12 Signs a Guy is Flirting with You

By on October 3, 2016

Guys have an awfully funny of way of showing that they like you. Some of them will just outright say it and make it really obvious while with others, you’d never be able to tell that they were flirting with you at all!

But there is a silver lining to be seen, here. All guys can have signs that they’re flirting with you even if they’re trying to be subtle. Fortunately, I’m here to give you all of those signs. Some of them may be harder to tell from others, but once you get the hang of it, you’ll know just who’s flirting with you and who is just being friendly.


  1. Eye Contact

On a regular basis, people don’t really give all that much eye contact. Sure, you’ll look up at someone you’re talking to and see their eyes for a second before diverting them by something you’re distracted by. But if there’s a guy that’s spending an awful lot of time looking you in the eyes and not breaking that eye contact, he’s definitely got his flirt on and he’s definitely into you. In order to see if this really works, however, you have to be giving him just as much eye contact. So don’t shy away if you want to know for sure.

  1. Compliments

This is a really obvious sign that a guy is flirting with you. If you’re in person and he just outright tells you that you look beautiful or cute or attractive, he’s obviously flirting with you. But this doesn’t just cover compliments of your appearance, either. If he’s complimenting your interests, hobbies, and intelligence, that’s even more of a sign he’s flirting.

  1. Teasing

We all remember in kindergarten when we would go right up to our crushes and make fun of them on the playground, right? Well, this doesn’t really change when we get older. In fact, if a guy is making fun of you in a cute and playful way, they’re actually just trying to flirt with you. Although this method can be tricky if they cross a line, it’s still very effective at telling whether or not someone is flirting with you.


  1. “Accidental” Touches

Normally, people don’t touch each other too much. We might bump into each other or touch their shoulder to get their attention, but it’s a natural thing between people that are already friendly with each other. Now, if a guy is making a point to touch your arm or even tickle your waist or give you any other kind of physical contact, even if they say it’s “accidental”, they’re really probably just flirting with you.

  1. He Gets Nervous When Talking

If you’re been talking to a guy here and there and whenever he talks directly to you he gets a little nervous and even perhaps looks sweaty and jumbles his words, it could be because he’s trying to flirt with you but is just super nervous to do so. This is a telltale sign that a guy is flirting if he’s not the confident type. Be on the lookout for sweating, stammering, and general nervous behavior.

  1. He Stays Behind Just to Chat with You

If all his friends are heading out somewhere and he stays behind just to talk with you a little longer, it’s definitely because he’s flirting with you. If he mentions that his friends can go ahead without him because he’s happy where he is, this is a MAJOR sign he’s totally flirting with you. When a guy drops a line like this around his friends, it’s basically an announcement of his flirtation.


  1. He Gets Really Close

This really also depends on where you are and the environment that you’re in. If you’re talking with a guy in a quiet place that doesn’t have many people, it’s normal to stand a decent distance apart. However, if you’re in a crowded bar or party, he’ll naturally need to stand closer. But if he’s standing really close to you without a necessary reason to be doing so, it’s because he’s really trying to get his flirt on with you.

  1. He Asks About Your Future Plans

This isn’t really about asking for your future plans as in years from now, it’s when he asks about what you’re doing later next week or later that very day, even. He’s asking so he can figure out where you’ll be and perhaps even go there with you. If there’s a guy talking really friendly with you and making an effort to wonder what your plans are, he’s flirting with you.

  1. He Sends Wink Faces Through Texts

Texting is probably the easiest place to pick up on hints of flirting than anywhere else simply because most guys are a lot more brave over text than in person. If the guy you’re talking to is sending flirting smiley faces after making a funny joke or such, he’s definitely flirting with you. The wink face is a definite giveaway that he’s really trying to flirt with you and show you that he’s into you.

  1. He Tells You His “Secrets”

This is especially true if he even mentions to you, “I haven’t told anyone this before.” When a guy opens up – even if it’s a “secret” that he’s divulged to certain people before – he’s trying to flirt. By letting his guard down and giving you an inside look at a more intimate part of his life, he’s hoping that you’ll begin to feel comfortable around him and you’ll like him back. Any guy that says, “I have a secret for you,” is absolutely flirting with you. The upside to this technique is that he can actually get really close to you to whisper the secret in your ear.

  1. He Tries Impressing You

Now, sometimes this is a really good thing and other times it can fail for them miserably and make them look like a complete fool. Either way, if there is a guy that’s going out of his way in order to impress you, it’s because he’s flirting with you. This can really be just about anything. If he’s telling elaborate stories about himself that make him look good or even if he tells you to, “watch this,” before going out and going something crazy, they all mean he’s flirting with you.


  1. He Always Makes Jokes

Making a girl laugh is always a great way to get to her heart. Guys know this and so when they’re flirting, they’re probably going to be telling you a lot of jokes. Some of these jokes can be really terrible and only make you laugh because they’re so bad, and some may actually make you laugh super hard. Either way, if you’re talking to a guy who’s also showing other signs of flirting with you and he’s telling joke after joke, it’s safe to assume he’s totally getting his flirt on with you!

Flirting is something that everyone does from time to time. It’s natural and it’s a really fun way to get to know someone and show they you like them. If you want to be able to tell if a guy is flirting with you, these tips will help make that happen!


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    March 4, 2020 at 5:06 pm

    Ok so I broke up with my boyfriend about a month and like a week ago. I have tried to move on and part of me has but part of me won’t let go. I wanted him back five days after I broke up with him but what do you expect! Anyhow, he said that he doesn’t want to get back together but I honestly think he still likes me. When we are in the same room he tries to show off. And he not only stares at me but every time I talk to his best friend he seems a little jealous. I don’t talk to my ex-boyfriend anymore but I don’t really know what I should do.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 4, 2020 at 6:39 pm

      He has informed you that he is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you. His feelings of jealousy still may influence his actions. You may want to avoid speaking with his best friend at this time, as this will only cause issues in their relationship. Of course, it is up to you to make any decision that you want.

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    February 26, 2020 at 8:14 pm

    So I’m in eighth grade, and recently a few guys have joined my friend group. Everyone in my grade started shipping me with one of the guys I’ve befriended and recently I’ve started liking him, but I can’t tell if he likes me. We’re in the same homeroom. He’s said that he hates me, but he also often comes up and starts talking to me, and I like it. One of his favorite things to to do to annoy me. But he asked me to do the “interview with a friend” part of this project we’re working on. What the heck? Does he hate me, like me as a friend, or like me as something more? Honestly boys are so confusing XD

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      February 26, 2020 at 8:31 pm

      Also, another question. Once me and my group of friends were at a bowling alley, and we were standing there talking and using the tickets we got from the arcade area, and he came up behind me and tossed a witch doll that he bought into my arms. He said he got it because I looked like the witch. Do you think he meant that? (sorry for all the questions)

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 27, 2020 at 6:39 pm

        It is clear that his behaviors are indications that he is interested in you. His teasing may be inappropriate, but it is a sign of his thoughts. Determine what you feel is acceptable, and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you want to nourish this connection, then spend additional time with him in person.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 27, 2020 at 6:38 pm

      It is clear that his behaviors are indications that he is interested in you. His teasing may be inappropriate, but it is a sign of his thoughts. Determine what you feel is acceptable, and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you want to nourish this connection, then spend additional time with him in person.

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    February 1, 2020 at 4:02 pm

    I just broke up with my boyfriend. But I want him back. I’m pretty sure he wants me back too but I don’t know how to tell him that I want him back. I feel like if we do get back together our relationship will stay the way it was. But then I feel like it might be better. How do I deal with this problem?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 1, 2020 at 5:59 pm

      If you want him back, you should just tell him that. If you wait too long to tell him, he will end up moving on and it’ll be harder to get the relationship going again. Once you are together again, you have to communicate openly and be willing to work at the relationship if you want it to improve. Good luck!

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    January 13, 2020 at 2:18 pm

    How do you know when a twelve-year-old boy likes you even though he doesn’t seem that interested? I’m 14 and in 8th grade and he’s twelve and in 7th grade. We both have confessed that we like each other and when I doubt he still likes me I ask him and he says yes. We have been together for four months but we never talk. I want to talk to him but I can never find the words to say. So how do I know for sure that he likes me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 13, 2020 at 6:16 pm

      You’ll just have to find the words to say what you want to. If you can’t express how you feel to him, then it seems reasonable that he might have problems explaining how he feels as well. Most likely, he is still just feeling shy and finding it hard to talk to you about things like this.

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    January 13, 2020 at 2:12 pm

    So I need help breaking up with my boyfriend. We are both super shy and we don’t talk that much and I feel like I need to end this relationship. Our relationship doesn’t really include talking but if we do we are so happy! We weren’t meant to be together and I have known that for a while now. He says he likes me but it’s kind of obvious he doesn’t. Anyways, I don’t know how to break up with him when we both don’t talk even though we are in a relationship.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 13, 2020 at 6:24 pm

      If you send him a message that you want to get together to talk, then he’ll probably guess what you are about to say, which will make it easier. In addition, telling him you want to talk in person will hopefully give you a chance to talk to him and tell him how you feel about the relationship.

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    January 8, 2020 at 2:16 pm

    This guy and I are kind of in a relationship. He never talks to me and when I say never I mean never. He says we are in a relationship but what is a relationship where you don’t even talk to each other. When I ask him if he still likes me he always says, “Yeah! I like you a lot! Sorry, I don’t talk to you that much. I will try better.” But when he says he will try better he never does.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 8, 2020 at 7:09 pm

      What exactly do you mean by he never talks to you? If he talks to you in person and just doesn’t message you, he may just dislike communicating in text or via phone. If he literally never talks to you, it might be time to think about whether you want to stay in the relationship. While he may like you a lot, this kind of no-talk relationship might not be what you are looking for in a partner.

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        January 9, 2020 at 3:07 pm

        Like he doesn’t talk to me. When he does try it seems like he really is trying but after a couple days he doesn’t try until a long time. I don’t want to lose him but sometimes I feel like what the best thing would be to break up with him. But I don’t want to!

        • web admin

          web admin

          January 9, 2020 at 6:55 pm

          You know that he is like this, so it is safe to assume he isn’t changing in the near future. Now, you just have to decide if you are willing to be in a relationship where you don’t see each other and talk that often. You can always try giving it one last shot and tell him how you feel, so he has one final chance to change before you end things with him.

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    January 5, 2020 at 1:52 pm

    My ex and I have moved on. We live in different cities but I miss him. He seems to miss me too but less. I’m dating someone currently but I still have not gotten over my ex. He is together with someone but I regret breaking up with him. I don’t know what to do with my ex and my current relationship.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 6, 2020 at 8:41 pm

      Getting over an ex takes time. If you pursue your current relationship, just try to ignore the feelings for your ex. It may take a few months, but they will go away. You can also decide to end your current relationship so that you can focus on healing from the relationship you had with your ex.

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