10 Topics to Talk About With Your Crush

By on September 14, 2014

There’s a few things in life that are just obnoxiously nerve-racking: your first job, getting your license, graduating, and of course- talking to your crush. What are you even supposed to talk about? You don’t want to bore him to tears, but you also don’t want him to notice your teeth chattering with nervous jitters. Put your worries to rest and ease your nervous habits by using one (or why not ALL) of these 10 topics to talk about with your crush.


1. Him

about him

What do people absolutely love to talk about no matter what? THEMSELVES. You can’t go wrong with using him as a topic. It not only shows that you are interested in learning more about him, but I guarantee he won’t have a problem rambling on and on about himself- in fact, he will enjoy it. So go ahead and use him as a topic. Get him talking with interesting questions like the traditional “How are you doing today?” or more invasive questions like “What’s your biggest goal in life?” There’s hundreds of questions you could be asking him!

2. Common Interests


If the two of you have something you both enjoy, then talking about this particular topic should be a breeze- and it should be fun, too! Now, it’ll be easy to strike up this convo if you’re sure you share a certain interest (for instance you’re both on a basketball team). But if you don’t know what common interests you share, you might need to do a little bit of prying. This roots back to topic number 1- asking HIM about HIS interests until you find something you enjoy too.

3. His Interests



The best way to get someone to open up and get them talk a lot is to ask them what they find interesting in life. Ensure you keep your crush interested by getting to know his interests. Whether is maybe NASCAR racing or watching documentaries on the deep blue sea, get to know the person you like on a totally different level with this intricate topic.

4. Current Events


When you don’t have anything to talk about, what’s the easiest route to go? Current events, of course. When the convo starts fizzling out or you simply need a conversation starter, try thinking of a cool or interest current event that’s going on in this world. It could be something serious you saw on the News or something silly you saw on TMZ.

5. The Weather


Okay, I absolutely DO NOT mean asking “How’s the weather outside?” I mean, seriously. Don’t do this. You will look like a boring young lady that doesn’t know what to talk about with a   guy she likes- and that’s what we are trying to avoid. Instead of saying something traditional like that, kick it up a notch. If it’s extremely hot outside, try saying something like, “Oh my gosh, this heat is ridiculous! I’m in desperate need of an ice cream cone”, in which case we can only hope he will ask you out to a date at Cold Stone. At the very least it will get the conversation kick-started.

6. Life Experiences



This could end up being a really hilarious conversation about some of the most embarrassing moments of your life, but it could also end up being a rather serious convo where you discuss some major events that have happened during your lifetime. Either way, discussing life experiences is a great topic because the convo is practically endless. (Not to mention you’ll find out a TON more about this special someone you like!)

7. Compliments


Who doesn’t love a good compliment? I certainly can’t thin of anyone. Compliments not only make you feel good, but they are also excellent conversation starters. You could start off by telling him how awesome he looks in his new shirt, and the next thing you know you’re talking about the place he bought it from- which just so happens to be one of your all-time favorite shops. Look at that! A simple compliment led to a common interest, which obviously led to a long conversation with your crush. Oh- and he feels great about himself because a cute girl thinks he looks awesome in his new shirt. Win!

8. Anything Funny


Okay, ladies. I can’t stress this enough: men LOVE it when a woman has a sense of humor. So what better way to show your crush you have a rockin’ personality than by striking up a silly conversation? You could start off with a hilarious joke you heard, or you could bring up a funny topic you heard on the television earlier. The point is to make him laugh, and let the funny convo take off from there. Hopefully he will have a few funny things to add so the two of you can laugh the afternoon away!

9. Work/School

meeting room

If the two of you work together or go to the same school, this particular topic will come especially easy. You could talk about the workplace and what you love/hate about your job. You could talk about how terribly hard the math homework was last night. This could lead to a really intriguing conversation about where you see yourself in 5 years, what college you want to attend, what you plan on studying, or whether you’re planning to just drop school/work and go backpacking around Europe for a few months.

10. Questions Galore


At the end of the day, it all comes down to the questions. You have a crush on a guy, so you probably don’t know TOO much about him. There’s really no better way to get to know someone than by asking them questions. Plus, 99% of the population loves to answer questions. It makes us feel special! Ask him what his favorite band is. Ask him what his dream career is. Ask him what he’s doing this weekend. Whatever you do, just keep the questions rolling. This will definitely spark a conversation!

11. Family


Once you two start talking about family, you may find the both of you in a never-ending conversation with each other. This type of topic gives a great opportunity for you to really get to know more about each other. You can work to understand each other’s backgrounds, where you both come from and what your families are like. The convo may get just a tiny bit deep, especially if things like childhood and childhood memories get brought up. But in the end this is a talk-worthy topic to touch on!

12. Friends


Most people love talking about their friends. Usually because your friends are just as important as family and they tend to make a huge impact on your lives. Reminiscing about friendships and memories with good friends always keeps the discussion flowing smoothly. It could potentially bring a smile to your crush’s face and get him laughing, but sometimes it can do the opposite, so tread lightly. However, it will surely keep your tongues on a roll.

13. Sports


Most guys love talking about sports. Not all, but most. Bringing up sports could get him talking to you for hours and hours. It will especially keep the gears turning if you also love sports, too. You can talk about your favorite sport and your favorite players, as well as how well your teams are doing currently and what games you would like to see in the future. Who knows, maybe you could even ask him to see a game together! That’s the goal, isn’t it? To make future plans? Wink wink.

If he doesn’t love sports and neither do you, then you can move on and try the next topic.

14. Music


A lot of people say that music is everything to them in life. Sometimes music helps shape people into who they have become today and at times they hold their favorite music very dear to them. Bringing up music can brighten up your conversation with your crush. Everyone loves getting into a deep conversation about their favorite bands or artists. You can give each other ideas of new music to listen to or encourage them to listen to something you love and vice versa. Not only can music create a stronger bond between you, it can also give you an idea of what type of person your crush is.

15. Favorites


Be prepared, the list of favorites could go on and on and on… Everyone has a favorite something in every category. Ask him what his favorite food is. Then move on to things like colors, places to go, clothing brand, movies, television shows, animals, etc. There is an endless list of things you can discuss when it comes to all of his favorite things in the world and it will give you the chance to get to know him in ways you never knew him before! Maybe his favorite foods and movies are your favorite, too. You will never know until you ask!


What are some of your favorite topics to discuss with your crush?


  1. Tom

    February 13, 2017 at 8:03 am

    I used to date this girl for like 3 years and we broke up cuz of some misunderstandings and actually we split up not in good terms
    We started talking again ,I have never stoped liking her but I haven’t told her this
    And All I want is to be with her again
    Im confused what to do

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 13, 2017 at 10:09 am

      If your relationship has ended, then allow it to fade from your life. You can reach out to her if you want to, but you can also move on with your life. Perhaps take this time to look inward and determine what you want for your life without her. You may find someone else that you have feelings for. Best of luck, Tom!

    • Mack

      February 23, 2017 at 1:49 am

      Ask her if she love u to

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 23, 2017 at 12:09 pm

        Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Have a great day, Mack!

  2. Lana

    February 13, 2017 at 7:21 am

    So I just came out of a relationship with a guy who’s 4 years older than me.He loved me I realized within the first couple months I disn’t love him, but when I told him he convinced me I did. That went on for about a year and a half to 2 years. After we broke up I reflected on the things I could have done and apologize to him and that was that. Now I feel completely fine . There’s this other guy who’s 18 I’m 16 and one day I just asked to call Over the phone which I never do and we had a awsome 5 hour convo and again next night. We saw each other in person and I was nervous didn’t have much to talk about. We talked about how we would wait till I was 18 then we would date. I’m fine with that because I want to get to known the next person I’m in a relationship with. Only problem is in person and through text I have nothing to talk about. But over the phone we were fine. Please help me. He’s a person who he’s “turned off his feelings” and he’s known for being mean
    Ever since I’ve been talking to hime he’s been being nicer to everyone. I really want to keep helping him and get to knoe him. Help

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 13, 2017 at 10:07 am

      Continue speaking with him over the phone is you are better after communicating that way. Text messaging is very limited. You may be best served by spending time with him in person. This will increase your positive influence on him. Best of luck, Lana!

    • Mack

      February 23, 2017 at 1:52 am

      Ask him if he is interested in you or not

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 23, 2017 at 12:09 pm

        Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Have a great day, Mack!

  3. 'Amber'

    February 11, 2017 at 4:28 pm

    This guy asked me out,I said no because at the time I had only been talking to him about two days. We have never talked face to face we just text but he goes to my school. He has kinda grown on me and I think I like him but I dont know if I should tell him because we were sleezing but now that I said no he doesn’t sleeze no more. Should I tell him I like him ? Or would it be weird.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 12, 2017 at 9:57 am

      If you believe that he would be a good partner for you and you want to establish a relationship with him, then do so. Speak with him about your thoughts and ideas. Learn about him as well. Try to spend time with him in person. You can go on a nature walk with him or out to a meal. Best of luck, Amber!

    • Mack

      February 23, 2017 at 1:53 am

      Yes u should

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 23, 2017 at 12:09 pm

        Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Have a great day, Mack!

  4. Kathy

    February 9, 2017 at 4:16 pm

    Ok so i like this guy and he seems to like me back also but he has a gf and his gf is one of my best of friends i have no idea what to do he wants to leave her for me but i dont reall now what to do HELPPP PLEASEE!!!

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 10, 2017 at 10:53 am

      Allow thoughts of him to fade. Do not help him cheat. Do not hurt your friend by helping her boyfriend cheat. And do not damage your life and reputation by attempting to be the third person in a relationship. Have a great day, Kathy!

  5. Brandy

    February 6, 2017 at 12:12 am

    I’ve known my coworker for over 3yrs & 4months we started sleeping together. I’m 39 with one kid 18months he’s 41 no kids. We haven’t labeled it fwb or anything but we also don’t go out anywhere mostly bcuz we are worried seeing other coworkers & everyone finding out. Anyway, we have so much fun when we’re together & we both agree it’s the best sex either of us have had. When he texts me he uses phrases like “my girl” “my baby” and yes I’m starting to think about taking it to the next level but I’m very scared of being rejected. Plus there’s still so many questions/doubts going they my head… it’s too soon, I have a kid & he doesn’t want kids, he jus got out of a 10yr. relationship & doesn’t want to be in one this soon, he’s only sweet & nice & calls me his girl to keep having sex… I would jus really like for once for him to bring up & talk about what’s going on with us. Idk I really like him & don’t want to have the conversation too soon or should I wait it out until he brings it up.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 6, 2017 at 11:47 am

      There is no problem if your coworkers see you dating. It is perfectly accepting for two adults to begin a relationship even if they work together. Continue your relationship in a slow and fun way. Speak with him about taking your relationship to the next level in a few months. This will give him time to determine what he wants in a relationship. That will give you enough time to decide if you want to be with him in a serious capacity. Best of luck, Brandy!

  6. 'Diamond'

    January 31, 2017 at 7:00 pm

    I need help so I like five people and i am pretty sure one likes me because he wanted to go to a mall with him but I havens seen him since they happened and three I like are new kids at my school I try talking to them and one I asked if he liked me and after a moment or two of no one saying anything I said just wandering and the he said no like he was unsure what do I do and the last one Ik likes me but he also likes someone else and he said he would ask one of them out what do I do HELP PLEASE.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 1, 2017 at 9:06 am

      At the moment, it seems like your best bet is to just wait. The one who said “no” may not like you or he may just have never considered it before. There is no way to know about the other three. The last guy seems to like the other girl first, so it’d be best if he tries things out with her and realizes that it won’t work before you try to be with him.

  7. Joshua

    January 26, 2017 at 4:47 pm

    i have a crush on this girl but honestly i dont know how to tell her and what to say

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 27, 2017 at 10:13 am

      Try to spend additional time with her. Tell her that you want to take her out to a meal or go on a nature walk with her. There are many options for you to choose from. If you are not close enough to her to ask her out, then perhaps try to catch her eye and open up lines of communication. You can even just try to tell her jokes and make her feel comfortable around you. Best of luck, Joshua!

    • 'Diamond'

      January 31, 2017 at 7:06 pm

      This is what I told my friend you never know unless u do but I also one of my friends asked me to ask one of her crush if he like her and he says yes but my friend doesn’t belive me because I didn’t have any witnesses. Whatever you do good luck.

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 1, 2017 at 9:05 am

        That sounds like good advice–and I hope that everything works out for your friend as well! Good luck, Diamond and thanks for commenting!

  8. Lorraine

    January 19, 2017 at 6:33 pm

    so I have this crush that I’ve liked for four years but he’s moving away and he clearly doesn’t like me.. I want to stop liking him but I really can’t because once I see him, I keep falling for him and my heart flutters.. I’ve started almost every single way possible and I even changed my interests to suit his, but the results didn’t reflect my effort.. should I finally give up? what are some ways to forget about someone? I would appreciate the help

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 20, 2017 at 9:59 am

      If he clearly doesn’t like you and he is moving away, then there is no reason to attempt to establish a relationship with him. Move on and take this time to look inward. You can try to begin a relationship with someone else. Or you can take this time to get to know yourself better. If you find yourself thinking or dreaming about him, then begin to focus on your breathing. Allow the thoughts of him to fade away. Good luck, Lorraine!

      • Carrie

        January 20, 2017 at 9:28 pm

        So there’s this guy I actually really like and at the beginning of the year I started a conversation with him and he was really chill and nice to talk to, but that was before I started liking him. So then I realized I had a crush on him and I kept getting more and more nervous and I completely stopped talking to him and now he just ignores me because I ignore him, and I really didn’t want that to happen bc I still really like him! I’m scared to just suddenly start a conversation with him again because it would be awkward after so long like almost 5 months. Help!!

        • web admin

          web admin

          January 22, 2017 at 2:24 pm

          All you can do is get over the awkwardness and start a conversation with him. If you want to have a chance of dating him someday, you would ultimately have to break the silence. If you can, try to find a natural time to talk to him–perhaps when you are standing behind him in line or you could “accidentally” bump into him in the hallways. It does not take much to get the conversation going again. If you are really nervous, try to just wave hello as you walk by and sooner or later that will lead to an actual conversation. Best of luck, Carrie!

  9. Lybdee

    January 19, 2017 at 3:34 am

    So my mom passed i it has been really hard and I am single so I feel like everyone has left me alone on this world can you help me deal with this

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 19, 2017 at 2:33 pm

      Try to spend time with any friends that you have. If you do not have any friends and are not looking to make new ones, then perhaps you would be benefited by learning how to care for yourself. Take this time to look deep inside of yourself. There is nothing wrong with taking months or even a year entirely to yourself. Learn about what you need for yourself, and at that time take action. You will learn how to be happy without needing other people. Best of luck, Lyndee!

  10. Katie

    January 11, 2017 at 7:28 pm

    There’s this kid who I REALLY like and have liked for 2 years! We dated for 2 weeks but his sister made him break up with me? Shes mean but I’m trying to be closer to her so what should I say to start a conversation with him (away from his sister) How should I ignore my conversation?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 12, 2017 at 11:13 am

      In regards to your relationship, it would be best for you to just speak with the person who you like. His sister may have her own problems that she needs to work out. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Explain what actions his sister has taken toward you, and determine what kind of relationship he desires with you. On the other hand, you may take this as a sign that you should take this time to look inward. Determine what you ant for your future. Best of luck, Katie!

  11. kimmi

    January 7, 2017 at 11:05 pm

    So I really like this boy but I also like another boy I met both of them online well for one of them my friend introduce us to each other but i dont know how he looks but I love his personality and how he behaves and hes easy to talk to for the other one i know him hes cute and has a good personality he can sometimes be a pain in the a** but I’m okay with that at times.For the one who i havent seen before what should i do and talk to him about he seems nicer and sweeter than the other one.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 9, 2017 at 10:21 am

      I would stick with the one who is nicer and sweeter. If the other guy is already annoying you, then he will only become worse as he gets more comfortable around you. You said that your friend introduced one of them–was it the sweeter guy? If so, you could probably ask your friend about how he looks or get a picture. You could also ask the guy to send you a picture of himself so that you can see what he looks like before you make your decision for sure. If it were me though, I would go with the guy who is nicer and sweeter. It sounds like your personalities mesh well together, so it would be a much happier, longer lasting relationship. Best of luck, Kimmi!

    • myur

      January 9, 2017 at 11:39 am

      Look kimmi first u just choose one of them

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 9, 2017 at 11:52 am

        That is a good first step to take. I am sure that Kimmi will appreciate getting the extra insight. Thanks for commenting, Myur!

  12. Sammy

    December 3, 2016 at 9:35 pm

    So there’s this guy I like but he’s my friends boyfriend and I don’t want to get between them but I want to get to know ik but I don’t know how to start a conversation with him what so I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 4, 2016 at 9:02 am

      Wait–do you mean “boyfriend” as in dating or “boyfriend” as in friend who is a guy? If they are just friends, try to say hello, ask him how he is doing and hope that he takes it from there. It may take talking to him a few times to really draw him out. If he is her boyfriend, then you should avoid talking to him until he is single. It will only cause drama and stress for you (and potentially end your friendship) if you try to make a move on him while he is taken. Plus, if he starts flirting back with you while he is in a relationship, you will never be able to trust him not to just do the same thing to you later on.

  13. isabelle

    November 30, 2016 at 5:38 pm

    obviously, there’s a guy that i rly rly like but most of the time i have no idea what to talk ab w him and hes kinda an f boy. what should i do

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 1, 2016 at 8:31 am

      You can try one of these topics on this list, or just try to talk to him about the things that he cares about. People naturally like to talk about themselves, so try to draw him out a bit by talking about his dreams, hobbies, goals and interests. Over time, you will become more comfortable with him and it will be easier to carry on a conversation.

  14. amber

    November 24, 2016 at 4:06 pm

    okay so i met this guy and right a way i thought he was cute i really liked him i started texing him and he knows i like him but everytime i hint about dating he says he isnt ready for it. i dont know much about him so i want to talk to him more and try learn things about him but i dont how to without coming off as pushy or annoying. any suggestions?

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 25, 2016 at 10:17 am

      Just talk to him like you would a friend. He may be busy at work or coming out of a difficult relationship. If so, he may just need time to heal before he considers a real relationship again. All you can do in the meantime is get to know him better, talk to him and hope that he is ready for a relationship sooner rather than later. Good luck, Amber!

  15. Clau

    November 13, 2016 at 6:07 pm

    Okay so, I just recently started talking to this guy I used to talk, and it had been about 2 years since we hadn’t talked. Now that we talk, I find it so easy to get lost in conversation with him, but then other times I just feel like I’m bothering him or have nothing to say. I can’t believe I’m saying it but I really think I like him. He’s so sweet and funny, but another one of the cons is that he lives an hour away. I know long distance can work, and I want it to, but it went down hill for me once, why wouldn’t it again? What do I do? Xoxo

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 14, 2016 at 11:21 am

      Long distance relationships can be difficult. However, if the two of you make clear distinctions about your goals and desires for your relationship, then you can make it last. Try to meet up with him at least every other month. Physical intimacy can be important in a relationship, and often times long distance relationships end because of a lack of closeness. Take this time to determine which course of action that you want to take. Best of luck, Clau!

  16. Nick

    November 13, 2016 at 5:46 am

    I met a guy online and we had a few dates and even kissed. I like him a lot and would like to be in a serious relationship with him. When I asked, his reply was “maybe not now”. Does it mean never or is there still some hope? I told him we will be friends but actually I am hoping one day he will take me seriously. There is some more problems as we have already ran out of topics and I don’t know what to talk with him. I miss him a lot when we are not talking. Please help me and tell me what can we talk about and teach me how to get his heart.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 13, 2016 at 11:16 am

      It is possible that he is not interested in a relationship at this time. It is certain likely that he may want to develop a relationship with you in the future. If you want to become closer to him, then be sure to spend additional time with him. Be a friend to him and be kind in your mannerisms. If you find that he begins to turn away from you, then allow him to drift away. If his feelings come back, then you can develop a relationship with him at that time. Remain positive as you move forward. Best of luck, Nick!

  17. Ky

    November 8, 2016 at 3:20 am

    So…me and this guy have been talking for about a week or so over text message and before we would talk non stop about everything but here lately we have found nothing to talk about and he’s been kinda distant meaning he hasn’t been responding back as fast…i mean he could be busy who knows? but i really like him and he likes me too but were not dating…all we talk about is serious stuff and a little flirting here and there but its getting kinda boring talking about all this serious stuff. and I’m the one who’s starting the conversations not him. i just don’t know what to do.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 8, 2016 at 11:53 am

      If your test based conversations are becoming boring, then you have two options. One option is to try to spend more time with him in person so that the two of you become closer in that manner. Or the other option is to talk with him on the phone. By speaking with verbal words, you will find that your conversations will grow and change in ways that text based conversations will not. Enjoy life and have fun, Ky!

  18. Jade

    November 5, 2016 at 7:17 am

    So there is this guy that I have been talking to for a couple weeks but, we only talk through snapchat. In the beginning we flirted a little and he would message me first at times, but lately its gotten kind of distant. We dont really talk much in school besides a hey or whats up. and when i snapchat him he replies and we talk for a little bit but then he will read the message and just never message me back for a while unless i snapchat him again. He still seems nice and somewhat interested when we talk but at other times he doesn’t. I am not sure what to do in this situation. i’m not sure if i am over thinking or if im coming off needy. Is he still interested in me and i should keep trying to talk to him and flirt or should i just let it be for a couple of days and see how it pans out? Im really confused and i dont know what to do because i would still like to talk to him or be friends at the very least.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 7, 2016 at 2:44 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you, but he doesn’t know how to begin. It is possible that the lack of deeper conversation made him lose interest. If you want to create a relationship with him again, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. It is certain that he will only continue to drift away if you do not take action. That said, if you do not want to establish a relationship with him, then allow yourself to lose your attachment to him. Whatever you do, be sure to remain positive and mindful as you move forward. Have a great week, Jade!

  19. Beth

    October 27, 2016 at 10:13 am

    There’s this guy I’ve had a mad crush on since 7th grade and we’re in 10th now. I don’t know what to do because we have been friends since we were like 3, and I don’t want to ruin our friendship. I really like him, and I’m pretty sure I could fall for him later in my life!!

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 27, 2016 at 11:01 am

      Continue to spend time with him and see what comes. Try to go out with him on a nature walk or take a new journey with him. It is certain that he wants to spend time with you and may be concerned about harming your friendship as well. Take this as a reminder to become closer with him. Share more ideas, hobbies, and interests with him. Maybe have him teach you a game or you teach him a game. There are many things to do so you can get closer to someone. Enjoy life and remain positive, Beth!

      • Beth

        October 27, 2016 at 1:08 pm

        Plus I know he I like but he acts as if I never told him. He’s not really a mushy guy either. He’s more of a inappropriate joke weirdo, but he’s hot.
        ANY ADVICE?

        • web admin

          web admin

          October 28, 2016 at 1:59 pm

          It is possible that he is unsure whether or not you like him, it is possible that he does not want to date at this time, and it is possible that he forgot that he knew that you liked him. Perhaps it would be wise of you to spend additional time with him. This could rekindle his emotions for you. Decide what you want for your relationship and then take charge. Best of luck, Beth!

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