How To Get Your Crush To Like You

By on December 29, 2013

So maybe there is a guy you like – a guy you find yourself falling head over heels for. He’s cute, he’s funny, he’s handsome – in short he’s everything you want in a man and you’re crushing on him hard. All that’s good and well, but it poses one big problem, how on earth do you get your crush to like you back? This is probably not something you want to hear, but capturing your dream guy’s attention and his heart all at once is not always an easy feat to conquer…

Getting your crush to like you can be extremely frustrating and stressful. During the process there may be times you will just want to pull your hair out and scream because it can feel like he is looking right through you. That brings us to my first piece of advice in snagging your crush: Do not over-stress. You may be facing a daunting challenge, but worrying will get you absolutely nowhere in this game. Just stay calm and stay relaxed. If you follow these fool-proof pieces of advice, you’ll be set. If all goes to plan, your crush will be falling for you in no time at all!

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Tip One – Make Yourself Visible

First and foremost, your crush isn’t going to fall for you (or even have the ability to fall for you) if he’s never met you or never gets to speak to you. Perhaps he is the type of popular guy who stands out at work or school, maybe he’s the shy, withdrawn, quiet type of guy who sits in the back row. Figure out which type he is and work with that information to help you figure out the best ways to get him to like you like you like him. To get him to fall for you, you first need to figure out how to approach him. After gathering this information, use it in your conversations.

Yes, we said conversations. Because at some point, dear reader, you will need to keep a consistent form of contact with this guy. Otherwise you will never be able to form a proper relationship or get him to see you like him as more than friends.

Currently, he is your crush. It’s not the other way around at this point, so you may need to make  the first move. You may be thinking it’s hard putting yourself out there, which it totally is! But,  be brave, you can do it. By no means do you have to ask him out… yet. You’re still quite a ways away from taking measures like that.  All you really need to do for now is just speak to him. Introduce yourself, tell him about what you like, ask him if he’s got any hobbies, where does he go to work/school, etc.. See, it’s simple. This first tip is all about baby-steps, simple icebreakers to put you on his radar.

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Tip Two – Don’t Be Afraid To Flirt

You’re probably thinking to yourself, ‘Duh, flirting is what it’s all about!’ and you’d be mostly right. As much of a cliche it is to tell you that flirting is important, it’s one of the most vital tactics in getting your sought after man to like you back. Don’t be nervous! Pretty much everyone has a strong fear of rejection in one situation or another. We subconsciously stop ourselves from feeling anything, just because there is an off chance we could get hurt! But all it takes are a few flirtatious gestures to hook the man you’ve been dreaming about. Once he sees that you are putting in all this effort, he might start to get the message and eventually want to be more than just friends.  

Don’t come on too strong, but you can subtly make your crush aware of your feelings for him.

Flirting is easier than it seems, for most of us it’s in our nature. We just have to dig up the small amount of confidence we need to get going! The strongest types of flirting come from the way you are speaking to your crush. Let yourself keep the conversations light-hearted and playful. Try out some witty banter or maybe even some corny pickup lines to get a laugh from your crush!

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Tip Three – Be Yourself & Act Natural

This is the most important piece of advice you will ever get when it comes down to relationships. Whether it be that they are just beginning or it is 50 years down the line, it’s important to stay true to yourself through it all. A lot of people will go to extreme lengths to impress the person they are crushing on. Our advice to you is to stick to being yourself. It is never healthy to try building a relationship based on falsities. It’s especially easy to get caught up in pretending to be something you’re not. Ask yourself: How can my crush like me if he doesn’t really know me? No one really appreciates a liar, so stay honest.

You definitely want your crush to like you for who you are and vice versa, right? Hopefully you answered yes to the question, because maintaining a strong bond built on truth is important. There is really no point in trying to be something you’re not. If you find that your crush doesn’t seem to be interested in who you are as a person, he probably is not the right guy for you anways. Stay true to yourself, be who you are and don’t ever let anyone stop you from doing so!

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Tip Four — Use Body Language

Using your body language and being flirtatious go hand in hand with each other. There are only a few differences between the two, but many similarities. Body language will literally show your crush that you mean business. Go ahead and bat those eyelashes at him in playful conversations. Try twirling your hair through your fingers or even just flash a few of your sweetest smiles in his direction. Let him know your mind and body are interested in him by using both of them. When you two are chatting and it is his turn to speak, find yourself placing your hand on his arm or leg to show him that you are really listening to what he has to say to you and that you are interested in every word.

The most important part of body language is always maintaining a proper amount of eye contact. I can’t stress this part enough: Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact! Eyes are the doorways to the soul, or so we have heard. Eye contact brings an uber personal feel into your discussions. Using your eyes is a great way to get someone to pay attention to you, because once he sees your beautiful baby blues or browns, how could he possibly look away?

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Tip 5 — Get To Know Him

Guys love when you pay attention to them and take the time to get to know them on a more personal level. This tip is all about figuring out what likes, what he dislikes, what his favorite things are, where he spends most of his time, what his basic interests are, etc. Your crush will truly appreciate you taking the time out of your busy day to try to understand him better. Asking him personal questions will also give you information to have more conversations in the future. Having conversation starters is super important in this process. You will need something to fuel your talks with him.

You taking interest in him will surely get him just as interested in getting to know you, too. Get a deeper look to discover if you and your crush have any common interests, Does he like nature like you do? Maybe he has a crazy uncle that always belts out karaoke at all the wrong times at family events like you do or maybe you will both find some excitement in the fact that you both absolutely adore german shepherds. Whatever the random facts, you will never know unless you do some deeper digging.

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Tip 6 — Use Humor

What brings two human beings closer together than bonding over a few laughs? Very few things, it seems.. Do not ever underestimate the power of a laugh or the strength of a smile, especially when it comes to liking someone and getting them to like you back. Using humor is one of the most effective ways in getting your crush to like you.

First you can start off by talking with him about your favorite funny memories, such as your most embarrassing moments or funniest memories. Open up to him and tell him some of your favorite jokes and then try asking him to tell you some of his favorite jokes, too. Take the measures to create new jokes with your crush over time. Inside jokes are super glue in creating bonds with people. If you create new jokes with your crush, he is more inclined to remember them and think of you later when you’re not around. Maybe you will get a few giggles from him. Funny is definitely sexy. That is why people always say they are looking for a partner with a great sense of humor. Utilize this information to help you get the guy of your dreams!

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Tip 7 — Keep It Classy

We know when you’re eager for someone to like you back, things can get out of control. Just a warning: Desperation is definitely not hot. There is no need to try too hard. Keep it simple when it comes to your crush. It is okay to send your crush a couple of texts, but absolutely do not bombard him every moment of the day. He probably saw the first one you sent, so it is up to you to develop and practice some patience. Don’t get overworked if he doesn’t respond right away, he may just be busy.

It is also okay to dress up to impress your crush, but there is no need to overdress or, shall we say, underdress. Try not to let your outfit give it all away before you are even sure if he likes you or not. Guys usually prefer a bit of mystery. Form fitting clothes, subtly low necklines and putting on some lipstick can only help. But stay away from fishnets, too much cleavage or excessive blush and eyeshadow. Overdoing it can seem desperate for attention and gaudy.

When it comes to your behavior try to not be too enthusiastic. Stay calm and collected. What we are saying is: Play it cool!

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Tip 8 — Take Your Time

You truly cannot rush a good thing. Really getting this guy to like you for who you are does take a good amount of time and work. Putting everything out on the table immediately could leave you at risk of ruining everything that you have worked so hard for while pursuing your crush. No one wants anyone baring it all right away! Use time as your advantage.

The longer you take, the more effort you will find yourself putting in to the bond. The longer you take, the more he will start to get intrigued by you and want to get to know you more. Rushing could also give him the wrong ideas about your intentions. We are not saying take all the time in the world, we do not want your crush to get bored by any means.  Get him to take you seriously in your efforts by keeping the pace steady and slow. In taking your time ensure you use your utmost confidence and maintain strong contact with him so he knows your interest in him is unwavering. Continuously try to apply the previous tips while doing so and you should have your crush hooked, no problem!

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Tip 9 — Use Common Ground

Remember how we told you to really take the time to get to know what your crush is interested in? That was because finding those common interests is going to give you an advantage in getting your crush to like you back. Use that common ground to make yourself more appealing to him. If he enjoys cooking and you enjoy eating, ask him to cook for you sometime.

If he loves art, you can ask him to check out the sculptures you love with you sometime. Maybe he is in a special group at school that you have thought about joining before, like speech or photography club, get involved with those and he will appreciate you taking interests in these things. Do you both watch similar tv shows? You two can chat about how they killed off your favorite character in the series finale! Whatever it may be, use it to help you get the guy you like to like you back. If you two do not seem to share any common interests at all, then maybe he is not the right guy for you after all. But if you two do share quite a few common interests, then the task of getting his attention will be super easy!

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Tip 10 — Build Up Chemistry and Wait

All you have to do now is use all of the previous tips to get your crush to like you back. Watch the tips work their magic. Remember: Do not rush it. Good things come in due time and if you really like this guy you will take time to do it right. It’s important to remember to stay true to who you are, because relationships seldom work built on lies. Use your flirtatious tactics to the max and input body language to build up chemistry between the two of you. Make your intentions clear with him or you may end up in the friendzone and we definitely do not want that, do we? At the very end of your pursuit of your dream guy, you have two options.

Option number one consists of waiting to see if your crush will ask you out, drop hints about your favorite places or activities and see if he catches on! Maybe he is a shy guy and can’t seem to find the gusto to ask you out. Maybe he finds you too intimidating! If you feel like that is the case, then please use option two. Option two tells you to go ahead and take the initiative to ask him out yourself! Don’t come on too strong, but definitely maintain a good amount of confidence. Use these simple, effective tips and you should have him wrapped around your finger in no time.

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    Oora

    February 9, 2020 at 8:14 pm

    My crush won’t talk to me I’ve tried so many times. Ive let him borrow my things and he never talks to me he maybe says thank you for something but his attention is never on me. It’s sad that he is friends with my bestie and she keeps encouraging me reasoning with me and stuff but I just feel sad

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      web admin

      February 9, 2020 at 9:12 pm

      Either he is extremely shy, or he doesn’t talk because he doesn’t realize you like him and isn’t interested. You have two options in this case. You can either assume he isn’t interested and move on, or you can try talking to him in case he is just shy. What you decide to do is up to you. Good luck!

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    Ghizlene

    December 24, 2019 at 9:19 pm

    I actually have a crush on one of my former teachers, he’s not my teacher anymore thanks God lol !!!
    Anyways I tried different ways to make him notice that I like him but it didn’t work so I’m not confused if it means that he doesn’t like me back or it’s just cause he didn’t get the message
    Anyways thanks for your article I enjoyed reading it

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      web admin

      December 27, 2019 at 7:50 pm

      If you are an adult and your relationship would not cause either of you social or legal harm, then you can attempt to nourish a relationship with him. However, if you are still a student in your school, then you should abstain from attempting to maintain a relationship with him. For now, focus your emotional elsewhere, and turn your attention toward you studies.

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    Bri

    December 15, 2019 at 1:29 am

    Hi, I hope this comment find you well. So my situation is this. I am 20 years old and I have never been in a relationship or had a boyfriend. I work with this guy who is super nice and funny and sweet. He seems to always catch me doing something weird or funny or being frustrated and smiles or we both start laughing. With a group of friends we have gone out and he’s given me a ride home. My friend one time asked him what his type was(she did it because I had recently told her I liked him) he said spanish girls. I’m Hispanic I was present when he said it. I didn’t pay much mind to it cause it doesn’t really mean anything that’s just his preference. But he always tries to have a conversation and since he knows I am shy and get anxiety when big groups come to our job he kinds takes control of the talking and I really appreciate it, that also could be a good friend. I guess what I am trying to say is I have a feeling he likes me back, but I’m not sure and I am not about to go up to him and ask him. We also work together and there’s a policy of no dating coworkers. We won’t work there forever but still. There was this one time where One of our friends had an improve show and I texted him if he was coming and he had forgotten. He said are you going cause if you are I will. I told him I was already there waiting to pay for my ticket and he said ok I’ll be there in 10, save me a seat if you go in before I get there. I was with my other friend and then two more friends showed up so I couldn’t save him a seat. But my friend who knew I liked him moved but I didn’t want to be that friend that leaves a friend behind to talk to a boy so I moved with her and as soon as I got up he followed and sat next to me. I know it’s not the same as seeing but from what I have told you what do you think? One more thing we don’t really text but we have a friend group where we are always playing uno. I sent him a game but he never replied.

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      web admin

      January 5, 2020 at 10:49 am

      His behaviors indication that he is developing feelings for you, and it is clear that you are interested in him as well. Determine what you feel is appropriate, and nourish this relationship by spending additional time together in person.

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    Mia Errato

    November 4, 2019 at 4:18 pm

    i have a crush on this guy but he has a girlfriend and he kinda flirts with me and always hugs me and holds my hand and we dm each other a lot and he helps me if i’m having a bad day but he is so obsessed with his girlfriend but they go to different schools… any advice on how to not like him

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      February 26, 2020 at 11:21 am

      If he is obsessed with his girlfriend, you are smart to try to control your feelings for him. I would focus on other things and try to talk to him a bit less. If he asks you why, tell him the truth–that you have developed feelings for him and need to take a step back since you know he is taken. When he is single at some point in the future, you can always try to make a move then.

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    Brooklyn

    October 13, 2019 at 6:49 pm

    I have this crush on this Senior at my school. We took a picture together and afterwards I asked for his number and he said “maybe later”. So I’ve been hoping for that later and it still hasn’t happened, but on Friday I needed a ponytail holder and he overheard me asking for one and said “here I got you” and tried to get it out but he said it hurt to bad. I have no clue if he likes me or is just being friendly. I really like him! Please help me.

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      web admin

      April 2, 2020 at 10:15 pm

      It is possible that this person likes you. By this time, you may have a better understanding of his feelings for you. Consider what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If possible, you should attempt to spend additional time with him in person, as this will help to strengthen your connection.

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    Michie

    October 1, 2019 at 8:40 pm

    Hello,i have a crush on my best friend.how in the freaking world do i make it work?

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      web admin

      December 29, 2019 at 2:44 pm

      Best friends often make for the best relationships as well. If it turns out your friend likes you back, you could have a once-in-a-lifetime relationship ahead of you. Now, you just have to hope that he likes you back. Good luck!

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    Ayona

    September 28, 2019 at 8:02 pm

    Hi! Uhm, i find your article really helpful but i don’t know how to be confident enough to even start a move on my crush. So here is my story.. when i started school this semester, i hardly thought about not getting myself fall for anyone nor had crush on any guy at school. But a week after the classes started, there is this one guy who attended our Psychology class. I knew he was a block mate in class because we only have one section as 4th year students. That first time, i already found myself crushing on him, but i didn’t let myself fall for that and ignored it.

    As the classes and days go on, we get group activities every time in each subject and it happened that he joined some of my group. I was the leader cause no one initiates to be. I was just a short one with a quite small voice. So i had a hard time to manage and announce everything. This guy that i have a crush on, initiated to speak up of my ideas in behalf of me. He helped me a lot. That’s when i realize that i really can’t contain myself and fall for this nice guy.

    Then days go on, i found myself looking for him in every class. I even take glances at him when he’s not very attentive of his surrounding. Then one day came, after our Statistics class, i asked him how old is he. (Though a close friend of him already told me about it, i still asked him to confirm it.) He refused to tell me because everyone is around. So i told him that his close friend already told me. He laughed and confirmed it with a “Yes, that’s it. That’s true”. and we both went silent. When his close friend came out of the room, she asked him “What is it? What did you say to her? You already confessed you have a crush on her?”

    We are both shocked but he just laughed, while i shockingly reacted “No! I mean, that’s not what we’re talking about. But Uhm.. i guess.. it’s okay?” Then everyone around laughed and made fun of us. We both stayed silent and laughed quite awkwardly this time. His close friend whispered to me, “Hey! he has a crush on you. I mean, he admires your personality and attitude. That’s what he confessed to me” Then some of the days went on that some of our classmates started teasing us when we work in pair.

    I am a single mom. While he is a bread-winner of his family. I can hopefully see that we might have some sort of chemistry but I was afraid to fall for him or even make a move on him. I negatively think we’ll never meet on the same ground other than being classmates. What should i do?

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      web admin

      December 28, 2019 at 9:56 am

      Make a move! It definitely sounds like he likes you! It seems like he is just too nervous to make a move on his own because he feels just as nervous around you as you do around him. Go for it and see what happens!

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    shaimae

    September 19, 2019 at 12:03 am

    well… its been a year since we first talked and ALSO WE ARE SHARING THE SAME INTEEST WHITCH IS SINGING AND HE KEEPS TELING ME THAT HE S IN LOVE WTH MY VOICE ND STUFF ND BUT THEN WUT HAPPENED IS THAT WE WERE TLKING AND HE TOLD ME GIIIRL DON T WORRY WE ARE FRIENDS NOW YOU CAN SHARE WIH ME ANYTHING YU WANT I M LIKE YOUR BROTHER AND DUUUUH I WAS LIKE OW GOAAASH WUT SHALL I DO IN THIS CASE
    DOES WUT HE SAID MEANS I M JS HIS FRIEND EVEN IF HE KEEPS FLIRTING ALL DAY LONG ??

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      web admin

      December 21, 2019 at 5:53 pm

      People can flirt with someone, even if they are not romantically interested. Since he said he is your brother, there is a fairly good chance that he just sees you as a friend and nothing else. This could always change in the future, but it would probably be a while until his feelings change significantly.

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    MercuryGurl

    August 20, 2019 at 5:14 am

    I’ve a huge crush on my married boss. I know is soooo wrong, but he doesn’t help too. We’ve been working together for over 2 years now and each day I like him more. He keeps hinting that likes me for example: joking around that has a soft spot for me, that I have a stunning body (whenever I say that I need to loose weight) and so on. Nothing harmful if I didn’t have the feelings that I do about him. I’m getting crazy over here. I hardly sleep because of him. I’d do anything to forget him!

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      web admin

      August 21, 2019 at 1:14 pm

      He flirts with you and you have feelings for him. However, you are aware that he is married and you know that it would be harmful if you were to maintain a romantic relationship with him. Since you are aware that you don’t want to nourish this relationship, you should allow thoughts of him to fade. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Mercury!

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    Kaori

    August 6, 2019 at 7:49 am

    Hey! So I have this crush on this boy but I don’t think he will feel the same way. You see, I only met him for 2 weeks at a summer camp I was attending. I technically have his phone number since he’s in a group chat my friends made, but it would be really weird for me to text him. I am going back to the camp next year and I’m pretty sure he is too.

    I did talk to him mostly while others were in the same conversation but there were a few times when I talked to him alone. He also noticed one time when I missing (I know this is probably not a big deal but for some reason I was surprised).

    Anyway I guess my question is how do I get him to like me? I know you have a whole post above on that but I don’t have a lot of time. If we do see each other in the camp it will only be for 2 weeks or a month tops.

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      web admin

      August 6, 2019 at 4:32 pm

      The two of you maintained a social relationship during your Summer camp. You have his number, so it may not be weird for you to message him. It is certainly possible that he is interested in you. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kaori!

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        Brielle

        August 7, 2019 at 8:09 am

        Thanks for the reply! I’ll try and the advice you have given me and the advice on your awesome blog post.

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          web admin

          August 8, 2019 at 5:25 pm

          Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. It is certain that your positive comments will help many members of our community. Have a great day, Brielle!

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    Alexa

    July 26, 2019 at 10:29 pm

    Hi, thank you so much for this great article (: , I have a problem though. I really, really like this boy who works as a cashier at a supermarket, we always exchange eye contact and he would always look at me and he’s always really sweet to me in an obvious way, like I see him treat people formally and stuff, however, I really can’t do much to grab his attention as it’s a workplace and his mates are there other than going nearly everyday to see him and possibly try to talk to him, but I really don’t know what to talk about either as it’s also a short period of time because of just paying and leaving, so please, do you have any idea what can I do about this?
    Ps. I know his name from the sale receipt and I did everything to find him on social media but to no avail

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      web admin

      July 26, 2019 at 11:22 pm

      Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. It is clear that you are interested in this person. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Go into his store when you are not purchasing things and walk up to him. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Attempt to nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Alexa!

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    Katie

    July 7, 2019 at 4:42 am

    Hi! I hope you guys are all ok, and this article is really great 🙂 I was just wondering if anybody had any ideas with my situation, as I really love this boy but I haven’t seen him in a while and do not have his phone number, since I’ve been off ill from school with OCD for almost half a year now, and so I’m worried that he may not like me anymore or maybe he will have moved on. Earlier this year we chatted quite a bit, and he also asked if I was free a couple of times, but that was just before I went off unwell, and I just don’t know when or how to see him, since I don’t think I’ll be back at school before the summer holiday comes. I do have a couple of my friend’s phone numbers who I guess may have my crush’s phone number, but they don’t know that I like him and so would that just sound really dodgy? I’m so sorry for this note being so long, but thank you so much if any of you guys do maybe have a solution, and if not then please don’t worry x

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      July 8, 2019 at 2:32 pm

      It sounds like you have made the decision to remove yourself from school. If you are interested in spending time with him in person, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Reach out to him, and attempt to spend additional time with him in person. If you do not reach out to him, then it is certainly possible that he will focus his emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Katie!

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        Katie

        July 12, 2019 at 8:18 am

        Thank you so much for replying and for your lovely advice! I’m really sure that somewhere it will help me out, and I really hope that you have a lovely day, too x

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          web admin

          July 12, 2019 at 4:20 pm

          Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. We look forward to sharing more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Katie!

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        Caterina

        August 31, 2019 at 1:56 pm

        I have this crush on a guy. He 2 grades in school above me but I see him everyday at school in a extracurricular activity. We have to spend at lot of time near each other because we are in the same group (section). I started feeling attracted to him about 6 months ago. At that time he had a girlfriend. Now he doesn’t. I have caught him staring at me a few times and he looks away when I see him doing it. Usually he acts like he hates me. He never talks to me, doesn’t help me out when I need it, and only sits by me because we have to. I honestly think he has no interest in me but sometimes it feels like he does.

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          web admin

          September 1, 2019 at 10:05 pm

          You have developed feelings for this person, and you are aware that he is no longer in a relationship. He has been looking at you, and he has also been treating you poorly. This may mean that he is uncertain about his feelings toward you and your feelings toward him. Make a decision about what you feel is appropriate. Determine if it would be viable to reach out to him. If so, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Caterina!

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      Tamia

      October 23, 2019 at 9:55 pm

      Ok so my crush is my moms best friend except he is a year older than me. And I don’t honk it’s all that good of a thing for me to have a crush on him becuz of his friendship with my mom. But I used to always catch him staring at me in the hallways of school. From his locker looking over at mine. But he always hangs around girls and it makes me a little bit nervous that he does that. Recently he has started talking to me more and always asks for food. He also kinda touched my hand on purpose when both he and I were out of school to help my dad with something ( his dad made him help my dad, his dad helped to) and idk what to think about him touching my hand

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        web admin

        March 20, 2020 at 6:39 pm

        If he is your mother’s best friend, then how is he able to be at school with you? If he is the same age as her, it really isn’t a good idea to try to start anything with him. If he is the same age as you, then you still may want to reconsider doing anything because it will definitely make things weird and awkward in your family. I would probably hold off on doing anything with him for the near future.

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