How To Get Your Crush To Like You

By on December 29, 2013

So maybe there is a guy you like – a guy you find yourself falling head over heels for. He’s cute, he’s funny, he’s handsome – in short he’s everything you want in a man and you’re crushing on him hard. All that’s good and well, but it poses one big problem, how on earth do you get your crush to like you back? This is probably not something you want to hear, but capturing your dream guy’s attention and his heart all at once is not always an easy feat to conquer…

Getting your crush to like you can be extremely frustrating and stressful. During the process there may be times you will just want to pull your hair out and scream because it can feel like he is looking right through you. That brings us to my first piece of advice in snagging your crush: Do not over-stress. You may be facing a daunting challenge, but worrying will get you absolutely nowhere in this game. Just stay calm and stay relaxed. If you follow these fool-proof pieces of advice, you’ll be set. If all goes to plan, your crush will be falling for you in no time at all!

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Tip One – Make Yourself Visible

First and foremost, your crush isn’t going to fall for you (or even have the ability to fall for you) if he’s never met you or never gets to speak to you. Perhaps he is the type of popular guy who stands out at work or school, maybe he’s the shy, withdrawn, quiet type of guy who sits in the back row. Figure out which type he is and work with that information to help you figure out the best ways to get him to like you like you like him. To get him to fall for you, you first need to figure out how to approach him. After gathering this information, use it in your conversations.

Yes, we said conversations. Because at some point, dear reader, you will need to keep a consistent form of contact with this guy. Otherwise you will never be able to form a proper relationship or get him to see you like him as more than friends.

Currently, he is your crush. It’s not the other way around at this point, so you may need to make  the first move. You may be thinking it’s hard putting yourself out there, which it totally is! But,  be brave, you can do it. By no means do you have to ask him out… yet. You’re still quite a ways away from taking measures like that.  All you really need to do for now is just speak to him. Introduce yourself, tell him about what you like, ask him if he’s got any hobbies, where does he go to work/school, etc.. See, it’s simple. This first tip is all about baby-steps, simple icebreakers to put you on his radar.

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Tip Two – Don’t Be Afraid To Flirt

You’re probably thinking to yourself, ‘Duh, flirting is what it’s all about!’ and you’d be mostly right. As much of a cliche it is to tell you that flirting is important, it’s one of the most vital tactics in getting your sought after man to like you back. Don’t be nervous! Pretty much everyone has a strong fear of rejection in one situation or another. We subconsciously stop ourselves from feeling anything, just because there is an off chance we could get hurt! But all it takes are a few flirtatious gestures to hook the man you’ve been dreaming about. Once he sees that you are putting in all this effort, he might start to get the message and eventually want to be more than just friends.  

Don’t come on too strong, but you can subtly make your crush aware of your feelings for him.

Flirting is easier than it seems, for most of us it’s in our nature. We just have to dig up the small amount of confidence we need to get going! The strongest types of flirting come from the way you are speaking to your crush. Let yourself keep the conversations light-hearted and playful. Try out some witty banter or maybe even some corny pickup lines to get a laugh from your crush!

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Tip Three – Be Yourself & Act Natural

This is the most important piece of advice you will ever get when it comes down to relationships. Whether it be that they are just beginning or it is 50 years down the line, it’s important to stay true to yourself through it all. A lot of people will go to extreme lengths to impress the person they are crushing on. Our advice to you is to stick to being yourself. It is never healthy to try building a relationship based on falsities. It’s especially easy to get caught up in pretending to be something you’re not. Ask yourself: How can my crush like me if he doesn’t really know me? No one really appreciates a liar, so stay honest.

You definitely want your crush to like you for who you are and vice versa, right? Hopefully you answered yes to the question, because maintaining a strong bond built on truth is important. There is really no point in trying to be something you’re not. If you find that your crush doesn’t seem to be interested in who you are as a person, he probably is not the right guy for you anways. Stay true to yourself, be who you are and don’t ever let anyone stop you from doing so!

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Tip Four — Use Body Language

Using your body language and being flirtatious go hand in hand with each other. There are only a few differences between the two, but many similarities. Body language will literally show your crush that you mean business. Go ahead and bat those eyelashes at him in playful conversations. Try twirling your hair through your fingers or even just flash a few of your sweetest smiles in his direction. Let him know your mind and body are interested in him by using both of them. When you two are chatting and it is his turn to speak, find yourself placing your hand on his arm or leg to show him that you are really listening to what he has to say to you and that you are interested in every word.

The most important part of body language is always maintaining a proper amount of eye contact. I can’t stress this part enough: Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact! Eyes are the doorways to the soul, or so we have heard. Eye contact brings an uber personal feel into your discussions. Using your eyes is a great way to get someone to pay attention to you, because once he sees your beautiful baby blues or browns, how could he possibly look away?

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Tip 5 — Get To Know Him

Guys love when you pay attention to them and take the time to get to know them on a more personal level. This tip is all about figuring out what likes, what he dislikes, what his favorite things are, where he spends most of his time, what his basic interests are, etc. Your crush will truly appreciate you taking the time out of your busy day to try to understand him better. Asking him personal questions will also give you information to have more conversations in the future. Having conversation starters is super important in this process. You will need something to fuel your talks with him.

You taking interest in him will surely get him just as interested in getting to know you, too. Get a deeper look to discover if you and your crush have any common interests, Does he like nature like you do? Maybe he has a crazy uncle that always belts out karaoke at all the wrong times at family events like you do or maybe you will both find some excitement in the fact that you both absolutely adore german shepherds. Whatever the random facts, you will never know unless you do some deeper digging.

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Tip 6 — Use Humor

What brings two human beings closer together than bonding over a few laughs? Very few things, it seems.. Do not ever underestimate the power of a laugh or the strength of a smile, especially when it comes to liking someone and getting them to like you back. Using humor is one of the most effective ways in getting your crush to like you.

First you can start off by talking with him about your favorite funny memories, such as your most embarrassing moments or funniest memories. Open up to him and tell him some of your favorite jokes and then try asking him to tell you some of his favorite jokes, too. Take the measures to create new jokes with your crush over time. Inside jokes are super glue in creating bonds with people. If you create new jokes with your crush, he is more inclined to remember them and think of you later when you’re not around. Maybe you will get a few giggles from him. Funny is definitely sexy. That is why people always say they are looking for a partner with a great sense of humor. Utilize this information to help you get the guy of your dreams!

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Tip 7 — Keep It Classy

We know when you’re eager for someone to like you back, things can get out of control. Just a warning: Desperation is definitely not hot. There is no need to try too hard. Keep it simple when it comes to your crush. It is okay to send your crush a couple of texts, but absolutely do not bombard him every moment of the day. He probably saw the first one you sent, so it is up to you to develop and practice some patience. Don’t get overworked if he doesn’t respond right away, he may just be busy.

It is also okay to dress up to impress your crush, but there is no need to overdress or, shall we say, underdress. Try not to let your outfit give it all away before you are even sure if he likes you or not. Guys usually prefer a bit of mystery. Form fitting clothes, subtly low necklines and putting on some lipstick can only help. But stay away from fishnets, too much cleavage or excessive blush and eyeshadow. Overdoing it can seem desperate for attention and gaudy.

When it comes to your behavior try to not be too enthusiastic. Stay calm and collected. What we are saying is: Play it cool!

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Tip 8 — Take Your Time

You truly cannot rush a good thing. Really getting this guy to like you for who you are does take a good amount of time and work. Putting everything out on the table immediately could leave you at risk of ruining everything that you have worked so hard for while pursuing your crush. No one wants anyone baring it all right away! Use time as your advantage.

The longer you take, the more effort you will find yourself putting in to the bond. The longer you take, the more he will start to get intrigued by you and want to get to know you more. Rushing could also give him the wrong ideas about your intentions. We are not saying take all the time in the world, we do not want your crush to get bored by any means.  Get him to take you seriously in your efforts by keeping the pace steady and slow. In taking your time ensure you use your utmost confidence and maintain strong contact with him so he knows your interest in him is unwavering. Continuously try to apply the previous tips while doing so and you should have your crush hooked, no problem!

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Tip 9 — Use Common Ground

Remember how we told you to really take the time to get to know what your crush is interested in? That was because finding those common interests is going to give you an advantage in getting your crush to like you back. Use that common ground to make yourself more appealing to him. If he enjoys cooking and you enjoy eating, ask him to cook for you sometime.

If he loves art, you can ask him to check out the sculptures you love with you sometime. Maybe he is in a special group at school that you have thought about joining before, like speech or photography club, get involved with those and he will appreciate you taking interests in these things. Do you both watch similar tv shows? You two can chat about how they killed off your favorite character in the series finale! Whatever it may be, use it to help you get the guy you like to like you back. If you two do not seem to share any common interests at all, then maybe he is not the right guy for you after all. But if you two do share quite a few common interests, then the task of getting his attention will be super easy!

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Tip 10 — Build Up Chemistry and Wait

All you have to do now is use all of the previous tips to get your crush to like you back. Watch the tips work their magic. Remember: Do not rush it. Good things come in due time and if you really like this guy you will take time to do it right. It’s important to remember to stay true to who you are, because relationships seldom work built on lies. Use your flirtatious tactics to the max and input body language to build up chemistry between the two of you. Make your intentions clear with him or you may end up in the friendzone and we definitely do not want that, do we? At the very end of your pursuit of your dream guy, you have two options.

Option number one consists of waiting to see if your crush will ask you out, drop hints about your favorite places or activities and see if he catches on! Maybe he is a shy guy and can’t seem to find the gusto to ask you out. Maybe he finds you too intimidating! If you feel like that is the case, then please use option two. Option two tells you to go ahead and take the initiative to ask him out yourself! Don’t come on too strong, but definitely maintain a good amount of confidence. Use these simple, effective tips and you should have him wrapped around your finger in no time.

682 Comments

  1. marga

    November 2, 2018 at 10:07 pm

    i like your articles..so brilliant and amazing
    #keep up the good work

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 3, 2018 at 6:22 pm

      Thank you for your supportive comments. We always appreciating when members of our community share their positive comments. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Marga!

  2. Gisella

    October 21, 2018 at 7:44 am

    I like a boy in my class and I am starting to have a friendship with him. We text a bit and we invite each other to play fortnite sometimes. I really want to talk to him in real life more. He sits in front of me, but I always just get scared to say something. I am scared that if I ever confess to him, it will ruin our friendship and what we used to do together.

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 22, 2018 at 8:18 pm

      The two of you are nourishing a relationship. You share interests and hobbies. He may have similar feelings for you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide what you believe is viable and appropriate. Continue to nourish this relationship by spending time with him. Perhaps you will find benefit in speaking with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Gisella!

  3. User

    September 29, 2018 at 1:14 pm

    Hey so i like this guy in my class for a long time now and i reallly cant get over him but the thing is sometimes he is being super nice and playful but others he is straight up not interested he even talked to his friend about him being interested in a girl next to me but he wouldnt say her name or anth which is weird. His friend said he did it on purpose so i can hear him. Idk wut to do help

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 29, 2018 at 10:26 pm

      His friend has informed you of the reason for his behaviors. It is certainly possible that the guy in your class that you like also likes you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If you have questions in the future, then perhaps speak with his friend. Have a great day, User!

  4. A user

    September 23, 2018 at 2:44 am

    Heyy so basically I like this guy in my class for a pretty long time now. But the thing is I think he knew I liked him a while ago which makes every conversation of ours awkward. But this year I think he has grown out of it he even compliments my style and notices when smt changes in my look, I’d say it’s a good thing but we have never had a proper long interesting conversation that’s why I don’t know how to switch from our playful moods to a romantic vibe please help

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 24, 2018 at 1:34 am

      He is aware of your feelings for him. He has continued to nourish your social relationship. This may mean that he is interested in developing and emotional relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. Strengthen your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Share your thoughts and feelings with him as well. Have a great day, Use!

  5. Adriana

    September 21, 2018 at 3:57 pm

    So I really need help. I told my crush I liked him on my bday last year in my friends phone bc I don’t have his number. We were so close before I told him this and now he acts like we’ve never meet. My best friend and his are best friends so she’s like go talk to him. I’m pretty much obsessed with him and I don’t know what he feels. What should I do!?

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 24, 2018 at 1:50 am

      You are interested in developing a relationship with your crush. Your friend has said that you should reach out to him. Attempt to spend additional time with him in person, as this will nourish your relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you. Have a great day, Adriana!

  6. anonymous

    September 6, 2018 at 9:51 pm

    so i have a crush on this guy,but hes straight (or so i think) and like im so head over heels for him and hes always giving mixed signals we live in a place where being openly gay or bi is almost against the law people will hate on you bully you etc and maybe hes scared to come out or hes just flirty with everyone but still straight?? ive liked this guy since the beginning of this year and its already been 9 months of just nothing,what should i do

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 7, 2018 at 10:26 pm

      There may be a variety of reasons for his behaviors. He may be attracted to you. He may be friendly. If he is attracted to you, then he may not want to make the first move due to similar fears. If he is being friendly and you attempt to share yourself with him, then there may be social repercussions. Determine what you want for your future. You will strengthen your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Anon!

  7. Personal

    August 29, 2018 at 7:55 am

    So there’s this guy i have liked for about a year, but he is best friends with my twin brother. I have never actually had a full on conversation with him, but i really like him. All my friends tell me to go and talk to him, but I am such an awkward person and i’m not good at flirty. I feel like i would just make it even more awkward that it already is.

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 29, 2018 at 3:01 pm

      You are interested in developing a relationship with this person. Your friends woulds support you attempting to nourish a relationship with him. Determine what you want for your future. Perhaps speak with your brother about his thoughts and feelings. You may strengthen your relationship with your crush by attempting to spend time with him in person. Have a great day, Personal!

  8. anonymys

    July 26, 2018 at 6:49 pm

    Hi, thanks so much for the helpful tips! So, there is this guy that I really like.(I would say I loved him, but I’m a little too young, but old enough to date 😊.)Our older brothers are really close friends and our parents know and talk to each other occasionally. A few of my friends know, but not many. One of my friends in particular talks to him a lot because he volunteers for her mom. She says he is super sweet and a fun person to talk to. We have many things in common like playing basketball. But, I have never talked to him before, even though I have liked him for about 3 years. The only interaction we have had is small eye contact and a quick smile. He is two years older than me, so we don’t go to the same school. I know he knows who I am because we have both taken many religious classes together. What should I do without being awkward? And how do I do it before my summer ends in about 2-3 weeks? Please help a fellow sister!😉😉

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 26, 2018 at 11:32 pm

      You have never spoken to this person, but you are aware that you have feelings for him. You will find great benefit in attempting to reach out to him. Perhaps speak with your brother, as he may be able to support you. His older brother and his mother may be interested in nourishing this relationship as well. Determine what you want for your future at this time. Have a great day, Anon!

  9. Ivnaat

    July 22, 2018 at 10:22 am

    i,I’m 17 yrs old…Indian…there’s a guy a reallyyyy cute guy in my class who I have been having a crush for a pretty long time. I tried to add him on insta but he won’t reply to my request..! not even deleted it! I never get to talk to him as he seems to be quiet and around his friends…we have 1 hr class together after which we directly go home…There’s no way I can talk to him alone ever! no chance too! We never spoke to each other too…so its hard beng friends too..! but still atleast he and I can be normal friends bt there’s no cnace for me!! He comes in my dreams most of the times and its driving me crazyy!! what to do?? This is totally nuts!!

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 22, 2018 at 10:51 pm

      You are attracted to this person. You have not had a conversation with him, so this relationship may not become a strong emotional relationship at this time. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then you need to speak with him. Perhaps attempt to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you do not believe that this relationship is viable, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Ivnaat!

  10. Ivnaat

    July 22, 2018 at 10:21 am

    Hi,I’m 17 yrs old…Indian…there’s a guy a reallyyyy cute guy in my class who I have been having a crush for a pretty long time. I tried to add him on insta but he won’t reply to my request..! not even deleted it! I never get to talk to him as he seems to be quiet and around his friends…we have 1 hr class together after which we directly go home…There’s no way I can talk to him alone ever! no chance too! We never spoke to each other too…so its hard beng friends too..! but still atleast he and I can be normal friends bt there’s no cnace for me!! He comes in my dreams most of the times and its driving me crazyy!! what to do?? This is totally nuts!!

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 22, 2018 at 10:44 pm

      You are attracted to this person. You have not had a conversation with him, so this relationship may not become a strong emotional relationship at this time. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then you need to speak with him. Perhaps attempt to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Ivnaat!

  11. anonymous

    July 9, 2018 at 8:07 am

    I can’t make out whether he likes me or not. He smiles and make eye tag…but doesn’t really talk. He isn’t that shy actually. How can I know whether this one guy has feelings for me as well?

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 9, 2018 at 4:50 pm

      The two of you share a social connection. His behaviors may be indications that his feelings for you are growing. His smiles and eye contact are signs that he thinks about you. Determine what you want for this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him a chance to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

  12. Elaine

    June 29, 2018 at 8:44 am

    I’m 13, and I really like this guy, and I am to the point that I know that I like him for him. Most of last school year, I wasn’t able to speak to him, but since 4th grade, we were bffs!!

    I have been able to text him recently, and he is actually in Kenya for a mission trip rn, so I have to wait to be in contact, but I really really like him, to he point that every night I have a dream about him

    We live in an environment to where we can’t date till were like 16 and I’m ok with that, since I go to a small school

    The biggest problem is that my friend tricked his friend into telling her who he liked, and it is not me 😭 I was crushed, and that was 4 months ago and I still like him.

    For some reason, I can’t believe that he likes her, and that he orchestrated a plan so that I wouldn’t find out, and he would tell me he likes me later.

    I feel crazy rn 😓 plz help me

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 29, 2018 at 8:27 pm

      This person is on a mission trip and is focusing on his purpose at this time. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what type of relationship you are interested in nourishing. Ensure that kindness and compassion are the basis of everything that you do. This may influence your crush to think about you regarding a future relationship. Have a great day, Elaine!

  13. Anonymous

    May 29, 2018 at 12:50 pm

    I know my crush likes me, but I don’t know if she likes me as much as I like her. In school during break we went to a supermarket together and bought icecream (only her and I) (I said that I wanted to buy icecream and she asked if she could come along with me) we talked a bit about school and all.. But is this a hint or something? I really don’t know, I am shy and I am too afraid to ask her out but I cannot stop thinking about her. Also she starts conversations with me sometimes but she does it another way then normal compared to other guys (I’ve had 2-3 times now that she walks up to me after class and asks me how it’s going, sometimes I am even too shy to ask the same to her.. She doesn’t ask it to others.)

    Sorry for the long message, thanks for reading and thanks in advance for a response 🙂

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 30, 2018 at 1:53 pm

      You are aware that she likes you. The two of you spent time together in the store after she requested if she could join you. She asks you questions and does not ask other people questions in the same way. Her behaviors are indications that she is interested in developing a relationship with you. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Anon!

      • Anonymous

        June 21, 2018 at 7:07 am

        Hey, I have made a lot of progress and talk at least 5 times a week to eachother now. During school, we were in groups of 4 and something came to the topic and she said she had a “kind of” boyfriend that she has never met. She said the guy was 23 (Which is 7 years older then her). She said she got grounded for 2 months after she told her parents, which means that this was happening for a long time now. She said the guy was coming to this city in a few weeks.

        I’m broken.
        I really don’t understand it though, because around 6/10 times she messages me first on social media. I am really hard broken, crying as I am writing this… I just had to share these feelings somewhere, 2 close friends isn’t enough for me..

        I think I am still going to ask her out and say what I feel for her and things like that…

        Worst thing is, she said this to me today and next monday is the start of my final test week.. :(((((

        Does anyone have any tips or something? I also can’t stop thinking about her.. I want best for her to be honest, so if she is happy with that guy I am just going to try and leave it. Her parents are strict so somewhere deep inside me I really want them to not work out, I know it’s bad to think that but ughhhhh… 🙁

        • web admin

          web admin

          June 22, 2018 at 11:09 am

          This relationship that she is speaking about is not a viable relationship. This older person has convinced her that they have a strong connection. However, it is likely that there is nothing stable about this potentially illegal relationship. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. If you do not believe that a relationship with her is appropriate, then allow your thoughts to focus elsewhere. Have a great day, Anon!

          • As Ivnaat

            July 22, 2018 at 10:48 am

            Hi,I’m 17 yrs old…Indian…there’s a guy a really cute guy in my class who I have been having a crush for a pretty long time. I tried to add him on instagram but he won’t reply to my request..! not even deleted it! I never get to talk to him as he seems to be quiet and around his friends…we have 1 hr class together after which we directly go home…There’s no way I can talk to him alone ever! no chance too! We never spoke to each other too…so its hard being friends too..! but still at least he and I can be normal friends but there’s no chance for me!! He comes in my dreams most of the times and its driving me crazy!! what to do?? This is totally nuts!!

            • web admin

              web admin

              July 22, 2018 at 10:51 pm

              You are attracted to this person. You have not had a conversation with him, so this relationship may not become a strong emotional relationship at this time. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then you need to speak with him. Perhaps attempt to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you do not believe that this relationship is viable, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Ivnaat!

              • marga

                November 2, 2018 at 10:05 pm

                hahahah…tnx a lot

                • web admin

                  web admin

                  November 3, 2018 at 6:21 pm

                  Thank you for your supportive comments. We always appreciating when members of our community share their positive comments. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Marga!

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