My Crush Knows I Like Him – Now What?

By on March 1, 2015

So you finally told your crush you like him or uhm your friends or enemies did, now what are you going to do? It depends on whether you think he likes you, or not. The ultimate goal, of course, is to convince him that he does. Whilst sometimes that’s impossible, it’s often just a matter of getting him to notice you in the right way.

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Relax and Smile

If at first you feel a little nervous (which is expected!) then try to relax. What he will notice about you is the things any guy will notice about you – your smile, how confident you seem and just in general how much you are enjoying your life. Be happy to be you and he will be happy to be around you. Even if he doesn’t come to fancy you, he can still come to enjoy your company.

If you find yourself getting nervous try thinking about it at home – how will you deal with his presence? Imagine him being there and you going about your day as normal. It may sound silly but sometimes we need a little practice in dealing with our crush.

Don’t Be Clingy

OK, so you might not run up to him and attach yourself to him. Especially if you don’t already know him very well. The point I’m making is that whilst it’s OK stealing glances at him ever so often, he might start getting uncomfortable if you are staring at him all the time when he’s around. Keep it cool. Don’t completely ignore him (that’s equally silly – you want him to notice you after all, how else will he fall for the fabulous you?), but also make sure he doesn’t get uncomfortable around you because you are giving him puppy eyes.

Remember men want to chase, not be chased. It’s sexy showing a little bit of interest and being flirtatious, being comfortable with flirting, but you also have to show you have a life. Show you aren’t intimidated by him knowing how you feel – you’re someone who shows interest to find out if there is interest. But you are too busy living your amazing life to care too much. If he’s interested, that’s great, but if he isn’t, you have more important things to do than waiting around. By showing you are happy, you don’t need his approval and that your life doesn’t stop in its tracks whenever he’s around, he will soon start trying to win you over if he has an interest.

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If He Shows Interest, Take It Easy

When a guy you like shows interest in you, chances are you will get as excited as excited can be. Of course you will! Don’t throw yourself at him if he does though. Play it cool. After all, you are vetting him. Is he working hard enough to win you over? Having interest in someone means you have a certain level of attraction. It doesn’t mean you know if you would actually like to be dating them. He could prove to be a terrible friend, or have no clue of how to make you happy. Take your time to find out if he’s worth it.

Definitively don’t put the rest of your life on hold for him. Don’t answer every text you get immediately. Don’t reschedule you life to go on a date. Clearly show him you have a life you are happy with and if he gets to be part of it then he’s privileged.

Avoid Your Friends Giggling When He’s Around

If all your friends start giggling, pointing at him, or simply staring at him whenever he’s around, chances are he will be freaked out. Whilst some guys like that kind of attention, most don’t. Also, it puts him in a position where he knows how special he is to you. He shouldn’t be special until you find out how well he is going to treat you. Make your friends understand how important it is you that they behave nicely when he’s around.

Talk To Him

For anything to actually happen, you have to eventually talk to him. Take it easy. Start with passing comments and work your way to the point where you have a proper conversation. Show that you are cool around him. If he seems interested be flirtatious, but don’t overdo it. As mentioned earlier – let him work for it.

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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery

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    Roz

    January 19, 2020 at 6:01 pm

    I’ve been liking a boy for about 3 years, (i know that’s a lot) and valentines day is coming up. He already knows I like him and I never talk to him because I’m to scared… I wanted to give him a gift for valentines day but I’m worried about how he might react… Should I talk to him more before valentines day… To make it seem less awkward?

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      web admin

      January 20, 2020 at 12:26 pm

      If you are certain that he knows you like him, then you don’t have to do anything at all. He knows you like him, so he could make a move if he wants to. The fact that he hasn’t made a move may mean that he isn’t interested. If you do get him something for Valentine’s Day, just remember that you may not get the response you want.

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    Emily

    January 9, 2020 at 1:20 pm

    so my freinds told my crush i like hime he saide he knows but can you tell me what should i do next

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      web admin

      January 9, 2020 at 6:58 pm

      You don’t have to do anything now. Now that you know he is aware of your feelings, the ball is in your court. If he likes you, he’ll make the next move. If he doesn’t, you’ll figure it out because he won’t make a move. Good luck!

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        E

        January 20, 2020 at 5:46 pm

        Hi so my friend told my crush I liked him. Then he wanted my phone #. Now we’ve been texting pretty much every day since. I’m starting to get some signs that he might like me but I’m not to sure at all! We never talk at school, EVER!!! Every time he’s in the room I get to scared to talk to him. What do I do??

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          web admin

          January 21, 2020 at 6:29 pm

          If he’s texting you all the time, then it is definitely possible that he likes you. Most likely, he’ll end up making a move if you just keep texting him and flirting with him. If you flirt with him more, it will encourage him to just ask you out. You could also cut to the chase and ask him how he feels, especially since it sounds like he likes you. Good luck!

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    A

    January 6, 2020 at 5:53 pm

    I am not popular at all and my long time crush is. I am very shy but one way or another all my friends have figured out and somehow the best friend of my crush. I trust everyone that knows but I am still constantly worried that he may find out. What do I do?!?!

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      web admin

      January 6, 2020 at 7:29 pm

      If he finds out, then you won’t have to stress out about asking him out–if he knows you like him and he likes you back, he can just ask you. If he isn’t interested, then knowing you like him won’t make a difference anyway. Either way, his finding out isn’t a bad thing. Good luck!

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    petrichor.aurora

    December 29, 2019 at 5:13 pm

    So I confessed to a boy I like via email because it was the only thing of his I had, and didn’t get a response. I forgot about, putting it down as rejection or that he hadn’t read it yet. That was in the third last week of school, so late November. School’s ended and the second week in, I’ve been told by one of my friends to expect someone to text you. Then I get a text from an unknown number (but it just turns out that it’s a friend whose number I didn’t have) saying that the boy I like asked for my number, so friend number 1 gave it to number 2 who gave it to my crush. All this took place about four days ago, and I haven’t gotten anything yet. It’s all I can think about and I’m actually losing sleep over it. I keep wondering if they accidentally gave him the wrong number, or he changed his mind, etc. The worst part is it’s only the second week of our SIX week holidays. What do I do? How am i able to take my mind off it?

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      web admin

      January 1, 2020 at 1:02 pm

      Just try to stay busy! If he likes you, he may just be trying to work up his courage to text you. He may also be waiting until after New Year’s Day to message you so that you are more likely to have free time to meet up with him and hang out.

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    Samantha

    December 29, 2019 at 3:35 pm

    I have this one crush and hes in the popular group and I’m not. I really like him and everyone says we would make a cute couple but I’m to scared to ask him out

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      web admin

      January 1, 2020 at 1:04 pm

      Just do it! You’ll never know what can happen unless you try! At the very least, try talking to him so that he has an opportunity to ask you out if he is interested in you. Good luck!

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    Calysta

    December 2, 2019 at 5:18 pm

    Ok so I have a friend who I guess is fake, but she promised not to tell my crush I liked them, she did, and I sit by him in math, what now

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 20, 2020 at 1:10 pm

      Your crush is aware of your feelings for him. There is no reason to pretend that he is uncertain about what you want. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.

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    anonymous

    November 30, 2019 at 1:21 pm

    so i like this boy and i think he might like me back but i’m not sure bc on snapchat we talk for about 2 and half hours each day but he is now ignoring me since my bros told him that i had somewhat big feelings for him but now we are starting to talk again after ab 1 month of him ignoring me but like he keep msg me to see if was ok and like we would talk for ab 5mins a day so we talked but he was being normal around me but it was if he still cared ab me but we wouldn’t talk for so long but i have my homies(there boys) talking to him and asking him what he thinks ab me and stuff like that and apparently the first thing he said was “how is she, is she okay. guys she has feelings for but as do i for her but i don’t want her to know ahhhhh i hope she’s okay what do i do now I’ve completely ghoasted her now what act as if nothing has happend?!” any sorce of help would be amazing thanks

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      web admin

      January 20, 2020 at 3:26 pm

      Just talk to him and tell him how you feel! You’ll never know what could have been possible with him unless you make a move and make sure your feelings are known! Good luck!

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    ansuri

    November 28, 2019 at 10:29 am

    so i was listening to a song one day and something in me made me tell him that i like him (i have never done this before) and he always is there for me whenever i have anxiety or when im feeling depressed and hes my best friend. I told him via instagram dms. We have school this monday and i have to sit in front of him every day for second period! What do i do?!!!!

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      web admin

      January 20, 2020 at 4:04 pm

      That sounds like a great chance for him to respond if he’s interested! If he isn’t interested, what you do or say won’t make a difference anyway, so there’s no point in worrying too much about it.

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    A

    October 2, 2019 at 8:13 am

    Today at school I told my best friend who my crush is and she told everyone. Then walking to my class he was behind me and I didn’t know that he knew that I like him. I don’t know him that much I only saw him last year….
    Help

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      web admin

      December 30, 2019 at 10:10 am

      You can’t un-tell everyone now, so just go with the flow. Who knows? It may turn out that it’s a good thing she told everyone if your crush actually likes you back! Good luck!

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    H

    September 26, 2019 at 2:59 pm

    There’s this guy I like. We told each other that we like one another. Now what? We hang out a lot, and hug, but I don’t know if he’s ready to hold hands… what should I do?

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      web admin

      December 28, 2019 at 12:56 am

      The two of you have shared your feelings with each other. It is appropriate for you to hold his hand. Inform him of your feelings, and give him a chance to share himself with you. From there, the two of you can determine which behaviors the two of you feel is acceptable.

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    Daniella

    September 23, 2019 at 3:41 pm

    My crush is in my neighborhood, and I’m pretty sure he likes me. We both are to nervous to make a move because that’s not really our personalities 😂😭 now I’m moving and when ever try to go over to his house, my parents and his parents are weird about it. How can I tell him and his parents?

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      web admin

      December 24, 2019 at 10:41 am

      You are aware that the two of you have mutual feelings for each other. It seems that you are taking action toward him, so you may want to speak with your parents and his parents about your feelings. Give them an opportunity to speak with each other, as your parents may be interested in supporting your relationship. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Daniella!

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    pam

    September 22, 2019 at 12:05 pm

    I just wrote my crush a note telling him how I feel.
    he had a crush on me and I just thought of him as a friend and then this summer we got together a couple times and even went out on a date and I fell for him. we didn’t see each other/ talk for a week because I was out of town and then the next time I saw him, he was with someone else and they ha s just started dating.
    it’s been over a month and he started ignoring me but now we’re talkigm again and writing letters was kind of our thing so I gave him a letter explaining to him how i feel and then a few days later he pulled me aside and wanted to talk, he said he really liked my letter, and said that he was happy I told him, and that he wouldn’t make it awkward if I wouldn’t, and then he said that he thought I liked him but didn’t want to admit it to himself because he didn’t want to get cocky, which is what happens when people assume people like them, and then we got interrupted by a mutual friend who needed me so I asked if we could finish talking some other time and he said yes, and that was it. we’ve seen each other at school every day and he always has this huge smile when he sees me, it’s weird but he has like this special smile for me and I haven’t seen it since he started dating this other girl. they’re still going strong, as far as I know, but he came up to me and looked like he wanted to talk but we got interrupted again so … that’s it. i’m so confused but happy because it’s a weight off my shoulders and it’s off my heart now so… yeah. I don’t know what my next step I or what he’s thinking and I don’t know what to do.

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 23, 2019 at 8:57 pm

      It sounds like he may have feelings for you, but there is no way to know for sure. You can try talking to him about how you feel, or you can just wait and hope that he makes a move first. You could also just hang out with him more so that he has more opportunities to reveal what his feelings are. Good luck!

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    Lawson

    September 13, 2019 at 2:10 pm

    I have a crush on a boy who I text a lot when i am having anxiety and he always calms me down. But today at school two people told him that I like him and another friend said he was making fun behind my back. He’s not the kind of boy to do that, and when we talk he gives signs that he is into me. What should I do?
    Please Help!

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      web admin

      September 13, 2019 at 6:54 pm

      It is likely that this friend who said he was making fun of you is jealous of your relationship, and it is unlikely that this friend that supports you is making fun of you. It is certain possible that he is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. At the very least, he is interested in being a supportive friend. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lawson!

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        Louise

        December 13, 2019 at 6:42 pm

        Help, I think I smothered my crush! We’d meet up once and awhile with mutual friends. Then we worked on a project together. We’d flirt and find ways too touch, like a hand on an arm, stand a little too close together. I’d send him a few messages and he’d reply. He still does reply. He still flirts a little but seems to be pulling away some. I think I got way too excited and blew up his phone a little too much. If I take a step back and give him some space while still keeping in touch, is it possible he’ll show interest in me again or always see me as too needy to be more then just friends with? Or should I just rip the band aid off and let I know I have a crush on him, even though he’s backed off a little he’s still texting and spending a bit of time with me

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          web admin

          January 5, 2020 at 11:11 am

          It is clear that the two of you are attracted to each other, but he may not be certain what your relationship holds. Speak directly with him about your thoughts and feelings.

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      Cyd

      September 16, 2019 at 3:28 pm

      Something similar is happening to one of my friends and I want to help her out

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        web admin

        December 20, 2019 at 9:19 pm

        Hopefully, Lawson will figure it out and let you know. Thanks for commenting, Cyd!

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    I

    September 5, 2019 at 2:08 am

    My crush is my family friend. 2 years ago, we were friends, so I asked him what do you think about my friend xxx. He ran away. Recently, I have a crush on him, so my friend did that confession for me and he said he doesn’t know who I am, but obviously he knows me. I feel like he likes me too, but He is toooo shy to express it. He smiles at me and looks at me when I am around. My crush’s friend’s friend has a crush on me, so he asked my friend my number. My friend gave it to him. When my crush discovered that the guy likes me has my number, he stops looking at me and paying attention on me. Yeah……When I am around, he just stops talking and tells his friends that I am around by eye contacting. My friends told me to give up cause there is no point of keep doing that?

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 5, 2019 at 10:31 pm

      The two of you share a social relationship. His behaviors are indications that he may be interested in maintaining a romantic relationship with you. Your crush felt hurt by an action that was not your responsibility. It seems that you need to make a decision about what you want for your future. You will find great benefit in speaking with the people in your life about your thoughts and feelings. This will help clear up any misconceptions or concerns. Have a great day, I!

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    Q

    September 5, 2019 at 1:38 am

    My crush is a family friend, and my friend told him that I like him. Instead of saying no, he said he doesn’t know who I am. I feel like he likes me but he is shy to express it, for example he keeps looking at me when I am around. There is another dude who asked my number from my friend and he texted me. THIS DUDE IS MY CRUSH’S freind’s friend,. When my crush found out the dude who likes me have my number, he stops looking at me and pays attention on me, but when I am around he stops talking. My friends told me to give up on my crush because there is no point of keeping doing it.

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      Q

      September 5, 2019 at 2:00 am

      I feel like his friend knows that we both like each other in a long distance(like each other, but there is no talking)I he jealous when my friend gave my number to him?

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        web admin

        September 5, 2019 at 9:11 pm

        Your crush seems to be interested in you. It is possible that he is uncertain about your feelings toward him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If he does not want to nourish a relationship with you, then decide if you believe whether or not it would be appropriate to reach out to this other person who messaged you. Have a great day, Q!

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      web admin

      September 5, 2019 at 9:11 pm

      Your crush seems to be interested in you. It is possible that he is uncertain about your feelings toward him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If he does not want to nourish a relationship with you, then decide if you believe whether or not it would be appropriate to reach out to this other person who messaged you. Have a great day, Q!

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    Mia

    August 28, 2019 at 10:08 am

    So I told a boy that I liked him and he was ok with it it as in he flirted with me back it was going on for around 2 months but as soon as we go back to school we are both very awkward and can’t talk to each other what do I do help

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 28, 2019 at 6:36 pm

      The two of you shared your thoughts and feelings with each other. The two of you are interested in maintaining a relationship, but you feel awkward and shy. You will find great benefit in nourishing this relationship by spending additional time together in person. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Mia!

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    Clara

    August 21, 2019 at 12:33 pm

    So this guy that I’ve knows ever since 5th grade (imma freshman) is really cute and I told him I liked him about all year ago, and he said he didn’t like me the same way. But lately (it’s been an entire summer break and a week of school) he’s been looking at me more, and most of the time I look back. But he even does it when I don’t. (I can see him out of the corner of my eye) Does he feel the same way now? Or is it just wishful thinking?

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      web admin

      August 21, 2019 at 3:50 pm

      You shared your thoughts and feelings with him a year ago, and he shared himself with you at that time. His feelings may have grown for you over the past year. He may be interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Make a decision about what you feel is appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Clara!

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    shi

    July 23, 2019 at 10:39 pm

    Ok so this boy I had been crushing on for a while had told me that he liked me over snapchat but he dated one of my friends but she was chill with it. I told him that i liked him back…….. I’m not sure if he still fees the same way….. what do i do now

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      web admin

      July 24, 2019 at 7:56 pm

      He has informed you that he likes you. You told him that you like him as well. He was dating your friend, and your friend is okay with you nourishing a relationship with this person. Since this is the case, you should make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Shi!

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    shi

    July 23, 2019 at 10:39 pm

    Ok so this boy I had been crushing on for a while had told me that he liked me over snapchat but he dated one of my friends but she was chill with it. I told him that i liked him back…….. I’m not sure if he still fees the same way

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      web admin

      July 24, 2019 at 7:55 pm

      He has informed you that he likes you. You told him that you like him as well. He was dating your friend, and your friend is okay with you nourishing a relationship with this person. Since this is the case, you should make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Shi!

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      Calysta

      December 2, 2019 at 5:17 pm

      Ok so I have a friend who I guess is fake, but she promised not to tell my crush I liked them, she did, and I sit by him in math, what now

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 20, 2020 at 1:11 pm

        Your crush is aware of your feelings for him. There is no reason to pretend that he is uncertain about what you want. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.

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