How to Get Over a Crush: 10 Ways

By on October 3, 2014

Is there anything really more gut wrenching than finding out the person you’ve been crushing on doesn’t like you back? It’s terrible, right? But there is no need to sit around wallowing in a depression over it. Here is 10 super useful ways to get over your special someone- and fast.


1. Admit You Have a Crush

You know what they say: “the first thing to do in recovery is admit you have a problem”- and in this case, your certain ‘problem’ is your crush. Admit to yourself that yes, you had a crush on him or her. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, even if it didn’t work out the way you planned.

2. Accept The Outcome

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So, he didn’t end up liking you back. Or maybe he decided to date someone else. Or maybe there was just no hope for a future together. That’s okay. Sometimes we just don’t ‘gel’ with people the way we want to. But you need to accept the outcome before you try and move on- or else the rest of your ‘recovery’ will be a waste.

3. Don’t Dwell on It


One of the worst things you can do- in any bad situation, really- is dwell on it. These things just happen, it’s a part of life. But why should you spend every second, minute, and hour of the day wondering “Why?” or “What if?” That’s just a waste of time, energy, and emotion. So don’t dwell on it! Try and find other things to take up your time. Maybe you could join a new class or just make more time to go hang out with your friends?

4. Get Support/Talk it Out

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Ninety-nine point nine percent of the population has had a crush that didn’t work out or like them back. Your best friend, your cousin, even your mother. So reach out for some support. Talk about these terrible feelings together with someone you trust. They will probably have a story you can relate to about that “special guy” in their math class 20 years ago. You know, the extra hot one that sounds JUST like the guy you had the hugest crush on. And you know what they say, the best way to get something off of your chest and feel better about a situation is to simply talk about it. So don’t harbor in those feelings- let them loose!

5. Don’t Take it To Heart

Okay, so maybe he didn’t feel the same way about you. But that doesn’t mean that there is anything necessarily wrong with you. We all have certain likes and dislikes. Maybe he prefers brown eyes over blue. Maybe he prefers a ‘preppy’ girl over an ‘athletic’ girl. Maybe he only dates girls who like the same sports as he does. Or maybe the reason is the two of you just didn’t ‘jive’ and there was no flow of conversation. There could be a million reasons why he didn’t like you back, but you shouldn’t take it to heart. It’s not YOU. It’s most definitely him.

6. Don’t Get Angry or Depressed


I think I’ve already said this at least once in this blog- but there is absolutely no point in dwelling over the situation and getting angry or depressed about it. I mean, what is that going to fix? Absolutely nothing! You will spend a whole lot of precious time and energy on something that really doesn’t matter in the long run. Sure, it hurts now, but that just means there’s someone a million times better just waiting for you.

7. Don’t Think About Him


You read that and probably immediately thought to yourself, “Wow. That’s impossible!” Yeah, I know. Telling you not to think about your crush is A LOT easier said than done, right? But getting over him or her will be a MILLION times easier if you just try to block him out of your mind as much as possible (that is, if you’ve already discussed it and come to terms with the outcome of your crushing). Which leads us to number 8!

8. Focus on Yourself

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Now that you’ve realized the two of you are never going to be ‘one’, it’s the perfect time to focus on yourself. Maybe now you could finally enroll in that dance class you’ve always wanted to join. Maybe now you can join an art class and transform your surge of sad emotions into a beautiful masterpiece. Maybe now you could decide to totally switch things up and try out that new, quirky, yet totally hot hairstyle you’ve been dreaming about. There’s a million things you CAN do- so what will it be? The point here is to take the focus completely off of your crush and entirely on you. And trust me- whether you do something as simple as spending more time with friends or going to get a massage, you will feel a hundred times better about yourself.

9. Flirt With Someone Else


So, just because you are still kind of crushing on someone you can’t flirt with someone else? Yeah, right! You know, the gold old ‘rebound’. I’m not saying you need to run into the arms of another man or woman right away in a terrible attempt to take your mind off of that special someone. But hey- there is NOTHING wrong with a little bit of innocent flirting. You never know what may come of it, and in the mean time you can exchange some saucy words with a handsome looking fellow in the meantime. Certainly that will take your mind off of ‘what’s his face’.

10. Don’t Place Your Crush on a Pedestal

All this time you thought he or she was perfect. He had the perfect body and the funniest personality. She was a cheerleader with glowing blonde hair and a smile that could make you melt. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you’re just the sorry sap with nothing to give, right? Absolutely WRONG. When we have a crush on someone, we have a tendency to put them on a pedestal and think they are perfect. But, they are human just like us. Maybe now that you know they aren’t interested you can see things clearly. Now is the time to look back and reflect on THEIR faults, instead of yours. Maybe they had a funny personality, but they never knew how to be serious so they could never hold a serious relationship. Maybe she had a great smile, but she was nothing but a whole lot of drama. Remember, nobody is perfect. So take the time to find reasons why it’s probably a GOOD thing the two of you didn’t work out.


Getting over a crush doesn’t HAVE to be the hardest thing you will ever go through. I mean, yeah, it’s pretty terrible to be rejected. But in the long run- it’s probably a good thing. Just remember to admit you have a crush, admit it didn’t work out, and try to spend as much time as possible talking it out and doing things for YOU that will take your mind off of them. In the end, it’ll be easier than you thought and you’ll realize there’s someone better out there!


What’s your best way to get over a crush?


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    January 9, 2020 at 4:21 pm

    I said something to the guy I like but I meant it as a joke and it just broke him I really messed up what do I do?

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      January 9, 2020 at 6:57 pm

      Wait and hope that he heals. If you haven’t apologized to him yet, you should definitely do so. Unfortunately, one of the hardest lessons of all is learning that words can cause just as much harm as sticks and stones. 🙁

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    July 11, 2019 at 3:02 pm

    I have this crush on a super cute guy who I met not that long ago but we spent an entire night just talking and I can’t stop thinking about him I know he likes me but we live pretty far away and can’t get any closer but when I’m with him I just feel something I need advice

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      July 11, 2019 at 5:18 pm

      The two of you share a strong social relationship. It is possible that each of you are interested in each other. The distance between the two of you may be influential in regards to your relationship. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Determine if this relationship is viable and appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Elyse!

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    June 25, 2019 at 4:14 pm

    I have this crush, i mean its been going on for a while and before i had a crush on him, i could’ve sworn he had a crush on me as one time we were standing opposite each other and i looked at him and he smiled. But this crush, i hate it. I want to get rid of as soon as i can. I don’t know how to. One of the factors of this is having to be extremely nervous around him. Like i cant talk or walk within 0.5m of where he is. Someone give me advice. I want this to simply go away and be able to actually talk to him.

    • web admin

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      June 26, 2019 at 12:31 pm

      It sounds like you need to make a decision. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If you want to nourish a romantic relationship, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you do not want to speak with him, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere and determine what you want for your future without him. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Jazzy!

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    November 24, 2017 at 9:58 pm

    I kind of like this boy, but I don’t want to admit it to myself. I don’t know how to explain it. i go to school with him and notice myself sneaking glances at him now and then to see if he’s noticing me. But I don’t want to like him. I keep trying to tell myself to stop sneaking glances and talking about him. I don’t want to say I like him because then my feelings might show. He recently got a girlfriend within the past week at camp. I am really good friends with his girlfriend and with him. I will definitely use these tips and thank you so much!

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      November 25, 2017 at 6:15 pm

      You are friends with his girlfriend, he is in a relationship, and you are not interested in developing a relationship with him. The simple solution to your problem is to no longer focus your attention on him. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. Either focus your emotional attention elsewhere, or look inward and allow your thoughts of him to fade. Have a great day, Megan!

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      October 27, 2018 at 2:26 pm

      Get over him boys are like hyenas they look cute but their deadly they will leave u on ur own and crying they don’t care just get over him n wait for Mr right

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        October 28, 2018 at 8:11 pm

        Thank you for sharing your support. It is beneficial to not judge all people of one group by experiences from a few. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Mia!

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    November 21, 2017 at 5:19 am

    I have this crush on a guy. We don’t know how to describe our relationship. We text each other almost everyday for 2 years now…… I think he likes me, he never admitted it but if I talk to one of his friends, she will say ‘all he talks about is you” . And sometimes he will tell me “I m only doing this because you’re the one who asked, if anybody else I will say no” . I text him almost every day, and if he won’t respond I threaten to stop texting him, and he will text me back like crazy. He’s a very strong willed person but I can make him say sorry if I get upset. I get jealous if he tells me he’s looking for someone to date, I know I can’t have him because I’m married. I want to get over my crush on him but I don’t want to lose him as a friend….. I am so confused and tired feeling so emotional towards him when I know we will never be more than friends…..I want us to be just friends without this stupid feelings of crushing on him….I don’t know what to do

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      November 21, 2017 at 8:43 pm

      It is likely that this person is interested in developing a relationship with you. It seems as though he is shy, though he may be busy or unable to message you back. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Summer!

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        June 25, 2019 at 4:16 pm

        Shes married

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          web admin

          June 26, 2019 at 12:32 pm

          Do not attempt to maintain a relationship with someone who is married or maintaining a committed relationship. Determine what you want for your future without her, and focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Have a great day, Jazzy!

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    May 15, 2016 at 7:04 am

    I almost had a crush on this guy but he wasn’t my type and I realized that I don’t want to have a crush on him. I do not like flirts and I think he is one. I’m always successful at setting my feelings aside but If I’m gonna be honest, he’s the hardest one.

    He has this huge effect on me that is why I stopped my feelings but there are times wherein I will get jealous because of him and that feeling has to stop.

    So recently, I found out about his girlfriend and I hated her. I don’t think she’s pretty and when I see them together, I just want to puke because it’s like watching porn.

    They publicly flirt with each other on social media and I’m getting sick of it. I think that they’re just friends with benefits because they just seem like it.

    Lately though, he’s going to diff countries for his job and he doesn’t look happy at all. I started thinking that maybe he loves her girlfriend after all and the worst part is that, I don’t like it but at the same time I just want him to be happy.

    He looks so hot when he’s mad and sad yet I always want to see him happy. I don’t like seeing him get hurt, I realized that one time when he had his wisdom teeth removed theb we forced him to sing so he did even though it hurts seeing him in pain, he wants us to be happy. I don’t like him when he has a beard, but right now, he looks perfect to me.

    He looks so perfect in my eyes, and I hate this.

    Pls tell me how to stop this feeling.

    • web admin

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      May 16, 2016 at 9:12 am

      There is no way to just stop liking someone. Pick up a new hobby, stay busy and go on a few dates with other people. Over time, your feelings for this guy will gradually decrease. The fact that he has a girlfriend probably will help since it means that dating him wouldn’t even be an option if that is what you wanted to do. It will take time to move on, but it will happen. Good luck!

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    November 27, 2015 at 6:59 pm

    there’s a guy i have been crushing on since one year. We used to talk little, but whenever there was a conversation, we used to look straight in the eyes. He even said to me twice that i am a nice person. We used to lock eyes. Recently a girl proposed him and he said that he would think about it. I thought he would say no but the next thing that i come to know is that he is in a relationship with her. He is in my class so i basically have to see them together. He ignores his girlfriend sometimes and never gets physical. They both live in opposite directions of the city, so it is not possible for them to meet. They only see each other in school. The most hard part for me while trying to get over him is that we still smile at each other and lock eyes. He still makes me feel all the weird happiness. I dont know what should i do? Should i wait for him, hoping that the smile and locking eyes still mean something?? I havent told him that i like him, so should i even tell him??

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      November 28, 2015 at 1:33 am

      Since you never did anything more than smiling at him and locking eyes, it makes sense that he would go out with the other girl. After all, she asked him out, so he knew that she was interested already. It sounds like he is just shy in general, so he was too afraid to ask you out since he had no clue that you liked him. Now, he is in a relationship and you cannot do anything. I would not tell him right now out of respect for his relationship and the fact that, if he were to leave her for you, you would always be afraid that he would do the same thing to you. For the moment, you can only move on with your life and hope that they end up breaking up.

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    October 19, 2015 at 10:02 am

    I’m glad I read this. Simple. I got over my ex-crush with songs relating to the situation, Taylor Swift works best for me. Plus, I have this specific notebook where i jot down everything I want to accomplish, feel and experience.

    So anyone reading this article, GOOD LUCK! If God wills it, it’ll work.

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      October 19, 2015 at 2:06 pm

      I am lad to hear that this article was able to help you out. If you ever need help, there are plenty of articles on Her Interest about romance, and you can always leave a comment. Good luck, Mara!

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    September 17, 2015 at 12:20 pm

    I like this boy a lot and he happens to be my best friend, I try to not think about him but he’s my best friend so we talk everyday. He knows that I like him and he was supportive about it and he was scared that he’ll hurt me and i can’t stop thinking about him and I don’t want to avoid him and lose him because he’s my best friend. What do I do?

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      September 17, 2015 at 7:43 pm

      It looks like you have already done most of the hard work in getting your crush to be interested in you! He sounds like he likes you, but is afraid of hurting you or ruining the friendship. Both of these factors mean that he probably does like you and would be interested in dating you. The only thing you have to do is convince him to take a chance. Every relationship has a risk, and there is no reason to miss out on what could be an amazing relationship–many of the best relationships and marriages start out as friends first. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Let him know that you are willing to take the chance of being hurt if it means that you can be with him, and tell him that you want to remain friends with him afterward no matter what happens. Good luck, Carina!

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    Bethany Hart

    August 26, 2015 at 8:52 pm

    I like this boy and for a few months i stop thinking about him ,i stop dreaming him , i stop doodling about him , but then all of the sudden i keep thinking of him and i try to get him out of mind but everytime he comes back .

    • web admin

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      August 27, 2015 at 7:37 pm

      It can take a long time to get over someone that you really liked. Some people will even dream about an old crush years later. There is no real way to move ahead and forget about him 100 percent. All you can do is stay busy, move on with your life and start focusing on other things. Good luck, Bethany!

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