12 Signs a Guy Likes You But Won’t Admit it

By on September 26, 2016

The really crazy and confusing thing about when you catch feelings for someone is the fact that many of us try to hide it. We go through so much trouble just to keep the person we really like from finding out the truth about how we feel.

Why do we do this?

The truth is, pretty much every single human being has a fear of rejection. Those that claim they don’t are just very, very skilled at hiding this feeling. The fear of being rejected can cause us to hold onto our feelings and never reveal it to the person we care most about.

The horrible thing about this is that we can miss out on the best things by just keeping our feeling hidden. Wouldn’t you rather admit how you’re feeling with the chance of something great happening than to hold onto your feelings with the certainty that nothing will?

Most guys would rather chance the latter and it can be really frustrating – especially if you actually like them! However, there are signs that can give away just how a guy is feeling about you even if he won’t admit it himself. Here’s how to tell if a guy likes you but won’t admit it.

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  1. He stares at you often.

If a guy likes you, he’s going to look at you a lot because he finds you attractive. He also will be looking at you a lot because he wants to notice everything about you and your little quirks. However, when you see him staring and he turns away, this is a sign he likes you but just won’t admit it. He never wants you to notice how much he’s looking.

  1. He starts conversations with you but keeps them short.

If he’s the one to always start your conversations and always the first person to try and talk to you, but he always keeps them short, like he’s trying to avoid going into a lot of detail, this is a sign he likes you but just doesn’t want to admit it. When a guy starts the conversations but then abruptly stops them, it’s because he doesn’t want you to know just how much he wants to talk with you.

  1. He remembers all the special occasions in your life.

If he’s texting you happy birthday and asking how your big interview went and basically commenting on any day that has importance to you, he likes you. The difficult part about this is that it’s a clear sign he cares about your day, but it also signifies that he doesn’t want to admit he likes you because he’s keeping it very friendly.

  1. He tries to cheer you up when you’re visibly upset.

This is a huge sign that a guy likes you. If he’s a person to try and make you feel better when you feel sad or upset, he really likes you. However, when he does this and then kind of backs off and doesn’t push you to feel better, that’s because he doesn’t want to admit just how much he likes you.

  1. He asks personal questions about you.

No guy is going to want to know your favorite dessert or your all time life goals if he doesn’t care about you. If he likes you, he’ll want to know everything really personal about you. He’ll start asking all about your childhood and all your interests. But if he does this in a way that seems like he has a reason to ask these questions, it’s because he won’t admit he likes you.

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  1. He double texts you.

This is a big sign that a guy likes you but is easily hidden by the fact that you can’t prove it just by a double text. If you don’t know what that is, it’s when you get two or more texts in a row from him without having replied to any. This just means that he really wants to talk to you and wants to get your attention.

  1. He gives you low-key compliments.

When a guy compliments your looks, he’s being obvious that he likes you. But if he compliments your personality or your interests in a way that makes you confused if it really was just a compliment, then he likes you but doesn’t want to admit that he does. He’s hiding the fact that he does but he also can’t help NOT complimenting you on something.

  1. He asks if you’ll be at parties/events.

If you have the same friend group and know of the same parties or events that are happening and he always asks if you’ll be attending them, he likes you but just won’t admit it. He’s not asking you to go to those parties with him because he’s trying to hid that he likes you, but he also really wants to know if you’ll be there so he can be prepared properly.

  1. He acts like he likes you, but never talks about his feelings.

If there’s a guy that’s always complimenting you and following you around and talking to you all the time but never, ever talks about himself or how he’s feeling, it’s because he just won’t admit that he has feelings for you. Some guys make the conversations all about you so they can determine just how much they do like you, but they withhold information about themselves so they don’t give away their feelings for you.

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  1. His friends tell you he likes you.

This is a huge giveaway that a guy likes you but won’t admit it himself. If his friends are secretly going up to you and telling you about how much their friend likes you, it’s a clear sign that he does. This happens very often because his friends really want him to make a go for it, but he’s just too stubborn to admit his own feelings. If this happens to you, then it’s safe to assume that he really does like you.

  1. He denies it when you ask him.

If you’ve ever tried to approach a guy and ask if he likes you and he immediately gets embarrassed and even denies the entire thing, it’s clear that he just doesn’t want to admit it. For whatever reason he has an issue with his feelings for you and might even not be ready for a relationship. If you’re confident he likes you but he says he doesn’t, then he might not be ready to tell you how he feels just yet.

  1. He tries to hang out with you alone.

If you’re at a party and you always seem to be talking to JUST him and he slyly made it so the two of you are alone, then he might really like you but just not want to admit it. Another sign is if you plan on going on a group outing and everyone ends up canceling but him and HE is the one who arranged the whole thing, it may be because he never even told the others to come.

Guys that don’t admit their feelings are always really frustrating. However, they usually have a good reason for doing so. But if you notice any of the signs above when talking with a guy you know, it could mean he likes you but just won’t admit it.

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    Kara

    March 16, 2019 at 1:14 pm

    I asked out this guy I’ve been liking for a year now. He said no. But he looked extremely nervous, he was shaking. He said he didn’t like anyone. But he showed me lots of signs that he did like me. He would look at me a lot and his friends too. He turned red when I talked to him. Did he say no because he was too nervous to admit it? (Btw he knew I liked him before I asked him out)

    • web admin

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      March 17, 2019 at 12:00 am

      It is certainly possible that he is too nervous to admit that he likes you. It is possible that he is uncertain or confused. He may not know f you are serious about your feelings toward him. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Speak with him again about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kara!

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    jojo.Chocolate

    March 13, 2019 at 4:39 am

    i have this guy friend that i really like and maybe even in love with but the problem that he really confuses me alot…. he cares pay attention and always hanging out with me but he keeps telling me that am just an ordinary friend to him….. on time he is really close and the other time he is just far far away
    how could i be such an ordinary friend when he treat me differently than his other friends??
    he always involves me in his life… problems and everything related to him i will be the first to know
    he even get jealous or upset if someone brought me flowers or if he wants to meet but am busy with others
    last week we were celebrating my birthday and we were dancing and i decided to tell him that i have feelings for him but he denied his feelings instead he tried to explain how rough was he EX relationship and he doesn’t think he have these kind of emotions but his eyes and my sense it telling me a different thing…..
    i don’t know whether to move on or wait for him.. am just confused

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      March 13, 2019 at 12:38 pm

      He likely is uncertain about your thoughts and feelings toward him. It is clear that the two of you share a strong social and emotional relationship. Determine what you want for your future. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. His jealousy and behaviors may be a sign that he wants to strengthen your relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Jojo!

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    Olivia

    February 26, 2019 at 11:41 am

    There is this guy I am at school with and he flirts with me alot, all his friends say he likes me too but when anyone asks him he always denies it and he sounds really serious too. I really like him but I don’t know if he likes me 2. He sends me more than 2 kisses in a text 2

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      February 26, 2019 at 12:48 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he likes you. His friends has informed you that he likes you. He is likely shy and uncertain about your thoughts and feelings. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your desires, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Olivia!

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    Sarah

    February 24, 2019 at 2:01 pm

    There is this guyfriend I’ve known for years who I joke with alot and he’s so reserved but then I started noticing he treats me differently from other people as in he has never yelled at me,touches my chicks, stares at me and makes jokes about us being married but then I travelled he doesn’t text me unless I text him first but then we get into a deep conversation I have feelings for him but I don’t know whether has into me also coz when I’m around he behaves differently but now I’m far he acts differently

    • web admin

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      February 24, 2019 at 3:17 pm

      It is certainly possible that he feels a strong social and emotional connection with you. It seems like you share the same feelings for him. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Message him and share your thoughts and feelings with him. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Sarah!

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    genevieve

    February 21, 2019 at 7:41 pm

    hello. so, i’ve liked this one guy since october-ish. he doesn’t like to admit his feelings often, but he does things that gives me mixed signals. he walks me to class, asks me to come sit by him, and he hangs out with me during free periods. we call all the time and and text. i told him how i felt and he didn’t persay he didn’t like me in that way, but he kept saying “i’m sorry”. since that has happened, he has been lowkey more touchy feely. mind you, he doesn’t like being touched. he asks me questions about myself, and i’ll catch him staring at me in class, but looks away when i notice. he always compliments me too. what does this mean?? i’m stuck. i can’t tell if he actually doesn’t have feelings or if he lowkey does. again, he says he doesn’t like anyone.

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      February 22, 2019 at 9:06 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he may be interested in nourishing a relationship with you. He may be confused about your feelings toward him. Allow this dream to influence you to determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Genevieve!

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    amelia oakley

    February 16, 2019 at 8:01 am

    There is this guy that I have known for about 3 years but I just started to get close to him in September-October 2018. I like him a lot and I have told him. At the time I told him, he liked another girl. This, of course, devastated me but we were still really good friends. Then we had our musical together (school) and he did so many flirty things that he didn’t do to the other girls. He asked me to help him adjust his mic, adjust my mic and asked me to help him with his costume. He also hugged me (full hug, not side hug) out of NOWHERE. Fast forward to December 2018. Him and the other girl got in a large fight and he now doesn’t like her anymore. Then he started to act closer towards me. He would randomly hug me, we would just stare at each other and smile, and he would compliment me. He also asked me if I was going to the school dance, invited me to go bowling with him (alone), teases me regularly, walks me to class, and gets very close to me. His friends have noticed a lot as well, (they want us to be in a relationship because they highly approve of me) they noticed he gets very nervous around me (plays with his hoodie strings, rocks back and forth, and picks his fingernails, always talks about me, and always tries to be next to me. I didn’t notice many of these signs until I paid closer attention. But, while we were at our school dance, he refused to admit who he liked and, he has never denied that he didn’t like me. I have a gut feeling he has romantic feelings for me, and I really hope he does…but I need him to admit it. Should I wait for him to admit his feelings or ask him? (ps, his stepsister, who I am really close with, says he hates admitting his feelings.) Thank You, and I really love this person 🙂

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      February 18, 2019 at 7:23 pm

      The two of you share a strong social and emotional relationship. His sister has shared her experiences with her brother. It is possible that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you as well. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Amelia!

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    Charlotte

    January 27, 2019 at 8:46 pm

    I’ve been friends with this guy for several months, and I really like him. His friends insist that he likes me in return, and I get the feeling he does.

    However, I am a very firm Catholic and he’s Jewish. What do I do?

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      January 28, 2019 at 6:08 pm

      You are interested in developing a relationship with him. He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. You should take this time to determine what you are willing to sacrifice for religious teachings. If you want doctrine to control your life, then you should not attempt to continue this relationship, as it would only cause him harm in the future. If you are willing to share yourself with someone else and look past religious restrictions, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Charlotte!

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    Kate

    January 27, 2019 at 3:04 am

    I am in a relationship with my boyfriend for the last three years. We both have a common male friend, Sam, with whom I get along very well. This guy also has a girlfriend who is my friend as well. So one fine day Sam’s girlfriend told me that Sam had a huge crush on me a long time ago and that he was pretty shy about admitting it to me. Later on, I started noticing Sam’s behaviour towards me. Sam used to make eye contact with me often and used to smile a lot. He even used to notice my clothes, accessories and my look and even complimented me at times. After noticing all this, I have started liking him too. How should I really know whether he seriously likes me or not? And what should be my next course of action?

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      January 27, 2019 at 7:36 pm

      You are in a relationship. Your friend is in a relationship with Sam. You should allow thoughts of him to fade. Do not attempt to maintain a relationship with him at this time. If you are no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with your partner, then end the relationship. If you want to be with Sam and your partner and your friend consent to your interactions, then it is acceptable. Have a great day, Kate!

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    Kate

    January 21, 2019 at 7:41 pm

    So this guy asked me on a date I said no because I was in a relationship at the time.. not anymore.. few weeks pass by and we started talking, everyday for the past 4 months.. at this point he had already asked another girl out who lives out of town … things have been going good for them but him and I continue to talk and flirt everyday!

    I really like him and it kills me when he leaves town to visit her, not sure if he has feelings for me or it’s just in my head? Do I continue talking to him ?

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      January 21, 2019 at 11:46 pm

      He is currently in a relationship. This means that you should not attempt to nourish a romantic relationship with him. Avoid flirting with him. It is acceptable to continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. If his relationship naturally ends, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Kate!

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    loca

    January 8, 2019 at 8:45 am

    So me and my best guy friend have been friends for around 3 years now and all our friends say we would make a cute couple cause we get along so well. We talk everyday as we are in the same group of friends but sometimes we spend hours just talking one to one. We’ve even went out alone as friends a few times but nothing has ever happened. Me and him are very close and we agree on almost everything as we have similar morals and thoughts on things. My friends say they see more of a physical connection of him with me than when he was with his ex.

    We always deny having feelings for eachother. He says that we are so close that if one of us did have feelings we would have told eachother by now. I deny it because I’m scared he would think I spend time with him because I have feelings not cause I genuinely enjoy his company. I can’t tell if he feels the same way as every flirty thing he says is a joke. He once told his friend he really likes my personality because we get along so well but other than that he always says we’re just friends.

    Should I admit I have feelings for him or just suppress it till I know for sure he feels the same way ?

    • web admin

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      January 8, 2019 at 7:40 pm

      The two of you share a strong social and emotional connection. It is certainly likely that each of you feel similarly toward each other. He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Ioca!

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    annoymous

    January 5, 2019 at 11:02 pm

    okay so me and this guy have been friends with benefits for about 6 months now and it’s getting to the point where i need to know if he has feelings for me or not. we see each other at least once a week, we don’t text much or call ever but whenever im with him he always stares into my eyes, says i’m cute and idk were just comfortable with each other. a little bit ago we had a really deep conversation and i told him that i thought he was in denial about his feelings and he seemed to think about it and then he said that his ex really fucked him up, which i already knew, but the thing that bothers me is that when i told him i was going to chill with a different guy he flipped shit on me, i then confronted him and he said that he wasn’t mad and that he didn’t like me, but in the texts he sent he was clearly mad at me. i just need to know if he’s in denial or just doesn’t feel anything so i know what to do. 6 months is a long time to keep someone like friends with benefits going and i just don’t think he would have kept it going this long if he didn’t feel anything for me, he could’ve easily found someone else in those 6 months

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      web admin

      January 6, 2019 at 10:47 pm

      You told him that you felt that he was not sincere with his feelings. When he opened up to you, you decided that it was appropriate to tell him that you wanted to be with other people. He became upset, as he likely had feelings for you. If you want to salvage this relationship, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Be sure to give him an opportunity to share himself with you. Have a great day, Anon!

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    Teritz

    December 30, 2018 at 6:43 pm

    Shy guy last year said yes to coffee. Then month later said no. Few months later he is back looking for me & at me, saying hi etc. Called out to me in the grocery store to say hi.Talks to his sister about me. I am friendly and say hi and we talk a little. He called me once and hung up. He gives me whiplash. I never know which guy I am getting…the sweet fun one who appears to really like me or the cold one. What do I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 31, 2018 at 3:46 pm

      It sounds as though he is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. He is either shy or immature. He does not know how to share his feelings with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Decide what type of partner you want to maintain a relationship with. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If your want to strengthen your relationship, then spend additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Teritz!

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    Etoile

    December 27, 2018 at 3:10 am

    At my workplace, we get volunteers from abroad for 6 months. This guy has been around for 4 months already. we are housemates at least 1 week every month. when he first arrived, i noticed quickly that he always has his eyes on me. I am a big girl and him, a skinny guy, not my type but i was like why not. So, we started a flirting game or that’s what i thought. Its been more than 2 months and i am still unsure about his feelings. Since he is shy, i made the first steps. Texting first, being physical and touchy and trying to create one to one moments. I have quite shy too but i can also be easy-going, so i took it on me. He is always trying to get my attention and is always in my personal space. we are very close and have never really named our relationship as friendship. we really act like a couple without being one. we are very comfortable with each other and have inside jokes. but he once said that he isn’t thinking about dating someone here. I was surprised and started to put some distant between us to protect myself. however he came back stronger and was the one initiating. Also, since a few weeks now, he is getting closer to my best friend who he calls little sis. so, i forgot what he said and we were close again. Yesterday, i was so ready to tell him that i like him when one of his friends who knows about my feelings told me that he said he likes me as a friend only. I am devastated. His actions is not matching his words. Now he is gone for 2 weeks and i am left with the dilemma of deciding if i should start being a proper friend to him or continue expecting some proper romantic interest from him…

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      December 27, 2018 at 10:22 pm

      It sounds as though he is not interested in maintaining a romantic relationship with you. You may choose to maintain a social relationship with him. If you can choose to nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Decide what you believe is viable for the future of this relationship. Regardless of your decision, ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Etoile!

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    Eisha rai

    December 24, 2018 at 2:48 pm

    So there’s this guy who is one year senior to me in my college . And suddenly during one fest i started noticing that he is watching me and is somehow around me co-incidentally. Then after few months we had one longg eye contact which surely wasn’t normal and was the turning point from where i actually started considering his presence . (Before that we never even knew each other) We usually have long eye contacts , once he brushed against my shoulders while passing by , side hugs once when he was overwhelmed by a card made by me for him and i initiated chatting with him and we became close friends who share every detail to each other . I am already committed so maybe he wotn ever tell me , also, he likes someone from his school time but has not yet gone into a relation with that girl. I am confused how to decode what he feels? Currently we are very good close friends.

    • web admin

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      December 24, 2018 at 5:14 pm

      The two of you are close friends. There is likely a strong social and emotional relationship that is shared between the two of you. He may be interested in maintaining a relationship with you. However, you are committed, which means you should allow thoughts of him to fade. Focus your emotional energy on your current partner. If you are not longer happy in your current relationship, then speak with your partner about your thoughts and feelings. Do not harm your partner by nourishing a romantic relationship with someone else. Have a great day, Eisha!

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    Eisha rai

    December 24, 2018 at 2:46 pm

    So there’s this guy who is one year senior to me in my college . And suddenly during one fest i started noticing that he is watching me and is somehow around me co-incidentally. Then after few months we had one longg eye contact which surely wasn’t normal and was the turning point from where i actually started considering his presence . (Before that we never even knew each other) We usually have long eye contacts , once he brushed against my shoulders while passing by , side hugs once when he was overwhelmed by a card made by me for him and i initiated chatting with him and we became close friends who share every detail to each other . I am already committed so maybe he wotn ever tell me , also, he likes someone from his school time but has not yet gone into a relation with that girl. I am confused how to decode what he feels? Currently we are very good close friends.

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 24, 2018 at 5:13 pm

      The two of you are close friends. There is likely a strong social and emotional relationship that is shared between the two of you. He may be interested in maintaining a relationship with you. However, you are committed, which means you should allow thoughts of him to fade. Focus your emotional energy on your current partner. If you are not longer happy in your current relationship, then speak with your partner about your thoughts and feelings. Do not harm your partner by nourishing a romantic relationship with someone else. Have a great day, Eisha!

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    susie sanders

    December 23, 2018 at 9:11 am

    me and this guy have been friends for 3 years and we were always very close. our friends always hint to us that we should be together but we both deny it. i mainly deny it because i know he only thinks of me as a friend. however we spend 4/5 hours just talking every now and again and have always got along very well. we’ve even met up just us two and went to eat together but always as friends. i can’t understand how a guy may be so close to a girl and not have feelings for her when we are literally the perfect match character wise. can guys be so close to a female friend and not have feelings for her?? xx

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      December 24, 2018 at 2:03 pm

      The two of you share a strong social and emotional connection. He likely cares deeply for you. It is possible that he has similar feelings toward you as you feel toward him. Of course, it is certainly possible that he is not interested in developing a romantic relationship with you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. You can speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Susie!

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    Oooooof

    December 22, 2018 at 8:51 pm

    Sooo I have this crush on this guy in high school, and one day, my sister was talking to my crush on instagram (because you know they followed each other and they talked in middle school also), she was talking to him about me talking about him a lot with her and he didn’t answer her for alt least a couple hours until he said that he doesn’t like me, but at school he always makes eye contact with me, and he always looks at me when I talk to my friends….. all of the “signs that he likes you” is all there! Also, when I said to this guy named Jacob that my crush talks to a lot. he told my friend Aleigha “remember what I was talking to you about earlier?” They are hiding something from me, because they are not saying what Jacob and Aleigha talked about. And finally, my crush’s friend went up to me and asked what grade I was in and I said I’m in 10 grade (sophomore) and this guy that my crush’s friend was talking to said that “ I can’t believe a freshman likes a sophomore.” He said that while looking at me too so all of the signs are there!!

    • web admin

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      December 24, 2018 at 3:02 pm

      It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. There may be many reasons for why he did not share his feelings with your sister. The two of them likely share a strong relationship as well. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Ooof!

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    Lilliara

    December 20, 2018 at 8:35 am

    We work together, use to talk like from start of April to May then stoped because the texting and stuff faded .i started to slowly not like almost hate because we weren’t talking anymore . About a month ago I caugh the vibe that he like one of my friends from work and I was kinda teasing him about it, eventually he messaged me about it saying he liked her .then me stupidly enough says I’ll help him get with her. They never got together or even hanged out in the end but he’s still talking to 3 weeks after I told him that she didn’t like him back and we talk everyday even when I’m out we talk for upto 5 hours straight .everyone around us says that we would be cute ,or that we flirt and we just say shut up and stuff .but I think I really like him

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      web admin

      December 22, 2018 at 11:40 am

      The two of you spoke with each other and then stopped. After that, he asked for your help in nourishing a relationship with someone else. You then said that you would help him. That relationship did not go anywhere. Now, the two of you are speaking together again. You should determine what you want for this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Lilliara!

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