My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

By on March 1, 2015






So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.

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Relax and Smile

If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

Don’t Be Clingy

OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.

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If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.

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Talk To Him

For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.

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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery





495 Comments

  1. Annabelle

    August 20, 2017 at 1:30 am

    So…theres this guy in my class and umm he knows that i like him but he ignores me,doesnt talk to me but he is always where i am,staring at me and when my group of friends and his group of friends plays catching together,he doesnt catch whoever is near me.why is this so?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 20, 2017 at 10:31 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. It is possible that he is not interested in you. He may be confused about his feelings for you. He may be uncertain about your feelings for you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Allow him to reach out to you. If he does not, then allow your thoughts of him to fade. These actions will change in time. Have a great day, Annabelle!

  2. Dia

    August 17, 2017 at 2:46 pm

    Hey,So I told my crush I liked him and he was cool with it because he’s my best friend but 2 months after he got in to a relationship and they dated for a 5 months now that it’s Over between them he starts talking to me after he completely cut me out of his life he acts as if nothing happened and when ever I see him he makes sure he says hi to me or smiles I don’t know what to think about this !

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 17, 2017 at 7:50 pm

      His relationship has ended and he likely still have an emotional attachment to you. It is likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may have stopped speaking with you because his partner did not want him speaking to you. Determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Dia!

  3. Amber

    August 17, 2017 at 2:00 am

    I work with a guy i like he has a girlfriend and im married however since i found out my hubby was out of line i automatically tried improving myself so he would not leave me or take interest in other girls but so how i dont know why i like this guy at work he 21 im 25 does this matter. Anyways i txted him saying hey you busy he replied why whats up? I said nothing to worry about he said ok what is it? Isaid im to shy to tell you maybe i should forget about it he said i can tell him anything he said what is the matter. Becuz he is leaving work soon i just said im really going to miss you he said why is that and also said why do i feel like its something more than that i dont know if i should tell him that i like him he is suspicious. We do get on well at work hes hugged me to cheer me up. He touched my cheeks hes made me hot chocolate twice at work. He has started opening up to me. He told me that hes an emotional guy amd when he leaves its gonna be hard. Hes told me hes girlfriend has his balls chained and he said he doesnt lile them having chained lol what should i do should i reply to hus txt.

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 17, 2017 at 6:41 pm

      You are married and he has a girlfriend. Neither of you should be speaking to another person in this way. Focus your emotional energy on your current partner. Your coworker should do the same. This will benefit you at this time. You may want to speak directly and honestly with your partner about your thoughts and feelings. This will help to nourish your relationship. Good day, Amber!

  4. Cathy

    August 5, 2017 at 3:46 pm

    Recently I told my best friend to tell my crush I liked him,she told him on her phone.I don’t think he feels the same way after I heard his response and I have to see him next year.I’m so embarrassed and I feel like it’s going to be really awkward around him.What should I do to make it less awkward?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 5, 2017 at 7:24 pm

      Your best option is to continue your relationship as it has been. Nothing has changed except that he knows that you have feelings for him. Attempt to spend additional time with him. If he is not interested in developing a relationship with you, then share your kindness and compassion with him. This will influence your relationship in a positive direction. Have a great day, Cathy!

  5. Alo

    July 23, 2017 at 8:31 pm

    I told a guy I’ve liked him for 9 years and he said that he was glad he told me. He starts normal conversations, so I don’t know what his feelings are for me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 24, 2017 at 6:48 pm

      It is certainly possible that he has feelings for you. It is likely that he has a strong emotional connection to you. Observe his actions to see if he is treating you as though he would treat a girlfriend. You may not know how he treats his partners. Your best option is to continue to spend time with him. This will help to nourish your relationship. Have a great day, Alo!

  6. Kathrina

    June 30, 2017 at 3:17 am

    Okay this boy julian is so confusing. Julian and i are regular friends. After being friends for a while i guess we kinda started playing around .for example we would stare at each other smile and laugh but one time i smile and looked away he kept stareing and smile. We sit across from each other.when the school year was almost over i told him i had a crush on him and he didnt tell me how he feel but we talk like friends after i told him. On the last day of school we hug and that was the end.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 30, 2017 at 1:32 pm

      You should attempt to reach out to him at this time. If you can not do that now, then speak with him when the school year starts again. Take this time to determine a relationship with him at this time. If you do, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give him the opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kathrina!

  7. Lorraine

    June 27, 2017 at 4:26 am

    I recently told my crush that I like him more than a friend via text and he said he has “above average feelings for me” but he just came out of a rough relationship and wants to be single for a while before engaging in a intense relationship , he also said he would like to spend more time with me next semester. I guess I should be happy with his response and I would be if I weren’t freaking out on what to do now. It’s my first time dealing with anything like this and I want him to know that I’m interested but not desperate;I just don’t know what to do now , how do I approach him and talk about this I don’t want to be the only one putting effort in this.

    His a really nice guy, too nice , that’s why I’m second guessing ; what if his just saying these things because he doesn’t want to hurt me or his just like all the other fboys in this world. I respect his decision and would support him no matter what but the thing is I want a future with him, so how can I ensure a future with him without coming off to clingy. This is all so confusing.
    His one of those nice , good looking , kind, smart and respectable guy why would he waste his time with me when he can have any girl he wants. I just don’t know what to do now that he knows I like him but one thing is for sure I want something real and with him , as cheesy as it may sound, everything feels right. Please help me , I don’t wanna ruin it with him, just want him in my life be it a friend or more .

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 27, 2017 at 3:47 pm

      It sounds like the two of you have the foundation for a strong relationship. He was honest with you and clearly is interested in dating you. He has been hurt, so you must be careful with his feelings at this time. Try to spend time with him. The two of you can go on a walk through nature or out for a meal. Talk with him as often as you feel comfortable doing. Have a great day, Lorraine!

  8. Claudia Laiden

    June 27, 2017 at 3:57 am

    So just recently I confessed to my crush that I like him as more than a friend and he said he has above the average feelings for me but just came out of a rough relationship so he wants to be single for a while before going into another intense relationship. But he would like to spend more time with me so we could get to know each other more and connect. This is all new to me, his the first guy that I really like let alone confess too and I don’t know what to do now. I wanna give him the space he wants but I also want a future with him, I don’t know how to go about this; I don’t wanna seem to clingy or not interested.
    He said next semester, he would like to really get to know me but I’ve been hurt too much; don’t want to be the only one putting effort, I just want something real and loyal not just a putty throw because he felt sad for me.

    I’m so lost this is the first time that I really like a guy and I don’t know what to do, please help.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 27, 2017 at 3:42 pm

      It sounds like the two of you have the foundation for a strong relationship. He was honest with you and clearly is interested in dating you. He has been hurt, so you must be careful with his feelings at this time. Try to spend time with him. The two of you can go on a walk through nature or out for a meal. Talk with him as often as you feel comfortable doing. Have a great day, Claudia!

  9. Claudia Laiden

    June 27, 2017 at 3:50 am

    So just recently I confessed to my crush that I like him as more than a friend and he said he has above the average feelings for me but just came out of a rough relationship so he wants to be single for a while before going into another intense relationship. But he would like to spend more time with me so we could get to know each other more and connect. This is all new to me, his the first guy that I really like let alone confess too and I don’t know what to do now. I wanna give him the space he wants but I also want a future with him, I don’t know how to go about this; I don’t wanna seem to clingy or not interested.
    He said next semester, he would like to really get to know me but I’ve been hurt too much; don’t want to be the only one putting effort, I just want something real and loyal not just a putty throw because he felt sad for me.

    I’m so lost this is the first time that I really like a guy and I don’t know what to do, please help.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 27, 2017 at 3:42 pm

      It sounds like the two of you have the foundation for a strong relationship. He was honest with you and clearly is interested in dating you. He has been hurt, so you must be careful with his feelings at this time. Try to spend time with him. The two of you can go on a walk through nature or out for a meal. Talk with him as often as you feel comfortable doing. Have a great day, Claudia!

  10. Ankita

    June 20, 2017 at 10:54 pm

    So I like this senior from my college since one year. One of my guy friends who has a crush on me told his best friend about this already.
    I just want to know if he likes me back. When I text him he replies as soon as the message gets delivered but he doesn’t have my no. saved. If I ask a favour from him he helps me. He does have a prolonged eye contact while we talk and smiles too. But we don’t talk that often and the conversations are short. Some of his friends also think that I have got a crush on him. Sometimes he smiles at me while passing and other times he seems not to care. Again he used to be unnecessaily rude with the guy who likes me who is a friend of mine. I came to know that he only likes attention. This was told by one of his classmates who he liked before and who didn’t like him back perhaps. Should I believe this or does he subtly like me or should I move on?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 21, 2017 at 10:12 am

      It is possible that he likes you, although he may just act this way to be nice. He doesn’t seem to go out of his way to get in touch or be around you though, so he is either not interested or shy about making a move.

  11. Semiah

    June 19, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    My friend stole my iPod and was texting a kid I sort of liked and told him I liked him and he likes me back. Now I don’t think I like him anymore. Why

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 20, 2017 at 5:45 pm

      It is possible that the mystery of the relationship may have diminished. However, he said that he likes you, so if you want to develop a relationship with him, then try it out. There is nothing wrong with having a date and choosing to stop dating someone. It is also an opportunity to develop a strong relationship with him. You can also choose to continue your relationship as it currently is. Have a great day, Semiah!

  12. Mihaela

    June 11, 2017 at 5:19 am

    So we were friends with this boy and we were at junior prom.It was time to leave and I suggested him to ride home with me with my dad,and he accepted.We were walking down to the car and I told him a liked him for the past 3 months,he didnt have time to react because we were holding the handle of the car and he just said aham ok.Idk what that meant so it was an awkward moment.When we arrived,i opened the car door so he can get out,I looked down because I couldn’t look him in the eyes,I just noticed that he turned a little at me maybe for a hug but like I said I couldn’t look him in the eyes and he went straight home.Im not embarrassed or anything I just dont know what to do now.We haven’t spoken since that night.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 11, 2017 at 3:27 pm

      If you want to develop a relationship with him, then your best option is to reach out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give him an opportunity to share his mind with you as well. Best of luck, Mihaela!

  13. Aarushi

    June 5, 2017 at 9:38 pm

    I actually texted a boy I like and told him I like him.In the reply he responded that I needn’t worry and could trust him for he wasn’t going to tell anyone I liked him at school… He is quite a humorous boy and I kind of shy … While one of my friends also has a crush on him he doesn’t talk to her much but to me he tells me all about himself…But the problem is that I don’t know whether he likes or not as I am a new comer in the school….

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 6, 2017 at 10:47 am

      Speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. Try to spend additional time with him in person. You may want to speak with your friend about her feelings regarding a relationship between you and him. It is possible that a new relationship may put strain on an old relationship. Best of luck, Aarushi!

  14. Abby Austen

    May 25, 2017 at 1:15 pm

    So just yesterday, I got promoted to high school from eighth grade, and my crush, Jack, and I are both going to be in the same class next year. I told him over text that I like him two days ago, the day before the last day of middle school. He responded with ‘I knew it’. On the last day, he acted the same as he always does around me. He is one of my best friends. We have so much in common, and he has the cutest smile.

    Anyway, during homeroom the day after I told him how I feel, he acted normal and pulled a chair up next to my desk, and sat on my desk too, that kind of thing. We took pictures in the hallway with our whole group because it was the last day of school, and he was told to stand on the side from the rest of our friends because his height would work better there, but he stood where he was, which was next to me.

    I know that he likes this one girl named Dejanah, but she isn’t going to our high school, and even though she likes him also, they’ve only liked each other for almost two weeks. They never dated though. I’ve liked jack since the beginning of November.

    What is happening?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 26, 2017 at 10:10 am

      If he liked you back, then he would make a move right now. He may be attracted to you, but it is possible that he likes Dejanah more. I don’t really know what is going on in his mind right now, so I would just wait and see what he does. If you can talk to him online or see him during the summer, that could help. Good luck, Abby Austen!

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