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    My Crush Knows I Like Him and He Keeps Looking at Me : What to do Next

    By on March 21, 2016

    No matter how he found out, now he knows. Your crush finally knows you like him! What does he do with that information? Does he rush up to you and proclaim his feelings? Is he completely avoiding you because he doesn’t feel the same way?

    None of those? Well, what if he keeps looking at you over and over again without saying a word or making any moves? While this is the most annoying thing a guy can do after he finds out you like him, it’s one of the most common. Here is what you should do if your crush knows you like him and he keeps looking at you.

    But first…

    First let’s talk about what him looking at you could possibly mean:

    1. He’s Checking You Out

    Some guys don’t take notice to a girl until they find out she’s interested. This could be him just checking you out and deciding if he has feelings or not.

    1. He Feels Self Conscious

    He could just be the shy type and is feeling self-conscious about himself. He might be looking at you to see if you’re looking at him or not. If you are, he may alter his stance/position to look better.

    1. He Might Like You Back

    A lot of the time, when someone finds out you like them and they keep staring at you it’s because the feeling is mutual.

     

    What to do Next!

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    1. Smile at Him

    If someone knows you like him and he keeps looking at you, don’t just stare awkwardly. Smile!! Smiling at your crush is a perfect way to let him know you are friendly and approachable. Many men get intimidated and rather shy when they find out a girl is into them. It makes them nervous and they may not know how to approach the situation. So go ahead and smile. They’ll take it as a positive signal from you.

    1. Wave

    Don’t just leave it at a smile. He could mistake that for your politeness or not even realize you’re directing the smile at him. So send him a smile AND a wave. This shows that not only are you acknowledging him, but you’re making the first move to initiate some sort of contact. The next move is up to him.

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    1. Talk to His Friends

    If you really want to know how a guy is feeling towards you or even why he keeps looking at you when he knows you like him, ask his friends. They’re like the keeper of all guy secrets! Just start chatting up one of his friend and casually mention that your crush keeps looking at you and you want to know why. They might divulge what’s really going on in his head and it will no longer be a mystery to you!

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    1. Gauge his Body Language

    Body language gives away SO much more than people think. If you want to know what he’s thinking, just watch him for a little bit – just don’t be creepy about it. Firstly, if he’s looking at you after finding out that you like him, he must be thinking about you in some way. Is his body turned toward you? Does he keep looking at you even when you notice he’s looking? These are all signs that he might be into you as well.

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    1. Go Talk to Him

    For the love of all that is right in this world, JUST GO TALK TO HIM! The fact that he’s looking at you so much might mean that he’s just trying to get your attention. He could also be too shy to make the first move even if he does like you back. Or maybe he doesn’t know you enough to have those feelings and is just checking you out because maybe he wants to see if he likes you, too. Either way, you’re not going to find out by sitting back and watching him look at you from across the room.

    Guys are sometimes really difficult to decode. If you’re stuck figuring out why he’s looking at you, try these tips.

    129 Comments

    1. Grace

      January 19, 2018 at 4:28 pm

      Ok so my situation is sorta confusing. I like this guy who is the funny yet the athletic type. I’m in 7th grade and I’m new this year. I’m made this friend that told me to leave a note at his locker so I did. I didn’t know he had a girlfriend at the time. Then my friend said to give him my number secretly and to tell him in it to only text me. That day I saw that he told his girlfriend about it. I felt very anxious about the whole thing. Then at lunch he texted me. I then found out later that it was his girlfriend. I blocked her. So I’m in science with him and I saw him staring at me for a long time and smiling at me when I saw him staring. He always tries to sit near me. (It seems) He always make jokes and he always looks back at me when he does. It still happens even though he knows. He got rid of his girlfriend recently. I think his friends know because they always look back at me and then at him. Yesterday a guy turned him around facing me. He turned red. It’s really scary to talk to him because his friends know and he knows and he dosent really talk to me. Just stare and smile. Please help! I have no idea what to do!

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 19, 2018 at 10:00 pm

        It sounds as though he ended his relationship with his previous girlfriend. If he is single, then take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If he is currently in a relationship, then there is no reason to reach out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Grace!

        • Grace

          January 20, 2018 at 3:42 am

          He single and he broke up this year. It’s still really hard to talk to my crush. He always stares at me and smiles even after the letter. I’m not sure if if kids will make fun of me for it because it seems like his friends know. I forgot to tell you this before but in the first letter I said that I was doing this to not get embarrassed by the class or at him. I’m not sure if he’s being kind to not talk to me or dosent like me or just dosent care.

          • Grace

            January 20, 2018 at 3:44 am

            P. S. How should I start the conversation? (So it won’t be awkward)

            • web admin

              web admin

              January 20, 2018 at 9:54 pm

              It is best to be in person with the person that you want to share your feelings with. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Attempt to spend time with him in person, as this will strengthen your mutual feelings for each other. Have a great day, Grace!

          • web admin

            web admin

            January 20, 2018 at 9:52 pm

            It is possible that he wants to develop a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Do not allow your friends prevent you from developing a relationship with someone, unless they have serious concerns about the person’s behavior. Have a great day, Grace!

            • Grace

              January 21, 2018 at 9:45 am

              Hi again! One more question. Is there some way I can get him to talk first or have the nerve to talk to him?

              • web admin

                web admin

                January 21, 2018 at 9:48 pm

                It is always beneficial to have a idea of what you want for your future. If you want to develop a relationship with this person, then reach out to him. If you choose to wait for him, then it is possible that his feelings will fade or he will be confused or uncertain about your feelings toward him. Have a great day, Grace!

    2. Madyson Lawrence

      January 15, 2018 at 2:56 pm

      So I liked this guy since 5th now I’m in 6th . so he found out when we we at a pep rally and he asked me if I liked him and I panicked so I kept hitting him lightly with my lunching he kept smiling. Then a few weeks later in media arts the class was watching Hugo so he played beside me and said I know u like me and I panicked but he said it’s ok I like u too panicked again. Now we are in 6th we did a play together . He kept asking who I liked and finally he said is it me and I said I’m not answering that he said ooooo it is me . since then he kept sitting close to me and showing interest he even took a pic of me on his d.s . Now the plays over. We don’t talk . we aren’t in the same homeroom. But at lunch and in the hall he stares and looks deeply at me . Does he like me pls help me! Should I ask him out?

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 15, 2018 at 8:59 pm

        He is certainly interested in developing a relationship with you. It is likely that he is confused or uncertain about your feelings toward him. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Madyson!

    3. Madyson

      January 15, 2018 at 2:27 pm

      So I go to a school with him and have since 5th grade now I’m in 5th. So before he knew we hung out he HUGGED me a lot caz he hugs people he knows. But one day at a pep rally I told my friend Jasmine that I like like him and she said she won’t tell anyone . But at the end of the rally he comes up to me and says do you like me? I panic so I just keep hitting him with my lunch box… So ever since its awkward but one day in media arts our class was watching Hugo and he comes and lays beside me and says I know you like me and I panic but then he says its ok caz I like you too then I panicked again but ever since he kept hugging me teasing me . But. Now we did a play together so… He kept asking me who I liked and finally he asked is it me and I went into the girls part of the green room and said I’m not answering that.. But he said oooo it is me.. But he kept sitting next to me in the green room . he took a pic of me on his d’s . but now its over we don’t really talk we aren’t in the same class but every time in the hall he stares at me. At lunch he stares ! I need help! What does it mean?

      • Madyson

        January 15, 2018 at 2:28 pm

        I meant 6th

        • web admin

          web admin

          January 15, 2018 at 8:57 pm

          He is certainly interested in developing a relationship with you. It is likely that he is confused or uncertain about your feelings toward him. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Madyson!

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 15, 2018 at 8:57 pm

        He is certainly interested in developing a relationship with you. It is likely that he is confused or uncertain about your feelings toward him. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Madyson!

    4. michelle

      December 19, 2017 at 10:44 am

      I told my crush that I like him, but he said he doesn’t feel the same & he’s really sorry and hopes he didn’t hurt my feelings.
      But now after I told him about my feelings for him, we became closer than before at uni, he also smiles and stares at me more than before which is really confusing me. He’s way way way nicer to me now.
      is it because he feels guilty or because he started to like me back but won’t admit it?

      • web admin

        web admin

        December 19, 2017 at 5:54 pm

        It is possible that his feelings are developing. Attempt to spend additional time with him, as this will strengthen your mutual feelings. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If his feelings grow for you, then speak directly and honestly with him at that time. Have a great day, Michelle!

    5. Jennifer

      December 15, 2017 at 11:12 am

      Before i keep staring at him
      He notice that i keep staring at him
      And after 1 month i doesnt stare at him that often
      But he keep staring at me
      What does that mean?

      • web admin

        web admin

        December 15, 2017 at 8:30 pm

        It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may be confused or uncertain about your feelings toward him. Take this time to determine what you want for this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Jennifer!

    6. Michelle

      December 11, 2017 at 9:30 pm

      my crush knows that i like him because my friends text my crush and told him that i like him and then he didn’t reply my friends text now he start to looking at me. what i m going to do

      • web admin

        web admin

        December 12, 2017 at 7:34 pm

        It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may be confused or uncertain about his thoughts and feelings. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Michelle!

    7. Madeline

      November 27, 2017 at 8:50 pm

      I met this one dude at my church youth group about a year ago and I guess I found him attractive. He plays the drums really well for his age (he is a year older than me) because the boys at my school are not like that.. anyway on Thursday’s I go to this thing for middle and high schoolers to talk about God and stuff. First, we worship and he is always playing the drum kit. I try to look at him when I don’t think he’s looking but several times he looks back at me when he isn’t playing his drums. I don’t know how long stare lasts because I always look away quickly. I know his name and one time he volunteered to play musical chairs and he was the winner. I remembered he likes Snickers (candy) 7 out of 10. I may or may not have a crush on him?? I don’t know him well. We have the same beliefs, he plays the drums REALLY well, and he is cute. I don’t know what to do! I think he most words I’ve ever said to him was “hi” maybe once. I know he plays football so I even Googled his name (I actually found out his name by searching it on Instagram). I have softball practice on Tuesdays and Thursdays so I love when I get to skip the Thursday’s. It’s like I can’t stop thinking about him but I want to stop because 1. He is a year older than me 2. Doesn’t go to same school 3. Doesn’t even notice mee. I wish he would notice me or try to talk to me but I don’t think he would talk to me. I wish he would know that I may (or may not) like him but then I don’t because that would be weird. I actually don’t know if I have a crush on him. I think I do- I’m pretty sure I blush when he looks at me (but I look at him first, he just catches me staring). I don’t know what to do! Should I try to forget about him and move on? What do you think?

      • web admin

        web admin

        November 28, 2017 at 6:05 pm

        You have said that you want to stop thinking about him, though it is clear that you have developed feelings for this person. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide if you believe that this relationship has a chance of overcoming the concerns that you have mentioned. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Madeline!

    8. Ava Rink

      October 14, 2017 at 1:58 pm

      So my crush knows I like him and before he knew we would talk a little bit but he didn’t ever really acknowledge me in fact he’s pretty popular and I’m not. But the day after he found out I could feel him staring at me every chance he got in the classes we have together. When I then looked up at him he would look away. We also sit right next to each other in one of my classes and when we were taking a quiz we both had our noses in our papers and were completely stiff. It was sooooo awkward. Also, that day I could smell his cologne and I had never smelled any cologne before. He is a sweet Christian guy but he is popular and a football player and so I just don’t know if he likes me back especially because of my “school status”. It has only been two days now, how do I know if he likes me or not/should I say something?

      • web admin

        web admin

        October 15, 2017 at 7:46 pm

        Take this time to determine what you want with this relationship. If you want to develop a relationship with this person, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Do now allow your concerns about social standing prevent you from speaking with him. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Ava!

    9. Selena

      September 29, 2017 at 12:14 pm

      So it’s my fourth week into high school and there’s this guy in my science class. I didn’t like him at first and barely acknowledged his presence, but when I caught him staring at me one day, he caught my eye. It took about 3 days to develop this crush for him. I always catch him staring at me, and when he does, he immediately looks away. So I told my friend a few days ago and she was like “omg let me hook you two up” and I was nonono, it’s okay. But she did. She told him at lunch today, when he was with his friends. He said he never even noticed me until now. When my friend told me that she told him, at the beginning of class, I blew. Then he walked in, sorta blushing, and then my friend called him out. He didn’t look at me but he looked at her smiling, and blushing. I didn’t make eye contact at all after that. The worst part is, we don’t even talk. What do I do? How do I know he likes me? ?

      • web admin

        web admin

        September 29, 2017 at 7:59 pm

        It is possible that he likes you. He may be confused or uncertain about his thoughts and feelings. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him the opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Selena!

    10. Evelyn Kate

      September 9, 2017 at 7:06 pm

      I have a crush on this dude in school and it’s really bad. I kinda followed him and got as much info as I could from people. But I’m to shy and I think he notices that I like him cause he sees me sometimes and stares, but then that’s about it…he makes no moves or anything and just looks up when he sees me. I really really like him…but am really self conscious and shy to talk to him. And I think he thinks I’m a creep cause I’m always around were he is…I need some help…

      • web admin

        web admin

        September 9, 2017 at 10:19 pm

        It is possible that he is aware of your feelings toward him. He may be confused or uncertain about your feelings toward him. He may want to establish a relationship with you or he may not want to. Your best option is to take this time to look inward. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Evelyn!

    11. Sugar

      August 16, 2017 at 2:54 pm

      (So, before I start I’m sorry if I don’t seem to make sense and also sorry for my grammar mistakes)
      There is this guy who caught my eye about a year ago. He just looked really cute. I didn’t even know this guy’s name and here I was developing an interest in him. But then a couple of months later, we were both at this camp together which was where I learned his name. I am pretty sure he knows I like him because I stare at him often. For about a month I didn’t see him so I assumed he was on vacation. So I was sitting down one day when I noticed in my peripheral vision somebody staring at me. I looked back and noticed my crush staring at me. I met his eye and held contact. Then he looked the other way. I turned back around as well. But then I noticed again that he was staring at me. This time though I didn’t meet his eye. This was the day that he came back from his “vacation”. I have poor vision and that day I had forgotten my glasses at home so I cannot be completely sure if he really was staring at me. But then again, these sort of situations have happened a couple of times and he is always the first one to look away.
      My friend seems to think that he is only staring because he knows me. (He knows me because of a math competition we were both at, he only knows my name, I think)
      And I think that he is only staring at me because he knows that I like him. But I want your opinion on this. I don’t want to get my hopes up for something that is never going to happen.

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 16, 2017 at 8:46 pm

        It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may want to speak with you, but he may be too shy to make the first move. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him the opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Sugar!

    12. Chloe

      August 10, 2017 at 1:53 pm

      Hello! (This is a bit of a messy story lol)
      So, I have a crush on a guy who I was 95% sure liked me. (He stared a lot, his friends teased him, matching body language, etc. He was very self conscious though, and when it seemed like he was showing any feelings of any sort, he would back off.) I even overheard him talking to his friend in the school hallways about “admitting his feelings to ‘her'” then falling completely silent when he noticed me. (There were a bunch of other signs too.)
      On the last day of school, I think I accidentally hurt my crush’s ego by not engaging in his pretty straightforward attempt at trying to flirt with me. (It was this really warm smile with no possible way to classify as a “friendly smile,” it was extremely obvious it was flirting.) Another sign this wasn’t a usual smile was I saw his friends pushing him around and laughing silently afterwards.
      But anyway, he started ignoring me after that event. I finally decided to tell my crush I liked him the same day, since I wasn’t sure when I would see him again. (It was the last day of school.)
      His reply was an “I don’t know,” at first and then when I asked him to give a straight answer, he said “…I don’t know, I don’t like anyone at the moment.”
      He then proceeded to ignore me on all social media for three weeks, started interacting with me online again for a short period of time, then ignored me again. My friend tried messaging him telling him to stop ignoring my messages, because it was rude. He obviously didn’t listen.
      Then during school enrollment, we had a camp for new students. He was there but always stayed far away from me, leaving where he stood when I got close. I caught his eye once or twice from a distance when it was almost certain I wouldn’t look and see him.
      (I think he also tried to get a last glance when leaving the room.)
      Will this thing between us go anywhere? And should I wait for him or move on?

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 10, 2017 at 2:51 pm

        It sounds as though the two of you were interested in developing a relationship with each other and then your mutual feelings faded. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you want to reach out to him at this time, then do so. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he is not interested in nourishing a relationship with you, then allow you thoughts of him to fade. Have a great day, Chloe!

    13. missy

      June 7, 2017 at 2:24 pm

      I really like this guy but he’s shy and I am too he always looks at me and recently when I’m behind him he pretends to look back but he looks at me he is really nervous around me. I like him but I’m scared his friends will make fun of me the last time I liked him he found out but now I like him he doesn’t know I really want him to talk to me

      • web admin

        web admin

        June 7, 2017 at 5:31 pm

        Your best option is to speak directly and honestly with him. This will help him feel more confident about himself and more willing to share his ideas and thoughts with you. You know that he is interested in you, but he may not know that you are interested in him. That is why you should take action at this point in time. Have a great day, Missy!

    14. tring

      May 29, 2017 at 11:01 am

      Hi! I Have a crush on this guy in my school for about 2 years. I think its not a crush anymore since its a bit longer. I think he found out that I liked him because my friends are so obvious and attempted to chat him. They even love-chained us on Valentines Day. And when its my bday they asked the guy to add me on facebook. I was so happy but when I found out that my friends just forced him, I was a bit sad. I made the first move by chatting him that I was sorry because of my friends. Then on the other day, I asked him about anime and stuffs that he likes and I ask for his advice what to watch. Then our convo started there. Then he was so friendly and he was lauging at my jokes through chat. At first I was the only one initiating our convo, and now he’d doing it too. But I think its also the worse thing that my friend invited him to be a part of her 18 roses sice they aren’t that close. He asked advice for me. Then months passed we stopped chatting, I miss him. And jut recently my fb friend chatted the guy an told him that you are my making my friend happy. I was so mad because I should be the one who will confess not her. So things got awkward. I saw him today because its enrollment at school. In fact I encountered him for so many times. I didn’t look at him, I can’t. I was just shy that he might think that I was too desperate and obsessed. So when I went out of the office we see eye to eye and I swifted my glanced away quickly. Then the last part he was in the room when I entered and I know in my instincts that maybe he’s looking at me cause I was standing in front of him waiting for my number. I know he was looking at me so I didn’t even looked back. I just find my sit. What should I do? I was so confused and the next time I want to smile at him.

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 29, 2017 at 1:03 pm

        Talk to him! He has continued talking to you, even though it sounds like he probably knew already that you liked him. There is a decent chance that he could like you. Whatever the case, you will have to get over this awkwardness sooner rather than later, so just start talking to him again. Act like nothing happened–if he does like you, he can always make a move. I would stop ignoring him though because he may think that you stopped liking him or are angry at him.

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