How to Flirt With a Guy in Middle School

By on March 30, 2015

If there is a certain guy that catches you eye and you’re in middle school, here are some fun ways to get his attention and see if he likes you back! Remember, it’s important that you hang out with him in groups with other friends so you can see if he’s nice and if his friends are nice. While you’re not going to have a serious boyfriend in middle school, you still may develop a crush and it’s ok to be friends with them.

Don’t worry if you’re kind of shy, you don’t have to do anything scary to get a guy to notice you. If you’re not the most outgoing person in school, you will make friends with guys who don’t want to hang out with the loud girls. Also, remember to listen to him when you guys are chatting because no one wants to just hear about the other person all the time. The best way to talk to a guy is to ask him questions about what he likes and give him a few nice compliments too!


Have Fun Being Stylish

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You can have fun being a girl by wearing fun colors and changing your hair style. Guys aren’t impressed by way too much makeup so don’t worry about begging your mom to buy you some. Accessories can be fun though! Just be yourself and if you feel fabulous, a guy will probably notice you.


Invite Him To A School Sports Game

See if he’s going to a game and tell him to find you at the game. You will be able to talk to him during the game but it won’t be too awkward in case you don’t have anything to say since there’s a game going on. If you’re too nervous to invite him, go with your friends and you can all sit together.


Write Him Notes

Even though lots of kids are carrying cell phones these days, a fun note can still get his attention. You can give it to him yourself or have a friend you trust pass it to him. Just make sure you don’t pass notes in class and get him in trouble!


Give Him Your Phone Number

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Not everyone in middle school has a phone but it is pretty common now. If you don’t have a cell phone you can give him your home number so he can call you. If you both have cell phones you may also be able to text. Let him text or call you first so you can tell if he’s interested! Let him show you he likes you so you will feel more sure about it.


Sit By Him When You Can

Whether it’s at lunch, during class, on the bus, or at a sports game, you can offer him a spot next to you. Say it with a smile and if he’s shy he might not take it but that’s ok. You can also save him a seat when you can which will give him the hint that you like him.


Ask Him What His Favorite Movies Are

If you don’t know what to talk about you can always ask him what his favorite movies are. You could even tell him which celebrity he reminds you of. Who knows, maybe you or one of your friends can have a group over to watch a movie and you can invite him! Movies are always fun and will make good memories. You can share your popcorn with him too!


Invite Him To Your Birthday or Holiday Parties

Birthday parties can be a lot of fun and so can Halloween or Christmas parties. If you are having a party, make sure you invite him and wear something you really like! When you feel comfortable, you will be more laid back around him and he won’t feel like you’re being fake. It’s pretty easy to tell when someone’s being fake and if he doesn’t like the real you, it’s just not a great match. Don’t take it personal.


Ask Him To Play A Sport With You After School

If you know he plays basketball, ask him if he wants to play at a park after school. Try not to beat him terribly if you’re better than him. Just play to have fun not to make him feel bad about himself.


Go Swimming

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If it’s warm out and you know of a good place to go swimming, ask him if he wants to go. Maybe it’s an indoor pool with a diving board which would also be fun!


Bake For Him

If you ask him what his favorite dessert is, you can surprise him and make it for him! They say the way to a boys heart is through his stomach and he will get the hint that you like him when you do something nice for him.


Cheer Him On At His Game

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If he plays a sport, maybe ask a few friends to go to the game with you and cheer him on. You can make a sign for the team and wear the team’s colors. If he doesn’t play sports, maybe you can see a play he is in or invite him to see a school play with you. But Don’t go over the top with cheering for him so he feels embarrassed!


Make Him Art

You can make him something sentimental that he can keep in his room. Maybe try painting, drawing or painting ceramics. You could make a heart or something that will remind him to smile and be happy.


Always Have a Smile  

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Guys like to be around happy girls because they enjoy their company. If you like to tell jokes or just goof around that’s great. Try to be as happy as you can and don’t bring up things you are sad about or complain about ANYTHING. You also shouldn’t talk bad about other people to him because that just makes you look like a gossiper! Talk about what you love and what you’re grateful for.


Let Him Come To You

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Guys don’t need to be chased and often they like to feel like they’re fighting for you. You don’t have to start all the conversations. Maybe give him a smile or make sure he knows you’re looking at him and let him approach you. If he likes you, he will! If he doesn’t like you that’s ok, he’s not the only boy you will have a crush on, you’re only in middle school.


Remember, you’re not in any rush to have a boyfriend but it’s totally fine to have a crush on someone. You can talk to your parents about him so they know what’s going on in your life and maybe they will help you get to see him outside of school too. Every parents has their own rules about what age is appropriate for a girl to have a boyfriend so make sure you talk to them about it. In the mean time, just be a great friend and be as nice as you can! You have a great life ahead of you and while you’re in middle school just focus on having fun, being a good friend and being a good student. If a guy doesn’t like you back, don’t worry about it, there are plenty more!


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    February 13, 2017 at 4:36 pm

    I have a huge crush on this boy. The problem is he is really shy and i am too. We tried going to the movies together but it was so awkward and be barely talked, we did hold hands though but still. i’m in seventh and he’s in eighth, he’s also my brothers best freind and i don’t know if he wants me as a girlfriend or not? I also don’t know how to be less shy? HELP!

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      February 14, 2017 at 11:21 am

      Just speak with him. Spend time with him. There is no reason to be shy. You know that he likes you and you know that you life him. You have nothing to fear. When you read this, make a determination to go out with him somewhere. Go on a walk with him or out to a meal. Best of luck, Abby!

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    Country girl

    December 21, 2016 at 3:49 pm

    I have a crazy crush on this boy named Trip. He lives on a farm, I live on a farm. He sit’s with me every time he has a chance, and even gave me his number. We both love/do fishing, hunting, animals, country life, trucks, playing in the woods, and we agree in terms of politics and we both feel that who the types of people we hang out with matters. We even have every class together. His friends told me he said that he likes me. Anybody? I’m only in 6th grade, but it seems like we’re the only two people who aren’t in a relationship.

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      December 22, 2016 at 11:57 am

      It is clear that the two of you are interested in each other. Text him your thoughts as soon as you are able. Try to spend time with him. Ask him to go on a walk with you or perhaps go play in the woods. The more time that the two of you share with each other, the more closer the two of you will become. Enjoy life and remain positive. Best of luck, Country Girl!

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    November 24, 2016 at 11:50 pm

    I’m in 8th grade and I like this guy. My best friend likes him too. I’m not quite sure what I should do. I told him I like him, but I’m not sure if he took it seriously because I told him it was a dare. It was not a dare. I sit next to him almost every class,but my friend has social media and I don’t. I’m afraid that she has that advantage. Please help…

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      November 25, 2016 at 10:21 am

      If he likes you more, the social media aspect will not matter. As for your friend, you could have a problem. If you guys have talked about this, then it should be less of an issue. Perhaps you should discuss it with her again and just stress that whoever the guy likes should get him, and the other person should accept it. You need to be careful that you do not ruin your friendship over the guy. It sounds like he could like you, but there is no way to know for sure yet.

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    November 11, 2016 at 7:43 pm

    There is a guy at my school who I like (guy 1), but the problem is one of his friends likes me(guy 2). I know that guy 2 has told guy 1 that he likes me . What do I do?

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      November 12, 2016 at 6:26 pm

      If guy 2 likes you, then guy 1 may be hesitant to establish a relationship with you. They are likely friends and guy 1 may not want to hurt his friends feelings. That said, you should allow your desires for a relationship lead your actions. If you want, then try to spend additional time with guy 1. If guy 2 has a problem with your actions, then your relationship may not have a chance to start. Remain mindful as you move forward. Best of luck, Maddie!

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    November 11, 2016 at 6:05 pm

    OK,so I’m in the 8th grade and I have this crush. He is so sweet and nice. He is really popular. I have friends that are popular and others that aren’t. But I’m not popular like him. He wrestles, plays basketball, and plays football. Lately, I feel like I’ve been needy. I’ll tell you what happen, so last year in 7th grade he dated this girl and we had one class together. At the end of the year, we would always flat tire each other and stuff and we became friends. I started liking him. Over the summer he broke up with his girlfriend because she was being a b*#@$ and something happened where she let a guy grab her but and he got mad and upset and she went off. He broke up with her and i told him that if her needs anything I’m here. He told me thank you. But at the end of 7th grade, I told him I liked his best friend because EVERYONE kept saying I liked this old crush. I didn’t want him to think that. This year i told this girl I liked him, we’re friends but she is a b*[email protected]#. She turned around and said she liked him too. So i got upset. Then i felt like he ignored me and stuff and i got mad. We made-up and i got him a basketball that he plays with every day. But there is another girl who likes him and always never lets me talk to him. I old him this and he said he doesn’t like her like that and pushed her away a little. The other day i told him how i was sorry i ignored him, and i only did that because his friends don’t like me and i didn’t want him to say the same thing. He told me that he is sorry i feel his friends think that but if they do that doesn’t mean he thinks that. My face got red (my face gets red very easily). Then during passing period that girl was at his locker (are lockers are near eachother) and we were talking at mine and he leaned in really close even tho the halls were quite and ignored her. And one day i told everyone to give me a nickname to call them and he told me to call him ‘big daddy’…… yeah, so i dont know if he likes me or not. But i want him to make the first move. How can know if he likes me, and how can i get him to make the first move????? I’m also trying not get so mad at him and give him space but yeah help me!!!!!

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      November 11, 2016 at 6:07 pm

      also him and my first crush, and his best friend i told him i liked are best buddies!!!! (he knows i don’t like his friend anymore and that I’m single.)

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        November 12, 2016 at 6:23 pm

        If he knows that you like him and no longer like his buddy, then he should know that you may be taking moves toward him. His friend may be standing in the way of your relationship. However, it would be wise for you to only focus on your target. Enjoy life!

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      November 12, 2016 at 6:22 pm

      It seems as though there is the potential that he likes you. It is clear that you like him. If the two of you are single, then there is no reason for you to not attempt to develop a relationship with him. Perhaps try to spend additional time with him. Share your interests and hobbies with him. In time, you can speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. It is certain that you are a mindful and positive person. Best of luck in your endeavors!

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    October 25, 2016 at 5:05 pm

    There is a boy in my class that I have liked since I saw him .I can’t tell if he likes me.He looks at me sometimes.I don’t know how to start the conversation what should I say

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      October 26, 2016 at 2:29 pm

      If you want to develop a relationship with this person and you want to make the first move, then perhaps speak with him about your interests and hobbies. See what he likes as well and see where your friendship goes. It is almost certain that he has an interest in you, and he may be shy or uncertain about your feelings. If you want him to take the first move, then perhaps catch his eye and make him think about you. Enjoy life and remain positive, Lilly!

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      November 11, 2016 at 5:45 am

      Well that is kinda the same thing with me. We are both in wrestling together
      And he comes up to me a lite

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        November 11, 2016 at 11:31 am

        Thank you for sharing your positive and insightful comments. It is certain that your words may help someone in the future. It is great to see such community building words between our readers. Feel free to share more in the future, Grace!

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      November 11, 2016 at 5:46 am

      well maybe you should hang out more like if on same bus sit next to him

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        November 11, 2016 at 11:31 am

        Thank you for sharing your positive and insightful comments. It is certain that your words may help someone in the future. It is great to see such community building words between our readers. Feel free to share more in the future, Grace!

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      November 11, 2016 at 5:51 am

      Help I have this big crush on this guy in my wrestling class and yesterday I gotten lucky and we got to wrestle each
      Other and I won and he was a good sport and befor that we had thing game and me and him I gotten pulled by the legs
      And he took hold of my hand and after practice yesterday and the day before we sat on the bus together.
      Do you think he likes me????

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        November 11, 2016 at 11:32 am

        Since the two of you share interests and spend a lot of time together, it is likely that he has feelings for you. Since you normally sit together, it is even more likely that he wants to develop a relationship with you. If you want to do so, then it would be wise of you to speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. This will further establish your relationship together. Be sure to share your interests and thoughts with him as the two of you become closer. Best of luck, Grace!

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      November 11, 2016 at 5:44 pm

      I’ve felt the same. Just sit by him when you can. Compliment him or ask him if he knows the answer to a problem on something. Or if you’re really shy or nervous just ask the easiest thing… Do you want a mint/gum? This is the easiest icebreaker ever. Good Luck!!! Also if you become friends, make sure you get physical, whether its a hug or high five and don’t be his friend to long or you’ll find yourself friend-zoned. Don’t be too needy either. But i hope it works out!! 🙂

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        November 12, 2016 at 6:16 pm

        We appreciate your insights and positive words. It is certain that your thoughts and ideas will hep our readers now and in the future. Please contribute more of your experiences and thoughts in the future. Have a great one!

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    October 9, 2016 at 5:38 pm

    Liking a boy is something that takes time and confdence.

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      October 9, 2016 at 5:40 pm

      have fun!!!

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        October 10, 2016 at 11:25 am

        🙂 You, too! Thanks for commenting!

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      October 10, 2016 at 11:24 am

      That is very true. It can be unnerving to try to flirt at first, but it gets easier after a while. Thanks for commenting, Jamie!

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    September 30, 2016 at 4:17 pm

    I have started a relationship with a really popular guy on which i have had a crush from forever. When he asked me out he told me also likes me, but i am not sure if he does. I feel like its a bet or prank. And each time i talk to him about this says its not true and he is really interested in me. I just dont want a broken heart. Also i really like him a lot so i dont want to break up.

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      October 1, 2016 at 2:33 pm

      I would not read too much into it. If he seems genuine about how he feels and has not changed his mind yet, then it is unlikely that this was a bet or prank. It is easy to underestimate yourself, so you probably are just not aware of how awesome you are and the many reasons why he would want to date you. It sounds like you finally have the boyfriend of your dreams, so relax and enjoy it! Congratulations!

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    September 19, 2016 at 7:56 pm

    I am in 8th grade and i absolutely adore this boy. He is super attractive and funny. The thing is, he is a REALLy popular guy. He has friends with thousands of followers on instagram. He does too i think. Idk if he likes me or not. How do i make it really obvious that i like him but not showing that im needy and desperate ( which i’m not) but yeah. What do i do to make sparks fly in between us and for him to just fall in love with me!?!

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      September 20, 2016 at 3:57 pm

      It will be difficult to speak with someone and have them immediately fall in love with you. That said, your best option is to speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. You may find his interest in developing a relationship with you matching your desire to have a relationship with him. Speak with him and person and try to go out with him to a cafe or restaurant. Be bold, Allison.

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    September 18, 2016 at 5:21 pm

    We are friends but I’m still nervous E to ask him for his number

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      September 19, 2016 at 1:19 pm

      Go ahead and do it! It might be intimidating, but at least asking him will mean that you can stop feeling so nervous about it all the time. Plus, you will be able to find out right away if he likes you or wants to be with you. It would be far better to know that you have to move on than spend forever wondering what could have been possible. Best of luck!

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    September 18, 2016 at 5:19 pm

    So I like this guy a lot! But he is the most popular guy in the whole grade!! I am not that popular I do I have some friends who are popular and I have a lot of well friends but still. Last year I finally told myself I liked him and not to deny it anymore. And this year I’ve been working up myself to ask him for his number, but I’m too scared that he’ll say no and laugh at me (even though he is the nicest guy ever!! (To me anyways)) Another thing is I don’t want him to know for a while because I want to take it slow also I’m not the type of girl who gagas over a boy or whatever. How should I ask him for his number with out A. Getting laughed at and B. Him not knowing I like him?

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      September 19, 2016 at 1:18 pm

      Go ahead and ask him! You will never know if he likes you or not if you do not take that risk! You said that he is a nice guy, so he is probably not going to laugh at you. Plus, the second problem will be solved when you ask him for his number because he will assume that you are interested. From that point, he can decide whether to respond or not. Good luck, Kirbster!

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    August 30, 2016 at 10:08 am

    My crush looks at me in classs, and looks right in my eyes when we talk. But he definitely knows i like him. EVERYONE know i like him. Is that good? I have almost all of my classes with him, what other flirting should i do? Please help, i really really like him!

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      August 30, 2016 at 12:37 pm

      It is clear that you like him, he likes you, and the knowledge that you like him is known. He is attempting to establish a relationship with you. If you want to do the same, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. There is no reason to be shy at this time as your feelings are public and known. If you do not act at this time, then your chance may be lost. Remember that fortune favors the bold.

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    Erynn Knight

    August 29, 2016 at 7:36 pm

    I have a friend his name is Trace and he never leaves me alone he tells me that he loves me and that he is single. And when we are at school on the grass with some of my other friends he kisses me on the check but I can date I just have to let my mother know. And my “best friend” flirts with him and try to get up in his grill and that makes me mad because I think I love him too. But I don’t know what to do because he flirts with her back. And I don’t know if me and trace really do like each other or if its all fake. And it would kill me if it was a fake and yeah I need your help!!!!

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      August 30, 2016 at 12:18 pm

      It is clear that he has an interested in you. It is also clear that your friend has an interested in him and he likes her back. Determine what course of action you should take as soon as you are able. It would be most wise to speak with your friend about what the two of you should do. You do not want to lose a close friend over a guy at this age. It is easy to find guys who you are interested in, but finding lasting friends is more difficult. Remain positive as you move forward.

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    A girl

    August 5, 2016 at 9:55 pm

    I like a guy but he flirts with all the girls and when im around him i just can’t stop blushing. And i told my friend and she said you like him?! Plus im a guys crush and hes like crazy for me but u would never date him. I really what my crush to like me so bad. What do I do?

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      August 6, 2016 at 1:24 pm

      If you have someone who you know has a crush on you, but you do not want to develop a relationship with that person, then you should tell them directly that you are not interested in dating them. If you want to develop a relationship with the person that you are interested in, then speak with them directly and honestly about your feelings. However, if you do develop a relationship with this person, then it is important that you explain that you do not want him to flirt with other girls. If he continues to do so, then it may cause problems of infidelity in the future.

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    May 27, 2016 at 8:51 pm

    how can i tell if he likes me

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      June 3, 2016 at 12:40 pm

      We have an article called “How to Tell If a Guy Likes You” on Her Interest. It includes all of the signs that a guy may be interested. Read through the article and see if he does any of the signs. Best of luck!

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    March 3, 2016 at 9:57 am

    What do I do when I like him and he knows? Hwo can I get him to like me in a week or two?

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      March 4, 2016 at 9:28 am

      You can only get him to like you if he was already interested on some level. If he is completely uninterested, nothing will work. Your best bet to get him to like you is to start talking to him and get to know him better. If that seems to go well, you could start messaging him online or texting him–there are a number of flirty text ideas on Her Interest that you could look up. Hopefully, he will get the hint by that point and ask you out (if he is interested). Good luck, Lily!

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    January 26, 2016 at 1:39 pm

    what if he already likes you but you want to flirt even more

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      January 27, 2016 at 2:16 pm

      Go ahead and try to flirt. Touch his shoulder, elbow or arm while talking, lean in when he is speaking and smile a lot. You could also try sending him cute text messages (we have a list of flirty text messages on this website that you could check out). You could also try cutting to the chase by just asking him out and seeing if he likes you. Good luck, Lexii!

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    November 14, 2015 at 4:24 am

    I have a friend in middle school and she doesn’t know how to flirt with the most popular guy in school

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      November 14, 2015 at 5:41 am

      Flirting with someone that you are not close to or who is extremely popular can be nerve wracking. The only real way to do it is to just talk to him and get used to talking to him. Saying hello, messaging back and forth online or joining a club that he is in will help. Your friend will need to do her best to make these opportunities come naturally so that it does not feel forced when she talks to him. Good luck!

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    August 19, 2015 at 8:05 pm

    guys dont really show if they like me what could i do i like this boy and people say he likes me how can i see if he likes me

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      August 21, 2015 at 3:31 pm

      We actually have a few articles on the sign that your crush is interested in you. You could check out these articles and see if he does any of the signs. Plus, other people are generally much better at figuring out if someone is interested. If your friends and classmates keep telling you that he likes you, then he probably is interested.

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      October 2, 2015 at 8:43 pm

      lol i loe

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    April 14, 2015 at 5:18 pm

    I Have A Bf

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      April 14, 2015 at 8:14 pm

      Congratulations! If you need other relationship advice, make sure to check out some of our other articles!

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