My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

By on March 1, 2015






So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.

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Relax and Smile

If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

Don’t Be Clingy

OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.

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If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.

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Talk To Him

For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.

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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery





477 Comments

  1. Ankita

    June 20, 2017 at 10:54 pm

    So I like this senior from my college since one year. One of my guy friends who has a crush on me told his best friend about this already.
    I just want to know if he likes me back. When I text him he replies as soon as the message gets delivered but he doesn’t have my no. saved. If I ask a favour from him he helps me. He does have a prolonged eye contact while we talk and smiles too. But we don’t talk that often and the conversations are short. Some of his friends also think that I have got a crush on him. Sometimes he smiles at me while passing and other times he seems not to care. Again he used to be unnecessaily rude with the guy who likes me who is a friend of mine. I came to know that he only likes attention. This was told by one of his classmates who he liked before and who didn’t like him back perhaps. Should I believe this or does he subtly like me or should I move on?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 21, 2017 at 10:12 am

      It is possible that he likes you, although he may just act this way to be nice. He doesn’t seem to go out of his way to get in touch or be around you though, so he is either not interested or shy about making a move.

  2. Semiah

    June 19, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    My friend stole my iPod and was texting a kid I sort of liked and told him I liked him and he likes me back. Now I don’t think I like him anymore. Why

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 20, 2017 at 5:45 pm

      It is possible that the mystery of the relationship may have diminished. However, he said that he likes you, so if you want to develop a relationship with him, then try it out. There is nothing wrong with having a date and choosing to stop dating someone. It is also an opportunity to develop a strong relationship with him. You can also choose to continue your relationship as it currently is. Have a great day, Semiah!

  3. Mihaela

    June 11, 2017 at 5:19 am

    So we were friends with this boy and we were at junior prom.It was time to leave and I suggested him to ride home with me with my dad,and he accepted.We were walking down to the car and I told him a liked him for the past 3 months,he didnt have time to react because we were holding the handle of the car and he just said aham ok.Idk what that meant so it was an awkward moment.When we arrived,i opened the car door so he can get out,I looked down because I couldn’t look him in the eyes,I just noticed that he turned a little at me maybe for a hug but like I said I couldn’t look him in the eyes and he went straight home.Im not embarrassed or anything I just dont know what to do now.We haven’t spoken since that night.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 11, 2017 at 3:27 pm

      If you want to develop a relationship with him, then your best option is to reach out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give him an opportunity to share his mind with you as well. Best of luck, Mihaela!

  4. Aarushi

    June 5, 2017 at 9:38 pm

    I actually texted a boy I like and told him I like him.In the reply he responded that I needn’t worry and could trust him for he wasn’t going to tell anyone I liked him at school… He is quite a humorous boy and I kind of shy … While one of my friends also has a crush on him he doesn’t talk to her much but to me he tells me all about himself…But the problem is that I don’t know whether he likes or not as I am a new comer in the school….

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 6, 2017 at 10:47 am

      Speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. Try to spend additional time with him in person. You may want to speak with your friend about her feelings regarding a relationship between you and him. It is possible that a new relationship may put strain on an old relationship. Best of luck, Aarushi!

  5. Abby Austen

    May 25, 2017 at 1:15 pm

    So just yesterday, I got promoted to high school from eighth grade, and my crush, Jack, and I are both going to be in the same class next year. I told him over text that I like him two days ago, the day before the last day of middle school. He responded with ‘I knew it’. On the last day, he acted the same as he always does around me. He is one of my best friends. We have so much in common, and he has the cutest smile.

    Anyway, during homeroom the day after I told him how I feel, he acted normal and pulled a chair up next to my desk, and sat on my desk too, that kind of thing. We took pictures in the hallway with our whole group because it was the last day of school, and he was told to stand on the side from the rest of our friends because his height would work better there, but he stood where he was, which was next to me.

    I know that he likes this one girl named Dejanah, but she isn’t going to our high school, and even though she likes him also, they’ve only liked each other for almost two weeks. They never dated though. I’ve liked jack since the beginning of November.

    What is happening?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 26, 2017 at 10:10 am

      If he liked you back, then he would make a move right now. He may be attracted to you, but it is possible that he likes Dejanah more. I don’t really know what is going on in his mind right now, so I would just wait and see what he does. If you can talk to him online or see him during the summer, that could help. Good luck, Abby Austen!

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