How to Get a Guy to Like You Again

By on October 2, 2015

You think everything is going great with this special someone in your life, until suddenly things go south. This guy is no longer interested in you, and basically left you hanging. What’s next? You have two options: you can either leave him and find someone else, or try to get this guy to like you again. Think that’s impossible? It’s not! It’ll be a big challenge, yes, and it won’t always work; but here’s 9 steps to (possibly) get a guy to like you again!

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Think Positively
Yeah, it really sucks he doesn’t like you anymore. You’re probably feeling a little crushed, heartbroken, and lacking self esteem. But STOP. You need to think positively in order to get him back. Don’t think about the past, think about the future- with him by your side. This happy, positive attitude will encourage you and give you a confident glow he will certainly notice.

Keep Yourself Busy
Winning him over shouldn’t be the only thought crossing your mind; that’s just downright obsessive. You need to keep yourself busy and focus on yourself. Maybe try a new workout regime or pick up a new hobby. Not only will this keep your mind preoccupied so you’re not over-thinking everything to death, but he will also notice that you’re not moping around because of him, and guys like that.

Keep Your Distance
So he’s not interested in you anymore; okay, whatever! You don’t care anyways. Okay, so you actually do, but he definitely doesn’t need to know that! It’s really the oldest trick in the book: keeping your distance and acting like this guy doesn’t even really exist. He will be shocked you’re not running back to him or even sad that he’s not interested anymore, and this may actually peek his interest like never before. We always want what we can’t have, right? And if you’re acting like he doesn’t matter, he may come running back.

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Start Chatting Again
When enough time has passed and the time is right, strike up a conversation. It could be as simple as a smile and a “Hey, nice shirt” while you’re passing the school hallways, or a “Good morning!” when he comes into work Monday morning. If you don’t work or go to school together, consider sending him a friendly text. It could be personal, like “Hey don’t forget to watch the NFL game tonight” (replace ‘NFL game’ with his favorite team), or something a bit more casual like “Hey, haven’t heard from you in awhile. How’s it going?”.

(BUT Don’t Overdo It)
If you’re going to strike up a convo, don’t overdo it; you certainly do NOT want to look needy, that will repel him in an instant. Keep things very short and to-the-point. If he doesn’t answer you right away, let it be. Be patient. He will eventually answer you. And when he does, don’t respond so quickly there’s smoke coming off your fingers. Keep things very limited and carefree., and give him the impression you’re a little too busy to respond right away. Guys love it when a girl keeps them waiting (not too long though, of course). If you’re talking in person, keep the conversation to a minimum. Let him instigate the next round of communication.

Get Flirty
So the conversations are going really well, and he’s starting to get a little bit closer to you. You notice that adorable smile appearing more and more often and he might be throwing out a few compliments and flirts here and there. Well, why not return the favor by getting a little flirty yourself? How else is this guy supposed to know you’re interested in him if you don’t! Throw out a flirt here and there, but like we mentioned before, don’t overdo it. You don’t want him to think you’re easy or will do anything to get his attention back. A little touchy-feely flirty attitude every now and then will keep him interested and coming back for more. You can even wait to send him a flirty text at the end of the day, something like “Hey, by the way I loved that blue shirt on you ;)” or “It was really nice talking to you earlier, you always know how to make me laugh :)”.

Bring Up Some Fun Memories
Bringing up some fun memories is an easy and quick way to remind him how much FUN the two of you have together. Ease it into the conversation so it’s not so obvious. For example, if you’re talking about what you’re going to do this weekend, maybe throw out a fun memory you have of something you guys did one weekend. Simply saying “Hey, remember when we went on that awesome trip to Vegas and you won $400?” or “Remember when we went bowling and I dropped the ball on my toe?” will bring a smile to his face as he reminisces on all the great times. He will remember you for the fun gal you are and won’t help but want to make some more memories with you.

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Meet Up
If everything is going well and you feel he’s starting to pick up interest in you again, it’s time to meet up! Pick something fun and casual at first; it doesn’t have to be a five star restaurant or anything too ‘date-like’. When you show up, make sure you’re wearing clothes you know he will love (remember when he said he loved you in that light blue top and blue jeans, or that really cute yellow summer dress?) and put on your best face. Make sure you’re hair is done and don’t forget to wear that gorgeous smile as much as possible. This is a pivotal moment in the win-him-back game, so you need to be extra careful going in to the meetup. Make sure you’re not too eager, as this can be a huge turn off for men!

Have you ever gotten a guy to like you again? How did you do it?

46 Comments

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    Shantal

    March 4, 2020 at 4:46 am

    I met this guy i have been seeing over a year ago on a dating site. we Been meeting very often at the beginning and then it started to die off. we then started sleeping with each other and things were great. We used to go out , chat all day and enjoy each others company. He then started slowly fading away . chats once a week , hardly sees me. but everytime he did see me , we had sex. He then recently told me he is going on dates with someone else. what do i do ? i am in love with this guy. And i want him to be a part of my future.

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      web admin

      March 4, 2020 at 6:49 pm

      The two of you are maintaining a sexual relationship, and he has informed you that he is now seeing someone else. It seems that you need to make a decision about what you feel is appropriate. If this other person is not aware of your relationship, then you need to address that with your friend. Take this time for introspection, as this will help you navigate your future.

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    Christi

    February 26, 2020 at 2:54 am

    Hi guys,

    We have been chatting since a year ago, he lives abroad. We met at summer and once a month ago. He only tried to kiss me once (very superficially on lips), nothing else… At past, he was texting me every day, now after we met last time he writes me max 2-3 per week.
    Does it mean he is less interested? Or someone else got his attention?

    PS: He also told me many times “lets take it slowly and learn each other, so we don’t make mistakes in future”

    With love

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 26, 2020 at 9:53 am

      People often text and call a lot at the start of a relationship because they are completely infatuated. Now, you are entering a more affectionate stage of the relationship, which is more sustainable. In addition to transitioning to a new stage in the relationship, he may also text less often because he is confident in the relationship and doesn’t think you will just disappear if he forgets to message you. Meanwhile, the simple kiss when you met up is probably because he wants to take things slowly and show that he is interested in more than just how you look. While it is possible he is losing interest, it is more likely that all of the things you just described are actually signs of a good relationship.

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    moxie

    February 22, 2020 at 3:25 am

    Me and my boyfriend had a loving relationship of 2 years, but it recently ended because he wouldnt stop cheating on me, i kept finding conversations with him and other females and pictures of said females on his phone, but me and him went through EVERYTHING together, and i really dont think i could move on, i really do have feelings for him still but he doesnt need to know that, he stills lives with me and my grandpa, we are giving him a place to stay because he’s otherwise homeless. how can i get him to love me more than the chicks off dating websites? :C or is not possible

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 25, 2020 at 4:42 pm

      If you are still maintaining a relationship with him, then you need to speak with him about his behaviors. Inform him of your feelings, and explain that any future infidelities will cause you to end the relationship. If he chooses to not respect your desires, then it is clear that he is not someone that you want in your life.

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    Mary

    February 20, 2020 at 9:57 am

    I met a guy who we share common ppl with. We hit off really well and pretty much talked almost every day and even met for a date after several weeks of chatting. He is dealing with a separation/divorce and we both made it clear we didn’t want a relationship but wanted to go slow during this time period and see what happens in the future. We even had a second date lined up and all of sudden he just said he couldn’t do this and he wasn’t ready and didn’t want a relationship but wanted to be friends but take it slow and He even said he wouldn’t be in this state of mine for long . We still follow each other on Instagram because of him deleting Facebook. I know that him and I would be great but I only have heard from
    Him once and that was several weeks ago.

    Wish he was still part of my life

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 25, 2020 at 5:29 pm

      He has informed you of his feelings, and it is clear that his reasons are related to his previous relationship. Focus your emotional elsewhere at this time. If he reaches out to you in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at that time. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life.

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    drewa

    February 10, 2020 at 8:55 pm

    My ex-boyfriend (2 years) broke up today but he still considers me his best friend and said everything got too much for him and i understand why, I was not the most positive girl, he said he still wants a future with me and he still has a tiny bit of hope we can go back to being lovers, i want this but im scared during the meantime he might start to lose feelings for me or stop loving me, i want to believe he means it but i have a little doubt in it, i just wish i realized what he was doing for me. We were kinda off and on he got fed up, i just feel like he was my guy and i wanna be a positive for him and everyone.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 11, 2020 at 11:28 pm

      It is fair for you to be concerned. If he wants you to be more positive, then it will take time. I’m not sure if he realizes how long it takes someone to change their life or personality, so being together in the near future will be extremely difficult. Instead of focusing on him and what he may or may not do, perhaps the best thing you can do is just take some time to focus on yourself right now. You already know the changes you want to make in your life, so now is the time to put them into practice! Good luck!

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    LUCY MUCHOKI

    February 6, 2020 at 1:08 am

    HI.I met a guy three weeks ago. We became friends and were getting to know each other. We have always been having smooth and cool conversations on the phone. We have met severally and had a great time together.Suddenly he stopped texting me as he used to. I sent him friendly text but he did not respond. I am quite worried of what would have caused this silence coz we did not argue before he went silent. What should I do?

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      web admin

      February 6, 2020 at 2:55 pm

      I would just let it be. Some people just don’t like texting that much. People will often text constantly at the start of a relationship. Once he knows you better and feels comfortable, he won’t feel the need to text as much and this is an entirely normal progression for your relationship. Overall, I wouldn’t worry about it too much.

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        Kuna Darshiny

        February 11, 2020 at 3:43 am

        Please help me solve this problem. Actually this guy and I were good friends and he got really annoyed at me at one point and choose not to talk to me. Will he have a good impression on me once I completely don’t bother him for now?

        • web admin

          web admin

          February 11, 2020 at 11:14 pm

          If you give him space and don’t bother him, it might work. I can definitely say that bothering him constantly will push him away, so don’t do that. If it wasn’t a major argument, he should calm down if you just give him some time. Be patient! Good luck!

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    mia

    February 5, 2020 at 7:00 pm

    there is this guy who used to like me. he thought i didn’t like him anymore so he started to like someone else. i know i still like him,and i don’t know if i should get over him. what should i do?

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      web admin

      February 6, 2020 at 3:03 pm

      If he is single, reach out to him and ask him out. He may have tried to move on, but it is normally a lot harder for people to move on than they think. There is a good chance that there are still feelings for you in his heart. The only way you will know for sure is to reach out to him and make a move. Good luck!

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    mia

    February 5, 2020 at 6:59 pm

    there is this guy who used to like me. he thought i didn’t like him anymore so he started to like someone else. i know i still like him,and i don’t know if i should get over him. what should i do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 6, 2020 at 6:21 pm

      Just tell him how you feel. Feelings don’t go away that quickly, so it is entirely possible that he still likes you. If you don’t tell him how you feel and make a move, you’ll never find out what could happen. Good luck!

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    Kayden

    February 1, 2020 at 7:57 pm

    Okay, so this is kinda complicated, but long story short…I’m in junior high, and we met last year, he is one year ahead of me (now he is in ninth grade). Well anyways we became good friends and I started catching feelings, well he obviously liked me back but just didnt admit it. And then over time he stopped talking to me, and if I ever talk to him he is distant,it’s weird. And he wont talk to me when I’m with friends, only when I’m alone. I dont know what happened and how to win him back, and he will literally full on stare at me at school, but wont talk and when I look at him he looks away, and he kinda looks sad. I don’t know what happened, but is there anything I could do to repair our friendship atleast?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 3, 2020 at 8:22 pm

      It is possible that he is shy or uncertain about your relationship. Take this time to make a decision about what you want for your future. If possible, then speak directly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.

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    Julia

    January 27, 2020 at 10:30 pm

    thank you, you give me hope.

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    Julia

    January 24, 2020 at 8:23 pm

    so I was talking to this guy for 2 months and we both caught feelings for each other then we made official and he broke it off 2 months later, then a month after I texted him and he said he wanted to try things again that night I did something stupid and told him I loved him I think Iscared him so much he broke it off again and I don’t know what to do and I really want him back. Help

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      web admin

      January 25, 2020 at 9:58 pm

      It doesn’t sound like he is ready for any type of relationship right now, so there may not be anything you can do. Every time you guys get closer together and it seems like you are going to have more of a relationship, he pushes you away. You aren’t doing anything wrong. He either wants a relationship or not. Right now, all you can do is wait and give him some space. Hopefully, he’ll realize that he misses you enough to want to commit (at least a little).

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        Julia

        January 27, 2020 at 10:29 pm

        thank you, you give me hope.

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    Arunika

    January 24, 2020 at 2:02 am

    I met a guy, we went on a date and hung out for the weekend and he said he wasn’t feeling a connection. and to be fair i wasn’t either but now we’ve just been hanging out in friend groups and i think i like him. i want to try again but he was the one who ended it in the first place. what should i do??

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 24, 2020 at 11:23 am

      Continue to nourish your social relationships in groups. If he develops feelings for you again, then you should speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Make a decision about what you feel is appropriate in regard to your current relationship.

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    Sadnes

    January 15, 2020 at 5:54 pm

    What if I’m not in the same class as him and he likes anouther girl. What will I do then?

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      web admin

      January 17, 2020 at 2:18 pm

      You might just have to wait and hope for the best. If he likes another girl, it may be better for him to make his move and get rejected so that he knows he can’t be with her. And if she says yes, then just wait it out because the odds are good that they’ll end up breaking up since even marriages have a 50/50 chance of ending.

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    Deepika

    January 7, 2020 at 9:30 am

    Hello. I am in a relationship and its just 2 weeks long yet. I feel so empty. And I appreciate that when I told him to give me time he did that. Today I met him. He was looking amazing. I couldn’t get over him. But I felt myself in the state of low confidence. Kindly suggest something

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 7, 2020 at 10:14 pm

      Confidence is something that comes from within yourself and not from your partner. You can try to develop your self-confidence by learning a new skill. Mastering a skill, becoming talented at playing a sport or getting an additional degree are all ways you can naturally boost your confidence levels. If you continue to feel in a state of low confidence, you may want to consider talking to a therapist–it is not uncommon to suffer from confidence problems when you are depressed, for example.

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    Hari

    December 29, 2019 at 8:19 am

    So, I read this and It makes total sense, i recently went two weeks with out talking to him and i called out the blue, it rang until voicemail. In my opinion i think he was letting my call go to voicemail, do you think i should’ve texted him instead, and is it smart to wait a longer period of time before I acknowledge him to reconcile ?

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      web admin

      January 2, 2020 at 3:59 pm

      The two of you have not spoken for weeks, and he has made the decision to not respond to you. He is no longer interested in maintaining a relationship with you.

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    tyeshia

    October 29, 2019 at 6:34 pm

    i try this and it work me and my ex boyfriend back together we in love again thanks so much

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 3, 2020 at 5:59 pm

      Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. We always appreciate when members of our community share their thoughts and feelings.

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    Kelsey

    October 27, 2019 at 6:58 pm

    How long of a timeframe should I go without talking to him before trying to text him again for the first time??

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      web admin

      March 5, 2020 at 10:51 am

      Take whatever amount of time that you feel is appropriate. For some people, this can be a matter of hours. Others may feel more comfortable with waiting a week. Determine what you feel is appropriate for your life.

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    Vie

    October 14, 2019 at 3:56 am

    Hi! I’ve read your tips. I just broke up with him few weeks ago, and i took my words back. But the problem is he blocked me in WhatsApp. I can still message him through IG or FB but the thing is I am scared maybe if will block me also.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 2, 2020 at 9:56 pm

      You made the decision to break up with him. Because of this, he decided to block you. It is clear that this relationship is no longer viable. If he reaches out to you in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings at that time. If he chooses to no longer be part of your life, then determine what you want for your future without him.

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    Rose

    June 29, 2019 at 9:31 am

    So I’ve read everything here and I love it. The only problem is I appeared to needy and I over texted and no responses anymore. We spoke last night and he was in a hurry to hang up. I dunno what else to do

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      web admin

      June 30, 2019 at 10:39 pm

      You are aware of the mistakes that you made. Often times, we send too many messages and this may cause people to be uncertain about maintaining a relationship with you. Apply this knowledge to your future interactions. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Rose!

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      olympia

      September 4, 2019 at 2:15 pm

      in my opinion i think you should just ignore him like she said because then he will proably start wanting to talk to you again so just for now ignore him 🙂

      • web admin

        web admin

        September 5, 2019 at 7:34 pm

        Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. We always appreciate when members of our community share their supportive comments. Have a great day, Olympia!

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      Sydnie

      January 2, 2020 at 10:06 am

      i over texted i kept saying the same thing over not knowing and then 2 weeks later or so he just started with smaller responses which turned to him unfriending me all together. what do i do!?

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 2, 2020 at 3:16 pm

        If he has unfriended you, there is nothing you can do. He has decided this relationship isn’t right for him, so it is unlikely that he will change his mind. 🙁

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    Boyfriend

    June 18, 2019 at 9:36 am

    I’ve read several good stuff here. Definitely worth bookmarking for revisiting. I wonder how much effort you put to make such a great informative website.

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      web admin

      June 18, 2019 at 2:20 pm

      Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings with us in the future. Have a great day, Boyfriend!

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