My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

By on March 1, 2015






So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.

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Relax and Smile

If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

Don’t Be Clingy

OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.

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If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.

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Talk To Him

For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.

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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery





445 Comments

  1. whyyyyy2016, 2017

    February 23, 2017 at 5:00 pm

    My friends told a boy I like I like him and he doesnot like me back but still talks to me whay does that mean

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 24, 2017 at 11:46 am

      He may have said that he doesn’t like you because your friends spoke to him. People often make the mistake of having their friends talk to their crush. He may also still want to be your friend. Just because someone doesn’t have a romantic interest in you doesn’t mean that they don’t like you as a friend. Remain friends with him and enjoy the closeness that the two of you have. Have a great day, Why!

  2. B-Luv

    February 19, 2017 at 5:18 am

    An ex-coworker and I meet in 2010. I moved up from the south to her town in VA. We are both veterans so we seem to clique but we were very cordial to each other and have always been seemly comfortable. A lot of the other women in the office were all over me including the married ones and it became known that I didn’t date people I worked with. For someone like her she would have taken note for sure but the truth is she would have been my only exception. During my time there I never asked her out because I had a crush on her and did not want to step out of character. Fast forward to now, I was only there 2 years and she got deployed close to 6 months prior to me leaving. I moved back down south but we stayed connected on Facebook. She even asked to come visit me to “Check out my city” but I was dating someone and didn’t want to be messy.Well recently she was sent on an assignment near here and told me well in advance so we could see each other. I meet her when she landed and gave her a quick tour of the city then she went on to her base assignment. Out of the blue later in the week she found an event and asked if I would like to go, so I was like yes. I was like wow she is willing to drive 3 hours total to spend a second with me then there must be something there. Concerned about traffic I ended up driving the 1.5 hours one way to her and we had dinner. I got her to open up by asking her about her dating life and she said she didn’t have one. I did that so I could open the conversation. I start telling her about this friend that I adore and needed her advice on how to tell her how I felt. I explained how I adore her, get nervous around her and thinks that she is such a wonderful person. I kept pouring it on but notice what appeared to be her playing in her food. I got this look from her like why are you talking about some other chick while you are out with me. I moved away from that conversation saying thanks for the good advice and that I will make sure I tell her tonight. After another 15 minutes of conversation. I said to her, “The friend I am referring to is you”! Her response, “Oh OK”. By now I am so nervous I notice I am not looking her directly in her eyes. I mean I was until I noticed she was looking directly at me. I got a googoo, gaga rush of emotions but started to pull myself together after the initial shock of me actually telling her. She did not comment about it at all. I think she was going to but I kept talking because I didn’t want her to at the moment. I was giving her an out by ending the conversation on something totally different. We left and she sent me a text thanking me for spending time with her and to let her know when I made it home. I did and we had agree to see each other before she boards her flight the next day. She seemed reassuring in her response to me like nothing has really changed other than she knows now. She text me once her plane landed but I didn’t respond until the next morning and she immediately responded back. Now I am in fall back mode letting it marinate on both sides. I am still not sure what she thinks about it and I feel like only time will tell. Unless you know already, I am all ears? This is the 2nd day since she returned.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 19, 2017 at 3:40 pm

      There is nothing wrong with continuing to reach out to her. Send her another message if you want to do so. You can also give her time to recuperate from her trip. Perhaps send her a message in a few days. You can take charge in your relationship or you can wait until she reaches out to you. The decision is yours. Have a great day, B-Luv!

  3. Hopeless

    February 19, 2017 at 1:10 am

    So this guy I like started emailing me a few months ago and ended up texting me a month after that. Just basic, hey how’s it going, enjoying your break type things and the first time I didn’t keep the conversation going as I got busy with work and forgot to reply. We did better when he texted me a little bit. Anyways, about a month ago (3 weeks actually) – he asked me to go see a movie with him. We both had a great time. We held hands and he did eventually kiss me and we fooled around (no sex). He did say that he was nervous, I thought that was cute, I was nervous too (we are both shy people). I did tell him that I had liked him for a while, and he told me that he liked to help me out at work because he got to spend time with me.

    Before I left back home that night, he talked about doing things together, like getting together again to hang out as we both said to stay friends and see where it could go (didn’t want to rush into anything and then not have it work out between us and it was important that even if we ended up in a relationship, we would still always be friends as that’s important to a relationship). He told me to text him when I got home and we both said we had a great time that night. The next day at work we talked a little bit about doing something together and he was totally down. But no plans were ever made. That following weekend he said sure to hanging out if he wasn’t out of town, but he ended up going out of town for a family thing. The weekend after that he said maybe but he would get back to me; at that point I had been sick all week, he even texted me a few times asking me how I was doing/feeling. He never did get back to me until I got a text Sunday evening asking how I was. I figured he just got busy and forgot to get back to me, or maybe he was waiting on me to tell him that I felt much better that weekend ( I couldn’t have hung out anyways as I still had breathing and coughing issues). So no biggie really.

    However, there are just times when it takes him hours to respond to my text messages – I’m not too worried about that because I’m not even sure that he likes texting and he works long hours 5 days a week. But before he told me he would sneak a kiss or two at work when no one was watching, i joked about it and he just text back I feel shy at work, not a good idea. (not like I would do something like that at work anyway) But there are days when I can tell the way he looked at me, he seemed interested in me still and other days how he seemed nervous. It’s the days where he just seems like he doesn’t want to be in the same area or room with me, when he doesn’t look at me when he talks to me or when he just ignores the fact that I’m around that make me wonder if he is losing interest. It’s hard to tell especially when we really don’t ever get time alone together and I don’t want to keep asking him what he’s doing on the weekend or pester him into hanging out. I think he needs to make more of an effort now.

    I just recently even text him, well sent him an image that said hey, I like you, a lot. And he never responded. I’m honestly hoping that he’s just out of town and hasn’t gotten the message or was just too busy to reply, it’s not like he’s the best texter in the world. I just wanted him to know that I still like him, I’m still interested in him because he never seemed to be getting the hints plus he’s always pretty tired around the time I come around to his work area. (He’s just that guy that you have to also spell it out for him most of the time too.) I try not to come off as needy or clingy, I just try ways to hint/show that I do like him. I was worried that he may have felt in some way that I wasn’t interested in him, or maybe felt a little embarrassed about fooling around that one night which to me, he has nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about.

    This dating thing is really hard I guess. It’s a nervous game about going out with someone you like, hoping they like you as well. I’m just hoping that in the end, it doesn’t turn out that he just wanted to use me, that he really is just shy and really is interested in me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 19, 2017 at 3:13 pm

      If he is shy and does not get hints well, then you may want to be direct with your message. He may have not yet read your message, but you can always send him a send one. You can be clear in your message and explain that you like him and would like to spend more time with him. This will be direct enough that he will not have to try to decide your true feelings for him. Best of luck, Hopeless!

  4. Ha Neul

    February 18, 2017 at 7:34 pm

    Hi,

    So in Valentine’s day I had plan that I will give a gift to my crush ( he wasn’t supposed to know who the gift was from but things didn’t go as plan) so I waited until after school to give it to him. My friend came with me and she call him cause I was to shy to call him my self. My friend told him that I wanted to give him something. But I was too shy and my friend handed him the gift as soon as she did that I told her let go. But then my crush said “no wait” and my friend didn’t let me go but I managed to free my self from her. As soon as I did I ran away. But my crush told my friend that he wanted to talk to me but I said no and then he said “okay thanks for the gift” and he left. And then the next day I didn’t talk to him at all I avoid him. So I decided to write him a letter my friend came again with me. once again he call him and told him that i wanted to talk to him as soon as my friend said that he came next to me. But stupid me said to him “no i don’t” as soon as I said that he was about to leave but I said “no wait” that when I handed him the letter.in the letter I told him I like him. I wrote my phone number on the letter but he never text me😣. First of all I like him since the the day I met him which was the first day of school I’m a senior i have never dated a boy in my life! Second of all I have zero classes with him 3. I don’t know him that much like the only times we have talked it when I would just say hi and he will say hi back . we had a conversation but it was really short. What should I do??? My friends said that I should talk to him in person but the only problem is that I’m reaalllly shy!!!!I’m also scared of being rejected in person I have been rejected but it wasn’t in person!

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 20, 2017 at 1:42 am

      The best option for you is to listen to your friends and speak directly to him. He may be interested in a relationship with you. You will never know if you don’t attempt to reach out to him. He may he unsure about his feelings, so he may not have texted you for that reason. If you don’t take action, then you may never know what could have been. Best of luck, Ha!

  5. Hopeless

    February 18, 2017 at 5:20 pm

    There’s a guy that started emailing me during Thanksgiving break and text me during Christmas break. During break times he talks to me more than at work because he is a bit shy. A month ago we went to the movies and he held and played with my hand. When the movie was over he put his arm around me and at his place he kissed me and we cuddled on the couch. When I was about to head home, we talked about making other plans.

    He told me that he feels shy at work but he’s always kind and sweet always saying hey how’s your day going so far? And he sometimes reaches out and text me.

    I’ve been trying to show him that I like him but even when I try to get him to help, he doesn’t get it and I literally have to tell him or spell it out for him. We haven’t had any time together since that one weekend and I did ask like two different times but I think he was busy.

    Recently I sent him an image that said I like you a lot. He hasn’t responded and it’s been several hours.

    He seemed interested in me that one date and he was shy with me at work, I know he’s dated before and it didn’t work out for him so it may be more cautious. I’m shy myself but I’ve been starting to wonder if he was still interested because we haven’t spent any time together for the past three weeks and it’s driving me crazy. How can we see where this all goes if we get no time together?

    Anyways, I feel like giving up. I understand if he’s shy and all but I just wish he would reach out to me even in a text or email. I guess all I can do is wait and see what happens but I can’t keep putting myself out there and him just not getting it or being too shy to repsond. And if he wasn’t interested in me and didn’t like me, why take me out to the movies and make out with me and even agree to see where this could go?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 19, 2017 at 1:27 pm

      Allow him to make contact with you. If he does not send you a message or reply to your previous messages, then allow him to fade from your life. If he does speak with you, then talk back with him. You may find that he has been busy or has had things going on in his life. Take this time to look inward inward and determine what you want for your future. Have a great day, Hopeless!

  6. Jodicy

    February 13, 2017 at 4:15 pm

    I like this guy at school we only have one class together and a couple weeks ago I asked my friend to tell him that I like him and she did and all he said was who is she and I know he knows me because the class we have together we don’t even talk that much or at all really but I want to talk and maybe even become friends but how do I do that now that he knows that I like him but he doesn’t even know who I am???

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 14, 2017 at 11:11 am

      Never speak through other people, especially when trying to ask someone out. It throws people off and makes them confused about your true feelings. If you want to develop a relationship with him, or anyone else in the future, then speak directly to them. There is no reason to use someone else to speak your mind. Have a great day, Jodicy!

  7. Little Piggy

    February 2, 2017 at 6:19 pm

    Hey um, ok, lemme tell you about my story. Basically when Christmas break was over and I returned to high school, my counselor changed one of my classes and said it was until the school year was over. I was pissed as hell because I didn’t like that class and I had friends in the previous one. So later on when I entered the class, sat down on a random seat, the teacher came in and told everyone that they were getting a new seating chart. She did her business until she called out my name and some other boy. She sat us down in one of the tables, alone, just the two of us, sitting across from one another. I got a good look at him and realized that he was an old classmate of mine in elementary. I did have some sort of crush on him when I was little, but then realized that I’ll never have a chance with him. So I just moved on. But now, he looked so mature, handsome than ever, funny and nice. He also told me in the end of class if I remember him. I lied and said I sorta remember him. Okay, moving on. We started talking a lot and he would always say something to me that would make me fall in love with him more, even if it was a stupid little joke. I knew that he was all perfect, but I wasn’t. As more days passed, we started talking through messaging. He would give me blushing emoji’s and said that he worries about me. God my heart skipped a beat when he said that. Then, the question came. “Okay, you never told me who you like in the class.” I was frozen. ‘Did he just really ask me that?’ I thought. I just had to tell him or else I would’ve started banging my head against the table every time he would smile at me. I waited a moment and finally told him that I liked him. He told me that he didn’t know what to say and, guess what, he even knew I liked him! I was gunna kill myself at the moment. He told me not to worry, nothings gunna change. Was that a good thing or a bad thing? I’m so confused. Now, he has two classes with me, which in every time he comes in the class he smiles at me. But I have a feeling that he doesn’t like me ‘that way’… He still ‘flirts’ with me sometimes. Heck he showed me a pic of him shirtless! I died on the inside when he did. I don’t know what to do or why I still want to make him like me. I don’t mind if he doesn’t, but I do at the same time…… What should I do? I feel like I’m getting sad or something every time I think about him. I don’t know. I’m too confused. Please help me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 3, 2017 at 11:34 am

      He is interested in developing a relationship with you. Continue to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Learn about his goals and desires. Try to spend additional time with him in class whenever you are able to do so. Perhaps try to see him outside of school or during lunch. Best of luck, Little!

  8. Emma

    February 1, 2017 at 3:20 pm

    So, I have a story of two guys. Guy one asked me out last year, and I said no because I didn’t like him. Well, now I do and I don’t know if he likes me or not. We are both talking constantly, and I’m very confused. Guy two and I went to kindergarten together and I kinda started liking him. Now he found out, and it’s really awkward. We are both talking like we don’t know, but I don’t like how awkward it is. A bucnh of friends and me and guy two are going to the movies on Saturday…. any advice on either one???

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 2, 2017 at 1:47 pm

      If you and guy two are going to the movies together, then it seems as though this friendship is stronger than the other one. However, if it does not go well, then you can always attempt to spend more time with guy one. Take this time to determine which relationship that you want to pursue, and do so. Best of luck, Emma!

  9. Niamh

    January 10, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    So at school we have this school email for like teachers to send homework and what not but students can email each other and I have no idea how the hell im gonna get out of what I’ve done. So basically I sent my crush an email saying I like him and all that stuff but at the end I put would you like to hang out sometime and he replied and said ‘yea’ and some other stuff. And I said maybe we can meet up and talk sometime at lunch. And now I’m just freaking out since everytime I see that he’s there I kinda speed walk away and can’t even look at him. Oh dear god WHAT HAVE I DONE! I am legit regretting this right now and now reconsidering all the feelings I’ve ever had for him and now I’m thinking he’s not even my type since I’ve said a lot I want to date someone who maybe looks a tiny bit like jungkook from BTS or chanyeol from EXO or Jackson from GOT7 and if you look at all 3 of these they all have one thing in common. They’re all either from South Korea or china and people kinda like that are my type! Also I’m thinking if I go out with him I’m most likely going to see someone else better than him! So I just I don’t know HELP!!!!!!

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 11, 2017 at 10:51 am

      It would be wise of you to relax. You have made your feelings clear to him, he offered to speak with you, and now you are ignoring him. He may be offended by your actions. If you care about him, then meet up with him. If you do not care about him, then continue to ignore him. However, you do own him an explanation. Additionally, it is most unwise to try to establish a relationship based upon the characters that you have seen in television shows and movies. Take this time to look inward and determine what a compassionate and considerate action would be. Good luck, Niamh.

  10. Mama Mia !

    December 7, 2016 at 1:51 am

    Hi all, i have had what feels like a lifelong crush on this boy (now man) for 15 years. It started when i was 8 we were at the same school and in the same class every second year. He knew i liked him and he was always getting smart to me and i to him, 3 years later i got one of my friends to ask him out for me. He said no and never gave a reason why, but i watched and it was horrible! It felt like my heart shattered, so i just avoided him at all costs for like a week. The whole class knew about it since the beginning, and luckily for me i was never ridiculed or laughed at. Time went by and he went off to highschool but i still for some reason liked him? Could never get over him and had a burning desire to tell him myself how i felt about him with the hopes that maybe just maybe he might feel the same. He lived 3 houses away from me, so we were always in the same circle but never interacting with each other because i was too scared of being rejected again. But i did catch him staring at me a lot, especially on the school bus when i ended up at high school. We both ended up in a relationship and to this day i am still with the same guy who asked me out when we were 13, we also have a child together. My crush on the other hand went through several relationships in the same year then finally settled with one of my friends that was in my class at highschool. They are still together today aswell and have 2 children together. I have no idea why i still have feelings for him, i feel like if he was ever interested in me that it would take all my strength to remain faithful. For 10 years i have been with my current partner but still loved my childhood crush just the same if not more, at the same time. I need help with this obsession !! I have spoken to my partner about it and he says he feels the same way about a girl he crushed on for many years. I love how understanding he is, but now im wandering is this a common thing in young adults? Is this all apart of life? Most importantly how the hell do i let go? Because i know i love my partner and he loves me just as much. Feel like the only way is to confess my feelings that i have held onto all these years and get closure/some answers even though it will probably hurt. But id rather know the truth than wonder for the rest of my life all the whats and whys.

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 7, 2016 at 12:51 pm

      It is common to have feelings about people that you cared for in the past. However, it is most important to live in the moment and care about the people who are in your life at this time. Since the two of you are in your own relationships with people who love and care for you both, it would be wise for you to allow these feelings to fade into the past. If, in the future, the two of you are single, then you can take action toward him at that time. Focus on the present moment and enjoy life, Mama Mia!

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