What Does it Mean When You Dream About Your Ex Boyfriend

By on November 4, 2014

Dreaming about your ex boyfriend. One of the absolute worst dreams you could possibly have. You wake up almost with a chill, your heart racing and your mind running in circles, thinking “What just happened? What does this mean?” Well, if you thought that your subconscious is telling you that you miss him terribly and you need to call and make amends right this second- you’re probably wrong. So put that fear to rest and check out some of the most common reasons why you might dream about your ex boyfriend. 2dbfd645c66aab8c38e0b9a4bd639cd9

1. You Miss Something About Him


Maybe your ex boyfriend had a certain quality that you absolutely adored. Maybe he knew how to make you laugh really well, or maybe he just knew how to snuggle you just right when it’s incredibly cold outside. Whatever it may be, you might just be yearning for that one certain quality in a person- not the actual person himself. So think about it: is there something you wish you could find in your current relationship or future relationships that you miss?

2. You Miss Being in a Relationship


If your dream was happy-go-lucky: the two of you walking hand in hand, laughing and smiling, checking out the most romantic spots in town, it may just mean you’re missing being in a relationship. It probably has little to nothing to do with your ex boyfriend. You’re probably just tired of being alone and want to share special someones with someone you love again. Which, of course, is COMPLETELY natural and nothing to be ashamed or weirded out by. Just don’t go running back into the arms of your ex boyfriend because you’re feeling lonely, okay? That will definitely do more harm than good!

3. There is Unfinished Business

Sometimes, when you break up with someone, not everything is said and done. Maybe you’re still harboring some ill feelings towards your ex boyfriend. Maybe you didn’t tell him about something important, like that one time you kissed someone on the lips but realized moments later it was an accident. It doesn’t matter what it is. But if you’re having these dreams because of some unresolved feelings or problems, then you should probably put it all on the table so these dreams stop and you can live your life with an ease of mind.

4. You’re Totally Done With Him


This one might be a little hard to believe- but man, it’s so true! If you had a dream where you are leaving your ex boyfriend, saying goodbye, or he even dies, it may be a sign that you are finally, one hundred percent done and over with him. There’s not an ounce of leftover feelings and you have the go ahead to move on with your life!

5. You Miss Him

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Okay, so, I want to say at least 75% of the time dreaming about an ex boyfriend does NOT mean you miss him. But there’s always that chance. If the two of you recently broke up, or you still miss him when you’re actually awake and coherent, it may be a definite sign that you’re not over him and you might even want to mend the relationship.

6. Totally Random

Dreams are random. It doesn’t get any more basic or obvious than that. So, there’s a pretty big chance that your dream was completely random- especially if it only happened once or twice and is far from consistent. Maybe it was just out of the blue, or maybe you were ‘stalking’ him online- you know, just checking up to see if his new girlfriend is better looking than you or he finally got that promotion he wanted (don’t worry, we’ve all checked up on our exes- don’t feel bad!). Or maybe you visited that pizza place you and your ex ALWAYS went to, and it just brought up some past memories which followed you into your dreams. Last but not least, maybe he popped up into your mind before you fell asleep, so your subconscious mind held onto that thought and turned it into a silly dream. No big deal!

I know- dreaming about an ex boyfriend can be seriously panic inducing, especially if you’ve had a bad past with that certain someone. Just remember that nine times out of ten, dreaming about an ex boyfriend has nothing to do with you missing them or wanting them back in your life. Try to look at the bigger picture. Look at what actually happened in the dream and go from there. It may just mean you need to stop looking at his Facebook profile or you might need to go out and find yourself a new man!

We wanna know! Have you ever had a dream about an ex boyfriend? What happened in your dream? What do you think your dream meant?


  1. Cynthia

    April 3, 2017 at 1:27 am

    I dream of my ex everyday when we were together. We were together for 12 years but I left him because he was controlling but I loved him so much. I left to another country. I haven’t talked to him or seen anything of him for almost 2 years. I’m in another relationship of which I am addicted to my current boyfriend. But last night I was making out with my ex, not only did it feel so good I woke up in a very good mood and I haven’t been able to talk to my current boyfriend.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 3, 2017 at 12:07 pm

      You used to dream about him a lot and you dated him for 12 years. It is perfectly normal for these types of dreams to happen, and it doesn’t mean anything. Don’t worry- you still love your current boyfriend just as much. These dreams are just due to your memories, and they do not reflect what you actually want.

  2. hanan ashraf

    April 1, 2017 at 1:06 am

    I kept on dreaming about my ex for like 5 days straight and he looked sad and didn’t talk to anyone and when he saw me he stared at me and didn’t say a word other then he looked so sad but I just looked away. And later on I woke up in tears because me and him still have feelings for each other but … I don’t know what to do so then the nextday he text me normal and we talked and all fine and he said i love you and i said him I love you too then again talked normally then after that we never talked again then after that day I dreamt that he was smiling at me and i did to and we talked then I pulled him and kissed him and it felt so real but it was just a dream and then he had to go so I left him and he left me and we waved goodbye to each other .. then after few days later I saw him again in my dream and he is sad again and stared at me … I really don’t know at to do, please help me. I’m still in love with him

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 1, 2017 at 10:05 am

      He was in the dream because you miss him and still have some residual feelings for him. He is sad in the dream because that is how you wish that he would feel about the break up in real life. Judging from the way you talked the next day, your feelings may be accurate. Your following dream just shows the feelings that you still have for him again. All of these feelings are normal–it normally takes weeks or months to really heal from a past relationship. The only thing that you can do right now is stay busy and focus on moving on. With time, you will be able to heal. Good luck, Hanan Ashraf!

  3. Hayley

    March 28, 2017 at 2:13 pm

    I’m a depressed person… and in my dream he saved me from falling off a cliff, he told me I couldn’t give up.that I had to fight and prove myself. So I randomly kiked him… and asked him why he cheated on me. He came up with bull-shit, now I just wish I could kik him and tell him what he gave up on.. sadly I loved a cheater. I don’t even know why I love him still..

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 29, 2017 at 10:24 am

      The dream may show that you wish that someone was there to save you from your depression. You may feel like it is too much to deal with on your own, so you dreamed that someone else was there to help. The cheating part may be because of what happened in your past, or it may be symbolic for your fear that anyone who tries to help will just end up betraying you later on.

  4. Ting

    March 25, 2017 at 5:48 pm

    I dreamt about my hook up showing up randomly to pick me up and take me home. Then when i wake up I receive a text from him. This happened twice. In reality, he has left the country and we havent seen each other for a year. We still talk constantly and have remained friends. Sadly, I still have feelings for him.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 26, 2017 at 9:19 am

      What an unusual coincidence! The dreams are mostly because of your prior hook up with him. A part of you may still wonder if the relationship could have been more if he stayed in the country. Unfortunately, it looks like all you can do for the moment is stay friends with him and hope that he ultimately decides to return to where you live. Good luck, Ting!

  5. cathy

    March 23, 2017 at 6:26 am

    just woke up..i was wondering if why i saw him on my dreams for the past few days..
    1.) i saw him sleeping with another girl even he saw me looking at them,he just don’t care that i felt jealous or angry for what i saw
    2.)just now..i didnt notice why he was by my side..he is 6ft tall but when i saw him again his height changed into 5ft..i was really curious why ,he kissed me and trying to open his legs and adjusting it to become taller again..i was just asking him when someone is very happy to see him again..and hug him,,but he ignored the girl and pushed it away,,he took over my hand and runned away from that girl..he cries a lot and while we are running then saying sorry.The situation is real happened why we broked up..but the faces i saw in my dreams are not the real faces..what does it means?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 23, 2017 at 8:00 am

      The first dream may show your fear that he wants to be with someone else or could be with someone else. The second dream seems to show that you want to kiss him and be romantic with him. You may feel like he does not live up to his potential or something similar, which is why he shrunk in height. The last part of the dream shows your fear that he will confront you about being with someone else and things will end. Since these things happened in real life, it is unsurprising that you dreamed about them. The changing faces could be random, or it could just indicate that you are still not recovered from the situation yet to see it as it really was.

    • Marie

      April 1, 2017 at 10:14 am

      I keep having dreams of my ex our relationship was good in the beginning and it got worse after a year had passed. He was abusive and controlling and only attended me for sex… K got tired if the way he was treating me so I ended our relationship. After that he showed up unexpected in a violent way he had been drinking.. I tell him to leave but he stays by my door verbslly abusing me.. I later then get a restraining order ..ever since then I’ve been dreaming of him every other day and it’s always the sane dream. He is sitting next to me trying ti be sincere asking me to forgive him and he still loves me and if I will take him back.. But in reality I remember the things he does to me and I tell him I can’t. And I walk away.. I’m sad and crying but my mind tells me I can’t be with him.. When we broke up we had no closure or time to talk.. I had immeadiately decided ti get a restraining order because he was abusive and I had kids involved .

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 1, 2017 at 10:43 am

        The lack of closure is probably what instigated these dreams. Plus, he was kind for small parts of the time, so a part of you may still love him for who he was at his best. Since he is a monster when he is at his worst, you have definitely made the right decision by ending things and getting a restraining order. The dream does not mean that you should take action or do anything–it is just a throwback to the past. Good luck and stay safe, Marie!

  6. Kai

    March 19, 2017 at 5:16 pm

    My ex andI had a really good relationship together, so i thought. He made plans for me and my kids for Christmas, New Yrs.. to move up there with him. He had things planned out for our future together. We argued the last time I saw him but he said he wanted to work things out. We haven’t talked since for 4mths. Ive been having lots of dreams here and there. A few we had a baby We are at a busy bar restaurant and newborn is asleep. The next baby dream the boy is a about one. We were out on a trip and were out in a busy city taking about things only we talked about but when i look at his face its not his face. Another he calls me and tells me to go up to visit him and in the dream it was a Tuesday as it was in life and he tells me to go Wednesday soI start thinking of things I need to be doing to be able to go bc I already had plans in real life and i knew this in my dream. The last one he calls me and a female friend in the background tells him he’s crazy why would i answer after 4 mths. He tells me how much he misses me and he is sorry and we should plan a trip next weekend and he sounds so excited. the recent ones have been happy dreams and they confuse me as to why im even dreaming happy dreams if I’m hurt how we didn’t have closure. I’ve had others but don’t remember everything onceI wake up.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 19, 2017 at 6:53 pm

      Dreams about relationships that have ended are normal. They are simply reflections of the emotional attachment that you once had. Allow these dreams to fade. If you think about him in the future, then allow those thoughts to fill your actions with positive energy. Share kindness and compassion with the world. This will invite new people into your life that you can be with. Have a great day, Kai!

  7. Destiny

    March 19, 2017 at 7:06 am

    My sister had a dream about hearing gun shots and seeing her ex boyfriend being shot and killed do you know what that dream may mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 19, 2017 at 6:36 pm

      The dream may be a reflection of her concern about losing her partner. She also may be exposed to too much violent media. It would benefit her to minimize the violent television that she watches. She should also take this dream as a reminder to treat her partner with kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Destiny!

    • user

      March 28, 2017 at 9:47 pm

      It means that she is totally over him.

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 29, 2017 at 10:19 am

        That is another possibility. Thanks for commenting, User!

  8. Miranda

    March 15, 2017 at 2:31 am

    I’m still confused…I dreamt of a guy that I was with for 2 days shooting my boyfriend ,when he realised that he’s not dead he came back again to shoot him….I tried to beg him on the dream crying …I even wanted him to believe that he’s the one I love because I wanted him to not shoot at my boyfriend but he shot him and left with 2 guys ….what is the meaning of this???

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 15, 2017 at 3:44 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your concerns and influences. Firstly, you will want to reduce the amount of consumption that you have of violent media. Dreams of death are common. You should allow this dream to fade. If you remember it, then allow it to influence you to treat everyone with kindness and compassion. Have a great day, Miranda!

  9. Chanel

    March 13, 2017 at 2:17 am

    Me and my soon-to-be-ex-husband broke up over two years ago. Came home from a family funeral and all of my furnishings utilities were gone and off And I was served with divorce papers. Come to find out he was having an affair for a while. it was emotionally hard on me and my (17 & 22 yr. Old) children who lived in the home. We are still going through the final stages of divorce, again 2 years later. It is safe to say that I am accepting of The Break-Up and glad that it is over. After 20 years of marriage I didn’t expect it but there was past infidelities so I don’t regret our divorce. However I had a dream recently he came to my current residence with a smile on his face in a good mood asking to come in the house to talk. Once I let him in he told me he needed a favor which was to crash on my couch for one or two nights because work was being done to his home. I asked why aren’t you staying with your girlfriend that I see you with out restaurants and you bring to court with you? His answer was because she and my three month old baby girl is staying with a family member of hers and they only have room for them. In my dream I began to laugh at him I was so surprised that he started all over and had a baby that was 3 months old at 47 yrs old. I woke up shocked and somewhat panicked what do you think that means?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 13, 2017 at 2:21 pm

      Allow this dream to fade from your mind. It is a manifestation of your thoughts and concerns. It is good that your relationship is ending and you should continue to allow it to end. Focus on yourself and your children at this time. Take this time to look inward and determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Chanel!

  10. princess

    March 9, 2017 at 6:37 am

    I dreamed About my ex… I was shy to see him again and when I saw him I was just so happy.. and he had a big smile on his face and then he kissed me and we were kissing and I was so happy I still loved him. Then my two pastors came and told me that they were was a school ceremony and that we needed a table so my ex came with us we got a table and he sat next to me.. Then after the ceremony I met him at the back and we were kissing again… and I was so happy… What does this mean? It’s been 1year and 9 months since we broke up.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 9, 2017 at 2:47 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of the previous emotional attachments that you felt toward him in the past. If you decide that you want to establish a relationship again, then reach out to him. You can also allow these thoughts of him to fade away. Take this time to look inward and determine what you want for our future. Make this decision based on the reality of your life and not your dreams. Have a great day, Princess!

  11. Tiffany

    March 7, 2017 at 2:55 am

    My Dreams Are Random We Are Kissing Sometimes Im Arguing With His Sons Mother Other Times We Are Happy Its Crazy HELP

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 7, 2017 at 3:30 pm

      Your dreams are reflections of your influences and concerns. If you find that you deal with his son’s mother often, then you may want to reduce your interaction with her. Try to act with kindness and compassion at all times. This will help your dreams become more positive. Have a great day, Tiffany!

  12. chelsea

    March 5, 2017 at 5:46 pm

    I had a dream which includes my ex boyfriend. My dreams with him were consistent. It lasted for about 5 consecutive nights.

    1. Me and my ex bf went on an arcade and took pictures together.
    2. I went to this event, graduation day to be exact and i saw him and his new gf. However, he chose to be with me that day and leave his gf.
    3. We became workmates.
    4. We had a conversation in a place were we used to hang out or go to
    5. He commented something on my post in facebook and even asked his sister to help him defending himself.

    What does this dreams mean? I am bothered. I am really sure that I dont love him anymore. Were that dreams has to do something with his feelings towards me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 6, 2017 at 9:38 am

      The first dream may show that you miss your ex or you miss hanging out with him. The second dream shows that you realize that it is over and he has moved on. A part of you may still wish that he was with you though, so you dreamed that he left her for you. The next two dreams seem to further this wish, and the last dream may show a desire for him to reach out to you in real life. I would not worry about the dreams too much though. Your subconscious still has memories of liking him, so he may have just been chosen to represent the fact that you want a close, loving relationship. He was one of the people that you once cared for, so your subconscious may have chosen him to play this role.

  13. Ash

    March 4, 2017 at 7:46 pm

    I had a dream abou t my ex and he broke up with me for 2 years and I dream about that his mother and sister are asking me if I still love my ex. Then, they said that my ex is crying all night because of me. Then I woke up because why? What does it means? Im afraid that I ‘m hoping again that my ex will come back even if I have moved on. Please help me. What does it mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 5, 2017 at 10:55 am

      The dream just shows memories of your ex. You may miss him, or you may just miss the closeness of being with him. You may also wish that he would regret leaving you and want to come back. All of these feelings are the reasons why you ended up having this dream. Unfortunately, it is impossible for a dream to show how someone else feels, so there is no way to know if he still likes you or wants the relationship to restart.

  14. idara

    March 2, 2017 at 4:07 am

    i had a dream and i saw my ex and i greeted him and we hug each other and i cried i ask him why he did it and he told me he is sorry, i saw him with card and he told me his marriage is on April but there was no date on the card.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 2, 2017 at 9:01 am

      The dream may represent a desire for closure. It could just be a throwback to your memories of him, or you may genuinely miss being with him. It seems that you feel like he has moved on in life, so you dreamed that he is getting married. This type of dream is normal after a relationship ends, so I would not read too much into it.

  15. Jennifer

    February 27, 2017 at 7:38 am

    Hi I’ve been having the same dream about my ex boyfriend for years but I can’t hear his voice .It’s been about 16 yrs since I’ve spoken with him .Does this mean anything?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 27, 2017 at 1:00 pm

      Your dreams are reflections of your previous desires. The reason why you can’t hear him may be a reflection of your lack of communication. If you want to reach out to him, then do so. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Have a great day, Jennifer!

  16. Nov

    February 23, 2017 at 8:54 am

    My dream is about a man, combination of my face and ex-bf who died last 2014. He is standing in the middle of a road and he is staring at me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 23, 2017 at 12:12 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your past experiences. This dream is a reminder of the closeness that you felt for our ex. He has passed, so allow him to fade from your dreams. If you think about him in the future, then allow the positive energy from your dreams to infuse your actions. Act with kindness and compassion in the future to honor the memory of your ex. Have a great day, Nov!

  17. Aleesa

    February 21, 2017 at 8:09 am

    Good day to you. This is awkward but I woke up this morning from a dream of my only Ex which is my first love. We been broken up for 2 whole years but the last time I saw him he randomly popped up on me kid napped me to his house and took advantage of me that was last August I haven’t seen him since or heard from him we left off on very bad terms..well for me mentally I don’t know if he has a conscious bout what he did or how devious his actions equals up to altogether but I got plenty of experiences of how cruel and spiteful he can be. Anyhow the dream was him with A new love interest or girlfriend, I was with them and some other person I’m assuming was one of his friends I met through our relationship..I was sitting in the backseat of a car and she was sitting in the passenger seat I couldn’t see her face just the back of her head, also I couldn’t see the friends face he was in the drivers seat, The only face I could see directly was my Ex and he wasn’t in the car with us he was standing outside of the car talking and he was giving me eye contact while saying things about her insinuating she was his girlfriend but I had no hard feelings or bitterness towards that I accepted it immediately very mature and secure and I think that shocked him in a sense, it was like he was trying to get under my skin using her as the tool. It was like she barely noticed me I don’t remember exchanging words with her or his friend while I’m in the backseat it was like I was watching the back of there heads and I was only visible to my Ex. I remember him asking her f “Who profile you on?, Lisa’s?” Which is my name like she was keeping tabs on or stalking me through social media awkwardly as I’m sitting in the back seat. Yes it was my profile and he coninues to talk to her about me in a jokingly way saying I was 23 but didn’t look it and something about him dating me when we was younger cuz she asked him a question pertaining to us, basically he was talking bout me to her and I didn’t understand why I was even there it was creeping me out at that point so I get out the car, start running…jumps a gated fence as he notices from a distance from being distracted talking to her, then he starts running after me and was catching up pretty fast from me having a head start it was like I couldn’t run fast enough. I thought I lost him for a min but it was only for a second I looked he was right behind me running. I tried running again but something in me gave up it seemed pointless I couldn’t dodge him so I started walking to catch me breathe as he was too as while he was dialing a number on his phone calling someone, I look down I had mine in my hand too out of nowhere I wasn’t running with it in my hand I remember looking down checking it though I know he spotted me he glanced at me from the corner of his eye, I’m standing on the curb behind a thick wooden pole the holds wires I tried to hide behind it. He hangs up his phone walking towards me and I was very resistant to hear what he had to say, I was laughing and I couldn’t control it while telling him get away from me I was very nervous and confused. Then I woke up

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 21, 2017 at 11:43 am

      Your dream is an indication of your concerns and fears that you have regarding your ex. Your dream is also filled with many inputs that you have in your life. It is the case that you need to remove him from your life at all times. Do not reach out to him. If you notice him around you, then leave the area that you are in. If he takes aggressive action toward you in the future, then speak with law enforcement or your family. Best of luck, Aleesa!

  18. Briana

    February 21, 2017 at 7:51 am

    I had a dream where I was dating the guy I was talking to, he was my prom date in real life and everything but then I broke up with him as soon as I could and confessed that I still have feelings for my ex that I still loved him and began to date my ex but we broke up over 6 months ago, and completely stopped talking 2 months ago but I don’t know cause I woke up crying realizing it wasn’t true

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 21, 2017 at 11:39 am

      Allow this dream to fade. There is no reason to allow the negative energy from your dream to influence your life. Take this dream as a reminder to always act with compassion and kindness. Focus on your boyfriend and this time and allow your relationship to flourish. Have a great day, Briana!

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