Is Someone Missing You If You Dream About Them?

By on May 9, 2018

When you dream about a specific person in your dream, it is common to apply whatever happened in the dream, into a ‘real life’ setting. For example, if you were to break up with your boyfriend and then dream about getting back with him, it would be easy to believe that getting back with him is the right thing to do … Except, that isn’t always the case. 

Dreams are presented to us in code and symbols, which we then must decipher ourselves. One person may have a dream that means one thing to them, but the very same dream could mean something entirely different to someone else. Not only that, dreams rarely mean what they’re actually showing you. 

There is an old saying that goes something along the lines of: 

“When you dream about someone, it means they are missing you.”

Although a nice sentiment, it isn’t exactly a true one. There is a chance that the person you have just dreamed about DOES miss you, but there’s a bigger chance that the person is a reflection of something in your own life. I had a dream about Tom Hardy last night, but he doesn’t even know that I exist, so there’s no way that he could miss my presence. 

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Dreaming of someone in particular, such as a friend or a relative, could be your mind’s way of saying that there’s something you need to see or understand. Perhaps you aren’t getting the bigger picture about that person, or there’s something in your mind that just doesn’t work out right. Maybe you think that your aunt may have been acting weird when you saw her last week? A dream about her that then follows on from that meeting and realisation could be a sign that you know something is wrong, but haven’t yet addressed it … but need to. Your mind is telling you that something isn’t quite finished or right yet. 

If you were to dream about friends that you had at school, it could be because they miss you, or that you miss them. Or, more likely, that you miss a part of that time. Mortgages, marriages, medications … Adult life is tough and with so many daily obstacles. If you’ve been having a hard time, dreaming about old school friends is probably your mind’s way of saying that you miss that time, not specifically the people of that time. 

Let’s say that you dream about your boss. Your boss probably doesn’t miss you when you are not at the office. No boss likes their employees that much (or vice versa). What it could mean, on the other hand, is that you have a cross to bear with your boss, or that you are missing something boss-like in yourself. Maybe you need to work on your confidence levels to finally get that promotion you’ve been trying to get for a number of years? Maybe you could take a peek at your air of authority and see if it would be better suited to a higher job role? 

If your boss is constantly stripping you down and making you feel uncomfortable or sad in your dream, there’s a chance that you’re having a problem with authority itself right now. Maybe you don’t agree with everything your boss has had to say lately, or think that a project would work better if done your way, rather than theirs? 

It might be time to face the beast or learn how to live with it a little better. Your dreams are often a side effect of what you are already feeling — your current emotions and pent-up frustrations. The only way to let those go is to deal with them. Ask why you keep getting passed over for that big promotion, or speak to your boss about your new and innovative ideas. Sitting down and waiting for something to happen isn’t the best course of action. Sadly, not all good things don’t come to those who wait. 

If you dream about an ex, don’t go running back there. That’s not always what your dreams mean, even if that’s exactly what they portray. Look what happens in the dream — when you get back together, do you live your happily ever after? Or are things exactly the same as they were before. That could be your mind’s way of telling you that nothing will change if you get back together — you already know that, so by going against that, you’re going against yourself. 

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It’s hard to let go of someone that you really care about, especially when all you do is dream that they miss you. Sadly, dreaming about someone doesn’t always mean that they do miss you. It’s usually a sign that you need to work on something within yourself. 

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    Sunita Sinha

    March 21, 2020 at 4:22 pm

    I have a crush on a guy since past 5 months. I keep on dreaming about him on a regular basis. Few days ago he came to me and said that he dreamt of me where we both were romancing. What does it mean

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 25, 2020 at 3:15 pm

      Your crush spoke with you about his dream. His dream could be a sign that he is interested in maintaining a romantic relationship with you. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish your relationship byu spending additional time with him in person.

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    Kim

    March 21, 2020 at 11:45 am

    6 years I lost an infant child with my baby daddy. We are not together and we don’t communicate on no level. When I think of my infant son that passed away I think of my baby daddy because he pops in my head and I’m wondering does that mean he is thinking of me? Or miss me? He even pops in my dreams so what does this all mean?

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      web admin

      March 25, 2020 at 3:19 pm

      You lost your child, and you are aware of this connection with you had with your ex. This is why your ex has appeared in your dreams and thoughts. This doesn’t mean that he is thinking about you, though it is possible that you may be interested in reaching out to him. Make a decision about what you want for your future. If you want to nourish a relationship with him, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings.

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    Blessing

    March 20, 2020 at 5:10 pm

    I had a dream that my crush seems like a ghost to me, it is weird though, please what does this mean

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      web admin

      March 20, 2020 at 6:24 pm

      It may mean you feel like your crush isn’t really present in your life. You may want him to be more real and there for you than he actually is at the moment.

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    Me

    March 20, 2020 at 6:16 am

    From time to time I dream about a friend I had. A friend who said that liked me a lot, but once we had to follow separate ways she never replied to any of my messages.
    I promised myself if she didn’t reply to the last message I sent her I would never do it again.
    But I keep dreaming with her, random dreams.
    What could these dreams mean?

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      web admin

      March 20, 2020 at 5:04 pm

      The dreams are probably just a reflection of the fact that you never really got closure after this relationship ended. You never got to find out where the relationship could go. Even though you were the one who refused to respond or reciprocate, a part of you may still wonder what could have happened if you had dated her. It is also entirely possible that your subconscious mind chose her at random to play the role of a love interest in your dreams because you may not have someone who could actually play that role in your waking life.

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        ..

        March 20, 2020 at 7:03 pm

        When I say that she liked me it was not in the loving way, but like a best friend or something…
        Thanks for your response

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          web admin

          March 20, 2020 at 7:05 pm

          When someone says that they like you, even if they don’t mean romantic love, it means that they care about you. It is important that you nourish this connection by sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Nourish your connection with her by whatever means that you feel are appropriate.

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    Anonymous

    March 19, 2020 at 9:11 pm

    I had a dream about an ex showing me that him and his new girlfriend got tattoos on their eft arms. His was about his lost uncle and the girlfriend’s was a 6/8 letter word written in big bold letters. What does it mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 19, 2020 at 9:29 pm

      Getting tattoos is a lifelong commitment. Perhaps the dream shows that you feel like your dad and his new girlfriend are embarking on a more committed relationship with each other. The fact that their tattoos are different may just reflect that they have differing viewpoints in life, or it may be just random.

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    Anonymous

    March 18, 2020 at 3:02 pm

    I dreamed about going out with a friend and I’m not really sure if I have feelings for him. I dreamed that we went out for dinner and ate icecream. We talked about stuff but I don’t remember it. All I remember is that he said “You’re the type of girl I want. Someone who is honest and sweet.”

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      Anonymous

      March 18, 2020 at 3:03 pm

      What does this mean? Does it mean I like him??

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        web admin

        March 18, 2020 at 8:28 pm

        Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional desires. It is possible that he has appeared in your dream because of your feelings for him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of your relationship, and then take whatever action that you feel is appropriate. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time together in person.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 18, 2020 at 8:28 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional desires. It is possible that he has appeared in your dream because of your feelings for him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of your relationship, and then take whatever action that you feel is appropriate. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time together in person.

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    Sienna

    March 18, 2020 at 3:56 am

    So , 3 years before I used to have a crush on a boy , it was like I “loved him” but irl I was just addicted I guess. Then I got in a relationship with my actual boyfriend, we have been dating for 3 years , so I really lost my contacts with my ex crush and haven’t heard of him since then . From time to time I keep seeing him in my dreams , not that I’m interested in him , but he’s on me. I remember one time he wanted to kiss me and on my mind those past years that was what I had been dying for but at the moment I called out my boyfriends name and took a step behind . (I keep seeing messed stuff) today I saw him , in a class, which represents the fact that I was on the same class as him , and when I was leaning to catch something he kissed me on the cheek , and I could feel it was full of love , and in irl he was always this type of boy , u know the most popular one , the one that did what he wanted ignoring his ego but also mess with girls feelings for fun which is why I was not sure if he liked me back , back then ecc , which my boyfriend is not …but the thing that messed me was the fact that i liked it when he kissed me … (excuse my English ,it’s not my first language)

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 19, 2020 at 9:18 pm

      You liked your crush intensely and for a long time. It only makes sense that you might dream about him from time to time. Most likely, these dreams are just a throwback to the past and don’t reflect at all on your current relationship with your boyfriend.

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    Jboog

    March 17, 2020 at 8:34 am

    I had a dream that my ex-boyfriend (who I had a tumultuous relationship with – lying, cheating, emotionally withholding) was describing how to draw me to someone in very sweet and flattering ways. Only until recently I have had a few dreams about him and it’s usually him being active and me as a viewer but not actually engaging with him. Any ideas what this could mean for me now… 5 years later?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 17, 2020 at 8:50 pm

      Since you had a difficult relationship with him, your subconscious mind may not have felt comfortable with approaching the subject for years afterward. Now, your subconscious may finally feel safe enough to resolve the memory of that relationship in your mind.

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    Mevrox

    March 16, 2020 at 4:42 am

    I had a dream that my current boyfriend went missing and people were asking me about it the whole entire time. What could this mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 16, 2020 at 3:55 pm

      When someone is missing within a dream, it may indicate that there has been a change in a relationship. This doesn’t indicate that something bad happened, but rather that there may be an uncertainty at this time. If your relationship is healthy and secure, then allow the negative aspects of this dream to fade. Nourish your relationship with your partner by spending additional time together in person.

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    Scott

    March 15, 2020 at 8:55 am

    I had a dream last night that I was with my ex and her friends sat on the sofa watching TV. Me and my ex were sat close together and I realised we were lightly holding eachothers fingers and thought this could be us getting back together. I was really happy… Does this just mean I want to get back with her or could there be another meaning?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 15, 2020 at 12:33 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your previous emotional connection with your ex. This doesn’t mean that the two of you should get back together. Take this time for introspection, as this will help you understand what would be best for your future. If you want to reach out to you ex, then do so only if you feel that it would be beneficial for each of you.

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    jess

    March 15, 2020 at 6:35 am

    soo i had a dream that me and my friend were just having a great time togheter and he randomly said “i miss you”. what does that mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 15, 2020 at 1:07 pm

      His statement within your dream is a reflection of your thoughts regarding your relationship. It is certainly possible that he misses you, and it is clear that you are thinking about him. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of your relationship. If you want to share your feelings with him, then do so.

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    Anonymous One

    March 15, 2020 at 3:36 am

    Twice in the same night I had a dream that I was in my ex boyfriends house. He was kissing me and trying to be passionate/sexual with me.
    We have recently split because I fell pregnant, at the start he wanted the baby but then his parents found out and he pushed me away because they didn’t agree with it and he was trying to please them.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 15, 2020 at 1:10 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your previous emotional connection with him. However, it seems that he ended your relationship because you became pregnant. His parents are clearly neglectful people, so it may be best for you to avoid that family. Unless it is possible to maintain a relationship with him without the abusive influences of his parents, then you should avoid that relationship.

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    Sierra

    March 14, 2020 at 9:24 pm

    I keep having dreams about an old crush the other dreams I had he acknowledged me and this last one where like I was like a ghost or something but anyway I keep dreaming of him and things didn’t end well. I had a major crush on him and he knew and tbh he played with my feelings. The things that bothers me the most is the fact in the dreams where we communicate he showed interest in me and it was disturbing and confusing.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 15, 2020 at 1:52 pm

      Your dreams are reflections of your social and emotional connection with your old crush. It is possible that there is something in your life that caused you to think about him. He may be thinking about you as well. Take this time to consider what you want for your future. If you think that it would be beneficial to reach out to him, then do so.

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    bobbythebuilder

    March 6, 2020 at 1:03 pm

    I had a dream about some guy. we were friends with benefits both of us wanted to date but just didn’t want to ruin the friendship if something happened. anyways we had a massive fight and i tried to resolve it with him but he just keeps listening to what others say. like oh she is lying don’t be friends with her again. I haven’t seen him in a while but i had a dream about him. I can’t remember the full dream but i just remember texting him and meeting up with him and my boyfriend.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 12, 2020 at 9:33 pm

      The dream may have just been because of all the memories you have of him, or you may have had the dream because you were never able to completely resolve your feelings afterward. It is also possible that the dream occurred because you want to have romance in your life now, so your subconscious mind pulled a memory of a recent romance to play that role.

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    Corinne

    March 5, 2020 at 3:53 pm

    i had a dream last night that my crush was picked up from school early and got a unicorn tattoo? he told me about his tattoo through text, and then i teased him. what and why?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 12, 2020 at 9:42 pm

      Perhaps you just feel like your crush is stepping outside the bounds of normal, day-to-day life. It is also possible that you just wish that your crush would share more of his secrets and interests with you, so you dreamed that he told you about a tattoo.

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    Diana Huff

    March 1, 2020 at 9:25 am

    I have been having dreams about my ex talking and falling in love again. At school he says we are friends but he never talks to me any more. My friend say that he doesn’t miss me but i see stress in his eyes, but when he is with his new girlfriend he is happy.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 3, 2020 at 3:42 pm

      Whether he misses you or not, he has definitely moved on. If he seems happy with his girlfriend, you can basically guarantee that it’s because he is. Your dreams are only happening because you miss the feeling of being in love and being loved by someone. Once you find someone new to be with, the dream guy will most likely change from the image of your ex to someone new. It takes time to heal from a breakup like this, but it will happen.

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    Alia

    February 28, 2020 at 4:39 am

    I broke up with my boyfriend two months ago and after that I had dreams of us getting back together, we talked at school and showed more affection towards each other, whenever I wake up I feel upset it’s just a dream. I also had some other dreams of me getting into a coma or committing suicide after the breakup a few weeks after. I don’t know what it means at all.. During the first dream he went up to me to talk and things just happened after that. I personally think that I suicided and got into a coma because of how lonely and sad I felt when we broke up. So what’s happening? Is this just a coincidence?

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      Alia

      February 28, 2020 at 2:43 pm

      He also started to ignore me at school, and when I wanted to at least be friends he always stayed quiet about it.. What’s wrong?

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 28, 2020 at 4:36 pm

        Some people can’t handle being friends with a crush. If this is the case, there’s nothing wrong with that. His heart is trying to get over the breakup, and he may still bear some negative feelings about the breakup. Because of that, I wouldn’t worry about it. If he doesn’t want to be friends, he doesn’t have to. All you can do is accept his feelings and move on. Good luck!

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        Yeona

        March 18, 2020 at 8:03 pm

        I had texted my ex a few times since we’re ok friends now, about how he reacted when we broke up. I know it’s a stupid decision but I was just curious and wasn’t thinking straight. He never replied to me but I had a dream where he told me how he reacted. I told him how I reacted too. Also, I had another dream where we went on a date to go ice skating and we were still together, I had hit my head and my appearance changed a month later in the hospital. He lost feelings for me and my closest friend lost interest in being friends too, as soon as I went back to school everything was different. The uniform was different, my friends personalities and appearances were different too, even he was different. He had a playboy look to him, his hairstyle was more different and he was like the opposite of his usual self. He hanged around the girls he charmed everyday and payed little attention to me. At some point over the past days I’ve had this dream it got even worse and worse. At the end of the dream he ended up playing me and then I guess I woke up. I don’t know where this dream came from at all. :/

        • web admin

          web admin

          March 18, 2020 at 8:17 pm

          It seems that your dream is a reflection of various aspects of your relationship with your ex. The appearance of him within your dream may be colored by your feelings regarding the end of your relationship. In your waking life, you should make a decision about whatever you feel is appropriate for the future. If you want to reach out to him, then do so.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 28, 2020 at 4:34 pm

      I think your interpretation is probably correct. You most likely had this dream because you felt like a part of you was dying to make way for all of the changes that were happening in your life. The more recent dreams where you are together again are probably happening because a part of your subconscious mind misses being with him and wishes that you were still together. A dream can only show what is going on in your own subconscious mind, so it is impossible for this dream to show what your ex-boyfriend is thinking and feeling.