What Does it Mean When You Dream About Your Ex Boyfriend

By on November 4, 2014

Dreaming about your ex boyfriend. One of the absolute worst dreams you could possibly have. You wake up almost with a chill, your heart racing and your mind running in circles, thinking “What just happened? What does this mean?” Well, if you thought that your subconscious is telling you that you miss him terribly and you need to call and make amends right this second- you’re probably wrong. So put that fear to rest and check out some of the most common reasons why you might dream about your ex boyfriend. 2dbfd645c66aab8c38e0b9a4bd639cd9

1. You Miss Something About Him


Maybe your ex boyfriend had a certain quality that you absolutely adored. Maybe he knew how to make you laugh really well, or maybe he just knew how to snuggle you just right when it’s incredibly cold outside. Whatever it may be, you might just be yearning for that one certain quality in a person- not the actual person himself. So think about it: is there something you wish you could find in your current relationship or future relationships that you miss?

2. You Miss Being in a Relationship


If your dream was happy-go-lucky: the two of you walking hand in hand, laughing and smiling, checking out the most romantic spots in town, it may just mean you’re missing being in a relationship. It probably has little to nothing to do with your ex boyfriend. You’re probably just tired of being alone and want to share special someones with someone you love again. Which, of course, is COMPLETELY natural and nothing to be ashamed or weirded out by. Just don’t go running back into the arms of your ex boyfriend because you’re feeling lonely, okay? That will definitely do more harm than good!

3. There is Unfinished Business

Sometimes, when you break up with someone, not everything is said and done. Maybe you’re still harboring some ill feelings towards your ex boyfriend. Maybe you didn’t tell him about something important, like that one time you kissed someone on the lips but realized moments later it was an accident. It doesn’t matter what it is. But if you’re having these dreams because of some unresolved feelings or problems, then you should probably put it all on the table so these dreams stop and you can live your life with an ease of mind.

4. You’re Totally Done With Him


This one might be a little hard to believe- but man, it’s so true! If you had a dream where you are leaving your ex boyfriend, saying goodbye, or he even dies, it may be a sign that you are finally, one hundred percent done and over with him. There’s not an ounce of leftover feelings and you have the go ahead to move on with your life!

5. You Miss Him

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Okay, so, I want to say at least 75% of the time dreaming about an ex boyfriend does NOT mean you miss him. But there’s always that chance. If the two of you recently broke up, or you still miss him when you’re actually awake and coherent, it may be a definite sign that you’re not over him and you might even want to mend the relationship.

6. Totally Random

Dreams are random. It doesn’t get any more basic or obvious than that. So, there’s a pretty big chance that your dream was completely random- especially if it only happened once or twice and is far from consistent. Maybe it was just out of the blue, or maybe you were ‘stalking’ him online- you know, just checking up to see if his new girlfriend is better looking than you or he finally got that promotion he wanted (don’t worry, we’ve all checked up on our exes- don’t feel bad!). Or maybe you visited that pizza place you and your ex ALWAYS went to, and it just brought up some past memories which followed you into your dreams. Last but not least, maybe he popped up into your mind before you fell asleep, so your subconscious mind held onto that thought and turned it into a silly dream. No big deal!

I know- dreaming about an ex boyfriend can be seriously panic inducing, especially if you’ve had a bad past with that certain someone. Just remember that nine times out of ten, dreaming about an ex boyfriend has nothing to do with you missing them or wanting them back in your life. Try to look at the bigger picture. Look at what actually happened in the dream and go from there. It may just mean you need to stop looking at his Facebook profile or you might need to go out and find yourself a new man!

We wanna know! Have you ever had a dream about an ex boyfriend? What happened in your dream? What do you think your dream meant?


  1. stuwert snick

    August 20, 2017 at 9:11 pm

    i still dream of my ex boyfriend though we are separated since 3 years ago. i dream of him as he is staring at me with full of emotion as he always did. what does it mean? Does he have still feelings for me or do i? i obviously admit i have feelings for him. i don’t want to get back him.but why do i always dream of our moments that already passed. do we have connection in telepathy?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 20, 2017 at 10:55 pm

      This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional attachments to this person. It is unlikely that the two of you have developed another form of communication. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then reach out to him. If you do not, then allow your thoughts and dreams of him fade. Have a great day, Stuwert!

  2. Ashanti

    August 10, 2017 at 7:30 am

    I had a dream of my ex wanting to attack me and his best friend was in the dream, hugging me and told me everything will be alright. So weird. I still love him and it’s been 2weeks since the break up. Prior to that, I dreamed I gave a key to my house to my ex and he gave me a key to his house and told me that I can stay there as long as I want. It really felt good. Help!!!

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 10, 2017 at 2:46 pm

      This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional attachment to your ex. It is clear that you are no longer interested in him. Allow this dream and thoughts of your ex to fade from your life. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. This will help you at this time and in the future. Have a great day, Ashanti!

  3. Barbie

    August 4, 2017 at 10:43 pm

    I dream of my ex more often but i dont want to it just happens. Yes i am in a relationship with someone else but a part of me wish he was my ex. Everything he used to do and how he used to dress,his personality. I sometimes wish i could place the qualities of my ex to my current boyfriend. its been two years we broke up because he was emotionally abusive he was cheating and made it obvious that he didnt care. Because of that i dont want him back in my life but how do i stop loving him and focus on building my current relationship. please help

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 5, 2017 at 6:35 pm

      Your relationship with your ex has ended because he did not respect you. You are in a relationship, so there is no reason for you to reach out to your ex. Focus your emotional energy on your current partner. This will help you feel more confident in your current relationship. If this relationship ends for some reason, then look inward and determine what you want for your future. Have a great day, Barbie!

  4. Micheala

    July 28, 2017 at 11:31 am

    I had a dream that my ex was protecting me. When I went to look for him, he found me. He came running across the street. He was happy to see me. He began walking with me. I felt real happy and my life was good. I missed him. He was still handsome to me. He was real protective of me. I felt how much he cared for me and loved me. I FORCED myself to wake-up. I knew it wasn’t true. It was just a dream. How I wish it was true and it wasn’t a dream…

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 28, 2017 at 7:50 pm

      This dream is a reflection of your previous feelings toward this person. It is clear that you felt secure with him. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you want to develop a relationship with him again, then reach out to him. If you don’t, then allow his dream to fade. There are many things in life that you can look forward to. Have a great day, Micheala!

  5. Jean

    July 24, 2017 at 8:54 pm

    I woke up this morning and i feel lil bit shook. My ex bf came into my dream. In the fact we never chatting or talking or stalking his instagram, we’re broke up 4 years ago and the last time he sent a text 6 months ago and he said if he really wanted to met me but i couldn’t because i have no free time after that we never talked until this time. But idk why suddenly he came into my dream last night, we’re just laughed about something, made some dish for dinner, and at the night i slept on his arm and he kissed my check and hugged me. I played some games on my phone and we’re still on bed, he touched my lips but he didn’t kiss me. He just touched until i was asleep and he hugged me again. That’s it. What’s that mean? –“

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 25, 2017 at 6:39 pm

      This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional attachments to this person. Allow this dream and thoughts of this person to fade. Allow this dream to influence you in a positive direction. Treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. If you determine that you want to attempt to develop a relationship with this person again, then reach out to him. Have a great day, Jean!

  6. Krushner

    July 17, 2017 at 10:22 am

    I hope you can help me. three mornings in a row I’ve been dreaming about my ex. As far as i know he’s happy with his new girlfriend. But in my dreams (different environments) he tries to talk to me but as soon as he tries to tell me something his girlfriend blocks us. The secomd dream stood out for me as we were at the ocean and the same thing happened. Its really frustrating. I moved on. I have no contact with him whatsoever.help

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 17, 2017 at 8:49 pm

      Allow these dreams to fade. It is great that you are not in contact with him. Do not reach out to him at this time, as he is in a relationship. Take this dream as a indication that you should move toward the future. Determine what you want for your future without him. You can focus inward and enjoy your life. Have a great day, Krushner!

  7. Jasmine Quidlat

    July 13, 2017 at 8:02 am

    Not able to let go of the 11yrs off and on dating, even during those times i have moved on to 2 serious relationship but once that relationship has ended some how he is around and pick up where we left off..again and again, although i may have planned to annoy him and bombard him so maybe he can finally leave me, but caught myself with my guard down and fell in love with him and when i finally cried out all my feelings and emotions.. he then moved on, no efforts, lost hopes, feeling not good enough.. failing and last text from him was”leave me the fuck alone”and then i haven’t texted or spoke to him, although i miss him so much more and I’m still hurting crying on occasion and last night i dreamt about him we were in an open space,me yelling at him of how awful to feel like worthless, stupid and how he treated me like nothing, but he just kept apologizing trying to say it but he appeared to be with a big face and red and black colors around him.. and someone woke me up.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 13, 2017 at 8:25 pm

      If he has been emotionally abusive toward you, then it is great that your relationship is over. Continue to not develop a relationship with him. Take this time to determine what you want with your future at this time. Become closer with your friends and family, and see where life takes your from there. Have a great day, Jasmine!

  8. Caren

    July 7, 2017 at 10:55 pm

    i have a dream with my boyfriend who passed away 4 mos ago he ask me to dance..

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 8, 2017 at 8:17 pm

      This dream is a reflection of your previous influences on your life. Allow this dream to influence you in a positive manner. Share your kindness and compassion with all people who are in your life. This will be the best way to honor the memory of your late boyfriend. This will help you feel more positive at this time. Have a great day, Caren!

  9. Alice

    June 20, 2017 at 1:27 am

    Well i saw my ex of 3 years ago yesterday at the bar i always stay. He didnt talk to me and last night had a dream about him stalking me i stopped and told him everything was over between us and he moved away. Today i saw him again same place. This is so frustating, i know he still loves me but i have 0 feeling about him. Anything about my dream ?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 20, 2017 at 6:15 pm

      Your dream is likely a reflection of your thoughts and concerns regarding your previous emotions about this person. If you have any real concerns, then continue to avoid him. If you want to not keep in contact, then there is no reason to reach out to him. If he reaches out to you, then be clear and honest about your feelings. Do whatever suits you at this time. Have a great day, Alice!

  10. Lady

    June 18, 2017 at 5:21 am

    My boyfriend and I broke up about three weeks ago and I dream that he had another woman at his house.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 19, 2017 at 3:18 pm

      Allow thoughts of this person to fade. You two are no longer together and nothing positive can be gained from you thinking about him. He may be with someone else at this time, but you should not concern yourself with that. Instead, focus on your life and look forward to new opportunities. Have a great day, Lady!

  11. Mykala Williams

    June 16, 2017 at 8:10 am

    Last night I had a dream about my ex boyfriend and his girlfriend. I remember coming out of the back room he was laughing and joking around with her .. i started to do the dishes. They kept talking and then he asked me a question and started tapping my butt with a butterknife. He left the kitchen and he started to play around throwing things at me and his gf and then we started to dance on eachother while he was watching. I found it weird becuase i dont know his new gf nor have I met her and I want him out of my head Dx

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 16, 2017 at 12:37 pm

      Since you have ended your relationship with him and seem to not want him in your thoughts, then allow this dream to fade away. If you find yourself thinking about him, then work on another task. This will help clear your mind of him. In time, you will find that you no longer think about him. Have a great day, Mykala!

  12. Amanda

    June 4, 2017 at 10:55 pm

    I had a dream about my ex. We broke up 2 years ago. We were in contact for 1yr but I have moved on and then today i dreamt about him. We were talking and he wanted to kiss me.. But he couldn’t coz people were there. At the end we didn’t kiss but he held my hand and didnt let go.. I wokeup and I was like man I wanted that kiss..

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 5, 2017 at 2:29 pm

      It may be best for your ex to remain in your past. Allow these dreams and thoughts to fade. You may also choose to reach out to him again. If he is a kind and caring person, then you may want to give him a second chance. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Have a great day, Amanda!

  13. Shru

    May 20, 2017 at 8:41 pm

    I had breakup 8 months back. Today i saw my ex boyfriend in my dream . We were attending a common friends marriage. But all through the ceremonies he didnt talked to me. What does it mean??

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 21, 2017 at 11:32 am

      It is probably just a throwback to the memories you have of the past. The friends’ marriage may symbolize that you see other people moving on in life. At the same time, you realize that you will not get that marriage or long-term relationship with him, which is why he did not talk to you in your dream. The dream only shows your own thoughts, feelings and desires, so there is no way to know what is going on in your ex’s mind.

  14. Love

    May 15, 2017 at 11:47 pm

    I woke up this morning and had a dream about my first love who broke up with me 3 years ago, we were talking as friends after we brokeup , but I moved far away so communication stop between us. I haven’t heard from him since 1 year plus now. I wasn’t thinking about him ,out of a sudden I dream about him lastnight,we were holding hands and walking to his house, when we got at his house,he ask that we go in his room, so I decided to go in his room and he follow me, when we got in his room, he started explaining how sorry he was for letting go of our relationship and that he really want me back in his life. So I look in his eyes and told him I am sorry too, we both hug and kiss, and then I woke up. When I woke up and realized that I was dreaming about him, I close my eyes again wishing to continue with the dream but the dream never came back. And I have been thinking about him the whole day. I am confuse, I don’t what the dream mean.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 16, 2017 at 10:26 am

      You still have memories of him, so it makes sense for him to appear in your subconscious from time to time. Part of you may want closure and may miss the affection of the relationship, so you dreamed that this happened. I would not read into it too much though. A dream can only show your own memories, thoughts and feelings, and it is far too easy to confuse dream feelings with real feelings.

      • Love

        July 11, 2017 at 11:10 pm

        So, do you think that we can get back together? I have dream about him twice in role.

        • web admin

          web admin

          July 13, 2017 at 5:00 pm

          Your best option is for you to speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. The only way that anything can happen is if you take action. You may also choose to wait for him to take action. Determine what your want for your future at this time. It is always wise to move toward your goals with purpose and positive energy. Have a great day, Love!

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