My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

By on March 1, 2015

So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.


Relax and Smile

If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

Don’t Be Clingy

OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.


If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.


Talk To Him

For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.


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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery


  1. Asena

    September 11, 2017 at 12:58 am

    Just about a week ago, I told my crush that I *used* to have a crush on him. For some reason, I kept saying I used to but I still did, even at the time I told him. He kept saying he was surprised and then confessed he had a crush on me as well when we first met back in May but he lost interest when we stopped talking in June. But I noticed after I told him about it, we started to talk *way* more than we ever have and we both equally put in efforts regarding calling and texting. 2 of his friends (one of them is his best friend and the other is a good friend of his) told me he more than likely does like me because he talks about me to them randomly and just because of the fact that he has been talking to me more. His good friend said he doesn’t stay on the phone for hours just for the fun of it so that there has to be meaning behind it. However, his best friend said that he is not sure because my crush is good at hiding things but he said he is almost positive that he does like me. His best friend even told me that when they were hanging out, he told my crush that he’s gonna talk to me after they’re done hanging out but he called me “his girl” instead of saying my name. He said my crush got genuinely angry because he suspected it was me his best friend was talking about and my crush told him that he better not be talking about me. This was a few days before I told him I had a crush on him. I still have my doubts though because he hasn’t told me he does like me in the moment. So today, I called him and told him that not only did I used to have a crush on him, that I still do. His response was “I’m surprised.” I asked him why is it surprising and he wouldn’t tell me. At this point, I want to continue to pursue him because I really do like him but I wish he would be straightforward with me so that I would know if I am wasting my time or not. His good friend told me that he is not the type to lead a girl on and he has expressed before to her that he would hate to hurt me (this was before all of this happened, it was back in June). She said he’s kind of protective over me ever since he found out what happened between my ex and I, which lead him to hate my ex. Back in late July, he called me when he found out that I was talking to my ex again and he was angry. So what do you think? Does he like me or not? Oh and maybe I should add in the fact that he has been hurt a lot. He no longer believes in love anymore and he has really bad trust issues but I can tell he still really wants love.

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 11, 2017 at 10:07 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. If you want to nourish your relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he is uncomfortable with strong emotional connections, then perhaps give him time to develop stronger feelings for you. This will help your relationship become stronger. Have a great day, Asensa!

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