What Does it Mean When You Dream About Your Ex Boyfriend

By on November 4, 2014

Dreaming about your ex boyfriend. One of the absolute worst dreams you could possibly have. You wake up almost with a chill, your heart racing and your mind running in circles, thinking “What just happened? What does this mean?” Well, if you thought that your subconscious is telling you that you miss him terribly and you need to call and make amends right this second- you’re probably wrong. So put that fear to rest and check out some of the most common reasons why you might dream about your ex boyfriend. 2dbfd645c66aab8c38e0b9a4bd639cd9

1. You Miss Something About Him


Maybe your ex boyfriend had a certain quality that you absolutely adored. Maybe he knew how to make you laugh really well, or maybe he just knew how to snuggle you just right when it’s incredibly cold outside. Whatever it may be, you might just be yearning for that one certain quality in a person- not the actual person himself. So think about it: is there something you wish you could find in your current relationship or future relationships that you miss?

2. You Miss Being in a Relationship


If your dream was happy-go-lucky: the two of you walking hand in hand, laughing and smiling, checking out the most romantic spots in town, it may just mean you’re missing being in a relationship. It probably has little to nothing to do with your ex boyfriend. You’re probably just tired of being alone and want to share special someones with someone you love again. Which, of course, is COMPLETELY natural and nothing to be ashamed or weirded out by. Just don’t go running back into the arms of your ex boyfriend because you’re feeling lonely, okay? That will definitely do more harm than good!

3. There is Unfinished Business

Sometimes, when you break up with someone, not everything is said and done. Maybe you’re still harboring some ill feelings towards your ex boyfriend. Maybe you didn’t tell him about something important, like that one time you kissed someone on the lips but realized moments later it was an accident. It doesn’t matter what it is. But if you’re having these dreams because of some unresolved feelings or problems, then you should probably put it all on the table so these dreams stop and you can live your life with an ease of mind.

4. You’re Totally Done With Him

This one might be a little hard to believe- but man, it’s so true! If you had a dream where you are leaving your ex boyfriend, saying goodbye, or he even dies, it may be a sign that you are finally, one hundred percent done and over with him. There’s not an ounce of leftover feelings and you have the go ahead to move on with your life!

5. You Miss Him

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Okay, so, I want to say at least 75% of the time dreaming about an ex boyfriend does NOT mean you miss him. But there’s always that chance. If the two of you recently broke up, or you still miss him when you’re actually awake and coherent, it may be a definite sign that you’re not over him and you might even want to mend the relationship.

6. Totally Random

Dreams are random. It doesn’t get any more basic or obvious than that. So, there’s a pretty big chance that your dream was completely random- especially if it only happened once or twice and is far from consistent. Maybe it was just out of the blue, or maybe you were ‘stalking’ him online- you know, just checking up to see if his new girlfriend is better looking than you or he finally got that promotion he wanted (don’t worry, we’ve all checked up on our exes- don’t feel bad!). Or maybe you visited that pizza place you and your ex ALWAYS went to, and it just brought up some past memories which followed you into your dreams. Last but not least, maybe he popped up into your mind before you fell asleep, so your subconscious mind held onto that thought and turned it into a silly dream. No big deal!

I know- dreaming about an ex boyfriend can be seriously panic inducing, especially if you’ve had a bad past with that certain someone. Just remember that nine times out of ten, dreaming about an ex boyfriend has nothing to do with you missing them or wanting them back in your life. Try to look at the bigger picture. Look at what actually happened in the dream and go from there. It may just mean you need to stop looking at his Facebook profile or you might need to go out and find yourself a new man!

We wanna know! Have you ever had a dream about an ex boyfriend? What happened in your dream? What do you think your dream meant?


  1. Hemangini

    December 3, 2018 at 5:36 am

    i dreamt about my ex yesterday night. He was very friendly with me. But he was in relationship with some other girl. I totally broke. And started crying. What does this dream mean? I still love him and he too knows that i still love him.He often gets jealous when i talk with other guys. And the reason he gave me for breakup was ” no future together “. Please tell me was he ever serious about our relationship? Please reply my comment.

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 3, 2018 at 7:12 pm

      It is possible that he was once serious about your relationship. Something in his life caused him to determine that he was not interested in maintaining this relationship. You are no longer in a relationship at this time. Your dream was a reflection of your previous emotional and social relationship with him. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Hemangini!

      • Charisse

        December 7, 2018 at 11:36 pm

        I dreamed my ex boyfriend last night. And it looks like he’s finding me and im hiding him. And im not feel anything when i looking at him. But now i have a boyfriend. So what does it mean?

        • web admin

          web admin

          December 8, 2018 at 5:08 pm

          This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional and social relationship with your ex. The fact that you were hiding from him was likely a sign that you are happy that this relationship has ended. You are currently in a relationship, so allow thoughts of your ex to fade. You will find great benefit in spending additional time with your current partner in person. Have a great day, Charisse!

  2. Kira

    November 18, 2018 at 7:02 am

    I dreamed that I started a new job and my ex worked there too and we forgave each other and became super close and made up. I was in his car and we would drive around and do fun stuff together but then I saw my current boyfriend and I tried to duck down and hide but then he saw me. I felt guilty but still kept riding around and being with my ex and it felt right and wrong at the same time

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 18, 2018 at 6:56 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your various social and emotional relationships. This dream is not a manifestation of your waking behaviors. Allow thoughts of your ex to fade. Focus your emotional energy on your current partner. You will find great benefit in spending additional time with your partner, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Kira!

  3. Jess

    November 8, 2018 at 4:14 pm

    I had a dream about a couple weeks ago, that my family & I were moving into a house near my ex boyfriend of 3 years already & that my little sister was asking for him & I told her he wasn’t home but as I was saying that, he was coming in & we made eye contact but he looked like he was really upset. & I was just there feeling horrible. I had a dream last night that I was watching a movie on my laptop & his sister in law starts talking to me & is actually being nice & we start watching the movie together. But than my ex comes into the kitchen to sit down & eat. & he keeps trying to make eye contact to talk to me so I get up & walk away & leave. In my dream I felt horrible about my appearance. He came looking for me later on in my dream & we talked back at the kitchen table.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 11, 2018 at 11:32 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional relationships. Your ex manifested in your dream because of your memories. Your behaviors in your dream are indications that you are no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with him. If this is so, then allow these dreams to fade and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Jess!

  4. Emily

    November 8, 2018 at 2:48 am

    I just woke up from a dream about my ex who used to be my bestfriend but after we broke up we tried being friends for a few weeks but all we did was argue. In the dream im planning a party and seating people and having fun but by the end of the party im looking for him and when i finally find him i pull him to the side to talk but he tells me that im a good person and that theres nothing left of us and he grabbed my finger like he used to and i woke up.Does this mean my subconscious is over him and accepting that theres no more to us.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 11, 2018 at 11:13 pm

      Your interpretation of your dream is likely correct. This dream was a manifestation of your knowledge that this relationship has ended. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Ensure that you share your kindness an compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Emily!

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