How to Get a Guy to Hold Your Hand

By on January 9, 2016

Oh the great hand hold! It’s basically the easiest, slickest way to connect with the person you’re interested in. Not to mention the first intimate physical contact that you make with them. It’s the perfect way to get rid of those jitters and show someone that you’re into them.

If you want to open up that door for something more than a friendship, getting a guy to hold your hand is the way to go. Here are my special ways you can get him to hold your hand in no time.

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  1. Be Flirtatious

First, you’ve really got to let him know you’re interested. It’ll give him the bravery to grab your hand if he knows you won’t pull it away right after. Twirl your hair, smile a lot, and be super flirty with him. Set it up so he has something to work with! By being flirty, you’re giving him the confidence to take hold of that hand.

  1. Stay Calm

If you’re really nervous, that’s going to show through and it’s never good. People feed off of other people’s emotions. That means that your nerves are going to rub off on him and he’s going to be too nervous to make a move.

Keep your emotions in check! I know it can be really hard to keep calm when your crush is standing two feet away from you and there’s the possibility that you’ll finally be able to hold his hand. But just breathe and relax. Plus, if you’re nervous your hands will get all gross and sweaty – something that no one wants to hold.

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  1. Get Him Alone

It’s never easy getting up the courage to hold someone’s hand when there are a bunch of people around. If you really want him to make the move and grab your hand, you’ll have to get him alone first.

You can just ask him to go somewhere “quieter” to talk, lead him away from the group, or really anything else that’ll make him follow you away from the crowd. He might even grab your hand on the way to being alone if he’s excited about it.

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  1. Touch Him More and More

He needs to feel comfortable around you before he can make the move and hold your hand. Start initiating different physical contact with him. Touch his shoulder when he says something funny, poke his waist as he walks by, and just be touchy-feely whenever you can so he’ll feel more comfortable touching you.

This gives him the confidence he needs to grab a hold of your hand. If you’ve never touched him before in any way, shape, or form, he might feel awkward and uncomfortable making the move. So don’t be shy! Start touching him here and there from time to time.

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  1. Grab His Arm

You know that adorable way you can grab hold of a guy’s arm and walk with him hooked at the elbows? Well, that’s basically the gateway to getting him to hold your hand! It’s a perfect opportunity to get close to him, initiate some contact of your own, and get your hand in close proximity to his – giving him the courage to take hold of you pretty little hand.

  1. Whisk Him Away

If you really want him to take hold of your hand, grab his wrist and lead him away somewhere. This not only shows him that you want him to be by you and you want to be alone with him, but it also puts your hand right next to his and he can easily just slide it into yours.

This is a perfect and fun way to lead him somewhere where the two of you can be alone or it’s a playful way you can flirt with him and initiate some physical contact that will make him feel a lot more comfortable around you.

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  1. Walk Really Close to Him

In order to really get a guy to hold your hand, you have to put yourself in close proximity to him. I mean, you have to be close enough to even bump hands together every now and then. Walk close enough to him that your shoulders even touch from time to time.

This not only gives you the chance to be really flirty and close to him, but it also puts the idea in his mind when your hands are touching already. It also makes it a lot easier for him to just grab your hand and continue walking instead of fumbling around awkwardly trying to get a hold of it when it’s far away.

Getting a guy to hold your hand can be tough since you can’t exactly control them. Following these tips will certainly make it happen. Have you tried any of these tips before?

40 Comments

  1. A shy lover

    October 7, 2018 at 5:36 am

    Ok. so my crush just recently asked me to be his girlfriend (I know, its a miracle, right) and we’re both what you would call “the shy type” and I’m too nervous to hold his hand or anything. I’ve tried sitting next to him a lot and putting my hand next to his, but he never takes it and I’m too shy to do it myself. What do I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 7, 2018 at 8:18 pm

      He is interested in nourishing this relationship. You are uncertain about how to behave. Strengthen your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. It is certainly appropriate for you to hold the hand of your partner. He may be shy and uncertain, which may prevent him from taking action. Ensure that you share your thoughts and feelings with him. Have a great day, Lover!

  2. Meredith

    September 28, 2018 at 6:51 am

    I liked this boy and my friend asked him if he liked me and he said yes. Now we are dating, and he’s only held my hand once. He’s nervous to do it around his friends, and I only see him at school. How do I get him to like me and hold my hand again?

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 28, 2018 at 9:32 pm

      The two of you share a strong social connection. If you want to hold his hand, then hold his hand. The two of you are dating. If he does not want to hold your hand, then accept his communication and do not attempt to hold his hand. Spend additional time with, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Meredith!

  3. Vita

    August 2, 2018 at 7:11 pm

    I have a crush … he asked me out to the movies… but when we were in a cinema he was all into his phone 📱,he took 2 popcorn 🍿 and 2 sodas I get myself a popcorn 🍿 too. So he was out of hands then I grabbed his soda and helped him… in the movie time we talked about movie but that is it… BUT I am a bit sick 😷 I have a tumor in the nose 👃 so I was afraid to look at him . I couldn’t be flirty. Please help hold his hand, I am 12 , we were alone at the movies.

    • Vita

      August 2, 2018 at 7:13 pm

      I am really ugly with the red tumour in the nose.

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 2, 2018 at 8:37 pm

        I doubt that that is completely true–he obviously liked you and is attracted to you because he asked you to the movies. He was probably just too afraid to make a move on the first date, so you will just have to wait for your next date to see what happens. Good luck!

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 2, 2018 at 8:36 pm

      Don’t worry! He was probably just as worried about making a move as you are. If he knew that you were feeling sick, he may have also wanted to wait to make a move until you were feeling better. If he asked you to the movies, then you can bet that he likes you. I’m sure that there will be an opportunity to hold his hand on your next date. Good luck!

  4. Mykayla

    July 24, 2018 at 9:59 pm

    I really like this boy. But how do i get him to come to the movies with me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 24, 2018 at 10:20 pm

      You are interested in developing a relationship with this person. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Ask him if he is interested in going to the movies with you. You will find great benefit in speaking with him in person, as this will give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Mykayla!

  5. carli

    June 16, 2018 at 12:40 pm

    i’ve liked this guy for my whole school year and i finally told him yesterday that i liked him. it’s been about 2 weeks after school ended. he’s moving away in a month and i don’t know what to do. we are going to try to get together with my best friend and her crush to go roller skating and i really want to try and hold his hand. what do i do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 17, 2018 at 10:46 pm

      It sounds as though the two of you are going to go on a double date. This is a sign that he is interested in nourishing both a social and emotional relationship with you. Attempt to hold his hand during your date. It is likely that he is interested in maintain a relationship with you. Please share your insights and experiences. Have a great day, Carli!

  6. Brooke

    June 8, 2018 at 6:43 pm

    Hi I really really like this guy, but I haven’t mustered up the courage to grab his hand or arm, because he’s sorta shy about those things. He notices me scooting toward him, and always smiling and looking at him, and yes..he likes me back. I flirtatiously tease him and touch him every once in a while but I just want to muster up the courage to hold his elbow or hand, and I normally go downtown with a group of friends and he’s always been there. Talking to nobody but me or his friend, i’ll Call Shane. HELP ME FIGHT MY AWKWARDNESS!!

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 8, 2018 at 10:42 pm

      It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He likely approves of your feelings toward him. He may be aware of your feelings. He likely enjoys when you attempt to reach out to him. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Brooke!

      • Brooke

        June 9, 2018 at 9:12 am

        Thanks so much!

        • web admin

          web admin

          June 9, 2018 at 10:44 pm

          Thank you, Brooke!

  7. Maddy

    May 22, 2018 at 7:40 pm

    I started dating my boyfriend two weeks ago but we’ve known each other for 3 years. I used your advice to talk about the future of our relationship and he said he would like to hold hands eventually, but I don’t know how soon. And I want to ask him or show him without seeming pushy. Thanks!

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 22, 2018 at 10:36 pm

      The two of you have developed a strong emotional connection. It is certainly appropriate for the two of you to hold hands. You are dating, so share your time and energy with him if you want to nourish this relationship. If you want, you could hold his hand and surprise him with your fingers together. Have a great day, Maddy!

      • Maddy

        May 23, 2018 at 3:36 am

        Thanks!

  8. G

    March 30, 2018 at 2:16 pm

    Me and my bf started dating yesterday, and now that we are dating he is acting a little bit weird…and when we are in the hall walking to class together he walks really close to me and his hand touches mine but I think he is scared to hold my hand, what do I do???

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 31, 2018 at 12:38 pm

      He is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. His behavior is typical of someone who wants to act in an emotionally supportive manner. He would like you to express your emotional connection with him as well. The two of you have recently begun your relationship, so the two of you will be learning how to share your emotional connection over time. Have a great day, G!

  9. Queen

    February 28, 2018 at 4:58 pm

    I like this guy and people at my school call him salty and he is smart and if I tell anyone they will wonder why I would like someone like that. I sit beside him in class and he always seems like he is flirting. My friends always say he likes me but I say I don’t care even though I do. What do I do?? Do I give him hints?? If so what kind of hints??

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 1, 2018 at 9:04 pm

      It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. It is likely that he is treating you with more kindness than he treats other people. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Queen!

  10. carolyn eulinger

    February 27, 2018 at 8:47 pm

    but what if u are sitting by your boyfriend on a bus and you both dont know what to do

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 1, 2018 at 8:53 pm

      Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Take appropriate action. It is always best to be direct and honest about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you. Have a great day, Carolyn!

  11. Girl

    January 15, 2018 at 8:55 am

    What about the fact thag i felt yhat i was hugging someone or felt being kissed on the cheek in real life ??

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 15, 2018 at 8:41 pm

      Our dreams are influenced by our thoughts and influence our thoughts. Dreams may manifest physical sensations after your wake up. Always allow these sensations to influence you to treat people with kindness and compassion. This will ensure that positive events and people will enter into your life. Have a great day, Girl!

      • Girl

        January 16, 2018 at 12:36 am

        Thanks alot !!!!!!!!!!!

        • Girl

          January 25, 2018 at 10:13 am

          What about the fact that beyoncé smiled at me when she was singing ? And looked directly at me ??

          • web admin

            web admin

            January 25, 2018 at 7:25 pm

            This dream is a reflection of your desires. It is clear that you seek approval of someone that you admire. Allow this dream to influence you behave in an admirable way. Have a great day, Girl!

      • Girl

        January 17, 2018 at 10:16 am

        What about the smile on beyoncé’s face when she looked at me like i was her victim ??

        • web admin

          web admin

          January 19, 2018 at 11:53 am

          Allow your thoughts to influence you in a positive direction. If you see someone who is a victim, then attempt to support them. This will help guide your actions in a positive direction. Have a great day, Girl!

  12. McKenzie

    January 14, 2018 at 8:16 pm

    I like this guy he is really cute he goes to my school but I’m scared to tell him I like him what can I do

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 14, 2018 at 9:55 pm

      Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, McKenzie!

  13. K

    January 8, 2018 at 10:20 pm

    Does this still work if my bf is shorter than me? We believe personality matters not height, but i feel awkward around him bcuz he just sitsvtherev staring at me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 8, 2018 at 10:45 pm

      If you feel awkward, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. It is great that you are not concerned about height, as there is no reason to allow social constructs preventing you from develop a relationship with someone. It is likely that he is shy and uncertain how to entertain you. Have a great day, K!

  14. kathy

    June 28, 2017 at 6:25 pm

    How do i do this with my crush? He goes to my church and we will both be attending a week long church mission trip in the mountains. The trip is in less than a month and I really need him to make a move. I’m not sure that he likes me but not to long ago he threw me over his shoulder and carried me around and it seems like we like each other as my friend pointed out. He ignores my texts too and I relish our friendship so i don’t want to lose him but I want one of us to make a move. Any advice?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 29, 2017 at 1:10 pm

      If he ignores your texts, then the only option is to make a move in person. Some people do not like conversations that are not in person. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps do so after a group prayer. This will give him the opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kathy!

  15. Sami

    November 23, 2016 at 4:28 am

    This worked on my Boyfreind

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 23, 2016 at 1:41 pm

      Awesome! I am happy to hear that it worked for you. Thanks for commenting, Sami!

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