When a Guy Blocks You: What Does It Mean and What to Do

By on May 16, 2018

One of the worst things about social media is the fact that you can be deleted and blocked from someone’s life without so much as a second thought, in less time than it takes to blink. To be so happy in love one minute, only to find that you can’t even see your BAE’s Facebook or Instagram page the next; there’s only one thing to do when you’ve been blocked by your guy … 

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Don’t React

Of course, there are a hundred and one ways of dealing with this particular situation, but one thing is for certain — he’s mad or sad and needs a little time. He’s *that* mad he doesn’t even want to see your social media accounts, let alone speak to you. If the two of you try to communicate on any level there’s a good chance the situation will just get worse … and more heated. You’ll both say things that you didn’t mean but the other person won’t be able to forget that you ever said them and that little lover’s tiff you had has the potential to turn into something deeply troubling. Perhaps even relationship-ending. 

When a guy blocks you, give him some space. Let him have some time to think and relax. If the two of you have come to blows, chasing him further is just going to chase him away. You shouldn’t beg for his time, nor should you keep chasing him for it. If he doesn’t want you in his life right now, get on with yours. 

  • Get the girls around and have some drinks and a movie. 
  • Invite your parents around for dinner and a catchup. 
  • Go to the gym like you keep saying you’re going to do, but never do. 
  • Do something else — don’t pine for him, don’t sit and wait for him, just get on with your life and let things play out just as they’re going to. 

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Don’t React Like This … 

If he blocks you on Facebook, don’t message him on Instagram. He’ll block you on there too, and then you’ll need to resort to using Twitter. What if he blocks you there? Whatsapp next? Then iMessage? What about Skype? 

If you keep going around the social media accounts, there’s a good chance he’ll just keep blocking you. Take the first blocking as a sign — this chap needs his space. 

> > If he WANTS you to chase him around the various social media accounts to “prove” how much you’ll do for him, he’s playing games. You don’t need that drama in your life. Boy, bye! < <

While we’re on the subject of other things NOT to do, don’t scream and shout at him. We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again — he needs some space. Shouting and screaming at him is not giving him space. We know that you don’t want to lose your BAE, but hurling abuse at him is not going to keep him in your clutches. 

One final point that we feel it is important to bring to your attention — stalking his social media accounts using your friend’s social media account is always a good idea in theory but usually ends up going wrong somewhere along the line. You will accidentally ‘like’ an update from months ago, for example, making him aware of EXACTLY what you’re doing. He’s going to know that it’s your best friend letting you use her account. 

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Do React Like This …

Spend some time on yourself — treating and loving yourself. Self-care is very underrated but oh-so-vital, and if he won’t love you in the way that you would like him to, perhaps it’s about time that you started to love yourself? 

Treat yourself to a pamper weekend or have that extra slice of chocolate cake. You’ll add an extra half an hour on at the gym to compensate for it, right? 

Get your hair done. Nails? Yeah, get a manicure while you’re there too. All of those things that you don’t seem to find the time to do anymore now that you’re in a relationship; that’s what you should be doing. Sitting around waiting for him to make that unblock call is probably just going to break your heart. As the saying goes, you should be with the guy who ruins your lipstick with kisses, not your mascara with tears. 

When the time is right — when you have both calmed down — you can talk again, perhaps sort out the problems you had or have. But you do need to have calmed down first. You can’t solve an argument by starting a brand new one. You almost must remember that the resolution might not always be quite as you’d hoped. 

212 Comments

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    Elena

    April 15, 2019 at 10:41 am

    What does it mean when someone wants you to answer questions such as if I truly want to be with them, if we have a future, does he make me happy or not etc

    The person said they’ll unblock me in a few days to have an answer to their questions.

    I’m still blocked after four days.

    Which isn’t a long time.

    They told me to think about what I really want
    And that they need time to recharge his mind etc

    I did argue a bit too much and have apologised over text it was ignored.

    Should I let him recharge and leave him be for now?

    Is there any hope here?

    He’s never blocked me before and I see how I was wrong and other things now.

    If it’s meant to be or not, will time tell?

    Thankyou

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      Elena

      April 15, 2019 at 10:50 am

      They meaning him.

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        web admin

        April 15, 2019 at 2:49 pm

        He has decided to block you. He wants to know what your feelings for him are. You have realized the mistakes that you may have made in this relationship. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Determine if this is the type of person that you want to maintain a relationship with. If he doesn’t unblock you soon, then you may be aware of his feelings toward you. Have a great day, Elena!

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      web admin

      April 15, 2019 at 2:49 pm

      He has decided to block you. He wants to know what your feelings for him are. You have realized the mistakes that you may have made in this relationship. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Determine if this is the type of person that you want to maintain a relationship with. If he doesn’t unblock you soon, then you may be aware of his feelings toward you. Have a great day, Elena!

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    Chris joe

    April 15, 2019 at 5:14 am

    I was seeing this guy, but he display traits that I didn’t like, he was inconsistent and flirts alot, I strongly believe he cheated though he denies. I broke up with him but I still contact him, I’m trying to deny my feelings for him but I still do, even though he has showed me time after time that he wants nothing to do with me. Recently he blocked all communication with me from a simple argument it is something he does regularly.

    He is toxic, but he has showed me love in someways I have never received, I guess that is why I still contact him to maintain a facade, I guess. However we always end up not speaking. What can I do.
    I feel stupid for my actions yet I still do them.

    Stuck on stupid

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      web admin

      April 15, 2019 at 2:41 pm

      It sounds as though you realized that this person is not someone that you want to maintain a relationship with. He decided to block you and no longer maintain a relationship with you. Allow your emotional energy to be focused elsewhere. Determine what you want for your future without him. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life, as this will bring you many benefits in the future. Have a great day, Chris!

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    Gena

    April 15, 2019 at 12:36 am

    My boyfriend break up with me over a small fight. He said we can still be friend but he block me in every way. He said he did that to keep him from coming back. I used my friend no. To call him when he knew it was me he cut the line. What should i do.its been almost 2 days. Is it really over??

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      web admin

      April 15, 2019 at 2:15 pm

      He has decided to block you. He has made it clear that he is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Learn from this lesson and apply this knowledge to your future relationships. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Gena!

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    Nicole

    April 14, 2019 at 2:19 pm

    Everything was going well…I loved him very much but he didn’t answer my texts today…Later at the evening he blocked me without saying anything.I’ve never met him(but we live near)so I can’t contact him in any other way.What should I do?I don’t think that he will unblock me but I want to know reason why he blocked me.

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      web admin

      April 14, 2019 at 7:25 pm

      He has decided to block you. He is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you. This may have been for a variety of reasons. Since the two of you are no longer speaking, you can not know his specific reason. If the two of you have had a recent argument, then that is likely part of the reason. Determine what you want for your future without him, and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Nicole!

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    Michelle

    April 14, 2019 at 12:49 am

    This guy and I used to be very close for many months now. He almost made me his girlfriend in January but we got into an argument that escalated and he became avoidant. We were able to talk things through after a few weeks and over a month ago we were able to be super vulnerable and discuss what went wrong and what to do from there; we even came up with a game plan for our next fight and how to communicate and solve things. Since then we were super close again. We had been super flirty and it felt like everything fell back into place. About a week ago I asked him where things were going and stated that I never lost feelings for him and I just needed an understanding of how he felt. At first he said he that he could never not like me and that he couldn’t give a specific answer because he likes me a lot but he just knew we needed to rebuild some trust and a good foundation, and he needed time to work on himself. Then by the end of the conversation he said he just wanted me to be happy, and he said he wanted us to always just be friends so that we could always be in each other’s lives and always be pushing each other and supporting each other. I told him I needed some space to separate my feelings and let him go, and he told me he completely understood. He asked me to contact him and say hi every now and then to let him know how I’m doing. I told him it’d all depend if I still had feelings for him and that he’s more than welcome to reach out to me if he wanted to know how I was doing. It was hard conversation. I cried and he teared up. It felt very mature and honest. And then a day later he blocked me on everything including iMessage. I thought he needed time for himself, but in person he is completely ignoring me and if I say hi he ignores me too. I’m really confused as to why he blocked me and as to why he’s being rude. Does this mean he truly does not want to be friends with me, let alone have me in his life at all? Is he perhaps playing games or being manipulative? I just don’t understand.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 14, 2019 at 3:30 pm

      The two of you were maintaining a close relationship, and then he informed you that he needed space. The two of decided to take some time apart. During that time, he made his decision about his future and chose to delete you. He is no longer interested in maintaining this relationship. Make a decision about what you want for your future without him. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Michelle!

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    Fay

    April 13, 2019 at 2:43 pm

    My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago for me asking him about his ex he had seen. He just dumped me after and I asked for us to talk since it’s long distance and work out but he refused. I asked him to delete my number and block me if he doesn’t want me. He blocked me and few mins unblocked me. It’s a month now and to my surprise I thought to check his what’s app he had blocked me, what does it mean? He used to check my status etc

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 14, 2019 at 2:43 pm

      The two of you ended your relationship. He blocked and unblocked you. It sounds as though he is trying to figure out what you are doing at this time, which means that you are on his mind. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Of course, it is important to share you understand the reason why your relationship ended. Have a great day, Fay!

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    Lala

    April 12, 2019 at 2:17 pm

    My boyfriend blocked me because of a girl
    He posted a girl on his status Instagram because it was her birthday and well the same girl went to tell people how is she my boyfriends favorite and that is why he post her and it’s the first time.
    This girl hates Med so much and she talks bad about me well I confronted him and I told him the rumors that the girl is spreading and we fought and I told him that is he really allowing this girl to come between us and he said he blocked me and he doesn’t care how I think and all
    He said I’m being childish for complaining about something I don’t like
    After the blocking he said he doesn’t regret anything
    He tried calling 6 times I didn’t answer , I was angry even now and I have no plans of calling
    I’m so scared to loose him but I’m slowly becoming afraid of him of what he did
    I feel like he chose her instead of me and I wrote him a text saying I won’t fight over him
    Never will I force or compete
    He called I didn’t answer
    I love him so much .
    What should I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 13, 2019 at 8:30 pm

      Your boyfriend has decided to block you. He has informed you that he is not interested in speaking with you. He no longer in interested in maintaining a relationship with you. His behaviors were not appropriate, and may have been an indication of his poor behaviors in the past. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere, and make a decision about what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Lala!

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    Konnex

    April 11, 2019 at 2:50 pm

    My boyfriend block me cause I told him my best that his a guy slept over at my place… Is it a bad thing telling your boyfriend… I called him 8times he didn’t pick my call… Today he unblock me and send a message like “WHAT”… What does it mean

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 11, 2019 at 7:02 pm

      You had another man sleep at your house while you were in a relationship. Because of this, your current partner is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you, as he does not feel that he can trust you. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Learn your lessons from this relationship, and apply that knowledge to your future relationships. Have a great day, Konnex!

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    Yasmin

    April 11, 2019 at 9:04 am

    So me and my ex broke up about three months ago. Haven’t been in contact for the last few weeks, I went on a date with someone else, to which he must have found out through word of mouth, because today my friend sends me a screen shot of a bitter tweet he put up this morning; I then check to see his WhatsApp to see he has blocked me lol. Would you say he is hurting and acting on emotions? The ironic thing is.. he asked me to move on

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 11, 2019 at 6:31 pm

      His behavior is an indication that he is hurt. However, the two of you ended your relationship months ago. There is no reason for you to be concerned about his feelings regarding your behavior. Allow thoughts o him to fade. Focus your emotional energy on your current partner, and spend additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Yasmin!

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    Shalisa

    April 10, 2019 at 7:41 pm

    Hello,
    Me and this guy had a sexual relationship and he blocked me after I told him I love you. What does this mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 10, 2019 at 11:22 pm

      This person has decided to block you. This means that he is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you. There are people in the world who are interested in having intercourse, and then no longer maintaining that relationship. Allow thoughts of this person to fade, as it is clear that he is willing to harm you. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Shalisa!

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    Shrutibosamia

    April 7, 2019 at 12:01 am

    Hi my name is shruti i have give my 10th exam few days ago i love a person i got my love in 7th but i expressed him my love in 8th cause of nervousness then his big brother beat him i didnt know he has big brother then he confessed his love and he dont like publicity so he said dont tell anyone and in 10th after extra class he left school and igit his number after 1 yr and he read my msg wjen he came online and block me but after 1 min he unblock me and read msg and block me again what does this mean he want space he is sacre from his brother and speak with everyone but not with girls and me what i do i love him most he is my first to last love

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 8, 2019 at 9:49 pm

      There may be many reasons for his actions. It is certainly possible that his motivation is fear. His behaviors of blocking and unblocking you are indications of his uncertainty and confusion. Take this time to determine if this relationship is viable and appropriate. Make a decision about your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Shrutibosamia!

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    Unknown

    April 6, 2019 at 2:05 pm

    Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for months and We broke up for a month and got back together, we were dating for weeks again before I asked him to add me on Instagram. We were following each other on Instagram for maybe two weeks and then he blocked me. When I confronted him about it, he lied to me and he got all mad. He was following girls and I asked him about them and he said they were all friends of his. I was worried so I messaged his friends and he got really mad. He wanted to break up with me for it. He said it was disrespectful to him. He’s going to stay with me if we never talk about it anymore… I don’t know what to do… if we remove Instagram from the picture and not talk about it, he sounds like he loves me but I have this feeling he’s hiding things from me. I could consider myself a clingy girlfriend, does he just want his space?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 6, 2019 at 7:02 pm

      It is reasonable for your partner to have other friends. His behavior regarding adding his friends was appropriate. However, you felt uncomfortable with it, and you spoke with him about your thoughts and feelings. He then decided to lie to you. Because of this, you may not be able to trust him. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Anon!

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    Khumo

    April 5, 2019 at 11:47 am

    Goodday.

    My boyfriend and I dated for about 8 months. Last week Tuesday during the day we were very happy and in good speaking terms, in the evening around 8pm he sent me a whatsapp because he wanted to come and collect something from me, I did not see it bcos my phone was on the other room charging, he then called me and I did not answer, he called again and I answered. He asked me why I was not answering my phone I explained and he just said ok.. After few minutes I tried chatting to him only to find out that he blocked me on everything, I called him using my friend’s phone and asked if he’s no longer interested to talk to me and he just said we will talk, I asked him when and he just kept on saying we will talk.. It’s been 2 weeks now and he’s still quite and I am still blocked.

    I love him so much.. Please advise

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 6, 2019 at 4:42 pm

      He has decided to block you and end your relationship. His behavior was inappropriate, and he has made his feelings clear. The two of you are no longer speaking. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Khumo!

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