15 Topics to Talk About With Your Crush

By on September 14, 2014

There’s a few things in life that are just obnoxiously nerve-racking: your first job, getting your license, graduating, and of course- talking to your crush. What are you even supposed to talk about? You don’t want to bore him to tears, but you also don’t want him to notice your teeth chattering with nervous jitters. Put your worries to rest and ease your nervous habits by using one (or why not ALL) of these 10 topics to talk about with your crush.


1. Him

about him

What do people absolutely love to talk about no matter what? THEMSELVES. You can’t go wrong with using him as a topic. It not only shows that you are interested in learning more about him, but I guarantee he won’t have a problem rambling on and on about himself- in fact, he will enjoy it. So go ahead and use him as a topic. Get him talking with interesting questions like the traditional “How are you doing today?” or more invasive questions like “What’s your biggest goal in life?” There’s hundreds of questions you could be asking him!

2. Common Interests


If the two of you have something you both enjoy, then talking about this particular topic should be a breeze- and it should be fun, too! Now, it’ll be easy to strike up this convo if you’re sure you share a certain interest (for instance you’re both on a basketball team). But if you don’t know what common interests you share, you might need to do a little bit of prying. This roots back to topic number 1- asking HIM about HIS interests until you find something you enjoy too.

3. His Interests


The best way to get someone to open up and get them talk a lot is to ask them what they find interesting in life. Ensure you keep your crush interested by getting to know his interests. Whether is maybe NASCAR racing or watching documentaries on the deep blue sea, get to know the person you like on a totally different level with this intricate topic.

4. Current Events


When you don’t have anything to talk about, what’s the easiest route to go? Current events, of course. When the convo starts fizzling out or you simply need a conversation starter, try thinking of a cool or interest current event that’s going on in this world. It could be something serious you saw on the News or something silly you saw on TMZ.

5. The Weather


Okay, I absolutely DO NOT mean asking “How’s the weather outside?” I mean, seriously. Don’t do this. You will look like a boring young lady that doesn’t know what to talk about with a   guy she likes- and that’s what we are trying to avoid. Instead of saying something traditional like that, kick it up a notch. If it’s extremely hot outside, try saying something like, “Oh my gosh, this heat is ridiculous! I’m in desperate need of an ice cream cone”, in which case we can only hope he will ask you out to a date at Cold Stone. At the very least it will get the conversation kick-started.

6. Life Experiences


This could end up being a really hilarious conversation about some of the most embarrassing moments of your life, but it could also end up being a rather serious convo where you discuss some major events that have happened during your lifetime. Either way, discussing life experiences is a great topic because the convo is practically endless. (Not to mention you’ll find out a TON more about this special someone you like!)

7. Compliments


Who doesn’t love a good compliment? I certainly can’t thin of anyone. Compliments not only make you feel good, but they are also excellent conversation starters. You could start off by telling him how awesome he looks in his new shirt, and the next thing you know you’re talking about the place he bought it from- which just so happens to be one of your all-time favorite shops. Look at that! A simple compliment led to a common interest, which obviously led to a long conversation with your crush. Oh- and he feels great about himself because a cute girl thinks he looks awesome in his new shirt. Win!

8. Anything Funny


Okay, ladies. I can’t stress this enough: men LOVE it when a woman has a sense of humor. So what better way to show your crush you have a rockin’ personality than by striking up a silly conversation? You could start off with a hilarious joke you heard, or you could bring up a funny topic you heard on the television earlier. The point is to make him laugh, and let the funny convo take off from there. Hopefully he will have a few funny things to add so the two of you can laugh the afternoon away!

9. Work/School

meeting room

If the two of you work together or go to the same school, this particular topic will come especially easy. You could talk about the workplace and what you love/hate about your job. You could talk about how terribly hard the math homework was last night. This could lead to a really intriguing conversation about where you see yourself in 5 years, what college you want to attend, what you plan on studying, or whether you’re planning to just drop school/work and go backpacking around Europe for a few months.

10. Questions Galore


At the end of the day, it all comes down to the questions. You have a crush on a guy, so you probably don’t know TOO much about him. There’s really no better way to get to know someone than by asking them questions. Plus, 99% of the population loves to answer questions. It makes us feel special! Ask him what his favorite band is. Ask him what his dream career is. Ask him what he’s doing this weekend. Whatever you do, just keep the questions rolling. This will definitely spark a conversation!

11. Family


Once you two start talking about family, you may find the both of you in a never-ending conversation with each other. This type of topic gives a great opportunity for you to really get to know more about each other. You can work to understand each other’s backgrounds, where you both come from and what your families are like. The convo may get just a tiny bit deep, especially if things like childhood and childhood memories get brought up. But in the end this is a talk-worthy topic to touch on!

12. Friends


Most people love talking about their friends. Usually because your friends are just as important as family and they tend to make a huge impact on your lives. Reminiscing about friendships and memories with good friends always keeps the discussion flowing smoothly. It could potentially bring a smile to your crush’s face and get him laughing, but sometimes it can do the opposite, so tread lightly. However, it will surely keep your tongues on a roll.

13. Sports


Most guys love talking about sports. Not all, but most. Bringing up sports could get him talking to you for hours and hours. It will especially keep the gears turning if you also love sports, too. You can talk about your favorite sport and your favorite players, as well as how well your teams are doing currently and what games you would like to see in the future. Who knows, maybe you could even ask him to see a game together! That’s the goal, isn’t it? To make future plans? Wink wink.

If he doesn’t love sports and neither do you, then you can move on and try the next topic.

14. Music


A lot of people say that music is everything to them in life. Sometimes music helps shape people into who they have become today and at times they hold their favorite music very dear to them. Bringing up music can brighten up your conversation with your crush. Everyone loves getting into a deep conversation about their favorite bands or artists. You can give each other ideas of new music to listen to or encourage them to listen to something you love and vice versa. Not only can music create a stronger bond between you, it can also give you an idea of what type of person your crush is.

15. Favorites


Be prepared, the list of favorites could go on and on and on… Everyone has a favorite something in every category. Ask him what his favorite food is. Then move on to things like colors, places to go, clothing brand, movies, television shows, animals, etc. There is an endless list of things you can discuss when it comes to all of his favorite things in the world and it will give you the chance to get to know him in ways you never knew him before! Maybe his favorite foods and movies are your favorite, too. You will never know until you ask!


What are some of your favorite topics to discuss with your crush?


  1. Israel

    July 6, 2018 at 9:11 am

    Pls admin my new girlfriend do call me everyday and we talk on phone on daily basis and as am talking to u now I don’t have words again for her and I don’t know what topic to bring up that will make her feel happy and lively
    Pls I need ur help

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 6, 2018 at 11:29 pm

      The two of you share a strong social connection. You will find great benefit in spending additional time with your partner. Determine what you want for your future. Perhaps learn more about her hobbies and interests. Your relationship will be strengthened as you share your thoughts and feelings with her. Ensure that she shares herself with you as well. Have a great day, Israel!

  2. Athena Grace

    July 1, 2018 at 9:15 pm

    This guy and I like each other and we talk daily. The only thing is he’s very shy and doesn’t show affection to me in person but he does on the phone. I’ve told him that he should show me more affection in a nice way and he still doesn’t do it. I know he’s shy but I don’t want to wait forever for him to show me he likes me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 1, 2018 at 10:20 pm

      It is possible that he feels more comfortable sharing affection over the phone. He may be uncertain about how to share himself in person. He has shown you that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Perhaps speak with him in person about your thoughts and feelings. Explain to him what you would like him to do. Allow him to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Athena!

  3. Orlagh

    May 12, 2018 at 4:49 am

    Me and my new boyfriend text almost everyday but recently we’ve ran out of things to talk about , WHAT DO I DO !!!!

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 12, 2018 at 11:38 am

      The two of you have a strong social and emotional connection. It is a positive sign that the two of you have shared your thoughts and feelings to such an extent. You will find great benefit in spending additional time with your partner in person. This will help strengthen your relationship and give you more opportunities to share your mind. Have a great day, Orlagh!

  4. Alexis

    April 12, 2018 at 3:21 pm

    I have been facetiming my crush and it’s really awkward we don’t really talk at all we just put are phones facing the calling can you help me

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 13, 2018 at 9:28 pm

      You will find benefit in spending additional time with this person in person. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps share your hobbies and interests with him. The two of you will find many things to discuss when you have each other’s full attention. Have a great day, Alexis!

    • Emma S

      May 10, 2018 at 7:59 pm

      If you ask him about what his favorite sport is, what sports he plays, what music he listens to, or what he likes to do in his free time, you’ll probably have a few conversations while you’re FaceTiming. That’s what I’ve done and now I know he really likes me back (I just had to start a few conversations with him and now we FaceTime and text a lot). Idk if this helps you, but it helped me

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 10, 2018 at 9:34 pm

        Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. We appreciate when our community shares their supportive comments. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Emma!

  5. Brittney

    April 12, 2018 at 2:31 pm

    How do I bring up the family thing in a conversation

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 13, 2018 at 9:14 pm

      Determine what you want for your future. Decide what is appropriate to discuss at this level of your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Brittney!

  6. Dev

    April 10, 2018 at 12:23 pm

    How to know she having some feelings for me after talking daily…

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 10, 2018 at 9:21 pm

      Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. She will be able to give you the information that you are seeking. Have a great day, Dev!

  7. Dev

    April 10, 2018 at 12:21 pm

    How to know she having some feeling for me …..

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 10, 2018 at 9:21 pm

      Speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. She will be able to give you the information that you are seeking. Have a great day, Dev!

  8. Shaz

    April 9, 2018 at 2:45 pm

    I have a crush whos is a year below me and isnt in any of classes i got my friends to keep an out to find out what his snapchat was then someone gave him a shoutout i asked him if wanted an streak he said yeah then i texted him hey abd he replied with an hello and an x on the end then i wanted to have a conversation wiyh him but he was ignoring me so i got pissed to why he was ignoring. Me i told him abd he was being poilite and cute then on sunday my friend came to mine and whilst i was in shower my friend texted him on snapchat to say that i like him (i wasnt supposed to know that she text him) then about few hours later we had a great conversation then he posted he was taken abd i asked him who he was taken by and he told me and i replied with ohh and he replied with why and i just said never mind (he knows that i like him but i didnt know he knew that i like him ) and today i sent a snap to everyone saying “ask me an question ill answer it truthfully” but he didnt ask me any questions and then i said heyyy and he totally ignored me what shall i do next coz i want us both to be close to each other but i dont want to become inbetween him and his girlfriend hes my first crush and im about 15 years old i could never find anyone good looking untill i saw him

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 9, 2018 at 9:26 pm

      It sounds as though you are aware that he is in a relationship. If that is the case, then do not attempt to nourish a relationship with him. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Do not attempt to maintain a relationship with him at this time. If he flirts with you, then do not respond. Have a great day, Shaz!

    • ashley

      June 4, 2018 at 10:02 am

      hes probably not answering you bc he has a gf !!

      • web admin

        web admin

        June 4, 2018 at 10:42 am

        It is certainly possible that this is the scenario. There are many potential reasons for this person’s behaviors. Their personal relationships are likely the most influential aspects of their decisions. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Ashley!

  9. megan

    March 31, 2018 at 6:12 pm

    so i have known this boy since preschool and our family’s are good friends. both he and i are very busy and athletic… and he lives about an hour away. we have been talking a lot about sports and memories and small talk but i want to show him subtly that i like him, how do i do that?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 1, 2018 at 11:47 pm

      It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with him. It is always beneficial to act in kind and compassionate ways. Spend additional time with him, as this will naturally strengthen your relationship with him. Perhaps meet with him. Determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Megan!

  10. Helen

    March 31, 2018 at 4:31 am

    Hi! I’ve been on a date with this gorgeous guy and I know he’s interested in me since his best friend told me so. When he texts me he’s really careful with the way he writes so he can sound smart. We went on this date and he told me he wanted to do it again, but he never set a date. How can I set a date without looking pushy?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 31, 2018 at 12:56 pm

      He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. He may be shy or uncertain how to ask you on another date. You seem as though you would be comfortable reaching out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Attempt to set another date, as it is likely that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you as well. Have a great day, Helen!

  11. Gontse

    March 20, 2018 at 1:22 am

    I have a huge crush on my brother’s friend- we grew up together and grew apart
    He’s recently been in contact and has been hinting at liking me too
    How do I subtly show him that I like him too?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 20, 2018 at 9:24 pm

      It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Attempt to spend additional time with him in person, as this will give your relationship an opportunity to be nourished. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Gontse!

  12. MO

    February 3, 2018 at 4:39 am

    hello! hope all is well 🙂 My bf was just recenlty released from jail and we talked almost everyday before then (keeping in touch) ect. we were supoose to meet up the day he got out but didnt he hasnt called me since hes been out its been almost three days but sent me a message on fb saying hes thinking about me and hes doing what his PO asked and “I hope you understand My whole world is so different right now and I’m Really going to need your help and bare with me and my distance I’m just getting everything done properly” what does this mean, is he wasting my time? should call him What should i do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 3, 2018 at 10:04 pm

      He is not wasting your time. He is attempting to care for himself and just was released from jail. He is interested in developing a life that ensures that he does not return to prison. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Share your kindness and compassion with him, as this will ensure that he is less likely to return to a life that will lead him to jail. Have a great day, Mo!

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