When a Guy Blocks You: What Does It Mean and What to Do

By on May 16, 2018

One of the worst things about social media is the fact that you can be deleted and blocked from someone’s life without so much as a second thought, in less time than it takes to blink. To be so happy in love one minute, only to find that you can’t even see your BAE’s Facebook or Instagram page the next; there’s only one thing to do when you’ve been blocked by your guy … 

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Don’t React

Of course, there are a hundred and one ways of dealing with this particular situation, but one thing is for certain — he’s mad or sad and needs a little time. He’s *that* mad he doesn’t even want to see your social media accounts, let alone speak to you. If the two of you try to communicate on any level there’s a good chance the situation will just get worse … and more heated. You’ll both say things that you didn’t mean but the other person won’t be able to forget that you ever said them and that little lover’s tiff you had has the potential to turn into something deeply troubling. Perhaps even relationship-ending. 

When a guy blocks you, give him some space. Let him have some time to think and relax. If the two of you have come to blows, chasing him further is just going to chase him away. You shouldn’t beg for his time, nor should you keep chasing him for it. If he doesn’t want you in his life right now, get on with yours. 

  • Get the girls around and have some drinks and a movie. 
  • Invite your parents around for dinner and a catchup. 
  • Go to the gym like you keep saying you’re going to do, but never do. 
  • Do something else — don’t pine for him, don’t sit and wait for him, just get on with your life and let things play out just as they’re going to. 

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Don’t React Like This … 

If he blocks you on Facebook, don’t message him on Instagram. He’ll block you on there too, and then you’ll need to resort to using Twitter. What if he blocks you there? Whatsapp next? Then iMessage? What about Skype? 

If you keep going around the social media accounts, there’s a good chance he’ll just keep blocking you. Take the first blocking as a sign — this chap needs his space. 

> > If he WANTS you to chase him around the various social media accounts to “prove” how much you’ll do for him, he’s playing games. You don’t need that drama in your life. Boy, bye! < <

While we’re on the subject of other things NOT to do, don’t scream and shout at him. We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again — he needs some space. Shouting and screaming at him is not giving him space. We know that you don’t want to lose your BAE, but hurling abuse at him is not going to keep him in your clutches. 

One final point that we feel it is important to bring to your attention — stalking his social media accounts using your friend’s social media account is always a good idea in theory but usually ends up going wrong somewhere along the line. You will accidentally ‘like’ an update from months ago, for example, making him aware of EXACTLY what you’re doing. He’s going to know that it’s your best friend letting you use her account. 

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Do React Like This …

Spend some time on yourself — treating and loving yourself. Self-care is very underrated but oh-so-vital, and if he won’t love you in the way that you would like him to, perhaps it’s about time that you started to love yourself? 

Treat yourself to a pamper weekend or have that extra slice of chocolate cake. You’ll add an extra half an hour on at the gym to compensate for it, right? 

Get your hair done. Nails? Yeah, get a manicure while you’re there too. All of those things that you don’t seem to find the time to do anymore now that you’re in a relationship; that’s what you should be doing. Sitting around waiting for him to make that unblock call is probably just going to break your heart. As the saying goes, you should be with the guy who ruins your lipstick with kisses, not your mascara with tears. 

When the time is right — when you have both calmed down — you can talk again, perhaps sort out the problems you had or have. But you do need to have calmed down first. You can’t solve an argument by starting a brand new one. You almost must remember that the resolution might not always be quite as you’d hoped. 

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    FT

    January 16, 2020 at 8:27 pm

    There was this guy I was seeing unofficially for almost 3 months before he blocked me out of the blue. We instantly hit it off at the nightclub I met him at; and he was the sweetest guy I’ve ever met. After the club he drove me back to my apartment 4 in the morning after my phone was stolen at that club (happens there all the time), when he walked me to my door, asked me out on a date the next day. The next day we went to a nightclub again (after I replaced my stolen phone) and he bought me roses; and we ended up having sex back at my place. I thought he was just putting up an act for sex, but even after having sex he still wanted to see me; he told me how amazing of a time he had, how amazing the sex was, and how he can’t wait to see me again.

    After that we spoke every single day, and when he was not busy, he messaged me in an abundance; but even when he was very busy, his response time was still reasonable. We would see each other on average about once a week. Which I felt was a healthy amount because we are both busy with school and work; he graduated school a month after I met him so I always pushed him to prioritize building his career over me.

    We went on several other dates and all of them went fantastic; he would often sleep over at my apartment after the date and we would spend time the morning after. And if I was ever in distress, he would drop everything to see me and made sure I’m doing okay.

    A month after we met, I was accepted to do a semester abroad in Europe, he was so happy for me and as time progressed, whenever I brought up leaving for Europe he would get sad and would mention he doesn’t want to think about me leaving. He would tell me how much he is going to miss me and would ask me if I would miss him too, to which I said of course. I also noticed on many occasions he has a major jealousy issue but would often try to mask it. He also he deals with a lot of family issues that leaves him very upset and when that happens he withdraws from everyone and has cancelled our plans a few times because of it. Whenever I expressed my concerns when he withdraws, he would apologise profusely and would make up for it when he felt better.

    The Saturday before he blocked me, we went on a date together to the same nightclub my phone got stolen the first time so he would let me leave his phone in the glove box of his car.
    This Saturday date was after not seeing him for 2 weeks because he was visiting family in Chicago, (and kept telling me how much he missed me when he was gone, he even admitted to having panic attacks in Chicago but was evasive on telling me why).
    After the club, we went back to my place, watched a movie, had sex and slept over, everything was good. The following Tuesday he asked to hang out on Thursday and I agreed. The day after I asked him what he wanted to do on Thursday and he ended up telling me he’s cancelling to help out his cousin with urgent wedding plans (he has mentioned this upcoming wedding many times). I wasn’t upset but I got a little bit annoyed with how he delivered the message of him cancelling our plans and I called him out on it politely. He responded right away apologizing profusely and how upset he is that he annoyed me, I told him it’s not a huge deal and not to worry about it. He ended up making plans with me the following Saturday which I agreed to.

    But by the time Saturday came (10 days before I leave), I only heard from him in the morning when he gives his usual good morning texts to which I replied. But as hours went by I did not hear from him so I msged him on WhatsApp if he’s okay, and as hours went by, still nothing and my messages on WhatsApp would be just one grey checkmark.

    I thought something bad happened to him so I called him on WhatsApp and it rang the whole time, but when I called his main phone line it went straight to voicemail every time. I also emailed him asking if he’s okay and still nothing. So I went and saw my friend and we did some investigating and she called him on her phone and it rang every time you (but he didn’t pick up) to which I realized he had blocked me.

    I was so revolted yet so upset when I realized it. I honestly didn’t see this coming, I know he tends to withdraw when he’s having issues but I never thought he would block me. It made me wonder if he lost interest in me/putting up an act this whole time / if he had another girl but all my friends including my counselor were doubtful about those speculations because he was so consistent this entire time. I never brought up wanting to be in an official/exclusive relationship with him because I didn’t know him well enough plus I’m leaving for Europe real soon for 4 Months. But mind you, he never brought it up either.

    I emailed him yesterday telling him he broke my heart but I still wish him the best; I knew there’s a chance he won’t reply for whatever reason but as long as he read it and he knows how I feel about this situation then I’m satisfied. I’m leaving for Europe in 5 days so if we ever get a chance to see each other again it won’t be for a long time 🙁

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 17, 2020 at 12:01 pm

      Perhaps he just isn’t ready to have a long-distance relationship and handled the situation immaturely. Some people are just not able to have a long-distance relationship, and there’s nothing you can do about it. He should have just told you how he felt instead of blocking you, but some people are afraid of having difficult conversations like that. On the bright side, it sounds like you are moving on to exciting, new things that will distract you as you heal. Good luck and congrats on the study abroad trip!

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    FF

    January 16, 2020 at 8:26 pm

    There was this guy I was seeing unofficially for almost 3 months before he blocked me out of the blue. We instantly hit it off at the nightclub I met him at; and he was the sweetest guy I’ve ever met. After the club he drove me back to my apartment 4 in the morning after my phone was stolen at that club (happens there all the time), when he walked me to my door, asked me out on a date the next day. The next day we went to a nightclub again (after I replaced my stolen phone) and he bought me roses; and we ended up having sex back at my place. I thought he was just putting up an act for sex, but even after having sex he still wanted to see me; he told me how amazing of a time he had, how amazing the sex was, and how he can’t wait to see me again.

    After that we spoke every single day, and when he was not busy, he messaged me in an abundance; but even when he was very busy, his response time was still reasonable. We would see each other on average about once a week. Which I felt was a healthy amount because we are both busy with school and work; he graduated school a month after I met him so I always pushed him to prioritize building his career over me.

    We went on several other dates and all of them went fantastic; he would often sleep over at my apartment after the date and we would spend time the morning after. And if I was ever in distress, he would drop everything to see me and made sure I’m doing okay.

    A month after we met, I was accepted to do a semester abroad in Europe, he was so happy for me and as time progressed, whenever I brought up leaving for Europe he would get sad and would mention he doesn’t want to think about me leaving. He would tell me how much he is going to miss me and would ask me if I would miss him too, to which I said of course. I also noticed on many occasions he has a major jealousy issue but would often try to mask it. He also he deals with a lot of family issues that leaves him very upset and when that happens he withdraws from everyone and has cancelled our plans a few times because of it. Whenever I expressed my concerns when he withdraws, he would apologise profusely and would make up for it when he felt better.

    The Saturday before he blocked me, we went on a date together to the same nightclub my phone got stolen the first time so he would let me leave his phone in the glove box of his car.
    This Saturday date was after not seeing him for 2 weeks because he was visiting family in Chicago, (and kept telling me how much he missed me when he was gone, he even admitted to having panic attacks in Chicago but was evasive on telling me why).
    After the club, we went back to my place, watched a movie, had sex and slept over, everything was good. The following Tuesday he asked to hang out on Thursday and I agreed. The day after I asked him what he wanted to do on Thursday and he ended up telling me he’s cancelling to help out his cousin with urgent wedding plans (he has mentioned this upcoming wedding many times). I wasn’t upset but I got a little bit annoyed with how he delivered the message of him cancelling our plans and I called him out on it politely. He responded right away apologizing profusely and how upset he is that he annoyed me, I told him it’s not a huge deal and not to worry about it. He ended up making plans with me the following Saturday which I agreed to.

    But by the time Saturday came (10 days before I leave), I only heard from him in the morning when he gives his usual good morning texts to which I replied. But as hours went by I did not hear from him so I msged him on WhatsApp if he’s okay, and as hours went by, still nothing and my messages on WhatsApp would be just one grey checkmark.

    I thought something bad happened to him so I called him on WhatsApp and it rang the whole time, but when I called his main phone line it went straight to voicemail every time. I also emailed him asking if he’s okay and still nothing. So I went and saw my friend and we did some investigating and she called him on her phone and it rang every time you (but he didn’t pick up) to which I realized he had blocked me.

    I was so revolted yet so upset when I realized it. I honestly didn’t see this coming, I know he tends to withdraw when he’s having issues but I never thought he would block me. It made me wonder if he lost interest in me/putting up an act this whole time / if he had another girl but all my friends including my counselor were doubtful about those speculations because he was so consistent this entire time. I never brought up wanting to be in an official/exclusive relationship with him because I didn’t know him well enough plus I’m leaving for Europe real soon for 4 Months. But mind you, he never brought it up either.

    I emailed him yesterday telling him he broke my heart but I still wish him the best; I knew there’s a chance he won’t reply for whatever reason but as long as he read it and he knows how I feel about this situation then I’m satisfied. I’m leaving for Europe in 5 days so if we ever get a chance to see each other again it won’t be for a long time 🙁

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 17, 2020 at 12:01 pm

      Perhaps he just isn’t ready to have a long-distance relationship and handled the situation immaturely. Some people are just not able to have a long-distance relationship, and there’s nothing you can do about it. He should have just told you how he felt instead of blocking you, but some people are afraid of having difficult conversations like that. On the bright side, it sounds like you are moving on to exciting, new things that will distract you as you heal. Good luck and congrats on the study abroad trip!

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    Vivian

    January 10, 2020 at 9:12 am

    So this guys and I have been together for over an year. We haven’t made things official because we wanted to see how we would manage this long distance. I visit him Monthly and he has visited me too. But I found out he was talking to other girls Over the summer. We talked about it and try to sort things out but whenever he would answer my calls or texts always made me think he was talking to other girls. Recently I saw that he was snapping Someone on Snapchat at 1 AM and he blocked me when I asked him who he was snapping at 1 AM. I only notice he was talking to someone because his Snapchat score went up but he also had answered my message on Snapchat! So it’s been a week since he has blocked me and he says he’ll unblock me whenever he is ready but it sucks because that’s how we share to each other part of our days. We still talk every night but we’ll be fighting lately about the situation. I don’t know what to do or think. Is it worth pursuing this or not.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 11, 2020 at 11:37 am

      He made the decision to block you, but has decided to continue speaking with you. This is a strong sign that your relationship is no longer viable. Address your concerns with him to reach a conclusion of the situation at hand, or make a decision to end your relationship.

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    katy

    January 5, 2020 at 10:23 pm

    so i’ve known this guy since 2016. i used to date one of his bestfriends, so we knew each other but not very personally. & now we’re coworkers so that’s how we became kind of friends again. so anyways a couple days before new years he asked if i wanted to hang out & i said sure. he comes over & we cuddled & we ended up having s3x & then he left. new year’s day he texted me asking me to come over, but i couldn’t because i had already been drinking & i didn’t want to go out drunk, so he said he would come over to my house. i told him it was fine he could but he never responded or came over. now i try to search him on social media & he’s blocked me from part of it. & turns out he had a girlfriend too. & i just don’t know what to do. i already started getting stupid feelings for him, but i wasn’t going to do anything about it because of the fact we were coworkers & coworker relationships don’t work out most of the time. please help, i don’t know what to do

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 6, 2020 at 7:55 pm

      He most likely blocked you for one of two reasons: 1) His girlfriend figured it out somehow and she blocked you. 2) He realized how wrong it is to cheat and decided to completely avoid that temptation again. Either way, I would just focus on moving on. Unless he is single in the future, he won’t (or shouldn’t) reach out again. Good luck!

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    katy

    January 5, 2020 at 10:23 pm

    so i’ve known this guy since 2016. i used to date one of his bestfriends, so we knew each other but not very personally. & now we’re coworkers so that’s how we became kind of friends again. so anyways a couple days before new years he asked if i wanted to hang out & i said sure. he comes over & we cuddled & we ended up having s3x & then he left. new year’s day he texted me asking me to come over, but i couldn’t because i had already been drinking & i didn’t want to go out drunk, so he said he would come over to my house. i told him it was fine he could but he never responded or came over. now i try to search him on social media & he’s blocked me from part of it. & turns out he had a girlfriend too. & i just don’t know what to do. i already started getting stupid feelings for him, but i wasn’t going to do anything about it because of the fact we were coworkers & coworker relationships don’t work out most of the time. i just don’t know what to do now. please help

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 6, 2020 at 7:55 pm

      He most likely blocked you for one of two reasons: 1) His girlfriend figured it out somehow and she blocked you. 2) He realized how wrong it is to cheat and decided to completely avoid that temptation again. Either way, I would just focus on moving on. Unless he is single in the future, he won’t (or shouldn’t) reach out again. Good luck!

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