My Crush Knows I Like Him and He Keeps Looking at Me : What to do Next

By on March 21, 2016

No matter how he found out, now he knows. Your crush finally knows you like him! What does he do with that information? Does he rush up to you and proclaim his feelings? Is he completely avoiding you because he doesn’t feel the same way?

None of those? Well, what if he keeps looking at you over and over again without saying a word or making any moves? While this is the most annoying thing a guy can do after he finds out you like him, it’s one of the most common. Here is what you should do if your crush knows you like him and he keeps looking at you.

But first…

First let’s talk about what him looking at you could possibly mean:

  1. He’s Checking You Out

Some guys don’t take notice to a girl until they find out she’s interested. This could be him just checking you out and deciding if he has feelings or not.

  1. He Feels Self Conscious

He could just be the shy type and is feeling self-conscious about himself. He might be looking at you to see if you’re looking at him or not. If you are, he may alter his stance/position to look better.

  1. He Might Like You Back

A lot of the time, when someone finds out you like them and they keep staring at you it’s because the feeling is mutual.

 

What to do Next!

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  1. Smile at Him

If someone knows you like him and he keeps looking at you, don’t just stare awkwardly. Smile!! Smiling at your crush is a perfect way to let him know you are friendly and approachable. Many men get intimidated and rather shy when they find out a girl is into them. It makes them nervous and they may not know how to approach the situation. So go ahead and smile. They’ll take it as a positive signal from you.

  1. Wave

Don’t just leave it at a smile. He could mistake that for your politeness or not even realize you’re directing the smile at him. So send him a smile AND a wave. This shows that not only are you acknowledging him, but you’re making the first move to initiate some sort of contact. The next move is up to him.

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  1. Talk to His Friends

If you really want to know how a guy is feeling towards you or even why he keeps looking at you when he knows you like him, ask his friends. They’re like the keeper of all guy secrets! Just start chatting up one of his friend and casually mention that your crush keeps looking at you and you want to know why. They might divulge what’s really going on in his head and it will no longer be a mystery to you!

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  1. Gauge his Body Language

Body language gives away SO much more than people think. If you want to know what he’s thinking, just watch him for a little bit – just don’t be creepy about it. Firstly, if he’s looking at you after finding out that you like him, he must be thinking about you in some way. Is his body turned toward you? Does he keep looking at you even when you notice he’s looking? These are all signs that he might be into you as well.

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  1. Go Talk to Him

For the love of all that is right in this world, JUST GO TALK TO HIM! The fact that he’s looking at you so much might mean that he’s just trying to get your attention. He could also be too shy to make the first move even if he does like you back. Or maybe he doesn’t know you enough to have those feelings and is just checking you out because maybe he wants to see if he likes you, too. Either way, you’re not going to find out by sitting back and watching him look at you from across the room.

Guys are sometimes really difficult to decode. If you’re stuck figuring out why he’s looking at you, try these tips.

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    Kathryn

    March 23, 2019 at 1:34 am

    Ok my crush does stare and smile at me, he deliberately moves chairs or tables to see me, at lunch he was walking by and he saw my best friend and stopped and looked over looking for me but when he noticed I wasn’t there he walked away, he is always around me somehow, his friends keep friending me and inviting me to things like to hang out or just talk, he knows that I like him because I sent him a later two months ago but he hasn’t told me anything, he told my friends oh ok when he received it and he opened it later and he looked happy but my friend Eric said he looked sad but I don’t believe him since he didn’t see josh because he wasn’t the one who gave him the letter or say his reaction, he doesn’t even know josh I do because we are friends. It seems like he wants to talk to me because he so close to me but backs away idk if that’s him giving me hints he feels the same way or what. He stares at me and when I catch him he just still stares and smiles at me. Does he like me and what should I do? We are friends but ever since that letter I have been kind of avoiding him because I am embarrassed, he looks sad because I am not talking to him.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 23, 2019 at 1:58 am

      His behaviors are indications that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. His friends are attempting to help the two of you maintain a relationship. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Kathryn!

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        Kathryn

        March 23, 2019 at 11:26 pm

        Ok I am going to talk to him and give him a chance to explain his feelings for me. Thank you and have a good day!

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          web admin

          March 25, 2019 at 11:47 pm

          Thank you for sharing your support comment. It is always beneficial to speak with the people in your life about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Kathryn!

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        Kathryn

        March 23, 2019 at 11:28 pm

        A romantic relationship?

        • web admin

          web admin

          March 25, 2019 at 11:49 pm

          Determine what you think is appropriate, and take whatever actions will lead you to your goal. Have a great day, Kathryn!

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    Ale

    March 19, 2019 at 5:43 pm

    So I have liked a man for…a while. Over a year and a half. I had caught him checking me out and decided to ask him out to his face. He seemed surprised that I asked him and told me he had a gf. I let it go, didn’t pursue it. Then over this past summer, he started staring at me more, smiling more. He was no longer looking when he thought I didn’t notice, he was locking eyes with me and talking to me in short bits. He’s not sociable to the other women around us or anyone else, but readily greets and speaks to me. I can tell he’s shy and introverted. I’m actually not. So I feel that this guy is into me, knows that I like him from when I previously asked him out, and is currently single from how he treats me now as opposed to how he used to treat me when he was definitely seeing someone. Plus some light searching on social media confirms that he’s probably single.

    So knowing that he’s shy and I am really outgoing, I figure the best way to let him know I’m single is to ask him out by a quick letter-yes stationery- to ask him to drinks and gave him my cell and told him to text me. He has the letter. No response. I also picked this way to be more discreet in asking as we are rarely one on one.

    He still checks for me. I really don’t know what to do. I am quite sure that I’m not nuts or that I have misinterpreted his nonverbal signals. I “internetted” for a while to make sure I didn’t humiliate myself a second time asking him out. Should I leave him alone or what?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 19, 2019 at 11:08 pm

      His behaviors may be indications that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. You have determined that he is single, so make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Ale!

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    Pan

    March 16, 2019 at 1:23 am

    Hi. My crush knows that i like her and i’m a girl. We are both bi but she’s masculine. Awhile ago i was crying and my friend caught her looking at me. She also laughs at my joke secretly, my other friend also caught her. And yesterday, i tweeted something and when she got to our class. I wasn’t around. She talked about my tweet out of nowhere. And she was teased by her friend but…. she likes another girl and she does not like her genuinely, said by the others.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 16, 2019 at 11:24 pm

      You are interested in developing a relationship with this person, and it is certain possible that she wants to maintain a relationship with you. Make a decision about what you want for your future at this time. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings, and give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with her in person. Have a great day, Pan!

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    Camille

    March 8, 2019 at 8:34 pm

    Hi,
    My friend knows I like this guy and I’ve never had to go up and talk to him. During a conversation with her through text, there was a longer pause? She suddenly sent a picture she took of a text with someone else. I looked closer and she was texting him about my crush on him. She said that I thought he was hot and wanted his phone number. The thing that shocked me, is that he said okay and actually gave it. My friend kept on taking pictures of what what happening in her convo with him. He wanted to know who I was and my friend sent a picture of me and her. I was so frustrated but glad he knew now. I just didn’t want him to find out this way. Suddenly she said that he was going to text me because she gave him my number. I was scared and freaking out. He texted “Heyy”. We texted a bit after that. My friend told me that she was going to introduce us the next time we see each other. I don’t know what to do when I see him?!! I’ll either end up stuttering or sprinting towards the bathroom. I’m really nervous and need lots of advice to help me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 9, 2019 at 7:21 pm

      Your friend has been clear about your feelings, and he is likely excited that you are attracted to him. He likely will think that you will be honest about your feelings. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with him will be beneficial for your relationship. When you see him in person, speak with him directly. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Camille!

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