When a Guy Blocks You: What Does It Mean and What to Do

By on May 16, 2018

One of the worst things about social media is the fact that you can be deleted and blocked from someone’s life without so much as a second thought, in less time than it takes to blink. To be so happy in love one minute, only to find that you can’t even see your BAE’s Facebook or Instagram page the next; there’s only one thing to do when you’ve been blocked by your guy … 

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Don’t React

Of course, there are a hundred and one ways of dealing with this particular situation, but one thing is for certain — he’s mad or sad and needs a little time. He’s *that* mad he doesn’t even want to see your social media accounts, let alone speak to you. If the two of you try to communicate on any level there’s a good chance the situation will just get worse … and more heated. You’ll both say things that you didn’t mean but the other person won’t be able to forget that you ever said them and that little lover’s tiff you had has the potential to turn into something deeply troubling. Perhaps even relationship-ending. 

When a guy blocks you, give him some space. Let him have some time to think and relax. If the two of you have come to blows, chasing him further is just going to chase him away. You shouldn’t beg for his time, nor should you keep chasing him for it. If he doesn’t want you in his life right now, get on with yours. 

  • Get the girls around and have some drinks and a movie. 
  • Invite your parents around for dinner and a catchup. 
  • Go to the gym like you keep saying you’re going to do, but never do. 
  • Do something else — don’t pine for him, don’t sit and wait for him, just get on with your life and let things play out just as they’re going to. 

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Don’t React Like This … 

If he blocks you on Facebook, don’t message him on Instagram. He’ll block you on there too, and then you’ll need to resort to using Twitter. What if he blocks you there? Whatsapp next? Then iMessage? What about Skype? 

If you keep going around the social media accounts, there’s a good chance he’ll just keep blocking you. Take the first blocking as a sign — this chap needs his space. 

> > If he WANTS you to chase him around the various social media accounts to “prove” how much you’ll do for him, he’s playing games. You don’t need that drama in your life. Boy, bye! < <

While we’re on the subject of other things NOT to do, don’t scream and shout at him. We’ve said it before and we’ll say it again — he needs some space. Shouting and screaming at him is not giving him space. We know that you don’t want to lose your BAE, but hurling abuse at him is not going to keep him in your clutches. 

One final point that we feel it is important to bring to your attention — stalking his social media accounts using your friend’s social media account is always a good idea in theory but usually ends up going wrong somewhere along the line. You will accidentally ‘like’ an update from months ago, for example, making him aware of EXACTLY what you’re doing. He’s going to know that it’s your best friend letting you use her account. 

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Do React Like This …

Spend some time on yourself — treating and loving yourself. Self-care is very underrated but oh-so-vital, and if he won’t love you in the way that you would like him to, perhaps it’s about time that you started to love yourself? 

Treat yourself to a pamper weekend or have that extra slice of chocolate cake. You’ll add an extra half an hour on at the gym to compensate for it, right? 

Get your hair done. Nails? Yeah, get a manicure while you’re there too. All of those things that you don’t seem to find the time to do anymore now that you’re in a relationship; that’s what you should be doing. Sitting around waiting for him to make that unblock call is probably just going to break your heart. As the saying goes, you should be with the guy who ruins your lipstick with kisses, not your mascara with tears. 

When the time is right — when you have both calmed down — you can talk again, perhaps sort out the problems you had or have. But you do need to have calmed down first. You can’t solve an argument by starting a brand new one. You almost must remember that the resolution might not always be quite as you’d hoped. 

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    hey

    March 18, 2020 at 2:06 pm

    Thanks, Kimberley! this post helps me a lot <3

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      web admin

      March 18, 2020 at 8:32 pm

      Thank you!

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    Rani

    March 14, 2020 at 9:11 pm

    Hello

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      web admin

      March 15, 2020 at 1:53 pm

      Welcome to our community!

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        Meoow

        March 23, 2020 at 5:04 am

        He kept asking so many questions and asked me how much do I trust him, I told him it’s not like I don’t trust him I just need some time, he said relationship based on trust, no trust no relationship, I get angry and said my ex was saying the same but cheating on me, how can I also trust you that easily ? Then he said, yeah I found that I’m changed, I was the one who was telling you not to trust any guys even me,now I feel hurt when I think about it,I couldn’t control myself and I get angry I said that I hate him cause he always reminds me of my ex and I don’t want to think about him again, I told him to stop,if not I will seriously block him, he saw the messages but didn’t respond to me that night, after that day I saw he blocked me, I know I was wrong I really didn’t want to say those things to him but I got so angry.. I feel so sad that he blocked me, what should I do ???

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          March 23, 2020 at 5:05 pm

          It is clear that his behaviors were inappropriate. The two of you had a discussion and you shared your feelings with him. You informed him that if he refused to treat you with respect, that you would block him. This caused him to make the decision to block you. It seems that you are lucky that he is no longer part of your life.

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    Rani

    March 14, 2020 at 9:10 pm

    I proposed a boy, he asked me to meet at flat, I did not respond, he blocked me

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      web admin

      March 15, 2020 at 1:54 pm

      You spoke with him and he invited you over. You made the decision to not respond to him, so he determined that your relationship was not viable. This made him block you. Apply this knowledge to your future relationships.

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    Amanda

    March 13, 2020 at 12:40 am

    I’ve been battling depression ever since the guy I love blocked me. We me online and things between hit off very well, we instantly clicked and realized we have a lot in common. He was the first guy to treat me differently, he was nice and sweet. At first I saw him as a friend but as I got to know him I grew feelings for him. He caught me off guard when he said to me that he loves me and never felt this way before for anyone. There was one big problem though….. he’s married. This made things complicated, on several ocassions I tried to keep my distance but he managed to persue me with his words. I really cared about him until I noticed as time went by his behavior was changing. Everytime I wanted to talk to him about our situation he avoided the topic and brushed it off saying “another day”. One day I got tired because he kept playing hot and cold games with me, I finally brought up the topic about us and that’s when he told me he wanted us to stop talking with feelings because he’s carrying a guilty concious. This made me angry and I told him that his marriege was a lie and that his wife was only substitute in his life to replace the empty gap of his deceased mom. He got even more angry….. the gollowing day without a word he blocked me which left me devastated. Was I wrong in my behavior???

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      March 13, 2020 at 7:05 pm

      I’m not sure if his wife is a substitute for his deceased mom, but you were fair to push him on the topic of his marriage. From the sound of it, he isn’t going to leave his wife. He may have only wanted a fling the entire time, or there may have been points where he fantasized about this being more. Whatever the case, it sounds like he is definitely certain that he isn’t leaving his wife. Blocking you was his way of showing you that he isn’t leaving her. He may keep you blocked if he wants the affair to end completely, but he may also unblock you at some point in the hopes of having an affair again. Whatever the case, I wouldn’t expect the situation to change for the better. 🙁

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    Kay

    March 12, 2020 at 1:32 am

    So, i knew this guy for 3 months. Actually he’s my brother’s friend. We haven’t meet yet because he study abroad. We always texted each other almost everyday. And we have a same connection. I think, he interested to me also I’m sure that he’s a good guy because i know his little brother (because he’s my friend) 1 week ago, he already promised to meet me today, and i make sure that he will meet with me today. But when i saw his whatsapp and instagram, he suddenly blocked me… i have no an idea. Because 2 days ago we still talked each other and we never fight or have a rude conversation. So what does it means? I really confused..

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      web admin

      March 12, 2020 at 12:18 pm

      He may have just met someone else that he decided to pursue a relationship with. It’s also possible that he just realized you weren’t the right match for him, and he didn’t want to explain to you why. Life partners are a lot like puzzle pieces, so he may have just realized that your puzzle pieces didn’t quite fit. Whatever the case, it doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong, so I would try not to dwell on it and focus on moving on.

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    Anonymous

    March 9, 2020 at 6:46 pm

    I was messaging a boy I’ve known for about three and a half years. I’ve been messaging him since last June. About a month ago I told him I wouldn’t be able to talk to him via social media anymore, and that I would just text him the normal way instead ( I told him how I found his number and that if he had a problem with messaging that way to let me know before I deleted my social media accounts) I thoroughly explained my situation and what I was doing through (anxiety, panic attacks, etc). However, when I sent him a message, he blocked my number. I love this boy a lot. I know there are a lot of other people that reach out to you for your help, but please help me. My situation is serious. I feel like Iam on the verge of life and death, and nothing has helped. No amount of antidepressants, counseling, or positive thinking has helped. Do you have any advice for how I could get this boy to be willing to talk to me?

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      March 12, 2020 at 1:38 pm

      As long as you base your happiness on others, you will always be on an emotional roller coaster. It sounds like the boy decided this relationship wasn’t for him, which is why he blocked you. There’s no way of knowing what his reasoning was, so the best thing you can do now is just focus on moving on. If you need someone to talk to, Seven Cups of Tea has trained volunteers you can talk to anonymously for free. In addition, you may want to try learning meditation to help manage some of your symptoms. Having a meditation practice has been proven to be supportive for a number of mental health conditions, and it can help you balance out the highs and lows of life.

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    Arianna Boulanger

    February 28, 2020 at 3:59 pm

    I dont know what to do? So this guy I am talking to, he says he likes me and all but he blocks me on all my social media? I like him too and I know he does too…I am freaking out like I did something wrong? Everything seemed so perfect with us, that’s what I don’t understand…? Please help me on what to do? I have fallen for him…

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      web admin

      February 28, 2020 at 4:29 pm

      Even if everything was perfect between you, it is always possible that he just realized that the relationship wasn’t right for you. It’s also possible that an ex reappeared in his life and he wanted to pursue that but was afraid to just tell you that he was going to do that. It’s also entirely possible that he somehow managed to do that on accident, although I really doubt that that is even possible. Whatever the case, I would assume from his behavior that the relationship is now over. From the sound of it, you did nothing wrong and he should have just told you the reason for ending everything.

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    Shantel

    February 28, 2020 at 2:02 pm

    I’m in a long distance relationship,firstly we had a little misunderstanding and we didn’t talk for 3 month and i was surprise when he text me via WhatsApp and apologize and we got talking again from December till 22/2/2020. And he has been complaining about a very important exams he’s to write in 6month to come, and is really stressing him because he’s attending a lot of classes and doing a lot of research, so I told him some day’s ago that I was sick and he couldn’t check up on me, he sent me a voice note right away and apologize, he told me how he really want me in his life and I should be alright because of him. He told me that he’s shutting down his WhatsApp because he want to get a new phone. I check the next day he has blocked me, I checked him through a friends phone he’s still very active.I felt really sad and I’m still hurt.

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      web admin

      February 28, 2020 at 4:47 pm

      Apparently, he has horrible methods for dealing with stress. Either that, or he realized the relationship wasn’t right for him after all. Whatever the case, I would probably try to forget about him and move on. If he blocks you and ends the relationship whenever he is under stress, the best thing you can do for you is move on. There will always be sources of stress in his life, and you don’t want to be in a relationship that will always be on-again, off-again.