How to Find Out if a Guy Likes You Without Asking Him

By on November 1, 2015






Sometimes it can be hard sitting there wondering if a guy is interested in you or not. Of course, you don’t want to embarrass yourself and flat out ask him in case the answer is no, and asking his friends would just be weird. What’s a girl to do? These are the top 15 signs on how to find out if a guy likes you WITHOUT asking him!

3869596238c557838584fa82578c9a2e1. You Catch Him Looking Your Way Often
It’s true for both men AND women: when you like something, you want to look at it! If you notice that every time you look at this guy he’s either looking back or turning his head away real quick, it could definitely be a sign that he’s interested. (Or there’s something on your face; always make sure that handy compact mirror is in your purse pocket, ladies!)

2. He’s In Your Inbox a Lot
When you like someone, you want to talk to them constantly. Of course, you can’t let THEM know that, but you’ll still find yourself sending them random text messages or chatting with them when they come on Facebook. If this guy seems to text you at random times- even when he’s out with his buddies for the night or at work- then you can definitely take it as a sign he’s interested.

3. He Chooses You Over His Buddies
Now, this is a big one. A man doesn’t want to miss out on his precious time with the guys- he could miss out on beers, nonsense joking and horsing around, AND the game winning three pointer! So if he decides to pick you over his buddies, he likes you. It’s as simple as that. If he’s not at the point of asking you out to do things yet, if he even bothers to text you or message you while he’s with the fellas, he certainly likes you. He won’t even mind getting grief from his guy pals for messaging a lady all night!

4. He Invites You to Events
This is a rather obvious sign, but if he’s inviting you to events, then he’s obviously got a crush on you. He may try to be coy about it: “Oh, a few friends are going to this concert and I know you LOVE that band. Maybe you should come?” or he could be very obvious: “Wanna see a movie Friday night?” Both are good, GOOD signs of a crush!

5. He’s Interested in the Small Things About You
If he doesn’t have a crush on you, chances are he isn’t going to care what your favorite candy bar is or how many times you fell off your bike as a child. If he’s trying to find out the minor details about you, then he cares about you and wants to know you on a deeper level.

671683439598cfe77b303c0f47dfe6386. Remembers the Details
And, of course, it’s not so much that he asked about the small things, but he actually cares enough to remember. Anyone can ask you random details about your life, but remembering them is another story. THAT is a huge sign.

7. He’s Extra Sweet and Complimentary
Some guys are naturally just schmoozers and flirt with anything they see, so this one CAN be a little confusing. You need to pay extra close attention to how he interacts with other females. If he uses more in depth compliments with you or tends to treat you a little sweeter than the rest, it could be a sign he’s interested- but his flirty ways aren’t going to stop until the two of you are committed.

8. Goes Out of His Way Just for You
Remember when you said you left your book in science class and he went ALL the way to the BACK of the school to get it? Remember when he decided to make sure he grabbed you an extra cupcake from the staff room before they were all gone? If he goes out of his way JUST for you- big or small- it’s a sign he’s interested.

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9. He Sends Random Gifts
He heard you loved those caramel chocolate candy bars, so he decided to surprise you with one on your desk. It may seem silly, but these little gifts show a lot. It shows that he pays attention to what you like and wants to make you feel special by showing you he cares with random gifts.

10. He Gets Jealous
No, the two of you aren’t together. However, you can’t help but notice he gets a little jealous when he sees you chatting it up with another guy. He probably won’t come out and say he’s jealous, but there’s a lot of clues. Maybe he acts a little distant or asks you if you’re interested in that guy, or maybe he just has a glum look on his face. Trust me- you can tell when a man is jealous!

6612abb59d129e40eaf8ef5f43e2e44c11. He Playfully Touches You
This goes hand in hand with being sweet and complimentary. Think about it: does he do the notorious flirty arm touches when he talks to you? Does he love to give you a great big hug every chance he gets? Flirty touching is a sign he wants to get close to you- which means he may have a HUGE crush.

12. Treats You Differently Than the Rest of the Group
So, you notice he’s got a sweet spot for you, huh? (And everyone else probably notices it too). He seems to always give you extra attention and treat you better than the rest. If you’re the odd one out- in a good way- then he’s definitely trying to show you that he cares for you more than just a friend.

13. He Lets You Borrow His Things
He’ll let you borrow his favorite NFL jacket when you’re cold. He doesn’t mind lending you that cool video game for the weekend. Basically, he doesn’t see it as a hassle when you ask to borrow something. In fact, he enjoys you asking; that means you get to have a little piece of HIM for awhile.

14. He Sometimes Teases You a Bit
Yes, it’s SO elementary. But guys tease girls when they’re interested. It’s as simple as that.

15. He Only Has Eyes for You
When the two of you are talking, it’s like you’re the only girl in the world. Angelina Jolie could walk past and he wouldn’t even take a glimpse in her direction. If he only has eyes for you, he likes you.

True or not? Are these definite signs a guy likes you? Tell us!





66 Comments

  1. Zoe

    March 5, 2017 at 2:11 pm

    Hey! So, there is this boy at my school that I have a crush on, I’ve never spoken to him, but every time I go to a a class or a spot at school and he is there he looks at me. I don’t actually know what does that mean. Can you help me? Does he have a crush on me or something?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 6, 2017 at 9:23 am

      It is possible that he likes you. The looks could just be random and unintentional, or they could be because he is interested. Until he does more of the signs of showing interest, you can’t really assume one way or another. If you have a chance to talk to him, do it. You will be better able to gauge his mannerisms in person to see if he is interested in you. Good luck, Zoe!

  2. Saeko

    February 23, 2017 at 10:04 am

    Hello!! I’m really hoping you can help me out.
    I’ve been apart of a language learning app and I became friends with a boy from Japan. All of my friends who have read our messages say that he likes me. He messages me everyday. Simple texts like good morning or goodnight. He always uses smiley faced emojis, he says I’m cute, my eyes are beautiful, he said that he wants to come to Canada to see and and go see the northern lights with me.
    My friends say that all these signs point to him liking me. What do you think? And if you think he does like me, should I ask him?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 23, 2017 at 12:19 pm

      He likes you. You should speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give him the chance to openly share his thoughts and feelings as well. You will want to try to meet him in the future. This will help maintain the strength of your relationship. Have a great day, Saeko!

  3. Palav

    February 10, 2017 at 11:45 am

    There is a boy in my school and is in the same class as mine. We are friends since we were 4 years. He teases me,considers me,but does not tell me whether he likes me or not. What shall I do? Pls help me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 11, 2017 at 9:19 am

      He may want to be friends with you or he may want to try to become closer to you. Try to speak with him about your ideas and thoughts. Learn more about him as well. If you are able to, then try to spend time with him outside of school. Perhaps go on a nature walk or out to a meal. Have a great day, Palav!

  4. Montserrat

    February 7, 2017 at 2:47 pm

    Okay so when I asked him if he was interested by any chance he told me that at the moment he doesn’t like anyone, but like when he told me I didn’t feel as sad, he told me the nicest way possible and was so polite about it. I though to myself that maybe this is a sign that we’ll be better off as friends because he’s one of the 3 people (friends) that I can actually trust and feel comfortable with. A week later passed by and taylor invited me over for another group hang out lol the guys were all wrestling and we would just watch them, but what he did was picked me up from the couch, set me on the floor and started to tickle me. He knows all my most ticklish spots so he uses that against me. He then would pick me up and start twirling me around. I told him that I can beat him in wrestling, so I gave it a try…..I failed big time!! Every time he would bring me to the floor he would start to tickle me after. He then was on top of me and we looked at each other for so long until one of the dogs came and started to lick my face lol, this just kept going on and on. When he was about to leave he gave me a hug and omgggg he gives great hugs, like his muscles are just like woahhh and they weren’t one of those hugs that are full you know, like they were tight. Later that day we were texting each other and my cousin send me a text and told me she had something to tell me, (this was at 12:00) she said she would tell me in the morning instead because she was tired. This made me so anxious to find out lol once the morning came she told me that she was talking to him, she randomly brought me up and asked him if he liked me by any chance. He changed the subject, she tried again and he changed the subject…once again… so that’s when she was like “I guess that means you don’t like her that way” and he responded and said “Well, I never said I didn’t’” the week after that we hung out again at my friends house (so another group hang out) this one was probably one of the funnest ones. We made a bet that I could beat him in wrestling, he would give me $5 and I would give him $1 lol so we tried that out and instead he picked me up and spun me around, set me on the floor and starts to tickle me. The whole night we were just talking and laughing. Every time he would always sit by me, so if I was sitting on the floor watching the others wrestle and he was on the couch he would get up and sit by me. He would also always push me while I was sitting down so I would always keep falling. The next day him, my cousin, another guy and I went bowling, it was like a guys vs girls thing. Whenever it was my turn and I was done he would always give me a high five, but it was more like grab, like he would hold onto my hand, but not for too long. He would only do that to me though, not to my cousin and we weren’t even on the same team! We were rivals! After bowling we all went to Pizza Hut and ate there. My other friend had to leave early so it was only us 3 left. She would try to get up and leave us alone for as long as possible but she also didn’t want to make it seem like he might know what she’s doing. We were all just laughing and talking non stop. After that we all went home and I stayed at my cousins house for a bit, she was telling me how she loved how confident I was with him and that she thinks he might be changing his mind on how he feels about me not only because of everything that happened but because they way he was looking at me and talking to me. She said that at first she couldn’t really wrap her head around it so she wasn’t so sure, but now she has a totally different feeling. She also said that I should keep doing what I’m doing because the other girls that have had crushes on him were either obsessed, barely even talk to them or really shy. Then one of his friends texted me and asked if I liked him, like out of nowhere that’s how he sent me the text. I told him that I did and I asked him how he knew and he said because on Friday all we were doing was laughing and talking so much and having a lot of fun so he kind of got a clue. I told him everything that happened and he was like “You know, he might actually like you back” and I was like “but doesn’t he hang out with a lot of girls also?” And he told me not at all. Then that’s when my crush asked him what he was doing and his friend responded with texting me. Right away he sent me a message saying this “you were texting (his friends name which I’m not going to say) all day???????” I wasn’t sure if he was mad or something so I just got really confused. I was going to try and ask him something like this “I want to know if I stand a chance of you liking me back” I don’t want to ask him just yet because last time I asked him if he was interested was 3 weeks ago and I think it might be a little too soon. But I think I should either way because after what my cousin told him (“I guess you don’t like her that way then”) and he said “well I never said I didn’t ” a week after I asked him if he was interested he could have changed his mind. I just don’t know when I should

  5. Pacie

    February 1, 2017 at 4:33 pm

    I Wana date him plz tell me what to do

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 2, 2017 at 1:53 pm

      Determine who you are interested in dating. Spend time with that person and share your thoughts and feelings. Try to spend additional time outside of school to get to know them better. Spend time together in private. Enjoy, Pacie!

  6. Pacie

    February 1, 2017 at 4:29 pm

    There’s this boy at school that I like and his name is Jacob well he is always nice to me and when I did a solo he cheered me on he always play touches me and he teased me he was my first crush

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 2, 2017 at 1:51 pm

      Thank you for sharing your experiences. It is clear that Jacob is interested in you. Try to spend more time with him. Talk with him about your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps try to take a walk with him outside of school or go with him to a meal. There are many options for you to take. Best of luck, Pacie!

  7. Montserrat

    January 19, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    Okay so there’s this guy at my school, I feel so comfortable around him and I know I can be myself. Its hard for me to feel that way because I can’t really trust people because of things that have happened to me in the past, but with him its different. At first I just wanted to see him as a friend because if I told him I liked him I didn’t want him not to talk to me anymore. One day we were talking and he asked me who I liked, I didn’t tell him it was him, I just asked him why he wanted to know, he kept insisting that I should tell him. I kept avoiding the question, until he asked me if it was him.I immediately said no (I panicked lol) and i asked him why he would think that and he said because I was acting suspicious. He went on and asked me who I liked again, he was so determined to the question that he wanted to know. I ignored it and told him to tell me who he liked he asked me why I wanted to know and he just wouldn’t tell me. He then kind of stuttered and said he doesn’t know, that he doesn’t like anyone. We hung out a lot over break, just not the two of us, it was more of group hang outs. He’s always teasing me so much to begin with and gives me advice. For example when I talked to him about something personal that I have never told anyone, not even my cousin. Since he went through the same stuff he was able to understand. Then I later on told him that the reason I’m so quiet with other people is that I don’t trust them and don’t feel so comfortable around them.(Except for him) I told him that people on the past took advantage of me and I just hope he doesn’t do the same. He said “Why would I?” I told him “You never know” he told me “I would have no reason to” and asked him if he promised and he said that he promises he will never take advantage of me. Days passed by and he asked my cousin if I liked him, she responded with no even though she knows I do. She didn’t want to say anything because she didn’t know if I wanted him to know or not. She then told me that I should tell him the truth on how I felt about him and she was totally right. I told her everything that he would tell me, she told me that some of the things he was saying was his way of flirting with me. I had the confidence to tell him that I liked him, I surprisingly didn’t feel nervous or uncomfortable when I told him (only after a few hours passed by lol) he didn’t respond to that in a negative way and didn’t tell me that he wasn’t interested either, which was great! The next day a friend invited me over and he was there so was her crush (he told her that I liked him) nothing changed, he was still acting the way he was towards me, maybe just a little bit better. The next day after that she invited me again and once again he was there and so was her crush. All of us were just talking, he kept showing me a video of him bowling, he did this like trick which was hilarious, the funny part was that when he did that he didn’t make any in, but he’s actually really really good at bowling. Later in the day he was playing Call of Duty and I kept telling him that he sucked, he started to tickle me and told me that he could be me in this. I denied it and we played against each other, he would go off easy on me, but then would go hardcore and back to easy again when he saw that I was loosing lol (This happened this week) I actually planned to ask him tomorrow if I’m wasting my time on him, I would tell him something like this “Hey look I was confident to tell you how I felt about you and I’d rather get straight to the point, I want to know if I’m wasting my time. It wouldn’t make sense for me to keep this going if you aren’t or won’t be even a little bit interested” I’m not sure if I’m missing some stuff or if I should add some stuff/change it. Any advice on how I should ask him and what you think of this whole thing?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 20, 2017 at 9:54 am

      He likes you. There is no doubt about it. He has strong feelings that you like him back. However, if you continue to lie to him and have our cousin lie to him, then he will stop liking you. It is never good to lie. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Don’t beat around the bush or speak half-truths. Best of luck, Montserrat!

      • Montserrat

        January 21, 2017 at 5:17 am

        Hi It’s me again, I was having trouble and knowing which one to say, do you think you can help me out please? 🙂
        1. “Hey look I was confident to tell you how I felt about you and I’d rather get straight to the point, I want to know if I’m waisting my time. It wouldn’t make sense for me to keep this going if you aren’t or won’t be even a tiny bit interested”
        Or
        2. “Hey look, I was confident enough to tell you how I felt about you. I’m just going to get straight to the point, I want to know if you feel the same or should I like move on?”
        What I wanted to ask him was if I was wasting my time (you know, liking him) but I don’t know if any of these two are good. Do you think you can help me make one on what to say please?

        • web admin

          web admin

          January 22, 2017 at 2:15 pm

          I think both of those options sound like good things to say to him. If he is interested in you, it will not matter what you say because he will be more than happy to have you tell him about your feelings. The question is: are you ready to take that risk? You’ll never know if he will like you back or not unless you make a move and find out, so I would go for it. There is no real way to make this type of thing sound good, so just do what feels natural. Good luck, Montserrat!

          • Montserrat

            January 23, 2017 at 3:11 pm

            Okay so I asked him and he told me at the moment he doesn’t want to date anyone. He felt super bad letting me down though, the good thing for me is that he told me in the nicest way possible, told me the truth, and I didn’t feel sad about it! I was relieved. Either way I think if he was interested I wouldn’t have wanted anything with him because he’s such a great friend that I don’t want to ruin that. He’s one of the few people that came into my life that I feel comfortable with and are actually there for me. I feel that we could be really close friends, maybe even best friends. I just don’t know how exactly, I’m kind of scared too, last time I had best friends they all backstabed me. How can I?

            • web admin

              web admin

              January 24, 2017 at 8:05 am

              You can’t live your life worried that everyone will betray you–it would be a very lonely life. All you can do is try to surround yourself with the people who genuinely care for you and hope for the best. It sounds like he could become a great friend for you, so keep the relationship going! Good luck, Montserrat!

              • Montserrat

                February 6, 2017 at 3:09 pm

                Okay so when I asked him if he was interested by any chance he told me that at the moment he doesn’t like anyone, but like when he told me I didn’t feel as sad, he told me the nicest way possible and was so polite about it. I though to myself that maybe this is a sign that we’ll be better off as friends because he’s one of the 3 people (friends) that I can actually trust and feel comfortable with. A week later passed by and taylor invited me over for another group hang out lol the guys were all wrestling and we would just watch them, but what he did was picked me up from the couch, set me on the floor and started to tickle me. He knows all my most ticklish spots so he uses that against me. He then would pick me up and start twirling me around. I told him that I can beat him in wrestling, so I gave it a try…..I failed big time!! Every time he would bring me to the floor he would start to tickle me after. He then was on top of me and we looked at each other for so long until one of the dogs came and started to lick my face lol, this just kept going on and on. When he was about to leave he gave me a hug and omgggg he gives great hugs, like his muscles are just like woahhh and they weren’t one of those hugs that are full you know, like they were tight. Later that day we were texting each other and my cousin send me a text and told me she had something to tell me, (this was at 12:00) she said she would tell me in the morning instead because she was tired. This made me so anxious to find out lol once the morning came she told me that she was talking to him, she randomly brought me up and asked him if he liked me by any chance. He changed the subject, she tried again and he changed the subject…once again… so that’s when she was like “I guess that means you don’t like her that way” and he responded and said “Well, I never said I didn’t'” the week after that we hung out again at my friends house (so another group hang out) this one was probably one of the funnest ones. We made a bet that I could beat him in wrestling, he would give me $5 and I would give him $1 lol so we tried that out and instead he picked me up and spun me around, set me on the floor and starts to tickle me. The whole night we were just talking and laughing. Every time he would always sit by me, so if I was sitting on the floor watching the others wrestle and he was on the couch he would get up and sit by me. He would also always push me while I was sitting down so I would always keep falling. The next day him, my cousin, another guy and I went bowling, it was like a guys vs girls thing. Whenever it was my turn and I was done he would always give me a high five, but it was more like grab, like he would hold onto my hand, but not for too long. He would only do that to me though, not to my cousin and we weren’t even on the same team! We were rivals! After bowling we all went to Pizza Hut and ate there. My other friend had to leave early so it was only us 3 left. She would try to get up and leave us alone for as long as possible but she also didn’t want to make it seem like he might know what she’s doing. We were all just laughing and talking non stop. After that we all went home and I stayed at my cousins house for a bit, she was telling me how she loved how confident I was with him and that she thinks he might be changing his mind on how he feels about me not only because of everything that happened but because they way he was looking at me and talking to me. She said that at first she couldn’t really wrap her head around it so she wasn’t so sure, but now she has a totally different feeling. She also said that I should keep doing what I’m doing because the other girls that have had crushes on him were either obsessed, barely even talk to them or really shy. Then one of his friends texted me and asked if I liked him, like out of nowhere that’s how he sent me the text. I told him that I did and I asked him how he knew and he said because on Friday all we were doing was laughing and talking so much and having a lot of fun so he kind of got a clue. I told him everything that happened and he was like “You know, he might actually like you back” and I was like “but doesn’t he hang out with a lot of girls also?” And he told me not at all. Then that’s when my crush asked him what he was doing and his friend responded with texting me. Right away he sent me a message saying this “you were texting (his friends name which I’m not going to say) all day???????” I wasn’t sure if he was mad or something so I just got really confused. I was going to try and ask him something like this “I want to know if I stand a chance of you liking me back” I don’t want to ask him just yet because last time I asked him if he was interested was 3 weeks ago and I think it might be a little too soon. But I think I should either way because after what my cousin told him (“I guess you don’t like her that way then”) and he said “well I never said I didn’t ” a week after I asked him if he was interested he could have changed his mind. I just don’t know when I should

            • Pacie

              February 1, 2017 at 4:31 pm

              Wow a boy named drew said that he doesn’t date at the moment too

              • web admin

                web admin

                February 2, 2017 at 1:52 pm

                Some people are not interested or unable to date. Everyone has a reason for their actions. It is always best to trust people’s words and needs. Have a great day, Pacie!

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