My Crush Knows I Like Him and He Keeps Looking at Me : What to do Next

By on March 21, 2016

No matter how he found out, now he knows. Your crush finally knows you like him! What does he do with that information? Does he rush up to you and proclaim his feelings? Is he completely avoiding you because he doesn’t feel the same way?

None of those? Well, what if he keeps looking at you over and over again without saying a word or making any moves? While this is the most annoying thing a guy can do after he finds out you like him, it’s one of the most common. Here is what you should do if your crush knows you like him and he keeps looking at you.

But first…

First let’s talk about what him looking at you could possibly mean:

  1. He’s Checking You Out

Some guys don’t take notice to a girl until they find out she’s interested. This could be him just checking you out and deciding if he has feelings or not.

  1. He Feels Self Conscious

He could just be the shy type and is feeling self-conscious about himself. He might be looking at you to see if you’re looking at him or not. If you are, he may alter his stance/position to look better.

  1. He Might Like You Back

A lot of the time, when someone finds out you like them and they keep staring at you it’s because the feeling is mutual.

 

What to do Next!

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  1. Smile at Him

If someone knows you like him and he keeps looking at you, don’t just stare awkwardly. Smile!! Smiling at your crush is a perfect way to let him know you are friendly and approachable. Many men get intimidated and rather shy when they find out a girl is into them. It makes them nervous and they may not know how to approach the situation. So go ahead and smile. They’ll take it as a positive signal from you.

  1. Wave

Don’t just leave it at a smile. He could mistake that for your politeness or not even realize you’re directing the smile at him. So send him a smile AND a wave. This shows that not only are you acknowledging him, but you’re making the first move to initiate some sort of contact. The next move is up to him.

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  1. Talk to His Friends

If you really want to know how a guy is feeling towards you or even why he keeps looking at you when he knows you like him, ask his friends. They’re like the keeper of all guy secrets! Just start chatting up one of his friend and casually mention that your crush keeps looking at you and you want to know why. They might divulge what’s really going on in his head and it will no longer be a mystery to you!

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  1. Gauge his Body Language

Body language gives away SO much more than people think. If you want to know what he’s thinking, just watch him for a little bit – just don’t be creepy about it. Firstly, if he’s looking at you after finding out that you like him, he must be thinking about you in some way. Is his body turned toward you? Does he keep looking at you even when you notice he’s looking? These are all signs that he might be into you as well.

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  1. Go Talk to Him

For the love of all that is right in this world, JUST GO TALK TO HIM! The fact that he’s looking at you so much might mean that he’s just trying to get your attention. He could also be too shy to make the first move even if he does like you back. Or maybe he doesn’t know you enough to have those feelings and is just checking you out because maybe he wants to see if he likes you, too. Either way, you’re not going to find out by sitting back and watching him look at you from across the room.

Guys are sometimes really difficult to decode. If you’re stuck figuring out why he’s looking at you, try these tips.

354 Comments

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    Mya

    February 12, 2020 at 7:51 am

    Hey, I have a bit of a confusing situation. So, just to give a bit of background, I’m in high school, there’s this boy I like. He’s been in my school for around 2 years now, and I was the girl who always talked to him, because we got moved next to each other by a seating arrangement. I stopped talking to him, because I felt too shy and we got moved away from each other, and I also liked him at this point, and I panicked, as I thought my feelings were not mutual. Since then, he’s been looking at me, a lot, for the whole time I’ve known him. I’ve made moves on him, given him my number, but he has very strict parents, and he is very socially awkward, and he doesn’t even have is own phone. I know that these all sound like red flags, but I don’t feel like they are, I feel like there’s something there. He often looks at me, even smiling when I’m not looking, according to people who have observed him when I’m not looking. I know this is true as I once tested whether what my friends were saying is true, as he was, in fact, looking at me. He then quickly looked away, kind of at the floor. We don’t talk to each other much, but we look at each other. I often pretend that he doesn’t exist or ignore him, I’m afraid of my own feelings, and I have fear of rejection. I just want to know whether he likes me or not. I like this guy, and I feel a connection somehow, but he’s very shy, he’s not the talkative type, but I like him. He always smiles at me, especially when I’m not looking, I can often feel him looking at me when he’s near. There’s just a lot of signs, but I don’t know what to do about it. Help?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 12, 2020 at 10:29 am

      It seems that you have allowed your fears to impact your relationship. The behaviors of your crush as indications that he may be interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future, and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If possible, then spend additional time with him in person.

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    Anonymous

    February 5, 2020 at 6:13 pm

    I had this crush on this guy for a while and later without my permission, my friend told him. All he said was “Good to know.” I messaged him on this group this thinking it was him but it turned out to be his friend taking his phone and messaging me back. He said that the account was just a joke, but it turned out that it was his really one. I’m just confused at this point. After he says that he’s sorry, but he doesn’t like me and he was sorry how it happened. He hasn’t had the guts to talk to me in person about it and neither have I. It’s been a few months since then. It’s weird though. When I’m walking by he always turns to look at me. In my head I’m just thinking he’s a jerk, because he just hangs around these friends of his and does whatever they do. He’s also a pretty stoic type and lots of girls in my grade like him. For a while I haven’t liked him, but the looks have become more and more recent and it kinda freaks me out. His locker is near mine and I saw him and a group of his friends gathered around it. I was getting stuff out with my friend and walked away. Here’s the weird thing. I didn’t even tell her that he was looking at me like that and she say that he was staring it me the whole time I was walking away. I’m so confused. He couldn’t still feel guilty about before, but he couldn’t also like me? Could he? He’s part of the popular group and his friends usually hang around the popular girls. I can’t just go up to him and talk to him about it. I’m starting to get strange feelings again. I’m not sure if it’s anxiousness or something else but I don’t know what to do, or why I’m asking for help?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 6, 2020 at 6:32 pm

      While it is possible he likes you, it seems more likely that he was staring because he was thinking about what had happened to you or he was thinking about something random. When he apologized before about the friend having his phone and seemed to feel awkward about it all, he was probably being honest. He felt bad about letting you down so hard because he didn’t mean for it to happen like that. For now, the best thing you could do is focus on healing and moving on.

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        Anonymous

        February 6, 2020 at 8:00 pm

        So you don’t think he likes me? I’m not quite so certain as well, but there seems to be this strange tension when we are in a classroom together to passing by. In class, he leans back and looks my direction. His guy friend is also there on the other side of me but it still feels strange. He did it at a dance that we just had, as I was dancing in a circle with my friends. It seemed like wherever I was, he would gravitate closer to me. I’m not sure if I’m imagining stuff. Everyone was jumping to the music and about four times, his back was pressing against mine. I felt really nervous. I’m not sure if this was by accident or what? One of his friends playfully bumped him and our backs detached. He looked kinda pissed off and was glaring at him. Still, I’m not certain if it was just him being mad at his friend for pushing him or rather something else. I’m wish I could just know what he’s thinking when he looks at me. I wish I could know what he feels and if there are any sparks at all?

        • web admin

          web admin

          February 7, 2020 at 5:34 pm

          All of this could be because he likes you, but it could also be entirely random. He hasn’t done enough to know how he feels. If you want to know if he likes you, make a move. It’s entirely possible that he likes you and just never made a move because he is afraid that you aren’t interested. If you are feeling brave, make a move and see what happens! Good luck!

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    Dans

    February 2, 2020 at 10:31 am

    Hi! So.. Theres rhis guy in my school, we have had.. Umm, history, we can say.. The thing is that last year, the first time i saw him, he smiled at me and i developed a little crush on him, so i decided to text him thru snapchat, it was a small chat but he was the one that asked a lot although i texted him first. After that, i saw he was constantly staring at me, but its important for you to know that his the popular one of my school, meaning he has a lot of girls behind him.. Well, the thing is that after constant eye contact, my best friend and i, headed to the courtyard, he and his friends eated on a place we neede to pass to get to the place we ate, one day, when we passed, one of his friends said”Hey look, there comes the one you like, you like her right”so i stared at them and they were looking at me. So the whole year was like that, constant eye contact, he sometimes smiled at me, his friends would bother him with me or the way around, but we never talked. The year ended and we went to vacays. The first day of school, whrn he saw me again, he had the greatest smile i have ever seen and he couldnt take his eyes off me. But now, he knows i like him, and there is A LOT of eye contact each day but his friends no longer bother him with me nor he smiles to me, now he just stares at me serious and when i look back at him he turns away sometimes or i do so.. But sometimes my friends tell me that when he sees me and i dont see him back, he smiles.. And i have not seen him smile to me again tho.. So i wanted help because he knows i like him and i dont know if he likes me back..

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 3, 2020 at 8:19 pm

      It is certainly possible that he is interested in you. You should take this time to make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.

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    massy

    January 28, 2020 at 1:57 pm

    hi Okay so im and girl and my best friends a girl and idk but i think i like her but i don’t want to, we are REALLY touchy filly with each other like we would say “I LOVE you” and “I love you more” we would hold hands in the hallways, she would lay on my lap or , we would hug each other around the waist or i would her shoulder we would like even kiss each other on the cheek and stuff (BTW she also a girl) but one of my friends im also close with she keeps saying stuff like “you guys are so cute” Or “yall should date” or “i think she likes you” stuff like that and i would just be like “STOPP” or what ever but yeah i dont know what this means.I think im catching feelings for her but i really dont want to because shes my best friend so idk but i kinda want to know if she likes me back so what do you thin

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 28, 2020 at 9:51 pm

      It is clear that the two of you share a strong emotional relationship, and it is reasonable for the two of you to be attracted to each other. Determine what you want for the future, and speak with her about your feelings. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time together in person.

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        massy

        January 30, 2020 at 1:46 pm

        omg thank you so much for responding, i have another question.. so today we were like locking hands and talking and saying “I love you” and everyone outside was like staring at us but we didnt care we and we were like hugging and stuff around the waist and when we were in the hallways and stuff i put my arm around he shoulder and she used her arm to lock hands with my arm that was around her shoulder.. ANYWAYS!!……. what does this mean like dose she like me is she being freindy or something i dont understand and then when we were walking in the hallway and stuff we were laughing and i was puting my arm over hers and stuff and our friends were like “must be nice ” and “You guys are so cute” and i said “shut up” and she didnt say anything she just kinda looked at me..? im very confused plz help

        sorry for this long Paragraph >.<

        • web admin

          web admin

          February 3, 2020 at 10:49 pm

          It is clear that the two of you share a strong emotional relationship. You will find that you can strengthen your connection by spending additional time together in person. Speak with your partner about your thoughts and feelings, and give your partner an opportunity to share themselves with you as well.

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    Naveh Johnson

    January 14, 2020 at 10:02 pm

    Okay so here’s the situation…. my crush has liked me since 9th grade were in 10th grade now…. and at first I thought okay he’s just looking at my body or something not important… until I realized he looks at me A LOT…. everytime were in the hallway or in class or any opportunity really. And my thing is, I know he likes me and I also know he knows I like him but the reason we aren’t dating is probably because I’m not the “typical ” type of pretty skinny girl that he (being on the more popular side of hs) would typically be seen with and I’m pretty sure the reason it hasn’t gone anywhere or the reason he hasn’t made the first move is because he’s worried about everybody’s opinions on who he dates…. and me having my feelings constantly shattered by the fact that it’s not gonna go anywhere is damaging my emotions and takes focus out of my grades and my life… I can’t stop thinking about him!!!!! And everytime he looks at me it’s like JUST DATE ME ALREADY. I need advice because I’m pretty sure my friends don’t believe me because again he’s not the typical guy to like me… I’m alone with my thoughts and overthinking and I’m going crazy because I don’t know what to do HELP

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 17, 2020 at 2:34 pm

      If he likes you and won’t date you because you don’t fit his image, then he isn’t worth your time anyway. If he hasn’t made a move because he doesn’t like you, then you can’t make him suddenly like you. Either way, the best thing you can do is move on. If he decides to become more mature and stop caring about his image in the future, then he can always make a move then. Good luck!

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    Trevion Jones

    December 10, 2019 at 8:27 pm

    so I have a crush on this boy well I don’t know if I do for sure anymore . anyways, im a guy and I like him but his friends say he isn’t gay and he said it his self but I just don’t believe him. anyways I got his snapchat and when I text him I get short answers or left on seen. then one of his friends told him I liked him and he blocked me on snapchat I became distant but I still have those feelings and he stares at me a lot now, what do I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 5, 2020 at 11:36 am

      He informed you that he was not gay. You pressed on, and this led to him blocking you. Learn from this lesson and apply that knowledge to your future relationships.

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    Amina

    December 10, 2019 at 4:34 pm

    hi okay so i like this guy and im in 9th grade and so (im going to start from the begining) so when school started i had a slight crush on him i told one of my friends and my friend told him and he was like im cute and stuff and then like i was posting stuff on my instagram story if i was pretty and stuff and he was like YES and stuff and i was like OMGGG and stuff and then so my friend asked him if he lked me and he was like “I cant tell you that bro” with a smile and i was like panicking bc i have bad anxiety and stuff so like during like october threw now we look at each other ALL THE TIMEE! one time i was walking witah my friend in the cafeteria and he was just STARING AT ME i literally saw it! and i look at him and then i got awkward and the i looked away really quick .. and this just kept happening and then so its December now so like 2 weeks ago i told one of my friends i liked him and she was like omg and then kept looking at him and we were like giggling and laughing and then he looked over where we were and just started STARING so hard at me and i didnt know what to do so i whisperer to me friend “omg hes staring at me agian” and she turend around and we booth started laughing and the like 2 weeks after that i gave my friend my instagram pass word and stuff so she could log in and text one of my friends and BUT SHE DIDN’T she texted my crush and she told me and i was panicking and then the text said “i have to tell you sum” and he said “what do you need to tell me”? and it said “i like you”and then he was like “you dont thing im cute without my mustache”? (he had a mustache) and i said “idgaf about how you look with out your mustache i like you thats it ” and then he said “thanks” and i said “for what” and he didn’t text back after that he just read the message and didnt text back and then i came to schol and had a whole panick attack in class because of this i was soo nervous and stuff a shy so for the whold day i been just forcing myself not to look and him i dont know if he likes me because hes being so CONFUSING and i was so mad at my friend for doing that because i didnt ask her to do that but yeah that what happend ..!! PLEASE HELP ME!! because i dont know if he dose or not thanks 😉

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 7, 2020 at 10:30 pm

      If he doesn’t do anything within a couple of days, he probably isn’t interested. People often reply with “thanks” when they can’t think of anything to say and don’t feel the same way. It is still possible he likes you and just froze, but probably not. On the bright side, at least you’ll finally know how he feels so that you can move on and not worry about it anymore.

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    IRMA

    December 5, 2019 at 2:20 pm

    HI ok its hard to say but i have a crush on a boy about now 2 years i know stupid right we never talk the problem is he know that i like him and he keeps look it at me we study on the same school i see him every day not a lot i really love we i see him i be happy if i dont i feel sad and my friends know that but one of them says he talks like a girl he is not pretty and sometimes we he next to me she sayd ooh you have a big ass sorry for that word you know and some other words and i feel bad very bad i really dont like this kind of stuffs you i think that i wanna over him i dont know . What should i do ?

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      irma

      December 6, 2019 at 4:18 am

      pls help me what should i do every time see hem i be happy and just wanna hug hem but i dont think he would be with me

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 13, 2020 at 8:09 pm

        Try flirting with him and see how he responds. You never know what could be possible unless you try. Good luck, Irma!

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 14, 2020 at 12:42 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is interested in you. However, you are not interested in maintaining a relationship with him. Focus your attention elsewhere, and determine what you want for your future.

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