How to Get a Guy to Like You Again

By on October 2, 2015

You think everything is going great with this special someone in your life, until suddenly things go south. This guy is no longer interested in you, and basically left you hanging. What’s next? You have two options: you can either leave him and find someone else, or try to get this guy to like you again. Think that’s impossible? It’s not! It’ll be a big challenge, yes, and it won’t always work; but here’s 9 steps to (possibly) get a guy to like you again!

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Think Positively
Yeah, it really sucks he doesn’t like you anymore. You’re probably feeling a little crushed, heartbroken, and lacking self esteem. But STOP. You need to think positively in order to get him back. Don’t think about the past, think about the future- with him by your side. This happy, positive attitude will encourage you and give you a confident glow he will certainly notice.

Keep Yourself Busy
Winning him over shouldn’t be the only thought crossing your mind; that’s just downright obsessive. You need to keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. Maybe try a new workout regime or pick up a new hobby. Not only will this keep your mind preoccupied so you’re not over-thinking everything to death, but he will also notice that you’re not moping around because of him, and guys like that.

Keep Your Distance
So he’s not interested in you anymore; okay, whatever! You don’t care anyways. Okay, so you actually do, but he definitely doesn’t need to know that! It’s really the oldest trick in the book: keeping your distance and acting like this guy doesn’t even really exist. He will be shocked you’re not running back to him or even sad that he’s not interested anymore, and this may actually peek his interest like never before. We always want what we can’t have, right? And if you’re acting like he doesn’t matter, he may come running back.

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Start Chatting Again
When enough time has passed and the time is right, strike up a conversation. It could be as simple as a smile and a “Hey, nice shirt” while you’re passing the school hallways, or a “Good morning!” when he comes into work Monday morning. If you don’t work or go to school together, consider sending him a friendly text. It could be personal, like “Hey don’t forget to watch the NFL game tonight” (replace ‘NFL game’ with his favorite team), or something a bit more casual like “Hey, haven’t heard from you in awhile. How’s it going?”.

(BUT Don’t Overdo It)
If you’re going to strike up a convo, don’t overdo it; you certainly do NOT want to look needy, that will repel him in an instant. Keep things very short and to-the-point. If he doesn’t answer you right away, let it be. Be patient. He will eventually answer you. And when he does, don’t respond so quickly there’s smoke coming off your fingers. Keep things very limited and carefree., and give him the impression you’re a little too busy to respond right away. Guys love it when a girl keeps them waiting (not too long though, of course). If you’re talking in person, keep the conversation to a minimum. Let him instigate the next round of communication.

Get Flirty
So the conversations are going really well, and he’s starting to get a little bit closer to you. You notice that adorable smile appearing more and more often and he might be throwing out a few compliments and flirts here and there. Well, why not return the favor by getting a little flirty yourself? How else is this guy supposed to know you’re interested in him if you don’t! Throw out a flirt here and there, but like we mentioned before, don’t overdo it. You don’t want him to think you’re easy or will do anything to get his attention back. A little touchy-feely flirty attitude every now and then will keep him interested and coming back for more. You can even wait to send him a flirty text at the end of the day, something like “Hey, by the way I loved that blue shirt on you ;)” or “It was really nice talking to you earlier, you always know how to make me laugh :)”.

Bring Up Some Fun Memories
Bringing up some fun memories is an easy and quick way to remind him how much FUN the two of you have together. Ease it into the conversation so it’s not so obvious. For example, if you’re talking about what you’re going to do this weekend, maybe throw out a fun memory you have of something you guys did one weekend. Simply saying “Hey, remember when we went on that awesome trip to Vegas and you won $400?” or “Remember when we went bowling and I dropped the ball on my toe?” will bring a smile to his face as he reminisces on all the great times. He will remember you for the fun gal you are and won’t help but want to make some more memories with you.

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Meet Up
If everything is going well and you feel he’s starting to pick up interest in you again, it’s time to meet up! Pick something fun and casual at first; it doesn’t have to be a five star restaurant or anything too ‘date-like’. When you show up, make sure you’re wearing clothes you know he will love (remember when he said he loved you in that light blue top and blue jeans, or that really cute yellow summer dress?) and put on your best face. Make sure you’re hair is done and don’t forget to wear that gorgeous smile as much as possible. This is a pivotal moment in the win-him-back game, so you need to be extra careful going in to the meetup. Make sure you’re not too eager, as this can be a huge turn off for men!

Have you ever gotten a guy to like you again? How did you do it?

18 Comments

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    Julia

    January 24, 2020 at 8:23 pm

    so I was talking to this guy for 2 months and we both caught feelings for each other then we made official and he broke it off 2 months later, then a month after I texted him and he said he wanted to try things again that night I did something stupid and told him I loved him I think Iscared him so much he broke it off again and I don’t know what to do and I really want him back. Help

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      web admin

      January 25, 2020 at 9:58 pm

      It doesn’t sound like he is ready for any type of relationship right now, so there may not be anything you can do. Every time you guys get closer together and it seems like you are going to have more of a relationship, he pushes you away. You aren’t doing anything wrong. He either wants a relationship or not. Right now, all you can do is wait and give him some space. Hopefully, he’ll realize that he misses you enough to want to commit (at least a little).

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    Arunika

    January 24, 2020 at 2:02 am

    I met a guy, we went on a date and hung out for the weekend and he said he wasn’t feeling a connection. and to be fair i wasn’t either but now we’ve just been hanging out in friend groups and i think i like him. i want to try again but he was the one who ended it in the first place. what should i do??

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      web admin

      January 24, 2020 at 11:23 am

      Continue to nourish your social relationships in groups. If he develops feelings for you again, then you should speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Make a decision about what you feel is appropriate in regard to your current relationship.

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    Sadnes

    January 15, 2020 at 5:54 pm

    What if I’m not in the same class as him and he likes anouther girl. What will I do then?

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      web admin

      January 17, 2020 at 2:18 pm

      You might just have to wait and hope for the best. If he likes another girl, it may be better for him to make his move and get rejected so that he knows he can’t be with her. And if she says yes, then just wait it out because the odds are good that they’ll end up breaking up since even marriages have a 50/50 chance of ending.

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    Deepika

    January 7, 2020 at 9:30 am

    Hello. I am in a relationship and its just 2 weeks long yet. I feel so empty. And I appreciate that when I told him to give me time he did that. Today I met him. He was looking amazing. I couldn’t get over him. But I felt myself in the state of low confidence. Kindly suggest something

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      web admin

      January 7, 2020 at 10:14 pm

      Confidence is something that comes from within yourself and not from your partner. You can try to develop your self-confidence by learning a new skill. Mastering a skill, becoming talented at playing a sport or getting an additional degree are all ways you can naturally boost your confidence levels. If you continue to feel in a state of low confidence, you may want to consider talking to a therapist–it is not uncommon to suffer from confidence problems when you are depressed, for example.

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    Hari

    December 29, 2019 at 8:19 am

    So, I read this and It makes total sense, i recently went two weeks with out talking to him and i called out the blue, it rang until voicemail. In my opinion i think he was letting my call go to voicemail, do you think i should’ve texted him instead, and is it smart to wait a longer period of time before I acknowledge him to reconcile ?

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      web admin

      January 2, 2020 at 3:59 pm

      The two of you have not spoken for weeks, and he has made the decision to not respond to you. He is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you.

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    Rose

    June 29, 2019 at 9:31 am

    So I’ve read everything here and I love it. The only problem is I appeared to needy and I over texted and no responses anymore. We spoke last night and he was in a hurry to hang up. I dunno what else to do

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 30, 2019 at 10:39 pm

      You are aware of the mistakes that you made. Often times, we send too many messages and this may cause people to be uncertain about maintaining a relationship with you. Apply this knowledge to your future interactions. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Rose!

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      olympia

      September 4, 2019 at 2:15 pm

      in my opinion i think you should just ignore him like she said because then he will proably start wanting to talk to you again so just for now ignore him 🙂

      • web admin

        web admin

        September 5, 2019 at 7:34 pm

        Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. We always appreciate when members of our community share their supportive comments. Have a great day, Olympia!

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      Sydnie

      January 2, 2020 at 10:06 am

      i over texted i kept saying the same thing over not knowing and then 2 weeks later or so he just started with smaller responses which turned to him unfriending me all together. what do i do!?

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 2, 2020 at 3:16 pm

        If he has unfriended you, there is nothing you can do. He has decided this relationship isn’t right for him, so it is unlikely that he will change his mind. 🙁

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    Boyfriend

    June 18, 2019 at 9:36 am

    I’ve read several good stuff here. Definitely worth bookmarking for revisiting. I wonder how much effort you put to make such a great informative website.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 18, 2019 at 2:20 pm

      Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings with us in the future. Have a great day, Boyfriend!

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