What Does It Mean When You Dream About Your Crush?

By on December 29, 2013

On average every one of us dreams seven times per night. We might not even realise it, but that doesn’t make it any less true. All too often people don’t realise this and claim to never dream, not realising how statistically unlikely that actually is. Since you’re reading this, I think it’s safe to say however that you’re not one of those people. I’m going to take a shot and say that you remember your dreams quite a lot, perhaps most nights, and I’m going to take another shot and say that a lot of them feature a certain, very special, someone.

But what does it mean when your crush keeps popping up in your dreams? Why is it that he just can’t contain himself to real life, why is he flaunting himself in your dreams too? Here’s your answer…

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The Why

‘The why’ in ‘why is your crush dream stalking you?’ is simple – you’re thinking about him in your waking hours and unable to forget about him when you switch off for the night. When we sleep our subconscious gets free reign and in that time it paints us pictures using the people, objects, places and scenarios we’ve been thinking of when we were awake.

There’s not much else to the why, like I said, it’s simple. You’re focussing on him while you’re awake and your subconscious is simply playing on that fact and creating a dream from it.

What It Means

Depending on your beliefs and whether or not you’re superstitious, dreams can either mean nothing or they can mean everything. They can hide clues to the future or your deepest desires or they can simply be nothing more than your mind playing a trick on you. If you don’t believe dreams hold clues to our futures or insights into our souls then I suggest you skip over this section, it may not be for you.

Here’s a few common dreams that may include your crush and what they are commonly interpreted to mean…

To dream you are kissing your crush symbolizes love, affectation and harmony. Your mind is expressing your waking desire to be close to this person and form some sort of attachment, in this case a relationship.

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Don’t panic if you and your crush were arguing in a dream. This doesn’t mean you aren’t compatible as a couple. Arguing in a dream can symbolize tension and that you are trying to resolve an internal conflict. In this case, it’s likely your mind trying to tell you how frustrated it is that your crush is nothing more than a crush. It could show that your mind is ready for the two of you to become more than friends.

If you receive a love note or letter in your dream means that there could be a new relationship ahead of you. It also however symbolizes that you are insecure about something and need reassurance about your feelings or relationship. My advice in this situation is to be hopeful but beware, don’t let your insecurities get the better of you.

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What To Do About It

On a whole, dreaming of your crush shows that you have an unresolved issue with him in real life, namely that he’s only your crush and not your boyfriend. You need to take action in the real world by attempting to get closer to him to see if a relationship is on the cards or not. Either way, your dreams about him are likely to grow fewer, if not stop altogether, as you start to live out your fantasy of speaking to him in everyday life. Chances are, you’ll be happier for it too. Instead of waking up feeling slightly hollow every morning seeing as your dream was only a dream, you’ll end each day feeling fulfilled that you spoke to him.

Try reading my article How To Get Your Crush To Like You for tips on how to interact with your crush in real life. As much as we’d all like to, we can’t go on dreaming forever. It’s time to stop dreaming and start living so go out there and make your crush fall head over heels for you!

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    Marley

    May 12, 2019 at 4:58 pm

    I had a dream that my crush is looking straight and smiling to me at the flag pole because we’re raising our flag that time. But in real life, he doesn’t look at me that straight and ignoring me all the time. What does that mean?

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      May 12, 2019 at 8:09 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of various influences in your life. The flag aspect of your dream could be a reflection of your thoughts related to your country or education. It is possible that you are interested in developing a relationship with him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Marley!

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    Amy

    May 12, 2019 at 2:13 pm

    Last night I dreamt that I went to eat with my colleagues, I don’t know if it was a farewell or something. But then I went to walk and saw a guy play the piano, I sat near him and started playing together. I rested my head on his shoulder, and his on mine. Then we got interrupted by some people but then they went away. After they went he kissed me. I was so happy we took photos and walked together. I don’t know what this means. I’m confused in real life if I like him or not.

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      web admin

      May 12, 2019 at 7:41 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your social relationship with this person. It is possible that your feelings for him are growing. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Determine if this relationship may impact your work relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Amy!

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        Amy

        May 13, 2019 at 12:42 am

        He does not work with me, I just saw him there. The fact that scares me the most is that he is 16 and I’m going to be 19 in October.

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          Amy

          May 13, 2019 at 11:10 am

          Would appreciate your help

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            May 13, 2019 at 7:29 pm

            Because of your age difference, there may be legal or social reasons for why you should not nourish a romantic relationship with him at this time. Nourish your friendship by sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Amy!

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          May 13, 2019 at 7:26 pm

          Because of your age difference, there may be legal or social reasons for why you should not nourish a romantic relationship with him at this time. Nourish your friendship by sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Amy!

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    Natalie

    May 11, 2019 at 9:38 pm

    In real life my crush and I dont talk at all but in my dream we were best friends we would hug each other and one day we got separated but we secretly kept in touch. What does this mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 12, 2019 at 6:20 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional desires. It is possible that you are interested in maintaining a relationship with him. Since the two of you do not talk, you should make a decision about what course of action is appropriate. Either nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him, or speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Naralie!

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    Natalie

    May 11, 2019 at 5:00 pm

    In real life my crush doesn’t talk to me at all. But in my dream we were best friends we would hug each other but we got separated from each other,. But we secretly kept in touch. What does this mean?

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      web admin

      May 11, 2019 at 9:42 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional desires. If your crush does not currently talk to you, then determine what that is the case. If the two of you are not friends, then determine what is viable. If he is upset at you, then speak with him about what you can do to make him not upset with you. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Natalie!

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    Bella. V

    May 11, 2019 at 7:53 am

    I had a dream that I was at the shops with my sister when I found weed in her drink and had a sip, later on my sister left and I had to do a few more errands at the shop. As I was leaving the shops I saw my crush and we spoke for a bit were happy and laughing. His mum got there and picked him up as they were about to drive and I was walking away his mum said “is that you girlfriend” and he said “I wish”. The next day nicki minaj died and we all went to the same shops where my mum and a few more members of my family were sitting outside a shop with some drinks. I went and got a drink from zaraffas and asked my sister if she had weed and she gave me a little ziplock bag and I put some in my drink. My crush and I met up and I took him to where my family was sitting before, he sat next to my mum and I sat across he spilt his drink and I went and got him a new one. Overall I think he liked me in the dream. I have had numerous dreams all different ones, like when I was at school and walked into the girls toilets and saw him talking to a chick in there I got angry and walked odd my crush chased after me and we sorted it out, next minute he has him arm over me and we are sitting next to each other with my hand on his thigh and chest cuddling up to him while his arm is over me, and those are just two I have one nearly every night with him in it. Please help and is there something attached to the weed situation?

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      web admin

      May 11, 2019 at 9:24 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of various influences in your life. It is likely that you feel that weed helps you maintain social relationships. It is possible that you and your crush spend time together and smoke weed together. The presence of your mother is likely a manifestation of your desire to maintain a relationship with someone who your mother approves of. Determine what you want for your future, and nourish your relationship with your partner by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Bella!

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        Bella. V

        May 13, 2019 at 1:16 am

        Thank you so much. Also I never have weed nor ever tried it before? And I had another dream about him last night
        In real life we flirt but are not together but I think I’m in love with him, except I honestly don’t think he has feeling for me in real life. Thank you x

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          web admin

          May 13, 2019 at 7:28 pm

          It sounds as though you need to make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide what you think is viable. It is possible that he has feelings for your. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Bella!

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    mbali

    May 10, 2019 at 10:45 pm

    I dreamt of someone I’ve never met before a guy . he had all the qualitues I look for in a man and I was headover heels in love with him and so was he with me . he was so perfect not just physically but mentally and my family loved him . what did the dream mean and what are the chances of seeing him in real life .

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      web admin

      May 11, 2019 at 8:47 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional desires. His appearance and qualities are manifestations of attributes that you find attractive in a partner. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. If there is someone that you are interested in maintaining a relationship with, then speak with that person about your thoughts and feelings. Share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Mbali!

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    Ria

    May 9, 2019 at 9:33 pm

    What does it mean if I dreamed of myself being courted by my crush? in my dream he was always in our house to visit me everyday because my mom didn’t get mad when he told her that he wants to court me and then after that we became a couple and I told him if he’s sure about his feelings for me because I don’t fit for him, he’s a good-looking guy and I’m just an ugly girl but he told me that he still loves me and he will accept my imperfections in my dream , in real life my crush is my brother’s closest friend and he knows me but he doesn’t talk much he just glances at me everytime we see each other

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      web admin

      May 10, 2019 at 1:14 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your emotional connection with your crush. The two of you likely share a strong social relationship. Because your crush is your brother’s best friend, it is possible that he is uncertain about maintaining a relationship with you. Doing so may cause stress in his relationship with your brother. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with your brother about your thoughts and feelings, as this will give you an opportunity to learn about your feelings regarding this relationship. Have a great day, Ria!

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    Yasin

    May 9, 2019 at 2:47 pm

    I had a dream of my crush and she was crying and realized my true love for her when she read the letter. When I saw the letter I noticed that the letter was from me. As if I remembered writing it. It’s just that this case in real life, I had already confessed to her and she refused that I like her. So now…. What do I do?!? Do I write a letter or what??

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      web admin

      May 10, 2019 at 1:04 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your emotional connection with your crush. You have already informed her of your thoughts and feelings, and she informed you that she is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you at this time. You can write a letter if you want to, but she has already shared herself with you. It is always beneficial to share your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Yasin!

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    Princess

    May 8, 2019 at 9:00 pm

    I dreamt about my crush yesterday and it was raining outside and the school buses left so I had to call my mom and it took her an hour to get there so I was hanging out with him and my mom came and I was trying to go outside and it pouring heavy so he walked me outside with his hands around me and I had my arms around him then he tried to let go and I didn’t so he turned around and looked me in the eyes and he walked me to my car and waved bye to me,but this is not the first time I had a crush I did 2 years ago but I don’t know what to do because I really like and him but we’re going to different schools in 3 weeks and I don’t know if he likes me but we flirt a lot in class and I sometimes see him looking at me. Advice??

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      web admin

      May 9, 2019 at 4:41 pm

      His behaviors in your dream are indications that he feels a strong connection with you. It is possible that you are interested in maintaining a relationship with him. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Princess!

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    Oryleigh

    May 7, 2019 at 8:10 am

    I dreamed about this boy that I think is cute he’s not my crush or anything but I dreamed about me him and my cousin that’s a girl also all holding hands and running we were going to these events and I think they were a couple cause I was third wheeling again cause that’s what I do with her and her boyfriend in real life but without the events my cousin was not there and I was with him I don’t think we were together in this dream I just wanna know what this means I even talked to his family for the first time to get to know them in this dream I don’t understand this at all.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 7, 2019 at 10:14 pm

      You do not have a crush on the person who appeared in your dream, but it is possible that your feelings for him are growing. You often feel like the third wheel, so this could have manifested in your dream with your cousin being the third wheel. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If there is someone in your life that you want to maintain a relationship with, then speak with that person about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish your relationship with your cousin by spending additional time with her in person. Have a great day, Oryleigh!

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    Rain

    May 7, 2019 at 6:57 am

    I have a question…i had a dream of my “crush” yesterday and well we were in this wierd place but then he started talking to me asking me for my number so we can talk about the games we both play and well i liked him for like 3-4 years but now i dont feel like i like him anymore and we go to different schools and i dont see him anymore so i guessed my feeling just disappeared and i didnt dream about him anymore but now i just did and im kind of confused whats going on?

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      web admin

      May 7, 2019 at 10:11 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your previous emotional connection with your crush. The two of you now go to different schools, so make a decision about what you think is viable and appropriate for your future. If you want to reach out to him, then do so. If not, then allow this dream to fade and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Rain!

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    john mike

    May 7, 2019 at 3:56 am

    i need a wife very immportant

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      web admin

      May 7, 2019 at 10:04 pm

      Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Have a great day, John!

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    john mike

    May 7, 2019 at 3:54 am

    am in love

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      web admin

      May 7, 2019 at 10:04 pm

      Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Have a great day, John!

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    Beauty

    May 6, 2019 at 6:11 am

    I had a dream of my crush living with me in the same house with his and my family. I also had a drwam of him washing my hair and me sneaking in his guest room and stealing his underwear and keeping it for myself and lastly i had a dream of me watchong him sleep. What does these mean??

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      web admin

      May 6, 2019 at 8:42 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional relationship with your crush. Living in his house may be a sign that you want to strengthen this relationship. Stealing his underwear could be a manifestation of your desire to know him intimately. Watching him sleep could be a sign that you want to care for him. Ensure that this dream guides you to nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Beauty!

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    Chris

    May 6, 2019 at 12:33 am

    It’s weird because I had a dream that my crush put his head on my shoulder and then just recently he put his head on my shoulder in real life (which he has never done before).

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      web admin

      May 6, 2019 at 8:27 pm

      Your dream was a reflection of your social and emotional relationship with your crush. His current behavior may be an indication of his feelings for you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Chris!

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    Bobby

    May 5, 2019 at 1:41 pm

    I had a dream that i was walking around a big restaraunt with my friend and my crush came along, but while we were there, we weren’t talking to each other. So then i finally had the guts to ask her out and once I did, I woke up.

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      web admin

      May 5, 2019 at 4:38 pm

      Your dream may be a reflection of your social and emotional desires. It is possible that you are interested in nourishing a relationship with your crush. Take this time to make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with her in person. Have a great day, Bobby!

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    Yaretzi

    May 5, 2019 at 1:40 pm

    I had a dream that got separated from my crush but we were really close friends

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      web admin

      May 5, 2019 at 4:35 pm

      Your dream may be a manifestation of concerns or worries that you may have. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Nourish your relationship with your crush by spending additional time together. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Yaretzi!

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    Erica

    May 5, 2019 at 5:06 am

    I had a dream about my possible crush saying he wasn’t looking for anything right now. Then later on we were talking in the dream and he said I was a player anyways (I don’t know why I’ve never been with a guy. I was with a guy for a day he fingered me and left me 2 years ago). Yesterday he went to prom with me and he was a gentleman opened doors took pictures and he went to get me punch.( I asked him) I’m honestly not sure if I like him as a friend or more. His friends always jokingly call him gay, but that’s honestly how a lot of people are. I have never been wrong with my gaydar and it just doesn’t go off for him though I don’t think he’s fully straight. I get super upset and when I see him in pictures or videos with other girls. I’m not sure if I should say something or not. Everytime I wake up from a dream about him I’m always sweating.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 5, 2019 at 2:14 pm

      It seems as though you feel a strong connection with this person. It seems as though he is polite and it interested in developing a relationship with you as well. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Erica!

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    Bob

    May 5, 2019 at 1:39 am

    I had a dream my crush was a human sized doll. I was sorting things on a table that I wanted and I wanted them on it too but I couldn’t and was told off? What does it mean if your crush is a human sized doll?

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      web admin

      May 5, 2019 at 12:58 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your social relationship with your crush. The sorting could be a manifestation of your desire to navigate your life. The doll manifestation of your crush may have been a reflection of one of the many things that you are juggling in your life. Determine what you want for your future. Reduce the influences that are in your life. Have a great day, Bob!

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    Amber

    May 4, 2019 at 4:47 pm

    I had a dream about my crush and me we where walking down a ally talking and then he holds my hand then start kissing me then it went black

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      web admin

      May 4, 2019 at 5:11 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional connection with your crush. It is possible that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you as well. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Amber!

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        Lily

        May 5, 2019 at 3:48 am

        I had a dream where my crush asked me to homecoming, then we went behind this big shed away frown everyone and kissed, then I started thinking of the reasons whey he didn’t like me before (he’s interested in someone else but he used to like me about a month ago), and it went black with my waking up to realize it was only a dream. What does this mean for me?

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          web admin

          May 5, 2019 at 1:46 pm

          Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional connection with your crush. You are aware that there may be difficulties in maintaining a romantic relationship with him. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Lily!