What Does It Mean When a Guy Says He’s Confused and He Needs Time to Think?

By on August 14, 2018

One of the worst things that can happen to a woman is this: you’re in a seemingly great relationship with some dreamy guy you can’t get enough of. You went on a hot date last night and it was a hit! However, you woke up today only to hear the dreaded words: “I’m confused and just need some time to think about things”. Uhhh, what? It’s a joke right? Unfortunately not, and it is gut-wrenching. But before you flip out and wonder what’s wrong with you, let’s take a look at what this may actually mean.

Boyfriend Says He Needs Time to Think

Reasons He May Say the Dreaded Words We Never Want to Hear

He is Genuinely Scared

Let’s face it: relationships can be, well, rather scary. When you feel like you are falling in love with someone and they’re taking up your time and thoughts constantly, you can feel overwhelmed. And in some cases a man may start to feel this way when he is falling deeply in love with you. He needs to take some time to think about what love is and if he is really ready to dive in and be with a woman full time and let his emotions overtake him.

He Needs to Reclaim His Masculinity

When a man falls in love with a woman, he lets his guard down. All of the sudden he is a romantic lovey-dovey sap, and when a man realizes this he can become somewhat bothered, feeling like his masculinity is being taken from him. Yes, it is kind of silly, but men are all about being macho and strong and impressing females. If he feels like he is becoming to emotionally powered and feeling weak giving into his loving emotions, he may want to take a step back to simply redeem his testosterone levels.

He’s Not Interested

This is the one we all dread hearing, but unfortunately sometimes being ‘confused’ and ‘needing time to think’ are code words for ‘I am not interested and I may even be interested in another woman already’. If this is the case, it’s important to remember there is nothing wrong with you. Sometimes relationships simply do not work out and the spark dies off; or in some cases, was never there in the first place.

reasons why your man wants space and what to do about it

How You Need to React

Don’t Panic

How you react to a man saying he’s confused and needs time to think is imperative. Show him you’re not crazy and not all about him. Show him you can be independent and strong and DO NOT PANIC! Yes it’s terrible to hear, but panicking and over-thinking is NOT going to help you in the slightest. Remain calm and stay cool- it is way more attractive than being the ‘crazy’ girl he never wants to see again.

Leave Him Alone

You certainly do not want to portray yourself as being desperate. Show him that you’re a strong woman that can live without him and he may become more attracted to you and realize you’re the woman of his dreams. On the other hand, leaving him alone will give you time to relax and GET OVER HIM! If he isn’t so sure about you, then don’t waste your time trying to win him back. There is a man out there who knows for sure that he loves you and it won’t confuse him to feel loving emotions.

What Does It Mean When a Guy Says He's Confused and He Needs Time to Think

Pull Back and Let Him Come to You

Keeping your distance from him and actually allowing him time to think can be the best thing for your relationship. Sometimes people truly just need some time to sit back, relax, and assess the situation. Pulling away from him and showing him you can give him his space without freaking out is a great way to handle the situation. When he decides he wants to be with you, let him come to you- and let him work for it. Show him you weren’t just waiting around for his answer. Have him come to you, never go to him begging for him to make up his mind and be with you.

Have you ever heard a man tell you that he is confused and needs time to think? How did you handle the situation and how did the relationship ultimately work out? We would love to hear some stories! BUT ALWAYS REMEMBER: DON’T PANIC! Sometimes people just need a breather!

194 Comments

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    Bonnie

    March 21, 2020 at 7:40 pm

    My mind has been running crazy and my situation is a mess. I don’t even know how to define what I’ve had with the man that I love. We’ve never been official. It’s been 5 years we have been very off and on. When we met he was going through a divorce and I knew he would want to be free. So I honored that and didn’t pursue him, but I was there when he was heartbroken and missing his children. We both dated others and would always come back to one another. He always pursued me, but never enough for a relationship. I always just thought he was scared of the bigger picture. This past year though I lost my Dad and my children lost their father all within 4 months of each other. I reached out to the man that I love, he stayed with me. We went on dates, walked and talked and the passion was incredible. He was at my house 4-5 nights a week. I never asked him to be there, he always asked to come over. I happened to do lunch with a mutual friend who told me that my love had a gf. My heart was broken, we had just told each other how much we love one another. I didn’t understand how he had time for a gf with him being with me all the time. I selfishly didn’t bring it up and ignored it for awhile even though it was eating away at me. Long story short, I’ve been in a twisted love triangle for the past year. I’ve loved him, hated him, forgives him and loved him all over again. I distanced myself for a few months until he started showing up on my doorstep unannounced a few weeks ago and then a week ago. This past time his gf found out and broke up with him and this time she packed his stuff and put it out for him. Did I mention she lives 45min away I live less than 5min away? Anyways, we went on a walk Thursday and he asked me to give him until Monday to make a decision on if he wants to give us a chance or not. He says that he loves both of us. She says she’s finished, but for some reason just like myself she lets him back in. He’s left her at our local hangout to be with me several times. When I tell you that I’ve never fought so hard for someone, I’ve never loved someone as much as I do him. I’ve never felt so linked to someone and it’s more than a sexual connection. He opens up a side of me that no one ever had and I was married for 7years. He tells me I’m wife material, outlines my face with his finger, tells me he wants to be with me, but never has the balls to do it. I feel like he’s comfortable with her even if she is “mediocre” bc she lives an hr away and can’t be directly involved in his life. He’s told me several times that he’s trying to push her away and that break up was coming. He’s made it very clear that she’ll never move here bc of her kids and he’ll never move there bc of his kids. So WTH am I missing? I’m here, my kids are here, both of our lives are here. I haven’t texted him and I am patiently trying to wait until Monday even though I have very little hope that he’ll choose me. He hasn’t chosen me in 5 years so why would this time be any different? I told him if he was going to try to get back with her to just tell me now and we can go our separate ways. He freaked out and begged me to wait until Monday. Part of me just wants to tell him I’m finished I can’t do it anymore and just stop the pain of waiting. I told him that I didn’t even want to tie him down to a relationship, obviously that would be something to lead up to. That all I wanted was a fresh start to put the past in the past and date. Just enjoy each other. Any advice is helpful. I know it’s a confusing mess.

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      web admin

      March 25, 2020 at 3:12 pm

      It is clear that this relationship is not following the path that you would like it to be. You are aware that he is not being loyal to you or the other people that he is dating. You should acknowledge the fact that this relationship is not viable. Determine what you want for your future without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. If you feel that it is necessary to inform him of your decision, then do so.

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    Gracy

    March 10, 2020 at 5:55 am

    I met this guy and have been seeing each other for couple of weeks. Earlier I was not very much into him but still he kept talking and staying in touch so I decided to give it a try and we started dating.He used to be very sweet and very attentive as to what I tell him about my day, etc. He was very talkative and could talk continuously for hrs.So suddenly one of his parent got sick and passed away in few days. He was in touch with me all through out this even when I had not expected him to. Then we had a lil fight over something related to future plans. Around same time he insisted that I come visit his family, although I was not comfortable he convinced me and I went. Everything was fine. But suddenly I started noticing that his behavior has changed, he reduced taking to me. But I didn’t pay much attention thinking he may be sad bcz of his loss. But then after few days when I asked him he said that he feels that he wanted to discuss things with his family and hence he is not talking. He was going to tell me after discussing with family(maybe about the fight we had earlier). I thought I shouldn’t force him to talk or fight with him considering the tough time he going thru. So I just told him to take time and tell me whenever his decision is done. He never replied me back. It’s been a month. (Now when I think about all this I don’t feel he is good human being considering he couldn’t even tell me he can’t take things forward out of courtsey after staying in touch day n night when he wanted to.) I am not sure why I am so sad bcz of this, is it bcz I had considered him the one and now again m to ground zero or was he good guy and I misunderstood him or something. In ny case, he never told what went wrong so I don’t know. But it really makes me sad that he just decided to stop talking about saying anything. I don’t know what to do. I think I shouldn’t be contacting him again given that I had asked him to think n inform me. And by now it’s very obvious that he is not coming back. But still I have this hope in my mind which is killing me. What should I do to deal with this anxiety and helplessness? What do you think about this guy will he ever get back?

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      web admin

      March 12, 2020 at 1:18 pm

      He hasn’t reached out after a month, so it seems unlikely that he is going to in the near future. Judging from your experience, it seems like he decided he didn’t want this relationship and just wasn’t courageous enough to tell you that fact. You may never know why he decided this wasn’t the relationship for him, and all you can do now is move on. Try to stay busy to keep your mind off of everything, and your heart will heal over the next few weeks or months.

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    mary

    February 22, 2020 at 10:14 am

    I met my boyfriend online 2 years algo. We have been dating long distance. I’ve traveled to see him and we were supposed to be dating for marriage. We put our marriage plans on pause because his parents are very ill and he is their primary caregiver (his brothers just don’t want to be involved).
    I totally understood this but after 2 years I told him I needed to know if we were still doing this to get married. we’re both over 40, 2 years of daily contact is enough to know. I know my request put pressure on him because of his mother’s illness but I felt it was the right thing to do. I thought if we were going to get married we should start making changes, me quitting my job and moving to be close to him and help him, as I would do once married. But he said he wasn’t jazzed up about marrying me. He brought back the 3 fights we had in the 2 years we were together which he had said were water over the bridge. But at the end of our call he said he was doubting his decision because he knew he was letting something big go. The next day I told him I needed to say things that I didn’t want to be left unsaid. He said he understood but that he needed time to think and reflect. I agreed to his request.
    It’s been two weeks. I miss him dearly. I can’t believe he forgot every plan we had for our future. I feel like he fooled me, but I still love him. I’m drowning in uncertainty. I know I should be strong, but at the moment it is very hard to keep going when I feel there’s just blank space at the end of my path.
    what should I do?

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      web admin

      February 25, 2020 at 4:37 pm

      The two of you have not spoken for over two weeks. This is an indication that this relationship has concluded. Make a decision about what you want for your future without him. Allow these experiences to guide your actions in the future. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy toward you.

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        mary

        March 1, 2020 at 11:08 am

        I suppose I’m still in denial. Since he was the one who asked for time, I haven’t contacted him respecting his request. I naively thought he would in time say “hey I’m done thinking”, we would talk and give closure to the situation like adults, but I guess I will have to move on and close this chapter with unanswered questions on my own. I am scared and overwhelmed by uncertainty.
        I have no one to turn to. Thank you for your kind words and your time, they’re very much appreciated in these moments of despair.

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          web admin

          March 3, 2020 at 3:33 pm

          Moving on is incredibly hard, so it is understandable that you would struggle right now. All you can do is try focusing on yourself and stay busy. Each day, moving on will get a little easier, but it could be a couple of months until you feel normal again. Good luck!

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            mary

            March 18, 2020 at 8:37 pm

            It has been hard. it’s going to take more than 2 months. And now with this covid19 situation, I am worried about him (he’s asthmatic) and his parents who are seriously ill (heart complications and COPD). There are posit8ve covid19 cases in his county and the number is increasing. Should I break no contact and let him know I’m 7praying for him?

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    Renee

    February 15, 2020 at 6:59 pm

    I’ve been with a guy for 10 months. We’ve been fighting a lot and he says I dont understand he needs his time to think and figure out if he can be the man I need. Were havent been intimate for a while and it’s been a dead relationship but I want to get past the drama. Theres been a lot of damage but it was good the first few months. I want to get past the damage and start over but I’m not sure if he can get past it. I’m afraid of what will happen because we still love eachother. Weve just been fighting so much because I’ve done so much for him and hove him a hard time because hes got a lot going on with his life and hes stressed but because of that he cant do thoughtful things for me, ever? I just feel neglected but really want to start over and reignite the flame. Is there anything I can do? I dobt want to lose him but idk what to do.

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      web admin

      February 16, 2020 at 7:49 pm

      Even though he is stressed out, he could still be thoughtful and treat you well–although it is also fair that you would let him off the hook until his life is easier to handle. However, breaking a cycle can be extremely difficult. If you two have fallen into a pattern of treating each other poorly, it may be hard to improve the relationship–especially if he isn’t committed to changing things as well. The best thing you can possibly do is sit him down and talk honestly about how you feel. Hopefully, he will decide he wants to commit himself to the relationship as much as you do. Good luck!

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    CANDICE Emily ROKOSE

    February 15, 2020 at 6:59 pm

    I’ve been with a guy for 10 months. We’ve been fighting a lot and he says I dont understand he needs his time to think and figure out if he can be the man I need. Were havent been intimate for a while and it’s been a dead relationship but I want to get past the drama. Theres been a lot of damage but it was good the first few months. I want to get past the damage and start over but I’m not sure if he can get past it. I’m afraid of what will happen because we still love eachother. Weve just been fighting so much because I’ve done so much for him and hove him a hard time because hes got a lot going on with his life and hes stressed but because of that he cant do thoughtful things for me, ever? I just feel neglected but really want to start over and reignite the flame. Is there anything I can do? I dobt want to lose him but idk what to do.

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      Renee

      February 15, 2020 at 7:04 pm

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        web admin

        February 16, 2020 at 7:49 pm

        No worries–people comment twice on accident all the time. Let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks!

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      web admin

      February 16, 2020 at 7:49 pm

      Even though he is stressed out, he could still be thoughtful and treat you well–although it is also fair that you would let him off the hook until his life is easier to handle. However, breaking a cycle can be extremely difficult. If you two have fallen into a pattern of treating each other poorly, it may be hard to improve the relationship–especially if he isn’t committed to changing things as well. The best thing you can possibly do is sit him down and talk honestly about how you feel. Hopefully, he will decide he wants to commit himself to the relationship as much as you do. Good luck!

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    Alissa

    February 10, 2020 at 6:44 pm

    He told me he needs time to think. I told him his number is deleted. Bye.

    It is 2020. Expect nothing but respect.

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      web admin

      February 10, 2020 at 7:09 pm

      That sounds fair. If you know what you want and he can’t decide, it basically means you have to make the choice yourself. Good luck!

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    Nathalie

    January 23, 2020 at 9:22 am

    Hello, I’ve been knowing my boyfriend for 6 years met him after 6months of loosing his fiancé she passed away 3 days before the wedding. (His 33 and I’m 30)
    So we always had that bumpy road together but for the past 7 months we officially start dating he called his girlfriend and I met his family for the first time (even his mom said he hasn’t brought a girl home since his fiancé) but one night I got super mad about him constantly mentioning her and I told him I want someone that can love me 100 and by him talking about her seems like he is not healed yet so he got mad at me and pulled away start being distant and barley talking. It’s been like 3 weeks and I saw him yesterday all he was saying “I love you” a lot I need some time I wanna marry you but it’s a major step and after I’ve planned it before and I lost it I don’t wanna lose it again he keep asking me for time.
    But I don’t know what to do because him not texting or calling like before it’s killing the relationship that’s how I feel but I don’t know if I should just leave him alone, break up with him. I’m lost I know I love him so much and him too but his actions Are pushing me now away because I’m tired of him acting confused and needs time after everything was going perfect.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 23, 2020 at 4:00 pm

      His deceased fiance was his first major love and someone he expected to spend his life with. When you are married (or expected to be married to someone), it can take years or decades to heal. If you talk to elderly people after their spouse and love of their life passes on, you’ll see that they don’t just get over it. He is upset because you are pushing him to forget about the woman he wanted to marry. It is entirely understandable that you don’t want to live with her memory constantly present, but it is unlikely that he will ever get rid of her memory entirely. In addition, he may also fear that you will die if you get engaged to him, even though he probably knows that that fear is ridiculous and unlikely. Now, you just have to decide if you can live with the fact that the fiance’s memory will always be there and that he may take a while to get married because of how disastrous his previous attempt to get married was.

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    Jenny

    January 13, 2020 at 7:04 am

    I dated him for 3 months and he knew since the beginning that I had a son. The time we spent together was amazing and made feel as his priority. But, when he was about to know my son, suddenly changed. He made excuses to dont meet him, and started to get distance with me. We supposed to meet last Sunday and he shut off the phone Friday and Saturday. On Sunday morning he read my messages and ignore them, so I told him that I was not comfortable with the situation and he could take some time to make up his mind, to what he answers that he is not making time for me or putting any effort towards me, so would be better to pause the relationship and he can focus on his own issues. I said it was fine and we don’t talk for a week since then. I really want to get back, but not sure what to do. Should I text him to get my stuff back or give him more time to think or probably just move on.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 13, 2020 at 6:27 pm

      I would text him to see if you can get your things back. If he has any lasting things to share or wants to get back together, that will be a natural opportunity for him to say so–plus, this gives you an excuse to reach out to him without seeming like you are bothering him to get back together. And if he really does want to end things, it’ll give you a chance to find out for sure and to get your things back.

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    Specialklostinlove

    January 4, 2020 at 10:57 am

    I have been dating a guy for 4 months now and everything was going so great but I was always extremely wary because he just got out of a long term relationship when we met so his life was uncertain. Moving in with parents, job change, working with his ex etc. He dumped me on NYE after telling his friends about me. He says lovely things about me and cares for me deeply etc but has ended it saying he doesn’t know what he wants. He is confused and lost and just wants to hide. Something doesn’t feel right and he doesn’t know what it is. He wants to be friends and meet up in a couple of weeks to see how we both feel. Do I look at this as a freak out or do I accept and move on? I honestly have no idea what to do as things were so good until all of this came out.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 4, 2020 at 3:49 pm

      I would expect that he’ll just want to stay friends. If he doesn’t know what he wants in a relationship right now, he won’t figure it out in just a couple of weeks.

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      Che2

      January 12, 2020 at 4:39 pm

      This is also my situation right now. He was really crying because he missed me after I let him with his space. But he said that he wants to find himself. He is not sure about our relationship. But he doesn’t want to lose me. (I am really confused about this)He is struggling and pressured maybe to have a relationship. He cried because he doesn’t want to hurt me. Admin, can you advise me what to do? By the way, we are in a long distance realtionship.

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 12, 2020 at 10:44 pm

        He can’t have it both ways. The only way to not lose you is to date you. If he tries to end things, then he can’t just keep you around forever. It sounds like what he really wants is to end things, but he isn’t quite strong enough to do so. He also seems to be struggling with the fact that he still has so many feelings for you, even if he does want to move on in life still.

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    Lee

    January 2, 2020 at 9:14 pm

    Me and my boyfriend (maybe ex now?) have been together for almost 4 years. We are in a semi-long distance relationship but manage to see each other at least once a week for the most part. The past month or two we have been easily getting under each others skin and getting annoyed over small, insignificant things. This past week we got into the biggest argument we have throughout our entire relationship. I tried to talk to him on two separate occasions and he keeps saying he needs time and space. I had asked if he is breaking up with me and all he said was “thats not what i said” but he also didnt say no and stated he needs to “re-evaluate our relationship and see where we can go from there.” I had to delete him on social media because the only way for me to give him proper space is to not see anything of his (out if sight out if mind). I really feel that this is his way of letting me down easy and I am completely heartbroken and distraught over this as well as the argument itself. What do I do from here on out? Are we single until we talk again? Should I start prepping myself for going through a breakup? I dont want to give myself false hope. Please help!

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 3, 2020 at 4:03 pm

      You have deleted him, and it is clear that your relationship is no longer viable. Determine what you want without him, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    Chery

    December 24, 2019 at 12:39 pm

    Me and my partner broke up a few days ago he says he still loves me we broke up because he was emotionless and we hardly spoke which made me sad or maybe it was my untreated depression or a mix of both but he said seeing me so sad and knowing he was the reason I was sad made him unhappy and he said we both unhappy in this relationship we need to end the suffering after the breakup I made several suggestions how we could make things work better but now he’s saying he needs time to think he texts me daily but sometimes doesn’t reply to my messages for hours and he said I message him too much I’m pushing him to a decision he’s all I can think about and I want to talk to him all the time but he has better things to do like playing call of duty rather than discuss how to move forward on saving this relationship but now he says he still loves me but he doesn’t know if he wants to be with me and needs time to think its been 4 days and I’m losing my mind not being able to speak to him and cuddle him at night

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 5, 2020 at 9:51 am

      It sounds like your ex wanted to move on, but had buyer’s remorse about ending things right away. Because of this, there is a good chance that he’ll decide to move on anyway. The only way to have a chance that he will stay is to give him some space because, if you push him too hard, he will leave for good.

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    Jenny

    December 4, 2019 at 5:39 pm

    I know my bf for 8 months and during the summer because we are living in different countries we took a break but we still communicate. We came back to university and we start dating again but we keep our space. like not meeting each other every day but 2-3 times per week. The last two weeks I noticed that he was a bit cold with me and when we met he told me that he felt that these weeks were weird and he felt that he didn\t want to text me or talk to me. He told me that he needs time to understand if he stills has feeling for me and if he is going to miss me, so we agree on that we going to take a break in order for him to makeup his mind. On the same day he came in my place and he was sweet as always and we had great time. The next day I noticed that he was again a bit cold in our text messages and I asked him if he loves me and he replied no but I still liked you a lot and I need my space right now to understand what’s going on with my feelings and this relationship. I mentioned the fact of breaking up but he insists that he doesn’t know if he wants break up he just need time. We will be apart for a month and anw I don’t see him a lot so I understand the taking his time part. Like he doesn’t love me, he doesn’t really text me anymore, he doesn’t want to see me, but when we met he was so sweet and nice but apparently he does not want to break up, but he needs time! I honestly do not understand because I told me if he wants to break up. I believe this is the end of our relationship but I am so sad.

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      web admin

      January 17, 2020 at 3:09 pm

      Sometimes, people want to break up, but they aren’t emotionally strong enough to break away right away. It sounds like he definitely wants to leave, and he’s just waiting to have enough strength to completely break away. It may be better to just go ahead and end the relationship since it sounds like that is what he is ultimately going to want to do anyway.

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    Misswantsexclusive

    November 2, 2019 at 7:35 am

    I’ve been dating and sleeping with this guy for over a month. I was also talking to other guys and I subtly hinted that I was. He said he’s uncomfortable with me seeing other people and assured him that he’s the only one I’m sleeping with. I asked if it would make him feel better if he’d be comfortable knowing that I stopped talking to other guys and he said yes. So I offered an exclusive relationship to him, and that’s when he started saying that he’s not ready for any relationship even though I also specified that the only thing that would change in our dynamic is that we are both sure that it’s just the two of us and nothing serious yet. It’s been almost two weeks and he says that he’s still thinking about it. I’m confused cause I thought that’s what he wanted, and I also wanted that.

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      web admin

      February 27, 2020 at 8:01 pm

      Apparently, he wants you to not date other people and not be in a relationship either. He isn’t ready to commit–he just likes you enough that he’s jealous of you being with anyone else. You need to just talk to him again and express your confusion. Tell him you’re fine if you aren’t in a relationship or committed, but that means that you are free to date around. He can decide which option he wants, but he can’t have both.

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    Maria

    October 31, 2019 at 1:01 pm

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and we break up a lot and recently he told me he doesn’t know how he feels anymore that he is certain he loves me, but he is trying to find his feelings for me. I asked him if he wants to end it just to do so he keeps saying he doesn’t know, but he keeps throwing in my face that he might not get his feelings back that he is trying. I told him every time he says it im loosing interest he agreed not to say it but its been a week and we don’t spend time together and I told him to take some time and decide what he really wants. Am I wasting my time and I should just end it.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 28, 2020 at 6:27 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is not interested in nourishing a romantic relationship with you. It seems that you should take this time to make a decision about what you want for your future. You have made your feelings clear to him, so it is up to him if he is going to alter his behaviors. Share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life.

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    Scarlett

    October 28, 2019 at 11:47 am

    This is exactly my situation. I’ve been dating a man in office. He is 52 and I am 39. It’s been 4 months and everything has been good. I asked him if we could take this seriously and become official. But he was scared and said he needed time. I am in panic and we have agreed to talk next week to decide. What should I do during the week until he’s back? He’s on trip for a week. I am scared if I should text him to say good night or not. Or should I just leave him alone?

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      web admin

      March 4, 2020 at 7:26 pm

      The two of you should take this time to make a firm decision. If you feel that the two of you have reached a decision already, then stick to whatever has been determined. If you deal with a similar issue in the future, then keep in mind that communication is always beneficial.

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    Anastacia

    October 20, 2019 at 2:04 pm

    I’ve been dating a guy for 3 months and we’re great. The only downside is, he’s still best friends with his ex of 12 years and they split 4 years ago. Respecting his wishes to be friends with her, I did not argue this.however, as I spend more time with him.im curious about the relationship they gave, I therefore ask questions. We’ve had brief conversations (2) in the past which didn’t answer everything. Last night, I asked my final question and I could see he was frustrated. He has now said he needs time to think because I keep asking and he said that he doesn’t like the pressure I’m putting on him, if he were to hurt (which I’m not at all). I tried to clarify that I trust him but I only wanted to learn more about the relationship with his ex so I can feel comfortable bwith the situation as our relationship grows.
    He hasn’t been in contact with me (day 1) he left this morning giving me an endearing kiss on the cheek. I won’t text or call, I’ll give him a day or two. Am I being irrational? He admitted he likes and that he chose to be with me for a reason.

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      web admin

      March 20, 2020 at 8:18 pm

      It seems that you should take this time to evaluate your relationship. It is possible that the two of you have reached an agreement or conclusion at this time. Keep this experience in mind for your future relationships, as this will help you navigate your life in a positive manner.

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    krisha

    October 18, 2019 at 7:05 pm

    My boyfriend and I have always been great. I was so sure of him and I genuinely know that he really does like me. This is my first relationship ever and we honestly haven’t even fought from these past few months. Out of nowhere he suddenly told me that everything was going so fast and he wasn’t ready to commit yet. I was so confused because I don’t know where to draw the line. Should I wait for him to think things out and stay?

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      web admin

      March 25, 2020 at 3:55 pm

      It seems that you should take this time for introspection. If you are maintaining a relationship at this time, then keep in mind that it is always beneficial for you to speak with your partner about your thoughts and feelings. To nourish whatever relationships that you maintain, you should spend additional time together with that person.