My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

By on March 1, 2015

So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.

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Relax and Smile

If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

Don’t Be Clingy

OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.

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If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.

Talk To Him

For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.

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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery

663 Comments

  1. Alex

    September 19, 2018 at 11:49 am

    I had a crush on a guy for a whole school year and I told him at the beginning of th summer. He was nice to me but he wasn’t interested. Now the summer is over and we pass each other in the hallways and every time I look at him he is staring at me. My friend told me that she often sees how he watches me till I am out of his sight. Does he think I am crazy or he kind of consider the idea of liking me???

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      September 19, 2018 at 8:02 pm

      He is interested in developing a relationship with you. You shared your thoughts and feelings with him, and his feelings likely grew since last year. Determine what you want for your future. Your friend has shared her knowledge with you. Perhaps speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Alex!

  2. grace mitchell

    September 17, 2018 at 5:22 am

    So I have a thing for this guy at work, we have been talking for ages and he made it seem like he was also interested too. But a couple of days ago one of my co-workers told him about how I like him, this person is also telling my other co workers about this and I feel so embarrassed. The guy has still been talking to me but I am not sure if its because he feels bad or not, his friend also always sends me pictures of the guy I like smiling and I don’t know what to think. I feel so humiliated and I am not sure whether I should stop talking to him. Help please

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      September 17, 2018 at 11:01 pm

      Allow your feelings of embarrassment to fade. Everyone is still friends, and you will nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him. He is aware of your feelings. He is still spending time with you socially. Allow this relationship to grow, and decide what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him opportunity to do the same. Have a great day, Grace!

  3. Kylie

    September 10, 2018 at 2:38 pm

    Hey. so my friends told my crush that i like him but all he does is walk away and smile and my other friend also told him but i was sitting next to him and he smiled and said well this is awkward and then my friend told him to play along with it so he said oh yeah i like you too but it was a joke but he smiled while saying it…HALP

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      September 11, 2018 at 9:55 pm

      It is possible that his behaviors are indications that he is interested in develop a relationship with you. It is likely that he wants to spend additional time with you. This will help to strengthen your relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kylie!

  4. Jones

    August 23, 2018 at 7:19 pm

    So, I’ve worked with this guy for about 2 years now, about 2 months ago we became good friends and started talking everyday. We hung out a few times, I really started to like him. The last time we hung out he started a tickle fight and couldn’t keep his hands off me. Well I realized how much I liked him. I really thought he liked me too. He’s told me I was pretty several times, told me he gets all smiley when I’m around. All the signs were there. Even my bestfriend said she sees him looking at me often, and watches me walk away. Well I got up the nerve to tell him I like him, he said he was flattered but I didn’t want him cause he’s got issues, like with family and past stuff. He told me he didn’t want to hurt me and that he cares so much about me and loves talking to me. I don’t know how to take this, I don’t know how to act around him at work. We’ve hardly talked since. What should i do? I really feel like he likes me too. What’s my next step?

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      August 24, 2018 at 10:00 pm

      He shares a strong social and emotional connection with you. It is possible that he was interested in developing a relationship with you, but his personal life may be preventing a relationship. Continue to spend additional time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. You may want to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings in another few weeks. Have a great day, Jones!

  5. Lucy

    August 23, 2018 at 12:23 am

    This guy that I liked told me (accidentally) that he liked me, and I told him I liked him and we both want to have a relationship with each other but we are both too scared to say it.

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      August 23, 2018 at 6:57 pm

      Just go ahead and tell him that you want to start a relationship! You already know that he likes you, so there is no risk in telling him how you feel. On the bright side, even if you are too shy to make a move, it sounds like he will end up making a move of his own before long. Good luck, Lucy!

  6. Zozo

    August 20, 2018 at 5:42 pm

    So I went on a two week trip with this guy I never met before and ended up crushing really hard on him towards the end of it. I told him later that I liked him and wanted to get to know him better and it turned out he has a gf but still wants to get to know me better so we arranged to meet up. So we met up and it was cool and then texted for a little while the next day but the convo ended really wierdly and we havent talked since. He doesnt talk or post about his gf or anything and on the trip he didnt mention her once. The past convos ive started and I want him to start one and I just in general feel weird starting the convos because the last one ended really weirdly. I dont know what to do now because i dont know if hes still interested in becoming closer friends cuz he doesnt seem to be putting that much work into it. I cant see him in person anymore because i live in a different country and recently went home. I can only see him during the summer when i go back to visit. What should I do now?

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      web admin

      August 20, 2018 at 11:19 pm

      There may be a variety of reasons for his actions. The two of you live in different countries, and he may be unable or unwilling to nourish a long distance relationship. If he does not reach out to you, then determine what you want for your future without him. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Zozo!

  7. Chloe

    August 8, 2018 at 8:55 pm

    I told a guy i liked him in a note and he used to show signs that he liked ( or at least i thought he did) but it turns out he likes my friend and he still hasnt responded, i dont know what to do. I just want him to tell me how he feels honestly, no matter what his answer is.

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      web admin

      August 9, 2018 at 12:43 am

      You are interested in developing a relationship with him, and you are aware that he may have feelings for your friend. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with your friend about her thoughts. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Chloe!

  8. Girl

    August 6, 2018 at 9:20 pm

    So I told this guy I’ve known for about a year or two I’m crushing on him…but posted this on my Snapchat story for a tbh thing.He texted me about 10 minutes after but it was about being in my private story not what I said. I just said okay cause I don’t wanna push him to feel awkward if he has different feelings. How should I know if he likes me? Would he have said something by now it’s been 2 hours and he hasn’t texted me about it. Should I text him and ask what he thinks? Or not?

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      web admin

      August 6, 2018 at 10:50 pm

      It is possible that he is uncertain of how to act. He may be interested in develop a relationship with you. Perhaps speak with him directly about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. You may want to attempt to spend additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Girl!

  9. ivy

    July 29, 2018 at 10:32 pm

    I like this guy and my “best friend ” told him over s text in a group I was in so I have not talked to him yet and he already has a girlfriend but he does not talk about her or at school does not sit by her so I have no clue what to do now

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      web admin

      July 30, 2018 at 11:19 pm

      Your friend has told him about your thoughts and feelings. This guy is now aware of those feelings. If he is in a relationship, then do not attempt to develop a relationship with him. Explain your stance to your best friend, as it is important that your best friend is aware of your position. Share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Ivy!

  10. Girl

    July 17, 2018 at 10:54 am

    Ok so I told a guy I liked him i only met him that year at school and we became friends and we talked a lot. So I told him and he said that he didn’t know where his feelings were and that we should just stay friends and he felt really bad and kept apologizing but I’m the type of girl that doesn’t start crying I just kept saying it’s fine which it was then I said hey really it’s fine I don’t feel mature enough to date I just couldn’t keep the secret from you and he said yes I’m the same way I think I’ll start dating end of grade 10 (we just finished grade 9) if he found the right girl so I said if you change your mind hit me up and he said I will unless your already taken so I said hey what is we just stop talking about us until end of grade 10 then we will talk again and see where we are he agreed so I think that he will be thinking about all year and when end of grade 10 rolls around we will probably be dating and I’m really excited because he’s super sweet! If anyone has any advice about what I should do now pls help

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      web admin

      July 18, 2018 at 12:13 am

      He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. He is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future without him. If the two of you decide to date in the future, then enjoy your relationship. You do not need to wait for him, as you can establish another relationship if you wish to do so. Have a great day, Girl!

      • Eva

        July 24, 2018 at 2:07 am

        So it’s the start of the summer holidays and I texted my crush saying I like him, that if he like me back shall we see how it goes or if not then can we just keep it quiet as I don’t want it to be awkward when we go back to school.
        He hasn’t replied but my friend texted him saying to check his messages from me. He said he has but he doesn’t know what to say. I now have no clue whether he likes me or not but I’m worried I’ve completely ruined it. We’re friends and talk quite a lot at school but I’m stuck now. Hopefully if the answer is no the summer will let it blow over but I’m pretty scared. What should I do?

        • web admin

          web admin

          July 24, 2018 at 9:40 pm

          He is uncertain or confused about his feelings regarding this relationship. It would be beneficial for you to take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. You may find great benefit in spending additional time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Speak with him while you are with him, as this will give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Eva!

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