What Does it Mean When a Guy Stares at You?

By on September 9, 2016

As women, I think we have all noticed that men like to look our way- but why do some men take a glance, while others do a full on stare? If you’ve ever noticed a man actually staring at you- not just checking you out for a second- you may have been a little bit creeped out. But don’t judge a book by its cover- there are a lot of reasons why a man may stare at you, and I promise he’s not just being weird.


He Find You Attractive

I am pretty sure this one goes without saying: if a man finds you incredibly attractive, then he is going to stare at you. And he probably won’t just stare at your face, either, although that will be his focus of attention for quite some time during this stare-down. He will probably also take a look at your other features as well, of course talking about your chest and boot-ay.

Men are just naturally drawn to women and their bodies; it is what makes the world go round. And when they find a female who is extremely attractive to them, they are going to stare. They don’t want to forget what you look like once you leave the room, so they will stare long and hard to take in all of your beauty and make a mental image of what you look like. Hey, take this as a compliment, ladies! Someone thinks you’re absolutely beautiful and they can’t look away; really, what’s the harm in that?

He Wants to Talk to You, But Doesn’t Know How

A lot- and I mean a LOT- of men have a very difficult time speaking to a woman. So, what is a guy to do? Stare! We already know he finds you incredibly attractive, and he really wants to meet you and get to know you. The only problem is, he is at a total loss for words when it comes to actually introducing himself and striking up a conversation with you. So, being completely at a loss for words and not knowing what to do next, he may just stare at you and freeze. During his stare-down, he is probably thinking about how beautiful you are and how he is just DYING to meet you. He is probably coming up with any question or comment he could probably say to you without you feeling weird or uninterested. His mind is RACING with what to do next, so he freezes, and just looks at you. He is hoping you will notice and YOU make the first move- and if you’re interested in him too, I highly recommend making the first move. He is probably just really shy and totally stunned by your beauty- he can’t even think straight or even SPEAK!

He Wants to Annoy You

There are those guys out there: you know, the guy you turned down because he was gross or crude or you simply weren’t interested in him. Well, he takes it upon himself to make you feel bad for not wanting him. He wants to make you feel uncomfortable and annoyed by him; I guess it is his form of (rather stupid) revenge. So, if there is a guy out there who you turned down and wanted nothing to do with after the first date, and he is staring at you, he is probably just trying to keep your attention and ANNOY you as much as he can. Don’t even pay attention to him- especially if he has one of those awful smirks on his face like he is so cool and smug. Seriously, the less attention you pay to him, the quicker it will go away.


How can you deter this type of stare? DON’T LOOK AT HIM! I know it may be difficult, but keep busy with whatever you’re doing, whether it’s work or school. Try and talk to some of your friends and keep your mind (and eyes) of whatever is going on around you. He will stop staring eventually- I mean, he can’t stare forever, right?


He Wants to Sleep With You

Some men are pigs, let’s just be honest. If you notice a guy staring at you- but he is much more interested in staring at your curves and body- he is probably dreaming about sleeping with you. He is probably thinking of the quickest way he can get you into the sheets. He doesn’t want to get to know you or anything- his mind and eyes are focused only on your womanly shape and he doesn’t care if you know it. Yes, this can be a little bit creepy and rather disgusting, but hopefully he doesn’t keep at it too long; in fact, if he’s staring at your body like that, he’s probably just as confident to come up and ask you out- in which case, say NO!


  1. Sophie

    May 24, 2017 at 6:22 pm

    Hi yeah! Help! There is this guy in my spanish class who stares at me. We have been partners earlier in the year and whenever I turn to him it’s like he does his best to not look me directly in the eye. But later on in the year, I find that he keeps on staring at me. I’m always the one to look away, he has this blank expression on his face and looks me into my eyes. Also this guy has a girlfriend but she goes to another school. Now he calls me out in class like “Sophie! Sophie! She should get the last muffin” and doesn’t stop chanting until half the class starts to. Also when I get out my labtop he’s like “Sophie, I see that IMessage who are you texting?” or like “Sophie, are you cheating?”. I finally interacted with him but he was like seats down and he was eating one of the things I brought to class and gives me a thumbs up leaning over so he could see me. He hasn’t approached me physically but when it comes to talking to me he calls out something in class like those teases I said to you when I have my back against him. Also this guy smells SO bad in my class that I sit infront of and he’s always the one to seem to notice I’m suffering and starts laughing and says “look at sophie” to one of the guys infront of them. I wanna laugh and give him a middle finger but I feel like I lost all my confidence whenever he does things like that. I NEVER respond to anything whenever guy try and talk to me or get my snapchat EXCEPT him. HE’S SO ATTRACTIVE, but I feel like he is wayyyy out of my league, but I think it’s weird he does these things if there isn’t a connection. I like him SO much, it’s embarassing, but I really need to know . Thanks!

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 25, 2017 at 9:15 am

      It sounds like he likes you–especially if you are the only girl that he acts like this around. He may be uncertain about how you feel, so he hasn’t made another move yet. Now, you just have to decide if you want to make a move or wait for him to do it. Good luck, Sophie!

  2. Chloesrose

    May 24, 2017 at 3:49 am

    There’s a boy who’s in my grade he is always staring at me, he started to stare at me in year 5 and he is still doing it and I have no idea what he is thinking, I also don’t know how I feel about him

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 24, 2017 at 9:55 am

      Staring at you could be a sign that he likes you and is just too afraid to do anything about it. Or, he could start because he is bored in class, you remind him of someone or something else. There is no way to know for sure the reason why yet. If you want to find out if he likes you, we have a few articles on Her Interest that go through how to tell if a guy likes you and the different signs. You may want to check them out and see if he does any of the signs in the article. Best of luck, Chloesrose!

  3. Chole

    May 13, 2017 at 3:11 pm

    Hey there’s this boy in my school he is always staring at me and every time we pass in the hallway he looks into my eyes and looks away after a while his friends are always saying I’m his girl but he doesn’t know they say that to me i just want to know if he’s interested in me or not in the playground he’s always staring at me

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 14, 2017 at 9:30 am

      It sounds like he might have a crush on you. You can’t be 100 percent sure, but it sounds more likely than not. Between the looks and his friends thinking that he likes you, it seems like he has a crush. Now, you just have to decide if you like him back. Good luck, Chole!

  4. Manuela

    May 11, 2017 at 7:08 pm

    Hey I go to tennis and I started to like this kid in my tennis and he stares at me like a lot and I followed him on insta and he always sees my story on instagram but he never ever talked to me and I’m too shy to talk to him. Does he like me? What should i do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 12, 2017 at 9:09 am

      It is possible that he likes you, although there is no way to know for sure yet. Keep trying to talk to him as much as you can. It will give you a chance to know him better, and he will get more opportunities to make am ove if he is interested. Good luck, Manuela!

  5. Blink

    May 6, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    There’s this thing, I saw my crush staring at me from a distance when I passed by and I also looked at him. Sometimes, I can sense in my peripheral vision that he’s looking at me when he spotted me. Does he liked me too? Btw, he knows me and i know him too. But we’re not that close because I’m shy and we’re not having much conversation. He’s totally opposite from me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 7, 2017 at 10:59 am

      It seems like you may have commented twice on this one. I have to answer each comment individually, so it may sometimes take me a little while to answer them all. If you do not see your response right away, do not worry because you will. Read through my last response and let me know if you have any questions. Thanks for commenting!

  6. Blink

    May 6, 2017 at 6:36 pm

    There’s this thing, I saw my crush staring at me from a distance when I passed by and I also looked at him. Sometimes, I can sense in my peripheral vision that he’s looking at me when he spotted me. Does he liked me too?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 7, 2017 at 10:53 am

      It sounds entirely possible. While just staring at you is not a big enough sign to be entirely sure, it sounds like it is a possibility. If you want to find out how he feels for sure, start talking to him. You will be able to read his mannerisms better in person, and it will give you (and him) a chance to develop your relationship. Good luck, Blink!

  7. Yeye

    May 6, 2017 at 9:21 am

    Hi! Please give me some advice. There is this guy at school that is always taking a glance or look at me and I feel awkward everytime our eyes meet. And there is one time that me and my friend were walking and he is in our front (walking) and before he change direction, he take a glanced at us. What does it mean? He kinda caught my attention and can’t take him off my mind. Thank you very much! Will wait for your reply 😊

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 6, 2017 at 1:44 pm

      It sounds like he could like you. He has not done enough to be sure yet, but it seems possible. Try talking to him more often so that you can get a better read on his mannerisms and behavior. Good luck, Yeye!

      • Yeye

        May 7, 2017 at 3:22 am

        We aren’t friends hehe. Well i have this idea, if someone likes you, he will be friends with you or follow you on social medias, does this makes sense?

        • web admin

          web admin

          May 7, 2017 at 10:43 am

          That makes sense. He could be shy though, so you may have to make a move first. Good luck!

  8. Anonymous

    May 5, 2017 at 7:15 am

    There is this guy and when I’m in his presence he starts to look at me. He looks up and down. Then there is this guy that asked me out and I said no. I want to change my answer to be yes but I also want this other guy to talk to me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 6, 2017 at 1:33 pm

      You really have to decide who you like. If you wait too long though, you could end up losing out on a chance with either guy. The guy who asked you out now thinks that you are not interested in him, so he will ultimately move on if you don’t do anything right now. You need to decide who you actually want to be with before you make a move and see if whichever choice is interested in you. Good luck, Anonymous!

  9. Anonymous

    April 26, 2017 at 6:25 pm

    I work with a guy who stares at me in the parking lot when we are leaving, to the point where I finally wave, and he’ll smile and wave back. He doesn’t speak much English, why does he do this?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 27, 2017 at 1:48 pm

      He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. He may not feel confident about himself, possibly due to language issues, and waits for you to take action. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then reach out to him. If you do not, then allow yourself to ignore his stares. Have a great day, Anon!

  10. swimmingly

    April 19, 2017 at 8:07 pm

    there’s this guy that is in one of my classes and he sits across the room from me and his back faces me but before class starts, he’s always leaning against his chair and staring at me. I’d catch him and look away but when I look back, he’s still staring! We were on the same sports team for 3 months and he didn’t really have any friends there so we’d say hi but now he doesn’t talk to me. He just stares. Help! What does this mean!

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 20, 2017 at 10:52 am

      He may be interested in you. If you want to speak with him, then take action toward him. It is best to share your thoughts instead of thinking about his intentions. If he is pleasant to speak with and you want to develop a relationship with him, then more forward with your relationship. Have a great day, Swimmingly!

  11. anonymous

    April 12, 2017 at 3:35 pm

    We were choreographing a scene for a short film during lunch (high school). My crush kept staring at me with a blank sort of enraptured expression. Whenever I looked at him, he was either looking at me or talking to my guy friend. He also made a few awkward jokes towards me.. what does that mean???

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 13, 2017 at 8:53 am

      He is probably interested in developing a relationship with you. You may want to speak with you guy friend, as he will be able to give you the truth of the situation. You can also speak with this person who is interested in developing a relationship with you. If you speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts, then you may find him open up to you about his feelings. Best of luck, Anon!

  12. Taylor J

    April 11, 2017 at 12:30 pm

    I wasn’t playing tug-o-war with a friend, and she is impossible to beat, and I was winning- muscle and all, and my crush was right behind me smiling and staring in PE. He always stares at me, knows I like him, and the next day he sat next to me at lunch. What does this mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 12, 2017 at 8:31 am

      It sounds like he could like you. I would not be 100 percent certain yet, but it sounds more likely than not that he is interested. Try talking to him or flirting with him! Good luck, Taylor J!

  13. Ola

    April 10, 2017 at 12:42 am

    Dis guy always look at me in church even wen am praying he stares at me, wen we lock eyes I look away first,

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 10, 2017 at 8:08 am

      It is possible that he likes you. At the very least, you interest him in some way. I would go ahead and talk to him sometime if you like him as well because it seems possible that he could be interested. Good luck, Ola!

  14. Anonymous

    April 4, 2017 at 11:47 am

    So there’s this guy that I like at my high school and basically whenever I walk past him I tend to look at him and when I do that I notice he’s already staring at me but the thing is that when I catch him he doesn’t look away he just stares with a blank expression and he does this every time I walk by. But for the first time yesterday when he was walking past I looked at him and then he quickly looked away which is weird because he never looks away when I catch him but yesterday he did, what exactly could this mean because I’m confused

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 4, 2017 at 11:58 am

      He could like you, but this isn’t enough to assume that for sure yet. It seems possible though, so perhaps you should try to talk to him and get to know him better. It will also be much easier for you to figure out how he feels by talking than it would be by just trying to gauge his glances. Good luck, Anonymous!

      • Anonymous

        April 4, 2017 at 9:18 pm

        I’m not quite sure how I would go up and talk to him in person because I’m kind of an awkward person haha do you have any tips? 🙂

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 5, 2017 at 8:23 am

          Just find any excuse that you can. If he likes you, it won’t matter what you talk about because he will be extremely excited that you are talking to him. He will probably be so focused on not embarrassing himself that he won’t even notice that you are a little awkward. Start first by saying hello and asking how his day is going. If you can think of any other excuse to talk to him, use it. Good luck, Anonymous!

  15. Prt

    April 2, 2017 at 4:52 am

    This guy, a corporate trainer, teaches us and he stares at me, I think so coz when I look up I catch him looking but the moment I look he shifts his gaze. It also happens sometimes that our eyes lock for a few seconds and again his gaze shifts what could it mean? Plz help

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 2, 2017 at 10:06 am

      It could mean that he is interested in you, but you could also look like someone he knows or it could just be random. If you like him, talk to him more and you will be better able to figure out if he likes you by how he responds. If you don’t like him back, then I wouldn’t worry too much about it.

  16. Boxy

    April 1, 2017 at 12:34 am

    There is this guy who stares at me all the time at the bus stop even when I’m with my friends but he doesn’t smile or make a move and his friends stare as well he verbally abuses me sometimes and he throws things at me
    I don’t like him and he makes me super uncomfortable

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 1, 2017 at 10:10 am

      You should stay away from him. If he is verbally abusive and throws things at you, then he is obviously unstable. You should also tell a parent or a teacher that he is doing this. Listen to your gut. If your instinct is telling you that there is something off or dangerous about him, then listen to it. Don’t be around him alone and tell someone about his behavior.

  17. Love

    March 28, 2017 at 11:28 pm

    I dont know dat he likes me bec. It seems he is comfortable to another girl I saw them while talking touching,sitting near to each other,but for me he is not like dat.all of here friends are girl how can I know dat he likes me im so doubtful a sign dat he gives to me hold a gaze a second dis happen 4 times, open the door for me,winks at me twice and he saw me I am alone he asked me dat i am ok or not,and theirs a time the transportation its hard to me he asked how can I go home.He is so sweet he can conquer the heart of the girl if he doing dis to other girl also and actually he is a handsome guy some of my co workers like him.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 29, 2017 at 10:25 am

      It seems like he does like the other girl, but that does not mean that he is not attracted to you as well. Some of his behavior makes it seem like he could be interested in you and just does not know you well enough to get too close or flirt too much yet. Try to talk to him more often so that he has more opportunities to make a move. Hopefully, he will do something soon to show you how he really feels. Good luck, Love!

  18. Aisha

    March 9, 2017 at 7:24 pm

    There’s this guy I’ve been intrigued in ever since the beginning of this school year. I think he knows I’m attracted to him but he’s a shy guy. I broke the ice multiple times, I initiated a conversation with him, I complimented him and his style. We used to make heavy eye contact, but not anymore. I even let his friend know that I was attracted to him but I don’t think he feels the same because he never said anything about it till this day. But sometimes I catch him staring at me or he watches my every move. We could be in the same hallway and sometimes his eyes look directly at me. Do you think he stares at me then and there because he knows I used to like him?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 10, 2017 at 7:37 am

      I think that he probably stares at you because he knows that you used to like him. You flirted with him and complimented him, and you also told his friend that you are interested. If he liked you back, he could have made a move. Since he did not make a move, it seems that he is not interested in you right now. That could always change some day, but for the moment, it seems like he is not interested yet.

  19. Babesgirl

    March 5, 2017 at 9:53 am

    There is a guy who was talking to me about something and he never liked the surrounding but he still went. I asked him “Why do you go then?” And he said “Well I don’t know.” like he had been looking at me the whole way through while saying that. He smiled as well and I am confused of why he stares at me as he don’t tend to do it with other girls. (He speaks to another girl who is my friend and he wasn’t in the same situation as me). – I don’t think it’s that he wants to sleep with me as he doesn’t seem like that sort of person. Therefore, what does it mean in this situation that he is staring at me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 5, 2017 at 10:20 am

      It sounds like he may have just gone to be with you. 🙂 It sounds like he could be interested in you. Do you like him back? The stares, comments and other behavior make it sound like he has a crush on you. Now, you just have to decide if you have feelings for him and if you want to do anything about it. Good luck, Babesgirl!

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