When a Guy Blocks You: What Does It Mean and What to Do

By on May 16, 2018

One of the worst things about social media is the fact that you can be deleted and blocked from someone’s life without so much as a second thought, in less time than it takes to blink. To be so happy in love one minute, only to find that you can’t even see your BAE’s Facebook or Instagram page the next; there’s only one thing to do when you’ve been blocked by your guy … 

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Don’t React

Of course, there are a hundred and one ways of dealing with this particular situation, but one thing is for certain — he’s mad or sad and needs a little time. He’s *that* mad he doesn’t even want to see your social media accounts, let alone speak to you. If the two of you try to communicate on any level there’s a good chance the situation will just get worse … and more heated. You’ll both say things that you didn’t mean but the other person won’t be able to forget that you ever said them and that little lover’s tiff you had has the potential to turn into something deeply troubling. Perhaps even relationship-ending. 

When a guy blocks you, give him some space. Let him have some time to think and relax. If the two of you have come to blows, chasing him further is just going to chase him away. You shouldn’t beg for his time, nor should you keep chasing him for it. If he doesn’t want you in his life right now, get on with yours. 

  • Get the girls around and have some drinks and a movie. 
  • Invite your parents around for dinner and a catchup. 
  • Go to the gym like you keep saying you’re going to do, but never do. 
  • Do something else — don’t pine for him, don’t sit and wait for him, just get on with your life and let things play out just as they’re going to. 

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Don’t React Like This … 

If he blocks you on Facebook, don’t message him on Instagram. He’ll block you on there too, and then you’ll need to resort to using Twitter. What if he blocks you there? Whatsapp next? Then iMessage? What about Skype? 

If you keep going around the social media accounts, there’s a good chance he’ll just keep blocking you. Take the first blocking as a sign — this chap needs his space. 

> > If he WANTS you to chase him around the various social media accounts to “prove” how much you’ll do for him, he’s playing games. You don’t need that drama in your life. Boy, bye! < <

While we’re on the subject of other things NOT to do, don’t scream and shout at him. We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again — he needs some space. Shouting and screaming at him is not giving him space. We know that you don’t want to lose your BAE, but hurling abuse at him is not going to keep him in your clutches. 

One final point that we feel it is important to bring to your attention — stalking his social media accounts using your friend’s social media account is always a good idea in theory but usually ends up going wrong somewhere along the line. You will accidentally ‘like’ an update from months ago, for example, making him aware of EXACTLY what you’re doing. He’s going to know that it’s your best friend letting you use her account. 

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Do React Like This …

Spend some time on yourself — treating and loving yourself. Self-care is very underrated but oh-so-vital, and if he won’t love you in the way that you would like him to, perhaps it’s about time that you started to love yourself? 

Treat yourself to a pamper weekend or have that extra slice of chocolate cake. You’ll add an extra half an hour on at the gym to compensate for it, right? 

Get your hair done. Nails? Yeah, get a manicure while you’re there too. All of those things that you don’t seem to find the time to do anymore now that you’re in a relationship; that’s what you should be doing. Sitting around waiting for him to make that unblock call is probably just going to break your heart. As the saying goes, you should be with the guy who ruins your lipstick with kisses, not your mascara with tears. 

When the time is right — when you have both calmed down — you can talk again, perhaps sort out the problems you had or have. But you do need to have calmed down first. You can’t solve an argument by starting a brand new one. You almost must remember that the resolution might not always be quite as you’d hoped. 

16 Comments

  1. Nabila Ferose

    December 6, 2018 at 9:01 pm

    Hey guys am really having a serious problem there,s this a guy I met 7 months ago he seemed to be a nice person we met after 3 weeks and we made love oh gosh! i thought he was the right one we madly fell in love with each other he included me in his future plans and i was ready to move into a new relationship after breaking up with my first guy now after sometime the guy started texting less the conversations got shorter and tried to reach out on him to find what the problem was he told he,s gat a lot on his mind so i gave him space for 2 months without texting him then he texted me again telling me how much he misses me.months went by and things got a little bit more complicated he stopped texting completely i was always the one to make first moves texting him ,calling it really affected me since i never wanted to keep bothering him or look so clingy a d shitty after one week he told me we meet and talk so reminded him on weekdays about the meeting only to tell me he,s travelling upcountry i had to keep the situation calm in the evening i received a call from my close female friend telling me my guy wanted to hook up with her but she blocked him coz she knew we were dating i reacted and asked him he got a bit upset so am totally confused is this guy seeing someone? does he really love me anymore? please advice i can’t take this guy off my mind I still love him so much though he acts strange when i tried to ask why he not talking to me like in the first place he immediately switched his whatsApp number he not online anymore.i failed to date someone else reason being i can’t stop loving this guy. wat should i do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 7, 2018 at 7:25 pm

      He has explained that he has a lot on his mind. The two of you have had months where you did not communicate. He has chosen to not respect your relationship. He has changed his number. It seems as though the two of you are no longer maintaining any type of relationship. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Nabila!

  2. Hurting Girl

    December 6, 2018 at 3:59 pm

    I recently was blocked by my ex boyfriend for constantly texting and calling him I started only after he started to ignore me for two months and had me wondering what happened, did I do something wrong. He did only contact me when he needed my help and say he still wanted me in his life than went back to ignoring me now I’m blocked after texting him letting him know how he’s hurting me by ignoring me and if he cared and loved me he wouldn’t be he’ll be talking to me and it’s not the first time and now I’m blame myself for constantly texting him and calling him

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 7, 2018 at 7:14 pm

      He is your ex. You continued to message him. He no longer wanted you to do so. He decided to block you. Since he is no longer your partner and clearly isn’t interested in maintaining a relationship with you, allow him to fade from your thoughts. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Girl!

  3. SCB

    December 1, 2018 at 7:15 pm

    I found a interest in this dating app. Someone mentioned it to me to try out. Found a match innthis man. We started chatting through text on the app. Then we decided to give out our cell numbers. The first night we just spoke on the phone for 6 hrs. We really connected, things in common ,then chemistry . We spoke like every day through text or Video chat. We kept mentioning how we need meet. This man in the beginning sending me hos life history of pictures or some videos. Every picture had a story. I became intrigued by him. We both were Very interested in the same things. He even mentioned love in our conversation. Then we finally meet a month later. Have a good night together. Then one text. Then nothing. No text, no phone call. I thought What happened? Did he just Ghost me? I heard men have done these things. And yet he opened up to me about a lot of things. I even have his home address . Who does that. Lots of Questions. It hurts for sure. So in my thoughts maybe I will write him a letter. Not to lash out at him. But give him reasons to think what he may have done. The one thing was from WhatsApp he may have blocked or deleted me. But he is following me on Instagram. Not sure why. I keep thinking what should be my next step? It has been 4 weeks. Since he stopped. I have been giving him space. I can’t seem to get him off my mind. Hmm ??

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 2, 2018 at 8:47 pm

      If he stopped speaking with you, then he may have felt embarrassed about his actions. It is possible that he had expectation during your date that he did not meet. Determine what you believe is an appropriate course of action. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps attempt to see him in the future. If you do not want to do so, then allow thoughts of him to fade. Have a great day, SCB!

  4. prettybee

    November 26, 2018 at 8:52 am

    * Long post alert
    My boyfriend keeps blocking me anytime we are in a fight and I always end up reaching out… after a week or so. We’ve been good for a while now,we were planning on meeting up for a date on Saturday but we ended up arguing on WhatsApp on Friday night. I woke up on Saturday and realised that it had been a petty fight, so I decided to reach out, coz our date was still on and I wanted us to be okay before we met later. Guess what, he gave me attitude AF!! 🙄 and said some pretty harsh things. I tried to get him to meet me so that we could talk about it but he said he wouldn’t show up,leaving me feeling humiliated and embarrassed. So I accepted it and got off WhatsApp and got back on on Sunday midday, only to find that he’d texted later that Saturday saying he really wanted to meet up. In my mind I wondered, why couldn’t he have called me instead on seeing I hadn’t received the message. I was still angry at how he had embarrassed me when I was literally begging him for a meet up to settle things, so I didn’t respond to his message when I read it. Later On Sunday, I got back on WhatsApp and found that he’d blocked me. What do guys?? should I just walk away from this drama?

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 26, 2018 at 7:47 pm

      Your partner is neglectful, and he has chosen to block you as punishment. His behaviors are indications of his immaturity. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide if you believe that his behaviors are appropriate. Either speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, or allow him to fade from your life. He has made it clear that he is not willing to maintain a serious relationship with you. Have a great day, Prettybee!

  5. Meera

    November 25, 2018 at 3:38 am

    I was just blocked by a crush of mine whom I had been loving since I just heard his name n whereabouts from our common friends.Earlier the guy was interested but now he keep on saying less talking or more of his space n blah blah!!!But just it turns u upside down coz other person is just not treating you right. How to know if he’s ever gonna unblock you or ur call ?

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 25, 2018 at 8:10 pm

      There must have been some interaction which caused your crush to block you. You will find any benefit in attempting to reach out to this person. Learn some lessons from this relationship, and apply that knowledge to your future relationships. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Meera!

  6. Karen

    November 23, 2018 at 5:44 pm

    Thanks I’m new to this after being married for 11 yes and pretty much did it all wrong he’s a 25 Miami bartender so I doubt it had any potential , but there was a connection more emotional then physical and it’s the loss of new friend that sucks the most.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 23, 2018 at 10:42 pm

      Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. It is certain that your comments will support other members of our community in the future. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Karen!

      • prettybee

        November 26, 2018 at 9:00 am

        * Long post alert
        My boyfriend keeps blocking me anytime we are in a fight and I always end up reaching out… after a week or so. We’ve been good for a while now,we were planning on meeting up for a date on Saturday but we ended up arguing on WhatsApp on Friday night. I woke up on Saturday and realised that it had been a petty fight, so I decided to reach out, coz our date was still on and I wanted us to be okay before we met later. Guess what, he gave me attitude AF!! 🙄 and said some pretty harsh things. I tried to get him to meet me so that we could talk about it but he said he wouldn’t show up,leaving me feeling humiliated and embarrassed. So I accepted it and got off WhatsApp and got back on on Sunday midday, only to find that he’d texted later that Saturday saying he really wanted to meet up. In my mind I wondered, why couldn’t he have called me instead on seeing I hadn’t received the message. I was still angry at how he had embarrassed me when I was literally begging him for a meet up to settle things, so I didn’t respond to his message when I read it. Later On Sunday, I got back on WhatsApp and found that he’d blocked me. What do guys?? should I just walk away from this drama?

        • web admin

          web admin

          November 26, 2018 at 7:47 pm

          Your partner is neglectful, and he has chosen to block you as punishment. His behaviors are indications of his immaturity. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide if you believe that his behaviors are appropriate. Either speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, or allow him to fade from your life. He has made it clear that he is not willing to maintain a serious relationship with you. Have a great day, Prettybee!

      • Sahra Said Hussein

        November 29, 2018 at 4:56 am

        So I talked to this guy for a month and a half, we meet each other on a dating app.
        When we first started talking I loved the way we vibed and how things went, we started talking for hours on the phone in the middle of the night and then bom 8 days later he confessed feelings for me and I told him I was starting to feel a little butterfly’s here and there but I want to take things slow

        He agreed and we continued talking, one week before my birthday he sent me a snap saying how he’s not ready for a relationship and that he hopes it’s okey, and I didn’t like the fact that he did it via snap but I was like okey and told him it’s okey as long as he’s happy

        Then the same day he called me asking me if I’m okey and I told him the truth witch is I’m not and I feel shitty, but it’s okey lol
        He then started to regret his decision and told me it was fucked up of him to do it via snap

        Then I said that the fucked up thing is that it’s one week to my birthday and you decided to do this, and then he regret his whole decision and he asks if we can try again so we did
        This time he does the same thing just that he called me and said he’s going to go to school a place 6 h away from me and that it’s going to be hard cuz he’s never been in a long distance relationship, the weird thing is that I never got the chance to meet him

        But yeah I told him how can you judge it when you only have been in one relationship your whole life and never tried it? So he said you’re right and agreed and we tried again

        The third time I wake up and check my snap, I see that were no longer friends on snap and I was in shook, so as curious as I am I asked him on insta, cuz you know I thought we was cool

        Then he says don’t call me! And then says I’m done being confused I’ve decided to end this and the only way for me to do that is to block you everywhere

        And I told him that’s not the only way it’s a way so he won’t feel bad about himself and stuff then he blocked me there too and honestly I’ve never been hurt, I’m 19 and he was 24, I feel broken and empty inside cuz he became fast a best friend and I never got to meet him. I feel like total shit and I’ve searched like crazy for explanations and asked a lot of my guy friends but no one can give me a straight answer

        I’m literally so confused, and I don’t know what to do and how to take this, should I move on? Should I try to contact him? Should I not? I feel so empty inside man

        I miss him but I don’t wanna bother him

        • web admin

          web admin

          November 29, 2018 at 9:16 pm

          He is not willing to treat you with respect. He has determined that he is unable to maintain your relationship. This is a sign that you should not nourish a relationship with him. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Sahra!

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