20 Flirty Questions to Ask Your Crush

By on September 15, 2014

When it comes to showing someone you have a crush on them, it all comes down to one thing: flirting. But if you want to kick up your flirt game and take it one step further, there’s only one way to go: flirty questions, of course! We’ve come up with an enticing list of 20 absolutely flirty and cute questions to ask your crush- all of which will make him know you like him without being overly obvious.


1. What’s your idea of the perfect date?


You’re asking about his perfect date, right? So it’s obvious you’re interested in him and want to know what to expect if the two of you finally decide to go out.

2. What do you look for in a girl?

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Obviously this is a super important question for two reasons. One, you need to know if you are even his type, and two, this lets him know that you’re curious whether or not you’re a match for him.

3. What did you think when you first saw me?


This question shows him that his opinion matters to you and you’re definitely curious what he thinks about you.

4. Where is your favorite place to be kissed?


super flirty question- make sure you remember his answer for the future ;).

5. What is your biggest turn on?

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Another incredibly flirty question that will definitely let him know you’re interested. Again, make sure you save this information for future rendezvous!

6. What is your biggest turn off?

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Just like you should know what to do to turn your crush ON, you should DEFINITELY know what turns him off. Avoid these turn offs at all costs- for obvious reasons.

7. How long did your last relationship last?


Digging into his relationship history can only mean one thing: you like him and what to know if he’s in the market for something serious or if he just wants to mess around.

8. What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever done?


As women, this is just something we should know: is he the super romantic type of guy who will sweep you off your feet? Or will he leave you hanging in the romance department?

9. How would you describe your perfect kiss?


This lets him know that you’re definitely thinking about kissing him, and you want to make sure it’s absolutely perfect for him.

10. If you could have one girl in the world, who would it be?


Really just a fun and flirty question. Extra brownie points and serious tummy butterflies if his answer is YOU.

11. What would you do if I kissed you?


This lets him know that you’re thinking about making the first move and want to know if he’d be okay with it or not. If he seems interested, I suggest going in for the kill! (Or the kiss- you catch my drift).

12. Do you like me as a friend or something more?

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I don’t think this question requires any further explanation. Does he like you or not? Something you should probably find out sooner rather than later.

13. Do you like when the girl makes the first move or would you rather be in control?


Again, this is basically asking him whether or not it’s okay for you to go in and make the first move. If he’s not into that, I guess you’ll just have to sit back and wait- and keep on hinting (sigh).

14. What do you wear to bed- if anything?


Maybe you’re thinking about spending the night with him- or maybe you just want to picture him naked. Whatever the reason, this is certainly a flirty question!

15. What’s your favorite pet name you like your girl to call you?


And when he tells you the answer, go ahead and start calling him that special name every now and then- don’t forget to wink and giggle a bit, too.

16. Have you been working out?


A compliment? That’s flirting 101! Absolutely a flirty question you should ask your crush.

17. Would you rather be called sexy or smart?

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Is he shallow and materialist, focused on his looks, or is he more about brains and smarts? Whatever his answer, make sure to follow up with “Well you’re definitely sexy/smart”.

18. What do you think is your best feature?


After he answers, make sure to finish with something like, “Oh yeah, I totally agree. I love your ____, too”.

19. What do you think is my best feature?

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Break him out of his shell and get him to flirt back with you with this simple, flirty question.

20. Wanna go out tonight?


The ultimate flirty question. I mean, what better way to tell if your crush is crushing on you too than by asking him out on a date? It’s definitely a move for the bolder females out there, but if he says he likes it when a girl makes the first move, we highly suggest giving this question a shot.

21. Do you prefer cuddling or making out?


You can get his mind in all the right places by asking this question. What’s more flirtatious than talking about some of the most intimate things the two of you could do?

22. Do you find yourself more drawn to brains or looks?


This question maintains a certain importance and will give you insight to where his priorities lie when it comes to finding a girlfriend. Some guys must have both, others have more preference to one over the other.

23. Pick three words to describe yourself, what are they?


Letting your crush describe himself is a perfect way to get to know him and will open even more pathways to flirt with him. This question will give you a clear view of how he sees himself and if he holds any arrogant characteristics.

24. Do you know how handsome you are?


Give him a little confidence boost with this charming question. It is guaranteed to bring a smile to your crush’s cute face and really let him know what you think of him in the absolute best way possible: A compliment.

25. How would you describe your perfect relationship?


This question is a little more intense, but gets him talking about the important things and maybe give you a peek at what he expects if you two ever take your relationship to the next level. Which with these questions, should be easy!

26. Do you like dirty talk?


This one begs for a spicy answer from you beau. Get things a little heated up in your conversation by opening the doorway that will lead you two to more intimate conversations.

27. Do you like massages?


Keep things lit up with this question. It will surely give him the image of you giving him a massage after a long, hard day. Who wouldn’t love that picture? If he doesn’t love the idea of a massage from you, then he really isn’t for you, is he?

28. Are you shy or more outgoing?


It’s good to get a guy to talk a little bit about himself. He will enjoy letting you get to know him as much as he is getting to know you. Plus the answer will let you know what you are dealing with when it comes to the quickest lane out of the friend-zone and on to where you want to be.

29. What are your plans today/tonight/tomorrow/next week?


We are giving you options here, because the right one depends on your availability. But by asking him this you’re making it apparent you might want to make some sort of plans with him soon and also letting him know you care about what he has going on outside of this conversation.

30. How come no one has swooped you up yet?


Meaning how in the heck is someone like him still single. Make him blush by mixing this compliment in with this ultimately flirtatious question. Let him know you cannot believe that he is still rocking it solo. Surely this one will give him an idea of your intentions.


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    April 4, 2020 at 9:20 am

    Hi i loved your article
    And wanted to ask for a opinion
    There is this guy I like. We weren’t really that close but we became close ever since the school closed because of covid 19. I was bored so I texted my friends but didn’t answered me so I texted him and the we became more and more close he know every secrets of mine we texts/call Each other every time I have ever tell him I like him as a prank. I want to know if I should tell him I like him for real.

    Sorry it’s long I poured my heart out.

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      April 4, 2020 at 11:49 pm

      It is clear that you care for this person. It is certainly possible that he is interested in you as well. Consider what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. While you can not spend time with him in person, you can certainly speak with him more often over the phone or other messaging applications.

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      April 21, 2020 at 9:03 pm

      Girl, just feel it in your heart! I believe in you, you got this!! 🙂

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        April 23, 2020 at 5:45 pm

        Thank you for sharing your supportive comments. We always appreciate when members of our community share their insights and experiences.

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    April 2, 2020 at 10:18 pm

    i’m talking to this guy but i don’t know how to get him to like me and he’s asking how many kids i want and like serious questions like that. how do i ask him if he likes me?

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      April 2, 2020 at 11:00 pm

      His questions are clear indications that he is interested in maintaining a serious relationship with you. Some time has passed since you commented, so it is likely that you are more aware of what he wants from your relationship. Take this time to determine what you want for your future, and take appropriate action. If you are maintaining a relationship with him at this time, then do what you can to nourish this connection, as he seems like someone who wants to nourish a lifelong relationship with you.

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    Gopi patel

    March 3, 2020 at 9:27 pm

    Helpful artical.
    Thanks for a well written and informative post.

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    February 19, 2020 at 2:07 pm

    I’ve a friend I like her but she have a boyfriend but we have been kissing and cuddling then she told me we should stop for some months
    Den she came to visit me one day then I tried kissing again then she was angry den we have not been talking well and I don’t know what to do again

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      February 25, 2020 at 5:43 pm

      You are aware that she has a partner. Because of this, you should not attempt to maintain a romantic relationship with her or undermine her partnership. If her relationship ends in the future, then speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. For now, you may want to focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    alexa manchester

    November 30, 2019 at 4:45 pm

    i’m with this girl and she’s pressuring to have sex but i have hiv and the other day she was talking bout how she’d never have sex with a girl that has hiv how do i tell her that i have it and keep her at the same time.

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      January 20, 2020 at 3:12 pm

      You will just have to sit her down and tell her that. There are many things that can harm a relationship. Waiting to tell her something important like this will end up pushing her away from you. If she is interested in having sex, this is an important conversation that you will need to have beforehand. Hopefully, she will appreciate your honesty, and after taking some time to think things over, will still be interested in pursuing the relationship further.

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    November 19, 2019 at 4:56 am

    there’s this girl i have feelings for, she has a boy friend, but she seems to have feelings for me too, we’ve been chatting together for sometime now, each time i tell her i love her she always keep mute for a while before she speaks again, she asked me what is my intention towards her, i told her i want to make her my last, she didn’t say anything but we are still talking to each other.i love her but she’s not giving me the green light. what should i do?

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      February 4, 2020 at 3:28 am

      You are aware that she is maintaining a relationship with someone else. Do not attempt to harm their relationship, and avoid nourishing a romantic relationship with her while she is in a relationship. If her relationship ends, then speak with her about your thoughts and feelings at that time. For now, it is appropriate to maintain a friendship with her.

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    July 22, 2019 at 3:02 pm

    Well I crush on a guy,we’re communicating everyday,used to see each other oftentimes planning on a relationship but we taking it slowly. I think I’m ready to be the girlfriend, should I tell him or must I wait until he asks me out.

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      July 22, 2019 at 3:10 pm

      The two of you share a strong social relationship. You have taken it slow, and you have realized that you want to progress this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Queen!

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        September 3, 2019 at 11:39 pm

        Hi. I’m to shy to say anything to him. What should I do?

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          September 4, 2019 at 11:17 pm

          If you are too shy to make the first move, then determine what you feel is appropriate. You may want to behave in a manner that makes this person interested in making the first move. It would be most beneficial for you to be direct with your thoughts and feelings. Regardless of your decision, ensure that you always share your kindness and compassion. Have a great day, Boop!

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          Autumn Mertens

          October 6, 2019 at 5:58 pm

          For me all it took was go up and say hi to that person if your to nervous or shy to do that leave him notes but make it secretive what it does to a person 1. if there down they will smile when they read it 2. it leaves them carius

          • web admin

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            February 4, 2020 at 7:00 pm

            Your experiences and insights will help many members of our community. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future.

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      December 8, 2019 at 12:31 am


      I have a crush on my friend who’s a guy but I’m scared that he might not feel the same way. I don’t want to lose him or ruin my friendship with him, I don’t even know if he’s single or not, I’m so confused, I don’t know what to do and I miss him like crazy.

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        January 12, 2020 at 11:26 pm

        If he’s really your friend, telling him how you feel won’t make him run away. If he is interested in you, he will be more than happy to have you make the first move. Plus, think of it this way: if you don’t make a move now, you may never find out how he feels about you. You have to do something, or you could spend the rest of your life wondering what could have happened.

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    April 2, 2019 at 1:11 pm

    I’ve liked this one guy for about a year and a half he’s 2 years older than me and I’ve never really talked to him….once I looked at him and just fell into a daze everything seemed like it slowed down for a split second (we are both teens btw) other people seem to think he’s not attractive or invisible
    But I can never get him out of my mind for whatever reason….. Should keep trying to get to know him bit by bit or am I just crazy?😅 (sorry for spelling mistakes!)

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      April 2, 2019 at 11:58 pm

      It sounds like you are interested in nourishing a relationship with this person. Determine what you want for your future. Do not worry about the thoughts of other people. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, S!

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      Autumn Mertens

      October 6, 2019 at 5:59 pm

      S, I think you should go for it!

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        web admin

        February 4, 2020 at 7:00 pm

        Thank you for your support!

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    August 23, 2018 at 2:32 pm

    There is this guy I think I feel for We only saw once and that was when he collected my number ever since then we have been chatting on whatsapp… I think am falling for him
    My question is Do you think I should make the move first

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      August 23, 2018 at 7:00 pm

      There is no reason why you can’t make the move first–it is entirely up to you. If you want to speed things up a bit, make a move. If you are fine with taking your time and getting to know him first, then there is no reason to rush things. What you do depends entirely on how fast you want this relationship to progress. Best of luck, Tomilayo!

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      October 8, 2018 at 9:20 am

      Yes! Go for it. He’s talking to you everyday. What have you got to lose? You have so much to gain if he says yes. Take your happiness into your own hands.

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        October 9, 2018 at 10:14 pm

        Thank you for sharing your positive and supportive comment. It is certain that your words will help every member of our community. Have a great day, Debbie!

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    Flirting With Women

    August 23, 2018 at 3:01 am

    I was studying some of your articles on this internet site and I think this website is real informative ! Keep posting.

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      August 23, 2018 at 6:58 pm

      I am happy to hear that our articles could help you out. If you liked this topic, we have plenty more articles like it on Her Interest. Make sure to check them out! Thanks for commenting!

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    June 17, 2018 at 11:44 am

    I like this guy and I told my friend to tell him when she did he added my snap but we don’t really have a conversation when I texted him that he could talk to me in school he said he will but he didn’t but sometimes I catch him staring at me in class what should I do

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      June 17, 2018 at 11:01 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may not feel comfortable having conversations over snap. Speak with him in person. Share your thoughts and feelings with him. Give him a chance to share himself with you as well. Spend additional time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Kory!

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    June 5, 2018 at 8:36 pm

    Im talking to this guy who is my best friend and we both like eachother but we arent dating yet cause im scared we will lose our friendship. How do get him to want me more and more?

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      June 6, 2018 at 10:07 pm

      The two of you share a strong social and emotional history. It is normal for the two of you to think about developing a relationship together. There is no reason to reason harming the other if you found the relationship based on kindness and compassion. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Attempt to spend additional time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Kristy!

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    Bob Johnson

    April 1, 2018 at 10:45 pm

    I talk to my crush everday late at night. Mostly, I initiate the conversation but she still responds at 1 in the morning. I know she doesnt like me. Should I still try to get this to work?

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      April 2, 2018 at 7:48 pm

      If she has not told you that she does not like you, then she may have developed an emotional connection with you. You will find benefit in attempting to spend time with her in person. This will strengthen your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Bob!

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