What Does it Mean When You Dream About Your Ex Boyfriend

By on November 4, 2014

Dreaming about your ex boyfriend. One of the absolute worst dreams you could possibly have. You wake up almost with a chill, your heart racing and your mind running in circles, thinking “What just happened? What does this mean?” Well, if you thought that your subconscious is telling you that you miss him terribly and you need to call and make amends right this second- you’re probably wrong. So put that fear to rest and check out some of the most common reasons why you might dream about your ex boyfriend. 2dbfd645c66aab8c38e0b9a4bd639cd9

1. You Miss Something About Him


Maybe your ex boyfriend had a certain quality that you absolutely adored. Maybe he knew how to make you laugh really well, or maybe he just knew how to snuggle you just right when it’s incredibly cold outside. Whatever it may be, you might just be yearning for that one certain quality in a person- not the actual person himself. So think about it: is there something you wish you could find in your current relationship or future relationships that you miss?

2. You Miss Being in a Relationship


If your dream was happy-go-lucky: the two of you walking hand in hand, laughing and smiling, checking out the most romantic spots in town, it may just mean you’re missing being in a relationship. It probably has little to nothing to do with your ex boyfriend. You’re probably just tired of being alone and want to share special someones with someone you love again. Which, of course, is COMPLETELY natural and nothing to be ashamed or weirded out by. Just don’t go running back into the arms of your ex boyfriend because you’re feeling lonely, okay? That will definitely do more harm than good!

3. There is Unfinished Business

Sometimes, when you break up with someone, not everything is said and done. Maybe you’re still harboring some ill feelings towards your ex boyfriend. Maybe you didn’t tell him about something important, like that one time you kissed someone on the lips but realized moments later it was an accident. It doesn’t matter what it is. But if you’re having these dreams because of some unresolved feelings or problems, then you should probably put it all on the table so these dreams stop and you can live your life with an ease of mind.

4. You’re Totally Done With Him


This one might be a little hard to believe- but man, it’s so true! If you had a dream where you are leaving your ex boyfriend, saying goodbye, or he even dies, it may be a sign that you are finally, one hundred percent done and over with him. There’s not an ounce of leftover feelings and you have the go ahead to move on with your life!

5. You Miss Him

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Okay, so, I want to say at least 75% of the time dreaming about an ex boyfriend does NOT mean you miss him. But there’s always that chance. If the two of you recently broke up, or you still miss him when you’re actually awake and coherent, it may be a definite sign that you’re not over him and you might even want to mend the relationship.

6. Totally Random

Dreams are random. It doesn’t get any more basic or obvious than that. So, there’s a pretty big chance that your dream was completely random- especially if it only happened once or twice and is far from consistent. Maybe it was just out of the blue, or maybe you were ‘stalking’ him online- you know, just checking up to see if his new girlfriend is better looking than you or he finally got that promotion he wanted (don’t worry, we’ve all checked up on our exes- don’t feel bad!). Or maybe you visited that pizza place you and your ex ALWAYS went to, and it just brought up some past memories which followed you into your dreams. Last but not least, maybe he popped up into your mind before you fell asleep, so your subconscious mind held onto that thought and turned it into a silly dream. No big deal!

I know- dreaming about an ex boyfriend can be seriously panic inducing, especially if you’ve had a bad past with that certain someone. Just remember that nine times out of ten, dreaming about an ex boyfriend has nothing to do with you missing them or wanting them back in your life. Try to look at the bigger picture. Look at what actually happened in the dream and go from there. It may just mean you need to stop looking at his Facebook profile or you might need to go out and find yourself a new man!

We wanna know! Have you ever had a dream about an ex boyfriend? What happened in your dream? What do you think your dream meant?


  1. Jennifer

    February 27, 2017 at 7:38 am

    Hi I’ve been having the same dream about my ex boyfriend for years but I can’t hear his voice .It’s been about 16 yrs since I’ve spoken with him .Does this mean anything?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 27, 2017 at 1:00 pm

      Your dreams are reflections of your previous desires. The reason why you can’t hear him may be a reflection of your lack of communication. If you want to reach out to him, then do so. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Have a great day, Jennifer!

  2. Nov

    February 23, 2017 at 8:54 am

    My dream is about a man, combination of my face and ex-bf who died last 2014. He is standing in the middle of a road and he is staring at me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 23, 2017 at 12:12 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your past experiences. This dream is a reminder of the closeness that you felt for our ex. He has passed, so allow him to fade from your dreams. If you think about him in the future, then allow the positive energy from your dreams to infuse your actions. Act with kindness and compassion in the future to honor the memory of your ex. Have a great day, Nov!

  3. Aleesa

    February 21, 2017 at 8:09 am

    Good day to you. This is awkward but I woke up this morning from a dream of my only Ex which is my first love. We been broken up for 2 whole years but the last time I saw him he randomly popped up on me kid napped me to his house and took advantage of me that was last August I haven’t seen him since or heard from him we left off on very bad terms..well for me mentally I don’t know if he has a conscious bout what he did or how devious his actions equals up to altogether but I got plenty of experiences of how cruel and spiteful he can be. Anyhow the dream was him with A new love interest or girlfriend, I was with them and some other person I’m assuming was one of his friends I met through our relationship..I was sitting in the backseat of a car and she was sitting in the passenger seat I couldn’t see her face just the back of her head, also I couldn’t see the friends face he was in the drivers seat, The only face I could see directly was my Ex and he wasn’t in the car with us he was standing outside of the car talking and he was giving me eye contact while saying things about her insinuating she was his girlfriend but I had no hard feelings or bitterness towards that I accepted it immediately very mature and secure and I think that shocked him in a sense, it was like he was trying to get under my skin using her as the tool. It was like she barely noticed me I don’t remember exchanging words with her or his friend while I’m in the backseat it was like I was watching the back of there heads and I was only visible to my Ex. I remember him asking her f “Who profile you on?, Lisa’s?” Which is my name like she was keeping tabs on or stalking me through social media awkwardly as I’m sitting in the back seat. Yes it was my profile and he coninues to talk to her about me in a jokingly way saying I was 23 but didn’t look it and something about him dating me when we was younger cuz she asked him a question pertaining to us, basically he was talking bout me to her and I didn’t understand why I was even there it was creeping me out at that point so I get out the car, start running…jumps a gated fence as he notices from a distance from being distracted talking to her, then he starts running after me and was catching up pretty fast from me having a head start it was like I couldn’t run fast enough. I thought I lost him for a min but it was only for a second I looked he was right behind me running. I tried running again but something in me gave up it seemed pointless I couldn’t dodge him so I started walking to catch me breathe as he was too as while he was dialing a number on his phone calling someone, I look down I had mine in my hand too out of nowhere I wasn’t running with it in my hand I remember looking down checking it though I know he spotted me he glanced at me from the corner of his eye, I’m standing on the curb behind a thick wooden pole the holds wires I tried to hide behind it. He hangs up his phone walking towards me and I was very resistant to hear what he had to say, I was laughing and I couldn’t control it while telling him get away from me I was very nervous and confused. Then I woke up

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 21, 2017 at 11:43 am

      Your dream is an indication of your concerns and fears that you have regarding your ex. Your dream is also filled with many inputs that you have in your life. It is the case that you need to remove him from your life at all times. Do not reach out to him. If you notice him around you, then leave the area that you are in. If he takes aggressive action toward you in the future, then speak with law enforcement or your family. Best of luck, Aleesa!

  4. Briana

    February 21, 2017 at 7:51 am

    I had a dream where I was dating the guy I was talking to, he was my prom date in real life and everything but then I broke up with him as soon as I could and confessed that I still have feelings for my ex that I still loved him and began to date my ex but we broke up over 6 months ago, and completely stopped talking 2 months ago but I don’t know cause I woke up crying realizing it wasn’t true

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 21, 2017 at 11:39 am

      Allow this dream to fade. There is no reason to allow the negative energy from your dream to influence your life. Take this dream as a reminder to always act with compassion and kindness. Focus on your boyfriend and this time and allow your relationship to flourish. Have a great day, Briana!

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