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    My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

    By on March 1, 2015

    So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.

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    Relax and Smile

    If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

    If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

    Don’t Be Clingy

    OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

    Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.

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    If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

    When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

    Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

    Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

    If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.

    Talk To Him

    For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.

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    1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery

    625 Comments

    1. Marie

      June 2, 2018 at 1:49 am

      I told my friend to tell my crush I like him on the last day of school, she also likes him, but she still did it. When he saw me he was smiling, he was about to tell me that he knew now… but I fast walked away. Now I have to wait till summer ends to see what happens. He used to be rude to me when we were younger, but he’s nice now.

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        June 2, 2018 at 7:52 pm

        He may have been interested in developing a relationship with you and may have wanted to share his feelings with you. You left, so it is likely that he is uncertain about your true feelings toward him. If you are able to contact him and want to nourish a relationship with him, then do so. If not, then allow these thoughts to fade during this Summer. Have a great day, Marie!

    2. jasslyn

      May 16, 2018 at 6:11 pm

      hi,so I have a crush on this guy that i’ve known for a pretty long while and I told him that I have feelings for him if I would ever have a chance to be with him and he said “yea maybe” what does this actually says.Do I really have a opprtuinty with him or not ?

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        May 17, 2018 at 11:47 am

        He said that it was possible that there is a chance that the two of you may develop a relationship in the future. If his physical actions or tone of voice caused you to feel as though this were not the case, then make your decision based on that information as well. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps attempt to spend additional time with him as well. Have a great day, Jasslyn!

    3. shell

      May 1, 2018 at 5:11 pm

      so a guy I like knows I like him and I have heard he likes you or no he does not and I don’t have his number but I have his gmail Idk if I should lay it all out or wait for proof from someone he knows

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        web admin

        May 1, 2018 at 9:58 pm

        He is aware of your feelings. It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. It you are able to speak with him in person, then do so. If not, then attempt to speak with him through email. You will find benefit in spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Shell!

    4. Bella

      April 25, 2018 at 8:21 pm

      I’ve liked my crush, who is a good friend of mine, for a while now, and he found out I liked him. He didn’t really say much about it and has been normal to me since. What should I do?

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        April 25, 2018 at 9:00 pm

        It is likely that he is interested in maintaining your current relationship. It is likely that his feelings with be influenced in various directions during this time. Spend additional time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Allow him to reach out to you when he wants to develop a relationship with you, as he is aware of your feelings. Have a great day, Bella!

    5. Millie

      April 20, 2018 at 3:23 pm

      I told my friend hat I liked my crush and she told someone else who told him. He hasn’t talked about it. However he keeps looking at me in class. Do I go up to to him and tell him how I feel or text him??

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        April 20, 2018 at 10:03 pm

        It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may now know if he can trust the person who told him. He may be confused or uncertain about your feelings. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him a chance to share his thoughts as well. Have a great day, Millie!

    6. Millie

      April 20, 2018 at 3:17 pm

      I told my friend that I liked my crush and then she told someone else who told him and now he knows. But he hasn’t talked about it. However he keeps looking at me in class. Do I go up to him and tell him how I feel or do I text him?

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 20, 2018 at 9:59 pm

        It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may now know if he can trust the person who told him. He may be confused or uncertain about your feelings. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him a chance to share his thoughts as well. Have a great day, Millie!

    7. Hannah

      April 19, 2018 at 4:17 pm

      Hi, I like this guy and have for about six months. We’ve gone to the same school for three years but have never really talked. My best friend is friends with him and I asked her to tell him for me, and it’s been a week and he hasn’t said anything to me. I don’t know if I should, or if I should just let my best friend talk me up a bit more. I could always text him and confirm it myself, but I’m afraid because he’s shy and we haven’t really talked.

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        web admin

        April 19, 2018 at 10:35 pm

        It is possible that he is shy. He may be confused or uncertain about his feelings. You may want to speak with your best friend about her thoughts regarding this relationship. You can also speak directly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Hannah!

    8. Rachel

      April 15, 2018 at 10:22 am

      there’s this boy who I’ve been friends with for a few months but I’ve always really liked him so I texted him how I felt and this was his response: Hey! I just wanted to say you shouldn’t be afraid of your feelings, even if the other person doesn’t feel the same way. Embrace it! You’re an amazing friend that I wanna keep and I wouldn’t do anything to jeopardize that. I’m glad you told me! Thank you😄

      I kind of don’t know what this means….help?

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        April 15, 2018 at 11:13 pm

        He feels a strong emotional and social connection with you. He is unable or unwilling to develop a romantic relationship with you at this time. It is possible that his feelings will become more positive in the future. Continue to treat him with kindness and compassion. Have a great day, Rachel!

    9. Gabby

      April 11, 2018 at 10:20 am

      I recently told a guy friend that I liked him through text and he seemed pretty cool about it and asked me why I waited so long and stuff like that. It’s been 2 days since I’ve seen him and I’m really nervous about seeing him in person. Does this mean he feels the same way or he just cool about it.

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 11, 2018 at 10:03 pm

        It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may be confused or uncertain about why you are sharing your thoughts and feelings with him now. Determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Gabby!

    10. Tato

      April 1, 2018 at 7:52 pm

      Hi I’ve known this guy for a year an 4 months . He suggest me being his girlfriend on November 2017 , i ingored him and brushed it off because I wanted something casual . A few months into 2018 we’ve gotten intimate and i started to get to know him better , he’s amazing i should’ve said yes when I had the chance. Now he rarely texts me but when we meet it’s fireworks . He’s affectionate makes me laugh, he’s incredibly silly and shares stories about his past with me. I’m aftaid to tell him I like him but I will of course. I might loose a friendship or create a great relationship. I just hope his lack of texting doesn’t mean another girl has caught his attention since I rejected him.

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 2, 2018 at 7:47 pm

        It is possible that this person felt a strong emotional connection with you. You shared your thoughts and feelings with him. He realized that you were not interested in developing a relationship with him. His feelings for you may have changed. Determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Tato!

    11. Cathy

      March 29, 2018 at 9:23 pm

      Hi I told my crush that I might be falling for him and he replied that I was a nice and lovely girl however he’s the kind who needs time to understand and get attach to the person. We’re still going out and texting. What does this mean and how should I go on about it?

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        web admin

        March 30, 2018 at 8:20 am

        I would just take him at his word. Unless you are tired of waiting, take things slowly and see where things go. Good luck, Cathy!

    12. Cathy

      March 29, 2018 at 9:25 am

      Hi so I confessed to my crush this week and he said I was a nice and lovely girl however he’s someone who requires time to understand and attach himself with someone. We’ve been going out the past few weeks and we still exchange texts. What does this mean and how should I go on about this?

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 29, 2018 at 3:16 pm

        It may mean that it just takes time for him to open up. He might not be someone who falls in love instantly, so he needs time before he decides if someone is right for him or not. This does not mean that you have to wait for him, but if you want to be with him, you will probably have to be patient. As long as he said that he would like to go out with you or is interested in dating, then you can keep going out with him and see where things go. Sooner or later, he (and you) will figure out if you are the woman for him or not. Good luck, Cathy!

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