What Does it Mean When You Dream About Your Ex Boyfriend

By on November 4, 2014

Dreaming about your ex boyfriend. One of the absolute worst dreams you could possibly have. You wake up almost with a chill, your heart racing and your mind running in circles, thinking “What just happened? What does this mean?” Well, if you thought that your subconscious is telling you that you miss him terribly and you need to call and make amends right this second- you’re probably wrong. So put that fear to rest and check out some of the most common reasons why you might dream about your ex boyfriend. 2dbfd645c66aab8c38e0b9a4bd639cd9

1. You Miss Something About Him

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Maybe your ex boyfriend had a certain quality that you absolutely adored. Maybe he knew how to make you laugh really well, or maybe he just knew how to snuggle you just right when it’s incredibly cold outside. Whatever it may be, you might just be yearning for that one certain quality in a person- not the actual person himself. So think about it: is there something you wish you could find in your current relationship or future relationships that you miss?

2. You Miss Being in a Relationship

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If your dream was happy-go-lucky: the two of you walking hand in hand, laughing and smiling, checking out the most romantic spots in town, it may just mean you’re missing being in a relationship. It probably has little to nothing to do with your ex boyfriend. You’re probably just tired of being alone and want to share special someones with someone you love again. Which, of course, is COMPLETELY natural and nothing to be ashamed or weirded out by. Just don’t go running back into the arms of your ex boyfriend because you’re feeling lonely, okay? That will definitely do more harm than good!

3. There is Unfinished Business

Sometimes, when you break up with someone, not everything is said and done. Maybe you’re still harboring some ill feelings towards your ex boyfriend. Maybe you didn’t tell him about something important, like that one time you kissed someone on the lips but realized moments later it was an accident. It doesn’t matter what it is. But if you’re having these dreams because of some unresolved feelings or problems, then you should probably put it all on the table so these dreams stop and you can live your life with an ease of mind.

4. You’re Totally Done With Him

This one might be a little hard to believe- but man, it’s so true! If you had a dream where you are leaving your ex boyfriend, saying goodbye, or he even dies, it may be a sign that you are finally, one hundred percent done and over with him. There’s not an ounce of leftover feelings and you have the go ahead to move on with your life!

5. You Miss Him

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Okay, so, I want to say at least 75% of the time dreaming about an ex boyfriend does NOT mean you miss him. But there’s always that chance. If the two of you recently broke up, or you still miss him when you’re actually awake and coherent, it may be a definite sign that you’re not over him and you might even want to mend the relationship.

6. Totally Random

Dreams are random. It doesn’t get any more basic or obvious than that. So, there’s a pretty big chance that your dream was completely random- especially if it only happened once or twice and is far from consistent. Maybe it was just out of the blue, or maybe you were ‘stalking’ him online- you know, just checking up to see if his new girlfriend is better looking than you or he finally got that promotion he wanted (don’t worry, we’ve all checked up on our exes- don’t feel bad!). Or maybe you visited that pizza place you and your ex ALWAYS went to, and it just brought up some past memories which followed you into your dreams. Last but not least, maybe he popped up into your mind before you fell asleep, so your subconscious mind held onto that thought and turned it into a silly dream. No big deal!

I know- dreaming about an ex boyfriend can be seriously panic inducing, especially if you’ve had a bad past with that certain someone. Just remember that nine times out of ten, dreaming about an ex boyfriend has nothing to do with you missing them or wanting them back in your life. Try to look at the bigger picture. Look at what actually happened in the dream and go from there. It may just mean you need to stop looking at his Facebook profile or you might need to go out and find yourself a new man!

We wanna know! Have you ever had a dream about an ex boyfriend? What happened in your dream? What do you think your dream meant?

861 Comments

  1. Ria

    October 16, 2018 at 10:33 pm

    I had an intense dream about my ex-boyfriend for 3 times this less than 2 weeks. It was like he is regretting for letting me go.. and my latest dream (this morning) was he was crying because he wants to win me back but I was like avoiding him because I am already married. (He is also married in real life)

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 18, 2018 at 9:54 pm

      Your dreams are reflections of your previous emotional and social relationship with your ex. Your upcoming marriage may have caused you to think about your previous relationships. Each of you are in committed relationships. Allow thoughts of your ex to fade. Focus your emotional energy on your current partner, and ensure that you spend additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Ria!

  2. Crystal

    October 15, 2018 at 7:04 pm

    I had a dream with my ex last night that he was with his new girlfriend right now. We met in a store. And we’re giving our “Hi’s and Hello’s” then he asked me if today is the birthday of my little brother. And I said yes. He bought cake for my brother. Idk why he did that, that was the time we first met again but then he bought a cake for my brother after that we went to their event and idk what’s going on why he brought me there with his new girlfriend. And I was on the back seat alone. His girlfriend beside him in the frontseat. They are so sweet to each other. (I have a boyfriend right now, long ago he is so sweet thag I was always having a butterfly in my stomach, but right now he is not that sweet anymore.) Btw, he broke up with me without any reason. He just said that we need to broke up and soon I will know what was the reason. No closure rather🤗

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 16, 2018 at 9:58 pm

      This dream is likely a reflection of a lack of closure at the end of your relationship. Potential troubles in your current relationship may have caused this dream to manifest. Focus your emotional energy on your current partner. Strengthen your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Crystal!

  3. Mila

    October 12, 2018 at 7:07 pm

    I broke up with the person i love for 3 years ,she realised that she love me after we broke up , 4 weeks after i dream of her holding my hand , we were walking like we were in couple , she didn’t talk but she was happy and smiling , she feel at ease like she know that i can protect her , her hand was warm and nice to hold .

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 13, 2018 at 10:04 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your previous emotional and social connection with your ex. This dream may or may not be a manifestation of her feelings. There is likely a reason why you chose to end this relationship. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If your ex reaches out to you in the future, then ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with her. Have a great day, Mila!

  4. aika

    October 11, 2018 at 1:38 am

    i dream last night with my ex gives me a back hug what does it means?

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 12, 2018 at 7:33 pm

      This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional connection with your ex. There is a reason for why your relationship ended. If this person reaches out to you in the future, then share your kindness and compassion with him. Take this time to determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Aika!

  5. Emely

    October 10, 2018 at 7:33 pm

    So, this dream happened months ago, but I only remembered the last part of my dream. My Ex-boyfriend and I broke up a year ago, and the dream I had was that he got shot and I was crying a lot over him. I woke up with some tears in my eyes. What does this mean and why did I wake up crying?

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 10, 2018 at 10:26 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your previous emotional connection with your ex. Something in your life may have caused this dream to manifest again. There may be a trigger which causes these dreams to appear to you. Allow the negative aspects of this dream to fade. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Emely!

  6. Nice-sensei

    October 1, 2018 at 1:02 am

    i dreamed about washing dishes with my ex bf together and then later he kissed me.. when in fact, we broke up 7 years ago.. and our latest online convo was just last year.. which is all just about work.

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 1, 2018 at 9:21 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your previous emotional connection with your ex. Something in your life may have caused this dream to manifest. There is likely a reason for why the two of you chose to end the relationship. Determine what you want for your future at this time. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Nice!

  7. Khaye

    September 27, 2018 at 3:33 pm

    I dream my ex boyfriend gve me a pair of gold earings..and he put to my ear..I feel happy and xcited.he embraced me and kissed me.what meaning of this?

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 27, 2018 at 9:24 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your previous emotional and social interactions with your previous partner. This dream may be a sign that you want to feel cared for. Allow this dream to fade, and determine what you want for your future. It is possible that he has thought about you or something else in your life reminded him of you. Have a great day, Khaye!

  8. Joy

    September 25, 2018 at 11:02 pm

    I dreamed about an ex that we broke up a year ago and in the dream he wrote to me a message telling me that he misses me alot and he misses certain things about. Is it true that he misses me in real life.

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 27, 2018 at 8:39 pm

      This dream is a reflection of your thoughts and feelings regarding your previous emotional and social connection with him. It is possible that he is thinking about you, and it is possible that he is not thinking about you. Determine what you believe is viable and appropriate. If he reaches out to you in the future, then ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with him. Have a great day, Joy!

  9. Tuna

    September 21, 2018 at 3:02 pm

    I dream about my ex. When I saw him I was so happy and I hugged him but he wasn’t feeling I think in same way as I was. He was very worried about something and he said to me , bye I have to go, seems to me like he was a bit scared about someone. He looks very tired in dream and had some silver hair like an old and a bit skinni.

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 21, 2018 at 3:10 pm

      The dream is a reflection of your previous emotional and social relationship with your ex. You may be aware of his emotional struggle after the end of your relationship. Allow thoughts of your ex to fade. If he reaches out to you in the future, then share your kindness and compassion with him. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Tuna!

  10. Beabunny

    September 14, 2018 at 8:10 pm

    I dreamed about my ex, that we get back together.. i don’t remember the full details i just know that we get back after we talk and then we attended a party and we were just sitting on a sofa.. snuggling and laughing that we never did before.. shocks i was so confused.. because after we broke up.. i never dreamed of him.. its the first time.. and when i woke up.. i feel nothing.. i didn’t cry or what soever..

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 14, 2018 at 9:08 pm

      Your dream may be a reflection of your previous emotional connection with your ex. It is possible that you want to nourish a romantic relationship at this time. It is likely the two of you ended your relationship because of a valid reason. Determine what you believe is appropriate and viable for this relationship. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Beabunny!

  11. sandy

    September 13, 2018 at 8:53 am

    I had a dream about my-ex that I told his sister-in-law to tell him HI and said told her friend that it would not be a good idea to tell him, which made me upset that she would not tell him.

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 14, 2018 at 8:15 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your previous emotional and social connection with your ex. His sister-in-law may have revealed your knowledge that this relationship has ended. Allow this dream to fade. Determine what you want for your future without your ex. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Sandy!

  12. Pia

    September 3, 2018 at 10:39 pm

    I suddenly dreamed of an ex boyfriend after we broke up 11 years ago flirting with each other eventhough our current partners are just around. When i woke up i feel gulity of betraying my husband.

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 4, 2018 at 9:00 am

      You don’t have to feel guilty–this type of dream is very common, and you cannot control it. Your subconscious still has memories of your past relationships, so these memories may show up in your subconscious from time to time. Sometimes, this happens because you want some romantic spice or excitement in your life, but it can also just happen randomly. It does not mean you love your husband any less or that you want to cheat on him. It only reflects the fact that you once had a relationship with your ex. Don’t worry about it too much!

  13. Jenny

    August 30, 2018 at 12:23 pm

    Had a dream i suspected my ex bf liked my sister ..and then they went upstairs in a room and we were waiting for them downstairs ….i got annoyed so i went up to check on them and i caught him making out with a guy with passion. I was so shocked and sad and very disapoitned or angry

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 30, 2018 at 8:33 pm

      This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional and social connections with your ex and your sister. There may be a variety of reasons for why this dream manifested. You may be aware of their friendship. The media that you consume may have manifested as well. Allow this dream to guide you to share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Jenny!

  14. Bridget

    August 26, 2018 at 5:32 am

    I had a dream that I was food shopping after a concert with my ex of almost 10 years and our high school friends. While I was shopping, his best friend and I were hugging and kissing. We were nervous to get caught. When I would meet up with my ex food shopping he was either mad at me for leaving him or yelling about something.

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 26, 2018 at 9:02 pm

      This dream is a reflection of your previous and current emotional and social relationships. Allow this dream to guide you to share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. This will ensure that positive people and energy enters into your life. If there is someone in your life that you are interested in nourishing a relationship with, then spend additional time with that person. Have a great day, Bridget!

  15. sara

    August 21, 2018 at 7:40 am

    i dreamed of an ex boyfriend which we broke up about 7 years ago and in the dream he wanted to get back together , i wanted to but i couldn’t because i have a family of my own now . the dream felt so true that when i woke up it gave me a strange feeling of me missing him . he was my childhood and first love . i haven’t talked to him or seen him in two years , why did i dream of him and it leaving me with a strange feeling ?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 21, 2018 at 11:14 pm

      This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional connection with your ex boyfriend. You have a family, so allow these thoughts to fade. Ensure that this dream guide you to share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Spend additional time with your partner, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Sara!

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