My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

By on March 1, 2015

So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.

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Relax and Smile

If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

Don’t Be Clingy

OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.

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If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.

Talk To Him

For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.

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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery

808 Comments

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    Lawson

    September 13, 2019 at 2:10 pm

    I have a crush on a boy who I text a lot when i am having anxiety and he always calms me down. But today at school two people told him that I like him and another friend said he was making fun behind my back. He’s not the kind of boy to do that, and when we talk he gives signs that he is into me. What should I do?
    Please Help!

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      web admin

      September 13, 2019 at 6:54 pm

      It is likely that this friend who said he was making fun of you is jealous of your relationship, and it is unlikely that this friend that supports you is making fun of you. It is certain possible that he is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. At the very least, he is interested in being a supportive friend. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lawson!

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    I

    September 5, 2019 at 2:08 am

    My crush is my family friend. 2 years ago, we were friends, so I asked him what do you think about my friend xxx. He ran away. Recently, I have a crush on him, so my friend did that confession for me and he said he doesn’t know who I am, but obviously he knows me. I feel like he likes me too, but He is toooo shy to express it. He smiles at me and looks at me when I am around. My crush’s friend’s friend has a crush on me, so he asked my friend my number. My friend gave it to him. When my crush discovered that the guy likes me has my number, he stops looking at me and paying attention on me. Yeah……When I am around, he just stops talking and tells his friends that I am around by eye contacting. My friends told me to give up cause there is no point of keep doing that?

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 5, 2019 at 10:31 pm

      The two of you share a social relationship. His behaviors are indications that he may be interested in maintaining a romantic relationship with you. Your crush felt hurt by an action that was not your responsibility. It seems that you need to make a decision about what you want for your future. You will find great benefit in speaking with the people in your life about your thoughts and feelings. This will help clear up any misconceptions or concerns. Have a great day, I!

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    Q

    September 5, 2019 at 1:38 am

    My crush is a family friend, and my friend told him that I like him. Instead of saying no, he said he doesn’t know who I am. I feel like he likes me but he is shy to express it, for example he keeps looking at me when I am around. There is another dude who asked my number from my friend and he texted me. THIS DUDE IS MY CRUSH’S freind’s friend,. When my crush found out the dude who likes me have my number, he stops looking at me and pays attention on me, but when I am around he stops talking. My friends told me to give up on my crush because there is no point of keeping doing it.

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      Q

      September 5, 2019 at 2:00 am

      I feel like his friend knows that we both like each other in a long distance(like each other, but there is no talking)I he jealous when my friend gave my number to him?

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        web admin

        September 5, 2019 at 9:11 pm

        Your crush seems to be interested in you. It is possible that he is uncertain about your feelings toward him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If he does not want to nourish a relationship with you, then decide if you believe whether or not it would be appropriate to reach out to this other person who messaged you. Have a great day, Q!

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 5, 2019 at 9:11 pm

      Your crush seems to be interested in you. It is possible that he is uncertain about your feelings toward him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If he does not want to nourish a relationship with you, then decide if you believe whether or not it would be appropriate to reach out to this other person who messaged you. Have a great day, Q!

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    Mia

    August 28, 2019 at 10:08 am

    So I told a boy that I liked him and he was ok with it it as in he flirted with me back it was going on for around 2 months but as soon as we go back to school we are both very awkward and can’t talk to each other what do I do help

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 28, 2019 at 6:36 pm

      The two of you shared your thoughts and feelings with each other. The two of you are interested in maintaining a relationship, but you feel awkward and shy. You will find great benefit in nourishing this relationship by spending additional time together in person. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Mia!

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    Clara

    August 21, 2019 at 12:33 pm

    So this guy that I’ve knows ever since 5th grade (imma freshman) is really cute and I told him I liked him about all year ago, and he said he didn’t like me the same way. But lately (it’s been an entire summer break and a week of school) he’s been looking at me more, and most of the time I look back. But he even does it when I don’t. (I can see him out of the corner of my eye) Does he feel the same way now? Or is it just wishful thinking?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 21, 2019 at 3:50 pm

      You shared your thoughts and feelings with him a year ago, and he shared himself with you at that time. His feelings may have grown for you over the past year. He may be interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Make a decision about what you feel is appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Clara!

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    shi

    July 23, 2019 at 10:39 pm

    Ok so this boy I had been crushing on for a while had told me that he liked me over snapchat but he dated one of my friends but she was chill with it. I told him that i liked him back…….. I’m not sure if he still fees the same way….. what do i do now

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 24, 2019 at 7:56 pm

      He has informed you that he likes you. You told him that you like him as well. He was dating your friend, and your friend is okay with you nourishing a relationship with this person. Since this is the case, you should make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Shi!

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    shi

    July 23, 2019 at 10:39 pm

    Ok so this boy I had been crushing on for a while had told me that he liked me over snapchat but he dated one of my friends but she was chill with it. I told him that i liked him back…….. I’m not sure if he still fees the same way

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 24, 2019 at 7:55 pm

      He has informed you that he likes you. You told him that you like him as well. He was dating your friend, and your friend is okay with you nourishing a relationship with this person. Since this is the case, you should make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Shi!

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