Feeling Unloved? What Your Feelings Might Mean and How to Cope
There’s probably few things worse than feeling unloved in a relationship. I mean, everything might be fine between the two of you, but you simply can’t shake the feeling that you’re just, unloved. It’s a really tough situation and you undoubtedly don’t want to continue the relationship feeling this way, so what’s a girl to do? We’re going to discuss why you might be feeling this way and how to fix this terrible problem.
Why do you feel unloved?
There’s a few different reasons why one may be feeling unloved in their relationship. First and foremost, the two of you may have different ways of showing love. You might be the type of person who loves to be showered with compliments and appreciation as well as gifts and special dates, while your partner is much less romantic and is okay with hanging out and giving you kisses and really nothing too extraordinary. For him, he is fine with being low-key, but you want a lot more to feel loved, as you tend to show your love more openly.
Another reason why you may feel unloved is because your partner simply isn’t going out of their way to do something special for you. Maybe he’s never taken you out to a fancy dinner, or maybe he’s taking forever to reply to your texts. He doesn’t seem to do anything special for you and you kind of feel like more of a friend than a lover.
How to fix feeling unloved:
Be confident: The best thing you can do for yourself is gain some confidence. When you’re confident in yourself, you will be less worried with what people think of you or how they feel about you. You will be so sure of yourself you won’t require any recognition from others (although it will still feel nice, of course). Also, confidence will assure you that you ARE lovable, and the small things people do to show they care will mean a lot more to you. You will be sure that you are capable of love and others will love you for who you are no matter what.
Speak up: Any problem you may have in your relationship can quickly be resolved by simply talking about it with your partner. If you feel like you are unloved in a relationship, you should NOT sit back and wait for a change, all while feeling this terrible feeling of emptiness and that you are not wanted. SPEAK UP! Have a sit down conversation with your man and let him know how you are feeling. Talk it out with him and see what the two of you can change or fix so that you are feeling more loved in the relationship.
Make time for yourself: Don’t be too focused on your relationship and how he or she feels about you. Gaining confidence also means stepping out doing things for yourself. This will in turn enhance your confidence levels even further and you will spend less time worrying about the negative feelings in your heart, and have more feelings and thoughts about everything else going on in your life. Take up a class, go get your hair done, take a trip to the beach- whatever it takes for you to feel happy, confident, and secure in yourself, and anything that will take your mind off of these unloved feelings.
Do something romantic: So your man may not be the romantic type, but if you’re trying to spark up the romance and love in the relationship, try setting up a romantic date for just the two of you. This may be exactly what you need to spark up that flame again and create more love and intimacy in the relationship. Keep it simple with a date at one of the finest restaurants in town, or go extravagant with a weekend getaway to one of the hot spots. It doesn’t have to be anything extreme- in fact, you could take a picnic to the park and just enjoy each others’ company. Whatever you feel would bring the two of you close where you can just sit back and talk and love each other is the goal here.
Do something Fun together: Yes, romance is necessary for a relationship, but the two of you should also do something FUN once in awhile! Having fun and laughing together is a great way to bring the two of you closer together! Plan a trip to the local amusement park, head to the zoo, or go swimming for the day- there’s tons of options out there, and as long as you two are having a blast together, you’ll undeniably feel closer to each other.
Listen to him: Of course you want your man to listen to you and your feelings, but you should ALSO be listening to your man as well. When the two of you have a deep conversation, listen to him intently. Focus solely on him and he will feel loved by you, and hopefully he will show the same respect back your way.
Take a break: If you’ve discussed the situation and you’ve tried going on romantic and fun dates just the two of you and nothing has changed, it might be best to take a little break. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, so maybe some time apart to focus on yourself is exactly what the two of you need.
What do you do when you’re feeling unloved in a relationship?