Is Someone Missing You If You Dream About Them?

By on May 9, 2018

When you dream about a specific person in your dream, it is common to apply whatever happened in the dream, into a ‘real life’ setting. For example, if you were to break up with your boyfriend and then dream about getting back with him, it would be easy to believe that getting back with him is the right thing to do … Except, that isn’t always the case. 

Dreams are presented to us in code and symbols, which we then must decipher ourselves. One person may have a dream that means one thing to them, but the very same dream could mean something entirely different to someone else. Not only that, dreams rarely mean what they’re actually showing you. 

There is an old saying that goes something along the lines of: 

“When you dream about someone, it means they are missing you.”

Although a nice sentiment, it isn’t exactly a true one. There is a chance that the person you have just dreamed about DOES miss you, but there’s a bigger chance that the person is a reflection of something in your own life. I had a dream about Tom Hardy last night, but he doesn’t even know that I exist, so there’s no way that he could miss my presence. 

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Dreaming of someone in particular, such as a friend or a relative, could be your mind’s way of saying that there’s something you need to see or understand. Perhaps you aren’t getting the bigger picture about that person, or there’s something in your mind that just doesn’t work out right. Maybe you think that your aunt may have been acting weird when you saw her last week? A dream about her that then follows on from that meeting and realisation could be a sign that you know something is wrong, but haven’t yet addressed it … but need to. Your mind is telling you that something isn’t quite finished or right yet. 

If you were to dream about friends that you had at school, it could be because they miss you, or that you miss them. Or, more likely, that you miss a part of that time. Mortgages, marriages, medications … Adult life is tough and with so many daily obstacles. If you’ve been having a hard time, dreaming about old school friends is probably your mind’s way of saying that you miss that time, not specifically the people of that time. 

Let’s say that you dream about your boss. Your boss probably doesn’t miss you when you are not at the office. No boss likes their employees that much (or vice versa). What it could mean, on the other hand, is that you have a cross to bear with your boss, or that you are missing something boss-like in yourself. Maybe you need to work on your confidence levels to finally get that promotion you’ve been trying to get for a number of years? Maybe you could take a peek at your air of authority and see if it would be better suited to a higher job role? 

If your boss is constantly stripping you down and making you feel uncomfortable or sad in your dream, there’s a chance that you’re having a problem with authority itself right now. Maybe you don’t agree with everything your boss has had to say lately, or think that a project would work better if done your way, rather than theirs? 

It might be time to face the beast or learn how to live with it a little better. Your dreams are often a side effect of what you are already feeling — your current emotions and pent-up frustrations. The only way to let those go is to deal with them. Ask why you keep getting passed over for that big promotion, or speak to your boss about your new and innovative ideas. Sitting down and waiting for something to happen isn’t the best course of action. Sadly, not all good things don’t come to those who wait. 

If you dream about an ex, don’t go running back there. That’s not always what your dreams mean, even if that’s exactly what they portray. Look what happens in the dream — when you get back together, do you live your happily ever after? Or are things exactly the same as they were before. That could be your mind’s way of telling you that nothing will change if you get back together — you already know that, so by going against that, you’re going against yourself. 

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It’s hard to let go of someone that you really care about, especially when all you do is dream that they miss you. Sadly, dreaming about someone doesn’t always mean that they do miss you. It’s usually a sign that you need to work on something within yourself. 

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    Lisam0129

    January 16, 2020 at 9:32 am

    I had a dream about my ex ! And been dreaming about him since we broke up

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 17, 2020 at 1:31 pm

      It is completely natural to dream about an ex after a breakup. Your subconscious mind is trying to come to terms with the breakup, so it makes sense that he’d appear in your dreams. In addition, you still have memories of being together, so it makes sense that he’d appear in your dreams from time to time anyways.

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    G

    January 15, 2020 at 12:21 pm

    Is this real coz my crush keeps coming to my dreams and keep telling me how cute I am.
    If it’s real what should I do??

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 17, 2020 at 2:19 pm

      The dream just shows what you’d like to have happen and that you wish that you could be around your crush more. Unfortunately, a dream can only show how your crush thinks or feels if you actually know his feelings. If you don’t already know how he feels, then your dream is just reflecting what you’d like to have happen. You can always hope though!

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    G

    January 15, 2020 at 12:20 pm

    Is this real coz my crush keeps coming to my dreams and keep telling me ho much cute I am.
    If it’s real what should I do??

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 17, 2020 at 2:20 pm

      The dream just shows what you’d like to have happen and that you wish that you could be around your crush more. Unfortunately, a dream can only show how your crush thinks or feels if you actually know his feelings. If you don’t already know how he feels, then your dream is just reflecting what you’d like to have happen. You can always hope though!

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    MeNat

    January 15, 2020 at 5:57 am

    I had a dream about my old friend (male) from a community college. He had a crush on me. I was dating someone else back then. He even asked me to meet his mom in front of my ex-boyfriend who was very abusive. My friend knew about it. Later he knew that I didn’t feel that way. He went to a different university a year later. He met 2 girls, and asked me who he should date with. He sent me 2 pics of 2 girls from his university. In my dream I told him I was jealous and heartbroken when he asked me that and I regret that I didn’t date him. I woke up and missed him. I think I just realized that I actually liked him too. We both are now married to our spouses. We live far clear across the coast from each other. I wish I could confess with him that I actually liked him too. What does this say?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 17, 2020 at 2:29 pm

      It is easy to confuse dream feelings with your real feelings, so I wouldn’t act on this dream at all. Your subconscious often explores the what-ifs in your life, which is probably why the dream happened. The dream doesn’t mean you actually liked him or should be with him. Instead, it is simply your subconscious exploring possible outcomes if you had taken a different path in life.

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    Miranda Garrison

    January 14, 2020 at 6:16 am

    I had a dream about my ex best friend (who is a guy). We didn’t have a horrible fall out, life just got in the way I guess. But I am the one that misses him soooo much. He was such an amazing friend and always made me feel safe to be myself. But in my dream, it was my birthday and he called me and I was shocked because he never calls me because we don’t talk anymore hardly. But he called me and told me he was coming to my party and then said “see you in a little bit. I love you” and the hung up. That really got me… weird part is, we’re family now because I’m married to his uncle (were all the same age. Its a mixed family/adoption whatever lol) but I don’t have feelings for him at all , that’s obvious. I just wish things weren’t so awkward in person. I just truly miss his friendship.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 14, 2020 at 12:03 pm

      Perhaps the dream is just your subconscious mind’s way of saying you miss his love and support. Someone could love you without it being romantic, so the dream doesn’t necessarily mean anything about him romantically. If he was always a good friend to you, the dream probably just means you miss having him around you and as a part of your life.

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    Felicia

    January 11, 2020 at 8:20 pm

    I had a dream about a boy but I do not know him at all nor have I ever seen him irl. In my dream, we intertwine our arms and hands? Then we were both like in a relationship or something. After some time he told me his name and said that I’ll forget it later like when he disappears. I didn’t know what meant and when he disappeared later I was slowly forgetting his name. There’s where the dream change and I woke up. I think he died in the dream because I felt sad that he disappeared. I couldn’t remember his name like what he said. Is this weird?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 12, 2020 at 11:05 pm

      No, this kind of situation is fairly common in dreams. Your subconscious mind most likely chose him as a placeholder to represent the love interest or partner you would like to meet some day.

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    Vickashin

    January 10, 2020 at 11:14 am

    This might be a bit confusing it surely is to me!
    I dated this guy back in 2005-2007, we broke up because he found someone else, he did realise he did wrong and apologised many many times their relationship didn’t last too long, we both moved to different countries, we have been in touch since then till about the beginning of 2019 (as friends), Every time he is sick or in trouble or if something bad has happened or is going to happen I would have dreams about him and obviously not happy dreams and I would check up on him and tell him I had a dream about him and is everything ok? He would then tell me no, I am sick or this or that had happened and he was always amazed at how a dream could tell me so much about him, I found it quite unbelievable too. The beginning of last year his parents found him a wife and he got married, we haven’t talked since! Now all of a sudden I have dreams of him coming back and wanting to be in a relationship with me and I see myself ignoring him. What does that mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 11, 2020 at 11:32 am

      Your dreams are reflections of your previous emotional relationship with him. He is married, so your relationship is not viable. Additionally, the two of you have not spoken for a long period of time and you live in different countries. Allow thoughts of him to fade.

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        Felicia

        January 11, 2020 at 8:16 pm

        I had a dream about a boy but I do not know him at all nor have I ever seen him irl. In my dream, we intertwine our arms and hands? Then we were both like in a relationship or something. After some time he told me his name and said that I’ll forget it later like when he disappears. I didn’t know what meant and when he disappeared later I was slowly forgetting his name. There’s where the dream change and I woke up. I think he died in the dream because I felt sad that he disappeared. I couldn’t remember his name like what he said. Is this weird?

        • web admin

          web admin

          January 12, 2020 at 11:05 pm

          No, this kind of situation is fairly common in dreams. Your subconscious mind most likely chose him as a placeholder to represent the love interest or partner you would like to meet someday.

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