My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

By on March 1, 2015

So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.


Relax and Smile

If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

Don’t Be Clingy

OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.


If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.


Talk To Him

For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.


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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery


  1. Mama Mia !

    December 7, 2016 at 1:51 am

    Hi all, i have had what feels like a lifelong crush on this boy (now man) for 15 years. It started when i was 8 we were at the same school and in the same class every second year. He knew i liked him and he was always getting smart to me and i to him, 3 years later i got one of my friends to ask him out for me. He said no and never gave a reason why, but i watched and it was horrible! It felt like my heart shattered, so i just avoided him at all costs for like a week. The whole class knew about it since the beginning, and luckily for me i was never ridiculed or laughed at. Time went by and he went off to highschool but i still for some reason liked him? Could never get over him and had a burning desire to tell him myself how i felt about him with the hopes that maybe just maybe he might feel the same. He lived 3 houses away from me, so we were always in the same circle but never interacting with each other because i was too scared of being rejected again. But i did catch him staring at me a lot, especially on the school bus when i ended up at high school. We both ended up in a relationship and to this day i am still with the same guy who asked me out when we were 13, we also have a child together. My crush on the other hand went through several relationships in the same year then finally settled with one of my friends that was in my class at highschool. They are still together today aswell and have 2 children together. I have no idea why i still have feelings for him, i feel like if he was ever interested in me that it would take all my strength to remain faithful. For 10 years i have been with my current partner but still loved my childhood crush just the same if not more, at the same time. I need help with this obsession !! I have spoken to my partner about it and he says he feels the same way about a girl he crushed on for many years. I love how understanding he is, but now im wandering is this a common thing in young adults? Is this all apart of life? Most importantly how the hell do i let go? Because i know i love my partner and he loves me just as much. Feel like the only way is to confess my feelings that i have held onto all these years and get closure/some answers even though it will probably hurt. But id rather know the truth than wonder for the rest of my life all the whats and whys.

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 7, 2016 at 12:51 pm

      It is common to have feelings about people that you cared for in the past. However, it is most important to live in the moment and care about the people who are in your life at this time. Since the two of you are in your own relationships with people who love and care for you both, it would be wise for you to allow these feelings to fade into the past. If, in the future, the two of you are single, then you can take action toward him at that time. Focus on the present moment and enjoy life, Mama Mia!

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