How To Tell If a Guy Likes You

By on May 28, 2014

At one point or another, every woman has asked herself: Does he like me? It’s one of the most confusing, annoying, and nervous questions we can ask ourselves, but it’s something we are constantly trying to figure out. Make this question a bit more easy and get the answer you need with these 25 ways to tell if he really likes you- or sees you just as a friend.

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 1. He Seems to Smile at You. A Lot.

Don’t get me wrong. There’s always those people out there who smile at everybody and everything. They’ll smile at strangers, they’ll smile at the silliest jokes- they’ll even smile during a physics quiz. If you’re talking to a guy who has one of those never-ending smiles, he might just be doing what’s natural to him by smiling at you often.

But let’s face it: most people aren’t like that. If you catch him smiling at you often, it may be a sign that he’s into you and the sight of your face brings a smile to his lips. Pay close attention to his smile, too. Is it one of those fake, forceful smiles? Or is it a genuine smile full of love? This will really help you determine whether or not it’s a true, “I like you” smile.

2. The First Form of Flirting: Teasing

Remember back in the day on the school yard when boys would chase the girls and call them names, and everyone said it’s because he likes you? It may seem so kindergarten, but even in our later years men still use teasing as a form of flirting. If he (playfully) teases you often, then it could be a sign he’s going back to his roots and using teases to show he’s interested in you. Of course, if he is just being flat out rude about something than he’s probably not into you- in a girlfriend or a friend way- and I suggest you run for the hills.

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 3. Flirty Compliments That Leave You Blushing

On the other hand, maybe you’re talking to a guy who’s matured past the teasing tricks and actually knows how to flirt. If he compliments you a lot- whether it’s a simple compliment about how nice your hair looks that day or how great you performed your oral presentation- it’s probably a definite sign that he’s interested in you.

I mean, yes- it’s completely true that people will compliment each other on a job well done or a nice t-shirt. But a compliment is one thing, a flirt is another. Surely you can tell the difference by the way it’s said and what words are used. For example:

Regular compliment: I like your shirt! (Pat on the back.)

Flirty compliment: That shirt looks great on you. (Smile)

See the difference?

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 4. Playful, Accidental Touching

When you like someone, you want to be close to them. That’s just nature! If you find your guy friend playfully or accidentally touching you on a regular basis, it could just be his way of trying to get close to you. Some examples of playful or accidental touching would include:

-Running up behind you and picking you up for a fun hug.

-‘Accidentally’ brushing your hand while the two of you work on a project together.

-Wanting to play a silly game like thumb wars or arm wrestling.

-Patting you on your thigh after talking to you while sitting down.

 5. Men Hate Phone Calls. But He Doesn’t?

We all know how much men hate to talk on the phone. When you ask them to call you, it’s like pulling teeth. Or perhaps even a root canal. Without any medication for numbing. (Yes, it’s that bad sometimes, right ladies?). But for some reason he will call you completely out of the blue, just to talk. And he actually enjoys it and says he’s had a nice time talking to you. No, he hasn’t been abducted by space aliens that changed the wiring in his brain. It’s as simple as this: man likes woman, man goes to great lengths to show that he cares. Which brings us to the random phone calls where you spend 6 hours talking about movies, sports, music, clothes, school, celebrities- whatever. So go ahead, pick up the phone. He surely didn’t call you because he hates talking to you!

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6. Not Just Your Basic Text Messages

So not every guy will suddenly enjoy talking on the phone because he likes you, or maybe he’s just too busy to call you. Insert: text messages, the most convenient way to talk to another human being.

So you say he’s texting you often, hmm? Well let me ask you a question first before we jump to any conclusions. Is he texting you the basic texts like, “When are you going to be here?” or “Can I borrow your homework?” or anything along those lines? Or is texting you just because? If he’s sending you good morning texts, asking how you’re doing or what you’re up to, or trying to start an actual conversation over a text message, it may be a sign he is interested. Again, let’s do a quick example.

Friendly text: “Hey, are you coming to Mark’s party?”

Flirty text: “Hey Molly. How are you doing? I was wondering if you were going to go to Mark’s party. Can’t wait to see you!”

 7. Pay Attention to His Grammar

When a guy likes a girl, he tries to impress her- we all know that! But sometimes it’s not always about incredible out of this world gestures to grab our attention and impress us, and that’s why we need to pay attention to details. If he tends to talk in slang often but really tries hard to use proper grammar and punctuation when talking/messaging you, it could be a simple sign he’s trying to impress you with his mind. Here’s an example, using the text messages used in number 6:

Friendly text: “Wassup u coming to Mark’s party?”

Flirty text: “Hey Molly. How are you doing? I was wondering if you were going to go to Mark’s party. Can’t wait to see you!”

Note how he is using bad grammar in the first text, while the second text is not only significantly longer by texting standards, but also uses proper grammar and punctuation. See ladies, even something as simple and subtle as this could be a definite sign he likes you and wants you to notice how smart he is.

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8. Even Social Media Can Be a Hint!

Whether you’re both on MySpace, Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram (or any other popular social media networking site), if he likes your post often, it could be a sign that he likes you. Sure we sometimes just go scrolling down our newsfeed liking pictures we think are cute or interesting, but if he has made it a goal to like almost all of your posts, from pictures to status updates, he might be trying to show you that he cares. If he sends you comments on your posts often, that’s just another great sign he might be interested in you!

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9. Make it or Break it: Eye Contact

You’ve probably heard this over and over again, but eye contact is ridiculously important, from first dates to job interviews. If you notice he’s looking at you often and makes it a point to have eye contact with you while the two of you are talking, this not only means he likes what he sees but is trying to get you to notice him as well.

Friend: Will obviously talk to you, but will probably be looking around the room or interrupting your conversation to holler at another friend. He probably won’t randomly stare at you with hearts in his eyes, either.

More than a friend: Will make it a point to focus on you and only you during conversation, and you will probably catch him staring at you often. (And he might have his jaw dropped sometimes, too- it happens).

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10. Him? Sophisticated and Mature? No Way!

So he is the kind of guy to make crude jokes and mess around with his guy friends at all times. Even when there is a girl present he won’t mind being his goofy, totally immature and somewhat nasty self. But when you are around, everything changes. Suddenly he turns into a somewhat sophisticated man who is reserved and respectful, and might even tell his friends to stop with the crude humor while a lady is present. This, my friends, is one of the easiest ways to tell if a guy is interested in you. After all, he doesn’t want you to think he’s some disgusting pig with no respect for woman, so he knows to turn it off when you come around. You should not only feel honored that someone would do that for you, but feel confident in knowing what his intentions are.

11. Girl? What Girl?

When you are friends with a guy, you get used to that fact that they will probably be checking out females often. They might even make a remark to you about how cute they think the girl that just walked by is. And they won’t have a problem telling you that they’re planning on seeing Samantha from the coffee shop down the road. But if he’s interested in you and wants to be more than friends, you won’t hear a single peep out of him with regards to another female. In fact, you might notice a pretty girl walking by quicker than he does.

If you notice he doesn’t really say anything about girls or dating anyone anytime soon, you might want to ask him if he is interested in anyone. His answer will say it all!

12. Curious About Your Relationship Status

When you’re just friends, it really doesn’t matter whether you are married with three kids or never been on a date in your life. Nobody really asks, and why should they? The two of you just go out as friends having a good time- nothing else. But if your guy friend wants to know about your relationship status is or if you’re interested in anyone, he could be trying to ease his way into becoming your boyfriend. If he asks you what a guy would have to do to get you to be his girlfriend, you can definitely take this as a sign he wants you as more than just a friend.

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13. “We Should Be Together. Just Kidding…”

Have you ever heard that saying that the biggest lie you could ever tell is just kidding? It seems like adding ‘just kidding’ to the end of something serious automatically turns it into an untrue, laughable joke. But the fact of the matter is, 99 percent of the time when someone says they’re just kidding about something, they really aren’t.

That being said, if your guy pal kids about you and him being an item, he might actually want it to happen. For example:

The two of you are playing video games and suddenly start laughing out loud about a joke only the two of you would find funny. As the wave of laughter comes to an end, he jokingly says “We would make the perfect couple.” Let’s face it ladies, he probably isn’t joking. And if this kind of thing happens somewhat often, I’d take that as a definite sign he wants you.

14. Where Are You Two Going?

Pay close attention to where you guys go. Do you do the basic friend thing, like go to parties together, hang out downtown, or do a lot of other group activities with the rest of your friends? Or are your hangouts a bit more romantic, with just the two of you? If the bulk of your adventures are done in group, you’re probably just friends- or he is trying not to be so obvious. But if he asks you to do a lot of one on one things, he might be trying to get to know you better and see if the two of you are a match made in heaven.

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15. Oh, You Shouldn’t Have!

There is a huge, huge, huge difference between doing a friend a favor, and doing something especially sweet for someone. If he gave you a ride home from work one day, I wouldn’t get carried away and assume he likes you. But if he does a lot of nice things for you on a regular basis, like buying you those special shoes you couldn’t afford or offering to pick you up from work every single night, there might be more to it than just a friendly gesture. Pay close attention to this, as this can sometimes get confusing. You wouldn’t want to mistake kindness for love!

16. Your Knight in Shining Armor

It’s the male instinct to protect the woman you love- and if you notice he is acting more like your knight in shining armor than your best guy friend, it’s a possibility he’s into you. It could be as simple as telling some people to stop saying mean things about you to completely going berserk on a guy who shoved you in public. Whatever his knightly duty was, don’t take it lightly. He not only did this to protect you, but impress you and show he cares for you and your safety.

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17. The Green Monster Pays a Visit

When you like someone, you get jealous- that’s nature. Whether it’s an innocent flirt or they are talking about being with someone else, the little green monster pops his head up instantly. If he gets jealous about you talking with other guys or mentioning other guys, this is a definite clue he likes you.

18. Remembering the Finest Details

Remember when you told him you broke your arm when you were 5? Yeah, he just so happened to remember that. He also remembers about that silly joke you said a couple months back that had him rolling on the floor laughing during the Christmas party. Men are notorious at forgetting things, especially the fine details. If he seems to remember all that and more, this is a serious sign he is interested in you and actually listens when you talk to him.

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19. Are You Impressed Yet?

As we’ve said so many times before (and you’ve probably known for quite some time), men love to impress females- especially ones they are interested in. If he seems to try to impress you, whether it’s with his clothing or picking up a giant boulder *right in front of you*, he’s probably trying to get you to notice him in a way other than friendly.

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20. Need Any Help With That?

This kind of goes hand in hand with doing favors for you more than the average friend. But if he seems willing to do certain tasks- even the most boring or hard like changing your oil or fixing your broken glass window- this is a sure sign he likes you. Plus he gets to show off how manly and handy he is. Double win!

21Just a Few More Minutes..

At the end of the night or a conversation with a friend, it’s usually easy to say goodbye. But when you’re interested in someone, you never want it to end. You could be together all night long, not saying a word, and it would be the best thing ever. If he always tries to spend more time with you or stay on the phone just a bit longer, he’s probably very interested in you.

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22. Asking Friends and Family for Help

There is no better way to get to know someone than by asking around. If he’s asked your friends and family members questions trying to get to know you better, I’d take that as a very obvious sign he is wanting to be more than friends. Some common questions he might ask those closest to you include the following:

-Does she have a boyfriend?

-What kind of guys is she interested in?

-What are some of her favorite things to do?

-Any idea what her dream date is like?

Don’t be surprised if someone close to you says so and so has been asking questions. It’s not weird, he just really wants to know more about you and surprise you with something he knows you would absolutely love. That’s great investigating and really shows that he’ll go the extra mile to learn about you!

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23. A Kiss to Remember

Your guy friend just kissed you. Like, woah. Completely out of nowhere. You two were walking home from the party and he grabbed you and kissed you. You were left completely speechless. And, you know what, this really doesn’t need further explanation. Either he was drunk out of his mind or he’s been wanting to kiss you for awhile.

24. “I Like You.”

If he flat out tells you he likes you, then, well, he likes you. And that’s that. No more questioning or wondering. It’s pretty much all on the table at that point, and it’s up to you to decide how you will react. At least you won’t have that lingering question in the back of your mind, right? Even if it’s totally awkward, it’s a huge relief off of your shoulders- and that’s something to be thankful about. Let’s just hope the guy you’re friends with has the guts to come out and tell it like it is! (Yes, men, we totally appreciate a guy who does this. Be brave!)

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 25. JUST ASK HIM

That’s right. Sometimes enough is enough and you just need ANSWERS. If he isn’t budging, just ask him to tell you so you can quit wondering.

It can be torture sitting around wondering if your guy pal wishes the two of you were ‘more than friends’. It doesn’t have to be hard, though. With subtle hints like playfully teasing and touching to going out of his way to do you awesome favors, there’s plenty of ways you can put your curiosity to rest- and possibly land yourself a boyfriend.

 

Ladies- what are some great ways a guy friend has proven to you that he wants to be more than friends?

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    Madison

    February 21, 2019 at 6:59 am

    My crush is always looking at me and staring at me. He’ll smile at me too. Sometimes his friends push him into me and his face will be red and he’ll say, “I’m so sorry.” And he’s always showing off in front of me. He knows I like him but he occasionally talks to me. He’ll accidentally touch me too.

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      February 21, 2019 at 6:50 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he may be interested in nourishing a relationship with you. His friend’s behaviors are signs that they are aware of your crush’s feelings for you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with you in person. Have a great day, Madison!

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        Madison

        February 22, 2019 at 8:22 am

        My crush even will watch me play volleyball in our gym class and he’ll smile when watching me. Basically with everything we do in gym he watches me. He’ll go out of his way just to see where I am when we have to run.

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          February 22, 2019 at 8:54 pm

          Your crush pays attention to you, and this may be an indication of his feelings. He may want to get to know you better. He may be uncertain or confused about your feelings for him. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Madison!

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            Madison

            February 24, 2019 at 10:54 am

            Okay, thank you so much! It helped a lot!

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              February 24, 2019 at 2:21 pm

              Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Madison!

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    Areej

    January 19, 2019 at 9:52 am

    Thanks for this article, it helped a lot.
    I moved schools this year and at first I was really lonely but I made friends with a group of classmates and I instantly became close friends with on guy who was really fun and nice to me. We were really good friends at first and over the months I got to really know him and consider him like my brother. He told me he had a crush on my friend for a while but after that they got in a fight and he told me he hated her. I really think he likes me more than a bff. He always smiles whenever I talk to him and he flirts with me in a cute way. He calls me beautiful and always compliments anything I do. When we text we usually talk for hours until we fall asleep and he always texts me good morning and good night. He told me I love u before but then he said ” not that way though “.
    I’m really confused. I like him a lot but not as my boyfriend. His best friend asked me out but he got really mad and told me that his best friend would hurt me if I dated him. What should I do?

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      January 20, 2019 at 2:49 pm

      You have made new friendships and social relationships. Your response to your friend’s best friend was appropriate. You may want to speak with your friend about your thoughts and feelings. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what you believe is most appropriate. Nourish your relationship with the people in your life by spending additional time with them in person. Have a great day, Areej!

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    Cyan Cerulean

    January 18, 2019 at 4:37 pm

    Hi!
    I read this, but I’m still confused.
    Okay, so, there’s this guy.
    We met this year, and became friends pretty quickly. We’re pretty close.
    I, as you probably expect, like him… lol
    He recently broke up with his girlfriend (who’s one of my friends), and she said it was because “he wasn’t ready for a relationship with her”.
    I don’t really understand if that means that he’s not ready for any relationships or if he simply wasn’t ready for a relationship, period…
    Anyway, so I catch him looking at me sometimes during class. He talks to me a lot, and we have a bunch of inside jokes. He laughs even when what I said was totally corny and isn’t even funny. He seems to like talking to me a lot.
    I guess that’s sort of “friends”, but there’s more.
    He always seems to (literally) want to be close to me.
    Every time I’m standing somewhere, he seems to subconsciously gravitate over to where I’m standing. When we’re working on things together, he leans in really close and looks me in the eyes. He’ll stand really close to me in general, and he often faces his entire body to face me. When he passes things to me, our hands often “accidentally” brush. He sometimes finds random excuses to touch me.
    He often flirts with me, too, and more than other people…
    I know that these are all signs that he likes me; however, he doesn’t seem to trust me entirely. He tells more things to this other girl that I think he might like, and they’ve been friends for longer. However, he doesn’t flirt with her, at least, not like he does with me, and he doesn’t seem to act the way he does around me with anyone else.
    I keep telling myself, “Oh, he likes me!” And all the signs point to it. However, I can’t help but think that perhaps not…
    … HELP
    Lol

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      January 19, 2019 at 12:58 am

      It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He recently ended his relationship with your friend, which means that if you maintain a relationship with him, then it may influence your relationship with your friend. Determine what you believe is appropriate. Speak with your friend about your thoughts and feelings. You will also want to speak with your crush about your ideas as well. Have a great day, Cyan!

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        Cyan Cerulean

        January 20, 2019 at 9:45 am

        Good day to you, too! Thanks!

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    Roxanne

    December 27, 2018 at 10:02 am

    Well I have a bit of an issue here and I hope you could help me figure it out somehow so there’s this guy he sure stares a lot and catches me off guard sometimes and he likes to look at me when I’m doing something and when I look at him he looks away. I’ve attempted to look at him when he’s looking but I break eye contact I figured if I do it he can come and talk to me. so we’re in the same university for 3 years now and he hasn’t even talked to me not even once. If he’s interested why doesn’t he show it it’s been 3 years and what’s even worse is that he has a posy full of girls actually I’ve never seen him with any male friends he’s always sitting with his girl- friends he doesn’t have a real girlfriend it seem I kinda like him it’s just that I’m really confused when has all of those friends why does he keep looking at me and observing me and trying to listen to me if I’m speaking to someone else he likes to sit next to me not close but in the same row for instance or behind/ in front of me. I don’t know what to feel I’m really distracted by him he’s really charming when he’s alone but with his friends around he’s a douchebag i try to show no interest in him no direct eye contact I’m trying but my heart is telling me something and my mind is telling me something completely different . So what’s your take on this ? I don’t want to be the one who approaches him given that he has an attitude and he’s got a bit of a reputation you know to stay away from him when my friends ask me i tell them that i don’t like him when I’m lying I just keep lying to myself and everyone around me i can’t keep doing this anymore sometimes he shows interest sometimes he doesn’t I’m tired of his games and it’s been 3 years already I won’t be waiting around for ever

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      December 27, 2018 at 9:22 pm

      You have explained that he treats you poorly when with his friends. If he is nice to you when alone, but rude to you in social groups, then he is not the type of person that you want to develop a relationship with. Determine what type of person you want to maintain a relationship with. Perhaps speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Roxanne!

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    Lani

    December 22, 2018 at 12:19 pm

    So I’m not sure what to think now. This guy friend of mine was showing signs of possibly liking me, but now I am so confused. He was complementing me, walked me home so I didn’t have to walk alone, comforted me when I was feeling scared, smiled at me when I walked in the room came to my aid in any way he could when I was struggling in a family crisis and tells me his secrets. Now, it seems like he’s avoiding me a bit and I’m wondering if I did something to hurt him. His family always wants me to come over and hunts I should quite a bit. Am I missing something here? I can be very obvious to a guy who likes me and then be completely caught off guard when he confesses he does. I’d love some insight. People have noticed my feelings for him, even a friend of my brother’s who I don’t talk to much and is like a somewhat brother to me.

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    Lani

    December 21, 2018 at 1:02 pm

    So my guy friend came out as gay a few months ago and I admit that I was surprised and a little confused. He had been showing signs of having a crush on me. He would complement me,smile when he sees me, tells me secrets he’s never told anyone else, told his mom (who I’m good friends with) to hug me in my time of family crisis, said he wished he could hug me, remembers my birthday, eye contact and has even walked me home before. So here’s the deal,now I’m very confused. Was I looking too much into it and he’s just an overall good guy? Or is there possibly something going on in that head of his? I backed off when he announced he was gay since I was possible he only liked guys. I’m not sure what to do now.

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      December 22, 2018 at 12:38 pm

      You and him share a strong social and emotional connection. He has treated you with kindness and respect throughout your relationship. He shared this personal trait with you because he expected you to accept him. Allow this experience to influence you to strengthen your relationship. Spend additional time with him in person, and continue to treat him with respect and love. Have a great day, Lani!

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    divergentforever

    December 8, 2018 at 6:12 am

    Okay, so I like this one guy at my school, and he randomly smiles and stares at me. he’s dating but said he might break up with his girl friend last week. once during lunch he got up from his chair to get something from the snack line and smiled and looked at me when he walked past. I looked down because his girlfriend was watching. he could have chosen a different aile but he choose the one I was sitting on the edge to. he compliemted me on my art skills when he asked me to help him with his. (which I did of course) what does this mean?

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      web admin

      December 8, 2018 at 5:13 pm

      Your interaction with this person indicates your social connection with him. However, you are aware that he is in a relationship. Do not attempt to maintain a romantic relationship with him at this time. There is no benefit to be gained by attempting to harm his current relationship. If the relationship ends, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Divergent!

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    Denise

    December 2, 2018 at 1:13 pm

    Hi!
    There’s this guy whose been in one of my classes who I sit next to. When we got talkative in class a girl joked that I should stop flirting & we both went silent at her comment. I’ve noticed a pattern of him staring right into my eyes when talking to me, when we pass by each other he only smiles or clicks his tongue and he looks away when I catch him staring. He’s also done little stuff like leaning in when he couldn’t hear me properly and initiating conversations. There was this time we were standing next to each other in a moving train on a school trip and instead of holding on to a handle he stood there with his hands crossed which I jokingly questioned him about.
    Despite me being friendly and making jokes with him, he doesn’t seem to open up the idea of hanging outside class or getting to know each other. Am I overthinking or could there be something more?

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      December 2, 2018 at 8:26 pm

      It is possible that he is a friendly and attentive person. His behaviors may be indications that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. He may feel shy or confused about your feelings toward him. Spend additional time with him in person, as this will nourish your relationship. Have a great day, Denise!

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    lillian haddon

    November 15, 2018 at 7:45 pm

    a guy at school said that he wants me in his group and was practically begging the teacher and said please she’s super smart but he act different around all the other girls like he talks to them more but one run in gym me and hum just stoped for a second and looked directly into eachothers eyes and just smiled no talking then just went back to normal what do these mean

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      November 16, 2018 at 8:17 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he feelings a strong social and emotional connection with you. He wants to spend more time with you in person. He enjoys speaking with you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lillian!

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      rebbecca forman

      November 30, 2018 at 9:39 pm

      my best guy friend did that and i told him that i was sad and straight up hugged and kissed me on the cheek like i didnt want to end

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        December 2, 2018 at 12:44 pm

        Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. Please share more of your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Rebbecca!

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    AllButterfliedUp

    November 13, 2018 at 3:00 pm

    Guy #1 he’s in my gym class and he’s cute, popular and we’re partners for Archery. Yesterday he playfully hit/tapped my back with his foot, but did the same to somebody else. Today I’m up to shoot, and he crosses the waiting line to stand behind me, says” your holding it wrong” and recorrects the arrow. I like him, and We don’t have long conversations.

    Guy #2 I was his first friend in 9th grade(which were in) and he has one of those contagious goofy smiles that I can’t help but smile back. He is a bit pale, and his cheeks are red/pinkish, but idk if he’s blushing or not. I also like this one. I asked him out to hoco, and he said yes, then I avoided him. Now before you make assumptions. I always find it hard to talk to him, and butterflies in stomach 🦋 and I regret doing that.

    I like both of them, and I find myself staring during the time I’m with them. I catch a glimpse of both boys looking at me.

    Can you help me figure it out?
    Thanks

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      web admin

      November 13, 2018 at 8:12 pm

      It is likely that both of these boys may be interested in nourishing a relationship with you. You will find that your relationships will be strengthened as you spend additional time with them in person. The first one may be interested in various people, and is searching for someone who is interested in establishing a committed relationship. The second likely cares deeply for you, as you share a long social history. Continue to share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will bring you great benefit. Have a great day, Butterfly!

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    AllButterfliedUp

    November 13, 2018 at 2:32 pm

    Hiya!
    I’m in 9th grade, (freshman) in high school. There’s two guys that I like. #1 is in my gym class, and #2 is in my classes.

    Guy number one: he’s that popular guy that flirts(I think) with the girls in the class regularly(sometimes) and we’re partners for archery. Yesterday he was done with his shooting and I was on the ground with my friend. He walked past me and kicked my back (not that hard) playfully? I think. And he did the same to some other girl further away. Then todayyy I was up to shoot, and (we’re supposed to be behind a line if your not shooting) and he crossed the line and stood directly behind me, and said, “your holding that wrong” and I thought he was talking about the bow, “no I’m not” “Yah it’s supposed to be like this” and he turned the arrow, (while I was still holding it). And he keeps on giving me high fives, saying “great job so&so” and whatnot. I get the butterflies in my stomach when I have a conversation with him. So I usually keep it real short.

    Guy #2 so I’ve known this one longer then the first one. He said that I was the first person he met in 9th. He has that crazy wicked grin that’s contagious😋 and I always smile whenever he does. I asked him out to hoco and then avoided him. Idk why but I regret it. It’s just that I get butterflies or whatnot in my stomach whenever I try to talk to him. I like him as a friend. I always catch a glimpse of him, staring/looking at me.

    What does this mean?
    Thanks
    -AllButterfliedUp

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 13, 2018 at 8:12 pm

      It is likely that both of these boys may be interested in nourishing a relationship with you. You will find that your relationships will be strengthened as you spend additional time with them in person. The first one may be interested in various people, and is searching for someone who is interested in establishing a committed relationship. The second likely cares deeply for you, as you share a long social history. Continue to share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will bring you great benefit. Have a great day, Butterfly!

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    Kayla

    November 9, 2018 at 6:16 pm

    I’m in 10th grade and on the yearbook staff so I have to go in other classes to get people and interview and you know do yearbook stuff so this one class I’ve had to go in multiple times and there’s this guy there and the first time I went in there he was looking me up and down and said hey when I came in and then when I was leaving he was looking me up and down again and said he liked my shoes then when I went in there today I was in the door way and he said you can’t speak so I said hey why would he act like this I’m pretty sure he doesn’t know my name he’s a junior and tbh he’s not really my type but I’d still go with him because he seems like an okay guy and he’s on the football team it’d be fun to date and older guy and a football player

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      web admin

      November 11, 2018 at 10:29 pm

      He is physically attracted to you. He may be interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what behaviors you believe are appropriate. Either speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, or focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Kayla!

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    Lola

    October 30, 2018 at 12:13 am

    Hi. What does it mean if a guy that walked past you gives you a proper brief smile that just lights up your day? It’s not flirty or creepy. I’m not sure what this means. Could you tell me plz?

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      web admin

      October 30, 2018 at 8:15 pm

      His smile may have been out of friendship, appreciation, or attraction. He may be interested in speak with you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. You may want to behave in a manner that you feel is an appropriate way to share your feelings, perhaps my smiling or starting a conversation. Have a great day, Lola!

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    Luna

    August 27, 2018 at 5:57 pm

    So I’m going to tell the story in chronological order so it makes sense.

    On the first day of school this year, I had a class that I was retaking from freshman year (don’t ask lol) and I was very upset to be a senior in a class full of freshman. We had to go to the library to get out textbooks for the class but I didn’t know if we were going inside or just to the window so I turned around and asked the guy behind me where we were going and he said he didn’t know either so he went and asked. He came back and told me we were going inside and then when I said thanks he said, “No problem, and by the way my name is ******,” and held out his hand. I said, “Very nice to meet you, my name is Luna,” and we shook hands and made eye contact but when we did, it was like the whole world froze and it was just him and me for a second. I swear it was like a movie moment. Then someone broke us out of our trance asking where we were going and we both let go and sort of blushed and started walking to the library together. After a few seconds of silence he started up a conversation and we hit it off pretty well. Time skip a few days later and it seemed like we were on our way to dating so I mustered up the courage to ask him if he wanted to hang out and he said sure why not. Later that night he texted me asking if I meant a date or just hanging out as friends. I asked him what he wanted it to be and he said he was fine with either so I said it’s a date and that I wished he knew how afraid I was of his response and he said he wished I knew how afraid he was to ask. It seems like every day we see each other in that class, he’s super nice and flirty with me, I sit behind him so he’ll sometimes turn around and smile at me so that I smile back and other times lean his head back and I poke his nose.

    So basically him and I are totally flirting. But we haven’t had a chance to go on a date yet because we both have things going on outside of school (he’s in theatre and I’m a cheerleader). I just don’t know if he’s really nice and doesn’t want to hurt my feelings or if he genuinely likes me… Help?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 28, 2018 at 8:29 pm

      It sounds as though he generally is interested in developing a relationship with you. The two of you share a strong social and emotional connection. He likely enjoys your company. He has shared that he he is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Attempt to make time to spend time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Luna!

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    Sunny

    July 28, 2018 at 6:16 am

    Hello,
    There is a guy which I think I have feelings for. We have been friends since very very young. He is quite a shy person, so I am usually the one going up to him to start a conversation. His face brightens up and smiles when I approach him to talk and he seems interested every time with what I have to say. We sometimes message each other, but again, it’s usually me who starts talking first. When he does message first, it’s often about something he found interesting or funny, or a song which he wants me to listen to. He is really kind and tries to get back to me as soon as possible when I ask for his help. Around his friends, he is a lot less shy, but whenever I am around, he changes his behaviour and becomes conscious about the way he acts and what he says. Am I thinking too much because he is very introverted? I don’t really want to be together at the moment. I just want to know what he might be feeling.
    Thank you!

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 30, 2018 at 8:01 pm

      He feels a strong emotional and social connection with you. The two of you are close friends, so these feelings may naturally developed. He may be shy. He also be be confused or uncertain about your feelings towards him. He purposefully attempts be aware of his actions when he is around you. If he is introverted, then he may have difficulty reaching out to you. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Sunny!

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    Jessica

    July 9, 2018 at 6:05 am

    There’s a guy I like in my class and I don’t know if he likes me back… He’s underneath me in my locker and we always acadently touch, He sometimes puts his hand into my locker and I have to grab his hand, we nearly hold hands, but he never makes me let go, we always make eyecontact in class and we never let it go for a while – Theres no other signs, does he like me or should I just give this up?

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 9, 2018 at 4:45 pm

      His behaviors may be indications that he is interested in developing a relationship. The two of you are thinking about each other. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps attempt to spend additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Jessica!

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    Marisol

    June 19, 2018 at 1:09 am

    So I broke up with my ex BF around September and he moved on with this other girl. I honestly never lost feelings for him but I had accepted the fact that he had moved on. Me and him have a lot of history, 3 years of on and off. My friends have been telling me that he looks at me for a quick second and turns around. And many people have told me he started going out with that girl was because he wanted to make me jealous. At first I was really happy he still liked me but then I heard that he was talking bad about me and that he regretted me going out with him. I don’t know if he likes me or if he is just messing with me. Any idea ?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 19, 2018 at 10:33 pm

      The two of you decided to end your relationship. He is in a new relationship. Do not attempt to harm his relationship. If she speaks with you, then share your kindness and compassion with him. If his relationship ends and you want to nourish a relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. As long as he is in a relationship, you should determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Marisol!

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    Alisson

    May 21, 2018 at 9:38 am

    So I’ve known this boy at school since we were in kindergarten and my friends asked if he would dance with me at the school dance and he said yes. My friends asked him a second time and he told them he said no in the first place. He looks at me in art and whenever I talk he looks up at me. I’m not sure if he likes me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 21, 2018 at 10:14 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you, but that he is also shy or confused about his feelings. Your friends speaking with him may have caused him to feel uncertain about your feelings toward him. You will find great benefit in speaking with him about your thoughts and feelings. A personal conversation will help nourish this relationship. Have a great day, Alisson!

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      Brittany

      May 28, 2018 at 8:07 pm

      Ok so there is this boy that I’ve known since we were 3 and goes to my church. He always takes my phone, teases me, and comments stuff like “eww” on my insta pics. I don’t make any moves he always comes up to me and does those things. What does that mean?

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 28, 2018 at 8:22 pm

        The two of you have a long social history. Because the two of you go to the same church, it is likely that your social group will approve of this relationship. It is possible that he is teasing you when he says “eww”. He likely wants to pretend that he is not interested in developing a relationship with you until he is certain about your feelings toward him. Determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Brittany!

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    Cassie

    March 10, 2018 at 11:11 am

    Oh my gosh so there’s this guy that I meant last year at school and we hit it off really well but we were just more of acquaintances and sometimes we would talk in the one class we had together. Fast forward to this year and he says, “Hey Cassie,” to me always without fail whenever he sees me in the halls and sometimes if he sees me waiting for my sister to leave school after sixth hour (cause my school has 7 periods but I leave an hour early everyday) he’ll come up to me and talk to me for like five minutes, even though he was on his way to class. He also has said things about how he respects me, I’m smart, and he even sort of teased me about my height. My sister saw him leaving to go to his seventh hour class the other day and she said how he was smiling when he left, so does he like me or is he just a friendly guy? (And he doesn’t have social media so we don’t follow each other on anything.)

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      web admin

      March 10, 2018 at 8:54 pm

      It is possible that he is friendly. It is certainly possible that he feels a strong connection with you. He may want to develop a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Cassie!

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    Fiona

    February 26, 2018 at 7:54 pm

    Hey!

    So here’s a little background story.

    So me and this guy were friends, and I soon started developing feelings for him so I took the risk and asked him out and well he didn’t say anything. The next day he ignores me, THATS RIGHT ignores me, he could have just said straightforward he doesn’t like me. He ignored me for an year leaving me crying and confused saying to myself its my fault I ruined our friendship.

    ~~~~~~~~

    So now he causally walked back in my life, talking to me like we’re still friends, and I ignore him cause I don’t want to deal with him, I show him every sign that I don’t want him and he should leave me the heck alone and he doesn’t understand, he keeps talking to me.

    He always stands near me in line which makes me so nervous that I walk to the back of the line.

    He finds a way that I would be face to face with him like standing near my desk so that I HAVE to come across him

    His ex (who’s my best friend) says that he never gets offended, he finds everything hilarious not giving two stars about my feelings, all he cares about I say memes, and Vsauce and Fortnite.

    Why is he coming in my life, he hurt me and my signs are crystal clear that I don’t want him but his too dumb to see them. Why does he stand near me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 26, 2018 at 10:10 pm

      He is attempting to manipulate you. Continue to protect yourself from him. His actions are a sign that he ma be abusive. Speak with a teacher or counselor about your concerns if he continues or becomes aggressive. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Fiona!

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        Fiona

        February 27, 2018 at 3:09 pm

        By abusive what to do you mean? And I keep protecting myself from him but he always comes in my way teasing me like he used to when we were friends. It’s hard to move away cause he’s in my class this year and I hate it. Sometimes he teases me, talks to me, and sometimes he just ignores me giving me the cold shoulder back WHAT DOES HE WANT FROM ME??

        • web admin

          web admin

          March 1, 2018 at 8:39 pm

          He is highly confused or uncertain about his thoughts and feelings regarding you. Regardless, his actions are unusual and occasionally unpleasant. You may find benefit in avoiding him if possible. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this social relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Fiona!

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