My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

By on March 1, 2015

So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.

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Relax and Smile

If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

Don’t Be Clingy

OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.

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If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.

Talk To Him

For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.

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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery

701 Comments

  1. rach

    December 7, 2018 at 12:04 pm

    i told my crush i like him today after school was over. i was really nervous at first but i calmed down and played it cool. after i said that i like him, he was silent for a couple of seconds but then he nodded his head and said “i figured.“ i didn’t know what to do so i said yeah and then he said see you later and he got on his bus. what do i do know?

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      December 7, 2018 at 7:47 pm

      You have shared your thoughts and feelings with him. He has responded, though his response was an indication of his uncertainty. It is likely that his feelings with grow over time. You may nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. You may want to give him an opportunity to share his thoughts and feelings with you as well. Have a great day, Rach!

  2. Rénee

    November 29, 2018 at 6:38 pm

    So, a couple days ago I told my crush I liked him through text. But before that we where talking everyday and everytime he saw me he would wave and say hi and always try to strike up a conversation. Well someone said something about me liking him and his sister who is my friend said that I didn’t. Well I was stressing out about it and told him that I did like him. But I’m not sure if he read the message, but now he doesn’t talk to me like we used to. I’m not sure if I did the right thing or not and I don’t know what to do. Any advice?

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      November 29, 2018 at 9:24 pm

      There may be various reasons for the change in his behaviors. He may be uncertain or confused about his feelings. He may have varying sources, and he likely does not know the truth about your feelings. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Ensure that you spend additional time with him in person, as this will nourish your relationship. Have a great day, Renee!

  3. Tee

    November 24, 2018 at 6:58 pm

    Okay so.. I told my crush through text that I really really like him.. But he told me he isn’t ready to date cause he’s busy and stuffs like that… But few days later I told him to forget everything I said about the liking thingy, that I ever told him… Did I do the right thing?
    And all he said was okay… Do you think he’s mad at me?

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      November 25, 2018 at 7:54 pm

      You shared your feelings with him. He explained that he was too busy to maintain a relationship with you, which is perfectly acceptable. You then told him that you took back your thoughts, which certainly caused him to feel confused. He has not given you a reason to hate you. However, you have shown him that your feelings change often, so he likely is going to take a step back from you at this time. In the future, tell the truth and do not play games with people’s feelings. This will help you in the future. Have a great day, Tee!

  4. Summer

    November 20, 2018 at 3:13 pm

    my best friend told my crush that i liked him and he said that he kinda knew but he said he might go for it. but i feel like it already awkward between us. what should i do?

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      November 20, 2018 at 8:01 pm

      He is aware of your feelings. You know that he is aware of your feelings and that he may be interested in maintaining a relationship with you at this time. Determine what you want for your relationship at this time. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Summer!

  5. Liz

    November 16, 2018 at 11:47 pm

    I told my crush I like him over text today but he hasn’t said anything yet, what should I do?

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      November 18, 2018 at 6:38 pm

      It is possible that he has not received your message. He may be uncertain or confused about his own feelings. He may not be sure about what to say, even if he is aware of his feelings. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him in person. Perhaps message him and ask him to meet you in person. Have a great day, Liz!

  6. Ashlyn

    November 16, 2018 at 9:28 pm

    he found out from another guy who used to like me and my friend asked him “hey how do you fee about Ashlyn?” and she said that he just kinda avoided the question and changed the subject, me and him text a bit and my friends say he stares at me but idk if i believe it i mean ive cought him looking in my direction several times but idk if he was directly looking at me and i really really like him and ever sense he found out he has been a bit different but not much he isn’t awkward tword me though which confuses me bc he read my “diary” so he definitely knows i really really like him but he doesn’t talk about his feeling ever pls help thank you! <3

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      November 18, 2018 at 6:33 pm

      He has read your diary, which means he is aware of your feelings. Your friends have mentioned that his behaviors are indications that he is interested in you. The two of you share a strong social connection. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Strengthen your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Ashlyn!

  7. leah

    November 12, 2018 at 9:33 am

    okay, so basically, everyone keeps saying my crush likes me back and then he doesnt, but yesterday my two friends found out he did but then today another girl said to him ‘(my name) likes u’ and he said ‘im gonna puke’ WHAT DO I DO!?!?!

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      November 12, 2018 at 10:27 pm

      His behavior was likely a reflection of his uncertainty and confusion. He likely wants to develop a relationship with you, though he was uncertain how to behave around this girl. Perhaps you will find benefit in speaking with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you do not, then he may start nourishing a relationship with someone else. Determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Leah!

  8. Riley

    November 7, 2018 at 5:21 pm

    okay my BFF told my crush I like him today, and she asked him if he liked me, and his face kinda turned red. sometimes we talk but not that often, I really want to know if he likes me back… So what do I do

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      November 7, 2018 at 9:24 pm

      His blushing may be an indication that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Your friend wants to support your relationship. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings. Ensure that you give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Riley!

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