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    What Does it Mean When a Guy Touches You?

    By on December 28, 2016

    Touching is the sense we possess that’s almost the most crucial out of them all. How someone feels to you, how you feel to them and the way you touch each other gives away everything about the relationship between you. At times it can be difficult to differentiate the meanings of the various types of touches there are. So how do you know what it means when a guy touches you?  We’ve got the answer! To better understand those touches and what they signify, just read this list and then you’ll know everything you need to:

    Your face

    How many people have you let touch your face in your lifetime? Usually the answer is not very many at all. That’s because our faces are one of the most untouched areas of our bodies. They are a deeply personal thing to lay your hands on and fairly fragile. If someone you aren’t comfortable reaches for your face, you’ll most likely pull away. When someone touches your face they are showing true care for you, as they have to be delicate when doing so. A lot of times you’ll find a guy pulling a hair off your face or stroking your cheek. Either of these and more can indicate a desire to care for you and a desire to connect on a deeper level.

    Your hair

    The stroking of or playing with of your hair are the ultimate signs that he is showing more romantic feelings for you. Playing with your hair is a way of flirting with you. Stroking your hair is a sign of protectiveness. It expresses he wants to be closer to you.  It’s a more tender touch that is used by men and commonly means that he has started thinking of you as more than just his friend.  

    Your lower back

    The small of your back isn’t somewhere a random stranger would touch. It’s definitely a more private area and when a guy touches you there is means he feels intimate with you. He is showing you he is attracted to you and will usually pull you closer in the process. Keep in mind touching the lower back and touching the upper back could have two extremely different meanings.

    Your waist

    Not just anyone can grab your waist, right? When a stranger touches your waist, you’ll most likely recoil with discomfort. It’s a very personal area and, as women, we keep it fairly guarded most of the time. When someone touches your waist it means they feel a grand sense of familiarity with you. To let them means you also feel that familiarity. When they make this touch it means they are not shy with you or with touching personal areas of your body. A guy grabbing your waist can also signify he wants to protect you and show you guidance. I.e: He puts his hands around your waist when you’re walking or when you’re dancing. Waist grabbing can also mean he is feeling aroused and wants to be more connected with you on a sexual level.

    Your thigh

    Thigh touching is usually a very sexually charged touched that guys do.The thigh is close to one of your most intimate areas. When he does this he is usually testing his limit of closeness with you and seeing if he can push the limit. When he uses this gesture it can also mean he is asking to be intimate with you.

    Your leg

    Touching someone’s leg is not always a sign of romance. It can be straightly platonic. Friends often use this touch with each other to show sympathy or comfort. This isn’t always the case, but it’s something to keep in mind when he touches your leg. Leg touching can indicate something more. It all depends on the way he is placing his hands on your leg. Patting it is a definite sign he’s just showing support, however, if you find him rubbing your leg it means something entirely different. Rubbing of the legs or even slight grabbing can mean he finds a carnal attraction to you.

    Your chin

    This is a very easily explained gesture. Chin touching is mostly done in two different ways. One: A slight tap to the chin is probably going to be  him just trying to cheer you up. It could even mean he is trying to appear cute and attractive to you. Two: If he holds your chin or cups it with his hands then he is trying to look deeply into your eyes. It can also signify that he wants to pull you in for a kiss. No matter how he touches your chin it’s normally a way that he is showing a deep liking for you. It’s obvious he has more intense feelings for you if he feels comfortable touching you there at all.

    Your shoulder

    More than likely when he touches your shoulder it does not mean anything romantic. A shoulder squeeze or patting of the shoulders could merely signify that he is showing his support for you in an endeavor or accomplishment. This is often done by family, teachers or someone just familiar with you. However, if you suddenly find him moving on from squeezing and patting your shoulders to giving you lengthy shoulder massages it is a definitely a clear sign that he is really into you.

    Your arm

    What an arm touch symbolizes greatly depends on the type of touch given. If a guy grabs your arm in a forceful manner it can mean he is using force to take you somewhere, requesting you not move or he could be guiding you somewhere. Which it is depends on how he is moving you after he grips your arm and the atmosphere of the situation. The other type of touch generally used on arms by men is a slow, rubbing motion. If he rubs your arms or traces with his fingers he is showing affection towards you. It could also be a sign he is trying to seduce you.

    Your knee

    A more than interpersonal touch is when a guy touches your knee.. Knee touches are usually one the first motions made when starting to flirt with someone. They are less invasive than touching the waist or face, but more personal than touching any other part of your leg or even your arm. If you find that when he touched you it was more of a pat or subtle squeeze, it could be a very plain and simple sign of only slight affection. Usually this touch will be brief, no matter how it is done, but it creates an atmosphere of closeness between the two of you.

    146 Comments

    1. Astrid

      May 20, 2018 at 5:18 am

      At school the other day my class was watching a movie. A very close friend of mine sits behind me everyday and everyday I turn around and we have great conversations. This day I had my arm up on his desk during the movie and he started playing with my fingers. Eventually he laid his head on his arms and started holding my hand, his face was very close to mine. He kept stroking his thumb over mine,played with my hair some, and when the movie was over he sat beside me and grabbed my inner thigh.

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 21, 2018 at 10:05 pm

        The two of you share a strong social and emotional connection. His behaviors are indications that he is interested in developing a romantic relationship with you. His placement of his hand on your inner thigh is a sign that he is physically attracted to you. Determine what you want for your future, and decide if his actions were appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Astrid!

    2. Roxy Isabella

      May 8, 2018 at 1:51 am

      I have a guy friend(coworker too) and we’ve been friends for 3 years now. First 2 years I knew him he would rub my head occasionally, sits really close to me his knee and my knee together. Recently we’ve been texting and I told him to cheer up because he was sad. He replied me with “love you, xoxo. I’m so glad to have you in my life”. Then I said “love you too” because I didn’t know what to reply. It was his 2nd time saying love you in a couples months apart

      He asked me out for dinner yesterday and he drove me from work. We started talking and I was upset that day because of my issues, he started to rub my wrist for 5 seconds telling me to not be sad because he’ll be sad too. I’ll be moving to another city and he kept telling me that he’s going to miss me a lot.

      After dinner as he drove me back home, he rubbed my hand this time closer to my palm for 10 seconds. I didn’t know how to react my heartbeat went up so fast. He then took his hand off.

      After he drops me off he said, “here give me a high 5”. I was so confused!!! I then texted him and asked “you said you’re going to miss me a lot but you never explained why?” He said “because you are my best friend”

      Help please.. I do not understand what his thoughts are.

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 8, 2018 at 10:21 pm

        He feels a strong social and emotional connection with you. The two of you have a long history. He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. He may be uncertain about your feelings toward him. Determine what you want for your future. Continue to share your thoughts and feelings with him. Your relationship will strengthen as you spend additional time with him. Have a great day, Roxy!

    3. Roxie Chung

      May 6, 2018 at 4:44 pm

      My bf best friend touched my knee more than once after we gave him his birthday present. He is such a nice guy. But he has mention a couple of time how he envy our relationship? What should I do

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 7, 2018 at 10:23 pm

        He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. You are in a relationship at this time. Do not attempt to develop a relationship with him. You may want to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he continues to flirt with you, then you may want to speak with your partner about your thoughts. Have a great day, Roxie!

    4. Shefali

      May 3, 2018 at 11:55 am

      Today my friend for the first time touched my knees and then he squeezed them next he started to move hi hands to my thighs and then he touched my calf. What does it mean?? Is he interested in a relationship???

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 3, 2018 at 2:48 pm

        He is interested in developing a physical relationship with you. He likely feels comfortable with you. He may feel an emotional connection with you. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what is appropriate for this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Shefali!

        • Shefali

          May 4, 2018 at 12:09 pm

          Thanks!! But should I ask him directly about if he wants a relationship???

          • web admin

            web admin

            May 4, 2018 at 8:51 pm

            It is always beneficial to be direct about your thoughts and feelings. Determine what the most appropriate course of action is available to you. You may find benefit in spending additional time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Ensure that he shares himself with you as well. Have a great day, Shefali!

    5. Awkward middle schooler

      April 27, 2018 at 6:04 pm

      Today I had a school dance in in 7th grade. There is this boy I really like, we are friends and hang out a lot. I write him a note telling him that I like him, he was surprised. At the dance everyone kept pushing for us to dance together. He nervously asked me to dance. I said yes. We danced to perfect by ed Sheehan. He lowered his hands to my waist. He is super nice. Everyone was crowding around us and taking pictures. But I still want to know if he likes me.

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 28, 2018 at 2:46 pm

        He is interested in developing a relationship with you. Your friend are also supportive of this relationship. This may be a sign that the people in your life are aware of your mutual feelings. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. You may find benefit in spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Awkward!

    6. confused girl w/ emotions

      April 26, 2018 at 8:13 pm

      There’s this guy that I like a lot. I THINK we flirt a lot but idk of he likes me. Today we were watching a movie in class, and he was playing with my hair a lot. Also, while watching the movie, he kept getting closer to me by rubbing our arms and legs together sort of but sitting down. He gripped onto my knee also but idk what that means. Also, he stared at me but when I barely noticed him, I started looking at him too and we just started staring into each other’s eyes. Then, when I looked away, he started smiling then looked at the screen. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN WHAT DO I DO

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 26, 2018 at 10:44 pm

        He is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may want to develop a physical relationship with you. He is certainly attracted to you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide what actions are appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Confused!

    7. Haneen

      April 15, 2018 at 1:52 pm

      Me and my best guy friend have known each other for a year now , i have feelings for him , we’re super close but i can’t understand whether he’s just being friendly or is actually flirting , like every te he invites me to his place we end up cuddling on the sofa , and whoever we go to the movie theater he would keep his hand on my thigh during the whole movie .
      He shows that he cares about me but i don’t get why he wouldn’t actually make the move unless he has friendzoned me 🙁
      Are besties supposed to be as touchy feely as this ? Is this platonic or would you say that it’s flirting? If it’s flirting why isn’t any kissing happening then x’D ?

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 15, 2018 at 11:24 pm

        He is interested in developing a relationship with you. He feels an emotional connection with you. He likely wants to nourish a physical relationship with you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Haneen!

    8. Nahkh

      April 14, 2018 at 9:22 pm

      So there’s this classmate that I’m attracted to. Because we belong in the same art class, he would sometimes come sit in my table and draw together. Whenever I’m about to paint, he would always help me bring out my canvas each time although i could handle it myself. There are moments though where he would poke my elbow with his index finger when I’m resting on the table, almost to see my reaction or what (?) I don’t understand haha. He would always initiate and start a conversation with me first but he never does it when we chat online. Once, he even ask me if I could be his dance partner. We have so many common interest! But out conversations never goes beyond the topic about school and arts.. Is he just being nice? Am i thinking too much?

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 14, 2018 at 10:05 pm

        It is certainly possible that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. He certainly feels a social and emotional connection with you. Determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Nahkh!

    9. Mia

      April 13, 2018 at 7:14 pm

      K so last year this boy ~i have a crush on him~ will touch my legs and my thigh during class bcz we sit next to each other.He will touch my legs and thighs under the table.It wotend really be a quick touche, it will more be like a long tuck bcz he will leave his hand right there and like squeeze my leg. Once i noticed i will look at him and he will just smile at me then i will quickly get his hand and try to take it of my legs but i really couldn’t hes like stronger then me of course 😂theen u will tell him to stop and i will like kind of move away form him. But don’t get me wrong i did like it when he will do it but like there is ppl in the class and they could probably see idk😂But are desk is like cover in the back of us there a wall so theres only a 10% change they could see but still.I guess uts just weird for me and embarrassing.K so any who he will do it a couple of times he once hugged me,he calls me cutie,he will like throw kisses at me ,winks at me , he will ask about me,and idk we will just have good time together.But thats all last year this year we dont really talk as much as we did.He sits like across the room he will stare at me ALOT still calls me cutie,every chance he gets he talks to me and touches me.Today he said
      Him: “ill ur hair is oily
      Me:Do u really think i care?
      Him: Am just kidding i still love you from last year!

      And ya am sorry for the long story. 😭💖But could u plz help me?😄I just dont know what to do i have had other crushes on other boys but they whent away quick but not him i have been liking him for 1year and a half.I dream about him,am always thinking of him.Ahhhhhhhh plz help me💖

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 13, 2018 at 10:22 pm

        He is attracted to you. He may feel a strong emotional and social connection with you. He is comfortable with you. Determine what you want for the future of your relationship. Decide what is appropriate and viable. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Mia!

        • Mia

          April 14, 2018 at 1:16 pm

          Oh thx!!!
          Oh but he like also kind of flurts with other girls.He has whent out with other girl,and ya.So i really dont know.😭💖

          • web admin

            web admin

            April 14, 2018 at 8:40 pm

            Determine what you want for your future. Decide what is appropriate and viable. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you can not trust him, then do not attempt to develop a relationship with him. Have a great day, Mia!

            • mia

              April 15, 2018 at 2:02 pm

              k thx for your great advice!!!!!💖

              • web admin

                web admin

                April 15, 2018 at 10:17 pm

                Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Mia!

    10. Brittany

      April 12, 2018 at 8:09 pm

      So there’s this guy who asked me out , we went to the movies and he kept touching my thigh . I kept removing my hands but he kept putting them back . I later told him I didn’t like that and he was moving too fast and he said I’ll learn to like it and life’s too short . He later asked me was I seven for stating how uncomfortable I was . I’ve only known h for a short while and this is my first time ha gong out with him period .

      • Brittany

        April 12, 2018 at 8:10 pm

        Removing his hands **

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 13, 2018 at 10:15 pm

          He has decided that he does not want to respect your wishes. You shared your thoughts and feelings with him and he ignored you. Do not attempt to maintain a relationship with this person. He may continue to not listen to what you have to say. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Brittany!

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 13, 2018 at 10:14 pm

        He has decided that he does not want to respect your wishes. You shared your thoughts and feelings with him and he ignored you. Do not attempt to maintain a relationship with this person. He may continue to not listen to what you have to say. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Brittany!

    11. Daisy

      April 11, 2018 at 5:13 pm

      I’m a sophomore and there is this guy who would get very close to me when we sit next to each other in different classes.He would always stare at my butt and find different ways to touch it.A few times he would just touch my butt at always put his hand on my thigh and says weird stuff like “I can help you put your bra on” or “if you tell me I’ll kiss you”. he always tried to touch my chest. He always tries to do it in a sneaky way and tries to act friendly.I don’t know what to do. What do these signs mean? Is he really into me?

      P.s sorry if its long
      -Daisy

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 11, 2018 at 10:15 pm

        He is physically attracted to you. He likely feels an emotional connection with you. Determine what you want for the future of your relationship. Decide what actions you feel are acceptable. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Daisy!

        • Daisy

          April 12, 2018 at 4:06 pm

          Thank you so much for your answer and okay I will do so 💖😘

          • web admin

            web admin

            April 12, 2018 at 11:17 pm

            Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Have a great day, Daisy!

    12. Kate

      April 9, 2018 at 4:41 am

      So I have this friend….a very close friend…..and everytime we’re alone together, he usually punch my butt (it hurts) then there was this one time I slapped our friend’s butt (which is a girl) and blamed it on him….he told us that he didn’t have the guts to do that to her, and n there was also this one time ….we were standing together (we were very close at that time) then he suddenly grabbed my waist and pulled me closer to him n he then removed it seconds later….ohhh and also he always (emphasis the ‘always’) hit me so hard and get the chance to hold my hand (tight, to the point it hurts) whenever we walk with our friends then I tried observing him and I noticed that he doesn’t do that to our friends that are girls …….what does these signs means and what should I do about it? (sorry it was kinda…..super long)

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 9, 2018 at 9:00 pm

        He is interested in developing a relationship with you. It is clear that he is attracted to you and feels comfortable to you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If you want him to not hit you or hit you as hard, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. You may want to spend additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Kate!

        • Kate

          April 11, 2018 at 7:27 am

          Ohhh okay thankss though :)))

          • web admin

            web admin

            April 11, 2018 at 9:18 pm

            Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Kate!

    13. Muskaan

      March 31, 2018 at 1:13 am

      There is a guy(20 yr) in my class on whom I have a crush. BT he make it clear that he is not intreasted in me in front of my friends.Last night when we were watching movie he start touching my this pating it putting his head on my shoulder and try to grab my boobs.I don’t know what did he want n why he is doing this…

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 31, 2018 at 12:51 pm

        His behaviors are signs of his confusion and uncertainty. He has shown you that he is interested in developing a physical relationship with you. His rejection of you in public may be a sign that he is not interested in nourishing an emotional relationship with you. He may have been shy or unwilling to share his thoughts in public. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Decide if you believe that his actions are appropriate. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Miskaan!

    14. yvonne

      March 30, 2018 at 9:17 am

      it’s an online date and we met for the second time. throughout the conversation, he did brush his hands off my arm and there was once when he placed both hands on my shoulder from behind for a while. what does it mean?

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 31, 2018 at 12:34 pm

        It is possible that his actions are signs of his physical attraction. He may be developing an emotional connection with you as well. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Yvonne!

    15. Rossellini

      March 27, 2018 at 9:36 am

      Okay so I met this guy online, I’m 19 years old and he’s 25. We went to the park, this was the first time we’d met, he was being very flirtatious, he kept telling me to look at him because I wasn’t really giving him eye contact because I was uncomfortable at first he even suggested that we look into each others eyes for 2 minutes he actualy put a timmer on his phone but I just laughed and said that was dumb. He kept touching me and telling me to move closer to him whilst we were sat on the benches, he even picked me up like three times, eventually I was more comfortable around him but I was still a bit shy kind of.
      I thought we were having a great time, at some point I even made fun of him for not having a beard, he told me he does and told me to touch it and I just continued laughing, and a multiple of times he told me to sit on his lap facing him I’d just laugh it off and say no.
      He was also checking his phone a lot, and when we were walking he was always a couple of steps ahead of me…. I am very small so I take smaller steps but I don’t know if that’s the case, he did ask if he was walking too fast though.
      When I was leaving to go home he told me to message him when I arrive at home, so I did and he replied good to hear that…. And we basically haven’t spoken since and I just don’t know how to feel about all this

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 27, 2018 at 9:44 pm

        It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may be uncertain about your feelings toward him. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Rossellini!

    16. Leah

      March 23, 2018 at 5:02 pm

      Ok so my boyfriend during one of our classes at school was touching my thigh and rubbing it and I gave him the “what are you doing” look and he looked at me like “you know you like it”, he was rubbing my leg and thigh the whole class. Don’t get me wrong I liked it, but what does he mean when he did it?

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 23, 2018 at 10:22 pm

        He is interested in developing a physical relationship with you. Determine if you think his actions are appropriate. Decide what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Leah!

        • Leah

          March 24, 2018 at 8:12 am

          Thanks for the help

          • web admin

            web admin

            March 24, 2018 at 12:10 pm

            No problem! Good luck!

    17. Nardine

      March 18, 2018 at 4:54 am

      So I am a 22 year old and there is this professor is 26 and I am really attracted to him. Technically, he isnt my professor but I do attend his lectures because I need them for extra curriculum activity. So once we were talking during break and he was about to pat me on the back but he stopped himself immediately. Today we were supposed to write our feedback on him and his lectures and this is completely anonymous. Yet, he walked by and pretended to be looking (that was a joke) then he laughed and patted me on the shoulder. I really like him and i am not sure if this is some sort of a sign. Besides i dont know if i can like tell him (he isnt my professor after all).

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 18, 2018 at 10:50 pm

        It is possible that he believes that you are a strong student. It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship. You are taking his class, so you are his student and he is your professor. Do not attempt to develop a relationship with him at this time. This will have negative impacts on his professional and social life. Have a great day, Nardine!

    18. Cathy

      March 12, 2018 at 3:39 pm

      I really like this guy who l met at work. At first it started out as 2 co-workers joking around and playing pranks,but now idk. When he goes to break he always has to sit by me and it feels like he has to touch me. I am not saying that is bad. I’ve been told that he’s gay, but with his signals that he’s putting off ldk. He asked me for my phone number but hasn’t text or call.i have noticed him staring at me and has even come out of his way to talk to me. When ever we do talk we are always looking into each others eyes. He tells me about his family and what he does on his spare time and what’s his hobbies. My question is does he like me or am l reading more into this?

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 12, 2018 at 6:38 pm

        Do not allow rumors to influence your actions. It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Cathy!

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