Is Someone Missing You If You Dream About Them?

By on May 9, 2018

When you dream about a specific person in your dream, it is common to apply whatever happened in the dream, into a ‘real life’ setting. For example, if you were to break up with your boyfriend and then dream about getting back with him, it would be easy to believe that getting back with him is the right thing to do … Except, that isn’t always the case. 

Dreams are presented to us in code and symbols, which we then must decipher ourselves. One person may have a dream that means one thing to them, but the very same dream could mean something entirely different to someone else. Not only that, dreams rarely mean what they’re actually showing you. 

There is an old saying that goes something along the lines of: 

“When you dream about someone, it means they are missing you.”

Although a nice sentiment, it isn’t exactly a true one. There is a chance that the person you have just dreamed about DOES miss you, but there’s a bigger chance that the person is a reflection of something in your own life. I had a dream about Tom Hardy last night, but he doesn’t even know that I exist, so there’s no way that he could miss my presence. 

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Dreaming of someone in particular, such as a friend or a relative, could be your mind’s way of saying that there’s something you need to see or understand. Perhaps you aren’t getting the bigger picture about that person, or there’s something in your mind that just doesn’t work out right. Maybe you think that your aunt may have been acting weird when you saw her last week? A dream about her that then follows on from that meeting and realisation could be a sign that you know something is wrong, but haven’t yet addressed it … but need to. Your mind is telling you that something isn’t quite finished or right yet. 

If you were to dream about friends that you had at school, it could be because they miss you, or that you miss them. Or, more likely, that you miss a part of that time. Mortgages, marriages, medications … Adult life is tough and with so many daily obstacles. If you’ve been having a hard time, dreaming about old school friends is probably your mind’s way of saying that you miss that time, not specifically the people of that time. 

Let’s say that you dream about your boss. Your boss probably doesn’t miss you when you are not at the office. No boss likes their employees that much (or vice versa). What it could mean, on the other hand, is that you have a cross to bear with your boss, or that you are missing something boss-like in yourself. Maybe you need to work on your confidence levels to finally get that promotion you’ve been trying to get for a number of years? Maybe you could take a peek at your air of authority and see if it would be better suited to a higher job role? 

If your boss is constantly stripping you down and making you feel uncomfortable or sad in your dream, there’s a chance that you’re having a problem with authority itself right now. Maybe you don’t agree with everything your boss has had to say lately, or think that a project would work better if done your way, rather than theirs? 

It might be time to face the beast or learn how to live with it a little better. Your dreams are often a side effect of what you are already feeling — your current emotions and pent-up frustrations. The only way to let those go is to deal with them. Ask why you keep getting passed over for that big promotion, or speak to your boss about your new and innovative ideas. Sitting down and waiting for something to happen isn’t the best course of action. Sadly, not all good things don’t come to those who wait. 

If you dream about an ex, don’t go running back there. That’s not always what your dreams mean, even if that’s exactly what they portray. Look what happens in the dream — when you get back together, do you live your happily ever after? Or are things exactly the same as they were before. That could be your mind’s way of telling you that nothing will change if you get back together — you already know that, so by going against that, you’re going against yourself. 

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It’s hard to let go of someone that you really care about, especially when all you do is dream that they miss you. Sadly, dreaming about someone doesn’t always mean that they do miss you. It’s usually a sign that you need to work on something within yourself. 


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    December 28, 2019 at 8:07 am

    Last night I dreamt that my ex boyfriend kissed me and we made out for a bit. While we were doing it, I thought, he would never cheat on her, especially not with me. Then suddenly we were on FaceTime or some video call and his current girlfriend was in the background, and it felt so real that I remember thinking, maybe they’re in an open relationship. But he said he would call me later so we could continue and then I woke up. I thought I was over him but I always get these types of dreams when I feel the most confident that I am over him. Idk what to think of it.

    • web admin

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      January 3, 2020 at 7:57 pm

      These dreams are indications of your previous emotional connection with your ex. Allow thoughts of him to face, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    December 27, 2019 at 12:09 am

    I had a dream about my ex girlfriend, in the dream I was passing through her house with my younger siblings, when she saw me she started crying and wants me to come to her my siblings felt for her but I ignored her, her mother was sitting at balcony with a stranger my ex and my younger siblings pleaded with me to greet her mother even if I don’t want to talk to my ex girl but I also ignored her mother and walk away.

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      December 27, 2019 at 10:26 am

      You may feel like you ignored your ex-girlfriend or were too harsh to her after your break up. The dream reflects those worries, and it also shows that you may be concerned about how you respond to your siblings and mother as well.

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    Abby Robinson

    December 26, 2019 at 6:20 pm

    I had a dream about a long time crush (going on about 6 years), In the dream our mutual friend, was showing me a text message, of him saying that, “I miss (my name).” Then suddenly, he came outta nowhere, or just walked up to us, smiling kinda blushing i guess, then saying i missed you, and im suddenly on his phone, and i start seeing videos of myself, that he saved, im assuming, and he starts smiling and laughing at them, while im kinda embarrassed, and flustered.

    Another dream, was basically a really really awkward situation. I was in a group with my friends, and we were talking. And he comes up and just hugs me, a full on lingering, i kinda dont wanna let you go hug, and i hugged back of course, and then as he is standing with me and my friends a long silence occurs, and then my friend says, “this is awkward” and i say “yeah i know” and thats the end of the dream.

    • web admin

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      December 27, 2019 at 6:46 pm

      It is clear that you feel a strong social connection with your crush. It is likely that the feelings are mutual. Make a decision about what you want for your future, and determine what you believe is viable. If you want to maintain a romantic relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.

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        Abby Robinson

        December 27, 2019 at 9:47 pm

        Thank you, so much for helping me. I wish we could talk more privately to be honest, but im thankful. I’ve had a long past with him. but,I have i told him, how i felt. And got no response. Dude always has a girlfriend.. and i’ve tried to hangout with him but no avail.. (i didnt know he had a girlfriend when i told him i liked him, and tried to hang out with him). With him, his feelings arent on display, so i dont know what to do. I feel stuck. He tells others something else, but i get something completely different. Recently, he told my friend a different story to what actually happened.. and it was just a tad surprising. His retelling of the story, involves him calling my name, and him tryna tell me he liked me back. but at the time he had a significant other.. so.. idk..i feel like if this happens its gonna be truly a slow burn of a tale.. or it could just fizzle out and never happen..

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          December 28, 2019 at 12:28 am

          It seems that the two of you are interested in each other, though it seems that the two of you are rarely single at the same time. It is appropriate for you to continue to nourish your social relationship with him, but do not attempt to harm his relationship. If he becomes single in the future, then you may want to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at that time. For now, simply share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life.

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            Abby Robinson

            December 28, 2019 at 4:14 pm

            I’ve never tried to harm his relationship,at least not on purpose, because when he did have a relationship, it wasn’t public, not even his friends knew, i surely didnt know, and the mutual friend didnt know, and she was pushing me to do these things. And i’ve always been single.. its more or less him who is never single.

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              December 28, 2019 at 9:53 pm

              Make a decision about what you feel is appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him a chance to share himself with you as well. From there, the two of you can make whatever decision is viable and acceptable.

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    December 26, 2019 at 2:41 pm

    A friend of mine I had in high school has appeared in my dreams for a very long time. I haven’t seen in in a long time and I don’t even think about him.. I used to like him back then. But now I never think about him. He just appears in my dreams. So it can’t be because I miss him. I’m really curious because he is the only person I dream so often about and I don’t even think about him.

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      December 27, 2019 at 6:28 pm

      It is possible that he is someone who you once felt a deep connection with. He may be thinking about you, and it is possible that the two of you shared a connection. You are not interested in him, and it seems that you have no intention of reaching out to him. Allow your thoughts of him to fade. However, if you dream about him in the future, then address him within the dream regarding his purpose in your dream.

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    December 25, 2019 at 10:02 am

    I had a vivid dream of meeting my ex and his new girlfriend and we all got along very well. At the end of the hangout, he said we should do this more often and that he missed me after a long hug. When I woke up I only wished it had taken place in real life!

    • web admin

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      January 5, 2020 at 9:47 am

      The dream seems to show a desire to have your ex in your life as a friend. You may miss having him in your life, even though you accept that he has moved on. Because of this, he appeared in the dream as a friend and with his new girlfriend.

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    December 24, 2019 at 8:33 pm

    I usually dream of my best friend who’s a girl back in elementary school,Like twice a month or even once a month but haven’t seen her for many years and I dont think about her or even try to reach out for her. But when am dreaming we’re always close together which is nice, but I don’t know why am dreaming of her.. Please help me out

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      December 27, 2019 at 7:45 pm

      These dreams are likely indications of your previous, close connection. It is possible that she was particularly meaningful to you at that time. She may be thinking about you as well. If you are still in communication with her, then you may want to reach out to her. If not, then allow these dreams to fade. It is possible that she is a placeholder for someone else, so ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life.

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    December 24, 2019 at 8:17 pm

    A couple times I have a dream where I head into school and am missing my friend Chris an lot but I’m always stopped by someone or something before I can see him I know I have a crush on him if that helps but do you have any ideas on why I’m having this dream

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      December 27, 2019 at 7:28 pm

      You have strong feelings for your friend. You have a crush on him, and it is possible that he has similar feelings for you. Your inability to see him in your dream could be a sign that you feel that you are missing him in your waking life. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Spend additional time with him in person, as this will nourish your relationship.

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    December 21, 2019 at 8:00 am

    I have a dream of when I close to my crush she’s uncomfortable to me and I think she avoided me and I was shocked that my crush and my classmates there holding hands and I was try to talk to my crush but she didn’t pay me attention

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      December 22, 2019 at 10:19 pm

      This dream may be an indication of your concerns regarding the feelings of your crush toward you. If you are aware that your crush is not interested in you in your waking life, then allow thoughts of her to fade. If she seems to be interested in maintaining a relationship with you, then speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with her in person. Have a great day, Gabbi!

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    December 21, 2019 at 12:49 am

    I had a few dreams about a pet I lost recently (a few months ago). I don’t think she’s dead, however, she might be. I really love her, and I miss her all the time. She got out of the house and into the woods and hasn’t come back. I dream about her almost every night. And I thought, because of this rumor it could mean that she’s missing me. So I’m trying to find some answers.

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      December 22, 2019 at 10:20 pm

      Your dreams are reflections of your emotional connection with your pet. It is possible that your pet has passed, and it is possible that you pet is living in the woods. It is not uncommon for pets to find new homes after they have become lost. It is certain that the two of you loved each other, so allow these feelings to guide you in a positive direction. Have a great day, Jordyn!

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    December 20, 2019 at 8:54 pm

    Well I once had a dream that a guy from school that I’m not to fond of was laughing while water was poring in on his side and me and my family were trapped. But after I finally found a way out I was making sure no one else got hurt cause there were lots of people that I don’t know. But it was like I was on a feild trip and had to run and find my teacher once I did. All I could think was “where’s _____ is he okay” then I got woken up.

    • web admin

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      December 22, 2019 at 10:23 pm

      You are not fond of this person. However, you have had a dream of him. This may be due to various social reasons. It is possible that you are interested in nourishing a relationship with him. Perhaps you want to maintain a romantic relationship with someone, and this person was simply a placeholder for someone else. Make a decision about what you want for your future, and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Cayenne!

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    December 20, 2019 at 3:03 pm

    So, I had a dream that I was in my bed and i woke up because I had to
    get ready for work and I saw my co worker said hello as always but it
    wasn’t a normal day at work me and my co worker were talking in the
    elevator to go bring something at the printer and we had a meaningful
    conversation like how are parents were doing or how are love like was
    (me and him were both single) I never once ever thought I would like him
    he wasn’t ugly he was extremely attractive, I just never thought we had
    anything uncommon cause we were both just co workers but when I actually woke up and went to work, it was my dream all over again I Was so freaked out because we had the same conversation about parents love life etc.. later when i was walking to my car he came up to me and said he had the exact same dream when he was on lunch break, he had a nap I told him exactly everything my dream said. After that we became better friends and build-ed a stronger relationship all we talked about before was just files and work related stuff. yeah just a weird experience i had

    • web admin

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      December 22, 2019 at 10:29 pm

      What a strange coincidence. I don’t know what that means, but it is an incredibly interesting story. Thank you for taking the time to share it with our other readers, Milly!

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    December 19, 2019 at 4:39 pm

    I wish I could get an answer to my dreams. All of a sudden out of the blue I had a dream of my ex from 15+ years ago. And nothing had happened to remind me of him. Hadn’t thought about him in a long time. Then suddenly I am in the clouds wrapped in his arms. He told me that we would ALWAYS get back together. I knew that he didn’t necessarily mean in this life. Some time later and I am in the same scene. Accept this time he is asking me about everything that’s happened since we parted. I found myself reeling off some of the things I’ve been through. He comforted me. When I woke I felt selfish because I didn’t even ask about him. Fast forward another few months. This time the dream is that he leaves his partner for me. But I can see my husband and our son crying and I knew that despite our love he couldn’t be the man I needed and nor could I break up my family for him. I ended up going to his partner – crying for her to take him back. I was convinced this would be an end to the dreams. That it had gone full circle. Then last night I dreamt that I was in the situation again – to leave my family and be with him… But he chose to be with some short pretty blonde girl I never saw before instead and it broke my heart – like for real. I never thought he could choose someone over me if given the choice was my thoughts. Now I feel so hurt. Like what the hell is going on after ALL these years of literally no contact.

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 22, 2019 at 10:57 pm

      Dreams of exes and past crushes are incredibly normally. Even though it has been years since you thought or spoke to him, the memories of him exist in your subconscious and may still appear from time to time. The fact that you turn him down because you know the harm it would cause your present family seems to show that you have moved on from your past relationship and are a committed part of your present family.

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    December 18, 2019 at 10:22 pm

    I think about my crush a lot and in every night..but instead of him I dream of another boy everyday…why does it happen? Why don’t I see the ones I luv the most? Why do I have dreams of another person everyday?

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 24, 2019 at 10:25 am

      You are not maintaining a romantic relationship with anyone at this time, so your mind is revealing the options that you may have available. It seems that you are consciously aware of your desire to maintain a relationship with your crush, so speak with your crush about your thoughts and feelings. If this relationship is not viable, then you may discover that your attention will be drawn to this other person that you are dreaming about.

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    December 18, 2019 at 1:03 pm

    I dreamed about my boyfriend and his ignoring me in my dream..we havent talked for almost a week now

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      December 24, 2019 at 10:33 am

      Your dreams may be reflections of concerns or insecurities that you may have at this time. Allow these dreams to fade, and focus your thoughts on what is happening between the two of you in your waking life. If everything is fine, then dismiss these dreams. If there are issues that need to be discussed, then speak with your partner about your thoughts and feelings.

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    December 16, 2019 at 10:41 am

    Im constantly dreaming about my ex…its always about him telling me he loves me and misses me…we end up back together happy and inlove….then i wake up its nothing from him …no calls no texts no nothing…he moved on months ago with his new girlfriend and she has had control of his messages and also blocked me on his social medias and also changed his number for his gf…idk what tk do because in my dreams his gf doesnt exist…my dreams feel so real with him in it…this happens every night a diff dream with him in it loving me

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 5, 2020 at 10:32 am

      These dreams are indications of your previous emotional relationship with him. You are aware that he is maintaining a new social relationship and your mutual partnership is not viable.

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    December 16, 2019 at 7:27 am

    I had a dream about my ex, mind you im in a new relationship and care for my partner deeply but still. In my dream we were so happy and nothing felt wrong almost as if we were still us but just better, we mainly just hung out around his house and talked but the dream had started off with us on the beach kind of reliving when he had taken my virginity but very different at the same time, his dad was even in my dream but no one else. My ex and i broke up on somewhat mutual terms because of college and decided to stay friends but he ended up not going to college at all and left me deeply heartbroken, it’s been months now and he still tries to check on me so the dream had me confused about whether i’m missing him or it was the other way around?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 5, 2020 at 10:35 am

      The two of you shared a strong emotional relationship. You are in a new relationship, so allow thoughts of your ex to fade. If your current relationship ends, then determine what you want for your future at that time.

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    December 16, 2019 at 4:34 am

    Why do I keep having dreams about my ex boyfriend even though we lasted a week I usually have dreams about him every week or not and it’s confusing me because I still like him and he has a whole girlfriend and I thought I was over with him so please tell me why I keep having romantic dreams with him or about him

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 5, 2020 at 10:38 am

      He is in a new relationship and you are over him, so allow thoughts of him to fade. If he appears in your future dreams, then address him within the dream regarding his purpose.

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    December 13, 2019 at 1:39 pm

    I had a weird
    Dream about my friend named Maynard.
    In the dream i remember that we were like fighting over something like a usb i think? And i remember me saying something like “just tell me!!” Or i think it was “give it to me!!” Then he literally sed “I LIKE YOU” and i woke up searching about dreams.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 5, 2020 at 11:14 am

      It is likely that you are developing feelings for your friend. The usb drive may have been an indication of a secret or message. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time together in person.

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    December 11, 2019 at 6:53 pm

    HE was a friend to me. Although he showed me interest before because he was very blunt about his emotions. One night, as we were chatting each other I might have said something that he did not appreciate and thought bad about. I had no idea what offended him so much that he did noot reply to any of my chat and as a friend it really bothers me if someone I know gotbhurt because of me so I then kept on chatting him profusely apologising. He told me that I was disturbing him, I wasn’t expecting his response so I bented out all my emotions and got mad at him and blocked him on all social media bacause all I really was trying to do was to be a good friend. One night, I dreant of him and I still clearly remember him saying ” I made a dummy account just to talk to you”. It’s weird coz you’re not supposed to remember dreams. But today, I just woke up and I remember him with a girl in a cute red dress that I really don’t know about. At first they’re just together in what seems to be a table at a wedding reception or a party. As I approached him I see her giving my friend a blowjob and them he told me to get away. Then I remember the girl telling me to get away because she’s being paid to do so and she does not want me to ruin that

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 5, 2020 at 11:29 am

      You offended him and then made the decision to block him. The physical aspect of your dream could be a sign that you are aware he has focused his attention elsewhere.

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    Erica JM

    December 11, 2019 at 6:37 pm

    I just woke up. And I vividly remember who I dreamt about. I had a friend who told me he was actually into me. One night, I might have said something that may have offended him but I knew that really wasn’t offensive so I profusely apologised that I got mad at him because he didn’t really react nicely and then blocked him on facebook. Since then I dreamt of him twice already, the first time I dreamt of him he said he misses and I still vividly remember him saying he maid a dummy account hust to talk to me. But today in my dream, he’s with a girl wearing this cute red dress trying to give him a blowjob( I seriously am trying to be as open as I can be) so then I approached him but when I approached him he wasn’t at his best state and told me to go. And I really don’t know what’s true anymore.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 5, 2020 at 11:31 am

      You offended him and then made the decision to block him. The physical aspect of your dream could be a sign that you are aware he has focused his attention elsewhere.