Don't Miss

    15 Topics to Talk About With Your Crush

    By on September 14, 2014

    There’s a few things in life that are just obnoxiously nerve-racking: your first job, getting your license, graduating, and of course- talking to your crush. What are you even supposed to talk about? You don’t want to bore him to tears, but you also don’t want him to notice your teeth chattering with nervous jitters. Put your worries to rest and ease your nervous habits by using one (or why not ALL) of these 10 topics to talk about with your crush.


    1. Him

    about him

    What do people absolutely love to talk about no matter what? THEMSELVES. You can’t go wrong with using him as a topic. It not only shows that you are interested in learning more about him, but I guarantee he won’t have a problem rambling on and on about himself- in fact, he will enjoy it. So go ahead and use him as a topic. Get him talking with interesting questions like the traditional “How are you doing today?” or more invasive questions like “What’s your biggest goal in life?” There’s hundreds of questions you could be asking him!

    2. Common Interests


    If the two of you have something you both enjoy, then talking about this particular topic should be a breeze- and it should be fun, too! Now, it’ll be easy to strike up this convo if you’re sure you share a certain interest (for instance you’re both on a basketball team). But if you don’t know what common interests you share, you might need to do a little bit of prying. This roots back to topic number 1- asking HIM about HIS interests until you find something you enjoy too.

    3. His Interests


    The best way to get someone to open up and get them talk a lot is to ask them what they find interesting in life. Ensure you keep your crush interested by getting to know his interests. Whether is maybe NASCAR racing or watching documentaries on the deep blue sea, get to know the person you like on a totally different level with this intricate topic.

    4. Current Events


    When you don’t have anything to talk about, what’s the easiest route to go? Current events, of course. When the convo starts fizzling out or you simply need a conversation starter, try thinking of a cool or interest current event that’s going on in this world. It could be something serious you saw on the News or something silly you saw on TMZ.

    5. The Weather


    Okay, I absolutely DO NOT mean asking “How’s the weather outside?” I mean, seriously. Don’t do this. You will look like a boring young lady that doesn’t know what to talk about with a   guy she likes- and that’s what we are trying to avoid. Instead of saying something traditional like that, kick it up a notch. If it’s extremely hot outside, try saying something like, “Oh my gosh, this heat is ridiculous! I’m in desperate need of an ice cream cone”, in which case we can only hope he will ask you out to a date at Cold Stone. At the very least it will get the conversation kick-started.

    6. Life Experiences


    This could end up being a really hilarious conversation about some of the most embarrassing moments of your life, but it could also end up being a rather serious convo where you discuss some major events that have happened during your lifetime. Either way, discussing life experiences is a great topic because the convo is practically endless. (Not to mention you’ll find out a TON more about this special someone you like!)

    7. Compliments


    Who doesn’t love a good compliment? I certainly can’t thin of anyone. Compliments not only make you feel good, but they are also excellent conversation starters. You could start off by telling him how awesome he looks in his new shirt, and the next thing you know you’re talking about the place he bought it from- which just so happens to be one of your all-time favorite shops. Look at that! A simple compliment led to a common interest, which obviously led to a long conversation with your crush. Oh- and he feels great about himself because a cute girl thinks he looks awesome in his new shirt. Win!

    8. Anything Funny


    Okay, ladies. I can’t stress this enough: men LOVE it when a woman has a sense of humor. So what better way to show your crush you have a rockin’ personality than by striking up a silly conversation? You could start off with a hilarious joke you heard, or you could bring up a funny topic you heard on the television earlier. The point is to make him laugh, and let the funny convo take off from there. Hopefully he will have a few funny things to add so the two of you can laugh the afternoon away!

    9. Work/School

    meeting room

    If the two of you work together or go to the same school, this particular topic will come especially easy. You could talk about the workplace and what you love/hate about your job. You could talk about how terribly hard the math homework was last night. This could lead to a really intriguing conversation about where you see yourself in 5 years, what college you want to attend, what you plan on studying, or whether you’re planning to just drop school/work and go backpacking around Europe for a few months.

    10. Questions Galore


    At the end of the day, it all comes down to the questions. You have a crush on a guy, so you probably don’t know TOO much about him. There’s really no better way to get to know someone than by asking them questions. Plus, 99% of the population loves to answer questions. It makes us feel special! Ask him what his favorite band is. Ask him what his dream career is. Ask him what he’s doing this weekend. Whatever you do, just keep the questions rolling. This will definitely spark a conversation!

    11. Family


    Once you two start talking about family, you may find the both of you in a never-ending conversation with each other. This type of topic gives a great opportunity for you to really get to know more about each other. You can work to understand each other’s backgrounds, where you both come from and what your families are like. The convo may get just a tiny bit deep, especially if things like childhood and childhood memories get brought up. But in the end this is a talk-worthy topic to touch on!

    12. Friends


    Most people love talking about their friends. Usually because your friends are just as important as family and they tend to make a huge impact on your lives. Reminiscing about friendships and memories with good friends always keeps the discussion flowing smoothly. It could potentially bring a smile to your crush’s face and get him laughing, but sometimes it can do the opposite, so tread lightly. However, it will surely keep your tongues on a roll.

    13. Sports


    Most guys love talking about sports. Not all, but most. Bringing up sports could get him talking to you for hours and hours. It will especially keep the gears turning if you also love sports, too. You can talk about your favorite sport and your favorite players, as well as how well your teams are doing currently and what games you would like to see in the future. Who knows, maybe you could even ask him to see a game together! That’s the goal, isn’t it? To make future plans? Wink wink.

    If he doesn’t love sports and neither do you, then you can move on and try the next topic.

    14. Music


    A lot of people say that music is everything to them in life. Sometimes music helps shape people into who they have become today and at times they hold their favorite music very dear to them. Bringing up music can brighten up your conversation with your crush. Everyone loves getting into a deep conversation about their favorite bands or artists. You can give each other ideas of new music to listen to or encourage them to listen to something you love and vice versa. Not only can music create a stronger bond between you, it can also give you an idea of what type of person your crush is.

    15. Favorites


    Be prepared, the list of favorites could go on and on and on… Everyone has a favorite something in every category. Ask him what his favorite food is. Then move on to things like colors, places to go, clothing brand, movies, television shows, animals, etc. There is an endless list of things you can discuss when it comes to all of his favorite things in the world and it will give you the chance to get to know him in ways you never knew him before! Maybe his favorite foods and movies are your favorite, too. You will never know until you ask!


    What are some of your favorite topics to discuss with your crush?


    1. Monqiue

      November 17, 2017 at 1:03 pm

      hi there! hope all is well 🙂 my boyfriend and I have known each other for over 10 years now but started to date about a 1month now. he recently to me that he loved me:) there a difference between saying
      I <3 you and I love you?

      • web admin

        web admin

        November 17, 2017 at 5:02 pm

        Cultural and societal differences may influence the difference between the word “love” and the symbol “<3”. However, it is certainly likely that this person has strong feelings for you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Monique!

    2. chlo

      November 9, 2017 at 1:37 pm

      hi so i like this boy a lot, we have been talking all day and he is wicked nice but i don’t want to ask him how he feels about me or like if he likes me… please help i like him AOLT

      • web admin

        web admin

        November 9, 2017 at 9:28 pm

        It is likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you are not ready to speak directly and honestly with him, then attempt to spend additional time with him in person. In the future, you will feel more confident and you should speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Chlo!

    3. Mo

      September 17, 2017 at 10:37 pm

      Hi! I hope all is well(: My crush & I have been talking for a while now and we both like each other alot. Today he asked me “if I could see myself falling in love with him”? It kinda caught me off guard because we talked about taking things slow (we’ve known each other over 10yrs) What does it mean when he asks this?

      • web admin

        web admin

        September 18, 2017 at 5:43 pm

        This means that he is interested in strengthening your relationship. He is likely interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Mo!

    4. Allison

      September 16, 2017 at 2:45 pm

      I really like this boy and he is so hot and he has been talking to me but I don’t know how to keep a conversation started but I don’t want to ask a lot of questions about him because I don’t want him to think I’m a creep help please

      • web admin

        web admin

        September 16, 2017 at 8:30 pm

        It is unlikely that he thinks that you are a creep. He is likely attracted to you. He may want to spend additional time with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Nourish this relationship if you want to develop this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Try to spend additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Allison!

    5. Charity

      September 7, 2017 at 8:58 pm

      So there’s this guy I’m crushing on we’ve started chatting on WhatsApp but whenever I meet him at school I’m too shy to create a conversation so its a matter of hie and bye ?? I am a very shy person by the can I approach him in person

      • web admin

        web admin

        September 8, 2017 at 8:39 pm

        You should speak with him on the phone. Explain that you are shy in person. Perhaps text him when you are close to him and wait for him to smile. This kind of action may cause his feelings for you to grow. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Let him share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Charity!

    6. Daniel

      August 29, 2017 at 9:01 am

      Hi, pls dear i hav a crush on dis girl, shez very strict, annoying and playful too. We aren’t dat close but we do chat on facebook.
      Wat do i do to make her fall for me?

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 29, 2017 at 6:29 pm

        Your best option is to speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. If it is clear that she does not want to develop a relationship with you, then do not attempt to do so. If she wants to be with you, then attempt to spend additional time with her. You may want to spend time with her in person as well. Have a great day, Daniel!

    7. Tintin

      August 9, 2017 at 8:02 am

      Hey, my name’s Tintin. So, uhmm.. I’ve been meaning to ask, how to start a conversation without me looking like I’m desperate for attention? I mean, it’s not like I’m that desperate, but he is my crush after all. I seem to be losing ideas each time we text each other. It’s so hard to come up with a topic just to keep the conversation alive ? can you please help me?

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 10, 2017 at 2:08 pm

        If you find that you are running out of conversation ideas over text message, then you should attempt to spend time in person with the person that you want to become closer with. Speak directly and honestly with this person about your thoughts and feelings. Be certain to allow them to share themselves with you as well. Honesty is always the best policy. Have a great day, Tintin!

    8. SYrah

      August 8, 2017 at 10:54 pm

      Hi I have a boy that’s a friend, we both like each other but he’s in prison right now. What’s some good conversation starter’s/ question’s to keep a conversation going?

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 10, 2017 at 1:44 pm

        If your friend is in prison, then you can speak with him about anything. Be certain to share your kindness and compassion. Allow him to speak with you about his problems and concerns. Share good news about the world with him. Let him know that people in his life care about him. This is the best way to help him remain happy and content while in prison. Best of luck, Syrah!

    9. Adds

      July 28, 2017 at 10:03 am

      So I like this guys and I slide in his dms like start a convo and am like what’s your biggest life goal or whatever it says at the top of this website and he was like idk how do I follow up from that pls and how do I know if he likes me back am do confused and I think I sound like an idiot while talking to him ?

      • web admin

        web admin

        July 28, 2017 at 7:44 pm

        It sounds like the two of you should nourish your relationship. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Continue to speak with him as often as possible. Attempt to spend additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Adds!

    10. Kim

      July 23, 2017 at 1:17 am

      Hi, so ahm.. I have a crush on this guy. We have a different nationality and time zone as well so it’s kinda hard to talk to him. He usually chat me whenever he wakes up which is in the afternoon here in my place. I wanna talk to him more and more it’s just that i don’t want him notice that i have a crush on him. ? how can i prevent him from noticing that without minimizing our talks? I’ve known him only for few weeks. It seems like he already know me well. I mean, he knows that i usually get mad when he won’t chat me even if i won’t tell him or deny it. He won’t just believe me ? and also, sometimes i don’t know what to ask anymore because i almost know his favorites, hobbies, interests and such. He asked them all to me so i just bring him back the questions and now i don’t know what topic to open anymore. ? mind to help me? ?

      • web admin

        web admin

        July 23, 2017 at 6:07 pm

        There are many options that you can choose to speak about. Perhaps it would be beneficial for the two of you to play games or watch shows together. You may want to attempt to spend some time with him in person if you are able to meet with him. You can always try to open up new topics that you have an interest in. Ask him if he is interested in any particular hobby or idea. Have a great day, Kim!

    11. Ibrahim

      July 12, 2017 at 5:49 pm

      We have been chatting on whatsapp for like a month but I don’t know how to make her know about my feelings and thoughts

      • web admin

        web admin

        July 13, 2017 at 8:00 pm

        Your best way to share your thoughts and feelings are to act with honesty. Determine what is true regarding your thoughts and feelings and allow your words to speak clearly. This will help her understand your true feelings toward her. This will allow her the chance to share her thoughts and feelings with you. Have a great day, Ibrahim!

    12. destiny

      July 7, 2017 at 11:10 am

      hey , actually i have a crush on someone it has been 1 year and finally i started talikg to him i’ve tried everything just to get noticed that i love him its me 😀 ahhaha but actually he is the buseist person we just talk about studeis and songs and normal topics i want him to know that there is something that i want to tell him i meannn tbh im so scared to tell him … cuz i really dnt have any idea what his ans. would be !! goshh help me out plss i want some courage to tell him <3

      • web admin

        web admin

        July 7, 2017 at 9:04 pm

        It is great that you have developed this relationship with him. If you want to move your relationship forward, then reach out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give him the opportunity to share himself with you as well. Perhaps attempt to spend time with him in person when he is next available. Have a great day, Destiny!

    13. Abbie Grey

      June 27, 2017 at 12:09 pm

      Hi. So I’m Abbie and I have this thing for a guy for months now. I tried making him to notice me and when he finally did, I was told that he just wants to use me and stop talking to me. He asked me to go on a walk with him but I turned him down cause of what I heard. So when we see each other at the road or something we just pass each other like we’re strangers. I just want to know if he actually likes me or if he just wants to use me. He’s still asking for the walk though bit I turned him down again and this time he said I shouldn’t even bother again and that he’s over the walk. But this time I really want to go for the walk and I need him to ask me for it again. What should I do?

      • web admin

        web admin

        June 27, 2017 at 4:11 pm

        It matters who told you this thing about him wanting to use you. They may have been lying out of jealousy, they may have been misspeaking out of genuine concern, or they may have been telling the truth. It would be best for you to speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you don’t, then you likely will not get an opportunity to further this relationship. Have a great day, Abbie!

    14. Hazard

      June 25, 2017 at 10:13 am

      Its me again Hazard. So what exactly should I be talking about with her when I call or chat with her. Sometimes I become speechless and can’t move the conversation as I want it. Please tell me what to be talking about with her to make our conversations and chats very long smooth and interesting….

      • web admin

        web admin

        June 26, 2017 at 1:18 pm

        You can talk with her about anything that interests you. Learn about her hobbies as well. The two of you can quietly walk through nature if neither of you want to speak. Your best option, however, is to be clear and directly about your feelings toward her. Honesty is always the best option that you can take. This will also give her a chance to share her thoughts and feelings with you as well. Have a great day, Hazard!

    Leave a Reply

    Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *