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    My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

    By on March 1, 2015

    So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.


    Relax and Smile

    If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

    If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

    Don’t Be Clingy

    OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

    Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.


    If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

    When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

    Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

    Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

    If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.

    Talk To Him

    For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.


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    1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery


    1. Ashley Michelle Wines

      November 9, 2017 at 7:22 am

      Well I really like this guy at work, I just established a friendship with him,about two months ago we txt, but he’s not a good texter, not even to his friends,we did a couple Pokemon raids together ,and he took me home and back to work afterwords, the last time we went he had me feel his hands❤, a couple coworkers knew I liked him. Well yesterday a manager came up and asked me If I was dating him , but wouldn’t tell me who said it, I just so happened to not see the guy all day long till I was ready to leave and he didn’t notice me, nor did he message me what do I do? Its been 5 years since ive been in a relationship,i don’t want to wait another 5

      • web admin

        web admin

        November 9, 2017 at 9:26 pm

        If you are not interested in waiting another five years to develop a new relationship, then take this time to look inward. Determine if you are interested in developing a relationship with this person. Decide if you this this person is someone that you can see yourself with for a long time. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Ashley!

    2. md

      October 30, 2017 at 8:31 pm

      i have this huge crush on this guy in school. he’s a varsity basketball player. i like him not because of his reputation but because I know he’s a really nice guy. He’s lovely inside and out. He’s smart, nice, a gentleman, hardworking, goal-oriented, etc. the kind of guy I really want to be with. He somehow reminds me of myself. I always see him in school but we don’t acknowledge each other. We only exchange glances every now and then. Good thing is, he’s friends with my friends, the reason why we got introduced to each other. I can tell we’re both really shy with each other. Later on, he knew I had a crush on him because my friends teased me in front of him. it was soo embarrassing. It was worth it though, cos afterwards, it really felt good knowing your crush always says hi and notices you whenever you see each other. He always put on this huge smile and waves his hand at me everytime. And I even caught him checking me out from top to bottom after he smiled at me. But we never really had the chance to have a conversation. We just say hi whenever we can. It wouldve been better if we were classmates. I even went to two of his basketball games without his knowledge, just to see him play and show support. One time, I checked out his fb profile (we’re not friends on fb tho but his shared posts are public), he shared this anime video (he likes animes) about a girl and boy who secretly liked each other and always bumped into but never talked. They had this special connection but they’re both afraid to speak up. I can relate to it with him so much. And he also tweeted about a girl he likes but he never had. Its like the universe is telling me something. I really like him. That I’m sure. But I’m uncertain if he feels the same way.

      • web admin

        web admin

        October 31, 2017 at 7:30 pm

        It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. It is clear that the two of you have a strong relationship. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Md!

    3. Kimberly

      October 17, 2017 at 11:22 am

      I send a note to my crush and told him I liked him. We don’t talk at all and how can I know he actually likes me? And how can I get his attention to like me?

      • web admin

        web admin

        October 17, 2017 at 2:36 pm

        If you gave a note to your crush and he has not spoken with you, then he may be unwilling or unable to establish a relationship with you at this time. He may not be sure that you have strong feelings for him. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Kimberly!

    4. Emily w

      October 8, 2017 at 3:46 pm

      So this person followed me on instagram and it just happens that I liked him and then I messages him and then I told him that I like him and he said that he would start to talk to me.Then we where just talking and then he said good night and then I said the same thing then this morning I said good morning and then we started to talk again and now I have to see him in school tomorrow. WHAT DO I DO?

      • web admin

        web admin

        October 10, 2017 at 7:22 pm

        It sounds as though the two of you have developed a friendship over your social media site. If you run across this person at school, then speak with him at that time. If either of you do not currently feel comfortable speaking with each other at school, then nourish your relationship over the internet. Within a few days, attempt to meet up with him in person. Have a great day, Emily!

    5. Jaelynn Combs

      September 27, 2017 at 4:37 pm

      My friend told my crush that i liked him. i told her to, but i don’t know what he said. what should i do?some people say i should take a break but others say i build a relationship with him. also i should directy talk to him.

      • web admin

        web admin

        September 27, 2017 at 9:03 pm

        You will find great benefit in speaking directly and honestly with this person about your thoughts and feelings. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. You will find that this person will be more interested in you if you speak with him. .Avoid sending other people to talk on your behalf from this point forward. Have a great day, Jaelynn!

    6. Asena

      September 11, 2017 at 12:58 am

      Just about a week ago, I told my crush that I *used* to have a crush on him. For some reason, I kept saying I used to but I still did, even at the time I told him. He kept saying he was surprised and then confessed he had a crush on me as well when we first met back in May but he lost interest when we stopped talking in June. But I noticed after I told him about it, we started to talk *way* more than we ever have and we both equally put in efforts regarding calling and texting. 2 of his friends (one of them is his best friend and the other is a good friend of his) told me he more than likely does like me because he talks about me to them randomly and just because of the fact that he has been talking to me more. His good friend said he doesn’t stay on the phone for hours just for the fun of it so that there has to be meaning behind it. However, his best friend said that he is not sure because my crush is good at hiding things but he said he is almost positive that he does like me. His best friend even told me that when they were hanging out, he told my crush that he’s gonna talk to me after they’re done hanging out but he called me “his girl” instead of saying my name. He said my crush got genuinely angry because he suspected it was me his best friend was talking about and my crush told him that he better not be talking about me. This was a few days before I told him I had a crush on him. I still have my doubts though because he hasn’t told me he does like me in the moment. So today, I called him and told him that not only did I used to have a crush on him, that I still do. His response was “I’m surprised.” I asked him why is it surprising and he wouldn’t tell me. At this point, I want to continue to pursue him because I really do like him but I wish he would be straightforward with me so that I would know if I am wasting my time or not. His good friend told me that he is not the type to lead a girl on and he has expressed before to her that he would hate to hurt me (this was before all of this happened, it was back in June). She said he’s kind of protective over me ever since he found out what happened between my ex and I, which lead him to hate my ex. Back in late July, he called me when he found out that I was talking to my ex again and he was angry. So what do you think? Does he like me or not? Oh and maybe I should add in the fact that he has been hurt a lot. He no longer believes in love anymore and he has really bad trust issues but I can tell he still really wants love.

      • web admin

        web admin

        September 11, 2017 at 10:07 pm

        It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. If you want to nourish your relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he is uncomfortable with strong emotional connections, then perhaps give him time to develop stronger feelings for you. This will help your relationship become stronger. Have a great day, Asensa!

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