What Does it Mean When a Guy Touches You?

By on December 28, 2016

Touching is the sense we possess that’s almost the most crucial out of them all. How someone feels to you, how you feel to them and the way you touch each other gives away everything about the relationship between you. At times it can be difficult to differentiate the meanings of the various types of touches there are. So how do you know what it means when a guy touches you?  We’ve got the answer! To better understand those touches and what they signify, just read this list and then you’ll know everything you need to:

Your face

How many people have you let touch your face in your lifetime? Usually the answer is not very many at all. That’s because our faces are one of the most untouched areas of our bodies. They are a deeply personal thing to lay your hands on and fairly fragile. If someone you aren’t comfortable reaches for your face, you’ll most likely pull away. When someone touches your face they are showing true care for you, as they have to be delicate when doing so. A lot of times you’ll find a guy pulling a hair off your face or stroking your cheek. Either of these and more can indicate a desire to care for you and a desire to connect on a deeper level.

Your hair

The stroking of or playing with of your hair are the ultimate signs that he is showing more romantic feelings for you. Playing with your hair is a way of flirting with you. Stroking your hair is a sign of protectiveness. It expresses he wants to be closer to you.  It’s a more tender touch that is used by men and commonly means that he has started thinking of you as more than just his friend.  

Your lower back

The small of your back isn’t somewhere a random stranger would touch. It’s definitely a more private area and when a guy touches you there is means he feels intimate with you. He is showing you he is attracted to you and will usually pull you closer in the process. Keep in mind touching the lower back and touching the upper back could have two extremely different meanings.

Your waist

Not just anyone can grab your waist, right? When a stranger touches your waist, you’ll most likely recoil with discomfort. It’s a very personal area and, as women, we keep it fairly guarded most of the time. When someone touches your waist it means they feel a grand sense of familiarity with you. To let them means you also feel that familiarity. When they make this touch it means they are not shy with you or with touching personal areas of your body. A guy grabbing your waist can also signify he wants to protect you and show you guidance. I.e: He puts his hands around your waist when you’re walking or when you’re dancing. Waist grabbing can also mean he is feeling aroused and wants to be more connected with you on a sexual level.

Your thigh

Thigh touching is usually a very sexually charged touched that guys do.The thigh is close to one of your most intimate areas. When he does this he is usually testing his limit of closeness with you and seeing if he can push the limit. When he uses this gesture it can also mean he is asking to be intimate with you.

Your leg

Touching someone’s leg is not always a sign of romance. It can be straightly platonic. Friends often use this touch with each other to show sympathy or comfort. This isn’t always the case, but it’s something to keep in mind when he touches your leg. Leg touching can indicate something more. It all depends on the way he is placing his hands on your leg. Patting it is a definite sign he’s just showing support, however, if you find him rubbing your leg it means something entirely different. Rubbing of the legs or even slight grabbing can mean he finds a carnal attraction to you.

Your chin

This is a very easily explained gesture. Chin touching is mostly done in two different ways. One: A slight tap to the chin is probably going to be  him just trying to cheer you up. It could even mean he is trying to appear cute and attractive to you. Two: If he holds your chin or cups it with his hands then he is trying to look deeply into your eyes. It can also signify that he wants to pull you in for a kiss. No matter how he touches your chin it’s normally a way that he is showing a deep liking for you. It’s obvious he has more intense feelings for you if he feels comfortable touching you there at all.

Your shoulder

More than likely when he touches your shoulder it does not mean anything romantic. A shoulder squeeze or patting of the shoulders could merely signify that he is showing his support for you in an endeavor or accomplishment. This is often done by family, teachers or someone just familiar with you. However, if you suddenly find him moving on from squeezing and patting your shoulders to giving you lengthy shoulder massages it is a definitely a clear sign that he is really into you.

Your arm

What an arm touch symbolizes greatly depends on the type of touch given. If a guy grabs your arm in a forceful manner it can mean he is using force to take you somewhere, requesting you not move or he could be guiding you somewhere. Which it is depends on how he is moving you after he grips your arm and the atmosphere of the situation. The other type of touch generally used on arms by men is a slow, rubbing motion. If he rubs your arms or traces with his fingers he is showing affection towards you. It could also be a sign he is trying to seduce you.

Your knee

A more than interpersonal touch is when a guy touches your knee.. Knee touches are usually one the first motions made when starting to flirt with someone. They are less invasive than touching the waist or face, but more personal than touching any other part of your leg or even your arm. If you find that when he touched you it was more of a pat or subtle squeeze, it could be a very plain and simple sign of only slight affection. Usually this touch will be brief, no matter how it is done, but it creates an atmosphere of closeness between the two of you.


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    Maya Hayes

    March 18, 2020 at 8:22 pm

    What does it mean when a guy slowly starts to put his hand underneath your butt?

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      web admin

      March 18, 2020 at 9:03 pm

      It is clear that he is interested in you. He is interested in maintaining a physical relationship with you. Make a decision about what you want for your future, and take whatever action that you feel is appropriate. If you feel that his behaviors were unacceptable, then be clear with him about your feelings.

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        March 20, 2020 at 8:28 pm

        Does it mean anything when a guy lets/wants you to sit in the same chair as him?

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          web admin

          March 21, 2020 at 10:39 am

          If he always wants you to sit around him, then it definitely sounds like he could be interested in you! Try talking to him or flirting with him to see how he responds. Good luck, Maya!

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    January 22, 2020 at 2:51 am

    Hello i want to know what this sign means when a boyfriend hold your lower back and demand for a french kiss when both never did it. Please answer me soon means alot .

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      web admin

      January 22, 2020 at 7:59 pm

      He is clearly attracted to you, and you can expect that he is interested in nourishing a romantic relationship with you. It is possible that he expects something from you, and you need to make a decision about what you feel is appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings.

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    November 27, 2019 at 1:23 am

    Coming from a guy,I’m sure he loves you….in his own way that is…..You see he is being either too fast or you’re being too slow….touching is a way of expressing emotions and this guy might have went way overboard….besides it’s 1 before 2,ask yourself if he’s this incubus/sex demon or gets horny each time you two are close….you’ll have your answer✍🏽

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      web admin

      January 22, 2020 at 8:18 pm

      Thank you for sharing your insights.

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    October 25, 2019 at 7:54 pm

    Hi I’m mia I have this friend of mine we go to chuch together I have a big crush on him he makes my whole world turn up side down everytime we together we have a amazing time he let’s me rub his hair massage his hand hold his hand he let’s me hug him. Kiss him behind the ear kiss his checks and his forehead we haven’t done anything sexually we tex every day we see each other at less 3 times a week sometimes more is just so amazing wen with him I can be my self but there’s day that he tells me stop touching me or gives me the cold shoulder there days that he just me to hug him and I’m confused is he interested on me he loves to touch my inner thigh he loves to call me all this kids of names on Spanish witch it turns me on lol he likes to make me jealous so bad is crazy but he is single sometimes I think he likes guys but then I think he is afraid of me he is younger then I he is 28 I’m 40 so maybe that’s the problem he confused me alot any suggestions thanks anything helps

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      web admin

      March 15, 2020 at 3:25 pm

      It seems that you are interested in nourishing a relationship with him. It seems that he is interested in you as well. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. It is clear that the two of you have similar interests. Nourish your connection by spending additional time together in person.

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    October 23, 2019 at 3:19 am

    Hi, I’m bit confused about something. There’s a guy in my life we met 4 months back and we mutually have decided marring each other by end of the next year. My parents also know about this guy. We just had our first kiss and he touched my thighs while kissing. I’m confused if he really loves me or it’s just a lust for him. He’s parents aren’t aware of my presence in his life right now. How do I know if he really loves me

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      web admin

      March 20, 2020 at 7:13 pm

      It seems that you and your partner need to make a decision about your future. As his parents do not know about you, it seems unlikely that the two of you will be married anytime soon. If the two of you are serious about this relationship, then you need to speak with his family members about your relationship. Spend additional time with him in person, as this will strengthen your connection.

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    August 18, 2019 at 2:51 am

    I am dating a guy for more than w year…we hang out a lot whenever we go out if we get some alone time he wraps his hands around my waist..he kisses me while kissing he insert his hands into my top and places hands on my lower back and he tried to put his hands inside my pants but I stopped him…i am confused he loves me or just lusts Me?

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      web admin

      August 19, 2019 at 8:44 pm

      The two of you share a strong social and emotional relationship. His behaviors are clear indications that he cares for you. Placing his hands inside of your pants is obviously a manifestation of his desire to maintain a sexual relationship with you. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Tara!

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      November 27, 2019 at 1:23 am

      Coming from a guy,I’m sure he loves you….in his own way that is…..You see he is being either too fast or you’re being too slow….touching is a way of expressing emotions and this guy might have went way overboard….besides it’s 1 before 2,ask yourself if he’s this incubus/sex demon or gets horny each time you two are close….you’ll have your answer✍🏽

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        web admin

        January 22, 2020 at 8:20 pm

        Thank you for sharing your insights.