How to Get a Guy to Like You Again

By on October 2, 2015

You think everything is going great with this special someone in your life, until suddenly things go south. This guy is no longer interested in you, and basically left you hanging. What’s next? You have two options: you can either leave him and find someone else, or try to get this guy to like you again. Think that’s impossible? It’s not! It’ll be a big challenge, yes, and it won’t always work; but here’s 9 steps to (possibly) get a guy to like you again!

Think Positively
Yeah, it really sucks he doesn’t like you anymore. You’re probably feeling a little crushed, heartbroken, and lacking self esteem. But STOP. You need to think positively in order to get him back. Don’t think about the past, think about the future- with him by your side. This happy, positive attitude will encourage you and give you a confident glow he will certainly notice.

Keep Yourself Busy
Winning him over shouldn’t be the only thought crossing your mind; that’s just downright obsessive. You need to keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. Maybe try a new workout regime or pick up a new hobby. Not only will this keep your mind preoccupied so you’re not over-thinking everything to death, but he will also notice that you’re not moping around because of him, and guys like that.

Keep Your Distance
So he’s not interested in you anymore; okay, whatever! You don’t care anyways. Okay, so you actually do, but he definitely doesn’t need to know that! It’s really the oldest trick in the book: keeping your distance and acting like this guy doesn’t even really exist. He will be shocked you’re not running back to him or even sad that he’s not interested anymore, and this may actually peek his interest like never before. We always want what we can’t have, right? And if you’re acting like he doesn’t matter, he may come running back.

Start Chatting Again
When enough time has passed and the time is right, strike up a conversation. It could be as simple as a smile and a “Hey, nice shirt” while you’re passing the school hallways, or a “Good morning!” when he comes into work Monday morning. If you don’t work or go to school together, consider sending him a friendly text. It could be personal, like “Hey don’t forget to watch the NFL game tonight” (replace ‘NFL game’ with his favorite team), or something a bit more casual like “Hey, haven’t heard from you in awhile. How’s it going?”.

(BUT Don’t Overdo It)
If you’re going to strike up a convo, don’t overdo it; you certainly do NOT want to look needy, that will repel him in an instant. Keep things very short and to-the-point. If he doesn’t answer you right away, let it be. Be patient. He will eventually answer you. And when he does, don’t respond so quickly there’s smoke coming off your fingers. Keep things very limited and carefree., and give him the impression you’re a little too busy to respond right away. Guys love it when a girl keeps them waiting (not too long though, of course). If you’re talking in person, keep the conversation to a minimum. Let him instigate the next round of communication.

Get Flirty
So the conversations are going really well, and he’s starting to get a little bit closer to you. You notice that adorable smile appearing more and more often and he might be throwing out a few compliments and flirts here and there. Well, why not return the favor by getting a little flirty yourself? How else is this guy supposed to know you’re interested in him if you don’t! Throw out a flirt here and there, but like we mentioned before, don’t overdo it. You don’t want him to think you’re easy or will do anything to get his attention back. A little touchy-feely flirty attitude every now and then will keep him interested and coming back for more. You can even wait to send him a flirty text at the end of the day, something like “Hey, by the way I loved that blue shirt on you ;)” or “It was really nice talking to you earlier, you always know how to make me laugh :)”.

Bring Up Some Fun Memories
Bringing up some fun memories is an easy and quick way to remind him how much FUN the two of you have together. Ease it into the conversation so it’s not so obvious. For example, if you’re talking about what you’re going to do this weekend, maybe throw out a fun memory you have of something you guys did one weekend. Simply saying “Hey, remember when we went on that awesome trip to Vegas and you won $400?” or “Remember when we went bowling and I dropped the ball on my toe?” will bring a smile to his face as he reminisces on all the great times. He will remember you for the fun gal you are and won’t help but want to make some more memories with you.

Meet Up
If everything is going well and you feel he’s starting to pick up interest in you again, it’s time to meet up! Pick something fun and casual at first; it doesn’t have to be a five star restaurant or anything too ‘date-like’. When you show up, make sure you’re wearing clothes you know he will love (remember when he said he loved you in that light blue top and blue jeans, or that really cute yellow summer dress?) and put on your best face. Make sure you’re hair is done and don’t forget to wear that gorgeous smile as much as possible. This is a pivotal moment in the win-him-back game, so you need to be extra careful going in to the meetup. Make sure you’re not too eager, as this can be a huge turn off for men!

Have you ever gotten a guy to like you again? How did you do it?


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    James Carter

    April 20, 2020 at 4:39 am

    Thanks for the info i still love my ex i pray this work out

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 20, 2020 at 6:57 pm

      Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future.

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    April 12, 2020 at 1:28 am

    Mine is complicated, we started texting about two and a half weeks ago, first it was semi flirty and we’d text everyday, and then it progressed into intimate texts, mixed with flirty texts. Just a week ago his texts became less and less… For two days now he’s left me on “read” without any reply… And I made the mistake the first day of continuously texting him… And I texted him again the next day asking him how he was.. And then four hours later I texted him saying I guess you’re really busy today, feels strange to not hear from you to be honest. Really hope everything is ok. Let me know if you need anything. Again he left me on “read” … Did I scare him off by texting him too much? He’s told me that he really likes me and wants to be with me. But it doesn’t feel good to be left on read. I like him a lot too.. I really want to fix the situation.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 13, 2020 at 4:04 pm

      There may be various reasons for his behaviors. It would be best for you to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he chooses to not reply to you, then you have your answer. Take this time to consider what you want for the future of your relationship, at this will help you determine the best course of action.

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        April 16, 2020 at 9:07 pm

        He did text me during the long weekend on Sunday but, haven’t heard from him again. I haven’t messaged him since Tuesday. What should I text him? When I finally decide to reach out to him.

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 17, 2020 at 6:12 pm

          It seems that the two of you are considering nourishing a relationship together. For this reason, it seems that you should consider what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. The two of you may want to nourish your connection by spending additional time together in person.

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            April 21, 2020 at 7:10 pm

            We had a talk, and he told me that the fact that I am looking for a serious relationship and that’s not what he’s looking for. And that he can’t really do it right now. But, he still likes me. I am going to just back away, nothing I can do. Thank you for all your help.

            • web admin

              web admin

              April 23, 2020 at 12:19 am

              He has shared his feelings with you. It does not seem that he is interested in maintaining the relationship that you want to at this time. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him, but focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    April 6, 2020 at 6:57 am

    this guy owns the business next to my work. We have been friends for a year. he eventually treated me like a girlfriend. He would take me on dates, pay, open the car door, I met some family. I started staying over and we had sex a lot. one night he was showing me his phone while he was my coworker texted him wyd. I asked him about it the next day. He said they have history but he is not sleeping with her. We only dated for two weeks and I ended it because of that. We didn’t talk for a weeks after and then he started being my friend at work like nothing happened. He still flirts and goes out of his way to help me with things like he fixed my car the other day. But we don’t text anymore or hangout. He is moving soon I don’t want to lose him. He’s 33 and I am 21. I want a relationship with him and I think I scared him away.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 6, 2020 at 9:17 pm

      He received an innocent text, and you chose to end the relationship. It is perfectly reasonable for him to no longer be interested in you. Learn from this experience, and apply that knowledge to your future relationships. Take this time to consider what you want for your future without him. If you maintain a relationship with someone else in the future, then remain mindful that people maintain all types of relationships with other people in their life.

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