When a Guy Blocks You: What Does It Mean and What to Do
One of the worst things about social media is the fact that you can be deleted and blocked from someone’s life without so much as a second thought, in less time than it takes to blink. To be so happy in love one minute, only to find that you can’t even see your BAE’s Facebook or Instagram page the next; there’s only one thing to do when you’ve been blocked by your guy …
Don’t React
Of course, there are a hundred and one ways of dealing with this particular situation, but one thing is for certain — he’s mad or sad and needs a little time. He’s *that* mad he doesn’t even want to see your social media accounts, let alone speak to you. If the two of you try to communicate on any level there’s a good chance the situation will just get worse … and more heated. You’ll both say things that you didn’t mean but the other person won’t be able to forget that you ever said them and that little lover’s tiff you had has the potential to turn into something deeply troubling. Perhaps even relationship-ending.
When a guy blocks you, give him some space. Let him have some time to think and relax. If the two of you have come to blows, chasing him further is just going to chase him away. You shouldn’t beg for his time, nor should you keep chasing him for it. If he doesn’t want you in his life right now, get on with yours.
- Get the girls around and have some drinks and a movie.
- Invite your parents around for dinner and a catchup.
- Go to the gym like you keep saying you’re going to do, but never do.
- Do something else — don’t pine for him, don’t sit and wait for him, just get on with your life and let things play out just as they’re going to.
Don’t React Like This …
If he blocks you on Facebook, don’t message him on Instagram. He’ll block you on there too, and then you’ll need to resort to using Twitter. What if he blocks you there? Whatsapp next? Then iMessage? What about Skype?
If you keep going around the social media accounts, there’s a good chance he’ll just keep blocking you. Take the first blocking as a sign — this chap needs his space.
> > If he WANTS you to chase him around the various social media accounts to “prove” how much you’ll do for him, he’s playing games. You don’t need that drama in your life. Boy, bye! < <
While we’re on the subject of other things NOT to do, don’t scream and shout at him. We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again — he needs some space. Shouting and screaming at him is not giving him space. We know that you don’t want to lose your BAE, but hurling abuse at him is not going to keep him in your clutches.
One final point that we feel it is important to bring to your attention — stalking his social media accounts using your friend’s social media account is always a good idea in theory but usually ends up going wrong somewhere along the line. You will accidentally ‘like’ an update from months ago, for example, making him aware of EXACTLY what you’re doing. He’s going to know that it’s your best friend letting you use her account.
Do React Like This …
Spend some time on yourself — treating and loving yourself. Self-care is very underrated but oh-so-vital, and if he won’t love you in the way that you would like him to, perhaps it’s about time that you started to love yourself?
Treat yourself to a pamper weekend or have that extra slice of chocolate cake. You’ll add an extra half an hour on at the gym to compensate for it, right?
Get your hair done. Nails? Yeah, get a manicure while you’re there too. All of those things that you don’t seem to find the time to do anymore now that you’re in a relationship; that’s what you should be doing. Sitting around waiting for him to make that unblock call is probably just going to break your heart. As the saying goes, you should be with the guy who ruins your lipstick with kisses, not your mascara with tears.
When the time is right — when you have both calmed down — you can talk again, perhaps sort out the problems you had or have. But you do need to have calmed down first. You can’t solve an argument by starting a brand new one. You almost must remember that the resolution might not always be quite as you’d hoped.
Briella
August 3, 2019 at 1:17 pm
Wayback 2016, my boyfriend and i broke up bc he cheated on me. Then there’s a guy (Bryan) who approach me and we had a good time talking to each other. He knows that i just got a break up. And then after a month my ex approached me and sincerely asks for another chance. I gave my ex a chance and then we go back together. And then this guy (Bryan)who accompanied me before suddenly confess that he has feelings for me. I didn’t accept it and i said to him that my ex and i are back together. So after that I blocked him, for him not to chat me again. And then after 6months we’ve suddenly met and starting to talk to me again. We talk casually asking how we do now something like that. And that conversation just continue, but not as in everyday we talk to each other. Until we’ve meet up. We treat ourselves like we have a relationship. But we’re both not talking about those things. We just enjoy whats going on between us. And also i do have ldr relationship that before. And then at year 2018, i confess my feelings to the guy (Bryan) he didnt accept it because he says that i hurt him before and he couldn’t take it. It breaks me because we’ve been talking and going out together since 2017. So i accepted it. I didnt talk him again. And then after a month this guy ryan had a gf. So i think thats why he didint accept my feelings for him. And then after 3months this guy ryan he chatted me. Asking some things. Randomly chat me asking how am i. And then our convo goes a long way again. We almost flirted again. And then he always text me when his drunk. Asking me to go out with him. But i refuse because we are both still in a relationship . And its so wrong if i go out with him. And then our convo got into seasonal talking in 2019, but still this guy bryan tho he have gf already. Still drunk messaging me. Until one day this August 2019. He confessed that he miss me. And asking to go out with him. And all the things i am wondering before why he did not accept my feelings before something like that. He explain that i once dump him and it really breaks him. And said to me that he still misses me. I just couldn’t understand why he had to say that. He have gf already and i have bf too. But why he is keeping on sending drunk msg to me. Asking How i am and still asking to go out with him. So after that I message him immediately for us to be in good ways. I will block him. For us to stop the conversation we are having and we are so wrong bc we are both in a relationship but we still talk to each other. I also said that if we are really destined together it will come and it will make a way in the right now. But for now let’s stop this because we are both in relationship. Bryan accepted my decision to block him.
But now after 2days that i block him. I felt so guilty. I felt like i am so so bad person. That i treated him again in that way. Im going insane. Please help me.
web admin
August 3, 2019 at 10:08 pm
The two of you shared an emotional and social relationship. He felt that you hurt him, and your relationship ended. The two of you began speaking again, though you are both maintaining romantic relationships. You made the decision to block him, and he accepted your decision. You have made your feelings clear, and he likely feels hurt again. Allow thoughts of him to fade, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Nourish your relationship with your partner by spending additional time together in person. Have a great day, Briella!
Lisa
August 2, 2019 at 4:04 pm
I met a guy online, we got chatting and decided to meet up. The day came for us to meet and he never showed up, nor had the decency to tell me the date was off.. I decided to message him and I said I hope you find someone take care. He ignored me for 1 week then bolt out the blue he messaged apologising asking for a date. I stupidly said yes and we did go on a date and got on really well.
I however was annoyed that he was constantly online, whether it be dating websites or WhatsApp but it would take him hours to reply even when he wasn’t busy with work etc. I said to him, why are you always online but can’t reply to my messages and he said, take care I hope you find someone and that me and him aren’t well suited. I actually don’t understand what I have done wrong apart from ask him why he can’t reply and yet is always online. Do you think he will come back again? I feel really upset at myself for saying this to him but it’s just annoying when you see someone pop up online yet don’t have the decency to even open your message to read. I think he thinks I’m crazy…maybe I am but in my eyes when you start dating someone you should stop looking elsewhere. Do you think I’ve been unreasonable? Thanks.
web admin
August 2, 2019 at 9:25 pm
The two of you made a decision to meet up, and he chose to not meet up with you. Afterwards, the two of you went on a date together. It is clear that he is uncertain about what he wants for the future of this relationship. Your feelings about what is appropriate for a relationship that you want to maintain seems to be different than his feelings. Determine what type of relationship you want to maintain. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lisa!
Ela
July 30, 2019 at 3:45 am
Hey, very confused here. There’s this guy I used to text and call a lot, he used to text and call just as much for about 8months so I felt like we had a connection and decided to meet up at his place and we ended up hooking up after which conversations between us got so awkward and he even started ghosting and screening my messages which wasn’t the case before. I tried to keep up the vibe and not be wierd but he just blocked me, it’s been a week now, I feel like calling him but I think he may not want to speak to me or even pick up my call, what should I do?
web admin
July 30, 2019 at 1:14 pm
The two of you shared a strong social relationship. He made the decision to ghost and block you. There is no reason to reach out to him at this time. He had made his feelings clear regarding this relationship. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere, and determine what you want for your future without him. You will draw positive people and energy into your life by sharing your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Ela!
Maria
August 2, 2019 at 6:25 am
I have known this guy for 6 years. He was married and we had a fling but we both developed feelings for each other and I ended it about 4 years ago. I recently reached out to him because I was still feeling the same feelings for him even though I was married now. We made plans to divorce our spouses and we were planning for our future but all of a sudden I noticed he was acting shady and maybe did not finish with her like he said he did. When I confronted him he denied it and we did not speak for a few days and then I was blocked from all social media. What should I do?
web admin
August 2, 2019 at 8:26 pm
He has made the decision to block you. He had no intention of ending his marriage. He does not want to maintain a relationship with you. Allow thoughts of him to fade, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Maria!
Nysh
July 28, 2019 at 11:40 pm
I actually needed this advice
There’s this guy I liked when I was in school, after 2years we met again in Facebook, I told him that I like him on the day we met, he said he needs know me I said yes cause even I needed to know him
After a while he tried a test on me, he tried to make me jealous, I know that was his plan but still I got blinded by jealousy and kinda shouted at him through texting, he apologised and stopped talking after a month I complimented him which resulted in starting our daily convo again, recently he began opening up and talking more than before, we talked about our teachers, school etc. Then he asked if he was cute, I said yes, then we talked about something else, later while we are talking about stress he said he don’t stress cause he’ll loose his hair, and then he began empathising about him becoming bald, I also began telling my insecurities, he then asked me if I will call him ‘bro’ as in brozone i said no. later he showed me his friends profile and asked me are they cute?, I asked what is he trying to say he said he’s expecting a joke or compliment, I said why would I compliment a random stranger he didn’t reply so I continue and said I like him and said I don’t care how his friends look, he didn’t reply for a while later he sent me a meme it has a young couple with caption ‘I was watching Ben 10 at their age’. He sent that meme and message saying I still want to watch Ben 10. I told ‘sure, no one are forcing you to not to’ but he blocked me
He blocked me on every where possible, I sent text that I won’t message him again, even though he can’t see he’ll see when he unblock me
I didn’t cried anywhere in this rejection, I was frustrated and angry, I lowered my standards and he saw me cheaply, I just really wish my dumb won’t text or beg him again, I was the only person who apologised and him never, I hope I forget him and find someone who treats me right way
web admin
July 29, 2019 at 8:12 pm
The two of you maintained a social relationship. The two of you had various interactions and he made the decision to block you. He is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you. You are aware that you no longer want to nourish relationships with people like him in the future. You are aware of his behaviors, and you know how those behaviors influence a relationship. Keep these warning signs in mind, and apply that knowledge to your future relationships. Have a great day, Nysh!
Mim
July 28, 2019 at 5:02 pm
Hi I need I little help, today I was asked out by a guy at work, and I said yes, (apparently acording to my boss he had been plucking up the courage to ask me out for a while) when I go home from work i had a nap and when i got up he had messaged me saying how glad he was that he finally asked me, but when i tryed to messege back i couldn’t, i think he may have got scared when i didnt messege back strait away and has now blocked me, what should I do I don’t have his number and I’m not in work for another week, and there is no garrenty he’ll be in on the same day as me, I am at a loss
web admin
July 29, 2019 at 5:19 pm
He made the decision to block you, after your chose to ignore him. It seems that he is uncertain about your feelings toward him. It is unfortunate that he chose to block you, so determine what you want for your relationship. If you are aware that he will be at work before you return, then you should attempt to see him. Perhaps contact someone at your work to attempt to speak with him. Regardless of your decision, you should share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Mim!
helen
July 28, 2019 at 12:10 pm
Hey very confused girl right now, met a guy I wasn’t interested in anything serious and he said he was looking for if although he is known as a massive player and could have just been saying that. Spoke a lot met up a few times he told me he enjoyed spending time with me and i made it clear me and my ex had been split up for only a week. Anyway went downhill after he saw me with my ex on a night out, i realised i do have feelings for him but try to play it off. Weird experiences after for example him kissing other girls then looking at me whilst out and most recently i travelled to somewhere near where he lives for a night out and he must have seen i was there through location sharing and turned up. Whole time he is continuously acting as if he doesn’t care to me even when one of his bestfriends started messaging me he told me hes fine with it but to another friend said he was really angry. He messaged me a few days ago telling me i looked nice in a photo out of the blue. Then randomly i go on snapchat as he has blocked me? Seems like there is a weird game he is playing and it is confusing me?
web admin
July 29, 2019 at 4:50 pm
It seems that this person is uncertain about what he wants for the future of this relationship. He may be okay with you spending time with your ex, though he may be upset about it as well. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If he ignores you or treats you poorly, then you are aware of his feelings regarding your relationship. Have a great day, Helen!
Tomoe
July 28, 2019 at 12:05 am
Dated for 7 months LDR. He visits me 2 to 3x a month. He stays for 4 to 5 days every visit. Then 5th month. He’s giving me a cold shoulder. We didn’t see each other for a month which is actually new for us. Then he came to see me for my birthday and that was the last time we’re physically together. 2 months Cold shoulder, purposely ignoring. We tried to work things out. But it is what it is. His love faded away just like that.
web admin
July 29, 2019 at 3:34 pm
He has purposefully ignored you for two months. He has shown you that he is not interested in respecting your relationship. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he ignores you or treats you poorly, then you are aware of his feelings regarding your relationship. Have a great day, Tomoe!
Mira
July 27, 2019 at 2:08 am
Hi, i really need your advice,, i met this guy from tinder a month ago. He is a pilot who living abroad for many years but he cameback and stay. We just met few times at the bar and we have a good time, talk for many hours together. I told him at the first time we meet, i dont looking for sex because his looks on the picture looks like fancy guy and kind of player face. But he kind of shock because he said not looking for that. He just want to meet people and he like to talk about culture etc because he living abroad and make him be more open to people. I trust him after that. Then everyday we texting a lot until Then after the second met we closer and more intimate, he gave me some advice about bad guy that i should stay away, even i ask his advice about my last love story with aguy who broke my heart. And he ask me to move on from kind of that guy. He always telling me about a good things and thats make me feel good until we felt desire inside but i try to hold it. So in the second meet we just kissing inside the car even tough he feels like can not control to touch me more but i try to hold him. After that we are still texting on instagram everyday and talk alot of things, he blew me away about the guy that i really want because i still broken heart with my last love. He try to entertain me to forget about my sadness. He show me how gentle he is and respect me as woman, he treat me very good. Until then, he made a plan want to bring me to the place he really likes, the village beside of the beach. On that time i just admire him and we stay together in the same room in the hotel until ‘that’ happened. We had sex and had a good time for 2 days. I know i am stupid, finally let him to fuck me but He very good treat me and always cuddling me. After we comeback home, we still keep talking but he kind of busy for study and flight. So i am not text him that much like normally because i dont want bothering his time. But he always try to reply my message even tough i felt he not that excited like before. But i think positive he kind of stress with a lot of work and study. Until ,, few days after after had sex happened, i text him that i am worry about my periode is late 2 days already where as i always took the pills everyday for my hormonal acne. And he said its will be fine,, and i just quite after that waiting and nervous. But i text him again in the night and said its not normal bla bla bla,, until he plan if it the worst case i am pregnant he will help for abortion. Actually i dont think that much i will pregnant, i still think its just stress after my last love is broken. But then i told him its a crime if i do abortion and i will have a sin from God because killing the life someone, and i said ‘easy for your to said that because you are a man’ then after that we start had little argue. He said he dont want to have a kids, there is no plan ever to having kids. until The last i said to him ‘even if yes i am pregnant, this is not your kids,,’. I said that because i dont want he think that i beg for him for something fishy. Because i dont! I just worry if its really happend and i dont want he think i try to find the way to tricky him. then he reply me, ‘i was try to helping you(not having the kids) i taught you are more evolved. But when you throwen those last words, ‘its not your kids’ guess what? Its not my problem too,, ‘. I dont reply him again after that. But in the morning when i check again, i can not see his message anymore. He blocked my instagram,, i taught he is nice guy,, even i still not sure i am pregnant or not,, after 5 days late in periode i did pregnancy test 3 times already and its negative, but i will do it again next week until i am really sure there is nothing growing inside my tummy. Now what i should to do? Actually i start like him because he treat me really good. But yes, i am dissapointed too because his behaviour like this. Will he comeback to contact me again? Should i tell him that its will be fine and i am not pregnant? Or Should i just let it go??
web admin
July 27, 2019 at 8:09 pm
He has made the decision to block you. This is based on various interactions that you had within your relationship. It is possible that you are pregnant, and you took pregnancy tests. So far, these tests have returned negative. Do not attempt to reach out to him at this time. If you take a test and it returns positive, then confirm the result of your test with a medical professional. At that time, you should speak with your ex about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Mira!
Val
July 26, 2019 at 3:30 am
I dated a guy for 8years and we broke up in mid 2017 and he blocked me I never communicated to him until December 2018 when he saw me in church and started texting me. I can’t lie I missed him but I acted like I was not interested.He kept on checking on me once in a while and we became good friends.The guy keeps saying he wants us to be best friends without string’s attached although deep in my heart I wish us to date again but I never want him to see it.so this guy starts a non stop conversation which goes for weeks and later mutes for months,then comes back again talks for a month and goes off again.so last week he started communiting after muting for two months and all we talked was the memories we had in our past relationship.All over a sudden I posted a picture of a male friend in WhatsApp wishing a happy birthday my exboyfriend didn’t say anything about it we continued talking as usual and the following day I realized he had already blocked me.Please help me understand what this guy really want.
web admin
July 26, 2019 at 10:31 pm
The two of you share a social and emotional history. He reached out to you after not maintaining a relationship with you for some time. You posted a picture of a friend. Your ex boyfriend decided to block you. He is not interested in maintaining a romantic relationship with you at this time. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Val!
Da
July 25, 2019 at 10:08 pm
I met a Japanese guy on Tinder. Then we chatted on WhatsApp for 2 weeks before meeting each other. We met at an Italian restaurant. I liked him very much at the first meeting. I also liked him during chat. But i got to like him more after meeting him in person. At the end of the date, I hugged and kissed him on the cheek to show that I liked him. We didn’t chat much after that evening because he was busy with his job. I gave him space and time he needed. A few days later, he blocked me from his WhatsApp. I don’t understand this guy at all.
web admin
July 26, 2019 at 10:13 pm
Regardless of his reasons and your relationship, he made the decision to block you. He is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Make a decision about what you want for your future without him. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times. This will help draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Da!
MaryChun Slone
July 24, 2019 at 8:59 pm
I met this guy on quick add on snapchat, and he was so nice and everything snapped me back every few minutes or so and told me when he was gonna be busy (talked for more than 2-3 days). Like we literally live close to each other, and we live in the same place as each other. He told me i was beautiful and it felt TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE bc WE kept on complimenting each other telling me how much he likes me and how much I LIKE HIM like a lot, like we were on the same page. but he told me he was leaving to the UK next year 2020 around august…And the next thing i know he says goodnight an hour later (after its been like 3 ish days or so talking to him non stop) cos he needs to get up early and i send him a snap to say goodnight. and when i open this message, he tells me he was not being at all truthful to me and that he was leading me on and telling me how he still loves his ex, how he feels like shit (cos he said in the text, that we was in a relationship with a girl earlier-on in this year and that the girl he loved broke up with him) and he said he still cant get over his ex and also said “sorry, its gonna take a lot to get over her” and in a min of time he blocked me on snapchat and instagram. my bff told me to wait a month or two to see if he really likes me he would come back for me. so im just waiting for him…. and those apps were the only social media things i got from him. ANY ADVICE??? really need some advice and help, from a professional. And from the looks of it, u seem like u know what ur doing. THANK U!
web admin
July 24, 2019 at 11:14 pm
The two of you shared a social relationship. His previous relationships influenced his actions. He made the decision to block you. He is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, MaryChun!
L
July 24, 2019 at 5:44 pm
He had told me that he did not like me as the way I was and I know he does not like me anymore and I did not disturb this person anymore. Yet he unfollowed me in insta and hid his story. I realised from my friend insta. Few months later, I was just to text him to ask about something that he added me in before which I could not find. but I realised he blocked me after i texted him. I could not understand why. I am not asking for any further relationshio.
web admin
July 24, 2019 at 10:56 pm
You are aware that he does not like you, and you do not disturb him anymore. He unfollowed you. It is clear that he is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Do not reach out to him. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere, and determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, L!
Kayy
July 24, 2019 at 10:20 am
So…. This boy I’m supposed to be going out with we was just on the phone & he had said ” ima call you back later ” then hung up & I realized I was just blocked so I went on my other account to ask why he blocked me but he blocked that one too… However, he didn’t block me on his spam account & yesterday night we fell asleep on the phone & asked me when I could come over it’s like he wants me cuz we going to the same school & everything & matching soon I can’t get over him but it’s complicated.. What should I do?
web admin
July 24, 2019 at 7:05 pm
His behaviors were inappropriate. He made the decision to block all communication with you. You are lucky that he is out of your life, as these behaviors are indications that he is not interested in maintaining a mature relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Kayy!
Vava
July 24, 2019 at 10:03 am
My husband block my whatsapp without i know what mistake i was did? I was out of country visiting my familly with my son, in that day i just ask him “why u dissapear i cant reach u whatsapp for almost 20 hours, he read and he block me, he even never try to contact me to ask about the kids, what should i do and how should i react on this?
Ps he 42 years old and im 29 years
web admin
July 24, 2019 at 6:54 pm
His behaviors are unusual and may be indications of something concerning in your relationship. It seems that there is a serious issue that you need to have a discussion with him regarding his unacceptable and disrespectful actions. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Vava!
Kashish
July 24, 2019 at 12:57 am
I am crushing on a guy since few months. His frnds tease us a lot. Earlier he used to talk to me. My frnd told me that he likes me. I was on cloud 9. We were frnds on instagram and snapchat both. But idk why did he b5block me
web admin
July 24, 2019 at 8:12 pm
You had a crush on this person. The two of you used to speak. For some reason, he made the decision to block you. It is likely that there is another influence in his life which lead to this decision. Determine what you want for your future without him. If he reaches out to you in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at that time. Have a great day, Kashish!
Navya
July 23, 2019 at 10:43 pm
My man and I loved each other for four years, he promised me that he will never leave me whatever happens, but since our kundliz didn’t match and his parents didn’t agree he left me after 4 yrs of relationship,saying sorry, our relationship was distant but we loved each other madly, I am still in pain, he has blocked me everywhere since then except when I call him, I know he still loves me, I always call him but he never picks up but never blocked me there ,reads my msgs but never replies. What should I do.
web admin
July 24, 2019 at 7:58 pm
Your kundliz didn’t match and your parents didn’t agree to your relationship. He made the decision to choose is family and social norms over your relationship. He has blocked you, so allow thoughts of him to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere, and determine what you want for your future without him. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Navya!
Ella
July 23, 2019 at 9:13 pm
I have been dating this guy for over seven months. We spent almost all our time together and alot of people know us as a couple but for a week I would call alot of times before he will return my call. A few days a go I went to meet him at a hotel he was and requested for my atm card because I had a family emergency only to meet him there with another girl and before I got there I called him severally but he ignored my calls. I got there and saw him on his phone and I asked why he wasn’t answering my calls and he said he was busy. I took his phone and told him to come so we have a chat. I walked out and he came right after me and hit me so hard on my face. I lost some jewelry and I was hurt. I left there and blocked him because he went too far. Later I calmed down and unblocked him so we can talk and know why he did that because we had a good relationship but he was very possessive, made me give up my friends and I even had to change my number because he wasn’t comfortable with me talking to other people. In the end he texted my mum to apologize and told her I came to embarrass him which I didn’t do. I can’t stop thinking about him, we had plans of moving in together and this happened. I know it all happened for a good reason but it still hurts. What do I do?
web admin
July 24, 2019 at 7:52 pm
The two of you shared a strong social relationship. It seemed that he ignored your calls for a while. He physically attacked you. You blocked him. You should not have unblocked him, as he is abusive. Do not attempt to maintain a relationship with him. Remove him from your life, and avoid him entirely. Do not attempt to nourish relationships with anyone who is physically, mentally, or emotionally abusive. Have a great day, Ella!
Annabelle
July 22, 2019 at 8:02 am
So me and my ex were dating for a month and on are 1 month he broke up with me and this is the 5th time he has broken up with me and Idk what to do and then he also told me to stop spamming him and he blocked me on everything.
web admin
July 22, 2019 at 2:38 pm
He has broken up with you five times. He told you to stop spamming him. He has blocked you. It is clear by his behaviors that he is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Learn from your behaviors and apply this knowledge to your future relationships. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Annabelle!
Miss995
July 21, 2019 at 12:07 pm
So I met this guy 2 months ago. We were spending almost every day together. I’ve never experienced that kind of affection before, I swear. It was something like “love at first sight” and we both felt a deeper connection, I even met his parents and sister and all his friends. When we weren’t together we would spend our whole freetime on the phone-more calling, less texting. He was totally obsessed with me, so much it sometimes scared me because I wasn’t used to so much attention. He claimed that he never felt like this before, that he’s addicted to me and that he can’t imagine losing me.
However, I found out that he has a problematic past (problems with fights and alcohol), that his past relationships were all toxic and almost never finished in a normal and calm way, and that he’s a pretty possessive and jealous person. But he would joke about his possessiveness like: “I rather say that I’m very protective, careful and caring, not possessive”. He has told me a few times that I’m the best girl he ever had (btw, I’m 24, 2 years older than him). None of my friends understood what I saw in him since he was problematic, unreliable, impulsive and possessive (everything I AM NOT) + I look way better than him, really, he even admitted that he doesn’t understand why I chose him when I can have a better looking man but it didn’t matter to me. I never gave him a reason to be jelaous, I gave my best to make him feel special and unique, I was all about him and noone could change it as long as he treated me like his queen (which he really did, I never felt so important and special to someone). Basically, it was all great until I had to go home because it’s summer and I’ll be 2 months out of town (I’m just going to college in the town where we met). The night before I left we were drinking together and I stayed the whole night at his place. I was sad because I had to leave and I didn’t know what will happen to us because we never spent more than 2 days separated (even those 2 days were difficult -AS I SAID, IT NEVER HAPPENED TO ME BEFORE, but he suddenly became the centre of my world) and he…well he was angry and nervous about the whole situation. We even had a fight about a stupid thing and after that he told me (but he was little DRUNK) “you’re crazy but I LOVE YOU” – it was the first time he told me those words and I didn’t say it back because I was not ready even he really IS important to me.
In the morning he acted like he was all ok, ignoring the fact he told me he loves me, he drove me to the airport, wished a safe flight and said we’ll stay in conntact and meet when I get back to town. That same evening I sent a whatsapp message he never opened – he IGNORED me. I’m not the kind of person who chases someone so I decided to wait for him to reach me out. It’s been 8 days of no contact and today I realized that he blocked me on whatsapp (he has neither IG nor FB) and he blocked me TODAY. I have to admit that I don’t know what to think of it, I’m surprised and really confused. My friends tell me that he is hurt because I didn’t run after him (which he’s used to with his exgfs), that he’s trying to manipulate me and that his ego can’t get over the fact I didn’t say I love him and that he blocked me because he is angry, not because he suddenly doesn’t care about me. Plus he’s very jealous and probably finds it harder being separated because he can’t control me. Fun fact: today I found out I have to go to his town next week for 5 days so I’m planning to write him an SMS (I won’t attack him or show my anger, I just want to end it all in a mature way because I need a closure to continue with my life). I’ll definitely write that I DON’T expect an answer and wish him all the best and then delete his number.
I took some time to think about everything and concluded that I DON’T NEED HIM in my life, no matter how I WANT to be with him right now, but I know it’s not healthy and that things could probably be even worse if we were longer together because he’s TOXIC. But I can’t leave this whole situation so unspoken and unfinished and risk that he’ll maybe be after me when I come back to town in a few weeks (hopefully healed)
I wonder what do you think about the whole situation? Is it right to write the last message to get some closure or should I ignore everything and just try to move on with my life and forget about everything? What do you think about him and his behaviour? THANK YOU <3
web admin
July 22, 2019 at 2:01 pm
The two of you shared a strong emotional relationship. Your friends informed you of his negative qualities during your relationship. He drove you to the airport, and decided that this relationship was no longer viable. He made the decision to block you. You realized that you do not need him in your life, which is a healthy understanding. He is immature and not willing to respect your relationship. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Miss!
Lukesha
July 21, 2019 at 4:08 am
Me and this guy was going around for like 9months I had a lot of feelings for him and I knew he had a lot for me. Everytime we meet up I would hug him kiss him and make him feel wanted I really loved him with all my heart. Then one night we went out and I told him am going to Canada for a job so all be leaving I knew he we’re sad because I was going to leave. The next day after spending the night with him I was leaving to go back home, I told him I love him I kissed him twice I could see that hurt in him. When I reached home I looked at my watupp to text him that I reached safe. IT WAS BLOCKED he blocked me. Please tell me why.
web admin
July 21, 2019 at 10:07 pm
The two of you shared a strong social relationship. You informed him that you had to move and would be no longer able to maintain a relationship that was not long distance. He was hurt, and he made the decision to block you. He is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Make a decision about what you want for your future. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Lukesha!