How To Be a Better Girlfriend

By on May 26, 2014
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Relationships are tough, and if you feel like you’re not doing your part, it can become overwhelming. Make sure your girlfriend duties are in check and become the girlfriend you’ve always dreamed of being with these 15 steps to being a better girlfriend.


1. Stay Hot, Honey!

You know what they say, you should never change yourself for anyone- and that’s absolutely true. However, you can still do whatever it is you need to do to make sure you’re looking your best for your partner. After all, he thinks you’re the most beautiful woman in the world and happily has you on his arm wherever he goes. He wants to flaunt you in all your womanly beauty, so why not look your best? Whether you hit the gym, change your eating habits, or simply dress up every once in awhile, he will surely appreciate it (and will of course love the bragging rights even more so).


2. Trust Him

Nothing is more annoying- and breaks up a relationship quicker- than a partner who doesn’t trust their lover. Trust is important. It is the stepping stone of every great relationship, so if you’re lacking in this department, you might want to cut ties before it gets to heated. Not to mention no man wants to be with a woman who is constantly doubting his loyalty, even though he has given you 110 percent of his love and attention. In the end he’ll just think you are crazy and don’t care.


3. Give Him Some Space and Be Independent!

An independent woman? A HUGE turn on to men. Sure you want to be around your boyfriend as much as possible and spend plenty of time with him, but everyone needs their space. Show him you can be independent and successful without being glued to his hip and he will want you even more. (He will also enjoy those fishing trips with the guys!)


4. Stand By His Side- No Matter What

A great girlfriend- one who really and truly cares about her lover- will stand by his side no matter what. Even if there are rumors coming from every angle or he’s just lost his job, she will be there to encourage him and defend him till the end. Doing so will make him feel cherished and secure while also elevating you to the woman of his dreams. After all, don’t we all just need someone we can depend on through and through? Someone who won’t flake at the first sign of disaster? Your boyfriend’s looking for this person, and YOU should be it.


5. Love Him

You’re probably thinking to yourself, “Well of course I love him! That’s an easy and (kind of) stupid tip!” Think again. There’s a difference between loving someone and showing someone you love them. Do you think he can read your mind? Of course not! (Even though some woman are still under the impression their man should be able to know what they’re thinking.) You need to show him you love him, whether it’s with plenty of hugs and kisses, a sweet romantic gesture, or even something over the top- hey, guys like lovely surprises too!

6. Love Yourself

No man wants to be with a woman who puts all of her self worth into the guy she’s with. This shows extreme lack of confidence and a sense of neediness that really nobody wants to put up with. Love yourself first, and he won’t be able to stop from loving you too.


7. Be Uplifting and Positive

Have you ever had one of those friends that was constantly negative? No matter what happened, they would end up sulking and have something negative to say. Can you imagine entering into a relationship with somewhat like that? Talk about a downer! Your man needs a woman who will brighten his day- not bring a raincloud along. That doesn’t mean you’re not entitled to have a bad day every once and awhile, we all have those. But the bulk of your life should be filled with positivity and an uplifting spirit that will make him want to better his (and yours) lives!


8. Encourage Him

This goes hand in hand with being uplifting and positive, and is an essential trait of the perfect girlfriend. Whether he just needs some extra encouragement to finish his last school assignment or he needs some serious encouragement to conquer his finals, you should be there cheering him off. After all, the woman is supposed to better the man; why wouldn’t you want to egg him on in the right direction? Best part is you will be able to reap the positive benefits together and have a very rewarding future.

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    September 10, 2019 at 2:24 am

    Well written article. Some tips on being a good girlfriend:
    – Don’t just lean on to your boyfriend whenever you feel low. Be there for your boyfriend too whenever he is going through the same phase.
    – Make your boyfriend feel special by sending him ‘I love you’ texts or just letting him know that you are thinking about him.
    – Men can sometime act like kids. Don’t get angry and yell at him during such times. Express your concerns in a nicer way and he will listen to you.
    – Have trust in your boyfriend whenever he offers help to you. Appreciate him even if he did a bad job. Having trust in each other is a great in building solid relationship.
    – Don’t suppress your opinions and feelings just to please your boyfriend. Always express yourself in such a way that you don’t offend him.
    – Don’t change your personality to keep your man happy. You cant keep up with that act for a long time and when your boyfriend finds out, it will have a bad impact on your relationship.

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      September 10, 2019 at 7:19 pm

      Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. It is clear that you are interested in supporting other members of our community. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, John!

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    Soha Zain

    December 2, 2018 at 6:30 am

    Your article is indeed thought-provoking. I was not too much ready for such a detail piece. I am a little confused. I am in a relationship with a guy who just right for me but the problem is I often react on very silly things and later I realize it was not that much important. How should I change this childish behavior? I do not want to dump him.
    Your advice will be much appreciated.

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      December 2, 2018 at 8:57 pm

      You are aware of how your behaviors are causing problems in your relationship. You are also aware of which particular behaviors of yours are responsible. You know that if you do not choose to change your behaviors, then your relationship will end and those behaviors will influence your future relationships as well. Make the decision to stop reacting in that unacceptable manner. Have a great day, Soha!

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    Lizzy Adams

    January 13, 2018 at 6:48 pm

    So there is this guy we are dating but he told me he wants to take a break and I don’t know what to do because all i can do is break apart and cry and I miss him so much and he doesn’t talk to me very much anymore since he said that and he says he loves me but I don’t think he knows what he feels i don’t know what to do and I love him so much and I don’t know how to tell him how important he is to me

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      January 14, 2018 at 9:30 pm

      It is clear that you want to be a better partner, and it is certainly possible that he still cares for you. Regardless of this feelings, he has expressed that he is unable or unwilling to continue to nourish this relationship with you. There is no reason to reach out to him, but share your kindness and compassion with him if you speak with him. Learn the lessons from this relationship and apply them to your future relationships. Have a great day, Lizzy!

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    September 30, 2016 at 7:18 pm

    I am still stuck on my ex fiance. We were together for 3 years. I don’t know what to do to get over him. He is certainly over me though. We have 2 kids together and I have 1 from a previous relationship. I am finding hobbies, talking to other people, and i have seen a couple of other people since we broke up. All of this isn’t helping though. I still have feelings for him. I am not sure what to do.

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      October 1, 2016 at 2:38 pm

      At this point, there is nothing that you can do. You have already tried everything that you could do to move on and get over him faster, and it has not helped. It looks like the only thing that will help you is more time. It is not easy getting over a serious relationship, and it could be another year until you are completely healed. Some people say that it will take you half the duration of the relationship to get over an ex, although it will hopefully not take that long in this case. Stay positive, stay busy and be patient. Good luck, Anonymous!

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    September 28, 2015 at 11:55 pm

    hi. i met a guy. we are attend the same school from kindergarten till high school. before i don’t know that he was exist. cause im busy to study. and now we met after 7 years of high school graduation. he lives in the other town and thats why we are text a lot. we talk about everything. since i found out that he doesnt have a gf. this is my chances i think. then we more texting again and again. when we are start to texting, its like we dont wanna stop it. it can be days (ps: we text when we have freetime likes when we wakeup, lunch, at night before fall asleep). we never say goodnight but we always said goodmorning cause one of us is fall asleep before replied. so we replied when we wake up. i likes him so much. and i always try to make a signal “i likes u”. but it likes just flew away. we met once when he get sick, when im in his town. after all, we just keep texting. most of all, i always the first who said hello. what should i do? let him go or tells that i like him so much? please help. thanks

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      September 29, 2015 at 1:07 am

      I think that you could probably just tell him that you are interested. If he is texting you all of the time and even falls asleep because he wants to keep texting you through the night, then there is an excellent chance that he likes you. You will never know how he feels though unless you just tell him that you are interested. Good luck, Tria!

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    Maria Loewen

    September 10, 2015 at 4:30 am

    All I can say is thank you & God bless you.

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      September 11, 2015 at 2:29 am

      You are welcome! I am glad that we were able to help you out! Thanks for commenting, Maria!

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    August 5, 2015 at 8:01 am

    Wow i love your website its helped me so much with my relationship but I dont know what to do, im completly in love with him but he left my school this year and im just contacting him from my phone it’s not the same but i want it to last, and yet worse is that my mom dosent know we are datting, she hatds him, i dont get why she hates him! He’s incredible, i dont want to brake up with him, i dont even count it as an option, please help me it would mean the world to me.

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      August 6, 2015 at 5:49 pm

      It is entirely possible to have a long distance relationship if both people are committed. In reality, a long distance relationship has about the same chances of lasting over the long term as a typical relationship. If he is far away, then you can stay in touch via phone, Skype or instant messaging. If possible, you will want to visit him as often as you can–can you drive yet or take a bus to go and see him? If you cannot drive yet, it will be a bit harder since you would have to rely on your mom (who dislikes him) in order to go visit with him. How long until you can graduate high school and move? Or drive a car? Would it be possible for your boyfriend to drive and visit you instead?

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    July 25, 2015 at 5:58 pm

    I really like dis site cos it has helped me so much in my relationship

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      July 27, 2015 at 8:21 pm

      I am glad to hear that we could help! We have a number of other articles that you can read if you need more help with your relationship. Thanks for stopping by!

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    Josephine brejak

    May 11, 2015 at 1:11 am

    I don’t know if my boyfriend and I should split up he’s leaving my school at the end of the year and he says we will keep in touch… But I dont think we will

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    May 9, 2015 at 3:29 pm

    hi I’m back thank you for helping your advice has helped me a lot lots of love

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    May 9, 2015 at 3:29 pm

    hi I’m back thank you for helping your advice has helped me a lot lots of love josephine brejak

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      May 9, 2015 at 7:40 pm

      Thank you for commenting, Josephine. I am glad that my advice was able to help you out! If you ever have other questions or worries, send me a message and I will do my best to help you out! Good luck!

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    Josephine brejak

    May 5, 2015 at 10:17 pm

    I’m one of the clingiest people out there and I have a lot of friend issues because I have an attention addiction I always need attention plz halp!

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      May 6, 2015 at 2:16 pm

      Do you know why you always need attention? Are you able to recognize when you are legitimately asking for help and when you are just seeking extra attention? Even if you are naturally clingy, you can learn how to manage and control your behavior. It takes time, but the results are worth it. In the beginning, you should seek to recognize when you are just trying to get attention. Learn to tell the difference between the different motivations that you have. If you can learn when you are just seeking out attention, you can better learn how to control it.

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    February 15, 2015 at 10:09 pm

    Being independent is the hardest thing for me. I want, so desperately, to stop being clingy, but I honestly don’t know how. Everyone says “be independent”, but I don’t know how to.

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      April 14, 2015 at 9:24 pm

      One of the ways you can do this is by getting hobbies of your own. Hiking, sewing, kayaking, yoga, book clubs or other hobbies will help you meet other people and develop your own social life. Once you have your own passions to follow, it will be much easier to stop being clingy. If you need more advice, feel free to check out some of our articles on the site or leave another comment.

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    November 1, 2014 at 8:36 pm

    Idk im trying all that is possible but it is not working. He is loosing interest

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      April 14, 2015 at 9:26 pm

      Sometimes, your relationship will fail no matter how much effort you put into it. Realistically, every relationship that you have before you find the one will fail–and for some people, even marriage fails. If he is losing interest, that does not necessarily mean you are doing anything wrong. Your current boyfriend could just be the wrong person for you. Never fear, however, the right person is out there.

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