How to Deal With Your Crush Not Liking You Back
There is that moment no one wants to face – when you have to accept that your crush doesn’t like you. Whether it is because he just made it clear in the most embarrassing (for you) of all possible ways, or because he doesn’t respond to you flirting with him, or he started going out with someone else.
1. Cry a Little
Let it out. Take a day to feel sad about it. To analyze it. To do whatever you want.
2. Accept It
To be able to let something go you have to accept it. Some people get angry and want to fight it. They want to prove themselves to the guy. In other words, they are still holding onto it. Then it won’t go away. Fighting something requires that it’s still there.
3. Get a Life You Enjoy
Whilst you might not feel motivated at first, the best way to become happy again is to create a fulfilling life.
The first step to happiness is health. This includes healthy foods, plenty of fresh water, sleeping on regular hours and getting enough sleep (otherwise you are constantly jet lagged and irritable as a result), spending time outdoors so you get your dose of sunshine every day and exercising. Exercising, whether it be hiking with friends, dancing, yoga, the gym, or martial arts, is also the perfect time for socializing and meeting new people. Find something you enjoy doing as opposed to just going to the gym because you have to.
Being healthy helps the brain release the chemicals that will make you feel happy. It’s a cornerstone to happiness.
Secondly, fill your time with things you love and things you know will take you to where you want to go. Inspire yourself to become the person you truly want to be. Maybe you need to do more homework to get the grades to get into your fav uni, or you are in uni thinking you want to develop your interests further and take a fashion designer class…whatever it is, do it!
4. Get Social
Nothing like love and laughter to make you forget your sorrows. Join Meetup groups, spend time with friends, attend networking events, take classes in something you love…do whatever it takes to fill your life with fun people!
5. Get Away
There’s nothing like a change of scenery to lift your spirits and make you realize there’s more to life than what you’re currently seeing. Take a road trip for the weekend with friends. You can always catch a bus if you don’t have a car and you can try couchsurfing.com for free stays – choose people with plenty of reviews so you know it’s safe. You could also go visit relatives somewhere, or go camping with friends or family.
6. Care About Someone Else
Whether you decide to pamper your grandma for the weekend, or join a volunteer program, there’s nothing like helping others to forget about your own pain. It opens your eyes to things beyond you. It also helps cure a broken ego as you realize the world is not all about you.
7. Stop Yourself from Brooding
You had your day of sadness and sure enough pangs of sadness might hit you at other times, but don’t let them overtake you. You are the master of your mind. When you feel your thoughts drifting in the wrong direction (or you start talking to your friends about the guy), change direction. Watch a movie, put on happy music, read a book, go for a walk, dance, hit the gym…just simply discipline yourself to acknowledge the feeling, let it be (don’t fight it!) and move on.
8. Challenge Yourself
There’s nothing like overcoming your fears, or perceived limitations, to make yourself feel good. Go out there and do what you dream of. Challenge yourself to become good in areas you know you want to be good in, but aren’t. If you don’t know how, Google it. Read books about it.
When you overcome the fears holding you back in your life, you will feel amazing!
9. Don’t Blame Yourself
The truth is that finding the right guy is about finding the right match. If he doesn’t like you, it doesn’t mean you are unattractive. It means the two of you aren’t a match. Look upon it as a puzzle – just because the pieces don’t fit doen’t mean they are wrong. It simply means that they don’t fit together.
10. Meet Other Guys
The more you socialize the greater the chance of meeting other guys as well. And the happier you are, the greater the chance of attracting them.
By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery