass him in the halls he looks at me and notices I’m looking at him so he quickly looks away or sometimes when his friends are walking with him in the halls, he looks at me then looks at his friend. I’m getting mixed emotions. I’ve got told he thinks I’m obsessed but we haven’t really talked for a while now. He just recently started ignoring my texts but he talks to me at school. He acts immature at times. His friends tell me that he doesn’t like me but he’s showing signs like he does like me but just doesn’t want me to know yet. Idk, I’m thinking it’s his friends holding him back from dating me. But I could be wrong, maybe he’s just waiting for a certain time?!? It’s driving me crazy though. One time he seen I was upset and he asked if I was okay and I said “not really” he didn’t really say anything after that. My friends all say “you two would look so cute together” then I just say “I know but mixed emotions”. Then whenever he’s around I’m just like “shh he’s right there”. Then we just change the subject until he’s gone. He also hugs different girls in front of me at lunch. 😂 Any help?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 30, 2017 at 10:03 am

      If his friends that he does not like you and other people are saying he thinks that you are obsessed with him, then he is probably not interested. He may be hugging the girls because they are his friends or because he likes them. While it is not easy to realize this, it seems like he does not like you as anything more than a friend or an acquaintance. Moving on is not easy, but you can do it!

      • Nicole

        March 30, 2017 at 2:23 pm

        He does show signs like he likes me though, he acts like he likes me, I just think he doesn’t want his friends knowing, his hand touched my hand today.

        • web admin

          web admin

          March 31, 2017 at 8:29 am

          It is possible, I suppose, but I still would not assume that he is interested. His other behavior makes it seem like he is not interested in you. Even if he just doesn’t want his friends to know, that doesn’t bode well for the future—if a guy can’t introduce you to his friends, then the relationship probably won’t last. You can still hope, but you may also want to just consider moving on.

          • Nicole

            March 31, 2017 at 9:22 am

            Okay, thanks.

            • web admin

              web admin

              March 31, 2017 at 9:25 am

              No problem–let me know if you have any other questions!

  10. Caitlin

    March 29, 2017 at 7:57 am

    There’s this guy at my school (im In year 6) and he likes me and i know without him telling me. He was looking at a picture of me on a wall yesterday and he was drooling. whenever I look to see if he’s around he always us and when he sees me he runs away. I told him I’d go to the school disco with him to stop it ruining my life. I don’t like him. My friends are bring wierd and chasing him with skipping ropes.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 29, 2017 at 10:41 am

      If you don’t like him, then don’t go to the disco with him. Tell him that you were not sure what to say, so you told him yes, but you don’t really feel that way about him. Try to let him down easy. He seems to really, really like you, so you don’t want to hurt his feelings too much–just be clear about how you feel so that he doesn’t get led on.

  11. Anna

    March 27, 2017 at 7:54 pm

    Well, there’s this guy that works at a store he doesn’t go to my school or anything (I’m in 9th grade) that I kinda like but I don’t really know his name or if I like him because I’ve never had feelings for boys and I don’t know what that feels like. I always catch him staring at me and one time nobody was there to bag groceries so since I usually do it I did it and then he literally half ran half jogged over there and said “oh, you don’t have to do that” and I’m a lil shy so I kinda just smiled and moved out of the way. When he was almost done, we both looked up at the same time and looked into each other’s eyes for like 10 seconds but it felt like a minute or two. Then he looked away real quick and finished bagging groceries. That Sunday(the day all that happened was Friday), he made sure to come to our register but he only glanced at me a couple times and after he was done he was done. Recently when I was in there one of his coworkers(a girl) was asking him about some sale and he was barely paying attention to her and kept looking at me. And I’m pretty sure some of those coworkers know that he likes me bc they look at me sometimes more than usual and he has some guy friends and they look at me a lot whenever they’re with him and when there not. Please help me figure this stuff out!! Thanks for taking time out of your day to read this!!!

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 28, 2017 at 9:23 am

      It sounds like he could like you. Nothing is for certain yet, of course, but it certainly sounds like he has at least started becoming attracted to you. Now, you just have to decide what you are going to do next. Since you haven’t been introduced to him or even talked to him yet, that should be your first step. Next time you see him at work, introduce yourself, ask how is day is going and get to know him. If you can’t think of anything to say, you can always ask him how long he has worked there and which school he goes to. Hopefully, he will use this conversation as a chance to get to know you better and flirt with you. It sounds like he could be shy though, so be prepared for it to take a while for him to make a move. Good luck, Anna!

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