Dating Brazilian Men

By on March 29, 2015

As stereotypical as it can seem to say that a certain nationality is a certain way when it comes to dating, there are definite cultural differences. And when it comes to the Brazilian men they are known for being good looking, physically fit and extremely passionate. Read on fi you find yourself attracted to Brazilian men…

Hello, Let’s Kiss

Dating Brazilian men

Brazilian men have no qualms about approaching a woman whom they find attractive. In fact, they go up to almost any woman who catches their eye. They will start talking to you and paying you attention physically by touching you and kissing your cheeks. After a while, maybe as little as five minutes they will try to kiss you on the lips.

Of course, not all Brazilian men are that forward, especially not if they are living abroad and know that the speed of getting to the first kiss is a bit slower, but expect that a Brazilian man who is interested in you will try to make out with you sooner rather than later.

Compliments

Brazilian men will compliment you like there’s no tomorrow – anything they see that they like about you, they will tell you about. Presumably that will be a lot of compliments as there’s a reason why they are dating you!

Bear in mind though that Brazilian men will compliment you from the day they met you, so whilst some compliments may be extremely sincere if they’ve known you for a long time, many compliments only tell you what they like in the moment.

In other words: Brazilian men love women and they will show the women just how much they appreciate them, from the moment they lay eyes on them!

Dating Exclusively

If you meet a Brazilian man who wants to flirt with you and showers you in compliments at a bar, it doesn’t mean you’ll ever see him again. Only when a Brazilian man tell you that you are exclusive or boyfriend girlfriend (namorar), which often happens relatively fast, will you know he has some more serious intent with you.

The Brazilian dating culture is different from the American one in that most Brazilians decide to become exclusive right off the bat. It takes them a week to figure out if they have worthwhile chemistry with a person and from then on they will be exclusive with them. That, on the other hand does not mean they are looking for a super serious relationship. Some want fun forever, some want fun right now.

Fidelity

Fidelity on the whole is less strict than in America, but this is of course individual too. There are people who see faithfulness different in every town. If you expect your man to always be faithful, you will have to discuss that to make sure you are on the same page.

As the story goes – love is one thing, fidelity another.

Jealousy

Whilst Brazilian men aren’t always faithful, they are usually very possessive of their women. If other men try to flirt with them in front of them, they do not take it lightly.

Going Out Together

If you are a couple in Brazil you tend to attend most social functions together. It’s rare for men and women to go out by themselves with friends once they are an item. Brazilian men love flirting with women so if a woman shows up alone, they will do so. Your boyfriend, as a result, won’t like the idea of you going alone to social events. If you go by yourself somewhere it’s often seen as a sign that your relationship is a bit rocky.

Family

Brazilians are often close with their families and will introduce you to them right off the bat. Being introduced to someone’s family doesn’t mean they want to marry you – it’s no different to them than introducing you to friends. Or well, their relationship with their family may be different from that to their friends, but they don’t see it as a serious business introducing you to their family. They simply want to share that part of their life with you as it is a big part of their life.

Living at Home

Whilst it’s not true of all Brazilian men, many live at home till the age they get married, not least because the salary you first earn when you start working doesn’t pay the bills. So be prepared to date someone who hasn’t yet learnt how to fold their own laundry… But don’t worry – there’s an exception to every rule…

They Show Affection

Public displays of affection are not unusual in Brazil. It’s a culture where people touch each other much more so than in America. So be prepared for a man who will cuddle and kiss you in public!

1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery

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    Zola

    July 3, 2019 at 10:43 am

    If you’re an American girl, even an open minded American girl… it will be difficult to date a Brazilian man. They’re so loving and affectionate and know what to say to keep you around. You feel so special. The truth is, they are not loyal and the same things they say to you they have no problem telling to other women.. Keep in mind they are raised from a young age around sex and women. It’s part of their culture. They have a totally different perspective on what a real relationship is. So if you’re looking for happily ever after with a Brazilian you better be prepared for a lot of heartache and disappointment.

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      July 3, 2019 at 10:38 pm

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    Anonymous

    June 7, 2019 at 10:11 am

    I have a feeling very few of you are actually dating or think u dating the same people discussed on the comments 😂😂 I personally had a very bad experience with Brazilian man, being married to one. We not together for past 2 years but I still haven’t recovered. Remember to look after yourself, stay safe! Best of luck. For sure there might be good br guys out there. Like good and bad people everywhere. Wish and hope u ladies each find one for yourself.

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      June 8, 2019 at 12:49 am

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    Catia

    April 2, 2019 at 11:23 am

    Hi girls!
    It is very common for Brazilian guys to date several girls at the same time and tell them sweet things just to have sex. Do not always believe you are special just for being called “my princess”. They also lie a lot and find many creative excuses for not seeing you or being distant.
    Most of them still expect women to take care of them, the house and children.
    Do not think jealously and possessiveness are signs of care and love. These can be scary signs instead. Many Brazilian women are killed by their partners, especially women who want to get divorced while men do not accept it.

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      April 2, 2019 at 11:43 pm

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      Mafalda

      April 8, 2019 at 12:24 pm

      your comment very stereotype that every Brazilian man is equal and like to have several partners is very wrong, I know the Brazilians 30 years, I say this very stereotyped.
      There are many who know how to do housework like cleaning and shopping, but there are not many kitchens that know how to do it, but taking care of children depends on the training that the man received, since hundreds of countries are like that.

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        April 8, 2019 at 11:08 pm

        Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. It is always beneficial when members of our community share their insights and experiences. It is certain that your comment will help many members of our community. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Mafalda!

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    Max

    January 22, 2019 at 11:13 am

    The Brazilian i was dating wants that when we are in the same country we are together as a couple however when we are not he wants to see other people and live totally seperate lives from each other barely even speaking to eachother. I am not keen on this, if it was just sex and he was consistent with me eg an open relationship, I could understand but he wants emotional connections to these others and barely speaks with me when with them. He is now coming to my home country and wants us to be together again for the time he stays here but I feel confused. Why is he coming here making such an effort to see me in somewhere so important to me and meet my family, when he does not want to commit? Is it a culture thing or is this boy just confused?

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      January 22, 2019 at 5:51 pm

      There may be various reasons for his actions. He has said that he is coming to see you and wants to maintain a relationship with you. That means that his feelings are clear. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Max!

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        Khaye

        March 20, 2019 at 1:11 am

        Hi , I had the same situation as her’s. Im dating with a Brazillian guy for year for now. He barely talk to me ,though were not losing the connection and the communication is always there . Im confused too , I understand about the time difference and his job . But I just notice that he’s saying things like he’s very serious and can’t help self to get confused bec we don’t talk about the other things a lot

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          March 20, 2019 at 10:01 pm

          The two of you are maintaining a relationship, so you should attempt to nourish your connection whenever possible. If you are able to visit him in person, then do so. If you are unable to see him, then simply share your kindness and compassion at all times. If you believe that you need to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, then do so. Have a great day, Khaye!

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        Khaye

        March 20, 2019 at 1:13 am

        Im not sure if its because the language barriers or what . But he’s too mysterious .

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          March 20, 2019 at 10:02 pm

          The two of you are maintaining a relationship, so you should attempt to nourish your connection whenever possible. If you are able to visit him in person, then do so. If you are unable to see him, then simply share your kindness and compassion at all times. If you believe that you need to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, then do so. Have a great day, Khaye!

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          JC

          April 13, 2019 at 11:59 am

          Too mysterious? Not cool. And “mystery” that lasts more than 2 weeks is not confusion, it’s cake eating.

          Instead of asking what HE feels, ask yourself if this is enough for YOU. Do not expect it to magically improve. IF he is capable of being a committed partner, he may only realize it by losing you and having to work to get you.

          Bottom line

          Do not stay with someone based on their POTENTIAL as a partner.

          See the reality, and know your worth. Life is short. Don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t know how he feels. Indecision about love IS a decision.

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            April 14, 2019 at 2:32 pm

            Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. You are absolutely correct. Each person needs to make a decision about the future of their relationship based on their needs and desires. Please share more of your supportive comments in the future. Have a great day, JC!

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    Jenny

    December 16, 2018 at 12:13 pm

    I’m currently dating a Brazilian guy. It’s like what you saying in your article.
    He compliments me all the time, we are making out and even had sex together. My problem is, that I don’t know if he wants a relationship. We do talk a lot, so the communication is great, we have a lot in common, but we didn’t spoke about our status referring to a relationship.
    I don’t want to scare him off with my question if he wants to be in a relationship with me.
    So how do I know what his intentions are?

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      December 16, 2018 at 9:59 pm

      Your best option is to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Be direct with your question. It is important for you to determine what your partner wants for the future of this relationship. He should share himself with you. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Jenny!

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    Niis

    November 10, 2018 at 3:43 pm

    Hey guys! I just want to ask… I met a brazilian man online and I can feel that he really likes me. He even tell me that he love me already even it’s our first time video calling. We chatted a couple of days now. And he is very affectionate he kisses me on video call. Then I felt something. I really like the guy, after that he ask me if did come after we talk. I got pissed and tell him not to continue that topic and he says that its just a question you can answer thag by yes or no. I dont know what to do now I maybe pissed him but I don’t like the idea of having a sex talk on phone. And I really want him to see me as a decent woman ..

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      November 12, 2018 at 8:59 pm

      Your feelings are appropriate and valid. Each person has a different line of what they believe is acceptable conversation. You will find benefit in determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide what you believe is appropriate. Share your thoughts and feelings with him. He may not have been aware that his actions were offensive to you, though he should be more discerning with his behavior, as it is inappropriate to do so without consent. Have a great day, Niis!

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      Au

      August 20, 2019 at 12:34 am

      I’m talking to a very charming Brazilian guy for 9 months now. I’m frank and bold to him. I told him i find him mysterious and not telling me about himself its all about me. I told him i dont do sex chat, dont go to have sex before marriage…I’m difficult and stubborn still he expressed his love and I’m different. I’m always telling him to be best friends. We have lots of argume9 and yes he finds his ways, he is persistent. He seems to be religious person. I know its a dress lie. I’m very fond of him and hes insisting he loves me. I told him i can’t give my heart because I really don’t know hom. He knows to flatter a woman. He wants to marry me but i doubt him. All he say is he will pray for me that the spirit of doubt be remove. Most even Brazilian women that i know said don’t get involved with Brazilian men ever. Are brazilian men really womanizer?

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        August 20, 2019 at 9:28 pm

        The two of you have maintained a social relationship for nine months. It sounds like you have religious beliefs that are preventing you from trusting him. His behaviors are indications that he is attracted to you and wants to get to know you better. You need to make a decision about what you feel is viable and appropriate for the future of this relationship. Either attempt to make a plan to see each other in person, or decide if this relationship is worth the effort. Have a great day, Au!

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    Kiki

    July 20, 2018 at 10:37 pm

    Is it normal for a Brazilian man to flirt while he has a girlfriend? If so, is it also ok that while he has a girlfriend he tells me that he likes me? We’ve been talking for a month now I’m just wondering?

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      July 21, 2018 at 9:26 pm

      Other members of our community may be able to give you specific examples regarding Brazilian men, but do not allow cultural judgments color your view of each individual person. Some people are willing to cheat on their partners and others are not willing to do so. Determine what kind of person you want to establish a relationship with. Do not attempt to harm his current relationship. Have a great day, Kiki!

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    zarrah

    May 31, 2018 at 12:08 am

    I m datting a Sao Paulo, braziilain man. It went super fast. He told me exactly what he likes about me very early, he introduced me to his family right away, showers me with compliments all the time. It’s exactly as you said. He jealous and possessive which i can deal with and kind of like. I looked up this article in the first place to understand him. And it’s funny what you said is how it is. Oh and he loves public affection. so do I.

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      June 1, 2018 at 9:30 pm

      Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. We always appreciate supportive and positive comments from our community. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Zarrah!

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        Lalala

        June 19, 2018 at 5:24 pm

        Can you tell me the ways a Brazilian man flirt? He keeps tapping my back but he doesn’t do with anyone. He even knows my name.

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          June 19, 2018 at 10:39 pm

          It is possible that he feels a social connection with you. He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide if you believe that his actions are appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Lalala!

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    Gelson

    May 4, 2018 at 6:58 pm

    If anyone has any doubts about how Brazilian men are, I can help. The questions I have already asked will not answer them because they are already a year old, but any doubts about Brazilian men I can take. Anyway, I’m a Brazilian man :).

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      May 4, 2018 at 9:42 pm

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      Rachel

      September 29, 2018 at 8:56 am

      Gelson, why do Brazilian men say one thing then do the opposite? Rather, why pretend to want a connection (of any kind) then do nothing to have it?

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        September 29, 2018 at 10:20 pm

        Thank you for sharing your question. It is important to remember that not all people of the same sex or nationality are the same. Ensure that your future encounters are not based on this experience alone. Have a great day, Rachel!

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      Tiare

      April 30, 2019 at 6:15 pm

      I have a question

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        April 30, 2019 at 11:32 pm

        Please share any questions that you may have. We always appreciate when members of our community share their thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Tiare!

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    Kristine

    April 14, 2018 at 11:17 am

    I am currently dating a Brazilian man. His 43 divorced from 2015. His now here in dubai. On the 1st day we meet he said he likes me but he wanted to make it slow and know each other more. Now its 5th time we met. I just don’t understand he gets jealous, and he’s been telling me his out having dinner with friends.i like him so much for being so straight and honest. I just dont understand if do i have to continue seeing him or not as i don’t wanna be stupid at the end.

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      April 14, 2018 at 9:51 pm

      Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide what you think appropriate and viable for your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kristine!

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    Lu

    March 21, 2018 at 3:24 pm

    Can you advice when it is relevant time to get closer and have intimate connection? I need time and he is just moving in to my city for good , he still travels and plan to return back to Brazil for another month… I saw in social media the picture of him and another woman with very warm love messages… from one hand side it would be already 6th date for 32yo man from another stand point I might suffer as he is leaving soon for long time

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      March 21, 2018 at 4:18 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. You will find benefit in deciding what actions of his are acceptable for your relationship. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lu!

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    Jen

    February 14, 2018 at 8:42 am

    Hello I meet a Brazilian guy in the internet he seem very intrested on me he calls me he send me voice messages he give me compliments all the time sometimes he calls me my love or princess, but since couple of days now he changed he Said he is not feeling well that’s why he don’t call me and I miss him very much 😞so I am not sure that he realy likes me or not I had bad experience with a German guy he cheated on me i was married with him and have 2 kids ,but like I said I am maybe a bit to worried and have some issues to trust a another men again he will visit America soon and he wanted that we meet but actually I am a bit scared ,I am scared to get hurt again , I like him more and more and i want to see him too

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      February 15, 2018 at 8:42 pm

      He has explained that he was sick and that he was unable to contact you. Your previous concerns regarding trust were caused by your previous relationship. If you find similarities between your ex and your current partner that lead you to believe that your current partner may be unfaithful, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Otherwise, continue to nourish this relationship. Have a great day, Jen!

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    Ella

    September 26, 2017 at 9:31 am

    I am with a Brazilian man for 3 years already and I can tell from my own experience with that particular Brazilian man that he is so far the best man I ever met in my life. They are possessive and jealous until you win their trust. Really affectionate, positive and passionate about life. My Brazilian is straight forward and really honest. I guess it really depends on the person.
    Good luck with Brazilian men, girls. :))))))

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      September 26, 2017 at 4:02 pm

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    Elias

    September 11, 2017 at 5:24 pm

    Forgive me, because this is clearly a feminine blog, but I found this accidentally. your comment is balanced, but this varies greatly. I am Brazilian man and here there is a lot of diversity. Brazil is a big country and with many people, each region has different habits and customs, so you can meet a man in one day who can be an idiot and the next day meet one man who can be a wonderful person. I can not speak for all men but I always had excellent relationship, including with foreign women. I am happy to see women from outside my country are interest in understanding men from here. 🙂

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      September 12, 2017 at 3:15 pm

      Thank you for sharing your positive comment. It is always beneficial to hear insights and experiences from those who are from and who have visited Brazil. Feel free to share more of your thoughts in the future. Have a great day, Elias!

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    Kim

    July 30, 2017 at 8:45 pm

    I am married to a Brazilian man and he is as faithful as they come. He does get jealous, and loves public affection. I think he told me he loved me on our first date. Lol… I would not change a thing. Hes handsome, sweet and my best friend..I love Brazilians.

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      July 31, 2017 at 1:55 pm

      Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Please feel free to share any experiences or insights that you have about dating Brazilian men. Have a great day, Kim!

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    Angela

    May 17, 2017 at 11:08 am

    Aimee I agree with you. I have just recently started talking with a Brazilian man. Do not get me wrong, he is amazing and we do have a lot of things in common but I am getting a lot of mixed messages. He had told me early on that he is looking for a woman to love him for who he is and start a family then he said that as of right now, he is hoping that it’s me. He said that he really likes my personality.
    I am just so confused because one minute everything is amazing then it seems like the next minute he distances himself. We talk all the time, especially about his family. He always sounds excited when we talk and calls me his princess.
    I am not sure about where things are going.

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      May 17, 2017 at 1:31 pm

      He may just need time to figure out what he wants. Making the decision to settle down forever can be terrifying–even if he really wants a family life. Take things slowly and get to know him better so that you both have the chance to see if this is the perfect match for you two.

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    Kelly Stewart

    November 7, 2016 at 6:54 am

    I waa recently asked out by a Brazilian at my church and he made it very clear that he was down for me. Out first “hangout” was tough for me because Im not uses to affection that early or that much so I waa really upset. I told him I don’t see this working out because I was so freaked out about it but he said he was really sorry and wanted a second chance. We then spoke on the phone and had really great conversations and his values matched mine. He has an 8 year old son and hasn’t dating anyone seriously since before his child was born due to some personal things and things just not working out. We hung out again and he was still affectionate but it didnt bother me so much. He holds my hand, kisses it, kisses on the cheek, and always wants to to kiss him. He wants me to be his and he also said he loved me when leaving which shocked me but after reading this article along with some others Im finally starting to understand the affection. Glad I read this.

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      November 7, 2016 at 3:34 pm

      Thank you for sharing your experiences, insights, and positive thoughts. We always appreciate such views and ideas as they will help other people in the future. Feel free to share more in the future. Have a great day, Kelly!

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    Rodrigo

    November 18, 2015 at 5:47 pm

    I agree with Giancarlos Lemos. There are many exceptions. And it depends on the men’s age.

    In general, teenagers and young people up to 24 or 25 years tend to have a life less committed to serious relationships. But after 24 or 25 years it is not as common, except for one who does not want to date.

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      November 20, 2015 at 7:59 pm

      That sounds like good advice. Thank you for your personal insight, Rodrigo. Thanks for commenting–I am sure that our other readers will appreciate it. Thanks for commenting, Rodrigo!

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    Aimee

    October 8, 2015 at 4:51 pm

    I recently started dating a Brazilian man that I met online. We’ve been talking for about a month and a half and have only been on one date. Sometimes I don’t hear from him for days. But when I do, I get sucked right back in. There are a lot of very mixed messages, but I am trying to just go with the flow. Hard to tell if it’s headed anywhere.

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      October 10, 2015 at 4:22 pm

      Go ahead and meet up with him to see where things are going. A lot of people get advice from their friends or online that makes them send mixed messages–recently, one of our readers wanted to know if it was okay to text within a week after a date because he heard that you were not supposed to. Go ahead and meet up with him and go on another date. You will have a better reading of his attitude in person, and you will be able to figure out what it is that he wants. If it turns out he is not really interested and just wants a fling, you can always leave.

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      michelle

      October 21, 2015 at 6:32 am

      a lot of Brazilian men I know like to date multiple girls at the same time at times cheat. well any man can, but my family is from brazil and all my brothers date a lot a of different girls on line, telling them all the same thing, its a game for them

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        October 24, 2015 at 5:48 pm

        Oh, that’s no good. 🙁 Thank you for the personal insight though!

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    Giancarlo Lemos

    October 6, 2015 at 12:30 am

    well, this what you have experienced was positive or negative with Brazilian men? cause there are many exceptions like me haha

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      October 6, 2015 at 3:46 pm

      What is your personal experience with Brazilian men? Have you had a mostly positive or negative experience? (Or rather, have you been a mostly positive or negative experience? 😉 )

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