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    What Does it Mean When You Dream About Your Ex Boyfriend

    By on November 4, 2014

    Dreaming about your ex boyfriend. One of the absolute worst dreams you could possibly have. You wake up almost with a chill, your heart racing and your mind running in circles, thinking “What just happened? What does this mean?” Well, if you thought that your subconscious is telling you that you miss him terribly and you need to call and make amends right this second- you’re probably wrong. So put that fear to rest and check out some of the most common reasons why you might dream about your ex boyfriend. 2dbfd645c66aab8c38e0b9a4bd639cd9

    1. You Miss Something About Him

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    Maybe your ex boyfriend had a certain quality that you absolutely adored. Maybe he knew how to make you laugh really well, or maybe he just knew how to snuggle you just right when it’s incredibly cold outside. Whatever it may be, you might just be yearning for that one certain quality in a person- not the actual person himself. So think about it: is there something you wish you could find in your current relationship or future relationships that you miss?

    2. You Miss Being in a Relationship

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    If your dream was happy-go-lucky: the two of you walking hand in hand, laughing and smiling, checking out the most romantic spots in town, it may just mean you’re missing being in a relationship. It probably has little to nothing to do with your ex boyfriend. You’re probably just tired of being alone and want to share special someones with someone you love again. Which, of course, is COMPLETELY natural and nothing to be ashamed or weirded out by. Just don’t go running back into the arms of your ex boyfriend because you’re feeling lonely, okay? That will definitely do more harm than good!

    3. There is Unfinished Business

    Sometimes, when you break up with someone, not everything is said and done. Maybe you’re still harboring some ill feelings towards your ex boyfriend. Maybe you didn’t tell him about something important, like that one time you kissed someone on the lips but realized moments later it was an accident. It doesn’t matter what it is. But if you’re having these dreams because of some unresolved feelings or problems, then you should probably put it all on the table so these dreams stop and you can live your life with an ease of mind.

    4. You’re Totally Done With Him

    This one might be a little hard to believe- but man, it’s so true! If you had a dream where you are leaving your ex boyfriend, saying goodbye, or he even dies, it may be a sign that you are finally, one hundred percent done and over with him. There’s not an ounce of leftover feelings and you have the go ahead to move on with your life!

    5. You Miss Him

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    Okay, so, I want to say at least 75% of the time dreaming about an ex boyfriend does NOT mean you miss him. But there’s always that chance. If the two of you recently broke up, or you still miss him when you’re actually awake and coherent, it may be a definite sign that you’re not over him and you might even want to mend the relationship.

    6. Totally Random

    Dreams are random. It doesn’t get any more basic or obvious than that. So, there’s a pretty big chance that your dream was completely random- especially if it only happened once or twice and is far from consistent. Maybe it was just out of the blue, or maybe you were ‘stalking’ him online- you know, just checking up to see if his new girlfriend is better looking than you or he finally got that promotion he wanted (don’t worry, we’ve all checked up on our exes- don’t feel bad!). Or maybe you visited that pizza place you and your ex ALWAYS went to, and it just brought up some past memories which followed you into your dreams. Last but not least, maybe he popped up into your mind before you fell asleep, so your subconscious mind held onto that thought and turned it into a silly dream. No big deal!

    I know- dreaming about an ex boyfriend can be seriously panic inducing, especially if you’ve had a bad past with that certain someone. Just remember that nine times out of ten, dreaming about an ex boyfriend has nothing to do with you missing them or wanting them back in your life. Try to look at the bigger picture. Look at what actually happened in the dream and go from there. It may just mean you need to stop looking at his Facebook profile or you might need to go out and find yourself a new man!

    We wanna know! Have you ever had a dream about an ex boyfriend? What happened in your dream? What do you think your dream meant?

    777 Comments

    1. Kairi

      February 19, 2018 at 8:31 pm

      I’m in a happy relationship right now but I just had a dream that my ex-boyfriend told me he loves me and we kissed. The problem is that my current boyfriend never showed up in the dream.

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 19, 2018 at 10:37 pm

        Allow this dream to fade. Focus your emotional energy on your current partner. Allow thoughts of this other person to fade. Continue to spend additional time with him in person, as this will reduce the frequency of similar dreams. Have a great day, Kairi!

    2. Needzen

      February 19, 2018 at 1:45 am

      Hi so I had a dream that I saw my ex boyfriend and my heart kind of dropped. If it was real life it would have been the first time I saw that person. I was having a “family party” and my ex was there. I have a current boyfriend that I have been dating for a little over 3 years. Things with my current boyfriend are very rocky. He put me through a lot mentally and emotionally and when I thought things were okay when we “got back together” they aren’t. Not I’m going through a mental and emotional break down where I know I love him when I’m not having spiraling thoughts but when I am having spiraling thoughts I’m like “do I love him”? “Are we meant to be together”? So dreaming about just seeing my ex makes me feel worse. Also to note: when I first started dating my current boyfriend, me ex texted me happy birthday and I said thank you. I JUST told my boyfriend this a couple of days ago because I have been feeling guilty. Idk if that has anything to do with it.

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 19, 2018 at 9:53 pm

        You are currently in a relationship. If you do not want to continue to maintain this relationship, then end it. Take this time to determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. As long as you are in a relationship, there is no benefit to be gained by nourishing a relationship with someone else. Doing so would harm your partner. Have a great day, Needzen!

    3. Stacy

      February 16, 2018 at 9:48 am

      I left him 4 years ago and re-married. He re-married as well. He was emotionally abusive, a narcissist. We were together 16 years, off and on. Recently, I keep having dreams that his wife is there but he’s next to me, laying beside me, standing with me. He always chooses to be with me and she is there and watches. We haven’t spoke to each other in a year. I cut all communication with him because he plays mind games. I don’t understand why I’m having these dreams and just want to know why!!

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 17, 2018 at 10:08 pm

        These dreams are a reflection of your previous emotional connection with this person. He is married and you are married. Allow these thoughts to fade. Focus your emotional energy on your current partner. Spend additional time with your current partner, as this will decrease the frequency of similar dreams. Have a great day, Stacy!

    4. Vicky

      February 15, 2018 at 2:30 pm

      For the past two nights, I’ve had dreams involving by ex boyfriend of 5 years. The first dream was that he came to my old school to look for me and we ended up sitting on the bathroom counter talking( I don’t remember about what) but I asked everyone to get out and let me talk to him privately once I saw that he had painted his nails black and maroon. It then skipped to him walking out the door and him walking into the yellow sunlight saying goodbye while waiving. As looked at him go, I woke up. The second dream is that him and i were chasing someone bad that was trying to get to his father and we ended up on top of a building where my current boyfriend happened to grab my hand as I ran towards my ex’s father that was dying due to a gunshot. My current boyfriend then told me to go an help my ex. I woke up as soon as I got to his father and put my arm looked into my ex’s sad eyes.

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 15, 2018 at 8:59 pm

        These dreams are reflections of your previous emotional connections with your ex and his family. Allow the negative aspects of these dreams to fade. Allow thoughts of your ex to fade. Focus your emotional energy on your current partner. Spend additional time with him in person, as this may reduce the frequency of similar dreams. Have a great day, Vicky!

    5. Phoebe

      February 5, 2018 at 12:11 am

      Hi! I had a dream last night involving my ex boyfriend with who i broke up 4 days ago. In the dream i came across him while he was with his grandmother and his friends. He saw me and introduced me to his grandmother and then he kissed me, but i pushed him plaufully away as i was in a hurry. Also, the dream looked like we were still a happy couple, however we broke up because our relationship lacked communication and love, things that i was not able to tell him about during our break-up conversation. What might my dream symbolise?

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 6, 2018 at 11:07 pm

        This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional connection with your partner. The two of you have made a decision to end the relationship. There is no reason to reach out to him at this time. If he reaches out to you, then either ignore him or share your kindness and compassion with him. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Have a great day, Phoebe!

    6. Robin

      February 4, 2018 at 9:59 am

      I had a old boyfriend I lived with 17 years ago, and was an alcoholic (which is why I left) appear to me in a dream, which was the current time frame (I was in my Jeep) he came up to my open passenger window and said “Hi Baby, I wanted to tell you how very sorry I am the way things turned out, I still love you, but have no other choice but to say goodbye.” I woke up on a frantic crying state and after a week, I was able to get in touch with him. Via text he told me he was ok, but it was a text, He said we would get together for lunch, but it’s been over a month and I have not heard from him. I have yet to see him or hear his voice. When I woke up, I was terrified that he had died.

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 4, 2018 at 10:08 pm

        This emotion that you felt when you woke was caused by your emotional connection with this person. Allow this dream to influence you in a positive direction. Treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Robin!

    7. Mia

      January 12, 2018 at 8:44 pm

      I had a dream about my ex last night. He wasn’t a nice man to be honest. That relationship has end over 3 years ago. But this dream was so weird he wanted to get back with me, he’s changed, etc. But as I was talking to his mother I told her that I wasn’t in love with him anymore. Then it got crazier when my new boyfriend John Cusack (never met him) Shows up telling my ex-boyfriend that were happy and get lost. My ex’s mother told John Cusack and I that we are a great couple and I have done really well” Funny, I never met her either lol It was a really weird dream. Oh I don’t even have a crush on John Cusack.

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 13, 2018 at 5:38 pm

        This dream is a reflection of the numerous influences that you have in your life. Allow this dream and thoughts of your ex to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Allow this dream to influence you in a positive direction. Treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. Have a great day, Mia!

    8. Ty

      December 10, 2017 at 7:54 pm

      Hi, I keep dreaming of my ex of 4 years. Previous dreams we either kiss, cuddle, smiling and all the feelings are there but we never reunite as a couple. Something always gets in the way.
      But my most recent and disturbing dream of my ex is, I watched him get savagely beaten up and die, I was totally helpless, crying and screaming. I felt heartbroken.
      What does this mean?
      Thank you

      • web admin

        web admin

        December 11, 2017 at 6:44 pm

        This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional connections with this person. It is likely that this relationship ended for a reason. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If you decide to reach out to him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Ty!

    9. Elva

      December 7, 2017 at 8:22 am

      Hi for the past 2 night’s I have been dreaming of my ex. The first dream was that I was looking for him and could not find him anywhere and my sister was there helping me but was not able to find him. The second dream I had last was also with my ex boyfriend but in the dream his mother and brother were telling me to look for him. And as I am trying to find him my younger and older brother are not letting me. In my dream I run trying to hide from my brothers to call him and I am able to get on the phone with him. He tells me he is coming back then I wake up from that dream. I need help interpreting this dream. Thank you

      • web admin

        web admin

        December 8, 2017 at 9:16 pm

        These dreams are reflections of your previous emotional attachments to this person. Take this time to determine what you want for this relationship. There may be a reason why the two of you decided to end this relationship. If you want to develop a relationship, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If not, then focus your attention on your friends and family. Have a great day, Elva!

    10. JANE

      December 5, 2017 at 2:38 pm

      I keep on having a dream about my ex first love. I am happily married and have been for 30 years. My ex passed away just over a year ago and in my dreams I believe it is his wife that has passed away. I dreamt that there is still an attraction between us and I consider getting back with him after he proposed to me. Dreams of this kind keep happening. Have just got together with all our old friends in a reunion. Does this mean something?

      • web admin

        web admin

        December 5, 2017 at 5:59 pm

        This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional attachments to the people who are no longer in your life. Focus your emotional attention on your current partner. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Allow the dream to influence you to treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. Have a great day, Jane!`

    11. Amanda

      December 4, 2017 at 11:44 pm

      I had a dream that my ex boyfriend, my daughter and I were driving country back roads at night while trying to go to his mothers house. Daughter is asleep in the backseat and my ex keeps kissing me as I’m driving. We get lost and keep having to turn around. I lose my eyesight while driving and for awhile he helps me drive then he stops helping me and I gain my sight back.

      • web admin

        web admin

        December 5, 2017 at 5:56 pm

        This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional and social connections. It is possible that this dream is a manifestation of your previous reliance on your ex. It is also clear that you care for your daughter. Focus your energy on your daughter and allow this dream to fade. Allow the dream to influence you to treat everyone in your life with kindness and compassion. Have a great day, Amanda!

    12. Teodora

      November 24, 2017 at 11:12 pm

      I dreamed of my ex boyfriend kissing my ex best friend and I actually felt really bad about it. I kinda thought that he was doing it only to make me jelauous and he actually did.

      • web admin

        web admin

        November 25, 2017 at 6:18 pm

        This dream is a reflection of your emotional and social connections with these people. Your ex boyfriend did not do anything and your dream is not a manifestation of his actions. Allow this dream to fade. Focus your attention on the people who are in your life and who you care about. Spend additional time with your current friends. Have a great day, Teodora!

    13. Huda

      October 14, 2017 at 11:33 pm

      Hello so I had a dream that I run into my ex …when I get home …there r small yellow sticky notes everywhere in my apt with him wanting me back …. one note say “me ❤ you” another says his real phone number and four other phone numbers where I could apparently reach him…..

      • web admin

        web admin

        October 15, 2017 at 8:09 pm

        This dream is a reflection of your previous emotional attachments to this person. It may also be a reflection of your social life. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. This dream is not a sign that you need to reach out to your ex. If you do, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Huda!

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