How to Flirt With a Guy in Middle School

By on March 30, 2015

If there is a certain guy that catches you eye and you’re in middle school, here are some fun ways to get his attention and see if he likes you back! Remember, it’s important that you hang out with him in groups with other friends so you can see if he’s nice and if his friends are nice. While you’re not going to have a serious boyfriend in middle school, you still may develop a crush and it’s ok to be friends with them.


Don’t worry if you’re kind of shy, you don’t have to do anything scary to get a guy to notice you. If you’re not the most outgoing person in school, you will make friends with guys who don’t want to hang out with the loud girls. Also, remember to listen to him when you guys are chatting because no one wants to just hear about the other person all the time. The best way to talk to a guy is to ask him questions about what he likes and give him a few nice compliments too!

 

Have Fun Being Stylish

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You can have fun being a girl by wearing fun colors and changing your hair style. Guys aren’t impressed by way too much makeup so don’t worry about begging your mom to buy you some. Accessories can be fun though! Just be yourself and if you feel fabulous, a guy will probably notice you.

 

Invite Him To A School Sports Game

See if he’s going to a game and tell him to find you at the game. You will be able to talk to him during the game but it won’t be too awkward in case you don’t have anything to say since there’s a game going on. If you’re too nervous to invite him, go with your friends and you can all sit together.

 

Write Him Notes

Even though lots of kids are carrying cell phones these days, a fun note can still get his attention. You can give it to him yourself or have a friend you trust pass it to him. Just make sure you don’t pass notes in class and get him in trouble!

 

Give Him Your Phone Number

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Not everyone in middle school has a phone but it is pretty common now. If you don’t have a cell phone you can give him your home number so he can call you. If you both have cell phones you may also be able to text. Let him text or call you first so you can tell if he’s interested! Let him show you he likes you so you will feel more sure about it.

 

Sit By Him When You Can

Whether it’s at lunch, during class, on the bus, or at a sports game, you can offer him a spot next to you. Say it with a smile and if he’s shy he might not take it but that’s ok. You can also save him a seat when you can which will give him the hint that you like him.

 

Ask Him What His Favorite Movies Are

If you don’t know what to talk about you can always ask him what his favorite movies are. You could even tell him which celebrity he reminds you of. Who knows, maybe you or one of your friends can have a group over to watch a movie and you can invite him! Movies are always fun and will make good memories. You can share your popcorn with him too!

 

Invite Him To Your Birthday or Holiday Parties

Birthday parties can be a lot of fun and so can Halloween or Christmas parties. If you are having a party, make sure you invite him and wear something you really like! When you feel comfortable, you will be more laid back around him and he won’t feel like you’re being fake. It’s pretty easy to tell when someone’s being fake and if he doesn’t like the real you, it’s just not a great match. Don’t take it personal.

 

Ask Him To Play A Sport With You After School

If you know he plays basketball, ask him if he wants to play at a park after school. Try not to beat him terribly if you’re better than him. Just play to have fun not to make him feel bad about himself.

 

Go Swimming

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If it’s warm out and you know of a good place to go swimming, ask him if he wants to go. Maybe it’s an indoor pool with a diving board which would also be fun!

 

Bake For Him

If you ask him what his favorite dessert is, you can surprise him and make it for him! They say the way to a boys heart is through his stomach and he will get the hint that you like him when you do something nice for him.

 

Cheer Him On At His Game

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If he plays a sport, maybe ask a few friends to go to the game with you and cheer him on. You can make a sign for the team and wear the team’s colors. If he doesn’t play sports, maybe you can see a play he is in or invite him to see a school play with you. But Don’t go over the top with cheering for him so he feels embarrassed!

 

Make Him Art

You can make him something sentimental that he can keep in his room. Maybe try painting, drawing or painting ceramics. You could make a heart or something that will remind him to smile and be happy.

 

Always Have a Smile  

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Guys like to be around happy girls because they enjoy their company. If you like to tell jokes or just goof around that’s great. Try to be as happy as you can and don’t bring up things you are sad about or complain about ANYTHING. You also shouldn’t talk bad about other people to him because that just makes you look like a gossiper! Talk about what you love and what you’re grateful for.

 

Let Him Come To You

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Guys don’t need to be chased and often they like to feel like they’re fighting for you. You don’t have to start all the conversations. Maybe give him a smile or make sure he knows you’re looking at him and let him approach you. If he likes you, he will! If he doesn’t like you that’s ok, he’s not the only boy you will have a crush on, you’re only in middle school.

 

Remember, you’re not in any rush to have a boyfriend but it’s totally fine to have a crush on someone. You can talk to your parents about him so they know what’s going on in your life and maybe they will help you get to see him outside of school too. Every parents has their own rules about what age is appropriate for a girl to have a boyfriend so make sure you talk to them about it. In the mean time, just be a great friend and be as nice as you can! You have a great life ahead of you and while you’re in middle school just focus on having fun, being a good friend and being a good student. If a guy doesn’t like you back, don’t worry about it, there are plenty more!

85 Comments

  1. Marina Riddle

    October 1, 2018 at 6:58 pm

    I like a guy and I am not sure if he knows or if he likes me and my friend has been txting him saying that he should hang out with me I want to flirt with him without being sluttish I am in 7th grade

    • web admin

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      October 1, 2018 at 10:00 pm

      You are interested in developing a relationship with this person. There is no reason to feel uncomfortable about your decisions. You will find greater benefit in speaking your your crush directly. Speaking through a friend may cause confusion. Share your thoughts and feelings with your crush. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Marina!

  2. leila

    September 7, 2018 at 9:43 pm

    I really like this guy and he seems to always be near me but he’s new to my school so its awkward to just start talking to him but what should I do I sit next to him in a class and most of my classes are with him I want to drop my pencil in class and us both reach for it and have our hands touch but what should I do

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      September 7, 2018 at 10:36 pm

      It seems that you are aware that he wants to develop a relationship with you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you. If you want to nourish a relationship with him, then spend time with him in person. You will find great benefit in doing so. Have a great day, Leila!

    • Marina Riddle

      October 1, 2018 at 7:00 pm

      Be cool don’t rush it but txt him

      • web admin

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        October 1, 2018 at 10:01 pm

        Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Marina!

  3. Savannah R

    July 15, 2018 at 6:33 am

    I like this guy and he knows I exist but we are not really friends. We know each other from our school shows and that’s really my only chance to talk to him what do I do?

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      July 15, 2018 at 10:48 pm

      Determine what you want for the future of your relationship at this time. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. He may not be aware of your feelings, so he may be surprised and uncertain how to respond. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Savannah!

  4. Maddie

    June 2, 2018 at 9:44 pm

    I have a really big crush on the kid I sit next to in class. We were at our 6th grade camping trip and in one of the activities I TOUCHED HIS HAND. We have 7 more days of school and I really like him what should I do???

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      June 3, 2018 at 10:51 pm

      You are interested in developing a relationship with this person. You touched his hand, so you should remember what his reaction was. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps attempt to spend additional time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship with him. Ensure that he has an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Maddie!

  5. Anya

    May 18, 2018 at 8:03 pm

    I am in middle school and I really like this boy and he likes me back but he is moving… it is the only reason we aren’t dating is because he is moving! What do I do? We are REALLY good friends and I don’t know what to do!

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 19, 2018 at 12:47 pm

      He is moving, but that is no reason to stop nourishing your friendship. It is likely that the two of you will have to work hard to maintain a romantic relationship if he will be a long distance from you. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. Share your thoughts and feelings and give him an opportunity to do the same. Have a great day, Anya!

  6. Taylor Costa

    May 15, 2018 at 12:39 pm

    I ami in 7th grade and I like this guy but I dated him once and I can’t get over him. I try everything I can to man up and feel comfortable arounfpd him but I can’t do it. I write notes to him but them I get nervous and I don’t give it to him. I really like him. How do i get him to like me. Please help

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 15, 2018 at 10:27 pm

      The two of you dated. This means that your relationship has ended. If you believe that this relationship is viable, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you are aware that he does not want to nourish a relationship with you, then focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Perhaps attempt to spend additional with him in person. Have a great day, Taylor!

  7. Gabi B

    May 10, 2018 at 7:23 pm

    I like this guy but he knows I like him. I was wondering how do I get his attention and how do you I ask him out. I just don’t want him to reject me. Also I LOVE this website. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • web admin

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      May 10, 2018 at 9:27 pm

      Thank you for sharing your positive comment. He knows that you like him, so he may find that his feelings are growing. Since you want to develop a relationship with him, you should share your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps attempt to spend additional time with him in person. Do not fear rejection, because you do not want to become emotionally attached to a person who does not want to develop a relationship with you. Have a great day, Gabi!

      • Gabi B

        May 12, 2018 at 6:12 pm

        Thank you so much!!!

        • web admin

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          May 12, 2018 at 8:43 pm

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    • Taylor Costa

      May 15, 2018 at 12:36 pm

      I have that same problem

      • web admin

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        May 15, 2018 at 10:23 pm

        Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. Please feel free to share your insights in the future. Have a great day, Taylor!

  8. RH

    April 28, 2018 at 6:34 pm

    So if I like a guy who I see once a year for a week for acting camp how do I get his attention

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      April 28, 2018 at 10:48 pm

      Your best option is to walk up to him and share your thoughts and feelings with him. It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. The two of you share hobbies and interested. Decide if this relationship is viable and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Rh!

  9. Mayah N.

    April 7, 2018 at 12:35 pm

    There is this guy that I like that is in the grade ahead of me. We are friends, but I think he might like me. How do I flirt with him when we are not even allowed to sit on the same side of the lunchroom?

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      web admin

      April 8, 2018 at 9:00 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. If you are not able to speak directly and honestly because of social requirements, then attempt to catch his eyes with your eyes. If you look and him and smile, then he may be aware of your thoughts. Determine what actions you think are appropriate and viable. Have a great day, Mayah!

    • alexandria

      April 22, 2018 at 3:39 pm

      smile at him trust him and then hug him

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        April 22, 2018 at 11:13 pm

        Thank you for sharing your positive comment. It is beneficial for our readers to support each other. Have a great day, Alexandria!

      • Mayah N.

        April 27, 2018 at 1:38 pm

        Thank you for the comment too! This website is very helpful.

  10. Talia

    March 22, 2017 at 10:38 pm

    I know this guy through tennis and we’ve had some conversations and I like him. How do I get him to notice/like me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 23, 2017 at 7:46 am

      Keep talking to him and try flirting with him! You could also ask for his number or add him online so that you have more chances to get to know him better. It is often less intimidating and easier to talk to someone via text, so you could start moving your relationship forward by doing that. Good luck, Talia!

  11. Kaylee Dixon

    February 16, 2017 at 4:53 pm

    how do i build up conidence for a boy?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 16, 2017 at 5:34 pm

      You need to build confidence in yourself. Figure out whatever it is that you don’t like about yourself and realize that you are amazing as you are. You will find that this person will look past any of the concerns that you have about yourself. Just be kind and compassionate towards him and your relationship will flourish. Best of luck, Kaylee!

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