What Does it Mean When a Guy Stares at You?

By on September 9, 2016

As women, I think we have all noticed that men like to look our way- but why do some men take a glance, while others do a full on stare? If you’ve ever noticed a man actually staring at you- not just checking you out for a second- you may have been a little bit creeped out. But don’t judge a book by its cover- there are a lot of reasons why a man may stare at you, and I promise he’s not just being weird.

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He Find You Attractive

I am pretty sure this one goes without saying: if a man finds you incredibly attractive, then he is going to stare at you. And he probably won’t just stare at your face, either, although that will be his focus of attention for quite some time during this stare-down. He will probably also take a look at your other features as well, of course talking about your chest and boot-ay.

Men are just naturally drawn to women and their bodies; it is what makes the world go round. And when they find a female who is extremely attractive to them, they are going to stare. They don’t want to forget what you look like once you leave the room, so they will stare long and hard to take in all of your beauty and make a mental image of what you look like. Hey, take this as a compliment, ladies! Someone thinks you’re absolutely beautiful and they can’t look away; really, what’s the harm in that?

He Wants to Talk to You, But Doesn’t Know How

A lot- and I mean a LOT- of men have a very difficult time speaking to a woman. So, what is a guy to do? Stare! We already know he finds you incredibly attractive, and he really wants to meet you and get to know you. The only problem is, he is at a total loss for words when it comes to actually introducing himself and striking up a conversation with you. So, being completely at a loss for words and not knowing what to do next, he may just stare at you and freeze. During his stare-down, he is probably thinking about how beautiful you are and how he is just DYING to meet you. He is probably coming up with any question or comment he could probably say to you without you feeling weird or uninterested. His mind is RACING with what to do next, so he freezes, and just looks at you. He is hoping you will notice and YOU make the first move- and if you’re interested in him too, I highly recommend making the first move. He is probably just really shy and totally stunned by your beauty- he can’t even think straight or even SPEAK!

He Wants to Annoy You

There are those guys out there: you know, the guy you turned down because he was gross or crude or you simply weren’t interested in him. Well, he takes it upon himself to make you feel bad for not wanting him. He wants to make you feel uncomfortable and annoyed by him; I guess it is his form of (rather stupid) revenge. So, if there is a guy out there who you turned down and wanted nothing to do with after the first date, and he is staring at you, he is probably just trying to keep your attention and ANNOY you as much as he can. Don’t even pay attention to him- especially if he has one of those awful smirks on his face like he is so cool and smug. Seriously, the less attention you pay to him, the quicker it will go away.

How can you deter this type of stare? DON’T LOOK AT HIM! I know it may be difficult, but keep busy with whatever you’re doing, whether it’s work or school. Try and talk to some of your friends and keep your mind (and eyes) of whatever is going on around you. He will stop staring eventually- I mean, he can’t stare forever, right?

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He Wants to Sleep With You

Some men are pigs, let’s just be honest. If you notice a guy staring at you- but he is much more interested in staring at your curves and body- he is probably dreaming about sleeping with you. He is probably thinking of the quickest way he can get you into the sheets. He doesn’t want to get to know you or anything- his mind and eyes are focused only on your womanly shape and he doesn’t care if you know it. Yes, this can be a little bit creepy and rather disgusting, but hopefully he doesn’t keep at it too long; in fact, if he’s staring at your body like that, he’s probably just as confident to come up and ask you out- in which case, say NO!

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    M

    August 22, 2019 at 12:39 am

    Hello, this might be a little long, but I really need help cause I have no idea who to talk to.

    So, I like a man (the first time I ever like someone), I see him almost every day, but I never spoke to him and I can’t talk to him because:first, I’m standing in the balcony like 2 floors above him and second, I’m from a society where females can’t make the first move.
    But, I’ve been seeing him almost every day for the last 8 months and I stare at him and most days, he stares back at me for a few seconds before looking away and continuing on his way. Is he interested in me or does he look at me because he’s annoyed that I’m staring at him. And due to the distance, I can’t really see his expression.
    Also, a few times I caught him staring at me when I pretended that I wasn’t looking at him. And a couple of times I was standing somewhere else and I saw him looking at where I usually stand as if he’s looking for me.

    If he doesn’t like that I stare at him would he stare back at me at all or would he just ignore me?

    I just wanna know if I’m bothering him because if I am, then I’ll stop staring at him.

    BTW I’m 22 years old and he seems a bit older.

    I’m sorry if this was too much to read I just don’t know what to think and I need someone else’s opinion. Thank you so much.

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      August 22, 2019 at 10:38 pm

      It is unlikely that you are bothering him. If he didn’t want to look at you, then he wouldn’t look at you. He may be attracted to you, and he may be interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Since your society does not support the woman making the first move, then make a decision about what society does allow. If you are able to behave in a manner that will cause him to take action, then do so. If not, then simply continue to look toward him. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, M!

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        M

        August 23, 2019 at 12:24 am

        Thank you so much, I really appreciate your answer.

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          August 23, 2019 at 10:54 am

          Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, M!

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    Kim heart

    July 21, 2019 at 2:31 am

    I have a ex bf we dated about 2 yrs. He dumped me for his ex. I went to his family church and when I visit he stares in my eyes for long periods. His wife doesn’t speak to me. His dad who is the pastor watches him around me. He stares every time I visit. He does make small conversations like hi and asks other questions. I am now married too. He also stared at my wedding ring for 3 minutes in front of his parents. What does that mean?

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      July 21, 2019 at 9:49 pm

      You are married. There are many reasons in your life that should prevent you from attempts to maintain a relationship with him. Make a decision about what you wants for your future without him. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Nourish your relationship with your partner by spending additional time together in person. Have a great day, Kim!

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    Aya

    July 20, 2019 at 11:36 am

    I was on a trip to Istanbul and there’s this waiter who works at a restaurant who smiled at me the entire time I was in there. He also locked eyes with me and had no facial expression when I asked him to hand me the receipt. He did this thing twice and all I could do as I was nervous was to stare back at him without smiling :). Can someone tell me what does this mean? Thank u Xx

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      July 21, 2019 at 6:33 pm

      It is possible that he was attracted to you. He may have wanted to speak with you, but what uncertain about what you want for your future. If someone behaves in this manner in the future, then make a decision about what you want for your future at that time. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Aya!

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    Aya

    July 20, 2019 at 11:35 am

    I ses on a trip to Istanbul and there’s this waiter who works at a restaurant who smiled at me the entire time I was in there. He also locked eyes with me and had no facial expression when I asked him to hand me the receipt. He did this thing twice and all I could do as I was nervous was to stare back at him without smiling :). Can someone tell me what does this mean? Thank u Xx

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 21, 2019 at 6:33 pm

      It is possible that he was attracted to you. He may have wanted to speak with you, but what uncertain about what you want for your future. If someone behaves in this manner in the future, then make a decision about what you want for your future at that time. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Aya!

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    Carissa

    June 7, 2019 at 10:01 pm

    I have a guy at my work who stares at me him and i have never met he has a girlfriend who is really controlling and i dont know what do we cant talk to each other cause his girlfriend will get mad so whats the deal with staring at me?

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      June 8, 2019 at 1:35 am

      This person is in a reflection. Because of this, you should not attempt to maintain a romantic relationship with him. Make a decision about what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. It is acceptable for you to continue to share your kindness and compassion with him at all times. Have a great day, Carissa!

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    Roberta

    March 9, 2019 at 2:58 am

    There’s this boy that always stares at me.Like always. He and I often have eye contact. And the last time he looked at me he looked irritated. please help!

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      March 10, 2019 at 4:32 pm

      It is possible that your personal feelings regarding his possible irritation could have been inaccurate. He likely is uncertain or confused about your feelings toward him. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Roberta!

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    kevin

    October 26, 2018 at 7:13 pm

    When I was in class, this dude was staring at me for a good 15 minutes. Also when I got up to open the classroom door I saw his head turn and follow me while I was up. Why was he looking at me? I’ve never spoken to him before either.

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      October 27, 2018 at 6:35 pm

      His attention and behaviors are reflections of his thoughts and feelings. It is likely that he is attracted to you, and he may be interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Because the two of you have not spoken, it is likely that his thoughts of attraction are leading his actions. Determine what you want for your future. If you want to nourish a relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kevin!

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    Sarah

    September 3, 2018 at 12:51 pm

    So I was eating lunch one day in our school cafeteria, and I was just talking and laughing with everyone like I normally do. So I look around the room, because I mean its normal right. I do it a few more times and then I notice this guy staring at me. He is talking with another person but has his arms crossed and is staring at me. When I try and stare back, I get uncomfortable, and basically lose the face off. So I tell my friends who were sitting beside me and so I wouldn’t keep staring at him, they noticed he kept staring over at me. To make it not awkward when I did try to stare at him again, he quickly looked away, and then I did a follow up look and he had glanced at me again. What should I do, I don’t even know the guy, and have never even noticed him before.
    P.S- My friends think he likes me.

    • web admin

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      September 4, 2018 at 8:51 am

      This is definitely a sign that he could like you. You can’t assume that he likes you for sure yet because it might have just been a strange coincidence. This type of behavior is normal when someone is attracted to another person, so your friends could definitely be right. Good luck, Sarah!

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    Ashley

    August 8, 2018 at 11:51 pm

    There’s a guy in my neighborhood I always used to see him from afar but suddenly i lost interest but for a few months from now I have noticed that he looks at me every time he can and only that he observes me directly to my eyes but never tells me anything and it always is. And I don’t know but he has done much as times . What the hell does that means?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 9, 2018 at 12:51 am

      It is possible that he may be interested in speaking with you. He may not know how to best approach you. He may be waiting for you to reach out to him. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what is appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Ashley!

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    Emily

    August 5, 2018 at 4:34 pm

    Hey um.. there’s this guy that I don’t know at all… just my good friends friend and crush. I know that’s kinda weird. Now he just keeps staring, like a lot. But it’s not a state like “ ohmygosh! He. Is. So. Creepy.” But in a way where he longs to see me. He has this face where in the movies he looks at you with such admiration. Idk but that face….. is not know what to do. I catch him looking at me whoever I go… he there. And when I finally see him, it’s like I’m a second he disappears. Huh… I don’t know what to, I wanna not look at him but I can’t, it’s like he wants me but he doesn’t wanna talk to him, just look at me

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 5, 2018 at 10:43 pm

      This dream is a reflection of your social and emotional connection with your crush. Perhaps speak with your friend about their thoughts and feelings regarding this relationship. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Emily!

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    Ashleyy

    June 10, 2018 at 10:43 pm

    i got this dude that i like right normal? but when i laugh talk he look at me normal still ok ? and sometimes when his bestfriend talks he still stares at me… idk .. he be jumping on my back and evreything else he knows i like him but idk if he does ??HELPPP MEE

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 11, 2018 at 9:10 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. His best friend maybe aware of these feelings. There may be a variety of influences in your life at this time. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Ashley!

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    Patty

    May 9, 2018 at 3:46 pm

    There is this guy in my class.. he never showed interest in me.. but yesterday when i was going to the restroom i almost bumped into him and he smiled and so did i.. well later he got a call he went out when he came back in he looked at me and wouldnt look away till i did.. then i got a call i went out when i came back in he had his head leaned on his head and looked at me i looked at him but got uncomfortable so i looked away but i felt that he was still looking at me so i turned and he still was .. so i sat down put my things away to go home i was leaving early well a few seconds later he started to lit his things away too i walked out first then he walked behind me i hold the door he said thank you and rushed off.. i thought he was going to talk to me but he didnt.. what were all the stares for?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 10, 2018 at 12:03 am

      He has been looking at you and has smiled at you, he may feel as though he wants you to be comfortable and happy. He may be friendly. He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. You may want to walk up to him in person. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Patty!

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