My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

By on March 1, 2015

So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.

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Relax and Smile

If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

Don’t Be Clingy

OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.

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If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.

Talk To Him

For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.

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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery

865 Comments

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    gabby

    February 24, 2020 at 6:01 pm

    So Im too scared to tell my crush i like him right , so i told my friend to tell him that i like him cause she is friends with him , she told me that when she said that he smiled and and said awh , now i dont know what to do becasue i only get to see him in study group honestly , but i see him at lunch too…. I have study group tommorow … can you give me advice on what to do tommorow?

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      February 24, 2020 at 6:35 pm

      Your friend did as you asked, and you are aware that your crush responded in a positive manner. Take this opportunity to share yourself with him. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. This will help the two of you determine what you feel is appropriate for the future.

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      Tiny

      February 25, 2020 at 7:33 pm

      Ok so, I have a question, the guy I like knows I like him and I accidentally sent him a paragraph about how ive liked him since the 7th grade but he’s already read it…. The thing is he has told one of my close friends that he’s not sure how he feels yet (this was maybe a month ago now), why would he screenshot the paragraph I sent him and not let me delete it?

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        Tiny

        February 25, 2020 at 7:35 pm

        And he is my best friend as well so I see him everyday

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          web admin

          February 26, 2020 at 10:11 am

          If he is your best friend, he may also just be afraid to ruin your relationship as friends. It can also be difficult to sort through your romantic or friendly feelings. I would hold off on assuming anything though–the rest of his behavior makes it sound like he isn’t interested in being more than friends.

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        web admin

        February 26, 2020 at 10:06 am

        Even if he doesn’t like you, the compliment has flattered him. He probably wants to have a screenshot of your paragraph so that he can remember what you told him. He may also still be trying to decide how he feels–although, after a month, I feel like he has had enough time and is probably just afraid to hurt your feelings.

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    hope

    February 24, 2020 at 2:10 pm

    so my friend was talking to my crush to try and find out who he liked, and somehow he figured out that I like him, now we don’t talk and everything is awkward. what should I do??

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      web admin

      February 24, 2020 at 6:47 pm

      Your crush discovered that you are interested in him, and this may have changed the nature of your relationship. Because of this, you may want to address him regarding your feelings. Make a decision about what you feel is appropriate. Share yourself with him and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.

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    Raptorsfan25

    February 10, 2020 at 2:47 pm

    Hi, my crush keeps on looking at me HELP!! And this is every day, I’m scared to go talk to him just if he doesn’t like me and starts spreading rumors!!

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    Raptorsfan25

    February 2, 2020 at 8:09 pm

    Someone told my crush that liked him, so now it is just awkward because his friends know me from elementary school. He stares at me at the passing period, he even talked to me, he leans on my desk, and also his friends sit next to me so I constantly am next to him. I don’t know what to do, I am not sure if he likes me.

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      web admin

      February 3, 2020 at 8:12 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is interested in you. If he is not interested in a romantic relationship, it is clear that he wants to be friends with you. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship, and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings.

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        Raptorsfan25

        February 5, 2020 at 3:54 pm

        And also I have had dreams about this boy talking to me and being friends with me. Does that indicate something?

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          web admin

          February 6, 2020 at 2:46 pm

          It may just mean that you want to have someone to talk to and to care about, which is why your subconscious mind keeps giving you these dreams.

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            Raptorsfan25

            February 6, 2020 at 3:39 pm

            Also, I’ve liked this boy since last August and I feel him looking at him. I’m nervous to go talk to him. HELP!!!

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              web admin

              February 6, 2020 at 6:15 pm

              If he looks at you all the time, then it sounds entirely possible that he could be interested in you. Think of it this way: if you were to date each other, then you’d have to be able to talk to him. Talking to him now is the first step toward getting used to chatting with him so that you could potentially date. Plus, if he is as nervous about making a move as you are, you may never end up having a relationship if you don’t make a move. Go for it!

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                gabby

                February 24, 2020 at 5:58 pm

                So Im too scared to tell my crush i like him right , so i told my friend to tell him that i like him cause she is friends with him , she told me that when she said that he smiled and and said awh , now i dont know what to do becasue i only get to see him in study group honestly , but i see him at lunch too…. I have study group tommorow … can you give me advice on what to do tommorow?

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                  web admin

                  February 24, 2020 at 6:35 pm

                  Your friend did as you asked, and you are aware that your crush responded in a positive manner. Take this opportunity to share yourself with him. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. This will help the two of you determine what you feel is appropriate for the future.

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    Roz

    January 19, 2020 at 6:01 pm

    I’ve been liking a boy for about 3 years, (i know that’s a lot) and valentines day is coming up. He already knows I like him and I never talk to him because I’m to scared… I wanted to give him a gift for valentines day but I’m worried about how he might react… Should I talk to him more before valentines day… To make it seem less awkward?

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      web admin

      January 20, 2020 at 12:26 pm

      If you are certain that he knows you like him, then you don’t have to do anything at all. He knows you like him, so he could make a move if he wants to. The fact that he hasn’t made a move may mean that he isn’t interested. If you do get him something for Valentine’s Day, just remember that you may not get the response you want.

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      Confused crush

      February 19, 2020 at 4:02 pm

      I need advice.. so I slow danced with my crush and his friends tease us, he looks at me and he also gets close to me like he wants to say something? Well I got nervous and I acted like he was special even tho he’s not, what should I do and does he like me??

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        web admin

        February 25, 2020 at 5:41 pm

        You should act like he is special, as he is someone that you want to maintain a relationship with. It is clear that the two of you are close, so take this time to determine what you want for your future. Nourish this relationship by taking every opportunity to spend additional time together in person.

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    Emily

    January 9, 2020 at 1:20 pm

    so my freinds told my crush i like hime he saide he knows but can you tell me what should i do next

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      web admin

      January 9, 2020 at 6:58 pm

      You don’t have to do anything now. Now that you know he is aware of your feelings, the ball is in your court. If he likes you, he’ll make the next move. If he doesn’t, you’ll figure it out because he won’t make a move. Good luck!

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        E

        January 20, 2020 at 5:46 pm

        Hi so my friend told my crush I liked him. Then he wanted my phone #. Now we’ve been texting pretty much every day since. I’m starting to get some signs that he might like me but I’m not to sure at all! We never talk at school, EVER!!! Every time he’s in the room I get to scared to talk to him. What do I do??

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          web admin

          January 21, 2020 at 6:29 pm

          If he’s texting you all the time, then it is definitely possible that he likes you. Most likely, he’ll end up making a move if you just keep texting him and flirting with him. If you flirt with him more, it will encourage him to just ask you out. You could also cut to the chase and ask him how he feels, especially since it sounds like he likes you. Good luck!

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