My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

By on March 1, 2015

So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.

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Relax and Smile

If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

Don’t Be Clingy

OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.

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If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.

Talk To Him

For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.

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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery

851 Comments

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    Raptorsfan25

    February 10, 2020 at 2:47 pm

    Hi, my crush keeps on looking at me HELP!! And this is every day, I’m scared to go talk to him just if he doesn’t like me and starts spreading rumors!!

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    Raptorsfan25

    February 2, 2020 at 8:09 pm

    Someone told my crush that liked him, so now it is just awkward because his friends know me from elementary school. He stares at me at the passing period, he even talked to me, he leans on my desk, and also his friends sit next to me so I constantly am next to him. I don’t know what to do, I am not sure if he likes me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 3, 2020 at 8:12 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is interested in you. If he is not interested in a romantic relationship, it is clear that he wants to be friends with you. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship, and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings.

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        Raptorsfan25

        February 5, 2020 at 3:54 pm

        And also I have had dreams about this boy talking to me and being friends with me. Does that indicate something?

        • web admin

          web admin

          February 6, 2020 at 2:46 pm

          It may just mean that you want to have someone to talk to and to care about, which is why your subconscious mind keeps giving you these dreams.

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            Raptorsfan25

            February 6, 2020 at 3:39 pm

            Also, I’ve liked this boy since last August and I feel him looking at him. I’m nervous to go talk to him. HELP!!!

            • web admin

              web admin

              February 6, 2020 at 6:15 pm

              If he looks at you all the time, then it sounds entirely possible that he could be interested in you. Think of it this way: if you were to date each other, then you’d have to be able to talk to him. Talking to him now is the first step toward getting used to chatting with him so that you could potentially date. Plus, if he is as nervous about making a move as you are, you may never end up having a relationship if you don’t make a move. Go for it!

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    Roz

    January 19, 2020 at 6:01 pm

    I’ve been liking a boy for about 3 years, (i know that’s a lot) and valentines day is coming up. He already knows I like him and I never talk to him because I’m to scared… I wanted to give him a gift for valentines day but I’m worried about how he might react… Should I talk to him more before valentines day… To make it seem less awkward?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 20, 2020 at 12:26 pm

      If you are certain that he knows you like him, then you don’t have to do anything at all. He knows you like him, so he could make a move if he wants to. The fact that he hasn’t made a move may mean that he isn’t interested. If you do get him something for Valentine’s Day, just remember that you may not get the response you want.

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