How to Show a Guy You Like Him

By on September 5, 2014

For some reason women think that men don’t have to be shown that we like them. They are just automatically supposed to know these things, and we get mad when he doesn’t catch on to our cues. Well, just like us, sometimes men need that extra push to really take the hint. Try out these 15 easy ways to show a guy you like him- ways that will actually get his attention and let him KNOW.

 0d327d5901dce97c706a3a095de8ae881. Be Interested in Him

Because obviously when you’re showing signs of interest in someone, it means you like them- right? But don’t just do it in a friendly way. Try to pay MORE attention to HIM then you do anyone else. Ask him questions to find out more about him and talk to him often so you can get the most information possible.

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2. Use Positive Body Language

This goes hand in hand with being interested him- but taking it one step further. Positive body language is an absolute must when trying to show a guy you like them. Some things you should always consider:

-Try to always be facing him and leaning towards him during the conversation, giving him your full undivided attention.

-Eye contact is absolutely important and should be done often. Of course, you should break the eye contact every once in awhile to avoid awkward situations.

-Try to refrain from folding your arms or doing any nervous habits like biting fingernails or twitching.


3. Smile Often

Want to know one thing that drives men crazy? A woman’s smile. And nothing says “Hey, I like you” like a nice, warm, pretty smile. Smile at your crush as much as possible. When he catches you staring at him, smile, blush and look away. When he looks at you and YOU take notice, give him a nice welcoming smile. Smile during conversations and you can even throw in smiley faces on your text messages!

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4. Text Him

In this day and age, at least half of our communication is done through text messages. I mean, they are SO handy and you don’t have to use your voice (which is awesome for people who are insanely nervous and lose their words when they’re around their crush). Don’t be afraid to be the first one to send a text message. Surprisingly enough, that’s a sure fire way to tell him you’re interested in him. You’re not bothering him- send him a cute hello text, but make sure to spruce it up so he doesn’t think you’re boring.


5. Call Him

With text messaging being so insanely popular, nobody hardly finds time to actually call someone on the phone anymore. So, you call him- now what? You actually took the time out of your day to pick up the phone and ring him up. You want to actually TALK to him and hear his voice. That says A LOT. The next time you’ve got some free time on your hands, give him a call. (You know you want to hear his sexy voice anyways).

da86ac48365cf178afdbc4455720703c6. Flirt With Him

What better way to show someone you’re interested than by flirting? I think we can all agree that that’s the number 1 sign of interest. So, obviously, flirt with him as much as possible. You can do a bit of teasing flirting (you know, like we all did back in grade school) or you can make a flirtatious joke. Or you can go the easy route and come up with a compliment you know he’d love to hear!


7. Compliments

Okay, I know I just mentioned this in the “Flirting” section- but I feel compliments are SO important that they deserve their own column. Compliments should be done often- whether you’re in person, talking through text messages, or sending a letter. It’s the best and easiest way to flirt. Why? Because you don’t have to sit there and come up with something super unique and exciting. A simple, “Hey Josh you look really good today” is enough to please a man. (Of course feel free to spice it up if that’s what you have in your mind!)

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8. Ask Him If He’s Single

When you just want to be friends with someone, there is really no point is asking if they have a partner or not. I mean, why should you care? You’re not interested in anything romantic and if they DO have a girlfriend you will certainly find out in the mean time. That being said, asking him if he is in fact single lets him know that you have certain intentions that can only be fulfilled if he is single. So go ahead- be a bit risky and ask him this particular question!


9. Ask His Friends

This might come as a shock to you, but men talk to each other just as much as women do. They might not go into all the grimy details, but they certainly know what’s going on in each others lives. That being said, ask his guy friends if they know anything about him being interested in you. If anything, they will tell this certain guy friend that you’ve been asking about him and that they think you’re interested in him. Yeah, it might be a little cheesy but trust me it gets the job done!


10. Be Confident and Independent

Men LOVE it when a women is confident. So, when you’re trying to show him that you like him, it is absolutely important to keep your confidence and independence high. Don’t follow him around trying to talk to him incessantly. Don’t try to get his attention every five seconds. This will only make you look like a clingy, somewhat desperate woman and I guarantee that won’t get you far in the game of love. So keep your cool. (And I know, it’s hard! Especially because he’s SO cute you can hardly contain yourself. But just do it!)


11. Give Him a Gift

I’m not saying you need to run out and buy him everything he wants (you should never, ever try to buy someone’s love). But a small gift from the heart is an easy way to show someone you care. Remember how much he loved your sugar cookies you brought to work that one time? Maybe make him a special one with a note that says, “Since you liked these so much”. If he doesn’t take the hint from that, I don’t know what WILL get to the point!

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12. Flaunt in Front of Him

You know you got it going on, right? So why not use your beauty and your body to get his eyes locked on you? Now, make sure you aren’t flaunting your stuff in front of everyone. He should be able to tell it’s a special thing you do JUST for him. And trust me, he will certainly appreciate this rather sexy form of flirting.


13. Take Interest in His Interests

Let’s say the two of you are talking about what you’re doing Friday night. And let’s say he is going to the baseball game this Friday night for the local college. You tell him you’ve never actually watched a baseball game but you’re interested in it. If he hasn’t already asked you to accompany him, take a girlfriend to the same game and “run into him”. This will show him that you want to like the same things he likes because clearly you are interested in him. He’ll also love knowing you’re the type of girl who wants to try new things and isn’t afraid to be seen at a sports event!


14. Ask Him Out

This one is pretty self explanatory. If you’re asking someone out, then you are obviously very interested in them. Right? Well, make sure you let him know you want a one on one date, not a group outing. You can just come right out with it and ask him, or you can try to be coy about it. For instance: you could tell him you’re dying to see the new Spiderman movie but you haven’t anyone to go with, then ask him to attend it with you. You could also jokingly say “We should go out Friday since we’re both into Spiderman” and if he says yes, then viola! You just made a date with him and it only took a matter of seconds. Brilliant!

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15. Tell Him

Sometimes men just DON”T get the hint (it’s a sad but true fact). Or maybe he’s just being totally incredibly shy and doesn’t know how to respond to the clues. Whatever the reason is, if you’ve tried everything above and he STILL isn’t getting it, then there’s really only two things left to do.

-You can take it as a loss and assume he isn’t interested in you. Quit trying to show him that you like him and try and get rid of any leftover feelings you had for him and move on. This is a risky option because he might just be clueless or shy and you took it as rejection, never knowing the truth (his hidden love for you, maybe?)

-OR you can be the assertive and confident woman you are and simply tell him straight out that you are interested in him, and see what he says. We like this particular option best because it gets straight to the point and you’ll know right then and there for sure whether he is interested in you or not. However, this approach IS a lot more risky so it definitely isn’t for everyone!


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    November 20, 2018 at 1:45 pm

    I’m 33ys old and some time ago I started to think about him too much. Is weird because I never have felt something similar, I’m not sure if he has realised I’m having a crush on him, also I don’t know how to make him know about this. Is a difficult situation cos he is my teacher so there are too many policies and cons…… Also he is 54, thing that I absolutely don’t care but prob he can see it as a cont….. 🙁

    • web admin

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      November 20, 2018 at 7:58 pm

      You are aware of the policies and reasons for you to not nourish a relationship with him. If these circumstances chance, then determine what you want for the future of your relationship at that time. For now, continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. Do not attempt to nourish a relationship with him now, as you are aware of the professional and social repercussions that he will face. Have a great day, Rose!

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    June 6, 2017 at 8:20 pm

    UGH, I don’t know if I did the right thing or not. I went to a doctors appointment last week, he was hot, and he kept telling me how sexy and sweet I was. I felt like he was flirting with me, so I sent him a coffee mug that said ” The worlds hottest cosmetic surgeon”. In a note, I told him I thought he was sexy too. I also said that he could call me ONLY if he was interested in me. Do you feel I was being too aggressive sending the mug? My friends thought it was a bad idea. I’m feeling really stupid now. He should have received the mug in the mail today.

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      June 7, 2017 at 5:15 pm

      Do not concern yourself with the mug. If he calls you, then you know that he appreciated it and is attracted to you. If he does not call you, then it is likely that he is unable to develop a relationship with you at this time. It is certainly possible that his profession allows him to be a little more cavalier than most medical professionals. Do not worry about the mug. Just live life and enjoy what comes. Have a great day, Melissa!

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    November 1, 2016 at 10:00 pm

    I really like this guy in one of my classes. We’re always early for class and have great conversations, and I didn’t really think he liked me, but last week we ran into each other at school and he walked me to my dorm.
    We ran into each other again last week around the same time, where I said I always am at that time. We were just passing each other, and he asked how I was. I said good, and asked how he was. he said hungry, and, at this point I was going through a door and he started to say “I’m actually about to go…” like he was going to ask me to go out with him, but I didn’t realize we were having a conversation so I just passed through the door…
    I don’t know what to do next time I see him to let him know I’m interested and that I didn’t mean to reject him. What should I do?

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      November 2, 2016 at 12:54 pm

      If you are concerned that he may feel as though you rejected him, then try to speak with him and spend time with him additionally. If you want to address your thoughts with him, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. He will certainly understand that you misunderstood what he was asking. Continue to hang out with him so you can get to know him better. Share your hobbies and interests and get him to share his. Perhaps the two of you will find that you love walking through nature or something similar. Enjoy life!

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    October 1, 2016 at 6:05 am

    Ugh this is hard to say… I know what everyone will be thinking, ‘oh it’s wrong… he could lose his job… etc.’ but I really like this teacher of mine… we will refer him as IT. Ive noticed that !y feelings for IT have kept progressing through the school year but I’ve noticed how he treats me differently than any other girls. He teases me, makes eye contact, smiles alot and has just started playfully touching me on the shoulders and ‘shoves’ me over gently. I don’t know if he’s flirting or not but a few of my friends say he definitely is. But there’s some problems… he’s my teacher and he’s married…. I don’t know what to do but I really like IT.

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      October 1, 2016 at 2:53 pm

      Don’t do anything about it. You obviously know the repercussions he could have for being with you–plus, it is a sign of poor judgement and potential predatory behavior to go after a student. Beyond these reasons, there is the fact that he is married. You can never trust someone who leaves their wife or cheats on their wife to be with you because they could just do it again. Focus on your school and forget about it–if you can, make sure to select different teachers next quarter. If you still remember him in 5 to 10 years, return to school as an adult and see what he is up to. If he is single again in a decade, then you can try to start a relationship with him.

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    Weird and shy girl

    July 15, 2016 at 12:40 am

    Well here’s my story:
    In October new players came to our team, and there was one really nice guy. We all become friends, and even went for one competition in Rome. I really liked this guy, but in Rome I saw he was interested in my friend, so I let it be (even it hurt a lot). However, in December, we all went for birthday party of that girl he liked, we were having fun, drinking etc. and when we went home, me and that guy went the same direction. It was little bit intense because I couldn’t talk to him. And the most suprising thing happened. When we were waiting for bus, he kissed me! I was so happy I coudln’t talk 😀 But next day when I asked him if it was something more he said I don’t know. It hurt soo much. But I managed to stand up again. During the winter he was ill, so he coudln’t join us in plays after holidays. However, he came back in April, and started to send me home, insulting me so much (like tickling and so on) and once he took me at beautiful place with incredible view. I’ve started to like him again, but I didn’t show him because I wasn’t sure if he wasn’t just playing with me. Now it is summer, and me, my friend and him are really great friends, we are going on trips very often and spending time together with his friends.My friend, she knows about us, I told her, and she told me that she is sure he likes me. But somehow I still can’t communicate with him very well, as my friend does. She is really inteligent and she knows how to talk with boys, and I think the guy noticed it as well. She told me too that I should confess to him, or writing exactly as she said:”When we will on party, take him aside and give him french kiss!” I’m blushing all the time I imagine it. I just can’t do it, I’m so shy, I’ve never had boyfriend before, I really don’t know what to do. And more I think about it, more I doubt about myself, because when I compare to my friend I’m just stupid weirdo who can’t express herself propely :(( what to do?
    Sorry for long story, but I think you need to know whole picture :/

    • web admin

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      July 17, 2016 at 12:39 pm

      It is clear that you have an interest in him, his kiss is a clear indicator that he is interested in you, and your friend has given you her blessing. There is no reason – especially shyness – for you to not move forward in developing your relationship with him. Speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings, or if he seems receptive and you feel comfortable with him, then give him a kiss at the party. Your best course of action is to be honest with him and with yourself.

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    June 22, 2016 at 6:14 am

    Hi. I like this guy at my gym. He is assistant manager. Very handsome and nice. I’m not sure how to let him know I am interested in him. He is very friendly and smiles but not sure how to let him know??? Any suggestions would be appreciated.

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      June 22, 2016 at 10:04 pm

      Speak to him directly. There is no reason to play coy or be shy. If you are interested in him and he is showing interest in you, then walk up to him when he is available and share your feelings with him. Either he will reciprocate and you can develop your relationship from there, or there is no reason to continue thinking about him.

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    May 31, 2016 at 7:32 am

    Hi! I have a huge crush on a guy in my class, and I already gave him a small note a few months ago with a heart on it. He never responded to me, but to a friend of me. He said hes not ready for a relationship, but he likes me too. What shall I do? Tell him in person I like him? Or something else? I just don’t know, but he is sooo cute…

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 4, 2016 at 12:51 pm

      Relax and wait. He said that he likes you and is not interested in a relationship right now, so you have to wait until he is at a point in his life where he is ready for a relationship. If you try to force things now, it could ruin your chances of ever having an actual relationship with him. Good luck, Coco!

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    May 20, 2016 at 8:14 pm

    There is a boy in my school that I really like and lately he has been showing me signs that he likes me like the other day he grabbed my hand on purpose and he said it was an accident and I always catch him staring at me in class and when he sees me he looks away and always trying to kiss me on the cheek and is always grabbing my hand and holding it.I can’t deny it I really do like this boy and I want to tell him that I like him I just need help.

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      May 23, 2016 at 9:54 am

      It seems like you may have commented twice on this article. I have to answer and approve each comment individually, so it can sometimes take a little while for the comment to appear. If you do not see an answer right away, do not panic because you will. Read through my first response and let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks for commenting!

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    May 20, 2016 at 7:46 pm

    There’s this boy in school who I really like and lately he has been showing signs that he may like me.Because when I look around the room I catch him staring at me and when I see him do that he looks away.The other day he grabbed my hand and was holding it.But I’ve also have developed a crush on him,but I don’t know if he likes me.And he is always trying to kiss me in the cheek and is always teasing me,and I can tell he is flirting with me because he hangs out with me all the time were always making eye contact and we smile at eachother,but he always seem to find an excuse to be with me and I also flirt with him and I want to tell him that I like him but I don’t know how to do it I just need help.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 23, 2016 at 9:08 am

      Grabbing your hand, trying to kiss you and watching you all of the time are all signs that he probably does like you back. Now, you just have to decide what you want to do about it. He has been making a lot of moves so far, so you could probably just wait it out, flirt a bit and he will ask you on his own. If you want to speed things along though, you could always try just asking him out. Best of luck!

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    May 13, 2016 at 4:09 pm

    Also recently my birthday passed and he got me this cute Rilakuma plushie and i know he was thinking of me when he got because i love cute things and he has even called me cute and pretty. The other day as well i came to meet up with some of my friends and he was there also but, while i was looking for the room they were in i guess and assume he saw me and when i found the room he called my name. After that i just stoped and turn around and he said “over here” and i say is that you? So i walk around the bookshelf and see him and he just opens up his arms and i go to him then he hugs me tightly. I don’t think that was a coincidence if you ask me. And to just be looking at books close by the room.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 14, 2016 at 10:02 am

      That sounds like an adorable gift. It sounds extremely possible that he likes you. Even close friends do not get presents on birthdays, especially that thoughtful of a gift. Ask him out and see how things go! Good luck!

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    May 13, 2016 at 3:58 pm

    So i’ve been friends with this guy in college for a little less than a year. But,this guy would always play around with me, tickle me, make me laugh, pick on me, and alot of times he has hugged me tightly and just looks down at me. Also, we kind of get handsy alot. By that i mean he always try’s to mess with my hands and we hold hands kinda often lately. I just feel like this guy likes me, but i sure do have feelings for him. We make each other laugh and we smile alot, as well as fustrate eachother which i feel is what couples do often. So i just don’t particularly know if this guy has feelings towards me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 14, 2016 at 10:02 am

      It sounds like he likes you. Tickling you, hugging you, picking on you and trying to touch you are all signs that he could be interested. He may just be afraid that you do not like him, so he has not made a move yet. If you are interested in dating him, just ask him on a date. It sounds extremely likely that he does like you back, so the chances of you getting a “yes” (as long as he is single) seem to be quite high. Good luck, Stefanie! Let me know how everything works out!

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    May 5, 2016 at 2:03 pm

    I’m wondering if this guy at my school likes me. His friends recently didn’t hang out with him but evending before that he did things that were unexpected. He talks to me often, and when I look around the room I catch him glancing at me. I told my friends o liked him. This dude sits at my table at breakfast sometimes, and always tries to find a way bump into me or walk right next to me. Im not sure if he likes me. I really like him, but I need some answers. Is this guy interested in me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 9, 2016 at 7:51 am

      It sounds like he could like you, but he has not done enough to be sure about how he feels. Try talking to him or flirting with him and see how he responds. If he flirts back or seems interested in keeping the conversation going, then he probably likes you. If he ends the conversation quickly or only acts like a friend, then he is probably not interested. Best of luck, Unknown!

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    March 15, 2016 at 7:10 am

    Hi I am a 38 year old woman and I just recently reunited with my first love after 27 years. The way it all happened just seem like it was meant to be. like something brought us together. we have seen each other 3 times so far and he touches me on the arm and the last time we were together he was playing with my hair and gave me a back rub and pretty much always had a hand on me or a leg touching mine. He didn’t kiss me. We text through out the day but he hasn’t asked me out again. Since then I have asked him and he has said he was busy and did say what he was busy doing. Last night though I asked him in a round about way he said “maybe” but never got back to me about it. I didn’t want to say anything else either in case he didn’t want to see me. we have hugged and we have shared that we were each others first loves. I feel though that maybe he isn’t feeling the same way I am. I never stopped loving him and the first time I saw him I knew it at that moment…though I don’t think it has been the same for him unfortunately because you would think if he was interested in something with me he would make more of an effort to see me like I would like to see him. At this point I just feel like backing off and saving myself from the pain I felt all those years ago. It’s like reopening an old wound and I am not sure if I can handle the pain of it again. We get along so great and we laugh and have a fun time. I don’t want to lose him to some stupid little thing again but I also don’t want to tell him how I truly feel over text. If he won’t ask to see me and he turns me down when I ask should I just let it go?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 19, 2016 at 8:52 am

      I would probably just let it go until he makes the next move. He might just be busy and unable to reach out, but you never know. Even if he is just busy, the results are the same: you end up feeling rejected when he cannot spend time with you. For now, I would wait and see if he reaches out to make the next move. You guys seemed to have a strong connection, so it seems possible that he would want to reach out to you again. With any luck, he will decide that he wants to be with you and finish all of his busy work before long. Good luck!

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