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    What Does it Mean When a Guy Touches You?

    By on December 28, 2016

    Touching is the sense we possess that’s almost the most crucial out of them all. How someone feels to you, how you feel to them and the way you touch each other gives away everything about the relationship between you. At times it can be difficult to differentiate the meanings of the various types of touches there are. So how do you know what it means when a guy touches you?  We’ve got the answer! To better understand those touches and what they signify, just read this list and then you’ll know everything you need to:

    Your face

    How many people have you let touch your face in your lifetime? Usually the answer is not very many at all. That’s because our faces are one of the most untouched areas of our bodies. They are a deeply personal thing to lay your hands on and fairly fragile. If someone you aren’t comfortable reaches for your face, you’ll most likely pull away. When someone touches your face they are showing true care for you, as they have to be delicate when doing so. A lot of times you’ll find a guy pulling a hair off your face or stroking your cheek. Either of these and more can indicate a desire to care for you and a desire to connect on a deeper level.

    Your hair

    The stroking of or playing with of your hair are the ultimate signs that he is showing more romantic feelings for you. Playing with your hair is a way of flirting with you. Stroking your hair is a sign of protectiveness. It expresses he wants to be closer to you.  It’s a more tender touch that is used by men and commonly means that he has started thinking of you as more than just his friend.  

    Your lower back

    The small of your back isn’t somewhere a random stranger would touch. It’s definitely a more private area and when a guy touches you there is means he feels intimate with you. He is showing you he is attracted to you and will usually pull you closer in the process. Keep in mind touching the lower back and touching the upper back could have two extremely different meanings.

    Your waist

    Not just anyone can grab your waist, right? When a stranger touches your waist, you’ll most likely recoil with discomfort. It’s a very personal area and, as women, we keep it fairly guarded most of the time. When someone touches your waist it means they feel a grand sense of familiarity with you. To let them means you also feel that familiarity. When they make this touch it means they are not shy with you or with touching personal areas of your body. A guy grabbing your waist can also signify he wants to protect you and show you guidance. I.e: He puts his hands around your waist when you’re walking or when you’re dancing. Waist grabbing can also mean he is feeling aroused and wants to be more connected with you on a sexual level.

    Your thigh

    Thigh touching is usually a very sexually charged touched that guys do.The thigh is close to one of your most intimate areas. When he does this he is usually testing his limit of closeness with you and seeing if he can push the limit. When he uses this gesture it can also mean he is asking to be intimate with you.

    Your leg

    Touching someone’s leg is not always a sign of romance. It can be straightly platonic. Friends often use this touch with each other to show sympathy or comfort. This isn’t always the case, but it’s something to keep in mind when he touches your leg. Leg touching can indicate something more. It all depends on the way he is placing his hands on your leg. Patting it is a definite sign he’s just showing support, however, if you find him rubbing your leg it means something entirely different. Rubbing of the legs or even slight grabbing can mean he finds a carnal attraction to you.

    Your chin

    This is a very easily explained gesture. Chin touching is mostly done in two different ways. One: A slight tap to the chin is probably going to be  him just trying to cheer you up. It could even mean he is trying to appear cute and attractive to you. Two: If he holds your chin or cups it with his hands then he is trying to look deeply into your eyes. It can also signify that he wants to pull you in for a kiss. No matter how he touches your chin it’s normally a way that he is showing a deep liking for you. It’s obvious he has more intense feelings for you if he feels comfortable touching you there at all.

    Your shoulder

    More than likely when he touches your shoulder it does not mean anything romantic. A shoulder squeeze or patting of the shoulders could merely signify that he is showing his support for you in an endeavor or accomplishment. This is often done by family, teachers or someone just familiar with you. However, if you suddenly find him moving on from squeezing and patting your shoulders to giving you lengthy shoulder massages it is a definitely a clear sign that he is really into you.

    Your arm

    What an arm touch symbolizes greatly depends on the type of touch given. If a guy grabs your arm in a forceful manner it can mean he is using force to take you somewhere, requesting you not move or he could be guiding you somewhere. Which it is depends on how he is moving you after he grips your arm and the atmosphere of the situation. The other type of touch generally used on arms by men is a slow, rubbing motion. If he rubs your arms or traces with his fingers he is showing affection towards you. It could also be a sign he is trying to seduce you.

    Your knee

    A more than interpersonal touch is when a guy touches your knee.. Knee touches are usually one the first motions made when starting to flirt with someone. They are less invasive than touching the waist or face, but more personal than touching any other part of your leg or even your arm. If you find that when he touched you it was more of a pat or subtle squeeze, it could be a very plain and simple sign of only slight affection. Usually this touch will be brief, no matter how it is done, but it creates an atmosphere of closeness between the two of you.

    84 Comments

    1. sydenie

      February 14, 2018 at 2:45 pm

      HE TOUCHED MY BUTT AND SLAMED ME ON THE BED HE TOLD ME HE WAS GONNA HELP ME HE RAPED ME WHAT DO I DO??!! MY MOM DOESNT BELIVE ME!!!IT WAS MY COUSIN HE WAS ALWAYS WEIRD WITH ME AWAYS WANTED TO SLEEP OVER AS A KID..im scared

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 15, 2018 at 8:45 pm

        Call the police immediately. If your mother does not believe you, then perhaps speak with another guardian figure. If they are not available, then speak with your counselor at school. Law enforcement is there to help you. They can ensure that your case is brought to court. Best of luck, Sydenie!

        • Riley Warwick

          February 17, 2018 at 3:52 pm

          So I have a boyfriend and we went dating when he did this but in math he asked me if he could sit by me in science and I said of course because I had a crush on him and he knew but in science he started taping my had which was hanging off ogfff the table then he started rubing it then he grabbed it and held my hand until lunch and I knew he was dating amother girl and she sat at my table so it was kinda awkward and my boyfriend was there to so he was non stop looking at me and blushing and my face was bright red. So after lunch we went to social studies and he is in all of my classes so he sat by me their and he started rubing my leg a little bit past the knee but that’s it and he hled it there for like 3 min and the he grabbed my hand again as we watched a movie. And I know he loves me more than his real gf. I’m the side chick but I hate to do this to her bc she’s my friend but I love this guy and he loves me to…… I don’t know what to do

          • web admin

            web admin

            February 17, 2018 at 10:24 pm

            You are aware that he is in a relationship. She is your friend. There is no reason for you to continue to harm your friend. There is no reason for your to abuse this relationship. Take this time to determine what is an acceptable action and what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with your friend and him and your thoughts and feelings. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Riley!

    2. Someone 🥔

      February 5, 2018 at 12:41 pm

      There’s this one guy in my class (we’re in 7th grade) that I really like. I’m not sure if he likes me or not, so I’m just going to say a few things he did. 1: once we were talking in the hallway in school, and when we walked out of school he was like “goodbye crush” and then cupped his hand over his mouth in this shocked way and ran away. 2: At lunch he sits in front of me, and sometimes out legs intermingle and none of us move them. 3: (this one really confused me and made me sad) our gym teacher was picking teams for basketball and when he got picked to be on my team, he started crying. 4: he talks to me a lot and whenever he does he always looks into my eyes. 5: everyone in our class ships us and says we should date, and whenever someone says that I’m his girlfriend he laughs and doesn’t say no. That’s all I have to say, but I’m still confused about whether he likes me. I was sure he did up until that gym incident happened, and that made me feel like he hates me instead.

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 6, 2018 at 11:05 pm

        It is certainly likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may have brought up a previous event for a variety of reasons. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Someone!

      • sydenie

        February 14, 2018 at 2:49 pm

        NONONO he was sad because he really likes you and was emberassed to be with you and he probably just wanted you to know he loves you so much hes crying or maybe he didnt get to be on a team with friends…..ITS OKAY HONEY…

        • web admin

          web admin

          February 15, 2018 at 8:45 pm

          Thank you for sharing your positive and supportive comment. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Sydenie!

          • Riley

            February 17, 2018 at 4:14 pm

            So I have a bf and we wernt dating when he did this but in math he asked if he could sit next to me in science and I said of course bc I liked him and he knew it. But in science he started taping my hand which was hanging off the table. Then he started rubing it and then he held it I went bright red so hexcited discuss this until lunch and u felt all mushy inside bc I have even wanting to hold his hand. So when we went to lunch his GIRLFRIEND was there and I was the sidechick which I didn’t mind and he looked at me the whole time and I was still red. But anyway we went back upstairs and sat down then he starred rubing my leg a tiny bit above the knee and held it there for like 3 min then squeezed my knee and then grabbed my hand and held it the rest of the day… I don’t know what to do about the whole situation with his girlfriend. I want to tell her but if I do I know my bf wI’ll break up with me

            • web admin

              web admin

              February 17, 2018 at 10:24 pm

              You are aware that he is in a relationship. She is your friend. There is no reason for you to continue to harm your friend. There is no reason for your to abuse this relationship. Take this time to determine what is an acceptable action and what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with your friend and him and your thoughts and feelings. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Riley!

    3. lina

      February 5, 2018 at 11:57 am

      so its this guy we recently juat started talking on ig he teases me alot by calling me names but recently he hasnt been talking to me as much like we used to i annoyed him to a leval where he slapped me 4 times on diffrent days and diffrent time what does it mean

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 6, 2018 at 11:04 pm

        It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If his words or actions are abusive, then do not attempt to nourish a relationship with him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lina!

    4. Star

      January 26, 2018 at 4:49 am

      So this guy in my class..he always sometimes teases me and for some reason I think he was hitting me? So this was the conversation

      Him://hitting me with a pencil//
      Me:Hey!!im not a drumset!
      Him:you would make a good drumset.
      I don’t understand what this means….Afterwards he grabbed my arm and pulled me close to him asking me if I could help him.Then he said never mind like three seconds later…did he just wanna get close to me?

      I like him I just wanna know is he interested in me?

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 26, 2018 at 9:05 pm

        His actions may be signs that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Star!

      • Sabrina

        January 30, 2018 at 10:16 am

        My boy best friend and I have had a crush on each other since third grade. One night his past summer we were just sitting by the fire and he touched just touched the bottom of my leg and worked his way up and got close to my tigh and when I looked at him he just smiled and when my family was coming he simply removed his hand from my thigh

        • web admin

          web admin

          January 30, 2018 at 9:43 pm

          He is attracted to you. He likely is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Sabrina!

      • ANDY

        February 5, 2018 at 11:12 pm

        There is no doubt about this. He likes you!!! I did this when I was in grade school. It’s a way a guy can start interaction with you. A start of a relationship he can build on if you give him the right response. I still do this sometimes in a way by teasing women in a flirty way. GO FOR IT IF YOU DO LIKE HIM!

        • web admin

          web admin

          February 6, 2018 at 11:06 pm

          Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Andy!

    5. Trudy Wood

      January 26, 2018 at 4:30 am

      A father always rubbing a son of 12 leg and holding his foot might mean what?

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 26, 2018 at 9:03 pm

        There may be a variety of reasons for these actions. If you believe that these actions are inappropriate, then take this time to determine what you think you should do. If you have any reason to believe that there is cause for concern, then speak directly and honestly with whoever you feel comfortable speaking with. Have a great day, Trudy!

    6. Emily

      January 21, 2018 at 2:40 pm

      There is this guy that I like. I have the feeling that he knows and I think he is teasing me. I am not shy and I don’t have a problem with confessing my feelings for him but every person I,ve told that adviced me not to tell him. I decided not to rush things and see what will happen but lately he does thing like touching me more often. He also asks me if I can give him massages and I am not sure if that means something or not. I don’t think he likes me, but he keeps getting my hopes up. I want to know if he might’ve something for me or if he is thinking of me as a really close friend.

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 21, 2018 at 10:08 pm

        It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Emily!

    7. Tae

      January 19, 2018 at 7:37 pm

      I liked this guy for 3 years and Everytime I enter a class he’s in he walks out and we sometimes make eye contact with each other for 4 or 5 sec and when we walk past each other he sometimes looks at me from the corner of his eye when he sees me it’s like he avoids or pretends I’m not there I guess he’s tried starting a conversation with me but I was too shy and that didn’t work out, when I’m close to him he walks away and when he hears me talking he kinda Stops and listen I think he does this because he knows I’m shy and he probably got surprised that I talked and maybe that’s why he would listen when I talked.Also his friend liked me and asked me out but I said no but I don’t know if he knows about it.He walks away when hes really close to me i think I make him uncomfortable does he do this? Does he hate me? Do I make him uncomfortable? I hope not because I really like him.

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 19, 2018 at 10:03 pm

        If he is unwilling to speak with you, then he is not interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Tae!

    8. Tae

      January 19, 2018 at 6:53 pm

      I liked this guy for 3 years and Everytime I would enter a classroom he was in it was like he was uncomfortable because he would walk out and Everytime we walked past each other he would pretend not to see me sometimes we would make eye contact for 4 or 5 sec. He’s tried to talk to me but IG I was to shy. Everytime I talked he would listen and I think it’s because he knows I’m shy and was surprised I talked and maybe that’s why he would listen.His friend liked me and asked me out one time but I said no i don’t know if he know that. Everytime I was close to him he would walk out or walk away. Does he hate me?Do I make him uncomfortable? I hope not because I really do like him.

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 19, 2018 at 10:02 pm

        If he is unwilling to speak with you, then he is not interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Tae!

      • Farha

        January 26, 2018 at 4:39 am

        It was nothing like that he hate you…… He was just trying to make you comfortable that’s why he was going far from you every time… So forgot your shyness and try to make friends with each other behave like you always do not special when he was there….. And go tell him that you like him if directly then it will be better but if you can’t then from another way like through friends….. Or a card a message….. Like something and believe in god.. The god will help you…

        • web admin

          web admin

          January 26, 2018 at 9:04 pm

          Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. You are right. It is always best to speak directly and honestly with the people who are in your life. It is always best to acknowledge that our decisions and actions are what impact our lives and the lives of others. Have a great day, Farha!

    9. Anna

      January 18, 2018 at 1:00 pm

      I became friends with a guy and one time I saw him in the hallway he hugged me and picked me up and Everytime we see each other in the hallway he always interlocks his fingers with me for 4 sec and says hi.I don’t know what this means is it just him being friendly or why is he doing this.

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 19, 2018 at 12:32 pm

        It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anna!

    10. Kenna

      January 15, 2018 at 12:25 am

      So I like this guy and he’s my brothers friend. He came over to sleep over, and I slept in there too. Before we went to bed he was touching my knee a lot, then my thigh and rubbing my thigh. His hand was partially in the hole of my pants, I had ripped jeans on with big holes. Then he was laying in the ground and I was too and he fell asleep and I moved kinda by him and he woke up and starting rubbing my back. He continued to do it the whole night. He also grabbed my waist every once in a while between back rubs. This is the first time he’s touched me. I like him a lot.

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 15, 2018 at 8:44 pm

        These are signs that he is strongly attracted to you. He likely wants to develop a physical relationship with you. He may want to establish an emotional relationship with you as well. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Determine if you believe that his actions are acceptable. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Kenna!

    11. Emi

      January 13, 2018 at 3:26 pm

      So. There is this guy I really like. The other day we went iceskating with another guy and two other girls (so it wasn’t a date, just a hangout). I don’t ice skate very often haha so I was just trying not to fall on my face the whole time. I only fell twice (and it was his fault both times). The first time he was trying to scare people, and he snuck up behind me and jumpstarted me and I just totally biffed it. But he helped me up and made sure I was okay. Then later one of my friends was holding my hand to help me go faster, and he came and grabbed my other hand. And then he started giving me tips on how to skate. He was trying to tell me something and I looked over my shoulder at him, but then I ran into someone in front of me and took down everyone within a ten foot circle, including him. Again he helped me up. Also at some point he came up behind me and put his hands on my waist and just left them there for a couple seconds and I was really confused. I don’t know if he likes me back. Probably not. But he’s the perfect gentleman and always opens doors and pays for food. And we make each other laugh and he always helps me with stuff. Here’s a list of some other things that make me think he could potentially like me back:
      – Always makes eye contact across the room with me
      – One time he s told me I looked good
      – He calls me Emi, most people use my full name
      – He kind of tried to hold my hand during carpool karaoke? He was clearly aiming for my hand but another girl thought he was trying to grab hers and awkwardness ensued.
      – One time he took his shirt off while I was there? I don’t even know
      Do you think he could potentially like me back??? If he did I would melt into a puddle of happiness.

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 13, 2018 at 5:49 pm

        It is certainly possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. His actions are signs that he is interested in you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Emi!

    12. Nonamegal

      January 8, 2018 at 6:02 pm

      Ok at my school there is this boy and we have baskets under our seats.so the bio is sitting in front of me and I’m sitting in the back he looks around then he puts his hand on the side of him and touches my leg from my ankle to my knee but in the back. I do like him but I’m not sure if he likes me but of course I moved my legs from his basket and he tells me to put my leg back open his basket so he can touch it again. When he is doing his work i slowly put my legs back on his basket and he dose it again

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 8, 2018 at 10:33 pm

        If he is touching you, then it is likely that he wants to develop a relationship with you. Since you do not like him, you will find benefit in speaking directly and honestly with him. If he does not listen to you, then speak with your teacher about moving your seat. Have a great day, Nonamegal!

    13. The Ace Up Your Sleeve

      January 1, 2018 at 10:06 pm

      Okay, I have been in a relationship with someone for nearly nine months and most of our “dates” are just hanging out indoors since we live in a really rural area of the Oregon Coast. It’s highly unusual to go much longer than a couple weeks without a complete downpour. I’m asexual and no, I have never been molested, I just don’t feel sexually attracted to anyone. My partner knew this when we were mere aquaintances. Anyway, whenever we hang out we cuddle and all that sappy, romance crap because they’re a reptile of a human being and I produce the heat of ten thousand sun’s. It’s a fairly regular occurrence for them to put their hand between my thighs, not like feeling me up through my pants but closer to crotch than knee. I’m not complaining, it actually soothes me a bit. But, I don’t know why they do it. I’m not sure if it’s to show me they’re open to intercourse or if it’s just due to the fact that thighs put out body heat at a higher temperature than other parts of the body. I’m afraid asking them would make them feel bad and stop. I don’t want to hurt their feelings. I’m just curious.

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 2, 2018 at 5:55 pm

        It is likely that this person wants to develop a physical relationship with you. If their hand is close to your crotch, then it is not likely because they want their hand to be warm. Take this time determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If your partner wants a sexual relationship and you don’t, then it is time to speak directly and honestly with your partner about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Ace!

    14. Kiki

      December 19, 2017 at 7:03 pm

      So there’s this guy I had class with and he started talking to me towards the end of the tri and I’ll give a couple examples if he’s flirting some might be obvious but I’m not sure if I should go for it. 1: Some friends and I left class to go to the vending machine and I had stopped with the one friend to talk to a teacher and the guy I like was like come on leave him and come with us so I left and caught up with them and we talked a little bit and got our stuff (the other kid we left had caught up) and we were walking back (3 of us) and our other friend is in front of us and he turns around and looks at us and he’s like omg are you guys holding hands, are you guys dating and we laugh but he says not yet and smiles at me. I was shocked and just smiled at him and I stopped to go say hi to a friend before going back to class and asked if he wanted to come and he did so he came and then we went back to class after attempting to say hi. 2: he would sit with his thigh touching my leg when we’d sit down in class and he’d wanna show me videos and we’d talk about them and he’d ask me questions sometimes. 3: in the mornings when I come in, he always says hi to me if he sees me and one morning he was talking to another girl and he told her she looked good and I said thanks cause normally I say hi but he didn’t mean to say it to me but told me I looked good too but then every time he saw me the next mornings he would yell hey (my name) and say I looked good or if he was closer to me there’s times where he’d say I look good and would smile at me 4: now when he says hi to me if he’s close enough, he always squeezes my arm/shoulder and kinda like makes it known that it was him saying hi and whenever we’re all talking in a group he’s either right next to me or facing/somewhat facing me. As well as when he talks to me sometimes he’ll stare at my eyes for so long he’ll see my contacts and comment on it.

      • web admin

        web admin

        December 20, 2017 at 9:08 pm

        It is possible that this person is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kiki!

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