15 Topics to Talk About With Your Crush

By on September 14, 2014

There’s a few things in life that are just obnoxiously nerve-racking: your first job, getting your license, graduating, and of course- talking to your crush. What are you even supposed to talk about? You don’t want to bore him to tears, but you also don’t want him to notice your teeth chattering with nervous jitters. Put your worries to rest and ease your nervous habits by using one (or why not ALL) of these 10 topics to talk about with your crush.


1. Him

about him

What do people absolutely love to talk about no matter what? THEMSELVES. You can’t go wrong with using him as a topic. It not only shows that you are interested in learning more about him, but I guarantee he won’t have a problem rambling on and on about himself- in fact, he will enjoy it. So go ahead and use him as a topic. Get him talking with interesting questions like the traditional “How are you doing today?” or more invasive questions like “What’s your biggest goal in life?” There’s hundreds of questions you could be asking him!

2. Common Interests


If the two of you have something you both enjoy, then talking about this particular topic should be a breeze- and it should be fun, too! Now, it’ll be easy to strike up this convo if you’re sure you share a certain interest (for instance you’re both on a basketball team). But if you don’t know what common interests you share, you might need to do a little bit of prying. This roots back to topic number 1- asking HIM about HIS interests until you find something you enjoy too.

3. His Interests



The best way to get someone to open up and get them talk a lot is to ask them what they find interesting in life. Ensure you keep your crush interested by getting to know his interests. Whether is maybe NASCAR racing or watching documentaries on the deep blue sea, get to know the person you like on a totally different level with this intricate topic.

4. Current Events


When you don’t have anything to talk about, what’s the easiest route to go? Current events, of course. When the convo starts fizzling out or you simply need a conversation starter, try thinking of a cool or interest current event that’s going on in this world. It could be something serious you saw on the News or something silly you saw on TMZ.

5. The Weather


Okay, I absolutely DO NOT mean asking “How’s the weather outside?” I mean, seriously. Don’t do this. You will look like a boring young lady that doesn’t know what to talk about with a   guy she likes- and that’s what we are trying to avoid. Instead of saying something traditional like that, kick it up a notch. If it’s extremely hot outside, try saying something like, “Oh my gosh, this heat is ridiculous! I’m in desperate need of an ice cream cone”, in which case we can only hope he will ask you out to a date at Cold Stone. At the very least it will get the conversation kick-started.

6. Life Experiences



This could end up being a really hilarious conversation about some of the most embarrassing moments of your life, but it could also end up being a rather serious convo where you discuss some major events that have happened during your lifetime. Either way, discussing life experiences is a great topic because the convo is practically endless. (Not to mention you’ll find out a TON more about this special someone you like!)

7. Compliments


Who doesn’t love a good compliment? I certainly can’t thin of anyone. Compliments not only make you feel good, but they are also excellent conversation starters. You could start off by telling him how awesome he looks in his new shirt, and the next thing you know you’re talking about the place he bought it from- which just so happens to be one of your all-time favorite shops. Look at that! A simple compliment led to a common interest, which obviously led to a long conversation with your crush. Oh- and he feels great about himself because a cute girl thinks he looks awesome in his new shirt. Win!

8. Anything Funny


Okay, ladies. I can’t stress this enough: men LOVE it when a woman has a sense of humor. So what better way to show your crush you have a rockin’ personality than by striking up a silly conversation? You could start off with a hilarious joke you heard, or you could bring up a funny topic you heard on the television earlier. The point is to make him laugh, and let the funny convo take off from there. Hopefully he will have a few funny things to add so the two of you can laugh the afternoon away!

9. Work/School

meeting room

If the two of you work together or go to the same school, this particular topic will come especially easy. You could talk about the workplace and what you love/hate about your job. You could talk about how terribly hard the math homework was last night. This could lead to a really intriguing conversation about where you see yourself in 5 years, what college you want to attend, what you plan on studying, or whether you’re planning to just drop school/work and go backpacking around Europe for a few months.

10. Questions Galore


At the end of the day, it all comes down to the questions. You have a crush on a guy, so you probably don’t know TOO much about him. There’s really no better way to get to know someone than by asking them questions. Plus, 99% of the population loves to answer questions. It makes us feel special! Ask him what his favorite band is. Ask him what his dream career is. Ask him what he’s doing this weekend. Whatever you do, just keep the questions rolling. This will definitely spark a conversation!

11. Family


Once you two start talking about family, you may find the both of you in a never-ending conversation with each other. This type of topic gives a great opportunity for you to really get to know more about each other. You can work to understand each other’s backgrounds, where you both come from and what your families are like. The convo may get just a tiny bit deep, especially if things like childhood and childhood memories get brought up. But in the end this is a talk-worthy topic to touch on!

12. Friends


Most people love talking about their friends. Usually because your friends are just as important as family and they tend to make a huge impact on your lives. Reminiscing about friendships and memories with good friends always keeps the discussion flowing smoothly. It could potentially bring a smile to your crush’s face and get him laughing, but sometimes it can do the opposite, so tread lightly. However, it will surely keep your tongues on a roll.

13. Sports


Most guys love talking about sports. Not all, but most. Bringing up sports could get him talking to you for hours and hours. It will especially keep the gears turning if you also love sports, too. You can talk about your favorite sport and your favorite players, as well as how well your teams are doing currently and what games you would like to see in the future. Who knows, maybe you could even ask him to see a game together! That’s the goal, isn’t it? To make future plans? Wink wink.

If he doesn’t love sports and neither do you, then you can move on and try the next topic.

14. Music


A lot of people say that music is everything to them in life. Sometimes music helps shape people into who they have become today and at times they hold their favorite music very dear to them. Bringing up music can brighten up your conversation with your crush. Everyone loves getting into a deep conversation about their favorite bands or artists. You can give each other ideas of new music to listen to or encourage them to listen to something you love and vice versa. Not only can music create a stronger bond between you, it can also give you an idea of what type of person your crush is.

15. Favorites


Be prepared, the list of favorites could go on and on and on… Everyone has a favorite something in every category. Ask him what his favorite food is. Then move on to things like colors, places to go, clothing brand, movies, television shows, animals, etc. There is an endless list of things you can discuss when it comes to all of his favorite things in the world and it will give you the chance to get to know him in ways you never knew him before! Maybe his favorite foods and movies are your favorite, too. You will never know until you ask!


What are some of your favorite topics to discuss with your crush?


  1. Bamisile Olanrewaju

    June 19, 2017 at 9:37 am

    Please I really like this girl my mom and hers are friends but me and this girl are not in good talking terms. She is in the university about 100 level and I am writing my final papers to enter the university . please what can I do

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 19, 2017 at 3:27 pm

      The two of you are at different points in your life and likely experiencing a variety of stresses. You may want to attempt to increase her feelings toward you by influencing her family. However, you may also want to allow her to have some time for herself. Reach out to her when she has more freedom. Have a great day, Bamisile!

  2. Need help

    June 14, 2017 at 3:38 pm

    So i think i have crush on a guy and we went out twice the second time we kissed and after that he texted me like we should finish it next time and am leaving the country like after 4 days and im not going to see him until after 4 months should i text him that we should go out before I leave or just forget about it ?! Plus should i tell hom that I like him or not

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 15, 2017 at 12:56 pm

      Take this time to determine what you want. If you think you would enjoy spending additional time with him, then reach out to him. If you want to visit other people or want to enjoy some time alone, then see him when you return. Have a great day, Need Help!

  3. Brigita

    June 14, 2017 at 9:30 am

    So I like one boy and I’m not sure if he likes me too. Everything started when in the shop he said to me ‘hi Brigita'(I’m foreigner and I’m a newbie at school). By that time I didn’t know him at all, even his name. And when he said hi to me and even pronounced my name correctly, I was shocked ’cause everyone r pronouncing it wrongly. After that time I hadn’t talked to him ’cause like I said I didn’t know him then.
    By accident I found his facebook and added him. That’s how I got to know his name. By the name I found his instagram and snapchat. I added him on snapchat and wrote to him for the first time. And then he asked to meet with him. But when we met with us there also was his best friend (which is my classmate). We met and after that time we hadn’t talked or texted me, only he was saying hi to me when we passed by each other at school. After long

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 14, 2017 at 2:27 pm

      He may have simply been a friendly person who wants to be your friend. He may also want to develop a relationship with you. You may want to reach out to him. This will give him a chance to share his feelings with you. Try to have a conversation with him the next time that you see him. Have a great day, Brigita!

  4. Tory

    June 7, 2017 at 8:46 pm

    I’m a boy.
    can I ask mine?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 8, 2017 at 1:32 pm

      Of course! Ask any questions that you want. Have a great day, Tory!

  5. Haley

    May 27, 2017 at 6:38 am

    There is a guy that I have feeling for and I found out that he has feeling for me but he is dating another girl what should I do bc I’m like his side chick

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 28, 2017 at 10:28 am

      I wouldn’t do anything. If you do anything now, you will potentially remain the other woman forever. If he does leave her for you, then you will have to worry that he will do the same to you. You know that he likes you, so just wait until he is single some day to do anything about it. Just be patient. Good luck, Haley!

  6. unknown

    May 25, 2017 at 2:05 pm

    There’s a guy I know and I have a crush on him. He knows that I have a crush on him.We rarely talked to each other and I always wanted to talk to him. He is a quiet guy and I want to know how to talk to him always.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 26, 2017 at 10:11 am

      Go talk to him! If he is also shy and quiet, then he may just be too afraid to make a move. One of you has to make the first move and start talking, or you will never get to be together. Go up and talk to him! If it goes well, try flirting with him or ask him to hang out with you sometime. Good luck!

  7. Dee

    May 4, 2017 at 12:07 pm

    So I like a guy I work with and we get along great and according to a few people he’s change since I’ve been around (in a good way). He’s a lot more joyful and bubbly. Only thing is neither one of us will make the first move and I’m starting to think maybe there is someone else in the picture. HELP PLEASE!!!!!!

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 6, 2017 at 1:17 pm

      You could always ask him if he has a girlfriend in a casual way. It would help you find out if he is taken and also serve as a hint that you do like him. If the answer is that he is single, then try to make another move. It seems like he is too shy to make a move or doesn’t know how you feel, so you may have to make a move if you ever want to be with him. Good luck, Dee!

  8. unknown

    May 2, 2017 at 2:24 pm

    I have a question. There is this boy I know and I have a crush on him. But he is my friend’s ex. But I want to know if he likes me because he likes to flirt with me calling me babe, love etc. So does he like me or what

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 3, 2017 at 1:59 pm

      It would be best for you to speak with your friend about her feelings about you dating her ex. If she is fine with it, then reach out to him. It is likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. If you want to date him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Unknown!

  9. Minus

    April 18, 2017 at 1:33 am

    What will i do when in in a situation where she wont noticed me and we are hard to talk even though we are best friends

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 18, 2017 at 10:26 am

      If you are best friends, then she should be speaking with you often. Continue to be there for her. If you find that she is paying attention to other people, then she may have a desire to establish friendships with numerous people. This is perfectly acceptable. Be there for her as the two of you move forward. Have a great day, Minus!

  10. Need advice

    April 14, 2017 at 7:26 pm

    Ok so I had a crush on this for so long we graduated 2 years ago I never got a chance to tell him how I felt about him now, we have each other on Twitter and I occasionally like or re-tweet his posts for him to notice me it worked and he dm me I was at work and messaged him 3 hours later but he asked for my number and never messaged me back how do I get back in touch with him should I dm him but what do I say we haven’t talked in months please help

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 15, 2017 at 11:16 am

      Send him another message. He may have been concerned about your response because of the delay in the message. Let him know that you would like to see him. This will give him the chance to try to speak with you. Good luck, Need!

  11. Chichi

    April 11, 2017 at 1:21 pm

    Hi. I have a guy I really like,he was chasing after me and I barely gave him attention, then he met a friend of mine, and they started dating, and when they broke up he came back to me, I realized I was in love with him..so I became clingy, he asked for some space, I left him Alone..until my friend who is his ex brought him up..I started missing him again. I asked him if we could meet. We met and had sex. So I told his ex. And it seems he turned that into an excuse to not have sex with me again. So he started rejecting me.

    I left him alone and I just started chatting to him again now, he only asks me questions when needed.he laughs with me. But sometimes he doesn’t even reply to my messages..even though I only what’s app him once per day (after leaving him alone for months)
    So he’s sending me mixed signals and I really like him. What do I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 12, 2017 at 8:33 am

      It seems like he is open to be friends after he had moved on, and that is all that he is looking for. You can always continue trying to be friends in the hopes that he wants something more later on, but it sounds like he has moved on and only wants to be friends with you.

  12. pipi

    April 8, 2017 at 3:26 pm

    Hey,I recently reconnected with an old friend. we have been talking for a weeks now. The problem is that when we talk at times I tend to be speechless and he gets me so much that it scares me. I am also afraid he uses my insecurities to get to me and he is always sure that we will end up together and not to fight it but I am afraid that he may be just another fringe player.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 9, 2017 at 9:51 am

      Keep talking to him. See if he supports what he says by what he does–as the saying goes, actions speak louder than words. Try to draw him out a bit by getting him to talk about himself. People naturally like to talk about themselves, so it is one way for you to keep the conversation going fairly easily. Over time, you can gradually get to know him better and make sure that he really is the right person for you. Good luck, Pipi!

  13. Katherine

    April 7, 2017 at 2:27 pm

    So, my crush often talks to me because we sit next to each other in class. We are watching a movie in class and he sits really close to me. Also, we had few flirty conversations. I often find him looking at me when I’m not looking at him. However, I often find myself speechless I never know the right things to say, and I want to start texting him but I don’t know how to start. What should I say? We have three of the same classes, we both like sports, and we have some of the same friends.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 8, 2017 at 8:55 am

      Start by saying hello! Ask him how his favorite sport is going or when his next match is. If you both have sports in common, it will be easier to keep the conversation going once you begin to talk to each other. I wouldn’t worry too much though–if he likes you, he is going to be so nervous about saying the right thing that he won’t even notice if you seem a little awkward. Go for it!

  14. saj

    April 7, 2017 at 8:25 am

    i have crush with someone.currently we are chatting each other. But the fact is that i always need to start a conversation and it ends so fastly .I need to talk more but i cant . He is so funny and many times u become speechless before him . We had chatted with all matters that u had mentioned here. How can i improve my chat plz help me

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 7, 2017 at 9:43 am

      We have a number of articles with different topics that you can talk about with your crush and questions to ask–make sure to check them out. It is always hard finding things to talk about early on in the relationship, so this is a normal experience. Keep trying, and it will gradually get easier to talk to him. Good luck, Saj!

    • Larkin-Hannah

      April 7, 2017 at 3:03 pm

      So there’s this boy who I’ve liked for 2 years and he seems like he could like me but only sometimes bc he’s really moody. Sometimes he’ll talk to me for hours sometimes he’ll give me one word answers. I just want to tell him I like him but don’t want to make a fool of myself. I want to talk to him but don’t know what to say. Please help

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 8, 2017 at 9:09 am

        Keep talking to him about whatever you can think of. Try to talk to him about his interests, dreams and goals because that will hopefully draw him out a bit–people naturally like to talk about themselves. We also have other articles on Her Interest that have topic starters, questions to ask your crush and signs that your crush may like you. Make sure to check them out! Good luck, Larkin-Hannah!

  15. August

    April 5, 2017 at 6:37 am

    I rly like this guy and I’m starting to think he likes me too but recently found out my friend likes him too. He often goes to her to get advice about me and to talk about me. What do I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 5, 2017 at 9:24 am

      First, you should make sure that your friend knows that you like him. Otherwise, it will seem like a betrayal if you suddenly start dating him. After that is sorted out, make a move. If he is trying to ask your friend for advice about you, then there is an excellent chance that he likes you. Go for it!

  16. Chantel

    April 2, 2017 at 10:12 pm

    So there is guy I have a crush on and he recently found out and on whatsapp he is asking me if its true so must i agree that I do or will it ruin things between us

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 3, 2017 at 12:04 pm

      I would tell him yes. If he is trying to find out if it is true, it is probably because he likes you. If you tell him that you don’t like him, it would make him give up and lose hope in being with you. Tell him the truth, take the risk and see what he does. If he cares about whether you like him or not, then he is probably interested in you. Good luck, Chantel!

  17. amr

    March 6, 2017 at 9:12 am

    is there any way to contact you admin cause it is a
    long story

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 6, 2017 at 9:39 am

      The easiest way is to just leave a comment. I can read and respond to it once you have sent it. Thanks!

  18. Amber

    March 5, 2017 at 4:17 pm

    Okay so I have a question
    “Does he like me?”
    I have this guy friend and I really like him. We chat on Snapchat and I’m new to it, and recently I found out that he’s been saving our chat messages all this time (all this time i didnt know you can save messages) because he told me to save our messages and i told him that our messages doesn’t disappear for me, and he said “duh ik they dont. cuz i save them all lol”
    So I asked him why does he want me to save them and he said “cuz they disappear and i wont have all these memories”
    (idk if he does the same thing with his friends)

    We also talked about crushes, I asked him who was his recent ex crush, but he refused to. Which is strange bc it’s an EX crush, so I didn’t understand why does it matter if he doesn’t like the person anymore. I also tried asking him if he has a current crush, but he flat out ignored that one.

    And now, I sent him a picture of me when I was little, I told him of how my friend couldn’t recognize that it was me. He said “that does not look like you” with the surprised emoji. And then he said “you should come to school with those pigtails”

    So my question I need help, Does he like me?
    (idk if this helps but he’s older than me)

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 6, 2017 at 9:31 am

      It sounds like he likes you. He probably did not want to talk about former or past crushes because that is not normally a topic of conversation with someone that you like. And, you could be the current crush, so he did not want to tell you that. It sounds like he thinks that you are cute and likes you. The fact that he saves all of your messages is rather sweet and shows that he cares. If you like him, you can either make a move now or wait for him to do it.

      • Amber

        March 6, 2017 at 4:24 pm

        Haha he said “you are so cute in that picture. what happened?”
        (teasing lol)
        And there’s something else I didn’t say before. So, there’s this girl that’s been longer friends with him than me- they’ve known each other since their freshman year. And I found out that they both liked each other during their Junior year but never dated bc timing was off and they both moved on.
        Last friday he told me he was going to skip lunch and advisory to withdraw money from his bank account to give it to someone, saying it’s “important.”
        Well, I saw his story on Snapchat and it was him and the girl at the movie theaters.
        I was a bit bummed out, but I tried to remind myself that its a thing friends do, watching a movie together. But when its your crush and his girl friend/ex-crush, you gotta cut me some slack from being jealous and worried. But he did say that crushes ends badly so he decided to chill out with that type of stuff.
        Last night, i asked him for music recommendations (seeking advice from your website lol) and he gave me a bunch of hip-hop artists. And he goes “didnt you say you liked Guns N Roses?” and I was like “damn you remember I said that?”
        and he said “ya. I try to remember everything about my friends.”
        (even though he called me a friend, I still felt special bc I said I liked that band ONCE in November) And I mentioned his birthday bc his birthday is coming up soon and he said “damn you remembered mines”
        So, new question.
        Do you still believe he likes me or could he still have feelings for his ex-crush?

        • web admin

          web admin

          March 7, 2017 at 3:07 pm

          He has an interest in you and he may also have an interest in his ex-crush. He may have a desire to establish a relationship with one of you, so he is trying to see who is interested in him. He went on a date with her recently, so you may just want to be his friend for now. If they are not dating in a month, then you may want to try to establish a relationship with him at that time. Best of luck, Amber!

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