What Does it Mean When You Dream About Your Ex Boyfriend

By on November 4, 2014

Dreaming about your ex boyfriend. One of the absolute worst dreams you could possibly have. You wake up almost with a chill, your heart racing and your mind running in circles, thinking “What just happened? What does this mean?” Well, if you thought that your subconscious is telling you that you miss him terribly and you need to call and make amends right this second- you’re probably wrong. So put that fear to rest and check out some of the most common reasons why you might dream about your ex boyfriend. 2dbfd645c66aab8c38e0b9a4bd639cd9

1. You Miss Something About Him


Maybe your ex boyfriend had a certain quality that you absolutely adored. Maybe he knew how to make you laugh really well, or maybe he just knew how to snuggle you just right when it’s incredibly cold outside. Whatever it may be, you might just be yearning for that one certain quality in a person- not the actual person himself. So think about it: is there something you wish you could find in your current relationship or future relationships that you miss?

2. You Miss Being in a Relationship


If your dream was happy-go-lucky: the two of you walking hand in hand, laughing and smiling, checking out the most romantic spots in town, it may just mean you’re missing being in a relationship. It probably has little to nothing to do with your ex boyfriend. You’re probably just tired of being alone and want to share special someones with someone you love again. Which, of course, is COMPLETELY natural and nothing to be ashamed or weirded out by. Just don’t go running back into the arms of your ex boyfriend because you’re feeling lonely, okay? That will definitely do more harm than good!

3. There is Unfinished Business

Sometimes, when you break up with someone, not everything is said and done. Maybe you’re still harboring some ill feelings towards your ex boyfriend. Maybe you didn’t tell him about something important, like that one time you kissed someone on the lips but realized moments later it was an accident. It doesn’t matter what it is. But if you’re having these dreams because of some unresolved feelings or problems, then you should probably put it all on the table so these dreams stop and you can live your life with an ease of mind.

4. You’re Totally Done With Him


This one might be a little hard to believe- but man, it’s so true! If you had a dream where you are leaving your ex boyfriend, saying goodbye, or he even dies, it may be a sign that you are finally, one hundred percent done and over with him. There’s not an ounce of leftover feelings and you have the go ahead to move on with your life!

5. You Miss Him

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Okay, so, I want to say at least 75% of the time dreaming about an ex boyfriend does NOT mean you miss him. But there’s always that chance. If the two of you recently broke up, or you still miss him when you’re actually awake and coherent, it may be a definite sign that you’re not over him and you might even want to mend the relationship.

6. Totally Random

Dreams are random. It doesn’t get any more basic or obvious than that. So, there’s a pretty big chance that your dream was completely random- especially if it only happened once or twice and is far from consistent. Maybe it was just out of the blue, or maybe you were ‘stalking’ him online- you know, just checking up to see if his new girlfriend is better looking than you or he finally got that promotion he wanted (don’t worry, we’ve all checked up on our exes- don’t feel bad!). Or maybe you visited that pizza place you and your ex ALWAYS went to, and it just brought up some past memories which followed you into your dreams. Last but not least, maybe he popped up into your mind before you fell asleep, so your subconscious mind held onto that thought and turned it into a silly dream. No big deal!

I know- dreaming about an ex boyfriend can be seriously panic inducing, especially if you’ve had a bad past with that certain someone. Just remember that nine times out of ten, dreaming about an ex boyfriend has nothing to do with you missing them or wanting them back in your life. Try to look at the bigger picture. Look at what actually happened in the dream and go from there. It may just mean you need to stop looking at his Facebook profile or you might need to go out and find yourself a new man!

We wanna know! Have you ever had a dream about an ex boyfriend? What happened in your dream? What do you think your dream meant?


  1. Trish

    December 4, 2016 at 9:39 am

    I had a dream about my ex from when i was 16 we just went our own ways and ive had encounters with him like we were just friends and nothing more any way i am 30 now with a man and a child my ex same age with a woman and children my ex is very much apart of my extended family as one of my family members goes with his cousin and they have a child together anywayz my dream was me him my son and his two cousins driving in there car to the beach me him n my son in the back seat hes having a conversation with me where we are both looking directly into eachothers eyes i have no idea what the convo was about but i recall him looking me directly in the eyes then my dream changed and i was in a familiar house with family around having a few beers someone passes him a beer and asks him to open it he looks at me with a big smile on his face and asks if i can open the bottle i turn and look at him once again i notice we R looking directly into eachothers eyes with a smile on my face i tell him “of cause” and use his actual name? Im amazed i can remeber it even thou it was 2 nights ago what do you think it means.

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 4, 2016 at 3:43 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of feelings that you had years ago. It would be wise to allow these dreams to fill you with positive energy. Take that positive energy and share it with your partner and child. Since both you and your ex are married with children, it would be most beneficial for your relationships’ to allow these feelings for him to fade. That said, there is no reason for you two to not be friends, unless either of your spouses have an issue with it. Remain positive as you move forward. Have a great day, Trish!

  2. Siarra Rayne

    December 1, 2016 at 10:23 am

    Hello, last night I had another dream of my ex of 2 years, It was my first relationship ever & I am only sixteen years old, I am currently in a new relationship now, but I’ve been having a lot of dreams of my ex.. One time I had a dream of him crying to me telling me that he was dearly sorry, there was another time he was in my dream and he was asking me to be friends and that he wanted to be friends with me, and then this time in my dream he was telling me that he wanted me back real real bad, but in this dream it was different, his new girlfriend was in my dream with him too and when I told him I didn’t wanna be with him again and I walked away I was looking back and saw him & his new girlfriend playing catch with a football and he didn’t look happy at all, he looked really depressed and she looked all happy and jolly.. What does this mean? I’m really curious

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 2, 2016 at 8:34 am

      The dreams just show the memories that you have of him. it seems like your subconscious has adjusted to the change somewhat, which is why you dreamed that he was with his new girlfriend. You may also subconsciously feel like he is not happy in his current relationship, so you dreamed that he was unhappy. It is normal for memories of the past to come back, even when you are no longer interested in the person. Overall, I would not worry about it too much.

  3. Damir

    November 26, 2016 at 12:16 am

    I was in a long distance relationship with a guy for 4 months. I couldn’t be more happier and then the distance broke him and he couldn’t continue. He was actually scared that he will hurt me by wanting to have a close boyfriend near him. Now, a month later, I am still missing him. So I had a dream of us two on some kind of a house and under a house there was a lake. We were flirting on that house but only looks. We didn’t say a word. After that we jumped into the lake and I took him by the hip and pulled towards me and I went for a kiss. I kissed him only on a upper lip. It was a fast kiss because my parents were coming along the sudden from somewhere 🙁 NOW I am really sad that it ended and I tried to sleep more to continue it but it won’t… I really miss him tho we stay in contact every Sunday.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 26, 2016 at 3:46 pm

      It is good that the two of you care for each other so strongly. If you find that you want to continue to care for him, then be sure to continue to speak with him. This will give you the chance to share your compassion and love. Distance can be a major problem for many relationships. If you find that the distance is too difficult for either of you, then it may be wise to allow this relationship to wait for the future. If the two of you are able to be near each other in the future, then you can attempt to develop your relationship at this time. Best of luck, Damir!

  4. Jena

    November 25, 2016 at 9:48 pm

    Hi. I had a dream about 3 days ago regarding my ex boyfriend we just grow apart for some reason and I haven’t heard anything from him in the past 2 weeks. The dream was that he had sent me a picture of a baby and said “this is the reason why.” We meet up to talk in my dream but i dont remember anything we talked about. I don’t know what’s going on. We had NEVER gone this much without talking.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 26, 2016 at 3:42 pm

      Since the two of you have broken up, you should allow thoughts of him to fade into the past. This will be beneficial for your mind. By removing your concerns about your past, you then will be better able to focus on the present. This will support you to become more mindful and concentrated on your actions. If you want to check up on out of compassion, then be sure to do so. It is possible that he needs a caring ear. Enjoy life, Jena!

  5. Goodgirl

    November 25, 2016 at 7:57 pm

    I dreamt he wanted to kiss me and he actually got away with it…. like he did the French stuff long and hard and it was like if at that moment it was all he wanted. Me ofcourse I was so mad at him (and am actually) but still engaged heavily in the kiss.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 26, 2016 at 3:40 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your desires for your relationship. This dream may be a reminder that you want to become closer to him. It would be beneficial for you to become closer with him emotionally and intellectually. Perhaps it would be helpful if you took him on a walk through nature. This is a sure way to become closer to someone that you are interested in. Best of luck!

  6. Missy

    November 4, 2016 at 5:28 am

    In my dream I was standing by large boxes full of clothes. My bf’s sister walks up and I tell her I broke up with her brother (which is true just recently, less than 2 weeks). We’re both sad. I explain that I’m moving with my mom who is going to either Yale or Princeton. My ex bf then walks up and offers to fly me there in his single engine plane. He seems eager to help. It just makes me more sad about leaving. I woke up depressed.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 4, 2016 at 6:38 pm

      I am sorry to hear about such an unpleasant dream. This dream likely is a manifestation of negative feelings that you may still have about the end of your relationship. Allow this dream, and your relationship, to fade into the past. Take this time to look inward and determine what you want for your future. Enjoy life and remain positive. Best of luck in the future, Missy!

  7. Sarah

    October 28, 2016 at 10:52 pm

    Hi, I had a dream where I saved the world from ending, after everybody is happy, I’m hugging family and friends knowing we all lived. Then in the distance my ex stands there wearing a knight uniform with a flowing cape. I run to him and he comes to me and we have a big hug that never ends, then I woke up.

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 29, 2016 at 11:46 am

      Your dream sounds like an excellent and fun dream to have. Bring this positive energy from your dream into the real world. It will be a positive influence in your life if you allow your energy to support those in need who are in your life. Every time that you see a stranger or someone in need of help, remember your dream and allow it to influence your action. Enjoy life and remain positive, Sarah!

  8. Kineta

    October 25, 2016 at 10:19 pm

    I have a dream sometimes in which I run into my ex suddenly when i m with my friends n den its quite awkward n den i get the feeling that i miss him n i dont wanna leave but in reality its been 3 yrs we broke up n i dnt feel anythng towards him nw…n at d end of the dream i leave by us saying good bye n exchanging no. to stay in contact

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 26, 2016 at 2:42 pm

      Allow your dream to drift into the past. There is no reason to seek a relationship with him again unless you have a strong desire and reason to do so. Let this dream serve as a future reminder for you to treat people in your life in a positive and friendly manner. And take this time to look inwards and determine what you would like for your future. Remain positive and enjoy life, Kineta!

  9. Andria

    October 22, 2016 at 6:15 pm

    Hi! I dreamt that I saw my ex in our hometown which I am visiting in my dream and I walked in to my uncle’s house and lay onto one of the bed and to my surprise I was lying next beside my ex who is sleeping and found his phone and look through his contacts and photos and nothing is suspicious and I decided to take a picture of us and with a few shots he woke up and joined me taking pics when I was about to face him he suddenly kiss me on the lips and lasted for 5 seconds I think he kissed me passionately and I did not respond to it and ran away because I was shocked and I wake up with a smile plastered on my face. Yeahh hahaha interpret my dream please

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 23, 2016 at 5:32 pm

      Your waking smile is the key to your dream. Clearly you have a latent desire to develop a relationship with your ex again. It is almost possible that you woke up pleased because of the nature of your dream. Regardless of the dream, you should determine which course of action you want to take in real life. Do you want to attempt to develop a relationship with him again, or would you rather allow him to fade into the past? Enjoy life and remain positive as you move into the future, Andria!

      • andria

        October 31, 2016 at 7:34 am

        Hi its me again. Uhm about what I dreamt when i posted a comment to your web. It totally happened in real life yesterday we saw each other and had a little chitchat but not the kissing part. I don’t know what to do help me . I am so confused.

        • web admin

          web admin

          October 31, 2016 at 12:18 pm

          If you determine that you want to bring your relationship closer together, then try to spend more time with him. Continue to have conversations, and if you feel that he would like to kiss you, then kiss him. Or take whatever action that you feel comfortable taking. What is important is to be clear and honest about your feelings. Remain positive and mindful in the future. Thank you for commenting, Andria!

  10. Kiesh

    October 21, 2016 at 10:50 am

    Me and my ex been off for about a month now. There was no cheating, we just grew apart it seemed. It was a mutual break up. But for the past week I been dreaming about him. First dream, we were laying together just staring in eachothers eyes. Second and third were us having sex (and it felt good too). And the last was us chilling happily, and he actually said out his mouth “…that’s why we’re back together…” and then kissed me. I still have feelings for him and I know he does to . Maybe we can work things out!

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 21, 2016 at 6:35 pm

      Anything is possible! If you want to develop a relationship with him again and your relationship did not fail because of a lack of respect, then there is no reason for you to not attempt a relationship again. Perhaps send him a message to determine his ideas and what his relationship life is like. If he is single and interested in developing a relationship with you again, then try to meet up with him again. If he does not want to develop a relationship with you or he is unable to develop a relationship with you at this time, then there is no reason for the two of you to not become better friends. Friendship is important and create strong emotional relationships for you to rely on in the future. Remain positive as you move forward, Kiesh!

  11. Caroline

    October 20, 2016 at 12:57 pm

    Hi! i had a dream about my ex, who I broke up with about 8 months ago, and in that dream I was in a group setting, he was there too but he kissed another girl and I couldn’t stand to watch so I looked away. This might have to do with the fact that I heard from my sister that she saw him with another girl about 2 months ago, but I don’t really know.

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 21, 2016 at 5:58 pm

      Your dream almost certainly has spawned from your recent thoughts about your ex. Allow these dreams to fade into the past, and in time, you will realize that you will think of him less and less. Use this dream as a reminder to speak with new people and strengthen your current relationships. Take this time to look inward and determine what you would like for your future without a relationship. Then, when you are certain that you are over your ex, look for a new relationship if you so desire. Remain positive, Caroline!

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