How to Find Out if a Guy Likes You Without Asking Him

By on November 1, 2015

Sometimes it can be hard sitting there wondering if a guy is interested in you or not. Of course, you don’t want to embarrass yourself and flat out ask him in case the answer is no, and asking his friends would just be weird. What’s a girl to do? These are the top 15 signs on how to find out if a guy likes you WITHOUT asking him!

3869596238c557838584fa82578c9a2e1. You Catch Him Looking Your Way Often
It’s true for both men AND women: when you like something, you want to look at it! If you notice that every time you look at this guy he’s either looking back or turning his head away real quick, it could definitely be a sign that he’s interested. (Or there’s something on your face; always make sure that handy compact mirror is in your purse pocket, ladies!)

2. He’s In Your Inbox a Lot
When you like someone, you want to talk to them constantly. Of course, you can’t let THEM know that, but you’ll still find yourself sending them random text messages or chatting with them when they come on Facebook. If this guy seems to text you at random times- even when he’s out with his buddies for the night or at work- then you can definitely take it as a sign he’s interested.

3. He Chooses You Over His Buddies
Now, this is a big one. A man doesn’t want to miss out on his precious time with the guys- he could miss out on beers, nonsense joking and horsing around, AND the game winning three pointer! So if he decides to pick you over his buddies, he likes you. It’s as simple as that. If he’s not at the point of asking you out to do things yet, if he even bothers to text you or message you while he’s with the fellas, he certainly likes you. He won’t even mind getting grief from his guy pals for messaging a lady all night!

4. He Invites You to Events
This is a rather obvious sign, but if he’s inviting you to events, then he’s obviously got a crush on you. He may try to be coy about it: “Oh, a few friends are going to this concert and I know you LOVE that band. Maybe you should come?” or he could be very obvious: “Wanna see a movie Friday night?” Both are good, GOOD signs of a crush!

5. He’s Interested in the Small Things About You
If he doesn’t have a crush on you, chances are he isn’t going to care what your favorite candy bar is or how many times you fell off your bike as a child. If he’s trying to find out the minor details about you, then he cares about you and wants to know you on a deeper level.

671683439598cfe77b303c0f47dfe6386. Remembers the Details
And, of course, it’s not so much that he asked about the small things, but he actually cares enough to remember. Anyone can ask you random details about your life, but remembering them is another story. THAT is a huge sign.

7. He’s Extra Sweet and Complimentary
Some guys are naturally just schmoozers and flirt with anything they see, so this one CAN be a little confusing. You need to pay extra close attention to how he interacts with other females. If he uses more in depth compliments with you or tends to treat you a little sweeter than the rest, it could be a sign he’s interested- but his flirty ways aren’t going to stop until the two of you are committed.

8. Goes Out of His Way Just for You
Remember when you said you left your book in science class and he went ALL the way to the BACK of the school to get it? Remember when he decided to make sure he grabbed you an extra cupcake from the staff room before they were all gone? If he goes out of his way JUST for you- big or small- it’s a sign he’s interested.


9. He Sends Random Gifts
He heard you loved those caramel chocolate candy bars, so he decided to surprise you with one on your desk. It may seem silly, but these little gifts show a lot. It shows that he pays attention to what you like and wants to make you feel special by showing you he cares with random gifts.

10. He Gets Jealous
No, the two of you aren’t together. However, you can’t help but notice he gets a little jealous when he sees you chatting it up with another guy. He probably won’t come out and say he’s jealous, but there’s a lot of clues. Maybe he acts a little distant or asks you if you’re interested in that guy, or maybe he just has a glum look on his face. Trust me- you can tell when a man is jealous!

6612abb59d129e40eaf8ef5f43e2e44c11. He Playfully Touches You
This goes hand in hand with being sweet and complimentary. Think about it: does he do the notorious flirty arm touches when he talks to you? Does he love to give you a great big hug every chance he gets? Flirty touching is a sign he wants to get close to you- which means he may have a HUGE crush.

12. Treats You Differently Than the Rest of the Group
So, you notice he’s got a sweet spot for you, huh? (And everyone else probably notices it too). He seems to always give you extra attention and treat you better than the rest. If you’re the odd one out- in a good way- then he’s definitely trying to show you that he cares for you more than just a friend.

13. He Lets You Borrow His Things
He’ll let you borrow his favorite NFL jacket when you’re cold. He doesn’t mind lending you that cool video game for the weekend. Basically, he doesn’t see it as a hassle when you ask to borrow something. In fact, he enjoys you asking; that means you get to have a little piece of HIM for awhile.

14. He Sometimes Teases You a Bit
Yes, it’s SO elementary. But guys tease girls when they’re interested. It’s as simple as that.

15. He Only Has Eyes for You
When the two of you are talking, it’s like you’re the only girl in the world. Angelina Jolie could walk past and he wouldn’t even take a glimpse in her direction. If he only has eyes for you, he likes you.

True or not? Are these definite signs a guy likes you? Tell us!


  1. Montserrat

    January 19, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    Okay so there’s this guy at my school, I feel so comfortable around him and I know I can be myself. Its hard for me to feel that way because I can’t really trust people because of things that have happened to me in the past, but with him its different. At first I just wanted to see him as a friend because if I told him I liked him I didn’t want him not to talk to me anymore. One day we were talking and he asked me who I liked, I didn’t tell him it was him, I just asked him why he wanted to know, he kept insisting that I should tell him. I kept avoiding the question, until he asked me if it was him.I immediately said no (I panicked lol) and i asked him why he would think that and he said because I was acting suspicious. He went on and asked me who I liked again, he was so determined to the question that he wanted to know. I ignored it and told him to tell me who he liked he asked me why I wanted to know and he just wouldn’t tell me. He then kind of stuttered and said he doesn’t know, that he doesn’t like anyone. We hung out a lot over break, just not the two of us, it was more of group hang outs. He’s always teasing me so much to begin with and gives me advice. For example when I talked to him about something personal that I have never told anyone, not even my cousin. Since he went through the same stuff he was able to understand. Then I later on told him that the reason I’m so quiet with other people is that I don’t trust them and don’t feel so comfortable around them.(Except for him) I told him that people on the past took advantage of me and I just hope he doesn’t do the same. He said “Why would I?” I told him “You never know” he told me “I would have no reason to” and asked him if he promised and he said that he promises he will never take advantage of me. Days passed by and he asked my cousin if I liked him, she responded with no even though she knows I do. She didn’t want to say anything because she didn’t know if I wanted him to know or not. She then told me that I should tell him the truth on how I felt about him and she was totally right. I told her everything that he would tell me, she told me that some of the things he was saying was his way of flirting with me. I had the confidence to tell him that I liked him, I surprisingly didn’t feel nervous or uncomfortable when I told him (only after a few hours passed by lol) he didn’t respond to that in a negative way and didn’t tell me that he wasn’t interested either, which was great! The next day a friend invited me over and he was there so was her crush (he told her that I liked him) nothing changed, he was still acting the way he was towards me, maybe just a little bit better. The next day after that she invited me again and once again he was there and so was her crush. All of us were just talking, he kept showing me a video of him bowling, he did this like trick which was hilarious, the funny part was that when he did that he didn’t make any in, but he’s actually really really good at bowling. Later in the day he was playing Call of Duty and I kept telling him that he sucked, he started to tickle me and told me that he could be me in this. I denied it and we played against each other, he would go off easy on me, but then would go hardcore and back to easy again when he saw that I was loosing lol (This happened this week) I actually planned to ask him tomorrow if I’m wasting my time on him, I would tell him something like this “Hey look I was confident to tell you how I felt about you and I’d rather get straight to the point, I want to know if I’m wasting my time. It wouldn’t make sense for me to keep this going if you aren’t or won’t be even a little bit interested” I’m not sure if I’m missing some stuff or if I should add some stuff/change it. Any advice on how I should ask him and what you think of this whole thing?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 20, 2017 at 9:54 am

      He likes you. There is no doubt about it. He has strong feelings that you like him back. However, if you continue to lie to him and have our cousin lie to him, then he will stop liking you. It is never good to lie. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Don’t beat around the bush or speak half-truths. Best of luck, Montserrat!

      • Montserrat

        January 21, 2017 at 5:17 am

        Hi It’s me again, I was having trouble and knowing which one to say, do you think you can help me out please? 🙂
        1. “Hey look I was confident to tell you how I felt about you and I’d rather get straight to the point, I want to know if I’m waisting my time. It wouldn’t make sense for me to keep this going if you aren’t or won’t be even a tiny bit interested”
        2. “Hey look, I was confident enough to tell you how I felt about you. I’m just going to get straight to the point, I want to know if you feel the same or should I like move on?”
        What I wanted to ask him was if I was wasting my time (you know, liking him) but I don’t know if any of these two are good. Do you think you can help me make one on what to say please?

        • web admin

          web admin

          January 22, 2017 at 2:15 pm

          I think both of those options sound like good things to say to him. If he is interested in you, it will not matter what you say because he will be more than happy to have you tell him about your feelings. The question is: are you ready to take that risk? You’ll never know if he will like you back or not unless you make a move and find out, so I would go for it. There is no real way to make this type of thing sound good, so just do what feels natural. Good luck, Montserrat!

          • Montserrat

            January 23, 2017 at 3:11 pm

            Okay so I asked him and he told me at the moment he doesn’t want to date anyone. He felt super bad letting me down though, the good thing for me is that he told me in the nicest way possible, told me the truth, and I didn’t feel sad about it! I was relieved. Either way I think if he was interested I wouldn’t have wanted anything with him because he’s such a great friend that I don’t want to ruin that. He’s one of the few people that came into my life that I feel comfortable with and are actually there for me. I feel that we could be really close friends, maybe even best friends. I just don’t know how exactly, I’m kind of scared too, last time I had best friends they all backstabed me. How can I?

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