What Does it Mean When a Guy Touches You?

By on December 28, 2016

Touching is the sense we possess that’s almost the most crucial out of them all. How someone feels to you, how you feel to them and the way you touch each other gives away everything about the relationship between you. At times it can be difficult to differentiate the meanings of the various types of touches there are. So how do you know what it means when a guy touches you?  We’ve got the answer! To better understand those touches and what they signify, just read this list and then you’ll know everything you need to:

Your face

How many people have you let touch your face in your lifetime? Usually the answer is not very many at all. That’s because our faces are one of the most untouched areas of our bodies. They are a deeply personal thing to lay your hands on and fairly fragile. If someone you aren’t comfortable reaches for your face, you’ll most likely pull away. When someone touches your face they are showing true care for you, as they have to be delicate when doing so. A lot of times you’ll find a guy pulling a hair off your face or stroking your cheek. Either of these and more can indicate a desire to care for you and a desire to connect on a deeper level.

Your hair

The stroking of or playing with of your hair are the ultimate signs that he is showing more romantic feelings for you. Playing with your hair is a way of flirting with you. Stroking your hair is a sign of protectiveness. It expresses he wants to be closer to you.  It’s a more tender touch that is used by men and commonly means that he has started thinking of you as more than just his friend.  

Your lower back

The small of your back isn’t somewhere a random stranger would touch. It’s definitely a more private area and when a guy touches you there is means he feels intimate with you. He is showing you he is attracted to you and will usually pull you closer in the process. Keep in mind touching the lower back and touching the upper back could have two extremely different meanings.

Your waist

Not just anyone can grab your waist, right? When a stranger touches your waist, you’ll most likely recoil with discomfort. It’s a very personal area and, as women, we keep it fairly guarded most of the time. When someone touches your waist it means they feel a grand sense of familiarity with you. To let them means you also feel that familiarity. When they make this touch it means they are not shy with you or with touching personal areas of your body. A guy grabbing your waist can also signify he wants to protect you and show you guidance. I.e: He puts his hands around your waist when you’re walking or when you’re dancing. Waist grabbing can also mean he is feeling aroused and wants to be more connected with you on a sexual level.

Your thigh

Thigh touching is usually a very sexually charged touched that guys do.The thigh is close to one of your most intimate areas. When he does this he is usually testing his limit of closeness with you and seeing if he can push the limit. When he uses this gesture it can also mean he is asking to be intimate with you.

Your leg

Touching someone’s leg is not always a sign of romance. It can be straightly platonic. Friends often use this touch with each other to show sympathy or comfort. This isn’t always the case, but it’s something to keep in mind when he touches your leg. Leg touching can indicate something more. It all depends on the way he is placing his hands on your leg. Patting it is a definite sign he’s just showing support, however, if you find him rubbing your leg it means something entirely different. Rubbing of the legs or even slight grabbing can mean he finds a carnal attraction to you.

Your chin

This is a very easily explained gesture. Chin touching is mostly done in two different ways. One: A slight tap to the chin is probably going to be  him just trying to cheer you up. It could even mean he is trying to appear cute and attractive to you. Two: If he holds your chin or cups it with his hands then he is trying to look deeply into your eyes. It can also signify that he wants to pull you in for a kiss. No matter how he touches your chin it’s normally a way that he is showing a deep liking for you. It’s obvious he has more intense feelings for you if he feels comfortable touching you there at all.

Your shoulder

More than likely when he touches your shoulder it does not mean anything romantic. A shoulder squeeze or patting of the shoulders could merely signify that he is showing his support for you in an endeavor or accomplishment. This is often done by family, teachers or someone just familiar with you. However, if you suddenly find him moving on from squeezing and patting your shoulders to giving you lengthy shoulder massages it is a definitely a clear sign that he is really into you.

Your arm

What an arm touch symbolizes greatly depends on the type of touch given. If a guy grabs your arm in a forceful manner it can mean he is using force to take you somewhere, requesting you not move or he could be guiding you somewhere. Which it is depends on how he is moving you after he grips your arm and the atmosphere of the situation. The other type of touch generally used on arms by men is a slow, rubbing motion. If he rubs your arms or traces with his fingers he is showing affection towards you. It could also be a sign he is trying to seduce you.

Your knee

A more than interpersonal touch is when a guy touches your knee.. Knee touches are usually one the first motions made when starting to flirt with someone. They are less invasive than touching the waist or face, but more personal than touching any other part of your leg or even your arm. If you find that when he touched you it was more of a pat or subtle squeeze, it could be a very plain and simple sign of only slight affection. Usually this touch will be brief, no matter how it is done, but it creates an atmosphere of closeness between the two of you.


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    April 13, 2019 at 2:41 pm

    So this guy is my cousin, and v have some 7-8 years difference, v know each other since schooling n our relationship was always like general ( the grownup teasing younger one like normal elder brother n younger sister kind, but yeah v don’t will b bro n sis bu relation) then now am 21 n he’s 28-29 I guess, sometime back he used to tease me just like he always does but now he care for me saying I have become week, n always find a way to touch my face though I comeup with any other things to stop that, n just when the conversation is going fine he gently squeeze my leg which in a minute I just change the topic and make the moment go comical way, he try to hold my hand more than it needed when during a normal conversation,. He’s a gud man but yeah for me he’s just like an elder n I don’t have any other intentions so I don’t want to get hurt or hurt him too

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      April 14, 2019 at 2:38 pm

      His behaviors are indications of his physical desires. Take this time to determine if you believe that his behaviors are appropriate. If you do not want to maintain this type of relationship, and there may be many reasons for you to make that decision, then inform him of your thoughts and feelings. Ensure that he is always respectful to you. Have a great day, Gagana!

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    April 7, 2019 at 12:39 am

    This was helpful but i feel like I’m in a weird spot. My guy friend of a couple years and we have always had a unique relationship. He dated my roommate and we all met at the same time but they broke up when she cheated on him. He has now on several occasions come over to hang out and once we’re alone he starts inching closer and making comments about my hair and how pretty I am. He starts putting his arm around me, rubbing my inner thigh, and ends up with his head in my lap. This would all indicate his being into me if it wasn’t for the fact he will sporadically sprinkle in comments about his girlfriend. The closer her gets the more he talks about her and I now have no clue if he’s just being friend cuddly or if I need to watch out bc I’m not going to be the other woman.

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      April 8, 2019 at 10:01 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is attracted to you and wants to nourish a physical relationship with you. However, you are aware that he is in a relationship. Inform him that his actions are inappropriate. If his relationship naturally ends, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings regarding your relationship at that time. For now focus your emotional energy elsewhere. It is always beneficial to share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Anon!

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    April 2, 2019 at 8:04 pm

    I was only looking this up because I was confused. This guy that I like, which is an ok friend of mine, doesn’t really show signs of liking me, for example(being rude to me, teasing me, mostly in front of a lot of his friends)but occasionally does show signs. But one day on the bus, it was crowded and we were basically forced to sit next to each other. My leg was really close to his leg but while he was talking to his friend, he was rubbing my knee and my lower leg with his hand for a while and he knew exactly what he was doing. He also slapped the bottom part of my thigh and grabbed my calve twice out of playfulness, but I don’t know. He has done this before but not to this extreme I guess, so I don’t really know what to think.

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      April 3, 2019 at 12:09 am

      His behaviors are indications that he is attracted to you. He may be uncertain or confused about your feelings toward him. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Kenadi!

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    March 26, 2019 at 9:49 am

    Hey so there’s a guy I like and he touches my thigh lightly when he makes a point while we talk and sometimes he touches my face aur caress my hair. He once gave me a shoulder massage and sometimes when I’m sitting away from him he would ask me to sit next to him to give him a head massage. One time he came from behind and started playing with my tummy which made me uncomfortable and I told him not to do that. So what does this mean?

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      March 26, 2019 at 10:45 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. He is attracted to you and may be interested in spending additional time with you in person. You informed him of your feelings regarding him touching your stomach. If he treats you with respect and listening to you, then determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Andre!

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    March 20, 2019 at 9:24 pm

    Hey this was really helpful but this guy we were studying with a group of friends and we were sitting on the floor and he sat cross legged facing me while everyone was facing one side and we would continuously hit my knee to get my attention and always talk to me but i don’t know if he really likes me or hes just being friendly

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      March 20, 2019 at 11:08 pm

      His behaviors may be indications of his feelings for you. It is possible that he wanted to be friendly. Allow this interaction to help you make a decision about what you want for your future. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Anon!

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    anon :3

    March 12, 2019 at 10:36 pm

    during class this guy will always touch my leg/knee with his leg rubbing it. He’ll also place his leg on my leg/knee and sit it there.
    Touch my arm/elbow with his and leans towards me so our shoulders are touching and leans his head close to me when he talks. Then after acts like nothing happened.
    Also the last time I heard he liked another girl.

    • web admin

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      March 13, 2019 at 12:21 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is attracted to you. He may be interested in nourishing a relationship with you. It is possible that he is attracted to other people as well. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

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    February 7, 2019 at 11:00 pm

    This was helpful but im still confused though. Because this guy rub my arm and ear while kissing me, so what does he really means by that gesture?

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      February 8, 2019 at 9:26 pm

      His behaviors are indications of his attraction toward you. He may he interested in causing you to feel aroused. Determine what you want for the future to his relationship, and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you are not comfortable with a situation, then ensure that he is aware of your desires. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

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    Anonymous :)

    October 23, 2018 at 9:06 pm

    Hi! Okay so this post was really helpful but Im still unsure about this guy. Me and this guy hang out a lot, usually he makes the plans. And it’s usually just me and him. He likes to touch, poke and rub my thighs a lot, sometimes my arms too, squeezing them and stuff lol. He gives a lot of hugs and sometimes touches my waist playfully to make me walk faster or something else silly like that. He does other things, but I don’t know if hes just a really touchy friend or if he wants to be more than that. What do you think? Thanks!

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      October 23, 2018 at 9:11 pm

      His behaviors are indications of his attraction to you. His touching may be an attempt to share these feelings with you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide what you believe is appropriate. You may strengthen your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Ensure that you speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Anon!

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