How to Get a Guy to Kiss You

By on February 16, 2016

Let me be really honest here and just say that guys aren’t always the brightest when it comes to picking up on hints that us ladies put down. Whether it’s nerves or just their cluelessness, they often don’t realize that we like them and this makes it difficult for us ladies to get them to plant one on us!

How do you make it obvious to the guy you like that you want them to lean in close, grab the side of your face, and plant their delicious looking pout on yours? Well, we’ve got an array of different ways that have worked for us in the past. Give these 20 ways to get a guy to kiss you a try.

  1. Make Sure They Know You Like Them

Some guys just have no idea that you’re even into them in the first place. If that’s the case, how would they ever know to plant one on you? Make sure that you’ve done everything you can to make it obvious that you like him.

You’ll also want to make sure that he’s into you, too. So before trying these tips to get a guy to kiss you, be certain that they’re aware of your feelings for them.

  1. Pretty Up Your Pout

Pretty Up Your Pout

If you want to get a guy to kiss you, you’ll need some delectable looking lips! So make sure you’re exfoliating your lips regularly, keeping them moisturized, and even applying a light (very light) layer of gloss on them to keep them looking fresh.

Bonus tip: Something that will always make them look rosy and delicious without the added lipstick (guys don’t particularly like kissing someone with a ton of lipstick on) is to simply bite down on your lips occasionally. This increases the circulation and keeps them red and even more plump.

  1. Put those Lips on Display

Put those Lips on Display

Now that your mouth is looking better than ever, show it off! Make him pay extra attention to that part of your face. This can already be done by making them look appealing, but you can do even more. A trick that always seems to work is biting down on your lower lip when you know he’s looking at you. He won’t be able to resist!

  1. Alone Time is Key

Alone Time is Key

He’s not going to kiss you for the first time if there are a lot of other people around. He’ll be far too nervous and embarrassed to do so. This means that spending time alone, often is crucial. If you spend more and more alone time together, he’ll get more comfortable with you and this opens up more opportunities for him to kiss you.

  1. Lean in Close

Lean in Close

How is he going to be able to kiss you if you’re always 5 feet away from him? If you want to make it easier for him to kiss you, then you have to be as close to him as you can be without it being uncomfortable. Lean in closer when he’s talking or just hold his hand when you can.

  1. Get Your Flirt On

Get Your Flirt On

Being really flirty with someone is always a green light to them if they’re wondering about kissing you. By laughing a lot, touching them here and there, and being playfully flirting, he’ll get the hint that you’re into him and it’ll give him the confidence he needs to pull you closer and kiss you.

  1. Make Sexy Eye Contact

Make Sexy Eye Contact

When he’s talking to you make sure you’re maintaining eye contact. Don’t stare at him! But do look into his eyes enough let him know that you’re engaged and listening. Chances are, if you’re doing it right, you’ll make him blush as he’s talking. This is a clear sign that he definitely wants to kiss you.

  1. Look at His Lips

Look at His Lips

Take eye contact a step further and look at his lips. When he’s looking back into your eyes, subtly shift your gaze down to his lips for just a second. Then move them back up to his eyes and continue the conversation. This oldest trick in the book is almost always guaranteed to make him kiss you.

  1. Fresh Breath, Always

Fresh Breath, Always

Who wants to kiss someone who has bad smelling breath? I know I wouldn’t! Since you never really know if the two of you will be eating or enjoying snacks of any kind while you’re together, it’s always important to keep some gum or mints handy.

I suggest using mints instead of gum because if you two do end up kissing, the gum could get in the way. Here’s a little hint for you too: if you offer him a mint after a meal and he graciously takes it, it definitely means that he’s thinking about kissing you.

  1. Touchy-Touchy


Initiating physical contact is a great way to close the gap between the two of you and make him feel more comfortable moving in for the kiss. Hold hands, lean on him, hug him, just do anything that will bring you two closer together.

  1. Play a Tension-Filled Game

Play a Tension Filled Game

Sexual tension is the best way to get a guy to kiss you. So play a game that creates some of that! My favorite game to play is the “guess what’s next” game when we’re eating snacks or dinner. Have him close his eyes, get really close, and feed him different foods while he guesses what it is. The intimacy of feeding him will add some charged tension in the air.

  1. Be Confident

Be Confident

If you’re nervous, he’ll be nervous. People who are nervous are less likely to follow through with something they want to do. So make sure you’re confident! If you remain confident the entire time, it will make it so much easier for him to make his move.

  1. Pretend You’re Cold – and Make it Obvious You Really Aren’t

Pretend You’re Cold

Some guys really need that extra push when it comes to kissing a girl. A common move is to pretend that you’re cold so they’ll hold onto you tight. But if you really want to be obvious about your desires, tell them you’re cold in an environment that really isn’t chilly at all. They’ll get the hint.

  1. Face Him as Often as You Can

Face Him as Often as You Can

It’s not easy to kiss someone when you’re both facing the same direction. So make sure you put yourself in front of him a lot so he will have more of an opportunity to go for it!

  1. Smile a Lot

Smile a Lot

This goes hand in hand with flirting and having confidence, but it is crucial. Not only will smiling make you look like you’re having a great time, but it also draws attention to your mouth – something that is needed if you want to get a guy to kiss you.

  1. Touch His Face

Touch His Face

Being close and touchy-feely with him is important already, but if you want to take it to the next level, touch his face whenever you can – just make sure it’s not in an uncomfortable way. You can pretend he has an eyelash, playfully “bop” him on the nose, or even just rub his facial hair (if he has any) and say that you like it. This basically sets up the perfect opportunity for him to move in.

  1. Bring it Up in Conversation

If you two somehow get on the topic of kissing, bring up a point that you think he’d be a great kisser. The best time to do this is during a make out scene in a movie. Just blurt out, “I bet you’d be a better kisser than that.” Say it playfully and maybe he’ll prove your hypothesis.

  1. Whisper in His Ear

Whisper in His Ear

Not much is sexier and more kiss-inducing than whispering something in his ear. Just lean in close and tell him that you had an amazing time with him on your date. If you play this right, you’ll get that kiss you’ve been waiting for.

  1. Linger on Your Goodbyes

Just like you can use whispering in his ear to get a kiss, you can pull away from a hug but not let go of him just yet. Look up at him and then down at his lips. He’ll know it’s time to kiss you then.

  1. Kiss Him Yourself!

Kiss Him Yourself

Hello! It is 2016 after all. Who says the guys have to make all the first moves? If you’re shy and have tried all of the above tricks with no luck, take some initiative yourself! Maybe he’s even shyer than you are. Lean in close and go for it. He might even find that a woman who takes charge is sexy.

Getting a guy to kiss you can be quite the challenge if they don’t pick up on your hints very easily. But by using these techniques, you’ll lock lips in no time. Do you have any more tips that have worked for you? Let us know how they worked!


  1. Allie

    February 26, 2018 at 5:51 pm

    I started dating a guy a little bit ago- we’ve known each other for forever but we got to know each other this year. I think that he really, really likes me- we text for hours on end and he’s asked me out to a lot of stuff, but we’ve only awkwardly hugged. I want to kiss him but it’s kind of hard to get him alone.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 26, 2018 at 9:19 pm

      It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a physical relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If you believe that it would be appropriate to kiss him, then attempt to make an opportunity to do so. Have a great day, Allie!

  2. A Little Nervous

    December 7, 2016 at 7:49 pm

    Hi there! I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about two months now, and I was thinking of kissing him on the cheek and hoping he’d take the hint lol! Any tips for how I should go about doing this? I’m kinda shy, so the idea of kissing him on the lips first seems a bit scary haha
    Do you think he would like me kissing him on the cheek?

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 8, 2016 at 2:17 pm

      It is great that you have been dating for two months and you still are unsure whether or not he wants a kiss. It is certain that he is dying for you to kiss him. Kiss him on the cheek and surprise him. Or sneak kiss him on the lips. Or look him in the eyes and tell him that you are going to kiss him. There are so many options, so be sure to enjoy this kiss! Make it memorable!

  3. Amanda

    October 22, 2016 at 8:44 pm

    Okay every time i’m about to go to work and i give my boyfriend a kiss i try to walk out the door but i never get to. It’s like i can’t bring myself to stop kissing him. We can pull away for a second and we start breathing heavy with our foreheads still connected and start making out again. When i finally do stop it’s so hard. We’ll be so close to start kissing again. My boyfriend even does this cute thing where he kisses me to wake me up or to stop an argument. When i’m asleep he’ll start kissing me to wake me up. When we have arguments i’ll be yelling at him and he’ll be really mad but he just kisses me. Sometimes i make him really mad and he’ll pick me up and push me to the wall and start kissing me and than says he loves me. He also says i’m super sexy when i’m mad at him. We literally have the most passionate kisses when we fight. It’s super hot

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 23, 2016 at 5:34 pm

      Your relationship seems to be based on a solid foundation. Continue to enjoy your relationship and nurture it as you move forward. Allow your arguments to continue to end after a kiss. And, in time, the two of you will have less and less arguments. That said, if he attempts to make you mad because he finds enjoyment out of it, then determine if he is teasing you. He may be doing that because he finds you sexy. Remain positive and mindful as you move forward, Amanda!

  4. Jessica

    August 16, 2016 at 3:14 pm

    I started going out with a guy a few weeks ago and he is really nice he sends me a text every morning and calls me every night.we get on so well he finds excuses to hold my hand and when I was cold he gave me his hoodie I really like him and I want him to kiss me but I don’t know if he feels the same way what should I do

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 16, 2016 at 4:12 pm

      It is clear that he shares your feelings for you. If you continue to play coy and not share your feelings with him, then he may become confused or concerned in the future. If you want to kiss him, then kiss him when the time feels right. It would be wise of you to share your feelings directly and honestly as soon as you are able. Remain positive and be happy!

    • toya

      August 29, 2016 at 5:41 am

      initiate that kiss my love no time to waste

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 29, 2016 at 8:05 am

        That sounds like great advice. I am sure that Jessica will appreciate it. Thanks for commenting, Toya!

  5. Kate

    April 12, 2016 at 11:11 am

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two months and we have only kissed twice and it was a quick kiss. I just want him to kiss me more often.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 15, 2016 at 8:26 am

      It seems like you have commented twice on this one. I have to answer and approve each comment individually, so it can sometimes take me a little while to answer all of them. If you do not see your comment and the response right away, do not worry because you will. Read through my first response and let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks for commenting!

  6. Kate

    April 12, 2016 at 11:09 am

    I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two months and we have only kissed twice. He is a lot taller than me and it is hard to lean in for a kiss. I just want him to kiss me more.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 15, 2016 at 8:25 am

      Why don’t you just tell him that you want to kiss him more? Or make a move and kiss him yourself? He is already dating you, so you can safely assume that he wants to kiss you. He probably just feels nervous around you and is not sure what you want. Tell him what you want or kiss him, and I am sure he would be more than happy to make that change. Good luck, Kate!

  7. Lovette

    March 14, 2016 at 2:33 pm

    I’m a member of a clique in school. And I’m the only girl. I like Max alot,and he’s part of the clique. I told him and he said he can’t love me bck and we can only be friends. I got him to kiss me two weeks ago. But he hasn’t said anything about the kiss. What do I do? Did I do something wrong?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 15, 2016 at 9:55 am

      He may just be uninterested. Even if he values you as a friend or thinks you are attractive, that does not mean that he wants to date you or likes you as more than a friend. From the sound of it, he only wants to be friends with you, so there is nothing more that you can do. You cannot make him like you, and you did nothing wrong. In a few months or years, he may change his mind. Until then, it looks like you will be stuck in the friend zone for a while.

  8. Alaska

    March 9, 2016 at 11:17 pm

    I had a crush on this guy for about 4 years. Around the third year of liking him, he started to flirt a lot and started liking me. This year, we held hands, kissed, hugged and cuddled, but he never asked me out. I started to realize he was sort of playing me. I just found out that he was completely playing me, because he told my friend that he never actually cared about me. I told myself I had to stop liking him, and after a little while, i did.

    Now, its a little while later and im dating a guy that i have also had a crush on for a while. The guy i used to like is suddenly sooo interested in me, and even pretended to cry when i mentioned my boyfriends name. Was he just playing me? For my boyfriend, he is a year younger than me, and he’s never been kissed before. The only problem is, i REALLY want to kiss him. We have a school dance coming up and I want to know if i should try to make a move with him, when we dance together? He is a little bit more of a shy type, and he is quiet until you get to know him. Would it be a good idea to try to get a kiss from him or for me to kiss him, of would it just be awkward?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 10, 2016 at 8:10 am

      I would forget about your original crush–you have a boyfriend that genuinely cares for you, and your crush was just too confusing, whatever his reasons were. There is no reason that the girl can’t make the first move, so I would go ahead and kiss him when you get the opportunity. He may be too shy or awkward to make a move, so it may be up to you unless you plan on waiting a long time. Don’t worry so much–if he liked you enough to date you, he will be more than happy to get a chance to kiss you. 🙂

    • Trinity

      March 11, 2016 at 6:15 pm

      I really love this guy Marco but he told my friend that he only likes me as a cool friend what should I do

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 13, 2016 at 6:07 pm

        It does not sound like there is anything that you can do. If he only wants to be friends, then you cannot just make him like you. If he does change his mind and starts liking you, it will probably be over the course of several months or longer. If you can handle being friends, continue to be around him and see where things go. If you cannot be friends, then that’s okay too–the chances of him changing his mind aren’t high, so it may be better for you emotionally if you hold off on doing anything about it. Good luck, Trinity!

  9. ben

    March 6, 2016 at 5:28 pm

    I have a very good friend, we work together but don’t have a “professional” so to speak relationship. He sits close to me and when we talk he tends to squeeze my knee, or look intently into my eyes, we joke and have a fantastic time together. I honestly like him ridiculous amounts but I’m to afraid i will be rejected. Is there a chance he’s into me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 7, 2016 at 9:09 am

      Gazing at you, making excuses to touch you, squeezing your knee and trying to be around you all the time are all signs that he could be interested in you. There is always a risk of rejection, but it sounds like he is starting to like you. If you are both willing to have a relationship with someone for your work, go for it. Good luck!

  10. NS

    March 5, 2016 at 6:20 am

    I really like someone at work and we spend some time together outside of work – we go to the gym and then on to get food etc so it’s not like a ‘date’. He makes a lot of strong eye contact during conversation and we laugh a lot. When we go out as part of a group and we’re both drinking he seems to really fancy me – he sits very close so our legs touch and it’s almost like we’re in our own little bubble. He knows I have it bad for him bit he’s not the spiteful, nasty type, however he is adamant he wont have an office relationship (he’s told me why and I completely understand). But I don’t know if it is an excuse because he’s not actually into me or if he likes me but that situation stops him acting on it.
    He will invite me to group things but never out alone, I am always the one instigating everything HOWEVER he nearly always says he’s up for it and we have all sorts of plans for the future including one to go on holiday. When our colleague challenges him and jokingly asks wha’ts going on between us he simply says to him again that he’s not interested in an office relationship (again, I do know this is genuine) but he’s never actually admitted whether he likes me or doesnt like me – I do know he’s never actually said ‘no chance’ or ‘never going to happen’. So any suggestions – do you think he likes me?

    Whenever I see him with just the 2 of us we hug before we leave – at first I instigated the hug but now he always volunteers it. HELP, Im so confused!

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 6, 2016 at 11:32 am

      It sounds like he could have feelings for you, but he is ignoring them because he does not want to have an office relationship. While this is a very logical decision, it does not help either of you pursue a relationship. It does not seem like he is just using the “no office relationship” as an excuse–he genuinely seems to have some feelings and he also seems to genuinely not want to act on them. As long as you guys work together, it looks like nothing will ever be possible. You could continue to entertain the thought of a relationship in the hopes that he changes his mind or one of you gets a new job, but you may also want to just forget about the possibility of a relationship since it could be a long time until it would be possible to have one.

  11. FJ

    March 4, 2016 at 4:54 pm

    I really like someone, but we are childhood best friends. He often refers to me as someone he thinks of as “like a sister”, but I feel like he has real feelings for me? Our parents have always talked about how we used to crush on each other so much when we were younger. We are the best of friends now. I am 18 and never been kissed… What would you advise for me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 6, 2016 at 9:50 am

      You could try flirting with him and seeing how things go. Dress cutely and send him flirty messages, and it will hopefully get him to think about you as more than a friend. After a few weeks or months of flirting with him more, you can always ask him if there is a chance that he likes you back. Just make sure to emphasize that you want to be friends no matter what his answer is so that things do not end up becoming awkward later. Good luck, FJ!

  12. Kimberly

    March 4, 2016 at 5:33 am

    He know’s i like him. But he doesn’t like me. We are like Best friends and i don’t want to ruin that. but i am deeply in Love with him. He knows it. and i’m not the flirting type. And i currently found out he used to like me. I want him to like me again.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 4, 2016 at 9:25 am

      You seem to have commented twice on this one. I have to answer each comment and approve it individually, so it can sometimes take a little bit to get an answer. If you do not see a response immediately, do not worry because you will. Read through my first response and let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks for commenting!

  13. Kimberly

    March 2, 2016 at 9:56 am

    I have been liking this boy for 2 years. I think i might even love him. But the problem is he likes my Best friend. I know this isn’t about kissing but i was hoping you guys can give me advice in what i should do.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 2, 2016 at 9:59 am

      It looks like you commented twice on this one. Each comment has to be manually approved, so it can sometimes take a little while for me to get around to all of them. If you do not see your comment or the response right away, do not worry because you will. Read through my first response and let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks for commenting!

  14. Kimberly

    March 2, 2016 at 9:46 am

    So have been liking this kid for 2 years and i think i am in love with him . But, the problem is he likes my friend. He treats me like a best friend. I know this doesn’t do anything with kissing but i need your advice.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 2, 2016 at 9:58 am

      Try flirting with him and see where things go. If you are feeling particularly brave, you could tell him how you feel and see how he responds. You have liked him for two years and played it cautious, and that approach has not gotten you anywhere. If you do not find the courage to make a move, you could end up spending another two years wondering about what could have happened if you had just made a move. At the very least, start talking to him so that you have some connection to build a potential relationship on in the future. Good luck, Kimberly!

      • Kimberly

        March 3, 2016 at 11:54 am

        He know’s i like him. But he doesn’t like me. We are like Best friends and i don’t want to ruin that. but i am deeply in Love with him. He knows it. and i’m not the flirting type. And i currently found out he used to like me. I want him to like me again

        • web admin

          web admin

          March 4, 2016 at 9:23 am

          Hmm . . . that sounds like a difficult situation. It is impossible to make someone like you unless they are already open to the idea. The fact that he used to like you seems promising–although, I would imagine that he would have asked you out now if he still did, since he knows that you are interested. At the moment, I guess the only thing you can do is stay friends with him and hope that he ends up liking you again in the future. Good luck, Kimberly!

  15. jo-anne

    February 23, 2016 at 4:50 am

    this guy I have know him for almost 2 years now always wanted to kiss him, I one day asked him when is he going to kiss me so he said if I wanted to kiss him I would have done it along time ago but he was the one who told me he does not kiss and when I told him I wanna kiss him he just laughed at me so what should I do should I make the 1st move and make a fool out of myself or just let it go.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 26, 2016 at 9:49 pm

      I would just let it go for now. It seems like you have been fairly obvious about how you feel, so he knows for sure that you like him and want to kiss him. If he is interested as well, he can always make a move and do something. If he talks to you, go ahead and talk to him. Don’t try to make another move though until you have a better idea about how he feels. Good luck!

    • Madison

      February 27, 2016 at 9:39 pm

      Just say I’m sorry …I just love u

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 29, 2016 at 8:56 pm

        That sounds like good advice. Thanks, Madison!

  16. kristine

    February 19, 2016 at 8:23 pm

    One guy of mine started a game of action charades and then crept up behind me and started massaging my shoulders breathing really close on my neck and when I turned around he just kissed me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 21, 2016 at 12:24 pm

      It sounds like he has a serious crush on you. Congrats! Now, all you have to do is decide if you like him back or not. If you do, you can always ask him out and try to get a relationship started between both of you. Good luck, Kristine!

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