My Crush Knows I Like Him and He Keeps Looking at Me : What to do Next

By on March 21, 2016

No matter how he found out, now he knows. Your crush finally knows you like him! What does he do with that information? Does he rush up to you and proclaim his feelings? Is he completely avoiding you because he doesn’t feel the same way?

None of those? Well, what if he keeps looking at you over and over again without saying a word or making any moves? While this is the most annoying thing a guy can do after he finds out you like him, it’s one of the most common. Here is what you should do if your crush knows you like him and he keeps looking at you.

But first…

First let’s talk about what him looking at you could possibly mean:

  1. He’s Checking You Out

Some guys don’t take notice to a girl until they find out she’s interested. This could be him just checking you out and deciding if he has feelings or not.

  1. He Feels Self Conscious

He could just be the shy type and is feeling self-conscious about himself. He might be looking at you to see if you’re looking at him or not. If you are, he may alter his stance/position to look better.

  1. He Might Like You Back

A lot of the time, when someone finds out you like them and they keep staring at you it’s because the feeling is mutual.

 

What to do Next!

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  1. Smile at Him

If someone knows you like him and he keeps looking at you, don’t just stare awkwardly. Smile!! Smiling at your crush is a perfect way to let him know you are friendly and approachable. Many men get intimidated and rather shy when they find out a girl is into them. It makes them nervous and they may not know how to approach the situation. So go ahead and smile. They’ll take it as a positive signal from you.

  1. Wave

Don’t just leave it at a smile. He could mistake that for your politeness or not even realize you’re directing the smile at him. So send him a smile AND a wave. This shows that not only are you acknowledging him, but you’re making the first move to initiate some sort of contact. The next move is up to him.

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  1. Talk to His Friends

If you really want to know how a guy is feeling towards you or even why he keeps looking at you when he knows you like him, ask his friends. They’re like the keeper of all guy secrets! Just start chatting up one of his friend and casually mention that your crush keeps looking at you and you want to know why. They might divulge what’s really going on in his head and it will no longer be a mystery to you!

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  1. Gauge his Body Language

Body language gives away SO much more than people think. If you want to know what he’s thinking, just watch him for a little bit – just don’t be creepy about it. Firstly, if he’s looking at you after finding out that you like him, he must be thinking about you in some way. Is his body turned toward you? Does he keep looking at you even when you notice he’s looking? These are all signs that he might be into you as well.

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  1. Go Talk to Him

For the love of all that is right in this world, JUST GO TALK TO HIM! The fact that he’s looking at you so much might mean that he’s just trying to get your attention. He could also be too shy to make the first move even if he does like you back. Or maybe he doesn’t know you enough to have those feelings and is just checking you out because maybe he wants to see if he likes you, too. Either way, you’re not going to find out by sitting back and watching him look at you from across the room.

Guys are sometimes really difficult to decode. If you’re stuck figuring out why he’s looking at you, try these tips.

302 Comments

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    Celaena

    May 14, 2019 at 6:35 am

    OKAY SO
    I have a crush on this guy, (he doesn’t know…I think)
    Him and his friends were “Rating girls”?? Like from Ugly, average, or pretty. Keep in mind he’s REALLY shy! I couldn’t imagine him doing something like that…but I mean okay. His best friend told me that he said me and a bunch of other girls were ugly…but like…I don’t know how to say this without sounding vain…I know I’m not…. DOES THAT MEAN HE DOESNT LIKE ME?? Or is he like, saying I am cause he likes me….
    Sometimes during class and during the transition to different classes he stares at me, but when I look at him he looks away. I kind of do it too…
    I tried to “smile and wave” but he awkwardly nodded his head and looked away…
    We are both in the school council and we are the captains, so when we make speeches, or conduct assemblies, he touches my arm, and says “don’t read too fast ha..”
    BUT we aren’t like “FRIENDS” so we don’t hang out, or even TALK! and I know that I need to become friends with him…BUT ITS HARD OK?!
    ALSO HE ISNT TAKEN
    NO ONE ELSE LIKES HIM (I think??)
    AND THERES A RUMOR GOING AROUND THAT HE LIKES ME!
    Help me lmao

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      web admin

      May 14, 2019 at 7:59 pm

      It is certainly possible that he said that you were ugly because he was hiding his feelings. It sounds as though he may be interested in you, because of the rumor going around. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Celaena!

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    Nadeen X Jimin

    April 10, 2019 at 2:11 pm

    Okay so I did one of the thing from the chart which obviously look at your crush and smile and wave but his reaction was that he looked at me and he smiled and did a peace sign. Like in my head I think it’s like hi wassup thing but at the same time he always looks at me and one thing he told me was how come you don’t say hi anymore like wtf does that mean like he knows that I like him but it’s so confusing. Ya I can say hi and have a conversation with him but like he is not a shy dude he wants me to say hi to him I’m so confused

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      web admin

      April 10, 2019 at 11:16 pm

      The two of you shared a moment of communication. Your behaviors were positive and he responded in kind. This may mean that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Nadeen!

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    Monalisa

    March 31, 2019 at 5:44 pm

    im a bit older than most who probably read these things, im not very expierenced at all. Only liked 3 guys in my lifetime. I have literally no confidence, have a lot of issues(im working on) i dont wear make up (through choice, if a guy dont like me then im. Not changing for him) . Ive been going to this group thing where we play cards in like forever, im. Quite friendly with everyone

    About a year ago this new guy started coming and i was curious. We started chatting from The off. He seemed quite shy at the start so i like to think i helped him blend in with everyone. I became intruiged by him and started looking at him (which at one point i thought he noticed but idk) sometimes he would say the odd thing then other times hed be shy. once i like someone i tend to really like them but i tried to calm the looks down. I tried to find out more about him, it turned out he was the grandson of the guy who runs the thing lol and i asked for his age but the guy i asked said he was 20/21 which i thought was okay. So i tried to act cool around him (he doesn’t go to them all, so i often go for over a month without seeing him) i also figured out hes related to someone else who runs his local but i dont know if shes his aunt or mother (more likely aunt since her fb shows two kids?) at the end of june last year i was there till the very end, i won the competition and he was really suppportive and told her he wanted to stay to watch (ive since seen him around others and he didnt seem as enthusiastic) and hed turned round to smile at me properly so i tried being cool again. I asked the woman his age and it turned out he was a lot younger than we thought so that was it before the summer and i tried my best to forget about him.

    the next time i saw him in September i ended up with laryngitis so i couldnt speak to him at all, which was some kind of relief. He seemed really interested and caring, even listening to my mum talking about it. He asked the week after if i was speaking again and wanted to make sure i was 😂 he didnt come for a while. i was going sway again and when i saw him again, i tried walking away from him but he called me back and asked where i was and again seemed interested. I saw him one time after that and for the first time ever we sat at break. He was completely mute and pretty much avoided me, even looking at the people beside me as if i wasnt there lol. I did try to engage with him but its hard lol next, it was the Xmas ones and it was two nights in a row. So the first night we spoke a bit and as he helps out i dont drink tea or coffee etc so he brought 3 cups over and i presumed he knew i didnt, he brought the 4th one over and i said i dont drink tea sure lol and he whispered behind me just to leave it then ran away 😂 he came over to speak to his relative who was on my table and went out of his way to speak to me, then he was playing to my mum (CRINGE) and he turned to me to say shed beaten me 😂 at the end we bumped into each other and he walked by me so slowly so he didnt touch me he didnt say a word.. I felt like he’d noticed me and we was the only two people in the room (CORNY I KNOW) so the next night comes… HE BARELY SAYS A WORD ALL NIGHT we even sat out and he only sat down for a minute spoke two words then got up again 😂 i won a prize so i asked what it was and he joked it was £100 i said it again and hed done the same thing only this time smiled at me like a cheshire cat for more than a few minutes (felt like forever). . He went outside which made me paranoid as it was the same guy i asked for his age
    He came back in and i told him it was my bday here next month, he continuly asked what date so i said mine… And his bdays only 3 days after mine😂 i was slightly dissapointed he didnt remember the next week, but he seemed tired

    So id gotten my hopes up hed be there for my bday and he wasnt😈mum even got me cake n everything. Was so gutted. I didnt even see him for another month and only by chance i saw him when i went to one i usually dont go to (i was going away again) and i convinced myself he noticed me, he was laughing at the door and was really chatty but wwnt all quiet when i thought he saw me (i was a bit further away) again he was really quiet when we was playing with each other and he says my name in a really dragged out the a cos i did it wrong (HES SO DISTRACTING!!!). I saw him a week later and this time he was a bit more talkative. The other guy didnt go so i asked his bro and my guy goes (yeah i knew he wasnt coming cos he called grandma) like sounded like he was trying to impreess. After break i had a glass of water and someone asked me if i was finished and he goes you thIRSty, i accidently blurted out i was hot!! (CRINGE) a while later i was walking to my seat and he was standing at the table, he turned round quickly, saw it was me then ran to his chair throwing his card down beside me (like who does that??) then started winding me up claiming i hadnt beaten him all night (when infact i had) even when i said i did he repeated it again. When he was collecting the money i asked him if my mum payed for me and he whispered, yeah barely looking at me the whole time.
    At the end of the night i convinced myself again he was looking at me, i wasnt looking at him to begin with but when i turned round i thought he was. Didnt see him again till this month and he was quiet both times despite me trying to talk to him the first time(the other guy was on our table and they were talking a lot) , he then came down to my side while i was sitting on the chair (he tidies up) he asked twice if i was sitting on the chair despite me answering the first time, i accidently yelled a litle bit and he ran away qickly again seemed a bit frustrated
    Other things i forgot he asked me y i wasnt speaking , someone said i wasnt well and he said you look a bit white. He always looks up at me with his eye wide open, and sometimes looks me up and down on my face
    Ive been paranoid hes been playing me or doing it for a bet, but wouldnt he make more of an effort instead of being mute all the time, he could get me alone anytime.( would ve devastated if the guy i asked his age did this as hes like an older brother to me)
    He always seemes to pay attention to me but sometimes barely looks at me only when he has to
    He says my name a LOT a lot more than he has to even more than my own parents do!

    Hes a farmer and I found out he goes dancing. I was worried he was gay but i looked him up (i know i shouldnt but was curious lol) nothing on his fb but his instagram suggested straight and mum knows i like him. And hasnt said she thinks hes gay. Didnt think he has a gf till last week when he didnt sit down on break and was on his phone a lot and heard his relative say her
    feel like i cant ask anyone any qs about him as it would make it look obvious i like him when i have a smile on my face when its anything to do with him and people might start to wonder or he’ll find out.

    I feel silly for doing this but im desperate for answers.its driving me mad

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 31, 2019 at 11:23 pm

      It sounds as though you have a lot of questions regarding your relationship. He has attempted to nourish a relationship with you, so he is not gay. You said that he enjoys dancing, which is enjoyed by both heterosexual and homosexual people. You will find benefit in focusing your energy on your partner, and nourishing this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Strengthen your relationship with his family. Continue to share your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Monalisa!

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    Kathryn

    March 23, 2019 at 1:34 am

    Ok my crush does stare and smile at me, he deliberately moves chairs or tables to see me, at lunch he was walking by and he saw my best friend and stopped and looked over looking for me but when he noticed I wasn’t there he walked away, he is always around me somehow, his friends keep friending me and inviting me to things like to hang out or just talk, he knows that I like him because I sent him a later two months ago but he hasn’t told me anything, he told my friends oh ok when he received it and he opened it later and he looked happy but my friend Eric said he looked sad but I don’t believe him since he didn’t see josh because he wasn’t the one who gave him the letter or say his reaction, he doesn’t even know josh I do because we are friends. It seems like he wants to talk to me because he so close to me but backs away idk if that’s him giving me hints he feels the same way or what. He stares at me and when I catch him he just still stares and smiles at me. Does he like me and what should I do? We are friends but ever since that letter I have been kind of avoiding him because I am embarrassed, he looks sad because I am not talking to him.

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      web admin

      March 23, 2019 at 1:58 am

      His behaviors are indications that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. His friends are attempting to help the two of you maintain a relationship. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Kathryn!

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        Kathryn

        March 23, 2019 at 11:26 pm

        Ok I am going to talk to him and give him a chance to explain his feelings for me. Thank you and have a good day!

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          web admin

          March 25, 2019 at 11:47 pm

          Thank you for sharing your support comment. It is always beneficial to speak with the people in your life about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Kathryn!

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        Kathryn

        March 23, 2019 at 11:28 pm

        A romantic relationship?

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          web admin

          March 25, 2019 at 11:49 pm

          Determine what you think is appropriate, and take whatever actions will lead you to your goal. Have a great day, Kathryn!

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    Ale

    March 19, 2019 at 5:43 pm

    So I have liked a man for…a while. Over a year and a half. I had caught him checking me out and decided to ask him out to his face. He seemed surprised that I asked him and told me he had a gf. I let it go, didn’t pursue it. Then over this past summer, he started staring at me more, smiling more. He was no longer looking when he thought I didn’t notice, he was locking eyes with me and talking to me in short bits. He’s not sociable to the other women around us or anyone else, but readily greets and speaks to me. I can tell he’s shy and introverted. I’m actually not. So I feel that this guy is into me, knows that I like him from when I previously asked him out, and is currently single from how he treats me now as opposed to how he used to treat me when he was definitely seeing someone. Plus some light searching on social media confirms that he’s probably single.

    So knowing that he’s shy and I am really outgoing, I figure the best way to let him know I’m single is to ask him out by a quick letter-yes stationery- to ask him to drinks and gave him my cell and told him to text me. He has the letter. No response. I also picked this way to be more discreet in asking as we are rarely one on one.

    He still checks for me. I really don’t know what to do. I am quite sure that I’m not nuts or that I have misinterpreted his nonverbal signals. I “internetted” for a while to make sure I didn’t humiliate myself a second time asking him out. Should I leave him alone or what?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 19, 2019 at 11:08 pm

      His behaviors may be indications that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. You have determined that he is single, so make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Ale!

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    Pan

    March 16, 2019 at 1:23 am

    Hi. My crush knows that i like her and i’m a girl. We are both bi but she’s masculine. Awhile ago i was crying and my friend caught her looking at me. She also laughs at my joke secretly, my other friend also caught her. And yesterday, i tweeted something and when she got to our class. I wasn’t around. She talked about my tweet out of nowhere. And she was teased by her friend but…. she likes another girl and she does not like her genuinely, said by the others.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 16, 2019 at 11:24 pm

      You are interested in developing a relationship with this person, and it is certain possible that she wants to maintain a relationship with you. Make a decision about what you want for your future at this time. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings, and give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with her in person. Have a great day, Pan!

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    Camille

    March 8, 2019 at 8:34 pm

    Hi,
    My friend knows I like this guy and I’ve never had to go up and talk to him. During a conversation with her through text, there was a longer pause? She suddenly sent a picture she took of a text with someone else. I looked closer and she was texting him about my crush on him. She said that I thought he was hot and wanted his phone number. The thing that shocked me, is that he said okay and actually gave it. My friend kept on taking pictures of what what happening in her convo with him. He wanted to know who I was and my friend sent a picture of me and her. I was so frustrated but glad he knew now. I just didn’t want him to find out this way. Suddenly she said that he was going to text me because she gave him my number. I was scared and freaking out. He texted “Heyy”. We texted a bit after that. My friend told me that she was going to introduce us the next time we see each other. I don’t know what to do when I see him?!! I’ll either end up stuttering or sprinting towards the bathroom. I’m really nervous and need lots of advice to help me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 9, 2019 at 7:21 pm

      Your friend has been clear about your feelings, and he is likely excited that you are attracted to him. He likely will think that you will be honest about your feelings. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with him will be beneficial for your relationship. When you see him in person, speak with him directly. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Camille!

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        Camille

        April 6, 2019 at 6:20 am

        I’m not exactly sure if he like me though. I have some doubts and some good things. The doubts are that he initiated the text with him and me, but I usually start the 2 conversations after it. I asked how his spring break was and he asked if I had Instagram because it was on his story. I’m not sure if that was a sly way of me giving my insta to him, or him just not wanting to text it. Another thing is that since he’s known I’ve liked him, we’ve only talked once at the end of our youth group. My friend told him my name and we shook hands. I guess he was thinking I was going out of the worship room on his side, but I chickened our and went on the other. I felt bad so I went back to the room and he wasn’t there. I went down stairs that led to the buildings exit and saw him opening the door for me. (I’m stupid and didn’t say anything) I guess the reason why he wasn’t starting the texts was because he was on spring break. I’m not sure? I’m so frustrated and confused!

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 6, 2019 at 6:22 pm

          The two of you seem to have a strong social relationship. Some people do not initiate conversations as much as others. He may feel uncertain or confused about your feelings toward him. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Camille!

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            Camille

            April 7, 2019 at 7:54 pm

            But are you sure it’s not just him getting tired of me? I mean we really only spoke once. There’s this big event at my church this Wednesday also. I was hoping I could really get to know him there. But I’m also worried I’ll take him away from his friends. I’m not exactly sure if he’s just being nice to me or if he has some intresf. Of course I can’t just go up to him and ask, because that could get weird. But he shows some signs like I mentioned before. I’m worried of what he might think of me when we get to know each other. Though through text he seems nice. I’m SO confused! 😫

            • web admin

              web admin

              April 8, 2019 at 9:37 pm

              There is no way to know his feelings unless you speak with him. Take this time to determine what you want for this relationship. It is likely appropriate for you to talk with him at the church event. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Camille!

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                Camille

                April 9, 2019 at 4:53 am

                P.S before he went over to talk to me that night. I saw him looking at me on and off. He was rubbing his face (nervously?) I got scared so I tried not to look. I feel bad.

                • web admin

                  web admin

                  April 10, 2019 at 5:26 pm

                  His behaviors may be indications that he is interested in you. He may be uncertain or confused about his feelings toward you. Determine what you want for your future, and take appropriate action. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Camille!

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                    Camille

                    April 27, 2019 at 9:28 am

                    Hi again,
                    What should I do if when we’re texting it seems more one sided? I ask questions but he just answers. He told me about himself though. He writes songs and about his ex. The coincidental part is that he broke up with his ex he dated a long time, the same month I started to like him. I didn’t know he was dating and we didn’t know each other yet. I’m confused? I don’t know what to ask him, without bugging him if I am. I asked if I was and he just said that “Don’t be sorry and that compared to others that texted him in the middle of the night, it was nothing 😂” I’m confused if I’m scaring him away or something. I don’t know? He said that his ex cheated on him after a 5 year relationship with another guy. I felt heartbroken for him. My chest ached for the pain he went through.

                    • web admin

                      web admin

                      April 27, 2019 at 5:58 pm

                      It is certain that he still feels a strong emotional connection with his ex. It is likely that the relationship is no longer viable, but it is clear that she is still on his mind. This may make him distant or emotionally unreliable. It is possible that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Camille!

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