How To Tell If a Guy Likes You

By on May 28, 2014

At one point or another, every woman has asked herself: Does he like me? It’s one of the most confusing, annoying, and nervous questions we can ask ourselves, but it’s something we are constantly trying to figure out. Make this question a bit more easy and get the answer you need with these 25 ways to tell if he really likes you- or sees you just as a friend.


 1. He Seems to Smile at You. A Lot.

Don’t get me wrong. There’s always those people out there who smile at everybody and everything. They’ll smile at strangers, they’ll smile at the silliest jokes- they’ll even smile during a physics quiz. If you’re talking to a guy who has one of those never-ending smiles, he might just be doing what’s natural to him by smiling at you often.

But let’s face it: most people aren’t like that. If you catch him smiling at you often, it may be a sign that he’s into you and the sight of your face brings a smile to his lips. Pay close attention to his smile, too. Is it one of those fake, forceful smiles? Or is it a genuine smile full of love? This will really help you determine whether or not it’s a true, “I like you” smile.

2. The First Form of Flirting: Teasing

Remember back in the day on the school yard when boys would chase the girls and call them names, and everyone said it’s because he likes you? It may seem so kindergarten, but even in our later years men still use teasing as a form of flirting. If he (playfully) teases you often, then it could be a sign he’s going back to his roots and using teases to show he’s interested in you. Of course, if he is just being flat out rude about something than he’s probably not into you- in a girlfriend or a friend way- and I suggest you run for the hills.


 3. Flirty Compliments That Leave You Blushing

On the other hand, maybe you’re talking to a guy who’s matured past the teasing tricks and actually knows how to flirt. If he compliments you a lot- whether it’s a simple compliment about how nice your hair looks that day or how great you performed your oral presentation- it’s probably a definite sign that he’s interested in you.

I mean, yes- it’s completely true that people will compliment each other on a job well done or a nice t-shirt. But a compliment is one thing, a flirt is another. Surely you can tell the difference by the way it’s said and what words are used. For example:

Regular compliment: I like your shirt! (Pat on the back.)

Flirty compliment: That shirt looks great on you. (Smile)

See the difference?


 4. Playful, Accidental Touching

When you like someone, you want to be close to them. That’s just nature! If you find your guy friend playfully or accidentally touching you on a regular basis, it could just be his way of trying to get close to you. Some examples of playful or accidental touching would include:

-Running up behind you and picking you up for a fun hug.

-‘Accidentally’ brushing your hand while the two of you work on a project together.

-Wanting to play a silly game like thumb wars or arm wrestling.

-Patting you on your thigh after talking to you while sitting down.

 5. Men Hate Phone Calls. But He Doesn’t?

We all know how much men hate to talk on the phone. When you ask them to call you, it’s like pulling teeth. Or perhaps even a root canal. Without any medication for numbing. (Yes, it’s that bad sometimes, right ladies?). But for some reason he will call you completely out of the blue, just to talk. And he actually enjoys it and says he’s had a nice time talking to you. No, he hasn’t been abducted by space aliens that changed the wiring in his brain. It’s as simple as this: man likes woman, man goes to great lengths to show that he cares. Which brings us to the random phone calls where you spend 6 hours talking about movies, sports, music, clothes, school, celebrities- whatever. So go ahead, pick up the phone. He surely didn’t call you because he hates talking to you!


6. Not Just Your Basic Text Messages

So not every guy will suddenly enjoy talking on the phone because he likes you, or maybe he’s just too busy to call you. Insert: text messages, the most convenient way to talk to another human being.

So you say he’s texting you often, hmm? Well let me ask you a question first before we jump to any conclusions. Is he texting you the basic texts like, “When are you going to be here?” or “Can I borrow your homework?” or anything along those lines? Or is texting you just because? If he’s sending you good morning texts, asking how you’re doing or what you’re up to, or trying to start an actual conversation over a text message, it may be a sign he is interested. Again, let’s do a quick example.

Friendly text: “Hey, are you coming to Mark’s party?”

Flirty text: “Hey Molly. How are you doing? I was wondering if you were going to go to Mark’s party. Can’t wait to see you!”

 7. Pay Attention to His Grammar

When a guy likes a girl, he tries to impress her- we all know that! But sometimes it’s not always about incredible out of this world gestures to grab our attention and impress us, and that’s why we need to pay attention to details. If he tends to talk in slang often but really tries hard to use proper grammar and punctuation when talking/messaging you, it could be a simple sign he’s trying to impress you with his mind. Here’s an example, using the text messages used in number 6:

Friendly text: “Wassup u coming to Mark’s party?”

Flirty text: “Hey Molly. How are you doing? I was wondering if you were going to go to Mark’s party. Can’t wait to see you!”

Note how he is using bad grammar in the first text, while the second text is not only significantly longer by texting standards, but also uses proper grammar and punctuation. See ladies, even something as simple and subtle as this could be a definite sign he likes you and wants you to notice how smart he is.


8. Even Social Media Can Be a Hint!

Whether you’re both on MySpace, Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram (or any other popular social media networking site), if he likes your post often, it could be a sign that he likes you. Sure we sometimes just go scrolling down our newsfeed liking pictures we think are cute or interesting, but if he has made it a goal to like almost all of your posts, from pictures to status updates, he might be trying to show you that he cares. If he sends you comments on your posts often, that’s just another great sign he might be interested in you!


9. Make it or Break it: Eye Contact

You’ve probably heard this over and over again, but eye contact is ridiculously important, from first dates to job interviews. If you notice he’s looking at you often and makes it a point to have eye contact with you while the two of you are talking, this not only means he likes what he sees but is trying to get you to notice him as well.

Friend: Will obviously talk to you, but will probably be looking around the room or interrupting your conversation to holler at another friend. He probably won’t randomly stare at you with hearts in his eyes, either.

More than a friend: Will make it a point to focus on you and only you during conversation, and you will probably catch him staring at you often. (And he might have his jaw dropped sometimes, too- it happens).


10. Him? Sophisticated and Mature? No Way!

So he is the kind of guy to make crude jokes and mess around with his guy friends at all times. Even when there is a girl present he won’t mind being his goofy, totally immature and somewhat nasty self. But when you are around, everything changes. Suddenly he turns into a somewhat sophisticated man who is reserved and respectful, and might even tell his friends to stop with the crude humor while a lady is present. This, my friends, is one of the easiest ways to tell if a guy is interested in you. After all, he doesn’t want you to think he’s some disgusting pig with no respect for woman, so he knows to turn it off when you come around. You should not only feel honored that someone would do that for you, but feel confident in knowing what his intentions are.

11. Girl? What Girl?

When you are friends with a guy, you get used to that fact that they will probably be checking out females often. They might even make a remark to you about how cute they think the girl that just walked by is. And they won’t have a problem telling you that they’re planning on seeing Samantha from the coffee shop down the road. But if he’s interested in you and wants to be more than friends, you won’t hear a single peep out of him with regards to another female. In fact, you might notice a pretty girl walking by quicker than he does.

If you notice he doesn’t really say anything about girls or dating anyone anytime soon, you might want to ask him if he is interested in anyone. His answer will say it all!

12. Curious About Your Relationship Status

When you’re just friends, it really doesn’t matter whether you are married with three kids or never been on a date in your life. Nobody really asks, and why should they? The two of you just go out as friends having a good time- nothing else. But if your guy friend wants to know about your relationship status is or if you’re interested in anyone, he could be trying to ease his way into becoming your boyfriend. If he asks you what a guy would have to do to get you to be his girlfriend, you can definitely take this as a sign he wants you as more than just a friend.


13. “We Should Be Together. Just Kidding…”

Have you ever heard that saying that the biggest lie you could ever tell is just kidding? It seems like adding ‘just kidding’ to the end of something serious automatically turns it into an untrue, laughable joke. But the fact of the matter is, 99 percent of the time when someone says they’re just kidding about something, they really aren’t.

That being said, if your guy pal kids about you and him being an item, he might actually want it to happen. For example:

The two of you are playing video games and suddenly start laughing out loud about a joke only the two of you would find funny. As the wave of laughter comes to an end, he jokingly says “We would make the perfect couple.” Let’s face it ladies, he probably isn’t joking. And if this kind of thing happens somewhat often, I’d take that as a definite sign he wants you.

14. Where Are You Two Going?

Pay close attention to where you guys go. Do you do the basic friend thing, like go to parties together, hang out downtown, or do a lot of other group activities with the rest of your friends? Or are your hangouts a bit more romantic, with just the two of you? If the bulk of your adventures are done in group, you’re probably just friends- or he is trying not to be so obvious. But if he asks you to do a lot of one on one things, he might be trying to get to know you better and see if the two of you are a match made in heaven.


15. Oh, You Shouldn’t Have!

There is a huge, huge, huge difference between doing a friend a favor, and doing something especially sweet for someone. If he gave you a ride home from work one day, I wouldn’t get carried away and assume he likes you. But if he does a lot of nice things for you on a regular basis, like buying you those special shoes you couldn’t afford or offering to pick you up from work every single night, there might be more to it than just a friendly gesture. Pay close attention to this, as this can sometimes get confusing. You wouldn’t want to mistake kindness for love!

16. Your Knight in Shining Armor

It’s the male instinct to protect the woman you love- and if you notice he is acting more like your knight in shining armor than your best guy friend, it’s a possibility he’s into you. It could be as simple as telling some people to stop saying mean things about you to completely going berserk on a guy who shoved you in public. Whatever his knightly duty was, don’t take it lightly. He not only did this to protect you, but impress you and show he cares for you and your safety.


17. The Green Monster Pays a Visit

When you like someone, you get jealous- that’s nature. Whether it’s an innocent flirt or they are talking about being with someone else, the little green monster pops his head up instantly. If he gets jealous about you talking with other guys or mentioning other guys, this is a definite clue he likes you.

18. Remembering the Finest Details

Remember when you told him you broke your arm when you were 5? Yeah, he just so happened to remember that. He also remembers about that silly joke you said a couple months back that had him rolling on the floor laughing during the Christmas party. Men are notorious at forgetting things, especially the fine details. If he seems to remember all that and more, this is a serious sign he is interested in you and actually listens when you talk to him.


19. Are You Impressed Yet?

As we’ve said so many times before (and you’ve probably known for quite some time), men love to impress females- especially ones they are interested in. If he seems to try to impress you, whether it’s with his clothing or picking up a giant boulder *right in front of you*, he’s probably trying to get you to notice him in a way other than friendly.


20. Need Any Help With That?

This kind of goes hand in hand with doing favors for you more than the average friend. But if he seems willing to do certain tasks- even the most boring or hard like changing your oil or fixing your broken glass window- this is a sure sign he likes you. Plus he gets to show off how manly and handy he is. Double win!

21Just a Few More Minutes..

At the end of the night or a conversation with a friend, it’s usually easy to say goodbye. But when you’re interested in someone, you never want it to end. You could be together all night long, not saying a word, and it would be the best thing ever. If he always tries to spend more time with you or stay on the phone just a bit longer, he’s probably very interested in you.


22. Asking Friends and Family for Help

There is no better way to get to know someone than by asking around. If he’s asked your friends and family members questions trying to get to know you better, I’d take that as a very obvious sign he is wanting to be more than friends. Some common questions he might ask those closest to you include the following:

-Does she have a boyfriend?

-What kind of guys is she interested in?

-What are some of her favorite things to do?

-Any idea what her dream date is like?

Don’t be surprised if someone close to you says so and so has been asking questions. It’s not weird, he just really wants to know more about you and surprise you with something he knows you would absolutely love. That’s great investigating and really shows that he’ll go the extra mile to learn about you!


23. A Kiss to Remember

Your guy friend just kissed you. Like, woah. Completely out of nowhere. You two were walking home from the party and he grabbed you and kissed you. You were left completely speechless. And, you know what, this really doesn’t need further explanation. Either he was drunk out of his mind or he’s been wanting to kiss you for awhile.

24. “I Like You.”

If he flat out tells you he likes you, then, well, he likes you. And that’s that. No more questioning or wondering. It’s pretty much all on the table at that point, and it’s up to you to decide how you will react. At least you won’t have that lingering question in the back of your mind, right? Even if it’s totally awkward, it’s a huge relief off of your shoulders- and that’s something to be thankful about. Let’s just hope the guy you’re friends with has the guts to come out and tell it like it is! (Yes, men, we totally appreciate a guy who does this. Be brave!)



That’s right. Sometimes enough is enough and you just need ANSWERS. If he isn’t budging, just ask him to tell you so you can quit wondering.

It can be torture sitting around wondering if your guy pal wishes the two of you were ‘more than friends’. It doesn’t have to be hard, though. With subtle hints like playfully teasing and touching to going out of his way to do you awesome favors, there’s plenty of ways you can put your curiosity to rest- and possibly land yourself a boyfriend.


Ladies- what are some great ways a guy friend has proven to you that he wants to be more than friends?


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    October 23, 2019 at 5:58 pm

    So I’m confused and would like a little advice. My guy friend is very busy so I only briefly talk to him a couple times a week. Ive known him for about a year now but we never have time to hang out. Every time we talk though he smiles big and I can tell it’s not forced. He makes eye contact and doesn’t break it, Asks me how I’ve been doing, and he teases me a lot. He even left his friend to talk to me quickly. But he seems to have a lot of friends, including females. The thing is, he does the same with them, he even walks closely to them and or touches them. I don’t know if he is interested in me or not. Should I ask him to hang out to get to know him better?

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      March 20, 2020 at 6:45 pm

      If he does the same things with his other female friends, then it’s going to be really hard to tell if he is interested or not. If you like him, hanging out with him and getting to know him better may be the only way you can end up finding out if he likes you back or not. Good luck, MJ!

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    Love Shifu

    August 17, 2019 at 10:58 am

    Well written article. Sometimes girls stress a lot to find out if a guy likes them or not. However there are some easy ways to tell if a guy is interested in you. Some of the signs to look out for to find out if a boy like you are:
    – You can tell whether a guy likes you or not just by looking at his body language. If he is interested in you then he will lean towards you and not on opposite direction, he will try to find excuses to touch you, he will listen to whatever you say, etc.
    – Guy’s get nervous around girls they like, same as how a girl gets nervous whenever she is around her crush.
    – The guy will not take his eyes off of you, a clear sign that shows his interest.
    – He will give his complete attention towards you whenever you are in a party or a crowded place.
    – He is not hesitant to introduce you to his friends and family.
    – He will constantly try to keep in touch with you through calls or text.
    If you pay a close attention to his behavior it is easy to find out if a guy likes you. Hope everyone finds this useful.

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      August 18, 2019 at 8:07 pm

      Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. We appreciate when members of our community share their supportive comments. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Shifu!

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      January 9, 2020 at 10:02 am

      i got a best friend i like and his name us Kaden Tidwell and he is in 7th grade and his age is 12 and i asked him if he liked me as a girlfriend and he said no and i asked him out and he said no what should i do ?

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        January 9, 2020 at 7:01 pm

        You can’t force someone to like you. All you can do is respect his feelings and try to move on. If he decides to change his mind, he knows how you feel, so he can always get back to you.

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    July 24, 2019 at 12:25 am

    I got this one friend on an online game and we met each other last year in March and he took me he liked me back in October of 2018 and then we didn’t get together for some reason and then he didn’t get online for more than 3 months and he would get on sometimes and so after that I decided to get over him and I was thinking of sending him his last message before I forget about him and he got on just the other day and last night I waited for him but he didnt get on so I slept and then in the morning I saw his message but then today I waited again and he didn’t get on but the day I messaged him we were talking for 2 hours and then I went to sleep I’d like to know if he still likes me or not while we were talking Random girls were going to him and asking about me and he although compliments me saying ew and all said I was his I don’t have it in me to tell him I like him we both know a lot about each other and we do have each other on social media I’m really confused and he’s really cute he also doesn’t think I’m ugly he’s also very sweet and caring when it comes to me he has a nickname for me it’s my name shortened

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      July 24, 2019 at 8:10 pm

      The two of you share a social relationship. It seems that you are uncertain about his feelings for you. You should speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Is possible, nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Confused!

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    June 20, 2019 at 7:13 pm

    So I have a problem. I have like this guy for a while and I think he likes me too but he is very indecisive and can not make up his mind. We went out once just to “hang out” and I tried fixing my hair while in the wind and he told me i didn’t need to because i beautiful as is. He has gave me his hoodie when cold or held my hand while being cold. He has pulled me in to sleep on his shoulder(cuddle). I don’t know if I should wait or give up because he hasn’t made a decision. Do I ask him to clarify?? Need Advice please

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      June 20, 2019 at 11:11 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is attracted to you. He likely wants to maintain a relationship with you. It seems like he is shy. It is possible that he is uncertain or confused about your feelings toward him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Lucy!

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      January 9, 2020 at 10:03 am

      my best friend Kaden won’t date me he says no to us dating

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        January 9, 2020 at 7:02 pm

        You can’t force someone to like you. All you can do is respect his feelings and try to move on. If he decides to change his mind, he knows how you feel, so he can always get back to you.

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    May 18, 2019 at 9:28 am

    So, There was this guy at my university that really confused me. We were a group of people (about 10 people) both girls and boys. And this boy lets call him Y, he would always tease me (not the other girls) joke with me, compliment me etc. His behaviour towards me was very different from any other. He would notice the smallest things, such as new hairstyle, if I was’nt talking some days he would ask the other people in our group whether I was Okey or not.
    Now a year later after finishing university, I really think of him and what he meant or his intentions were.
    As said he was very different towards me than with other girls. I often cought him checking me out, and while talking to me he would often give me elevator eyes.
    What does it mean?

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      May 18, 2019 at 5:27 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is attracted to you. You have thought about this person, which may be a sign that you are interested in developing a relationship with him. Make a decision about what you want for your future. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. If you are interested in developing a relationship with this person and can contact him, then reach out to him. Have a great day, Palwi!

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        May 19, 2019 at 7:54 am

        But if he was interested then why didn’t he take the first step in the first place ?
        And we graduated 1.5 years ago and haven’t had any contact. I know for a fact that some of our common friends once mentioned that you are the kind of wife he would like to have, yet he did not take the step forward?
        I myself am really shy to take the first step, what if it is not as i think or just being really nice to me because I am a shy person or a quite person?

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    April 29, 2019 at 11:27 am

    Hai, I met this guy who is a bus driver,.. He shows all the signs he is into me..such as smiles at me ,gives me long eye contact,laughs and jokes with me,,teases me…yeah..he told me i looks good,and once when we were talking he even asked me someday if i can cook for him..
    One day as i entered the bus he was eating a apple and he asked me if i need a bite from it and i told him “no” he repeated the same thing 3 times and i denied it 3 times (even though both of us were laughing).After that the next day he didn’t talk much to me other than joking with me just once..
    The next day after i entered and sat in the front side seat of the bus, he adjusted his rear view mirror such a way that i can fully see his face (almost full mirror was his complete face from my view) and even we had eye contact through mirror once but i was so nervous and didn’t look in the mirror after that..
    The next day onward he is ignoring me completely,,even if i talked to him he just gave me one word answers so i didn’t talk anymore…i don’t know why he started avoiding me and is not talking to it because he didn’t like me and i was just overthinking all this stuffs or does he likes me??should i ask him??because its hurts me a lot when he is ignoring me..
    I too ignored him the next day.,after that he talked to me soo much the next day and made me repeat something i told him again and again till i got annoyed and hit him on his shoulder and after me hitting him he smiles at me..
    Pls advice..i am scared since i am not sure if he like me or was it all my brain playing with me..why does he not tell me if he like me? by the way i am 29 and he will be around 39-40 year

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      April 29, 2019 at 9:29 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is interested in you, but he is uncertain about your feelings toward him. It is possible that he does not know how to move forward. He likely does not want to be unprofessional or inappropriate with his actions. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Elsa!

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    March 16, 2019 at 12:36 pm

    So my boss winked at me,then came really close to me and stared straight into my eyes for couple of seconds.Then sent me a message(a professional one)whilst I was still working and told me off for not answering him.Then said that I have lovely lips and soon after came near me and did “I am watching you gesture”.I think he might like me.

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      March 16, 2019 at 11:58 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he likes you and may be interested in nourishing a romantic relationship with you. However, his behavior is potentially inappropriate. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what type of work environment that you want to live in. You may want to record these interactions if they make you feel uncomfortable. Speak with your boss about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Annie!

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    March 10, 2019 at 4:24 am

    So i have this friend, i’ve known him this year, we didn’t use to talk or something but i always catched him looking at me, helping me when i didn’t ask for… one day he asked for my number, i said no and he got a little bit mad. I felt sad because i hurted him so i sent him a friend request on fb, i told him sorry and he said no problem. The next day, we talked and he asked for my number again, i gave it to him finally. So we started talking on WhatsApp for 2 days, the 3rd day i didn’t talk to him, and it was school tomorrow, we were in a group of friend at school, he said: (name of another girl)and i(him) didn’t stop texting yesterday, you (me) forgot me! I just laughed. So ws’re now best friends and everyone thinks we’re dating or something, we sometimes fight, he tells me :whatever you do i’ll always forgive you, and even if it was your falut i’ll say that i’m so sorry. So lately, he told me : Paris(he knows that i like it), i answered :yup, he said: love u. We continued talking normally and the next day, he texted me : i looooooooove youu, i told him i love him too,but jokingly even if i really love him. The next day at school, he ignored me completely. I was sick, and when he came back home, he texted me:i wish you’re always sick, i told him why ? He said: you look so cute, i swear that you look so cuuute with those emojies ❤😍😘❤😍😘
    He’s so cute and i really love him, but does he love me back ??

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      March 10, 2019 at 5:43 pm

      He feels a strong social and emotional connection with you. It is likely that he wants to nourish this relationship. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Spend additional time with him in person to strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Paris!

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        March 11, 2019 at 5:56 am

        Yeah he sometimes opens up emotionally to me, but he has struggles with trust i think. We share our dreams, the school we want to study in, the city we like. And he usually puts me in his future, he said that “we” will get married and buy a house in Paris. He even said in front of my sister that he loves me, and think my she scared him because she told him : what are you, stupid ?? 😂😂😂😂 when i told him to tell her that he’s joking, he got mad
        we sometimes talk on the phone and talk about normal stuff, one time my father was there, he stopped the call, when i asked him why, he said because i love you i don’t want you to be in trouble.
        so as you can see, the word “love” is always there. He even calls me sweet names like : babe, my all.. and he gets jealous, we were talking on the phone, he said :who’s that boy called Jad? Why is he talking to you when he doesn’t study with you anymore ? And he saw the name of a boy written in my ruller, he told me: you’re divorced, you’re betraying me.
        So all these signs are making me so confused !!! 😢

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          March 12, 2019 at 12:46 pm

          He feels a strong emotional connection with you. His behaviors are signs that he wants to nourish this relationship. The name on your ruler and his negative response are signs that he may be uncertain about this relationship. If the ruler incident happened recently, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. The name on the ruler could have been written by someone who has feelings for you as well. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Paris!

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        March 30, 2019 at 3:58 pm

        Been trying to find the right comment box. Ill start off saying now im a bit older than most who probably read these things, im not very expierenced at all. Only liked 3 guys in my lifetime. I have literally no condidence, have a lot of issues(im working on) i dont wear make up (through choice, if a guy dont like me then im. Not changing for him) . Ive been going to this group thing where we play cards in like forever, im. Quite friendly with everyone and they all know me and my background its the one place i do have some confidence.

        About a year ago this new guy started coming and i was curious. We started chatting from. The off. He seemed quite shy at the start so i like to think i helped him blend in with everyone. I became intruiged by him and started looking at him (which at one point i covincned myself he noticed but idk) sometimes he would say the odd thing then other times hed be shy. Even though i liked him i get quite attached very quickly, once i like someone i tend to really like them but i tried to calm the looks down. I tried to find out more about him, it turned out he was the grandson of the guy who runs the thing lol and i asked for his ago but the guy i asked said he was 20/21 which i thought was okay. So i tried to act cool around him (he doesn’t go to them all, so i often go for over a month without seeing him) i also figured out hes related to someone else who runs his local but i dont know if shes his aunt or mother (more likely aunt since her fb shows two kids?) but shes really nice and seems quite protective of at the end of june last year i was there till the very end, i won the competition and he was really suppportive and told her he wanted to stay to watch (ive since seen him around others and he didnt seem as enthusiastic) and hed turned round to smile at me properly so i tried being cool again. I asked the woman his age abd it turned out he was a lot younger than we thought (hes now a year older) so that was it before the summer and i tried my best to forget about him.

        Cut a story short the next time i saw him in September i ended up with laryngitis so i couldnt speak to him at all, which was some kind of relief. He seemed really interested and caring, even listening to my mum talking about it. He asked the week after if i was speaking again and wanted to make sure i was 😂 he didnt turn up after that as something happened to one of his younger relatives so he didnt come for a while. i was going sway again and when i saw him again, i tried walking away from him but he called me back and asked where i was and again seemed interested. I saw him one time aftet that and for the first time ever we sat at break. He was completely mute and pretty much avoided me, even looking at the people beside me as if i wasnt there lol. I did try to engage with him but its hard lol next, it was the Xmas ones and it was two nights in a row. So the first night we spoke a bit and as he helps out i dont drink tea or coffee etc so he brought 3 cups over and i presumed he knew i didnt, he brought the 4th one over and i said i dont drink tea sure lol and he whispered behind me just to leave it then ran away 😂 he came over to speak to his relative who was on my table and went out of his way to speak to me, then he was playing to my mum (CRINGE) and he turned to me to say shed beaten me 😂 at the end we bumped into each other and he walked by me so slowly so he didnt touch me (is it not possible if someone liked you they wil avoid touching you cos it would be harder to ignore they like you??) he didnt say a word.. I felt like he’d noticed me and we was tHE only two people in the roOm (CORNY I KNOW) so the next night comes… HE BARELY SAYS A WORD ALL NIGHT we even sat out and he only sat down for a minute spoke two words then got up again 😂 i won a prize so i joked with him what it was and he joked it was £100 i said it again and hed done the same thing only this time smiled at me like a cheshire cat for more than a few minutes (felt like forever). . He went outside which made me paranoid as it was the same guy i asked about his age. He came back in and i told him it was my bday here next month, he continuly asked what date so i said mine… And his bdays only 3 days after mine😂 i was slightly dissapointed he didnt remember the next week, but he seemed tired

        So id gotten my hopes up hed be there for my bday and he wasnt😈mum even got me cake n everything. Was so gutted. I didnt even see him for another month and only by chance i saw him when i went to one i usually dont go to (i was going away again) and i convinced myself he noticed me, he was laughing at the door and seemed really chatty but wwnt all quiet when i thought he saw me (i was a bit further away) again he was really quiet when we was playing with each other and he says my name in a really dragged out the a cos i did it wrong (HES SO DISTRACTING!!!). I saw him a week later and this time he was a bit more talkative. The other guy didnt go so i asked his bro and my guy goes (yeah i knew he wasnt coming cos he called grandma) like sounded like he was trying to inpreess. After break i had a glass of water and someone asked me if i was finished and he goes you thIRSty, i accidently blurted out i was hot!! (CRINGE) a while later i was walking to my seat and he was standing at the table, he turned round quickly, saw it was me then ran to his chair throwing his card down beside me (like who the hell does that??) then started winding me up claiming i hadnt beaten him all night (when infact i had) even when i said i did he repeated it again. When he was collecting the money i asked him if my mum payed for me and he whispered, yeah barely looking at me the whole time.
        At the end of the night i convinced myself again he was looking at me, i wasnt looking at him to begin with but when i turned round i thought he was. Didnt see him again till this month and he was quiet both times despite me trying to talk to him the first time(the other guy was on our table and they were talking a lot) , he then came down to my side while i was sitting on the chair (he tidies up) i didnt expect this at all as he is pretty smart and should know i was sitting on the chair lol he asked twice despite me answering the first time, i accidently yelled a litle bit and he ran away qickly again seemed a bit frustrated 😂

        Other things i forgot he asked me y i wasnt speaking , someone said i wasnt well and he said you look a bit white. He always looks up at me with his eye wide open, and sometimes looks me up and down on my face
        Ive been paranoid hes been playing me or doing it for a bet, but wouldnt he make more of an effort instead of being mute all the time, he could get me alone anytime.( would ve devastated if the guy i asked his age did this as hes like an older brother to me)
        He always seemes to pay attention to me but sometimes barely looks at me only when he has to
        He says my name a LOT a lot more than he has to even more than my own parents do!

        Hes a farmer and I found out he goes dancing. I was worried he was gay but i looked him up (i know i shouldnt but was curious lol) nothing on his fb but his instagram suggested straight and mum knows i like him. And hasnt said she thinks hes gay. Didnt think he has a gf till last week when he didnt sit down on break and was on his phone a lot and heard his relative say her
        feel like.i cant ask anyone any qs about him as it would make it look obvious i like him when i have a smile on my face when its anything to do with him and people might start to wonder or he’ll find out.

        I feel silly for doing this but im desperate for answers.its driving me mad

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          March 31, 2019 at 4:30 pm

          It sounds as though you have a lot of questions regarding your relationship. He has attempted to nourish a relationship with you, so he is not gay. You said that he enjoys dancing, which is enjoyed by both heterosexual and homosexual people. You will find benefit in focusing your energy on your partner, and nourishing this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Strengthen your relationship with his family. Continue to share your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Monalisa!

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            April 1, 2019 at 9:08 am

            Did you even read it or is this an automatic response😂 i am trying to figure out if he likes me and or if there is potential for us to go out or would i just be embarrassing myself

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              April 1, 2019 at 10:25 pm

              We do not have automatic responses here. You are curious as to whether or not this person likes you, but you do not know him well. It seems as though you need to make a decision about your future. Determine what you want, and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Monalisa!

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              January 9, 2020 at 10:05 am

              my best friend Kaden says no to me about us being boyfriend and girlfriend but he told my friend Erica he will think about it . and when i said hi to him and he smiled and said hi back is that flirting ?

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                January 9, 2020 at 7:02 pm

                You can’t force someone to like you. All you can do is respect his feelings and try to move on. If he decides to change his mind, he knows how you feel, so he can always get back to you.

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      April 27, 2019 at 3:47 pm

      I know a guy who works at my job but in a different department. One day we just started talking and then exchange numbers. He text me and asked me How was I doing? I said fine . Then he said how are you? I said I’m good. He then called me and he said did I have a boyfriend , do I have kids , do I live by myself, and what city do I live in My answers were NO, and I told.him what city I lvie in. After all that he told me he was married, and I told him thank you for being honest I respect him of his honesty.He then said I’m so Humble and my the way my voice is so calm. Until this day he always says Hi to me and tells me he likes talking with me. He said he was having issues with his cell phone not getting Messages etc. And I told him that I sent him a message but it was about weight loss because were both into loosing weight. He told me when I said I sent him a text he said ” That it was fine I message him as Long as I DIDN’T tell him That i love him he started laughing because he would get in trouble ” Then he said were friends right? I said no I wouldn’t send a message like that. Then we still was on the topic of weight loss and what types of food were eating etc. Then I asked him do he like water and lemon? He said “HE LIKES EVERYTHING!!! And he winked his left eye at me and 2x in in the same day he reached out to.shake my hand. Can you tell me what’s REALLY going on with This situation?

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        April 28, 2019 at 8:09 pm

        He has informed you that he is married. It is acceptable to remain friends with him, but do not attempt to maintain a romantic relationship with him. It is always beneficial to share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. If his relationship ends in the future and he reaches out to you, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at that time. Have a great day, Mindy!

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