When a Guy Blocks You: What Does It Mean and What to Do

By on May 16, 2018

One of the worst things about social media is the fact that you can be deleted and blocked from someone’s life without so much as a second thought, in less time than it takes to blink. To be so happy in love one minute, only to find that you can’t even see your BAE’s Facebook or Instagram page the next; there’s only one thing to do when you’ve been blocked by your guy … 

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Don’t React

Of course, there are a hundred and one ways of dealing with this particular situation, but one thing is for certain — he’s mad or sad and needs a little time. He’s *that* mad he doesn’t even want to see your social media accounts, let alone speak to you. If the two of you try to communicate on any level there’s a good chance the situation will just get worse … and more heated. You’ll both say things that you didn’t mean but the other person won’t be able to forget that you ever said them and that little lover’s tiff you had has the potential to turn into something deeply troubling. Perhaps even relationship-ending. 

When a guy blocks you, give him some space. Let him have some time to think and relax. If the two of you have come to blows, chasing him further is just going to chase him away. You shouldn’t beg for his time, nor should you keep chasing him for it. If he doesn’t want you in his life right now, get on with yours. 

  • Get the girls around and have some drinks and a movie. 
  • Invite your parents around for dinner and a catchup. 
  • Go to the gym like you keep saying you’re going to do, but never do. 
  • Do something else — don’t pine for him, don’t sit and wait for him, just get on with your life and let things play out just as they’re going to. 

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Don’t React Like This … 

If he blocks you on Facebook, don’t message him on Instagram. He’ll block you on there too, and then you’ll need to resort to using Twitter. What if he blocks you there? Whatsapp next? Then iMessage? What about Skype? 

If you keep going around the social media accounts, there’s a good chance he’ll just keep blocking you. Take the first blocking as a sign — this chap needs his space. 

> > If he WANTS you to chase him around the various social media accounts to “prove” how much you’ll do for him, he’s playing games. You don’t need that drama in your life. Boy, bye! < <

While we’re on the subject of other things NOT to do, don’t scream and shout at him. We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again — he needs some space. Shouting and screaming at him is not giving him space. We know that you don’t want to lose your BAE, but hurling abuse at him is not going to keep him in your clutches. 

One final point that we feel it is important to bring to your attention — stalking his social media accounts using your friend’s social media account is always a good idea in theory but usually ends up going wrong somewhere along the line. You will accidentally ‘like’ an update from months ago, for example, making him aware of EXACTLY what you’re doing. He’s going to know that it’s your best friend letting you use her account. 

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Do React Like This …

Spend some time on yourself — treating and loving yourself. Self-care is very underrated but oh-so-vital, and if he won’t love you in the way that you would like him to, perhaps it’s about time that you started to love yourself? 

Treat yourself to a pamper weekend or have that extra slice of chocolate cake. You’ll add an extra half an hour on at the gym to compensate for it, right? 

Get your hair done. Nails? Yeah, get a manicure while you’re there too. All of those things that you don’t seem to find the time to do anymore now that you’re in a relationship; that’s what you should be doing. Sitting around waiting for him to make that unblock call is probably just going to break your heart. As the saying goes, you should be with the guy who ruins your lipstick with kisses, not your mascara with tears. 

When the time is right — when you have both calmed down — you can talk again, perhaps sort out the problems you had or have. But you do need to have calmed down first. You can’t solve an argument by starting a brand new one. You almost must remember that the resolution might not always be quite as you’d hoped. 

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    hey

    March 18, 2020 at 2:06 pm

    Thanks, Kimberley! this post helps me a lot <3

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      web admin

      March 18, 2020 at 8:32 pm

      Thank you!

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    Rani

    March 14, 2020 at 9:11 pm

    Hello

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      web admin

      March 15, 2020 at 1:53 pm

      Welcome to our community!

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        Meoow

        March 23, 2020 at 5:04 am

        He kept asking so many questions and asked me how much do I trust him, I told him it’s not like I don’t trust him I just need some time, he said relationship based on trust, no trust no relationship, I get angry and said my ex was saying the same but cheating on me, how can I also trust you that easily ? Then he said, yeah I found that I’m changed, I was the one who was telling you not to trust any guys even me,now I feel hurt when I think about it,I couldn’t control myself and I get angry I said that I hate him cause he always reminds me of my ex and I don’t want to think about him again, I told him to stop,if not I will seriously block him, he saw the messages but didn’t respond to me that night, after that day I saw he blocked me, I know I was wrong I really didn’t want to say those things to him but I got so angry.. I feel so sad that he blocked me, what should I do ???

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          web admin

          March 23, 2020 at 5:05 pm

          It is clear that his behaviors were inappropriate. The two of you had a discussion and you shared your feelings with him. You informed him that if he refused to treat you with respect, that you would block him. This caused him to make the decision to block you. It seems that you are lucky that he is no longer part of your life.

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    Rani

    March 14, 2020 at 9:10 pm

    I proposed a boy, he asked me to meet at flat, I did not respond, he blocked me

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      web admin

      March 15, 2020 at 1:54 pm

      You spoke with him and he invited you over. You made the decision to not respond to him, so he determined that your relationship was not viable. This made him block you. Apply this knowledge to your future relationships.

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    Amanda

    March 13, 2020 at 12:40 am

    I’ve been battling depression ever since the guy I love blocked me. We me online and things between hit off very well, we instantly clicked and realized we have a lot in common. He was the first guy to treat me differently, he was nice and sweet. At first I saw him as a friend but as I got to know him I grew feelings for him. He caught me off guard when he said to me that he loves me and never felt this way before for anyone. There was one big problem though….. he’s married. This made things complicated, on several ocassions I tried to keep my distance but he managed to persue me with his words. I really cared about him until I noticed as time went by his behavior was changing. Everytime I wanted to talk to him about our situation he avoided the topic and brushed it off saying “another day”. One day I got tired because he kept playing hot and cold games with me, I finally brought up the topic about us and that’s when he told me he wanted us to stop talking with feelings because he’s carrying a guilty concious. This made me angry and I told him that his marriege was a lie and that his wife was only substitute in his life to replace the empty gap of his deceased mom. He got even more angry….. the gollowing day without a word he blocked me which left me devastated. Was I wrong in my behavior???

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      web admin

      March 13, 2020 at 7:05 pm

      I’m not sure if his wife is a substitute for his deceased mom, but you were fair to push him on the topic of his marriage. From the sound of it, he isn’t going to leave his wife. He may have only wanted a fling the entire time, or there may have been points where he fantasized about this being more. Whatever the case, it sounds like he is definitely certain that he isn’t leaving his wife. Blocking you was his way of showing you that he isn’t leaving her. He may keep you blocked if he wants the affair to end completely, but he may also unblock you at some point in the hopes of having an affair again. Whatever the case, I wouldn’t expect the situation to change for the better. 🙁

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    Kay

    March 12, 2020 at 1:32 am

    So, i knew this guy for 3 months. Actually he’s my brother’s friend. We haven’t meet yet because he study abroad. We always texted each other almost everyday. And we have a same connection. I think, he interested to me also I’m sure that he’s a good guy because i know his little brother (because he’s my friend) 1 week ago, he already promised to meet me today, and i make sure that he will meet with me today. But when i saw his whatsapp and instagram, he suddenly blocked me… i have no an idea. Because 2 days ago we still talked each other and we never fight or have a rude conversation. So what does it means? I really confused..

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      web admin

      March 12, 2020 at 12:18 pm

      He may have just met someone else that he decided to pursue a relationship with. It’s also possible that he just realized you weren’t the right match for him, and he didn’t want to explain to you why. Life partners are a lot like puzzle pieces, so he may have just realized that your puzzle pieces didn’t quite fit. Whatever the case, it doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong, so I would try not to dwell on it and focus on moving on.

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    Anonymous

    March 9, 2020 at 6:46 pm

    I was messaging a boy I’ve known for about three and a half years. I’ve been messaging him since last June. About a month ago I told him I wouldn’t be able to talk to him via social media anymore, and that I would just text him the normal way instead ( I told him how I found his number and that if he had a problem with messaging that way to let me know before I deleted my social media accounts) I thoroughly explained my situation and what I was doing through (anxiety, panic attacks, etc). However, when I sent him a message, he blocked my number. I love this boy a lot. I know there are a lot of other people that reach out to you for your help, but please help me. My situation is serious. I feel like Iam on the verge of life and death, and nothing has helped. No amount of antidepressants, counseling, or positive thinking has helped. Do you have any advice for how I could get this boy to be willing to talk to me?

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      web admin

      March 12, 2020 at 1:38 pm

      As long as you base your happiness on others, you will always be on an emotional roller coaster. It sounds like the boy decided this relationship wasn’t for him, which is why he blocked you. There’s no way of knowing what his reasoning was, so the best thing you can do now is just focus on moving on. If you need someone to talk to, Seven Cups of Tea has trained volunteers you can talk to anonymously for free. In addition, you may want to try learning meditation to help manage some of your symptoms. Having a meditation practice has been proven to be supportive for a number of mental health conditions, and it can help you balance out the highs and lows of life.

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    Arianna Boulanger

    February 28, 2020 at 3:59 pm

    I dont know what to do? So this guy I am talking to, he says he likes me and all but he blocks me on all my social media? I like him too and I know he does too…I am freaking out like I did something wrong? Everything seemed so perfect with us, that’s what I don’t understand…? Please help me on what to do? I have fallen for him…

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      web admin

      February 28, 2020 at 4:29 pm

      Even if everything was perfect between you, it is always possible that he just realized that the relationship wasn’t right for you. It’s also possible that an ex reappeared in his life and he wanted to pursue that but was afraid to just tell you that he was going to do that. It’s also entirely possible that he somehow managed to do that on accident, although I really doubt that that is even possible. Whatever the case, I would assume from his behavior that the relationship is now over. From the sound of it, you did nothing wrong and he should have just told you the reason for ending everything.

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    Shantel

    February 28, 2020 at 2:02 pm

    I’m in a long distance relationship,firstly we had a little misunderstanding and we didn’t talk for 3 month and i was surprise when he text me via WhatsApp and apologize and we got talking again from December till 22/2/2020. And he has been complaining about a very important exams he’s to write in 6month to come, and is really stressing him because he’s attending a lot of classes and doing a lot of research, so I told him some day’s ago that I was sick and he couldn’t check up on me, he sent me a voice note right away and apologize, he told me how he really want me in his life and I should be alright because of him. He told me that he’s shutting down his WhatsApp because he want to get a new phone. I check the next day he has blocked me, I checked him through a friends phone he’s still very active.I felt really sad and I’m still hurt.

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      web admin

      February 28, 2020 at 4:47 pm

      Apparently, he has horrible methods for dealing with stress. Either that, or he realized the relationship wasn’t right for him after all. Whatever the case, I would probably try to forget about him and move on. If he blocks you and ends the relationship whenever he is under stress, the best thing you can do for you is move on. There will always be sources of stress in his life, and you don’t want to be in a relationship that will always be on-again, off-again.

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    JB

    February 27, 2020 at 1:53 pm

    I met a guy online Nov 2019 and we hit it off perfectly. He was recently separated from his wife. He did everything that I have ever wanted in a man…always texting me, wanting to see me, etc. Our first date went well as did the second. On the third date, I went to his place to celebrate his birthday and Christmas. It was just us and it was really nice. We had plans for me to come over New Year’s Eve and spend the night and hangout with his friends. I went over and we went out for a bit and on the way back to his place I got sick. I still slept over and we had a really nice time. Throughout dating, he told me I was the best thing to ever happen to him, he loved me, I made him so happy, couldn’t wait to see what the new year had in store for us. He would talk about things like he was going to marry me, he wanted to build a house with me, had us living together by Christmas 2020, and constantly asking me when would we be a couple. I would tell him that I wanted to take things slow, I didn’t want to rush. He knew I had trust issues it would take me a while to get to that point. He woke up New Year’s Day and went to get his phone. Mind you, the whole time we spent together, he never messed with his phone. Maybe that should’ve been a red flag, I just thought he was being polite. When he came back to bed, he was messaging someone. He kinda slammed his phone down and went into the bathroom and slammed the door, which he hadn’t done the whole time I was there. When he came back, he laid down and was messing with his phone. I said is everything okay and he said yeah and that was it. So I rolled over and put my back to him. I had a feeling something was up. Once I put my back to him, he put his phone down and cuddled up behind me and we started fooling around again. After, he took a shower and then I did and when I was done we were sitting together on the sofa holding hands and he hugged me. Then we went out for lunch. Everything then seemed fine. I still wasn’t feeling well so he had said if you want to go home I’ll understand. Well I thought he meant to his house but when we got back he said he’d go get my bag so I wouldn’t have to go downstairs. So I thought he didn’t want me around. He had said earlier if I didn’t feel good on that Friday, so come Sat (I was supposed to spend the weekend). Then before I left he said he would understand if I couldn’t make it for the weekend and that struck me funny. So I went home. Usually on my way home he’d tell me to be careful and text him when I get home. Nothing. I texted him when I got home and we talked for a while. We had became a couple while I was at his house. He seemed really excited about that and was like we’re a team. He went to go hangout with him friends and I didn’t hear anything all night. I texted him, nothing. I texted him that I was going to bed and all he said was ok, baby. Next morning he texted me and asked how was I doing, I said ehhh and asked how he was doing. He said a roller coaster of emotions. That his daughter had called and asked if he would come get her brother so she could have time alone with her friends without the boy bugging her so he said he would have the boy for the weekend which meant that I wouldn’t be able to come over. Ok, fine. Then he said his daughter asked if he was with someone and he said yes. He said that she basically threw a fit and that she didn’t want him with anyone. He said he wanted to go back to us just dating and not be a couple and to give him time to deal with her and figure things out. I understood her being upset because she’s 13 and her parents just split up 2 months prior. Then he said so no couple, still date and still see each other but if I wanted to see other people I could. That really hurt me because I didn’t want to see anyone else, I wanted to be with him. After that we texted for a few more times that day and then he ignored me for a week. When he finally replied to me, he said some drama happened between him, his daughter and his wife and that he had made an appointment to go to counseling and that once he started he was going off the grid and not talking to anyone to try to focus on getting himself together. I said ok but all I ask is you text me every once in a while that you’re ok. He said ok. We texted off and on and then the weekend before his counseling was to start, he sent me a picture of his penis, which was so out of character (or how I knew of him). He said we could keep talking until his session and he said that he still wanted to hangout with me. We talked the day of his session and he was worried and saying that he didn’t know how he was going to get through it. That night I texted him and he said that he wanted to be by himself, that his session went good and he was going back. That was the last day I heard from him. I texted off and on checking on him but he wouldn’t reply. I text him on a Tuesday and it went through. I texted him that Saturday and it wouldn’t so I knew he blocked me. The next Friday something told me to check his Instagram and there it was…him and his new girlfriend. So 8 days after he says he wants to be by himself, he’s with a girl that he dated 25 years ago. Picture posted of them naked in bed together. He wasn’t man enough to just tell the truth. So now I feel like everything he ever said to me was a lie. Did he really care about me and she popped back up and he wanted to try again with her? Was he with me to keep him company until she was ready to be with him? I found out that she divorced her husband Oct 2019 and that is the same month him and his wife separated. Coincidence? Think not. She lives out of state and I don’t feel like it’ll work out but who knows, maybe they are “meant to be”. I just hate that he knew I have trust issues and had my wall up and the time I let it down he did me like that. I trusted him completely and felt completely comfortable with him (I’m fat and have issues about my body and being naked and not thinking I’m good enough but he made me feel wanted and loved). I’m just so hurt. It’s been a month now and I have good days and then I have nights were I just cry. He’s on Facebook posting how she makes him so happy yet he was JUST telling me the exact same thing. I just don’t understand how someone can treat someone else like that…and he has a daughter!

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      web admin

      February 27, 2020 at 6:25 pm

      The two of you met online and maintained a relationship for a period of time. You are aware that his behaviors are clear signs that this relationship is not viable. He then made the decision to block you, which is a sign that this relationship has concluded. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    Stella

    February 25, 2020 at 1:16 pm

    My boyfriend now ex had a fight with his boss and then he told me about it but I guess I wasn’t as supportive as I should have been and I was busy on Twitter while he was talking then he said I should learn to accept my faults then I asked if everything is okay he said it’s cool then said goodnight. The next morning I found that I got blocked on WhatsApp, I sent numerous texts asking what went wrong he said it is over and he wishes me the best. A week later I sent an email apologizing and he thanked me for the email and said he would reply but he hasn’t done so and it’s been 3 weeks now. He still follows me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram, 2 weeks ago he sent an email with a link for my school work. I said thank you and I haven’t heard from him since. I miss him so much,I don’t know what to do.

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      Stella

      February 25, 2020 at 1:20 pm

      I forgot to add that we were very happy before that day and he had even called to check on me but I had been making excuses for not meeting for 3 weeks prior to that and he kept saying he misses me. I don’t know if me not seeing him for so long added to his resentment towards me.

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        web admin

        February 25, 2020 at 4:00 pm

        The two of you had an argument, and this led to him making the decision to block you. If this is an indication of his other behaviors, then it seems that he is not the type of person that you want to maintain a relationship with. Do not attempt to reach out to him. If he reaches out to you in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at that time.

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      web admin

      February 25, 2020 at 4:00 pm

      The two of you had an argument, and this led to him making the decision to block you. If this is an indication of his other behaviors, then it seems that he is not the type of person that you want to maintain a relationship with. Do not attempt to reach out to him. If he reaches out to you in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at that time.

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    Chloe

    February 24, 2020 at 5:12 pm

    So I did the bad thing and harassed him on all social media and he blocked me on everything when I messaged. We broke up after a year because he was treating me badly (called me annoying despite me asking him not to, broke up with me 5 times via SMS at the smell of a problem, spoke to ex-girlfriends about their boobs and didnt do a lot to repair the trust etc.). I did it via SMS when after one morning he told me to leave him alone for not really any reason. I messaged his housemate and told him it was over from my end and could he please look out for him as he hasnt got anyone else. I told the housemate that though they didnt get along, could he please still be there for him. The housemate got very upset at the idea that my ex didnt like him- I spent about an hour trying to do damage control and dug myself a huge hold. the housemate said he had screen shot the convo and would show him.

    The next morning I messaged my ex because I knew that if I didnt it would backfire more on me. My ex was furious- told me that he could not believe I had ended it over SMS despite me always going on about how much i hated him doing it, and that the fact I spoke to his housemate despite him telling me not to trust him, shows I dont respect his wishes and for this reason I have ruined it. He said goodbye. Let me say he has done this before. We usually get back together after a couple of weeks.

    After a week (5 days ago), I messaged and I said I didnt want to end things, but wanted us to speak better to each other. I said that I was sorry, that it was a bad choice to talk to the housemate despite my ex always warning me that he cannot be trusted, that I would apologise to the housemate and try and make things better, etc. He told me no and that it was over. I said I helped him with his visa all year because I love him and at no point have I ever wanted to hurt him or cause him problems. I asked him if he had used me for visa help and he said no.
    I asked if he had found someone else, he said no, he has not been out and has no interest in finding someone else and wants to be alone. I then asked if he ever loved me because I felt like he had used me. He told me he would not answer this question.

    I got upset and told him that throughout our year relationship, he would ask me often if I love him and that I had never asked him. I said I would like to finally know if he ever felt the same. He blocked my number. I then messaged him on instagram and told him that this was not fair- he wrote “go away!!!!” and blocked me. I then did the idiot thing and messaged him over messenger and Whatsapp the same sort of thing and he blocked me after saying “dont do this.”

    It has been 5 days and I am still blocked on everything.
    Have I ruined this? I am so upset. He used to call me annoying and I basically just confirmed it. 🙁 He has broken up with me 5 times but hes never blocked me for longer than a day. I am so worried 🙁

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 24, 2020 at 6:38 pm

      His behaviors were inappropriate throughout your relationship, and you made the decision to harass him. It is clear that this relationship was not viable for either of you. He made the decision to block you, so make a decision about what you want for your future without him. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    Manelle

    February 24, 2020 at 5:03 pm

    So I did the bad thing and when we finally spoke a week after I ended things (he was treating me badly) and I said I didnt want to end things, but wanted us to speak better to each other, he told me that I had told his housemate that I had dumped him and for this reason I had ruined it because I made his private business public. he said he never wanted to fight but now its time to say goodbye.

    I messaged a week later and said that I was sorry, that it was a bad choice to talk to the housemate despite my ex always warning me that he cannot be trusted, that I would apologise to the housemate and try and make things better, etc. He told me no and that it was over.
    I then asked if he had used me for his visa (he sucks at paperwork and so I did it for a year!) and he said no. I asked if he had found someone else, he said no, he has not been out and has no interest in finding someone else and wants to be alone. I then asked if he ever loved me because I felt like he had used me. He told me he would not answer this question.
    I got upset and told him that throughout our year relationship, he would ask me often if I love him and that I had never asked him. I said I would like to finally know if he ever felt the same. He blocked my number. I then messaged him on instagram and told him that this was not fair- he wrote “go away!!!!” and blocked me. I then did the idiot thing and messaged him over messenger and Whatsapp the same sort of thing and he blocked me after saying “dont do this.”
    It has been 5 days and I am still blocked on everything.
    Have I ruined this? I am so upset. He used to call me annoying and I basically just confirmed it.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 24, 2020 at 6:38 pm

      His behaviors were inappropriate throughout your relationship, and you made the decision to harass him. It is clear that this relationship was not viable for either of you. He made the decision to block you, so make a decision about what you want for your future without him. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    Sydney

    February 24, 2020 at 7:03 am

    What if I shut him out and pushed him away after one date? I got a little scared at how great things went that I told him I didn’t want to get scared and that I didn’t want to see him again. 🙁 He tried rationalizing with me but I unfollowed him on ig so he proceeded to block me on ig and via text/phone. I’m wondering if this is it and I feel horrible Bc it went well and I ruined it.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 24, 2020 at 6:50 pm

      You made the decision to end a positive relationship. There was no reason for you to do so, but you made that decision. When he realized that you were serious, he made the decision to block you. This relationship is no longer viable, so focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    ZOZI

    February 23, 2020 at 11:19 pm

    AM in a relationship with a guy for about a year now and i did not know tomuch about him in 2019 but what i know alot happened i lost my baby in 2019 while i was pregnant and after i found out am HIV positive he was a shoulder to cry on telling me he doesnt know how did it happened coz he only slept with her ex gf in 2018 without a condom… apparently this guy fall inlove with me things changed when he got new opoortunity in capetown in 2020 he stop sending texts on whatsapp, calls and check how am i doing but if ever i text him he will reply and answer my calls and he trusted me with everything while he was unemployed used my phone sometimes for emails and i supported him with everything even with money to go to capetown for interviews and taxi fare…. last moth he was sick in capetown and i checked him everytime and he appreciated for checksups he called last month being stressed for rent money that is not enough ok i sacrifice and gave him my stokvel money everytime when his in trouble,sick or stressed he knows me as his gf ….i got his facebook account and password and i saw how he flirts with other girls and slept with them when he moved to capetown but i kept quite and loved him apparently i was one of those girls he wanted to have sex with and get done with me unfortunetly he fall inlove and he stop those silling things but started it when he moved to capetown …. so yesterday we had a fight of him sleeping with other girls and he divert my call, blocked me on whatsapp and divert my call again telling me am making him angry but on messsenger he did not block and i told him to block me on messseger he said i must do that myself everytime we fight he intend to block me …. what makes me hurt i really love the guy and i fall inlove with him with good intesion on my side the fact that he infected me with hiv at the young age of 26 it really hurt me deep down coz he found me single after i breakup with my ex bf i dated for 10 years and we both tested frequently when i was in a relationship with him and before i fall inlove with him i was hiv nagative coz i was single for about 2 years… am still inlove with him and its really hard to breakup with him even am sitting here at work feeling stressed what must i do i really need help

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 24, 2020 at 8:57 pm

      I think that this would be a good time to break up with him. After he found out that he gave you HIV, he kept sleeping around with other women and potentially spreading the infection–and cheating on you multiple times in the process. While you love him, it doesn’t sound like he can really be with anyone at this point. He has been using you for money and sex, and you can’t afford to keep putting you through the stress of this situation any longer.