When a Guy Blocks You: What Does It Mean and What to Do

By on May 16, 2018

One of the worst things about social media is the fact that you can be deleted and blocked from someone’s life without so much as a second thought, in less time than it takes to blink. To be so happy in love one minute, only to find that you can’t even see your BAE’s Facebook or Instagram page the next; there’s only one thing to do when you’ve been blocked by your guy … 

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Don’t React

Of course, there are a hundred and one ways of dealing with this particular situation, but one thing is for certain — he’s mad or sad and needs a little time. He’s *that* mad he doesn’t even want to see your social media accounts, let alone speak to you. If the two of you try to communicate on any level there’s a good chance the situation will just get worse … and more heated. You’ll both say things that you didn’t mean but the other person won’t be able to forget that you ever said them and that little lover’s tiff you had has the potential to turn into something deeply troubling. Perhaps even relationship-ending. 

When a guy blocks you, give him some space. Let him have some time to think and relax. If the two of you have come to blows, chasing him further is just going to chase him away. You shouldn’t beg for his time, nor should you keep chasing him for it. If he doesn’t want you in his life right now, get on with yours. 

  • Get the girls around and have some drinks and a movie. 
  • Invite your parents around for dinner and a catchup. 
  • Go to the gym like you keep saying you’re going to do, but never do. 
  • Do something else — don’t pine for him, don’t sit and wait for him, just get on with your life and let things play out just as they’re going to. 

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Don’t React Like This … 

If he blocks you on Facebook, don’t message him on Instagram. He’ll block you on there too, and then you’ll need to resort to using Twitter. What if he blocks you there? Whatsapp next? Then iMessage? What about Skype? 

If you keep going around the social media accounts, there’s a good chance he’ll just keep blocking you. Take the first blocking as a sign — this chap needs his space. 

> > If he WANTS you to chase him around the various social media accounts to “prove” how much you’ll do for him, he’s playing games. You don’t need that drama in your life. Boy, bye! < <

While we’re on the subject of other things NOT to do, don’t scream and shout at him. We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again — he needs some space. Shouting and screaming at him is not giving him space. We know that you don’t want to lose your BAE, but hurling abuse at him is not going to keep him in your clutches. 

One final point that we feel it is important to bring to your attention — stalking his social media accounts using your friend’s social media account is always a good idea in theory but usually ends up going wrong somewhere along the line. You will accidentally ‘like’ an update from months ago, for example, making him aware of EXACTLY what you’re doing. He’s going to know that it’s your best friend letting you use her account. 

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Do React Like This …

Spend some time on yourself — treating and loving yourself. Self-care is very underrated but oh-so-vital, and if he won’t love you in the way that you would like him to, perhaps it’s about time that you started to love yourself? 

Treat yourself to a pamper weekend or have that extra slice of chocolate cake. You’ll add an extra half an hour on at the gym to compensate for it, right? 

Get your hair done. Nails? Yeah, get a manicure while you’re there too. All of those things that you don’t seem to find the time to do anymore now that you’re in a relationship; that’s what you should be doing. Sitting around waiting for him to make that unblock call is probably just going to break your heart. As the saying goes, you should be with the guy who ruins your lipstick with kisses, not your mascara with tears. 

When the time is right — when you have both calmed down — you can talk again, perhaps sort out the problems you had or have. But you do need to have calmed down first. You can’t solve an argument by starting a brand new one. You almost must remember that the resolution might not always be quite as you’d hoped. 

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    Chloe

    February 24, 2020 at 5:12 pm

    So I did the bad thing and harassed him on all social media and he blocked me on everything when I messaged. We broke up after a year because he was treating me badly (called me annoying despite me asking him not to, broke up with me 5 times via SMS at the smell of a problem, spoke to ex-girlfriends about their boobs and didnt do a lot to repair the trust etc.). I did it via SMS when after one morning he told me to leave him alone for not really any reason. I messaged his housemate and told him it was over from my end and could he please look out for him as he hasnt got anyone else. I told the housemate that though they didnt get along, could he please still be there for him. The housemate got very upset at the idea that my ex didnt like him- I spent about an hour trying to do damage control and dug myself a huge hold. the housemate said he had screen shot the convo and would show him.

    The next morning I messaged my ex because I knew that if I didnt it would backfire more on me. My ex was furious- told me that he could not believe I had ended it over SMS despite me always going on about how much i hated him doing it, and that the fact I spoke to his housemate despite him telling me not to trust him, shows I dont respect his wishes and for this reason I have ruined it. He said goodbye. Let me say he has done this before. We usually get back together after a couple of weeks.

    After a week (5 days ago), I messaged and I said I didnt want to end things, but wanted us to speak better to each other. I said that I was sorry, that it was a bad choice to talk to the housemate despite my ex always warning me that he cannot be trusted, that I would apologise to the housemate and try and make things better, etc. He told me no and that it was over. I said I helped him with his visa all year because I love him and at no point have I ever wanted to hurt him or cause him problems. I asked him if he had used me for visa help and he said no.
    I asked if he had found someone else, he said no, he has not been out and has no interest in finding someone else and wants to be alone. I then asked if he ever loved me because I felt like he had used me. He told me he would not answer this question.

    I got upset and told him that throughout our year relationship, he would ask me often if I love him and that I had never asked him. I said I would like to finally know if he ever felt the same. He blocked my number. I then messaged him on instagram and told him that this was not fair- he wrote “go away!!!!” and blocked me. I then did the idiot thing and messaged him over messenger and Whatsapp the same sort of thing and he blocked me after saying “dont do this.”

    It has been 5 days and I am still blocked on everything.
    Have I ruined this? I am so upset. He used to call me annoying and I basically just confirmed it. 🙁 He has broken up with me 5 times but hes never blocked me for longer than a day. I am so worried 🙁

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 24, 2020 at 6:38 pm

      His behaviors were inappropriate throughout your relationship, and you made the decision to harass him. It is clear that this relationship was not viable for either of you. He made the decision to block you, so make a decision about what you want for your future without him. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    Manelle

    February 24, 2020 at 5:03 pm

    So I did the bad thing and when we finally spoke a week after I ended things (he was treating me badly) and I said I didnt want to end things, but wanted us to speak better to each other, he told me that I had told his housemate that I had dumped him and for this reason I had ruined it because I made his private business public. he said he never wanted to fight but now its time to say goodbye.

    I messaged a week later and said that I was sorry, that it was a bad choice to talk to the housemate despite my ex always warning me that he cannot be trusted, that I would apologise to the housemate and try and make things better, etc. He told me no and that it was over.
    I then asked if he had used me for his visa (he sucks at paperwork and so I did it for a year!) and he said no. I asked if he had found someone else, he said no, he has not been out and has no interest in finding someone else and wants to be alone. I then asked if he ever loved me because I felt like he had used me. He told me he would not answer this question.
    I got upset and told him that throughout our year relationship, he would ask me often if I love him and that I had never asked him. I said I would like to finally know if he ever felt the same. He blocked my number. I then messaged him on instagram and told him that this was not fair- he wrote “go away!!!!” and blocked me. I then did the idiot thing and messaged him over messenger and Whatsapp the same sort of thing and he blocked me after saying “dont do this.”
    It has been 5 days and I am still blocked on everything.
    Have I ruined this? I am so upset. He used to call me annoying and I basically just confirmed it.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 24, 2020 at 6:38 pm

      His behaviors were inappropriate throughout your relationship, and you made the decision to harass him. It is clear that this relationship was not viable for either of you. He made the decision to block you, so make a decision about what you want for your future without him. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    Sydney

    February 24, 2020 at 7:03 am

    What if I shut him out and pushed him away after one date? I got a little scared at how great things went that I told him I didn’t want to get scared and that I didn’t want to see him again. 🙁 He tried rationalizing with me but I unfollowed him on ig so he proceeded to block me on ig and via text/phone. I’m wondering if this is it and I feel horrible Bc it went well and I ruined it.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 24, 2020 at 6:50 pm

      You made the decision to end a positive relationship. There was no reason for you to do so, but you made that decision. When he realized that you were serious, he made the decision to block you. This relationship is no longer viable, so focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    ZOZI

    February 23, 2020 at 11:19 pm

    AM in a relationship with a guy for about a year now and i did not know tomuch about him in 2019 but what i know alot happened i lost my baby in 2019 while i was pregnant and after i found out am HIV positive he was a shoulder to cry on telling me he doesnt know how did it happened coz he only slept with her ex gf in 2018 without a condom… apparently this guy fall inlove with me things changed when he got new opoortunity in capetown in 2020 he stop sending texts on whatsapp, calls and check how am i doing but if ever i text him he will reply and answer my calls and he trusted me with everything while he was unemployed used my phone sometimes for emails and i supported him with everything even with money to go to capetown for interviews and taxi fare…. last moth he was sick in capetown and i checked him everytime and he appreciated for checksups he called last month being stressed for rent money that is not enough ok i sacrifice and gave him my stokvel money everytime when his in trouble,sick or stressed he knows me as his gf ….i got his facebook account and password and i saw how he flirts with other girls and slept with them when he moved to capetown but i kept quite and loved him apparently i was one of those girls he wanted to have sex with and get done with me unfortunetly he fall inlove and he stop those silling things but started it when he moved to capetown …. so yesterday we had a fight of him sleeping with other girls and he divert my call, blocked me on whatsapp and divert my call again telling me am making him angry but on messsenger he did not block and i told him to block me on messseger he said i must do that myself everytime we fight he intend to block me …. what makes me hurt i really love the guy and i fall inlove with him with good intesion on my side the fact that he infected me with hiv at the young age of 26 it really hurt me deep down coz he found me single after i breakup with my ex bf i dated for 10 years and we both tested frequently when i was in a relationship with him and before i fall inlove with him i was hiv nagative coz i was single for about 2 years… am still inlove with him and its really hard to breakup with him even am sitting here at work feeling stressed what must i do i really need help

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      web admin

      February 24, 2020 at 8:57 pm

      I think that this would be a good time to break up with him. After he found out that he gave you HIV, he kept sleeping around with other women and potentially spreading the infection–and cheating on you multiple times in the process. While you love him, it doesn’t sound like he can really be with anyone at this point. He has been using you for money and sex, and you can’t afford to keep putting you through the stress of this situation any longer.

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    Angel

    February 23, 2020 at 5:50 am

    Hi, so mine is a bit complicated one. Since we were of a different religion and caste diversity,we were not planning to get married anyways. But I would marry him if I could. Three days back, we had a bit of a fight and i asked him of he wanted a breakup. He said he is not sure, because he is unable to handle stress. He is working and preparing for an exam. He said he cannot handle stress. And after that day, since we were both hurting so much, he came to my apartment and we were fine again. He used to coe to me everytime he have an off day at work. We just met two days back. But this time he said he wont come because he just came recently. This is the first time he did not want to come on his off day. He said he will come on his next off that is after 5 days. If it was before, he would not wait that long to meet me. So today, i got a bit restless about it so I stressed up and made a fight about it.He said Fuck off and then he blocked me. I called him multiple times and he rejected my calls. And i texted him saying he lose his interest in me and that i will never disturb him again. He just said ok. (when i first started the fight, he seemed to calm me down). I think I crossed his limits, will he unblock me and come back?

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      web admin

      February 23, 2020 at 6:39 pm

      He has made the decision to block you. This is for various reasons associated with his social and familial influences. Because he made the decision to not nourish a relationship with you, should allow thoughts of him to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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        Angel

        February 24, 2020 at 6:55 am

        Thanks for that. He did unblocked and apologized, but he did not have the passion and eagerness to see me anymore. He did say he did not wanna leave me, but he said he need to make a bit of a distance and concentrate on his health and studies.
        Thanks for your reply.

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          web admin

          February 24, 2020 at 6:31 pm

          It is clear that he doesn’t know what it is that he wants for the future of your relationship. Because of this, you need to make a decision about what you feel is viable. You may want to focus your emotional energy elsewhere, as this may help draw positive people and energy into your life.

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    Liv

    February 17, 2020 at 6:07 pm

    heyy. so me and my bf had been seeing eachother for a little over a month now. he is the man that has treated me the best thus far compared to all my other relationships. We met on facebook and then he asked for my instagram and i gave it and we continued to speak through there before I eventually got his number and Snapchat. We used to talk multiple times a day in the beginning and we both used to initiate with no problem. Now we talk a little less than usual probably a 2-4 times a week but he has a job and I went back to college (we live in NYC and I also go to college in NYC) so that part isn’t what concerns me too much, just a little bit annoying. What did raise a bit of concern was that he blocked me on Instagram and is seeming to lie about it. i noticed it last Saturday, the day after I last saw him when I went to go DM him. I tried asking about it in a roundabout way at first but he claimed he deleted it. I know this is most likely a lie because I have a second instagram page dedicated for my art and I was able to find him and that he even posted something new. I originally left it alone after that and we continued on per usual. His conversation has been getting a bit erratic lately but then on Wednesday he randomly started texting me and even told me ‘i love you’ for the first time and the conversation was nice and he even ended with a ‘goodnight beautiful’. Since then things have been a little quiet but I tried to ask more directly today about him blocking me and he just left me on read. Am I overthinking things? Should I be concerned or approach him more directly about it in person? It’s especially weird because he has me blocked on Instagram but nowhere else. Advice on how to go about this/dealing with this? thank u so much

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 17, 2020 at 8:03 pm

      Perhaps it is an accident, or perhaps there is something he is posting or doing that he doesn’t want you to see. I’m really not sure why someone would block someone on Instagram if they aren’t up to something or wanting to break up, but you said he told you that he loves you. It doesn’t sound like you are deep enough into the relationship to really have a deep conversation about this, so I might just date him a bit longer and be cautious about your heart for a while. Once you know him better (or if it comes up naturally in your conversation), you can always try bringing up this topic with him.

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    Paris

    February 17, 2020 at 10:20 am

    So me and this guy were talking since New Years. He was a good guy. He was nice, sweet, loving, and was spiritually fulfilled. Which impressed my parents and impressed me. I started off not giving him much time because I didn’t want to seem desperate, but over time we started talking more and we grew a bond and I started liking him more. So on Valentine’s Day, we got into our first argument. It was basically about the fact that I kind of had trust issues with other relationships in my past. My mistake was that instead of arguing with facts, I argued out of emotion and made it seem like I was accusing him of my doubts. Which he retaliated and said that he does care for me and that he does generally like me and wanted to build into a relationship. So after the argument, I was the one to ask for space and he said okay. A day after, I gave him a well thought out apology because I was generally sorry about what I said and he blocked me on just Snapchat and my main Instagram account. He still follows my spam account and saved my number. On his spam, the day of the argument, he said “I think I might be getting a little too attached” and some girl commented, “oop, get unattached”. He responds with “done” two days later and the girl liked his comment. It’s been 3 days since he blocked me and I’m not going to lie I miss him a little, but I avoided all contact what-so-ever because now I feel disrespected. What am I supposed to do now? Should I text him or wait on him to text me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 17, 2020 at 7:53 pm

      I would wait for him to text you. He is the one who blocked you, so you need to wait and let him cool off. His comment of “done” may have just been in the heightened emotions that happen right after you break up with someone, so he might not mean it as much as it sounded like. Fights happen in a relationship, so there is always a chance things will work out as long as he decides the relationship is worth it for him.

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    Nikki

    February 16, 2020 at 9:17 am

    Also, I apologize my phone was glitching so it posted the same thing I see a few different times!

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      web admin

      February 16, 2020 at 7:19 pm

      Don’t worry, it happens all the time! Thanks for commenting!

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    Nikki

    February 16, 2020 at 9:14 am

    He blocked me on everything but Facebook.. Should I just wait for him to message me or just stop wasting my times with this guy and not apologize? It’s hard. I was really looking forward to being with him but I just can’t date rn.

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      web admin

      February 16, 2020 at 7:19 pm

      I wouldn’t waste your time on the relationship. If he blocked you on everything other than Facebook, then he is clearly trying to send a message that he doesn’t want to talk to you or be with him. I’d move on because trying to talk to him when he is in this kind of mood would only make things worse.

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    Shree Aiyer

    February 16, 2020 at 1:19 am

    So, this guy used to tell me that he has no network and used to be on social media, having fun with others, that I accidentally found out. I showed my displeasure over that to him in a subtle way. Later on, he created another SM account and blocked me there, citing that he was checking about if I stalked him. But he talks to me on calls and whatsapp though. I don’t know what to make of it and how to deal with this?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 16, 2020 at 7:37 pm

      That doesn’t sound good. While I’m sure that there is some other reason why a guy would have social media and not tell his girlfriend, the only reason I can think of is that he is trying to hide his social media usage from her because he is cheating or looking to cheat. The fact that he makes up a reason about it and tries to blame you (because you’re “stalking him” on it) makes it even more likely that he is up to no good online. I’d be very, very wary about it.

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    Ophelia Akuoko

    February 15, 2020 at 2:14 pm

    He ignored me on this Valentine and travelled to had fun,l also ignored his calls afterwards and now he has blocked my contact, what do l do?.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 16, 2020 at 7:53 pm

      He shouldn’t have ignored you, although it is entirely possible that he forgot about Valentine’s Day or didn’t realize that you cared so much. Since you did ignore his calls, he probably assumed that you weren’t interested anymore and decided that he’d retaliate by blocking you. Now, all you can do is wait for him to unblock you. If you can contact him some way, then apologize for not answering the phone and leave it at that. Afterward, it’ll be up to him to respond and make the next move. Good luck!

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    Nikki

    February 14, 2020 at 6:56 am

    So this guy I was seeing for a couple months just blocked me on insta and blocked my number and he’s never done that before, usually I’m the one doing all the blocking. He’s expressed he likes me and wanted to be with me before but my current relationship status is complicated.. so we were pretty much just hook up buddies. I started to develop feelings for him but he’s a drunk, and I’ve been trying to get sober.. well the last time we hooked up was Saturday and I unblocked him to see what he was up to (I was drunk and so was he) and he wanted me to come over. Well this time was different he was a douche to me saying unessecary things and like wouldn’t really even have sex with me so I was mad and told him that I don’t like him and he’s pretty much just my “friend with benefits” I also sent an insta meme that to me was funny but sounded pretty “Hoe-ish” talking about when you go over to a f*ckboys house bc your other guys didn’t answer.. so idk if that was a breaking point, but he didn’t reply, then I wished him a happy birthday the following day, no reply. 3 days go by and boom blocked. I don’t know if he just doesn’t like me anymore or is seeing someone else but I feel bad for my part and don’t know what to do.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 14, 2020 at 1:08 pm

      You have been blocked. He has made his feelings clear. He is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you. There is no reason for you to interact with him at this time. If he reaches out to you in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at that time.

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        Nikki

        February 16, 2020 at 9:06 am

        He blocked me on everything but Facebook.. Should I just wait for him to message me or just stop wasting my times with this guy and not apologize? It’s hard. I was really looking forward to being with him but I just can’t date rn.

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          web admin

          February 16, 2020 at 7:18 pm

          I wouldn’t waste your time on the relationship. If he blocked you on everything other than Facebook, then he is clearly trying to send a message that he doesn’t want to talk to you or be with him. I’d move on because trying to talk to him when he is in this kind of mood would only make things worse.

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          Bridget

          February 17, 2020 at 2:12 am

          Hi my guy is mad at me i dont know why he is declining my calls and je ignorès my messages and whn i called he jst blocked me on whtsapp he does not want to tell me whts going on

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            web admin

            February 17, 2020 at 8:14 pm

            If you were dating and he blocked all of your calls and ignores your messages, then he is probably trying to send you a hint that the relationship is over. Even if he reached out again at this point, it is unlikely that things will work out if this is the point that he feels the relationship has gotten. Now, all you can do is focus on moving on and healing. Good luck!

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    Tolu

    February 14, 2020 at 12:27 am

    So I have this crush and I recently started trying to get to know him. We got talking on WhatsApp and I felt been were getting really close. But yesterday he did something I didn’t like and I told him about it. He got really mad and said he was tired of me, so I left him and updated my WhatsApp status to a sad smile, to which HE commented that the smile wasn’t real. I replied him that what did he care and then he apologized. I told him it was ok. A few minutes after this I realized he had blocked me. He blocked me for a few hours. I don’t understand what I did wrong and why he would apologize for his behavior and then block me. Should I be mad?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 14, 2020 at 1:21 pm

      You should allow thoughts of this person to fade. These behaviors are signs that he is not someone that you should maintain a relationship with. Allow these experiences to guide your actions in the future. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    Otobong

    February 12, 2020 at 4:57 pm

    I met this guy in April 2019, we exchange numbers and got talking. Things were moving on well and we were fine but out of no where he started behaving oddly and then told me he wanted to be just friends. I agreed but though it was hurting by December, I decided to message him and he replied only for the next morning he blocked me without any reasons and I was shocked cause we never quarreled.

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      web admin

      February 13, 2020 at 8:19 pm

      He may have just expected things to get worse. Some people can’t handle being friends after a break up (which is entirely understandable), so he may have thought that this was the best option. He may have also experienced what it was like when someone couldn’t handle a breakup, so he decided to block you before anything could happen. Whatever the case, it seems like he has decided that he’d rather not be friends at this point.

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        Nikki

        February 14, 2020 at 6:47 am

        So this guy I was seeing for a couple months just blocked me on insta and blocked my number and he’s never done that before, usually I’m the one doing all the blocking. He’s expressed he likes me and wanted to be with me before but my current relationship status is complicated.. so we were pretty much just hook up buddies. I started to develop feelings for him but he’s a drunk, and I’ve been trying to get sober.. well the last time we hooked up was Saturday and I unblocked him to see what he was up to (I was drunk and so was he) and he wanted me to come over. Well this time was different he was a douche to me saying unessecary things and like wouldn’t really even have sex with me so I was mad and told him that I don’t like him and he’s pretty much just my “friend with benefits” I also sent an insta meme that to me was funny but sounded pretty “Hoe-ish” talking about when you go over to a f*ckboys house bc your other guys didn’t answer.. so idk if that was a breaking point, but he didn’t reply, then I wished him a happy birthday the following day, no reply. 3 days go by and boom blocked. I don’t know if he just doesn’t like me anymore or is seeing someone else but I feel bad for my part and don’t know what to do.

        • web admin

          web admin

          February 14, 2020 at 1:09 pm

          You have been blocked. He has made his feelings clear. He is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you. There is no reason for you to interact with him at this time. If he reaches out to you in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at that time.

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    Shelbee

    February 11, 2020 at 5:40 pm

    I dated a guy long distance 5 years ago and he broke up with me because he couldn’t do it anymore. We still kept in touch over the years via texting and remained friends. Last spring we met up and wound up hooking up one night. We went our separate ways, but kept in contact. This past fall he started texting me more and we made plans to see each other again. A few weeks before we were supposed to meet, he messaged me saying he ran into an ex and wanted to see where things went with her, so our trip to meet up was off and we couldn’t text as often as we had been. I was upset, but played it cool and just gave him the “it is what it is” message. I left him alone, but after awhile, he started texting me again. He finally called me and said he decided he couldn’t be in a relationship with anyone right now, but wanted me to meet up with him in March. I said I would. The more we communicated, the more I was falling for him. I decided I was going to end up being hurt, so I told him I couldn’t meet up with him because it wasn’t good for me. He said he hated missing a weekend with me, but he understood and respected my opinion. He then added he was sorry, he loved me and missed me. The next day he unfollowed me on Instagram and blocked me on Facebook. I’m so confused. To me, we ended things amicably. I never blocked him when he dumped me. We weren’t even dating, so why would he do this?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 11, 2020 at 10:50 pm

      He didn’t block you because things ended badly or he is angry at you. He blocked you because he just can’t handle being friends with you right now if there is no hope of being something more. I wouldn’t worry about it because you didn’t do anything wrong. Some people just can’t handle talking to someone they previously cared about, and they don’t want to see photos of them moving on in life and dating.

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        Nikki

        February 14, 2020 at 6:55 am

        So this guy I was seeing for a couple months just blocked me on insta and blocked my number and he’s never done that before, usually I’m the one doing all the blocking. He’s expressed he likes me and wanted to be with me before but my current relationship status is complicated.. so we were pretty much just hook up buddies. I started to develop feelings for him but he’s a drunk, and I’ve been trying to get sober.. well the last time we hooked up was Saturday and I unblocked him to see what he was up to (I was drunk and so was he) and he wanted me to come over. Well this time was different he was a douche to me saying unessecary things and like wouldn’t really even have sex with me so I was mad and told him that I don’t like him and he’s pretty much just my “friend with benefits” I also sent an insta meme that to me was funny but sounded pretty “Hoe-ish” talking about when you go over to a f*ckboys house bc your other guys didn’t answer.. so idk if that was a breaking point, but he didn’t reply, then I wished him a happy birthday the following day, no reply. 3 days go by and boom blocked. I don’t know if he just doesn’t like me anymore or is seeing someone else but I feel bad for my part and don’t know what to do.

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          web admin

          February 14, 2020 at 1:09 pm

          You have been blocked. He has made his feelings clear. He is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you. There is no reason for you to interact with him at this time. If he reaches out to you in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at that time.

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    Casey

    February 11, 2020 at 11:00 am

    I reconnected over the holidays with my first ex from over ten years ago. We immediately realized something was definitely still there and shared that we have the same feelings for each other. We live in different states but both thought it was worth giving this a shot bc of our feelings this strong after all this time. We’ve been in this relationship without the title since I’ve been back home and he’s been the one initiating contact. He bought plane tickets to come see me for a few days which was his idea and would’ve been a month after we were apart. Several weeks ago he wanted space for several days and said he thought we should just end this before it starts if it’s only going to end at some point. After talking, he thought we shouldn’t make any decisions that night and should continue having open communication about this. A few days later after we had a great several hour long convo, I asked him what he’d decided about seeing me. He asked if he could see me 3 weeks later so he can work on better communication and perhaps see a therapist to deal with his issues before seeing me. That made sense to me and I was fine with that. We had great conversation after that and he said he wanted me to realize how much more of an effort he’s making with initiating calls and FaceTime and he said how much he loved talking to me and how much he missed me. A day after that, when I’m talking to him about changing his plane tickets, he eventually says that he just has cold feet. I call him and he said that he shouldn’t have said that to me, that he’s just tired and nervous about seeing me for that long and asked if we can talk about it the next day. I said that was fine. That’s the last I’ve heard from him. So it’s been just over a week and several days after that, I saw he blocked me on Facebook and on the phone. It’s just left me so confused and hurt and wondering whether he just needs a ton of space or it’s over and he’s ghosting me without explanation.

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      Casey

      February 11, 2020 at 12:57 pm

      Also when I was home over the holidays when we reunited, he told me one night that he sees himself marrying me, having children with me, spending the rest of his life with me and that terrifies him. I know he self-sabotages by nature. It just feels like that’d exactly what he’s doing with us. I’m scared I’ll never hear from him again and don’t know whether this is him taking a break to thing everything through in an extreme way by blocking me or him just running away permanently.

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        web admin

        February 11, 2020 at 10:57 pm

        I would give him time. He obviously can’t handle seeing your Instagram feed and talking to you right now, so you can’t do much at the moment anyway. He will probably change his mind at some point, and then you can always reach out to him to see if he feels differently.

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          Casey

          February 12, 2020 at 9:22 am

          I was thinking of waiting two weeks before sending him an email/LinkedIn message where I know he’s not blocked. You think he’ll change his mind about not having the cold feet anymore or about talking to me?

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            web admin

            February 12, 2020 at 10:19 am

            You should not reach out to him over professional social media websites. If he reaches out to you in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at this time. It is clear that he has concerns that he is dealing with, and he made the decision to block you. Focus your attention elsewhere at this time.

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      web admin

      February 11, 2020 at 11:00 pm

      While it is possible he’ll reach out again, it definitely sounds like he is ghosting you. For whatever reason, he has cold feet and just can’t handle the idea of a more committed relationship. Rather than just be honest and talk to you more about his feelings, he took the coward’s way out. The only bright side is that you at least found this out sooner rather than later.

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        Casey

        February 12, 2020 at 9:27 am

        Do you think that I should give him two weeks of space before reaching out via email/LinkedIn? Things were great between us before he randomly said he had cold feet and decided to block me. I just feel like he got freaked out about making changes to the plane tickets he already bought to see me and just let his fears set in about seeing me, being in a relationship, etc. that he couldn’t handle dealing with it so he chose to run and hide.

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          web admin

          February 12, 2020 at 10:19 am

          You should not reach out to him over professional social media websites. If he reaches out to you in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at this time. It is clear that he has concerns that he is dealing with, and he made the decision to block you. Focus your attention elsewhere at this time.

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            Casey

            February 12, 2020 at 11:55 am

            It’s easier said than done to not focus on it. I’m scared I’ll never talk to him or see him again. Is there a good chance he’ll change his mind and this disappearance is only temporarily? You said that originally and also that he’s def ghosting me so don’t know which one to think.

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              web admin

              February 12, 2020 at 4:31 pm

              You are absolutely right that it is easier said than done. I think most people end up ruining any chance of having a relationship again by crying, texting a lot or literally going crazy after a break up. MRI studies show the brain looks insane after a break up, and anyone who has ever had relationship problems can probably understand. The hard part is giving him the space he needs to decide his feelings. He is ghosting you right now, but that doesn’t mean he won’t eventually change his mind and reach out again. Whether you reach out to him first or not is up to you, but I’d definitely give it at least a couple of weeks if you want to have a chance of this relationship working out.

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                Casey

                February 12, 2020 at 4:59 pm

                That makes sense and isn’t surprising about the MRI studies. It’s hard bc there wasn’t a break up. We were even closer lately than we had been when he randomly said he just has cold feet when we were talking about confirming changing his plane tickets to visit me for the first time since the holidays. Fortunately I wasn’t blowing up his phone despite not hearing from him and discovered a few days later I was blocked. It just felt like an extreme reaction from him getting scared about the seriousness of us. So he freaked out by doing that rather than talk to me first or think things through. I’m definitely giving him space now for the next couple weeks before trying to reach out to him.

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                  web admin

                  February 13, 2020 at 7:54 pm

                  Hopefully, that will end up working. Good luck!

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    Nay

    February 11, 2020 at 8:45 am

    Hey
    So I started talking to guy who is my neighbor. At first he was crazy about me but I wasn’t really into him. He was willing to do everything with me he would go to work for me. He would go any where with me but I was crazy for him. Until I found out he started talking to this girl and I got jealous and then I found out that he not in love with her as he is to me and I started talking to him and he told my mom that he would stop talking to her if I told him that I’ll give him a chance and he did we started a thing for a few weeks he would tell stuff about that he didn’t like and how annoying she was. And then me and him actually started liking each other he would spends holidays with me. Until I notice one day the girl he was talking with sent me a friends request so I accepted and she started talking about if I was talking to him if I liked him and I told her yes we talking but if there drama she can have him cause I dint want any drama and then she reply if you guys are talking I dint want to get in between stuff. I dint want to be someone second choice. And then he texted me saying I dint know why she saying that I’m talking to her when I’m not and he also said she not gonna get in between stuff so I said okay that fine. And few days passed we were good and few weeks passed we were still good and then on Sunday of that week I saw that she posted a picture of him with his face covered when he sending me snaps of him in church. And I started freaking out telling him so your with her and he would tell me no I’m with my aunt and I ignored him and swipe up on her story and said sum I shouldn’t of said nothing. But things got heated and he texted me saying what I told her and thing just got out of hand that he blocked me from everything and told me that he would try and fix things with her. I know he didn’t mean that I know that he still loves me but now I’m blocked from everything and I dint know what to do. He told my mom that he would give me a second chance but that he had to think about it it been almost a month since this happen and I dint know what to do. I just want him back and fix things I know he loves me and not her and I know he mad at me but it’s been a month and I just want us to be good

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      web admin

      February 11, 2020 at 11:08 pm

      It’ll be up to him whether he comes back or not and when he comes back. It sounds like the other girl was deliberately trying to make you jealous and get you two to break up. Unfortunately, she succeeded. If you do get a chance to be with him again, I’d delete her from social media. If he was with her and cheating on you with her like she implied, why would she add you online? And why wouldn’t she yell or get upset with you? The fact that she never got upset or anything seems to indicate she was making most (and maybe all) of the things she said.

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    Erika

    February 10, 2020 at 9:46 pm

    We have been talking continually for 4 months, but because of the gaps between those months ( I mean we have several times stopped and reach out again) we only meet for 3 times. Until last Monday he stopped responding me for a week, that Friday I bring him a present and after that there was also no response so I stopped texting for 3 days. The next Monday I brought him some fruits so he can eat in his office, after that he blocked me. I don’t know what’s really going, everything seemed very good until he just stopped responding.

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      web admin

      February 11, 2020 at 11:25 pm

      It seems like he just didn’t want to break up with you in person. He stopped texting because he wanted to end things, but you didn’t understand because it seemed reasonable to you (and me, too) that he might be busy for a couple of days. When just not texting back was not enough, he blocked you because he didn’t want to deal with it. I don’t think you did anything wrong–it sounds like you were a very thoughtful partner.

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    Elina

    February 10, 2020 at 5:27 am

    Hey,
    I’ve never been in this situation before and I feel horrible.
    I started dating a guy who was almost too good to be true. Everything just clicked with him and he made me laugh every time we met and it felt right. I know this might sound naive but I was really thinking that he could be the one.
    We dated less than a month and then I needed to move back to my home country. He promised to make things work and he was planning to visit me in two weeks once I get everything organised in my country. We also had some plans how to make things work. I was supposed to go back to work to the country where he lives in and where we met in the summer. It was all realistic after all.
    The last week in the same country was really difficult for me and I was feeling really sad and anxious most of the time ‘cause one of my best friends funeral was the following week and generally speaking I was a bit stressed going back to home.
    That week was also a bit difficult with that guy and he felt distant but he was also working most of the time and really stressed because of work. Since I told him what was going on my mind, he understood me and everything was okay.
    When I got back to my home country everything was okay and I asked for a phone call on Monday. He promised to call me on Tuesday. I asked again on Tuesday and he promised to call me on Thursday. On Thursday I asked one more time and he said he would call me back but he never did. He also told me during those days how much he’s missing me etc. On Friday I didn’t send him anything and neither did he.
    On Saturday was my friend’s funeral so I phoned him after that and asked him to call me back. Nothing happened and I was feeling quite sad so I texted him that “I’ve been waiting for your call since Monday and on Wednesday was my birthday but I really wished that you would have called me today. I didn’t realise if you want space but I want you to be near me”. He’ had said earlier that he would be here for me ‘cause he knew that it was difficult week for me. He read my messages and blocked me on what’s app.
    I was feeling extremely sad and anxious after that and I did the wrong thing and messaged him on Instagram. I messaged “Never play with anyone’s feelings like you played with mine. Hopefully someday you will understand how the way you treated me made me feel. I wish you would have the balls to be honest with me ‘cause honesty is what people appreciate not blocking.” I really regret that message but I was feeling betrayed. I really trusted this guy and he just left me without saying anything and the timing could not have been worse. Ofc he blocked me on Instagram as well.
    I just want to know did I cause this and did I make him feel so bad that he thought blocking me out of his life was the best alternative to do? I miss him a lot and I believed that we could make this work ‘cause I haven’t felt this way earlier with anyone else before.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 10, 2020 at 7:20 pm

      I don’t think you caused this. I think he was being unfair to you. The tipping point wasn’t your messages to him–it was the long-distance relationship. It seems like he must have realized at some point that he couldn’t handle it (I have no clue if he realized it before, during or after you left). Then, rather than tell you that he can’t handle it and decided it wasn’t right for him, he tried to make the break up gradual by not calling you–or maybe he just thought you’d get the hint when he didn’t call. When you texted him, he used it as an excuse to block you, but it wasn’t the catalyst. To me, it sounds like he realized he couldn’t do the long-distance relationship earlier than that. As for whether it can work, who knows. Now that he has blocked you on everything, it’ll be harder to come back from that, so I don’t know if a relationship is possible. You will have to wait for him to reach out or for you to go back to the same country before you see if there is anything else possible for you two. Good luck–I hope that it works out for you.

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        Elina

        February 12, 2020 at 6:48 am

        Thank you! I didn’t want to make him feel bad. I’m just overthinking would everything be okay if I hadn’t sent that negative message to him. I forgot to mention that I also asked “was everything you said rubbish?” on that what’s app message and because it was a bit negative did I push him away and was my Instagram message the last straw? Should I try to call him and tell that I’m sorry but I also think he wasn’t fair to me. I just want to apologise if I made him feel bad about himself ‘cause I never meant that. I just don’t want to end anything in bad terms.

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