8 Ways to Get Someone to Forgive You

By on April 9, 2016

When you’re in a fight with someone, it’s simply terrible. The two of you probably aren’t speaking, you know the other individual is upset with you, and you just want everything to get better again. But what can you do to make sure this someone forgives you? Here’s a list of 8 great ways to get someone to forgive you!


  1. Give Them Some Space

After an argument, you need to give this person some time to relax and cool down. They probably don’t want to talk to you very soon after the fight as tensions will be high and the two of you probably aren’t thinking straight. If you try and do anything now, things may get worse! The first step to take is to take a step back and let the situation simmer down a bit, then you can proceed to the next step.

  1. Forgive Yourself

How can you expect someone ELSE to forgive you if you can’t even forgive yourself? Seriously, before you plead with someone to give you another chance, you need to make sure you are at peace with yourself first. Yes, you made a big mistake and now you are paying the price. Yes, you may have lost someone because of your ill actions. BUT you are only human, and sometimes we do stupid things that tick other people off. Understand that you are only human and you will make mistakes. Forgive yourself, but most importantly LEARN from this mistake. Once you’ve done that (admitted and learned from your mistake and forgiven yourself) then you can try to talk to them- step 3.

  1. Talk it Out

Sometimes all it takes for someone to forgive you is a deep, long conversation. The two of you need to discuss what happened, why they are upset about it, and what you can do to fix it. Communication is key to any relationship- whether it’s your brother, your best friend, or your boyfriend- so taking some time to sit down and really talk about things in depth is a necessary step in getting someone to forgive you.


  1. Ask Them for Forgiveness – And Mean It

A simple “I’m sorry” where you shrug it off like it’s no big deal and don’t even make eye contact with the other person while saying it is extremely insincere and the other individual will know this! You need to ask for forgiveness and actually mean it. People want to hear a genuine, sincere apology, not something they read off the back of a cereal box. If you truly want them to forgive you, you need to show them you are sincere with your apology. Make eye contact. Grab their hand. And tell them you are genuinely sorry. Not only that, but you may want to make the apology a bit longer, such as “Joe, I know I made a huge mistake. I’ve ruined everything and it’s killing me inside. Please, all I want is your forgiveness. I’ll do whatever it takes. Please, Joe”- something along these lines is an excellent choice!

  1. Admit You Were Wrong

Okay, so you are asking for forgiveness; but can you even admit that what you did was wrong? People on the other end want to know that you understand what you did was NOT okay, and that you know NOT to do it again! Definitely admit to the other person that you were wrong in what you did, and again, apologize for your actions.


  1. Be Extra Kind

If you’re asking for an apology but treating this person like dirt, your apology isn’t going to go a very long way. KINDNESS is what will take your apology to the next level! Being extra kind to this person will show them that you’re truly sorry and you want them to feel special. Kindness will show them you have respect for them and want to make things right again. Treating them with anything other than absolute kindness is an easy way to show you’re not truly ready for forgiveness.

  1. Do Something Nice for Them

The easiest way to get someone to forgive you is to simply do something nice for them! Maybe they’ve been wanting to see a new movie and you keep saying no because it ‘looks dumb’. You get into an argument with them, and suddenly you’re on their doorstep with movie tickets and a big apology. This not only shows them that you care, but it also shows them that you will do anything to get them to forgive you.


  1. Show Them You’ve Changed

Forgiveness essentially means nothing if you don’t learn from your mistakes. You need to show them you’ve changed. If they were mad about a certain something, then fix it. Sometimes time is the only thing that will show you’ve changed, and if that’s the case, then let them know you’re not going to slip up and time will show them you mean business.

How do you get someone to forgive you?


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    October 14, 2017 at 12:07 am


    Me and my boyfriend are on our 6th year already. We are very open and lenient with each other. Last night, I went to have dinner with my colleagues. That was my last update to him since he fell asleep. Dinner ended up to drinking. Then I took a cab back home and forgot to update my boyfriend that I got home. He woke up early in the morning worrying if I got home safe. He was so mad that I didn’t update him cause he got so worried. Now he won’t talk to me and he’s so mad. He’s also overthinking now that something happened to me and my officemate since 3 of them were guys and my girl colleague left early. So I was left with the guys. Nothing happened we were just talking, sharing stories. But now he thinks I cheated on him or something.

    How do I make him forgive me? He ignores me. I want to save our relationship. 😞

    • web admin

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      October 14, 2017 at 8:41 am

      He needs to begin to trust you. Since you did nothing, you should speak directly and honestly about your thoughts and feelings. If he does not trust you, then he may need to speak with you about his ideas with you as well. You should let him speak. If he constantly is concerned about your actions, then he has worries that need to be addressed. Have a great day, Andrea!

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    April 12, 2016 at 7:04 am

    Hey hows it going my name is tanya im in a very difficult situation. I recently met this real cool guy that ive been dating for a year now. The issue begin he is a very honest open person so from the beginning he had told me that he was in long term relationship for 5 years and that they broke up due to her parents because they where very conservative. About two months ago i end up going into his ex social media and see his ex but i also see two kids a new born and a toddler he tells me the kids arent his i went as far as too reach his ex to verify things she said the same that those kids arent his but im be honest i dont know if its my mind playing tricks on me but they do resemble him a lot. He said hes willing to get a paternuty test but his ex is in denial. What should i do michelle please help.

    • web admin

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      April 15, 2016 at 7:12 am

      I would stop worrying about it for now. While the kids resemble him, she also probably has a “type”–if she was attracted to him, she probably looked for the same appearance and qualities in the other guy that she slept with. Due to this, she may be telling the truth. At any rate, she does not want to say these kids are his or have a paternity test, and he is not forcing to. While the situation is a bit strange, it looks like it has already been sorted out by them. If you like dating him, continue to date him. He has been open and honest about everything so far, so it sounds like you have found a good guy. Relax, enjoy your relationship, and leave the paternity issue alone. (Side note: If he really wants to prove the kids are his–and I don’t know if he does–, I am sure there are legal ways to force her to get a paternity test. There are also probably cheap paternity kits online that he could use if he just wants to know for sure.) Good luck!

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    April 11, 2016 at 11:27 am

    Hello sorry for this but my name is Ina im from norway. Recently i met this real nice hispanic guy. We kicked it of good we been dating for a year alomst. My question is before we met he had been in a long term relationship that ended uppruptly after 5 years. He made it clear he wanted to take stuff slow. He was very honest from the begging an said during the 5 yrs that a toddler came into theyre picture but that his ex made it clear to him that it wasnt. Now fast foward a year later im doubting my self i need help.

    • web admin

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      April 14, 2016 at 9:57 am

      There is nothing to doubt about yourself. He either is still recovering from his last relationship, or he just wants to keep things casual for a few years. A five-year relationship is a long time, so it may take quite a while for him to feel like getting serious again. If you do not think that the relationship is moving in the right direction or you are tired of waiting, you can always end the relationship. You could also sit him down and tell him how you feel. Who knows? He may have been hoping to take things farther too and was just uncertain how to do that. I would talk to him first, and then make your decision based on what he says. Good luck, Ina Niffolssen!

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        April 14, 2016 at 12:52 pm

        The problem is he was very honest from the begging but i think that the kids of the ex might be his i dont know if i should have him subponea becausese we try talking about it and its a very sensitive topic for him he sayd due to him not know the time frame.

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 16, 2016 at 12:31 pm

          I think that it may work beset if you just let him handle it or not handle it as he sees fit. It is a very sensitive topic for him, and he may also be unready to deal with the consequences. If he were confirmed as the parent, he would suddenly have two kids to care for and pay child support for–and it also seems like his ex is not wanting to get him involved. While it may be frustrating to never know for sure, it is a situation that is his choice to handle or not handle as he sees fit. Good luck!

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