12 Signs a Guy is Flirting with You

By on October 3, 2016

Guys have an awfully funny of way of showing that they like you. Some of them will just outright say it and make it really obvious while with others, you’d never be able to tell that they were flirting with you at all!

But there is a silver lining to be seen, here. All guys can have signs that they’re flirting with you even if they’re trying to be subtle. Fortunately, I’m here to give you all of those signs. Some of them may be harder to tell from others, but once you get the hang of it, you’ll know just who’s flirting with you and who is just being friendly.


  1. Eye Contact

On a regular basis, people don’t really give all that much eye contact. Sure, you’ll look up at someone you’re talking to and see their eyes for a second before diverting them by something you’re distracted by. But if there’s a guy that’s spending an awful lot of time looking you in the eyes and not breaking that eye contact, he’s definitely got his flirt on and he’s definitely into you. In order to see if this really works, however, you have to be giving him just as much eye contact. So don’t shy away if you want to know for sure.

  1. Compliments

This is a really obvious sign that a guy is flirting with you. If you’re in person and he just outright tells you that you look beautiful or cute or attractive, he’s obviously flirting with you. But this doesn’t just cover compliments of your appearance, either. If he’s complimenting your interests, hobbies, and intelligence, that’s even more of a sign he’s flirting.

  1. Teasing

We all remember in kindergarten when we would go right up to our crushes and make fun of them on the playground, right? Well, this doesn’t really change when we get older. In fact, if a guy is making fun of you in a cute and playful way, they’re actually just trying to flirt with you. Although this method can be tricky if they cross a line, it’s still very effective at telling whether or not someone is flirting with you.


  1. “Accidental” Touches

Normally, people don’t touch each other too much. We might bump into each other or touch their shoulder to get their attention, but it’s a natural thing between people that are already friendly with each other. Now, if a guy is making a point to touch your arm or even tickle your waist or give you any other kind of physical contact, even if they say it’s “accidental”, they’re really probably just flirting with you.

  1. He Gets Nervous When Talking

If you’re been talking to a guy here and there and whenever he talks directly to you he gets a little nervous and even perhaps looks sweaty and jumbles his words, it could be because he’s trying to flirt with you but is just super nervous to do so. This is a telltale sign that a guy is flirting if he’s not the confident type. Be on the lookout for sweating, stammering, and general nervous behavior.

  1. He Stays Behind Just to Chat with You

If all his friends are heading out somewhere and he stays behind just to talk with you a little longer, it’s definitely because he’s flirting with you. If he mentions that his friends can go ahead without him because he’s happy where he is, this is a MAJOR sign he’s totally flirting with you. When a guy drops a line like this around his friends, it’s basically an announcement of his flirtation.


  1. He Gets Really Close

This really also depends on where you are and the environment that you’re in. If you’re talking with a guy in a quiet place that doesn’t have many people, it’s normal to stand a decent distance apart. However, if you’re in a crowded bar or party, he’ll naturally need to stand closer. But if he’s standing really close to you without a necessary reason to be doing so, it’s because he’s really trying to get his flirt on with you.

  1. He Asks About Your Future Plans

This isn’t really about asking for your future plans as in years from now, it’s when he asks about what you’re doing later next week or later that very day, even. He’s asking so he can figure out where you’ll be and perhaps even go there with you. If there’s a guy talking really friendly with you and making an effort to wonder what your plans are, he’s flirting with you.

  1. He Sends Wink Faces Through Texts

Texting is probably the easiest place to pick up on hints of flirting than anywhere else simply because most guys are a lot more brave over text than in person. If the guy you’re talking to is sending flirting smiley faces after making a funny joke or such, he’s definitely flirting with you. The wink face is a definite giveaway that he’s really trying to flirt with you and show you that he’s into you.

  1. He Tells You His “Secrets”

This is especially true if he even mentions to you, “I haven’t told anyone this before.” When a guy opens up – even if it’s a “secret” that he’s divulged to certain people before – he’s trying to flirt. By letting his guard down and giving you an inside look at a more intimate part of his life, he’s hoping that you’ll begin to feel comfortable around him and you’ll like him back. Any guy that says, “I have a secret for you,” is absolutely flirting with you. The upside to this technique is that he can actually get really close to you to whisper the secret in your ear.

  1. He Tries Impressing You

Now, sometimes this is a really good thing and other times it can fail for them miserably and make them look like a complete fool. Either way, if there is a guy that’s going out of his way in order to impress you, it’s because he’s flirting with you. This can really be just about anything. If he’s telling elaborate stories about himself that make him look good or even if he tells you to, “watch this,” before going out and going something crazy, they all mean he’s flirting with you.


  1. He Always Makes Jokes

Making a girl laugh is always a great way to get to her heart. Guys know this and so when they’re flirting, they’re probably going to be telling you a lot of jokes. Some of these jokes can be really terrible and only make you laugh because they’re so bad, and some may actually make you laugh super hard. Either way, if you’re talking to a guy who’s also showing other signs of flirting with you and he’s telling joke after joke, it’s safe to assume he’s totally getting his flirt on with you!

Flirting is something that everyone does from time to time. It’s natural and it’s a really fun way to get to know someone and show they you like them. If you want to be able to tell if a guy is flirting with you, these tips will help make that happen!


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    March 8, 2019 at 11:23 am

    Okay, so I like this guy in my class. We rarely talk to each other but often make eyecontact. Now my male best friend started hanging out with him, I often tug along but mostly keep to myself cause it feels like I’m intruding. I don’t know how to approach him. Please help, what should I do?

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      March 9, 2019 at 10:20 pm

      The three of you are nourishing a social relationship together. You should take this time to determine what you want for your future. You may want to speak with your best friend about your thoughts and feelings. This may help you make a decision about the future of this relationship. Have a great day, Wendy!

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      March 14, 2019 at 6:06 pm

      Forget it he’s into your Male best friend.

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        March 14, 2019 at 8:18 pm

        Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings. Please share more of your positive comments in the future. Have a great day, Carmen!

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    March 6, 2019 at 8:13 pm

    So there’s this guy who I’ been friends with since first grade(we’re now in seven grade) and we’ve always been really good friends and a lot of the times he’ll come right up to me and start making me laugh with all these jokes or tell me about what he’s doing over the weekend and while he’s making me laugh sometimes I see that he’s super close to me. The problem is so many people in and outside my grade thinks that one of us likes the other person and think that we would make a cute couple. I’m so confused because there has been many times that we have talked about the topic face to face and when my friends thought that I liked him and he found out about it I told him that it wasn’t true and he said I trust you but I just don’t know. Help!!

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      March 7, 2019 at 12:54 pm

      The two of you share a strong social and emotional relationship. It is likely that both of you have feelings for each other. He may be interested in developing a relationship with you, but he may be uncertain about your feelings toward him. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Samara!

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    Alexis Kiekover

    April 12, 2017 at 4:52 pm

    I like this guy but we live far away and he has a girlfriend. But he flirts with me daily. I am not sure what to do. He’s only one year older than me.

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      April 13, 2017 at 8:54 am

      If he is in a relationship and lives far away from you, then he is not available at this time. Explain to him that you life speaking with him, but that you do not think that his flirtations are going to lead anywhere. If he ends his relationship and moves closer to you, then you may want to try to develop a relationship with him at that time. Best of luck, Alexis!

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    December 14, 2016 at 5:34 pm

    So there’s this guy and he recently found out that I have a crush on him. He said he just wanted to remain friends for now… But today my friend was talking to him, she asked him if we were a thing and he said no, were just friends. But then she told him we should date, because we would look cute together. She told me that he blushed looked down at his phone and smiled without saying anymore. And yesterday, he “held” my hand in bio, because I grabbed his hand off my paper and I let go, but he was so shocked he let go five seconds later, and my friend who was right there said when I grabbed his hand off my paper he blushed really hard. He and his friends also hang near my locker and his friends are always glancing towards me and today he glanced towards me…. Idk if this is how friends act or he finally decided he wants to be more….Plz Help!!!!!!!!

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      December 15, 2016 at 9:03 am

      It sounds like he could be interested in you. Being shy around you, blushing when it is suggested that you be together and holding your hand for longer are all signs that he could be interested. He said he wants to be just friends for now though, so he may want to get to know you better and feel more comfortable around you before you guys try to date. Stay friends, get to know him better and see what happens. Good luck, Jules!

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      January 14, 2017 at 10:29 am

      You planted the seed in his mind, there is nothing more you should do.

      Until he makes up his mind, don’t make him the center of your world. Keep your options open and enjoy the fun things of life. That way he knows there is a limited opportunity before you move on.

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        January 14, 2017 at 12:01 pm

        Thank you for sharing your thoughts and ideas. It is certain that you will help our community with your insights. Feel free to continue to contribute to our community. Have a great day, Amanda!

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    December 10, 2016 at 9:38 pm

    I’m a freshman and I like guy, who’s a junior. We never saw each other in person, we only text, but he goes to the same school as my sisters. His photos are legit, too. He likes me back. He told twice already. I said it couldn’t happen, because of the age difference (I’m 13 and he’s 16). Anyways, we full on flirt with each other, that our compliments aren’t even considered just compliments. We have this thing together. He calls me Sleeping Beauty and I call him Prince Phillip. The emoji he uses are the smile and winking ones. I use the smile, but only if he uses them. Which isn’t that often. Today, he used the blowing a heart and heart eye emoji.
    Crush: Your so adorable
    Me: Thank you. Your so nice
    Crush: There is no reason to thank me gorgeous
    Me: I like to
    Crush: I know beautiful (smile face blowing kiss emoji)
    Me: (smile face)
    After, that he stopped replying. I know he saw my reply, because it said so. Then, I asked, what he’s up to. He didn’t reply and he didn’t see the text. What does that mean? We used to talk ’til 2:00 in the morning. Now, we stop at 11:00 at night.

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      December 12, 2016 at 9:24 am

      It sounds like he has a crush on you. Since you are unwilling to date right now because of the age difference, his feelings may have cooled down a little bit. If it were me, I would try to stay friends with him for a few years and date him later on when the age difference is not as important. Good luck, Jazzy!

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    Maxine Ride

    December 6, 2016 at 5:42 pm

    I don’t know if this is relevant or not, but what does it mean when a guy dreams about you as the opposite gender? I know it sounds weird, but he came up to me today and proceeded to tell me how in his dream he met a guy with the same exact features as me, except male. Can you help me?

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      December 7, 2016 at 12:44 pm

      It may depend on his feelings, but you should feel positive about this dream. If he is close to a lot of guy friends, then he may view you as someone that he feels very comfortable with. You should try to spend additional time with him. Share your thoughts and learn about his ideas. Try to go out on a walk with him and show him the side of you that you want to show him. Best of luck, Maxine!

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    Maxine Ride

    December 6, 2016 at 5:41 pm

    I don’t know if this is relevant or not, but what does it mean when a guy dreams about you as the opposite gender?

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      December 7, 2016 at 12:43 pm

      It may depend on his feelings, but you should feel positive about this dream. If he is close to a lot of guy friends, then he may view you as someone that he feels very comfortable with. You should try to spend additional time with him. Share your thoughts and learn about his ideas. Try to go out on a walk with him and show him the side of you that you want to show him. Best of luck, Maxine!

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    Faith Johnson

    December 6, 2016 at 6:12 am

    I really like this guy. He is always flirting with me but, I’m not sure if he actually likes me, in part to carry on a relationship or make moves. Do you know or have any advice?

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      December 6, 2016 at 2:23 pm

      If he is flirting with you, then he probably likes you. Try to spend additional time with him. If you do not feel comfortable doing that, then try to speak with him about his ideas and thoughts. Over time, the two of you will become closer. At that time, speak directly and honesty with him about your feelings. This will give him a chance to share his true feelings with you. At that time, you will no longer have any questions about his true thoughts. Best of luck, Faith!

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    December 1, 2016 at 5:15 pm

    Hi I’m a freshman. And a few weeks ago one of my friends told my crush that I like him ” you know my friend named blank like you” and he replied by saying ” um. Who is blank” once I heard this it totally crushed me! But ever since he found out he keeps making awkward eye contact with me and he stares a lot at me. I don’t know what to do?!?! Then today at lunch he and his group of friends came over to where I eat lunch and my friends wanted me to stay (ever since he found out I feel awkward when I see him so I go the other direction) I stayed but I just looked at the ground! WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!

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      December 2, 2016 at 8:44 am

      It sounds like he just didn’t really know you or think of you as a possibility before that moment. Since then, he has been considering the possibility. He knows that you like him now, so he is trying to find out if he is attracted to you or interested in you. Since he tried to eat lunch with you today, it sounds like he is leaning toward liking you. Keep talking to him and give him a chance to know you better. It sounds like he is starting to develop some feelings, so see where those feelings go.

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    November 1, 2016 at 4:21 am

    I like a guy but we just text each other, I’m really dying to know if he likes me back. What I’m most worried about is that he doesn’t want a gf rn, my friend and I think he’s saying that cause the last girl that was with him broke his heart, and if that wasn’t enough, two other girls have a crush in him. They are always flirting with him and I’m afraid of loosing him. In the other hand, I think two of my friends have a crush on me but idk tbh and I want to figure it out. Help!

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      November 1, 2016 at 4:50 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you, but he is concerned about his emotions being safe. Continue to speak with him and share your thoughts. Over time, the two of you will become closer and he will feel more comfortable and safe with you. You do not need to rush the relationship, but you can if you want to. If you determine that you want to date him, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. Continue to be mindful and positive. Best wishes, Piper!

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        November 1, 2016 at 7:53 pm

        Thanks for the advice, I got another question. What if we have like this habit of texting each other everyday, but lately I’ve been to busy to text so we starting to lose connection. Anyways usually we say goodbye and next day we continue with the topic, but I don’t want to put pressure or look like a “stalker” so idk if I should start the conversation or wait for him to send something, maybe he’s waiting for me to say anything. I’m so confused.

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          November 2, 2016 at 12:46 pm

          Do not concern yourself with seeming like a stalker. Stalkers are serious concerns and potentially harmful, it would be best if the vocabulary of society stopped suing the term loosely. Even though you are busy, there is no reason to not text him when you have time. Explain that you were busy with work or class and he will most certainly understand. As long as he texts you back, you can be certain that he enjoys your conversation. Attempt to spend time with him when you are able, and any lack of texting will no longer be a problem. Enjoy life, Piper!

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          January 14, 2017 at 10:36 am

          This is why texting is an inferior form of communication. Face to face conversations you can read each other better.

          Honestly, you are too wrapped up in one guy who doesn’t want a gf. Let him know you need to keep your options open because you are looking to have a bf right now. Let him be just one of several that interest you. Focus on making yourself happy — not worried about one boy’s response or lack of response.

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            January 14, 2017 at 12:02 pm

            Thank you for sharing your thoughts and ideas. It is certain that you will help our community with your insights. Feel free to continue to contribute to our community. Have a great day, Amanda!

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    October 24, 2016 at 5:28 pm

    So I somewhat like two guys(I’m split) but while I was at a small party with friends he randomly dmed me on Instagram. I was really confused and asked why and he said I was the first person on his notifications list adding it with a ? enoji. Later on I gave him my number on Instagram and he texted me as fast as possible. We texted for about three hours straight before he had to end it. But the coincidence was that it was the same exact day he found out I like his friend. What should I do?

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      October 26, 2016 at 1:38 pm

      You may find that you like multiple people and multiple people like you. What is most beneficial in these situations is to develop a friendship with any people, but don’t date any. Allow yourself to get to know everyone’s personality, hobbies, and interests. From there, you can determine who you would like to go out with. Explain to them what your goal is, and if they can not accept your style of getting to know people, then perhaps it would be wise to look elsewhere. Best of luck in determining who is the lucky person, Jules!

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