Dreams of Boyfriend Cheating: What They Really Mean

By on September 6, 2017

When you dream of a boyfriend cheating, it can be quite terrifying. You want to be with your boyfriend forever, and you never questioned your relationship before. Now, you are reexamining every look, glance or gesture.

After having a dream about a boyfriend cheating, you may be afraid that your boyfriend is actually cheating on you. Before you accuse him of cheating, you should take time to interpret what your dream actually means. While this type of dream can sometimes be because he is actually dreaming, this is rarely the case. Often, dreams about cheating reflect what is going on within your own subconscious mind.

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You do not want to accuse your boyfriend of cheating. If you do, it can end up ruining your relationship. At the very least, he will be hurt that you could ever imagine such a thing. Instead, you need to take time to analyze why the dream is happening so that you can know the best way to respond.

Something Is Making You Insecure

One of the most obvious reasons for this type of dream is because you feel insecure. This may be because of how you feel, or it may be due to something your boyfriend is doing. For example, you may feel jealous if your boyfriend frequently smiles and flirts with beautiful women. If he has a lot of friends of the opposite gender, it may also make you feel insecure. These are real reasons for feeling insecure, but they do not mean that he is cheating. If this is the cause of your dreams, you may want to talk to your boyfriend about no longer flirting with other women. As for his friends, you can’t control who he is around, although you can ask him to bring you along so that you can get to know the friends and realize that they are not a threat.

If the insecurities are just in your own mind, you have to figure out why they are there. Do you feel insecure because of a past relationship? Are you just afraid of losing him? Are these feelings due to a lack of confidence or self-esteem? Whatever the cause, you need to figure it out and address it. Insecurities can damage an otherwise healthy relationship, so you do not want to let them continue.

You Have Been Cheated on Before

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Being cheated on is one of the most traumatic experiences you can have. Your boyfriend is supposed to be the one person that you can trust and rely on. When an ex-boyfriend cheats on you, it leaves a sense of betrayal that can last for years. Your current dreams about a boyfriend cheating on you might not be because of your current boyfriend. Instead, they may be due to an ex-boyfriend.

The only real way to deal with these dreams is to let go of the past. The ex-boyfriend was obviously not worth you. He might still be a terrible person, but you have to forgive him and move on. Because of the ex’s betrayal, you are now with a more wonderful, better boyfriend. In a way, you have your ex to thank. At some point, you have to let go of the past so that you can move on.

He Is Actually Cheating on You

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No one wants to believe that a partner is cheating on them. Sometimes, your subconscious mind picks up on cues that you do not want to accept. Perhaps he comes home late without an explanation or hides his phone while texting. He might be neglecting you, or he may seem less interested in lovemaking than normal. Whatever the cause, he may be doing something that makes you feel like he is cheating (or at least considering it). Because of this, you have dreams that your boyfriend is cheating on you.

If this is the case, then be cautious before doing anything. If you accuse him of cheating, it may end the relationship if you are wrong. Think carefully before you do anything and avoid jumping to conclusions. While cheating dreams sometimes mean that a partner is cheating, they often just reflect your own insecurities or doubts.

You Are Afraid of Losing Him

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One of the most common reasons why people dream that a boyfriend is cheating is because of a fear of loss. When you love someone a great deal, you naturally feel afraid that you could lose them somehow. He has become an important part of your life, so you are fearful that something will get in the way. This is the reason why you may have dreams that a boyfriend is cheating on you. If this is the case, don’t worry. He is probably not cheating on you or betraying your trust in any way. You are only having these dreams because you love him so much that you are afraid that he could leave you some day.

Someone cheating on you in a dream may also show that you feel a lack of control. It seems like everyone else gets to make decisions, and you are just forced along without getting to choose what happens. If you normally like to plan your life out carefully, these dreams may happen to show your fear of losing control or failing.

You Are Cheating

When you are doing something wrong, you naturally fear that someone else could do the same thing. For example, someone who steals constantly worries that another person could steal from them. When it comes to cheating, this same idea is true. When someone cheats, they can become insanely jealous. They know that they are capable of cheating, so they are afraid that their partner could do the same thing.

When you dream about your partner cheating, it may be your subconscious reflecting your own behavior back at you. If you cheated on your partner, then you may dream that they are cheating on you. Sometimes, you do not even have to physically cheat for this to happen. You may have just thought of cheating or noticed how attractive a co-worker was. Because these thoughts popped into your head so easily, your subconscious became wary that your boyfriend could have similar thoughts.

You Want to Spice Things Up

If you dreamed that you were the one cheating, it does not mean that you necessarily want to cheat on your boyfriend. It could mean that you just want to have some new romance or passion in your life. After you have been in a relationship for a while, the lust stage of romance transitions into mutual affection. While this is good for the long-term potential of your relationship, it means that the passion starts to fade a bit. When this happens, your subconscious may create dreams of cheating. Or, you may dream that your boyfriend cheats because your subconscious assumes that he could be just as bored in the relationship as well.

If this is the reason why you continue to have cheating dreams, then you need to find a way to spice up your romance. Plan a romantic getaway with your boyfriend or invest in some new lingerie. A candlelight dinner or a fun adventure can also help you keep the romance alive.

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    ana

    March 28, 2020 at 4:52 am

    Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 7 months it’s kinda hard to see each other because my mom hates him and my parents are divorced only time I see him is when I’m with my pops. the dream I had was that i was gonna see him and I saw messages with some girl calling her my love and saying he wanted kisses from her she got upset and he changed their date on the relationship status and I started bawling my eyes out but he isn’t like that so idk why I had this dream

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 31, 2020 at 11:34 pm

      It is clear that he is no interested in maintaining a respectful relationship with you. It is likely that your mother was aware of his character through the interactions that she had with him. Do not attempt to nourish your connection with this person, and determine what you want for your future without him. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere.

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    Brianna

    February 7, 2020 at 4:28 am

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for close to a year. He just moved away last month for school so we are now long distance. I had a dream he met two ladies and he go their numbers because they told him they had job opportunities. One of the girls ended up developing an extremely close relationship with him. She didn’t get him a job and then she told me to back off. While my boyfriend was sad about it , I was hurt by the betrayal. In the end I kept it class and heart broken I moved on. Not sure what this all means. (In real life my boyfriend is desperate to find a job since moving back) I’m sad because our relationship has been so good but now I’m not sure and I have trust issues

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 7, 2020 at 9:39 pm

      Thankfully, the dream doesn’t show what can or will happen–it only shows what is going on in your subconscious mind. Considering you have trust issues, it makes sense that you would have had this dream. The dream shows that you are concerned about your boyfriend’s fidelity and afraid of losing him to someone else. The dream only shows your own feelings, so don’t read too much into it.

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    Nicole

    February 6, 2020 at 5:09 am

    I had a dream that I was told by one of my boyfriends friends that my boyfriend was cheating when I came back to my hometown from college. In the dream we were at carnival and I had went to confront him and he actually confessed saying it was a quick thing and it didn’t mean anything and to not worry about it and that he didn’t even kiss her. When I woke up I was crying and felt scared and angry because he never acts like that in real life and we’ve been together for 3 years. I haven’t worried about him cheating at all so dreaming this just came out of nowhere. Our relationship is going great so In the dream he shouldn’t have a need to do that. And I was also confused because I haven’t left for college yet and we’re supposed to be moving in together in 4 months so it’s not like we’re leaving each other.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 6, 2020 at 2:52 pm

      The dream just reflects your concern about what it’d be like to lose your boyfriend. It may have also been catalyzed by the fact that a major change is coming up, and your subconscious mind is naturally concerned about what your relationship could be like after this change. The dream doesn’t mean he will cheat or you think he will cheat. Instead, it just shows your concerns for all of the changes that are about to appear in your life.

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    Akiena

    February 3, 2020 at 11:30 pm

    I have been having a dream of my boyfriend cheating on me for 3 to 4 nights in a row. It is absolutely horrible waking up in a state for the 4th time in a row. I Had a dream he cheated on me with my friend(dream 1), My bestfriend(dream 2) and My childhood bestfriend(dream 3) who has recently become apart of my life again. In my dreams I cant attack when I find them and my cries don’t come out as to why I wake up in such states.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 3, 2020 at 11:58 pm

      These dreams are related to fears regarding the end of your relationship. This doesn’t mean that your partner is cheating on you. If you feel that your partner’s behaviors have shown that he may be cheating on you, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you feel that you are behaving in a way that makes you feel that either of you should be insecure, then this may have influenced the dream.

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    Kayla

    January 5, 2020 at 4:49 am

    I had a dream that my boyfriend had this female friend. And when we were laying in bed (he was still asleep) she texted him, and I took his phone and replied that he couldn’t hang out with her. I also texted her saying that maybe another time (I was texting as him). When he wakes up and sees the text he gets mad that I “left her on read” but when he sees that I replied he calms down. When I tell him I don’t like that he’s friends with her (me and him decided in real life to not be friends with people of opposite genders) he gets super defensive. After arguing we end up at the store with his friend. He disappears and when I try to find him. He’s walking up to this girls car and opens the driver door. Then continues to kiss her forehead before I end up trying to run back home. I’ve had a similar dream before when he told me that he tried getting with another girl while we were on break.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 5, 2020 at 9:42 am

      The dream reflects your concern that your boyfriend could cheat and your fear of losing him, but it doesn’t show what can or will happen in real life–dreams can only show what is going on in your subconscious mind.

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    Betty

    September 22, 2019 at 8:36 am

    I keep dreaming my boyfriend cheats and I always discuss it with him and he always assured me that he isn’t, I always dream he is talking to someone else and also that I had showed up at his house because I was picking his daughters up and I had to pee so I came in and I saw my ex sister in law from my previos marriage there laying in his bed I beat her up and he was so mad at me saying he had been playing with me that whole time of our relationship, it was horrible every time I dream him cheating It always leaves me with a deep feeling in the pit of my stomach and I question if he is being sneaky, I’ve never found anything wrong I have searched his phone because of my feeling and nothing I never find anything.

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 23, 2019 at 8:04 pm

      It sounds like your subconscious mind is making these dreams because you are afraid of it happening, not because it actually is happening. It is so difficult to have a dream like this because it feels so real that you go crazy trying to convince yourself that he is faithful. While it may be hard, the best thing you can do is ignore the dreams as much as possible. Good luck!

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    Endrier

    September 18, 2019 at 6:15 am

    I keep dreaming about my boyfriend choosing his ex girlfriend over me. It ruins my trust on him because it leads me into thinking that he’s actually cheating on me with his ex girlfriend. I don’t want to accuse him of it and i’m trying to put it behind my mind but it keeps haunting me constantly.

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 21, 2019 at 5:37 pm

      This kind of situation can make it hard to trust anyone ever again. Whether he cheated on you or not, it seems possible that he had feelings before the relationship restarted. The best thing you can do is forget about it and move. Some relationships were not meant to be. While it hurts to have a breakup now, he clearly wasn’t over his ex, so he would have never been the person you deserve. Now, you have a chance to find someone who will love you and treat you like you deserve to be treated. Good luck, Endrier!

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    Kaye

    September 12, 2019 at 7:35 pm

    I dream about my boyfriend, where several times I accused he is cheater, I see on my dreams he has two girlfriends ,it was scheduled every other days,In reality he dont open up to me few words only, he didnt gave his phone to me and this has password. He rarely text me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 12, 2019 at 8:49 pm

      Your dreams are manifestations of your insecurities in regards to your relationship. If he is hiding his phone and rarely speaking with you, then his behaviors may be indications of his actions. If there is something in your life that you need to address, then do so. It is important to your partner treats you with respect. Have a great day, Kaye!

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    Danni

    August 29, 2019 at 8:39 pm

    I had a dream me and the whole family were on holiday. I ended up spending the night out with family and came home in the morning and find out my boyfriend had been cheating on me with a local girl i know, turns out they have been talking and meeting up for a whole year abd even met my daughter. He tries to deny it but there is no denying it when his sister tells me the truth. What does this mean please? Iv Woke up hating him and crying. X

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 30, 2019 at 5:10 pm

      This dream is a reflection of your insecurities and worries regarding the actions of your partner. This dream may be influenced by the dramatic shows that you watch or by his behaviors. You will find great benefit in abstaining from consuming violent and dramatic media, as this will reduce the frequency of similar dreams from occurring in the future. If your partner’s behaviors are inappropriate, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he is behaving in an appropriate manner, then allow this dream to fade. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Danni!

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    Carley

    August 25, 2019 at 8:36 am

    I’ve had a bunch of dreams about my boyfriend (for almost a year) cheating on me or leaving me for someone else. The dream I just had the other night was where he started talking to another girl from our town (we don’t talk to or text the opposite gender) but in the the dream I thought we were doing good. But then all of a sudden she comes into the picture and he then he has to decide who he wants to be with. I would be texting him in the dream to tell me who he wanted to be with but before he could tell me I woke up and I was very upset and sad but I’m kind of used to have dreams like that so I didn’t freak out or anything. I am very insecure about myself and my body and I know theres a lot of other girls out there that are prettier than me but we always tell each other that we love each other and such.

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 26, 2019 at 10:10 am

      Your insecurities have caused this dream to appear. If there are changes that you want to make, then take appropriate action. If your partner’s behaviors are appropriate and respectful, then allow this dream to fade. If you believe that his actions are unacceptable, then address your concerns with him. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Carley!

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    keisy

    August 23, 2019 at 1:46 pm

    i’ve been having dreams occasionally about my boyfriend cheating on me. the first dream i dreamt was when he posted a picture on instagram where he was with one of my friends sitting at a beach and the caption was just a smiley face. i then told him (in real life) about my dream and said that wouldn’t happen. i trust him but we’ve been having many fights lately which caused us to break up and then later on we work it out and get back together. in one of those breaks we took he was with another girl and i forgave him (this is in real life) then recently while still together he was texting a girl whose one of his friends’ cousin and he told me that his friend told him to text her which i can’t get that over because we have a rule where we can’t have opposite gender friends. a recent dream i had was that i was with my bf at a supermarket and then he confessed he was with another girl. in the dream i kept asking him to tell me who it was and suddenly he left. later i saw that he posted a picture of him laying naked with a pretty girl and i cried (in the dream) as i was about to send him a message telling him “you threw everything away” i woke up and began to cry. i don’t know what it means to dream about him cheating on me again and again but lately i feel like i have low self-esteem and not sure if it’s that. i just get jealous if he’s talking or hanging out with a girl and we always fight about that and i’m scared that he will leave me for another girl because she’s prettier than me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 23, 2019 at 4:07 pm

      This dream was a reflection of your concerns regarding the actions of your partner. If he has not given you any reason to believe that he is behaving in an inappropriate manner, then allow these dreams to fade. If there is something in your life that you need to address, then address it. If not, nourish your relationship with your partner by spending additional time together in person. Have a great day, Keissy!

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    Kaylee

    July 12, 2019 at 12:43 pm

    I’ve had two dreams in a row about my boyfriend cheating. We have been together for 1 year. My first dream was we were walking with eachother on our walk we always do. And I talked to him about this girl he was with in a garage when we took a break (we didn’t take a break just the dream) I said “did you kiss her” he told me no over and over I asked him. She happened to pass by so I made him ask her and she said yes they did. So she started screaming at him I ran away. I heard them from miles away and came back and I seen my boyfriend handing her friend a note and smiling I ran over and tried to grab it to see and he wouldn’t let me I finally got it and it said something like “if I was there” and I didn’t understand what that meant. But after that I woke up in tears and texted my bf he talked to me.

    My second dream the next day was. I was in a car with a bunch of people and his ex. We needed help so I called my bf to come help us and he got there the car was filled so his ex had to sit on my lap and he sat beside her. They both looked at eachother then eachothers lips at the same time and I recorded it and when we got out of the car I started yelling at him. I woke up and told him about it. ( also his ex and I have problems from the past with me and my bf being friends and her making him stop talking to me, I am very jealous of her and I have jealousy problems from the past. I’m also very insecure about myself.)

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 12, 2019 at 9:53 pm

      Your dreams are reflections of your jealously. It is possible that your partner’s behaviors have caused these dreams to appear. If he hasn’t done anything to make you feel that he is behaving inappropriately, then allow these dreams to fade. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Kaylee!

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